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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jody Daily Show podcast.
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Speaker 2: Murphy, I overheard a conversation you were having at the house. You were on the phone, and I kept walking in and out of the room, and I was trying not to I was trying to like block it out, but I just could not do it. Our oldest daughter, Taylor had called you, oh yeah, and asked you about some help with some organizational skills. She's managing a full time job and grad school right now. So she called, Murphy, why are you smiling?
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Speaker 3: Sam?
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Speaker 4: I'm just waiting to see where this goes.
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Speaker 2: And it was a long conversation and I love that she called you for that, and you guys ended up talking for like an hour.
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Speaker 3: But I didn't say anything.
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Speaker 2: But I was worried that you had overwhelmed her because I heard things like Eisenhower Matrix, I heard callendermerging.
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Speaker 3: I heard all this stuff. I thought, how you know, did she did she feel good? At the takeaway? Is she like?
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Speaker 4: Did she get him a fire hose?
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Speaker 2: Because Murphy, you have been on a mission since I first met you to refine your systems and organization is your goal, I mean, the reason you want in.
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Speaker 1: Your manager and the reason that it actually did not overwhelm Taylor is because she and I are mentally wired very similarly. Yes, we are easily distracted people, were easily sucked into the emotion of things and were easily overwhelmed by too many things coming at us at one time. And so the conversation that went great, you know, and I realized over the years there are certain things that I have probably over explained to our girls. And I even jokingly told Taylor, I said, if this is too much, stop me. But she absolutely connected with and got all of it. And I think it's because I simplified it into too that I just basically what I told her. If you want to know what this here is, I do because her whole thing is she's having trouble making some things stick to her calendar that we all do, and then the things that we really do want to get to we never seem to get to because the other things lead us down a path. That's a very human, common, you know thing, and so any organizational system, and there's a bazillion of them out there, and there are a million books on it always boiled down to priority in choice, you know, you have to make with what's coming to you. You have to make a decision whether it's something you're going to do. You're going to defer it, meaning schedule it, delegate it to somebody else, if you can do that, or delete it. It's just not important. Yes, And if you make that decision the moment you get something that comes at you, you're gonna have a better chance of actually, you know, classifying it. But then you have to schedule and organize it, which it becomes the Okay, how do I prioritize it? You know, how important is it really? And that's what the Eisenhower matrix. So we don't have enough time to describe that.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm just so glad that she, you know, got something from it, because all I heard was, ah, yeah, I know, discontinued foods that you wish you could get back. It doesn't just happen in the cosmetics world. It happens at the grocery store all the time. We asked, and you really came through with yours.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And so Valerie's comment is, mister PIBB is back in better form, So she I guess she's found it. She said, I grabbed one as soon as I saw it. Ranch wheat thins. I guess that's what she says, are gone.
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Speaker 2: Oh I remember that for a minute, a hot minute. They were very flavorful wheat fins.
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Speaker 1: And lime coke. She says, lime coke, lime diet coke. I agree with that, Maw.
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Speaker 3: I love you missed that.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that came back limited edition recently.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that came back for a short time.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Michelle says Duncan Hein's microwave cupcakes. The mug cakes just aren't the same.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they used to have microwave cake mixes a long time ago, and.
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Speaker 4: A little cardboard foil it did.
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Speaker 2: It came in its own little microwaveable thing, and you didn't have to bake a cake, but you could, you know, sort of bake it in the microwave. And I guess it probably does taste a little bit better than mugcakes.
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Speaker 4: You're right, probably want to step up from an easy bake oven, Michelle says, I go doritos.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: Now, I know those come back every now and then. I know they've been the last year they've been back, but they come back for a limited time and disappear again.
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Speaker 2: Watch for them in the store when I find those. I buy them for my brother when we were growing up.
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Speaker 1: He loved those.
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Speaker 4: Those are easy to spot too, because it's an old timey looking retro bag and it's got the sombrero.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Usually they do taste really good too. Yeah, for forget about it.
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Speaker 4: Jose says, Bigfoot from Pizza Hut.
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Speaker 3: What's that?
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Speaker 4: It's a big pizza. I don't know exactly what was on it, but I know for every now and then they bring back the chacaroni pizza at Pizza Hut. Oh yeah, I've had that before. It's just like a humongous pizza with loaded with pepperonish.
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Speaker 3: Little curling pepperonis.
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Speaker 4: Curling in regular. So maybe Jose maybe look for the chacaroni next time.
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Speaker 1: It was in the nineteen early nineties, the big Foot pizza. Okay, foot twenty one slices. That's what he's talking about.
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Speaker 2: A party pizza right there, two feet okay, Amy says Toasty Ya's girl Scout cookies want them back? Why would they ever get rid of those?
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Speaker 1: Those were the French toast tasting ones.
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Speaker 3: Those I was about to say, I can't remember. Of course, you guys, remember.
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Speaker 4: We're only around for a couple of years though.
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Speaker 2: Our post where we asked the question I was holding Tab because TAB would be mine. Tammy said I used to love Tab and miss putting pops too. Stephanie says tab was a lab experiment gone wrong.
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Speaker 3: Don't miss it at all.
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Speaker 2: Wade It says, Tab is like carbonated prune juice. What that taste? Courtney says, my friend Kim would sell her soul to have TAB again. Sure, when your kids play sports, you have to know how important it is.
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Speaker 3: The way that you behave is so so important.
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Speaker 2: They have done some research and some studies and we can all we all have an experience with it one way or the other.
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Speaker 3: Maybe it's just something you've witnessed.
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Speaker 2: Maybe you've been a child of a parent who was over zealous at the ball field or whatever. Kids largely report the reason that they want to play sports in the first place is number one, to have fun. Number two because it's social to be with their friends. Yeah, that's why they're there. And then what happens is they see this whole other they see this whole other side of their parent, and it becomes a thing of oh my gosh, I'm not good enough, Oh my gosh, I'm not living up to what they really want. It's so sad. It's something we've got to talk about. Our kids didn't play sports, not many, Murphy. They were theater girls, and so that was fantastic for us. I don't think we could have just at the end clapping and here's some flowers. But I remember signing up to play sports when I was a kid because I wanted my father.
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Speaker 3: I knew he would love it.
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Speaker 2: I remember doing it for him and feeling like I had disappointed him a lot because I could hear him in the stands.
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Speaker 1: Yes, it's understanding that. Yeah, they're going to put enough pressure on themselves if they want to do it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. You saw a lot of this at the ball field too, sam I didn't you coach?
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Speaker 4: Well, my oldest kids, Sammy was playing baseball. I was an assistant coach, and you see that and it's heartbreaking. It feel bad for the kid because the kid is on it. I mean I saw times where the parent, the father mainly was yelling at the kid catch the ball or do stuff like and it's just like, no, don't.
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Speaker 3: Let them just play.
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Speaker 2: They say that the pressure from parents is what can break their experience for them, make them not love it and make them not want it. It happens a lot in soccer, they say, and basketball is one where they feel the pressure. I think because it's so close they can hear and see.
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Speaker 3: Every little thing.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, not the same as being a little farly removed on a football field.
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Speaker 2: I think the main thing here is to remember why they play. They're playing for social reasons and to have fun.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, they're out there with their friends.
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Speaker 3: Remember that.
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Speaker 2: Murphy came back from his man goal setting retreat with some takeaways. One big takeaway something he's eliminating from his life. And in case you missed that, the after the show podcast from yesterday was all about it. You can search Murphy, Sam and Jody anywhere you listen to podcasts and check it out.
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Speaker 1: It wasn't it's not Jody.
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Speaker 4: It still here, so that her.
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Speaker 1: Uh, But I think this is something anybody can eliminate. So check out the podcast. But one thing when I was on the retreat, I went out to eat a few times by myself, and I sent Jody a picture that I think surprised her.
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Speaker 3: Of the Friday night picture. Yeah, yeah, this beautiful.
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Speaker 1: It wasn't another woman by the way.
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Speaker 2: Again, okay with all the stipulations. It was a beautiful plate of food. Yeah, one of your favorite kind of salads. So this is the beginning of the meal.
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Speaker 1: And yah caprizi salad.
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Speaker 2: It was a martini glass with some red juice in it. So you had a I'm assuming it was a mocktail.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't tell you about that. It was, yeah, it was.
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Speaker 3: It was a beautiful cocktail, mocktail looking. It was a drink.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not. It's called not your Palms Martini and it so it served in a martini glass. But I was introduced to something I'd never heard of. Maybe you have Sam, I don't know. There's a company that specializes in alcohol that's not alcohol. In other words, it's got the flavoring, but it doesn't have any alcohol in it.
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Speaker 3: Oh wow.
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Speaker 1: The company is called Liars, not as in not telling the truth. Oh my god, it really is alcohol.
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Speaker 3: No l y R liars. But that's funny.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and so in their award winning and it's not apparently it's not cheap stuff either. It's not cheap to buy it in the store. But and I've never really played around. I'm not all about the alcohol type flavor because I don't want to be triggered by anything. But you know, this was it was delicious and it didn't have any alcoholic overtones. These just have a bite to them. They're a little bit more like.
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Speaker 3: Like a real cocktail.
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Speaker 1: I guess that's probably what it is. It doesn't take like you're drinking kool aid, you know.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you had this one mocktail. It's the pink one, the red one.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then the waitress came back and she said, do you want another as long as you're poor and yeah. And then that one was called a berry smash. Oh, another non alcoholic. It's got BlackBerry in it and it was delicious.
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Speaker 4: But that sounds like an alcoholic.
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Speaker 1: But Liars has everything from simple sugars to their versions of you know, fake rum and fake Oh wow.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so you had more than one mocktail thanks to Liars.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Now, I'm gonna tell you they're charging for these like they're the real thing.
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Speaker 2: That if there is a shirt or a pair of jeans, or jewelry or some sort of accessory that you love that is not in that you are told it is old and ugly. I hope you hold on to it. I hope you rocket if you want. Because trends are trends.
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Speaker 3: Who cares? I say that?
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Speaker 2: Because we touched on this and three things to Know the other day. It takes it's it's less time for fast and trends to return. Now it used to be twenty years. It would be twenty years, like something's really really hot, and then it get cools off and it's uncool and it stays in a vault forever, and then a whole new generation, two generations come.
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Speaker 3: Go, oh this is cool, let's start rocking it again.
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Speaker 4: Something that was hot in two thousand and five or six as would be now.
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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, it used to be that way. But now fashion trends return in half the time in ten years. It's faster thanks to things like social media, thanks to just just a visual connected world that we live in.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, look, the mustache trend is back. And Jody was really sad when I shaved mine the first time.
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Speaker 3: Well, you shocked me with it. Yeah, you didn't even tell me, you just walked into the living room. I'm like, who is this man?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, But ever since then, I've done the beard, you know, mustache combo, I've done, but I've just noticed that's a trend. Yeah, I mean it's cyclical, right, it disappears and then it comes back.
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Speaker 3: All trends come back, all turns.
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Speaker 2: Do you guys have any I mean I have so many that I always rock where regardless because I think some things are classic, and if somethings are, you you should wear them anything.
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Speaker 4: For me, it's a Geene jacket, And I don't know that that's a trend. That's just that's a classic cling. You never throw away your Jeane jacket.
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Speaker 2: Correct, Okay, good one. See it's good to pick a classic for that. And Murphy your mustache, very classic one.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I don't know that. I mean I stay so basic in solids. I don't know that I necessarily follow trends. I did get rid of my sweaters from the nineties, you know, which was probably a good thing.
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Speaker 3: I got rid of your sweaters from the nineties, but they were such.
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Speaker 1: A big they were such a big you know, those haven't come back. Have you noticed that there was a reason it does not come back yet?
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: So one of the some of the things that are back for women, big blowouts, glam makeup. Yeah, what about you. Well, one thing that's back that I won't play. I will not play the game is low rise jeans. Low rise jeans were in when I had just had my first C section?
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Speaker 3: Are you kidding?
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Speaker 2: I could not even look at that waistline low hanging right there where my problem was.
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Speaker 3: I was so upset about that.
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Speaker 2: And now I know that you should be wearing your jeans, your pants where your natural wist is, which is like a mid rise or high rise from well.
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Speaker 1: And some of us guys looked like we're wearing low rise. No matter what.
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Speaker 3: That's a different situation.
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Speaker 2: We mentioned yesterday that in Three Things to Know that Americans are obsessed with cheese, we're a country that's obsessed with eating cheese. Not just because we're all trying to get more protein, but when we go to the grocery store, cheese is almost on everybody's list. And it's so funny because the top three loved cheeses and it's very American. It's a very American list. Chatters number one, Mozzarella's number two, and parmesan parmesan pan is number three. Makes sense, but it made me think. And then Sam's comment was, what no processed cheese food? We probably eat more processed cheese food than any other country as well.
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Speaker 1: Look, that was my introduction to cheese as a kid. American craft, American singles, right exactly. That's what I thought was cheese until I realized it was a processed cheese food.
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Speaker 3: I thought I thought was cheese too. Period. I used to steal it. I used to steal it because I wasn't allowed to have it, blah blah blah, and.
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Speaker 4: It was just a I wasn't ntil I was an adult when I realized it.
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Speaker 2: Whatever, it is good grilled cheese. I will say, still love that stuff. I bring it up because it made me think. One of our friends, Sherry, she was telling me, and we could do this this summer. It's something she used to love to do with her girls, and was like they had discovered some fantastic like gourmet grocery stores that carry all the good cheese, even whole foods, whatever, there are cheeses there that you've never heard of, that you've never been introduced to. And she said they would go once a week and everybody gets to pick out a little hunk of cheese that they wanted to try, and she.
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Speaker 3: Would come home and do a cheese board.
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Speaker 4: That's cool.
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Speaker 3: The and the point was something new.
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Speaker 2: Do not grab gouda if you've had gouda recently, grab something you've never had before, and you just go home and have a little cheese and crackers party.
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Speaker 1: I love that. And you and I have actually done that before. Jody and when the movie Chef came out ten years ago whatever and that grilled cheese saying that the blending of cheeses for a little cheese sandwich and not just using your ah so good.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, my friend Sherry one of her one thing that she realized when doing this with her kids, that is that she enjoyed the stinky cheeses. It had to be really aromatic for her to like it.
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Speaker 1: I mean, those are more flavorful than a lot of cases.
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Speaker 3: That's what she said.
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Speaker 2: That's what she said, Morning Picked Me Up time. If you're introverted, I want you to be proud of it. Okay, we're going to get to why you can be proud of it. A little inside is that Sam has been on the edge of his seat knowing that the Morning picked Me Up Today was going to be about being introverts.
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Speaker 4: Because I'm an introvert.
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Speaker 2: All right, I want you to are you proud of it. I guess out thinking that you shouldn't be well.
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Speaker 4: I mean there was a stigma here from society if you're an introvert.
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Speaker 3: Sure too quiet, Yeah to inward snob. Snob, I've never thought of that. Yeah, Introverts have a lot of unique strengths.
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Speaker 2: I remember hearing one time introverts run the world because they're thoughtful and they absorb everything and they're slow to make decisions.
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Speaker 1: Look, my late my late dad was very much an introvert, yes, but a great mind in one of the funniest people I knew.
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Speaker 2: And when he did have something to say, everybody stopped, Oh to let it.
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Speaker 1: In and listen.
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Speaker 2: So some qualities of most introverts. Not everybody fits into a box. Some people are a little bit of both.
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Speaker 3: I didn't say that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but if you are an introvert and you're listening to this and you've been told that, especially if you felt the stigma, I want you to be proud of the thing that a few things. Introverts think things through before they speak, which is a superpower because we all know, we've all experienced where words can burn and you can't take words back. Introverts are slower to do that. They're great at active listening. They're really absorbing what you're saying. And if you say something to an introvert and you don't get a response back right away, they're marinating on it and you might get a response later.
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Speaker 1: That's also the way my dad was. He was interested in everything around him. I don't know that every introvert is necessarily like that, no, but he was interested in everything around him, so he did absorb and he would have a conversation back on things.
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Speaker 3: You like in this Sam, so far, genius.
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Speaker 2: The other thing is is another reason that introverts can be set up for such success in life, and you guys will feel this is that introverts are really good at focusing on one thing at a time.
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Speaker 3: Too many tabs open does not speak to them.
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Speaker 2: And so if you've got a goal of one thing at a time, you're focusing on weight loss or not drinking, or even something small like getting someone to go out with you, whatever, you can focus on that and give it your undivided And the final one.
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Speaker 3: Is deep relationships with the people closest to them.
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Speaker 2: You don't have its quality over quantity in troverts, genius.
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Speaker 4: Have you ever had the audacity when you have hired an uber to ask them to stop anywhere along the way.
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Speaker 1: Well, you can, actually, I think, request that in the app. Actually yeah, I think, yeah.
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Speaker 2: I did it once on the way home from a speaking engagement.
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Speaker 4: Did you request in the app or you just asked the guy? No?
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Speaker 2: No, no, no backseat. I was a lady, she was driving, she was commenting on my dress. It was like a formal event and I was starving, and I'm like, if I buy you some chicken fingers, can you stop for me for some chicken fingers?
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Speaker 1: And she did, Well, that's smart. The only time I've done that is I had to have I had to ask the driver to stop at a hotel to get my luggage before I was heading back to the airport. But I mean he was willing to do that because it was already on the on.
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Speaker 2: The right and that was part of the drive to the minutes or whatever.
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Speaker 4: Uber has a new feature they're adding for Uber Uber Black and Uber Black Suv. Is that the top tier.
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Speaker 1: Murpha so that must yeah, Uber Black, I think is because that's guaranteeing you like a black suv or something like that. It's more limousine like I guess.
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Speaker 4: Uh. Well, a new feature they're introducing is called Eats for the Way. Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Now it's only.
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Speaker 4: Available in a couple of big cities right now, but testing it, you do your Uber reserve and you got your car coming, then that you can tap next to it add Uber Eats and order whatever it is and that person will pick it up for you. And so when they meet you.
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Speaker 3: They've got your food.
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Speaker 4: Get in your car and there's your croissant and your coffee waiting for you.
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Speaker 2: Wow.
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Speaker 1: Wow, that's that's pretty close next level.
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Speaker 3: You're doing everything.
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Speaker 2: Because I think we mentioned this week a week ago or so in three things to know that they've also added and maybe not everywhere yet, but they're partnering with hotels also that in the app you can book your hotel and then they like they know where you are. But while you're in the city, it's it can be the app. If you're traveling, you can be the app that you use for food, for rides, and for booking.
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Speaker 1: I mean you can see that path, you know. For them, I don't know that they'll be able to become the all all in one app or not, but when it comes between Uber and Lyft, I mean, it's used so frequently for travelers, it just makes sense, like.
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Speaker 2: One app for everything, And it was isn't it so funny? That will you always remember the first time you got in an uber and you felt like it was weird?
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Speaker 4: Oh? I thought it was just like, wow, this is high travel here.
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Speaker 1: I think that uber eats an uber combo works great if especially if like you're late and you don't have time to stop and eat for a meeting or whatever advice versa you eat on the way.
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Speaker 2: In today's after the Show podcast, we are going to let Murphy explain the Eisenhower.
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Speaker 3: What's it called matrix the eyesenhower.
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Speaker 1: Everybody's eyes are glossing over.
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Speaker 3: Actually it's got organization.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's it doesn't it's not as complicated as it sounds the movie it came so President Eisenhower was the first one to really popularize this. It was his military strategy. And that's actually it Almost every uh what do they call it? Management book? Organization book? Right? You know that is written has some sort of reference to it in a different form or name, just so that you know. So it's not like nice, it's yeah, it's not a new.
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Speaker 2: Sound, okay, And for those who are seeking organization help.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes a big difference.
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Speaker 2: Which our oldest daughter Taylor called you the other night for that and that's what she got, like two hours of discussion.
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Speaker 1: Of Yeah, so catch that in a podcast today after your show.
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Speaker 2: Okay, moving on to some more of your comments about discontinued food that you want back.
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Speaker 3: This has been so fun.
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Speaker 2: We brought this up because of tab We brought this up because it doesn't just happen in I feel like it's only in the world of cosmetics that companies give you and then they take it away because they redo formulas. But it happens in the grocery store a lot. We live in the land of plenty. There's too much on the shelves. People are always pulling things back, trying things if it doesn't sell. Steven said Garfield fruit snacks, especially the one two punch flavor.
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Speaker 3: Does that mean anything to you, guys?
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Speaker 1: I don't remember those, but I can see things being pressed into the shape of him.
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Speaker 3: Oh maybe they just had a melon enough cover. I don't know. He has a list of things.
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Speaker 2: There's something else here from Stephen sour cream and onion Dorito's.
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Speaker 3: I don't remember those.
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Speaker 4: I remember those.
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Speaker 3: Either, but they sound delicious.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think they were in a green bag like the like, just like Lea's.
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Speaker 3: Want to imagine them, don't you.
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to picture that. I do remember sour cream and on you that's different than ranch flavor.
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Speaker 2: They can bring lightly dorito on the planet, but you're not going to eat nacho cheese, okay. And then the last thing that Stephen wrote is snack Wells Devil's Food Cake cookies. Do you guys remember snack Wells. It was supposedly low fat snacks. I remember that well and thinking, oh my gosh, I'm going to get to eat a cookie and it wanted to be a cookie.
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Speaker 4: Well.
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Speaker 1: The one that I remember that I thought was genius and it's still around. I don't know why I thought it was genius is the soft chips with Hoy Gookie soft.
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Speaker 2: If you are a woman and you are single and you are dating, one of your number one concerns is you guys probably don't realize this, but is safety. Women think about safety so often, especially single women. How much energy went into feeling safe, and then especially the chance the occasion of let's just say you're meeting someone that you've been talking to online and you're finally meeting them in person. You know, if you've watched too many true crime documentaries, that can be scary, and it should be scary.
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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, because you're meeting the stranger for the very first time.
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Speaker 3: You men never feel that way.
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Speaker 2: You ever feel unsafe when you were dating and you were meeting people sort of online and meeting at a coffee shop. Sam, I know, Murphy haven't dated in thirty years because we're married.
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Speaker 1: That's right.
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Speaker 4: It didn't bother me.
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Speaker 2: Okay, See, I don't know, but the one's mind. Yeah, it's a woman thing.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 2: So the ideas, the things that women who are single and dating, what they say really really works, and some of the obvious ones. Always make sure a trusted friend or family members member knows where you're going, you know what time. Always choose like a public place, Always somewhere with lots of lighting, lots of other people and cameras. Choose a place that you know is surveilled to meet someone. That's one oh one. Let a friend know where you are, but not just that that's kind of obvious, like who you're meeting, where you met this person online?
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Speaker 3: Also make sure you know their last name.
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Speaker 2: Oh, so you can do that look them up thing first, I'll just you know, some supposedly I don't know, but supposedly online.
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Speaker 3: Sometimes it's just like Murphy h.
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Speaker 1: I think I would want to know the last name before I went and met somebody, for correct.
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Speaker 2: But that way you can look up, look somebody up. Some women have gone as far as and I think it's really smart. You meet somebody, you walk in together, take a picture of their car, of their license plate, of them, send it to your best friend. Now, if you're having to do all that this is, you know it's worrisome.
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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it's the basics that you're talking about. And to me, it's like drive to meet the person. Don't necessarily let them pick you up, you know, meet in a neutral place, meet in a public place like you said. Yeah, and you know what when you were talking about letting your friends know, you can do that. Put them in your life three sixty circle or find me on iPhone, that sort of thing, so that you know, if you were just concerned.
00:25:31
Speaker 3: You tacked to your advantage.
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Speaker 2: My other favorite one is have a secret code word with a friend, that friend who knows where you are and make sure they call you mid date. And if you say the secret code word, if that's cool whip, they come get you.
00:25:44
Speaker 3: I don't know why that's the word. Be safe, be safe.
00:25:50
Speaker 2: Do you think you know when a dog, your dog is in pain? And what signs to look for. We're going to talk about several signs, the obvious ones and the ones that are not so obvious.
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Speaker 1: Well, the obvious ones would be that they're not moving around as much. A pattern change is usually a sign of something.
00:26:08
Speaker 3: Yeah. The number one is change in personality.
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Speaker 2: Now dogs, if a dog is getting older, and just because they're not as active doesn't mean they're in pain, but a change in true personality. Yeah, the day that our dog Champ doesn't want to go for a walk, I'll know something's up. Yeah, because even as slowed down as he as he sleeps eighteen twenty hours a day and he walks slower, he still wants to go for the walk. He still does a very reduced zoomie when it's time.
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Speaker 1: You know, Yeah, he's excited. He makes noise. But even when he's in the backyard now he doesn't run back to the house the way he used to.
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Speaker 3: And he just can't.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, my old boy Gus before he passed away. Yeah, he he still tried to keep up a you know, the happy attitude. He would limp around or he would be slower, but you could tell, yeah, everything's okay.
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Speaker 2: You know. They say what you're saying is true. They say dogs will show up for you. They keep showing up for you.
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Speaker 1: That's what please.
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Speaker 2: They are companions, the ultimate companion. So change in personality being the number one Murphy, You're correct. Hesitant paw lifting. If they used to lift their paws like hey, and they were hesitant about it.
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Speaker 3: It's like letting you know that.
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Speaker 1: Maybe it hurts.
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Speaker 3: Maybe.
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Speaker 1: What's crazy about Champ and our dog is he he has gotten so happy or accustomed to us reaching up and shaking that if you just walk up and he's excited, you walk up to him, he starts.
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Speaker 3: To or he just I guess he thinks you're gonna want it anyway.
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Speaker 1: Rais.
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Speaker 2: He does it involuntarily. It's like muscle memory for him. You walk up to him, he's gonna go.
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Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, I'm champed.
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Speaker 1: It's funny.
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Speaker 2: Reduced play, that's obvious, reduced play, fluctuating mood. If your dog was happier more often and has become less happy.
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Speaker 3: It should be that turning their head.
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Speaker 2: Or body away from you when they normally would sit and look toward you. They say, that's a little bit, so well, it's not something we are trained to look for. It's not something we know to look for. Murphy, I'm gonna say this next one, and you're gonna know. You're gonna think of Sparky and that is freezing in place.
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, in which he does a lot.
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Speaker 2: And just stop, like like somebody said, freeze or whatever that old that game was, and it it bothers us because we know as back is bothering him or something like that. We have a couple of really old dogs. Increased grooming is another one. If they're just constantly licking all the time, some say vets say it doesn't mean that they are, but it means that they could be, because that's one of the ways they are dealing with.
00:28:40
Speaker 1: So you just take him to the vet just as over.
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Speaker 3: Just to find out.
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Speaker 2: Join us anytime we do read and see every single message that rolls into YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Messenger, all the places. Joanna sent this regarding what we had posted about how we all struggle as human beings with doing nothing we're used to be. Oh yeah, it's the busy effect. You get used to rolling that way and you don't know how else to be, and then your you know, vacation comes and you're like, I don't even.
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Speaker 3: Know who I am, right, Okay.
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Speaker 2: So Joanna sent a picture of her sitting in front of some beautiful blue water. We just spent a week in the Bahamas and it was just so relaxing, just sitting on a patio watching the ocean. I left my phone on airplane mode the entire week and loved it.
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Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's impressive.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I always I've never left my air my phone on airplane mode except when on an airplane.
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Speaker 1: And even then I forget.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, the first time I left, I forgot to put it on airplane mode, and then I was and then we were in mid flight and I realized that.
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Speaker 3: I panicked.
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Speaker 2: I thought, oh my gosh, they're gonna single me out and they're gonna come and.
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Speaker 3: Fuss at me.
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Speaker 2: Isn't it about the city, you know, it's about the pilot's hearing noises or something like that.
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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I don't even.
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Speaker 3: Know where to go you're the technical person.
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Speaker 4: I'm telling you. What Murphy doesn't want to say is I don't think we really want to do that.
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Speaker 1: Well they can. I mean, I can't interfere with the just do it. Do what the flight attendant says to do.
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Speaker 2: Excuse me, If the Aviation Administration wants us to do it, we should do it. There's a reason, right, even if it's just it sounds like a fly in their ears what I've heard, and if it's a whole planeful of three hundred people hear that really read about it at that time that I in that time that I accidentally left mine on I was so panicked that I had done something wrong.
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Speaker 1: Now I'm picturing the pilot the go palid Do you feel a flyer? Now someone has got their phone on.
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Speaker 4: Back say the message again, ladies and gentlemen. Please, you don't want.
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Speaker 3: To say it, Murphy. But I've heard that too from other people's like, you don't need to put it on airplane.
00:31:01
Speaker 1: I think you need too. But anyway, but back to Jo's relax relaxation.
00:31:07
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm so glad that you were able to relax. And an airplane mode on the ground is a great way.
00:31:12
Speaker 3: To do nothing. Jody's Hollywood outsider.
00:31:17
Speaker 2: I've got zac Efron news with a reminder that he's not just a pretty uh face dancing up and down a high school hallway. Stuff that may have been your introduction to him, it was mine too, but a reminder that this he can do some serious acting. He's had a lot of movies and a lot of roles recently this drama Iron Claw.
00:31:39
Speaker 1: Ever since I was a child, people said my.
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Speaker 4: Family was cursed.
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Speaker 2: So zach Efron is now set to star in and executive produce an upcoming HBO series adaptation. So it'll be episodes that you can just watch and watch of an adaptation of Angel Heart, and that those words may not ring a but I'm going to bring you back to a late eighties movie starring Mickey Rourke, Lisa Bonett, and Robert de Niro. So it's serious. Zac Efron will. He plays this guy who is a struggling paparazzi. His livelihood depends on finding people who really want to be hidden. He gets approached by this wealthy guy who has a special assignment to find a missing woman, and it plunges him into this conspiracy, into this supernatural world. Angel it is going to be zac Efron's next big project.
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Speaker 4: I don't know if you've ever had to put a lifelong dream on hold. That's kind of what I'm doing.
00:32:42
Speaker 1: Wow, a lifelong dream.
00:32:44
Speaker 4: Well maybe not a lifelong But in the past few years I told you that, you know, whenever retirement rolls around, I've considered, strongly considered man life. Yes, an you know, buying the van, living in the.
00:32:56
Speaker 3: Van down by the river.
00:32:58
Speaker 4: Yeah. I had to say, any feeling that's where it would go.
00:33:01
Speaker 1: So, meaning that your van would be your home, yeah, meaning sell your house by the vehicle.
00:33:05
Speaker 3: Yeah, and everything is right there being committed.
00:33:08
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I was all gung ho about it. But in the past two weeks I have started investigating the situation, you know, everything that's involved in it. Oh, and it's really taking a little of the shine off of my idea. Not a same thing, I don't think. So I can handle. I mean, solitary life, that's for me. I can handle that, no problem. But it's just all the other stuff that's involved in it.
00:33:31
Speaker 1: Connecting to sewage.
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Speaker 4: I mean, you got to have enough water. You gotta have enough water, and then you know you've got gray tanks and black tanks and all that, and connecting to the sewage to dump it. Where do you fill up the water at? Power wise, you're going to have to have solar. You got to keep your batteries charged. You got to have enough to do this and do that. And it's like everything I'm happy with now in life and your home, putting that in a van. It's just not going to compute.
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Speaker 1: It sounds like it's a lot of work.
00:34:01
Speaker 4: It sounds like it's a lot of work, and especially at that time in your life. You know, do you want twenty years old trying to compute. Okay, I've got enough ampiers here to run their head right and all that. It's just maybe maybe it'll be something where I can rent a van and take a trip for.
00:34:18
Speaker 1: You that that's the greatest way to try it. If it's you're not committing, you're not buying something that's really expensive, right, Yeah, And you know, and you enjoy live vicariously for a weekend.
00:34:30
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, go treat it like or do a camper and go spend some time like in a national park it's been a week or two, and then come home and see how you like the comforts of home.
00:34:39
Speaker 4: If I'm going to rent. I think it'll be a camper because it's like, why I rent a tiny little van? And that common sense is finally kicked in, is what I'm saying here. I did enough research on it where it's like, that's not going to be what I wanted.
00:34:50
Speaker 1: It's really smart. That's good to know.
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Speaker 4: Before I bought the van.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, from being impulsive.
00:34:55
Speaker 3: You know what's not in one of those vans, your big bathtub.
00:35:00
Speaker 4: There's a hose on the back.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jody Daily Show podcast.
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Speaker 2: Murphy, I overheard a conversation you were having at the house. You were on the phone, and I kept walking in and out of the room, and I was trying not to I was trying to like block it out, but I just could not do it. Our oldest daughter, Taylor had called you, oh yeah, and asked you about some help with some organizational skills. She's managing a full time job and grad school right now. So she called, Murphy, why are you smiling?
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Speaker 3: Sam?
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Speaker 4: I'm just waiting to see where this goes.
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Speaker 2: And it was a long conversation and I love that she called you for that, and you guys ended up talking for like an hour.
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Speaker 3: But I didn't say anything.
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Speaker 2: But I was worried that you had overwhelmed her because I heard things like Eisenhower Matrix, I heard callendermerging.
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Speaker 3: I heard all this stuff. I thought, how you know, did she did she feel good? At the takeaway? Is she like?
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Speaker 4: Did she get him a fire hose?
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Speaker 2: Because Murphy, you have been on a mission since I first met you to refine your systems and organization is your goal, I mean, the reason you want in.
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Speaker 1: Your manager and the reason that it actually did not overwhelm Taylor is because she and I are mentally wired very similarly. Yes, we are easily distracted people, were easily sucked into the emotion of things and were easily overwhelmed by too many things coming at us at one time. And so the conversation that went great, you know, and I realized over the years there are certain things that I have probably over explained to our girls. And I even jokingly told Taylor, I said, if this is too much, stop me. But she absolutely connected with and got all of it. And I think it's because I simplified it into too that I just basically what I told her. If you want to know what this here is, I do because her whole thing is she's having trouble making some things stick to her calendar that we all do, and then the things that we really do want to get to we never seem to get to because the other things lead us down a path. That's a very human, common, you know thing, and so any organizational system, and there's a bazillion of them out there, and there are a million books on it always boiled down to priority in choice, you know, you have to make with what's coming to you. You have to make a decision whether it's something you're going to do. You're going to defer it, meaning schedule it, delegate it to somebody else, if you can do that, or delete it. It's just not important. Yes, And if you make that decision the moment you get something that comes at you, you're gonna have a better chance of actually, you know, classifying it. But then you have to schedule and organize it, which it becomes the Okay, how do I prioritize it? You know, how important is it really? And that's what the Eisenhower matrix. So we don't have enough time to describe that.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm just so glad that she, you know, got something from it, because all I heard was, ah, yeah, I know, discontinued foods that you wish you could get back. It doesn't just happen in the cosmetics world. It happens at the grocery store all the time. We asked, and you really came through with yours.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And so Valerie's comment is, mister PIBB is back in better form, So she I guess she's found it. She said, I grabbed one as soon as I saw it. Ranch wheat thins. I guess that's what she says, are gone.
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Speaker 2: Oh I remember that for a minute, a hot minute. They were very flavorful wheat fins.
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Speaker 1: And lime coke. She says, lime coke, lime diet coke. I agree with that, Maw.
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Speaker 3: I love you missed that.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that came back limited edition recently.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that came back for a short time.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Michelle says Duncan Hein's microwave cupcakes. The mug cakes just aren't the same.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they used to have microwave cake mixes a long time ago, and.
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Speaker 4: A little cardboard foil it did.
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Speaker 2: It came in its own little microwaveable thing, and you didn't have to bake a cake, but you could, you know, sort of bake it in the microwave. And I guess it probably does taste a little bit better than mugcakes.
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Speaker 4: You're right, probably want to step up from an easy bake oven, Michelle says, I go doritos.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: Now, I know those come back every now and then. I know they've been the last year they've been back, but they come back for a limited time and disappear again.
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Speaker 2: Watch for them in the store when I find those. I buy them for my brother when we were growing up.
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Speaker 1: He loved those.
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Speaker 4: Those are easy to spot too, because it's an old timey looking retro bag and it's got the sombrero.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Usually they do taste really good too. Yeah, for forget about it.
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Speaker 4: Jose says, Bigfoot from Pizza Hut.
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Speaker 3: What's that?
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Speaker 4: It's a big pizza. I don't know exactly what was on it, but I know for every now and then they bring back the chacaroni pizza at Pizza Hut. Oh yeah, I've had that before. It's just like a humongous pizza with loaded with pepperonish.
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Speaker 3: Little curling pepperonis.
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Speaker 4: Curling in regular. So maybe Jose maybe look for the chacaroni next time.
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Speaker 1: It was in the nineteen early nineties, the big Foot pizza. Okay, foot twenty one slices. That's what he's talking about.
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Speaker 2: A party pizza right there, two feet okay, Amy says Toasty Ya's girl Scout cookies want them back? Why would they ever get rid of those?
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Speaker 1: Those were the French toast tasting ones.
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Speaker 3: Those I was about to say, I can't remember. Of course, you guys, remember.
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Speaker 4: We're only around for a couple of years though.
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Speaker 2: Our post where we asked the question I was holding Tab because TAB would be mine. Tammy said I used to love Tab and miss putting pops too. Stephanie says tab was a lab experiment gone wrong.
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Speaker 3: Don't miss it at all.
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Speaker 2: Wade It says, Tab is like carbonated prune juice. What that taste? Courtney says, my friend Kim would sell her soul to have TAB again. Sure, when your kids play sports, you have to know how important it is.
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Speaker 3: The way that you behave is so so important.
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Speaker 2: They have done some research and some studies and we can all we all have an experience with it one way or the other.
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Speaker 3: Maybe it's just something you've witnessed.
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Speaker 2: Maybe you've been a child of a parent who was over zealous at the ball field or whatever. Kids largely report the reason that they want to play sports in the first place is number one, to have fun. Number two because it's social to be with their friends. Yeah, that's why they're there. And then what happens is they see this whole other they see this whole other side of their parent, and it becomes a thing of oh my gosh, I'm not good enough, Oh my gosh, I'm not living up to what they really want. It's so sad. It's something we've got to talk about. Our kids didn't play sports, not many, Murphy. They were theater girls, and so that was fantastic for us. I don't think we could have just at the end clapping and here's some flowers. But I remember signing up to play sports when I was a kid because I wanted my father.
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Speaker 3: I knew he would love it.
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Speaker 2: I remember doing it for him and feeling like I had disappointed him a lot because I could hear him in the stands.
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Speaker 1: Yes, it's understanding that. Yeah, they're going to put enough pressure on themselves if they want to do it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. You saw a lot of this at the ball field too, sam I didn't you coach?
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Speaker 4: Well, my oldest kids, Sammy was playing baseball. I was an assistant coach, and you see that and it's heartbreaking. It feel bad for the kid because the kid is on it. I mean I saw times where the parent, the father mainly was yelling at the kid catch the ball or do stuff like and it's just like, no, don't.
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Speaker 3: Let them just play.
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Speaker 2: They say that the pressure from parents is what can break their experience for them, make them not love it and make them not want it. It happens a lot in soccer, they say, and basketball is one where they feel the pressure. I think because it's so close they can hear and see.
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Speaker 3: Every little thing.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, not the same as being a little farly removed on a football field.
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Speaker 2: I think the main thing here is to remember why they play. They're playing for social reasons and to have fun.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, they're out there with their friends.
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Speaker 3: Remember that.
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Speaker 2: Murphy came back from his man goal setting retreat with some takeaways. One big takeaway something he's eliminating from his life. And in case you missed that, the after the show podcast from yesterday was all about it. You can search Murphy, Sam and Jody anywhere you listen to podcasts and check it out.
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Speaker 1: It wasn't it's not Jody.
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Speaker 4: It still here, so that her.
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Speaker 1: Uh, But I think this is something anybody can eliminate. So check out the podcast. But one thing when I was on the retreat, I went out to eat a few times by myself, and I sent Jody a picture that I think surprised her.
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Speaker 3: Of the Friday night picture. Yeah, yeah, this beautiful.
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Speaker 1: It wasn't another woman by the way.
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Speaker 2: Again, okay with all the stipulations. It was a beautiful plate of food. Yeah, one of your favorite kind of salads. So this is the beginning of the meal.
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Speaker 1: And yah caprizi salad.
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Speaker 2: It was a martini glass with some red juice in it. So you had a I'm assuming it was a mocktail.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't tell you about that. It was, yeah, it was.
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Speaker 3: It was a beautiful cocktail, mocktail looking. It was a drink.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not. It's called not your Palms Martini and it so it served in a martini glass. But I was introduced to something I'd never heard of. Maybe you have Sam, I don't know. There's a company that specializes in alcohol that's not alcohol. In other words, it's got the flavoring, but it doesn't have any alcohol in it.
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Speaker 3: Oh wow.
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Speaker 1: The company is called Liars, not as in not telling the truth. Oh my god, it really is alcohol.
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Speaker 3: No l y R liars. But that's funny.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and so in their award winning and it's not apparently it's not cheap stuff either. It's not cheap to buy it in the store. But and I've never really played around. I'm not all about the alcohol type flavor because I don't want to be triggered by anything. But you know, this was it was delicious and it didn't have any alcoholic overtones. These just have a bite to them. They're a little bit more like.
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Speaker 3: Like a real cocktail.
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Speaker 1: I guess that's probably what it is. It doesn't take like you're drinking kool aid, you know.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you had this one mocktail. It's the pink one, the red one.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then the waitress came back and she said, do you want another as long as you're poor and yeah. And then that one was called a berry smash. Oh, another non alcoholic. It's got BlackBerry in it and it was delicious.
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Speaker 4: But that sounds like an alcoholic.
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Speaker 1: But Liars has everything from simple sugars to their versions of you know, fake rum and fake Oh wow.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so you had more than one mocktail thanks to Liars.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Now, I'm gonna tell you they're charging for these like they're the real thing.
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Speaker 2: That if there is a shirt or a pair of jeans, or jewelry or some sort of accessory that you love that is not in that you are told it is old and ugly. I hope you hold on to it. I hope you rocket if you want. Because trends are trends.
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Speaker 3: Who cares? I say that?
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Speaker 2: Because we touched on this and three things to Know the other day. It takes it's it's less time for fast and trends to return. Now it used to be twenty years. It would be twenty years, like something's really really hot, and then it get cools off and it's uncool and it stays in a vault forever, and then a whole new generation, two generations come.
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Speaker 3: Go, oh this is cool, let's start rocking it again.
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Speaker 4: Something that was hot in two thousand and five or six as would be now.
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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, it used to be that way. But now fashion trends return in half the time in ten years. It's faster thanks to things like social media, thanks to just just a visual connected world that we live in.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, look, the mustache trend is back. And Jody was really sad when I shaved mine the first time.
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Speaker 3: Well, you shocked me with it. Yeah, you didn't even tell me, you just walked into the living room. I'm like, who is this man?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, But ever since then, I've done the beard, you know, mustache combo, I've done, but I've just noticed that's a trend. Yeah, I mean it's cyclical, right, it disappears and then it comes back.
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Speaker 3: All trends come back, all turns.
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Speaker 2: Do you guys have any I mean I have so many that I always rock where regardless because I think some things are classic, and if somethings are, you you should wear them anything.
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Speaker 4: For me, it's a Geene jacket, And I don't know that that's a trend. That's just that's a classic cling. You never throw away your Jeane jacket.
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Speaker 2: Correct, Okay, good one. See it's good to pick a classic for that. And Murphy your mustache, very classic one.
00:12:03
Speaker 4: Yeah.
00:12:03
Speaker 1: I don't know that. I mean I stay so basic in solids. I don't know that I necessarily follow trends. I did get rid of my sweaters from the nineties, you know, which was probably a good thing.
00:12:13
Speaker 3: I got rid of your sweaters from the nineties, but they were such.
00:12:16
Speaker 1: A big they were such a big you know, those haven't come back. Have you noticed that there was a reason it does not come back yet?
00:12:23
Speaker 3: Yeah.
00:12:24
Speaker 2: So one of the some of the things that are back for women, big blowouts, glam makeup. Yeah, what about you. Well, one thing that's back that I won't play. I will not play the game is low rise jeans. Low rise jeans were in when I had just had my first C section?
00:12:40
Speaker 3: Are you kidding?
00:12:42
Speaker 2: I could not even look at that waistline low hanging right there where my problem was.
00:12:48
Speaker 3: I was so upset about that.
00:12:50
Speaker 2: And now I know that you should be wearing your jeans, your pants where your natural wist is, which is like a mid rise or high rise from well.
00:13:00
Speaker 1: And some of us guys looked like we're wearing low rise. No matter what.
00:13:05
Speaker 3: That's a different situation.
00:13:09
Speaker 2: We mentioned yesterday that in Three Things to Know that Americans are obsessed with cheese, we're a country that's obsessed with eating cheese. Not just because we're all trying to get more protein, but when we go to the grocery store, cheese is almost on everybody's list. And it's so funny because the top three loved cheeses and it's very American. It's a very American list. Chatters number one, Mozzarella's number two, and parmesan parmesan pan is number three. Makes sense, but it made me think. And then Sam's comment was, what no processed cheese food? We probably eat more processed cheese food than any other country as well.
00:13:49
Speaker 1: Look, that was my introduction to cheese as a kid. American craft, American singles, right exactly. That's what I thought was cheese until I realized it was a processed cheese food.
00:14:00
Speaker 3: I thought I thought was cheese too. Period. I used to steal it. I used to steal it because I wasn't allowed to have it, blah blah blah, and.
00:14:08
Speaker 4: It was just a I wasn't ntil I was an adult when I realized it.
00:14:12
Speaker 2: Whatever, it is good grilled cheese. I will say, still love that stuff. I bring it up because it made me think. One of our friends, Sherry, she was telling me, and we could do this this summer. It's something she used to love to do with her girls, and was like they had discovered some fantastic like gourmet grocery stores that carry all the good cheese, even whole foods, whatever, there are cheeses there that you've never heard of, that you've never been introduced to. And she said they would go once a week and everybody gets to pick out a little hunk of cheese that they wanted to try, and she.
00:14:46
Speaker 3: Would come home and do a cheese board.
00:14:48
Speaker 4: That's cool.
00:14:49
Speaker 3: The and the point was something new.
00:14:52
Speaker 2: Do not grab gouda if you've had gouda recently, grab something you've never had before, and you just go home and have a little cheese and crackers party.
00:15:00
Speaker 1: I love that. And you and I have actually done that before. Jody and when the movie Chef came out ten years ago whatever and that grilled cheese saying that the blending of cheeses for a little cheese sandwich and not just using your ah so good.
00:15:13
Speaker 2: Yeah, my friend Sherry one of her one thing that she realized when doing this with her kids, that is that she enjoyed the stinky cheeses. It had to be really aromatic for her to like it.
00:15:24
Speaker 1: I mean, those are more flavorful than a lot of cases.
00:15:26
Speaker 3: That's what she said.
00:15:28
Speaker 2: That's what she said, Morning Picked Me Up time. If you're introverted, I want you to be proud of it. Okay, we're going to get to why you can be proud of it. A little inside is that Sam has been on the edge of his seat knowing that the Morning picked Me Up Today was going to be about being introverts.
00:15:47
Speaker 4: Because I'm an introvert.
00:15:48
Speaker 2: All right, I want you to are you proud of it. I guess out thinking that you shouldn't be well.
00:15:53
Speaker 4: I mean there was a stigma here from society if you're an introvert.
00:15:57
Speaker 3: Sure too quiet, Yeah to inward snob. Snob, I've never thought of that. Yeah, Introverts have a lot of unique strengths.
00:16:07
Speaker 2: I remember hearing one time introverts run the world because they're thoughtful and they absorb everything and they're slow to make decisions.
00:16:16
Speaker 1: Look, my late my late dad was very much an introvert, yes, but a great mind in one of the funniest people I knew.
00:16:23
Speaker 2: And when he did have something to say, everybody stopped, Oh to let it.
00:16:26
Speaker 1: In and listen.
00:16:28
Speaker 2: So some qualities of most introverts. Not everybody fits into a box. Some people are a little bit of both.
00:16:36
Speaker 3: I didn't say that.
00:16:37
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if you are an introvert and you're listening to this and you've been told that, especially if you felt the stigma, I want you to be proud of the thing that a few things. Introverts think things through before they speak, which is a superpower because we all know, we've all experienced where words can burn and you can't take words back. Introverts are slower to do that. They're great at active listening. They're really absorbing what you're saying. And if you say something to an introvert and you don't get a response back right away, they're marinating on it and you might get a response later.
00:17:12
Speaker 1: That's also the way my dad was. He was interested in everything around him. I don't know that every introvert is necessarily like that, no, but he was interested in everything around him, so he did absorb and he would have a conversation back on things.
00:17:26
Speaker 3: You like in this Sam, so far, genius.
00:17:29
Speaker 2: The other thing is is another reason that introverts can be set up for such success in life, and you guys will feel this is that introverts are really good at focusing on one thing at a time.
00:17:39
Speaker 3: Too many tabs open does not speak to them.
00:17:41
Speaker 2: And so if you've got a goal of one thing at a time, you're focusing on weight loss or not drinking, or even something small like getting someone to go out with you, whatever, you can focus on that and give it your undivided And the final one.
00:17:54
Speaker 3: Is deep relationships with the people closest to them.
00:17:56
Speaker 2: You don't have its quality over quantity in troverts, genius.
00:18:04
Speaker 4: Have you ever had the audacity when you have hired an uber to ask them to stop anywhere along the way.
00:18:12
Speaker 1: Well, you can, actually, I think, request that in the app. Actually yeah, I think, yeah.
00:18:18
Speaker 2: I did it once on the way home from a speaking engagement.
00:18:21
Speaker 4: Did you request in the app or you just asked the guy? No?
00:18:23
Speaker 2: No, no, no backseat. I was a lady, she was driving, she was commenting on my dress. It was like a formal event and I was starving, and I'm like, if I buy you some chicken fingers, can you stop for me for some chicken fingers?
00:18:34
Speaker 1: And she did, Well, that's smart. The only time I've done that is I had to have I had to ask the driver to stop at a hotel to get my luggage before I was heading back to the airport. But I mean he was willing to do that because it was already on the on.
00:18:48
Speaker 2: The right and that was part of the drive to the minutes or whatever.
00:18:51
Speaker 4: Uber has a new feature they're adding for Uber Uber Black and Uber Black Suv. Is that the top tier.
00:18:57
Speaker 1: Murpha so that must yeah, Uber Black, I think is because that's guaranteeing you like a black suv or something like that. It's more limousine like I guess.
00:19:08
Speaker 4: Uh. Well, a new feature they're introducing is called Eats for the Way. Yeah.
00:19:12
Speaker 3: Now it's only.
00:19:13
Speaker 4: Available in a couple of big cities right now, but testing it, you do your Uber reserve and you got your car coming, then that you can tap next to it add Uber Eats and order whatever it is and that person will pick it up for you. And so when they meet you.
00:19:28
Speaker 3: They've got your food.
00:19:29
Speaker 4: Get in your car and there's your croissant and your coffee waiting for you.
00:19:33
Speaker 2: Wow.
00:19:33
Speaker 1: Wow, that's that's pretty close next level.
00:19:35
Speaker 3: You're doing everything.
00:19:36
Speaker 2: Because I think we mentioned this week a week ago or so in three things to know that they've also added and maybe not everywhere yet, but they're partnering with hotels also that in the app you can book your hotel and then they like they know where you are. But while you're in the city, it's it can be the app. If you're traveling, you can be the app that you use for food, for rides, and for booking.
00:19:58
Speaker 1: I mean you can see that path, you know. For them, I don't know that they'll be able to become the all all in one app or not, but when it comes between Uber and Lyft, I mean, it's used so frequently for travelers, it just makes sense, like.
00:20:10
Speaker 2: One app for everything, And it was isn't it so funny? That will you always remember the first time you got in an uber and you felt like it was weird?
00:20:18
Speaker 4: Oh? I thought it was just like, wow, this is high travel here.
00:20:21
Speaker 1: I think that uber eats an uber combo works great if especially if like you're late and you don't have time to stop and eat for a meeting or whatever advice versa you eat on the way.
00:20:34
Speaker 2: In today's after the Show podcast, we are going to let Murphy explain the Eisenhower.
00:20:39
Speaker 3: What's it called matrix the eyesenhower.
00:20:42
Speaker 1: Everybody's eyes are glossing over.
00:20:43
Speaker 3: Actually it's got organization.
00:20:45
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's it doesn't it's not as complicated as it sounds the movie it came so President Eisenhower was the first one to really popularize this. It was his military strategy. And that's actually it Almost every uh what do they call it? Management book? Organization book? Right? You know that is written has some sort of reference to it in a different form or name, just so that you know. So it's not like nice, it's yeah, it's not a new.
00:21:14
Speaker 2: Sound, okay, And for those who are seeking organization help.
00:21:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes a big difference.
00:21:20
Speaker 2: Which our oldest daughter Taylor called you the other night for that and that's what she got, like two hours of discussion.
00:21:25
Speaker 1: Of Yeah, so catch that in a podcast today after your show.
00:21:28
Speaker 2: Okay, moving on to some more of your comments about discontinued food that you want back.
00:21:34
Speaker 3: This has been so fun.
00:21:35
Speaker 2: We brought this up because of tab We brought this up because it doesn't just happen in I feel like it's only in the world of cosmetics that companies give you and then they take it away because they redo formulas. But it happens in the grocery store a lot. We live in the land of plenty. There's too much on the shelves. People are always pulling things back, trying things if it doesn't sell. Steven said Garfield fruit snacks, especially the one two punch flavor.
00:22:00
Speaker 3: Does that mean anything to you, guys?
00:22:02
Speaker 1: I don't remember those, but I can see things being pressed into the shape of him.
00:22:05
Speaker 3: Oh maybe they just had a melon enough cover. I don't know. He has a list of things.
00:22:11
Speaker 2: There's something else here from Stephen sour cream and onion Dorito's.
00:22:16
Speaker 3: I don't remember those.
00:22:17
Speaker 4: I remember those.
00:22:18
Speaker 3: Either, but they sound delicious.
00:22:19
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think they were in a green bag like the like, just like Lea's.
00:22:24
Speaker 3: Want to imagine them, don't you.
00:22:26
Speaker 1: I'm trying to picture that. I do remember sour cream and on you that's different than ranch flavor.
00:22:30
Speaker 2: They can bring lightly dorito on the planet, but you're not going to eat nacho cheese, okay. And then the last thing that Stephen wrote is snack Wells Devil's Food Cake cookies. Do you guys remember snack Wells. It was supposedly low fat snacks. I remember that well and thinking, oh my gosh, I'm going to get to eat a cookie and it wanted to be a cookie.
00:22:53
Speaker 4: Well.
00:22:54
Speaker 1: The one that I remember that I thought was genius and it's still around. I don't know why I thought it was genius is the soft chips with Hoy Gookie soft.
00:23:06
Speaker 2: If you are a woman and you are single and you are dating, one of your number one concerns is you guys probably don't realize this, but is safety. Women think about safety so often, especially single women. How much energy went into feeling safe, and then especially the chance the occasion of let's just say you're meeting someone that you've been talking to online and you're finally meeting them in person. You know, if you've watched too many true crime documentaries, that can be scary, and it should be scary.
00:23:40
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, because you're meeting the stranger for the very first time.
00:23:43
Speaker 3: You men never feel that way.
00:23:44
Speaker 2: You ever feel unsafe when you were dating and you were meeting people sort of online and meeting at a coffee shop. Sam, I know, Murphy haven't dated in thirty years because we're married.
00:23:54
Speaker 1: That's right.
00:23:55
Speaker 4: It didn't bother me.
00:23:56
Speaker 2: Okay, See, I don't know, but the one's mind. Yeah, it's a woman thing.
00:24:01
Speaker 3: Okay.
00:24:01
Speaker 2: So the ideas, the things that women who are single and dating, what they say really really works, and some of the obvious ones. Always make sure a trusted friend or family members member knows where you're going, you know what time. Always choose like a public place, Always somewhere with lots of lighting, lots of other people and cameras. Choose a place that you know is surveilled to meet someone. That's one oh one. Let a friend know where you are, but not just that that's kind of obvious, like who you're meeting, where you met this person online?
00:24:38
Speaker 3: Also make sure you know their last name.
00:24:42
Speaker 2: Oh, so you can do that look them up thing first, I'll just you know, some supposedly I don't know, but supposedly online.
00:24:48
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's just like Murphy h.
00:24:51
Speaker 1: I think I would want to know the last name before I went and met somebody, for correct.
00:24:55
Speaker 2: But that way you can look up, look somebody up. Some women have gone as far as and I think it's really smart. You meet somebody, you walk in together, take a picture of their car, of their license plate, of them, send it to your best friend. Now, if you're having to do all that this is, you know it's worrisome.
00:25:11
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it's the basics that you're talking about. And to me, it's like drive to meet the person. Don't necessarily let them pick you up, you know, meet in a neutral place, meet in a public place like you said. Yeah, and you know what when you were talking about letting your friends know, you can do that. Put them in your life three sixty circle or find me on iPhone, that sort of thing, so that you know, if you were just concerned.
00:25:31
Speaker 3: You tacked to your advantage.
00:25:32
Speaker 2: My other favorite one is have a secret code word with a friend, that friend who knows where you are and make sure they call you mid date. And if you say the secret code word, if that's cool whip, they come get you.
00:25:44
Speaker 3: I don't know why that's the word. Be safe, be safe.
00:25:50
Speaker 2: Do you think you know when a dog, your dog is in pain? And what signs to look for. We're going to talk about several signs, the obvious ones and the ones that are not so obvious.
00:26:02
Speaker 1: Well, the obvious ones would be that they're not moving around as much. A pattern change is usually a sign of something.
00:26:08
Speaker 3: Yeah. The number one is change in personality.
00:26:12
Speaker 2: Now dogs, if a dog is getting older, and just because they're not as active doesn't mean they're in pain, but a change in true personality. Yeah, the day that our dog Champ doesn't want to go for a walk, I'll know something's up. Yeah, because even as slowed down as he as he sleeps eighteen twenty hours a day and he walks slower, he still wants to go for the walk. He still does a very reduced zoomie when it's time.
00:26:37
Speaker 1: You know, Yeah, he's excited. He makes noise. But even when he's in the backyard now he doesn't run back to the house the way he used to.
00:26:44
Speaker 3: And he just can't.
00:26:45
Speaker 4: Yeah, my old boy Gus before he passed away. Yeah, he he still tried to keep up a you know, the happy attitude. He would limp around or he would be slower, but you could tell, yeah, everything's okay.
00:27:00
Speaker 2: You know. They say what you're saying is true. They say dogs will show up for you. They keep showing up for you.
00:27:04
Speaker 1: That's what please.
00:27:06
Speaker 2: They are companions, the ultimate companion. So change in personality being the number one Murphy, You're correct. Hesitant paw lifting. If they used to lift their paws like hey, and they were hesitant about it.
00:27:19
Speaker 3: It's like letting you know that.
00:27:21
Speaker 1: Maybe it hurts.
00:27:22
Speaker 3: Maybe.
00:27:22
Speaker 1: What's crazy about Champ and our dog is he he has gotten so happy or accustomed to us reaching up and shaking that if you just walk up and he's excited, you walk up to him, he starts.
00:27:33
Speaker 3: To or he just I guess he thinks you're gonna want it anyway.
00:27:37
Speaker 1: Rais.
00:27:38
Speaker 2: He does it involuntarily. It's like muscle memory for him. You walk up to him, he's gonna go.
00:27:42
Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, I'm champed.
00:27:43
Speaker 1: It's funny.
00:27:45
Speaker 2: Reduced play, that's obvious, reduced play, fluctuating mood. If your dog was happier more often and has become less happy.
00:27:53
Speaker 3: It should be that turning their head.
00:27:56
Speaker 2: Or body away from you when they normally would sit and look toward you. They say, that's a little bit, so well, it's not something we are trained to look for. It's not something we know to look for. Murphy, I'm gonna say this next one, and you're gonna know. You're gonna think of Sparky and that is freezing in place.
00:28:13
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, in which he does a lot.
00:28:16
Speaker 2: And just stop, like like somebody said, freeze or whatever that old that game was, and it it bothers us because we know as back is bothering him or something like that. We have a couple of really old dogs. Increased grooming is another one. If they're just constantly licking all the time, some say vets say it doesn't mean that they are, but it means that they could be, because that's one of the ways they are dealing with.
00:28:40
Speaker 1: So you just take him to the vet just as over.
00:28:42
Speaker 3: Just to find out.
00:28:45
Speaker 2: Join us anytime we do read and see every single message that rolls into YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Messenger, all the places. Joanna sent this regarding what we had posted about how we all struggle as human beings with doing nothing we're used to be. Oh yeah, it's the busy effect. You get used to rolling that way and you don't know how else to be, and then your you know, vacation comes and you're like, I don't even.
00:29:11
Speaker 3: Know who I am, right, Okay.
00:29:14
Speaker 2: So Joanna sent a picture of her sitting in front of some beautiful blue water. We just spent a week in the Bahamas and it was just so relaxing, just sitting on a patio watching the ocean. I left my phone on airplane mode the entire week and loved it.
00:29:33
Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's impressive.
00:29:36
Speaker 2: Yeah, I always I've never left my air my phone on airplane mode except when on an airplane.
00:29:41
Speaker 1: And even then I forget.
00:29:42
Speaker 2: Yeah, the first time I left, I forgot to put it on airplane mode, and then I was and then we were in mid flight and I realized that.
00:29:52
Speaker 3: I panicked.
00:29:52
Speaker 2: I thought, oh my gosh, they're gonna single me out and they're gonna come and.
00:29:56
Speaker 3: Fuss at me.
00:29:59
Speaker 2: Isn't it about the city, you know, it's about the pilot's hearing noises or something like that.
00:30:04
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I don't even.
00:30:07
Speaker 3: Know where to go you're the technical person.
00:30:11
Speaker 4: I'm telling you. What Murphy doesn't want to say is I don't think we really want to do that.
00:30:15
Speaker 1: Well they can. I mean, I can't interfere with the just do it. Do what the flight attendant says to do.
00:30:21
Speaker 2: Excuse me, If the Aviation Administration wants us to do it, we should do it. There's a reason, right, even if it's just it sounds like a fly in their ears what I've heard, and if it's a whole planeful of three hundred people hear that really read about it at that time that I in that time that I accidentally left mine on I was so panicked that I had done something wrong.
00:30:45
Speaker 1: Now I'm picturing the pilot the go palid Do you feel a flyer? Now someone has got their phone on.
00:30:50
Speaker 4: Back say the message again, ladies and gentlemen. Please, you don't want.
00:30:57
Speaker 3: To say it, Murphy. But I've heard that too from other people's like, you don't need to put it on airplane.
00:31:01
Speaker 1: I think you need too. But anyway, but back to Jo's relax relaxation.
00:31:07
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm so glad that you were able to relax. And an airplane mode on the ground is a great way.
00:31:12
Speaker 3: To do nothing. Jody's Hollywood outsider.
00:31:17
Speaker 2: I've got zac Efron news with a reminder that he's not just a pretty uh face dancing up and down a high school hallway. Stuff that may have been your introduction to him, it was mine too, but a reminder that this he can do some serious acting. He's had a lot of movies and a lot of roles recently this drama Iron Claw.
00:31:39
Speaker 1: Ever since I was a child, people said my.
00:31:41
Speaker 4: Family was cursed.
00:31:43
Speaker 2: So zach Efron is now set to star in and executive produce an upcoming HBO series adaptation. So it'll be episodes that you can just watch and watch of an adaptation of Angel Heart, and that those words may not ring a but I'm going to bring you back to a late eighties movie starring Mickey Rourke, Lisa Bonett, and Robert de Niro. So it's serious. Zac Efron will. He plays this guy who is a struggling paparazzi. His livelihood depends on finding people who really want to be hidden. He gets approached by this wealthy guy who has a special assignment to find a missing woman, and it plunges him into this conspiracy, into this supernatural world. Angel it is going to be zac Efron's next big project.
00:32:36
Speaker 4: I don't know if you've ever had to put a lifelong dream on hold. That's kind of what I'm doing.
00:32:42
Speaker 1: Wow, a lifelong dream.
00:32:44
Speaker 4: Well maybe not a lifelong But in the past few years I told you that, you know, whenever retirement rolls around, I've considered, strongly considered man life. Yes, an you know, buying the van, living in the.
00:32:56
Speaker 3: Van down by the river.
00:32:58
Speaker 4: Yeah. I had to say, any feeling that's where it would go.
00:33:01
Speaker 1: So, meaning that your van would be your home, yeah, meaning sell your house by the vehicle.
00:33:05
Speaker 3: Yeah, and everything is right there being committed.
00:33:08
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I was all gung ho about it. But in the past two weeks I have started investigating the situation, you know, everything that's involved in it. Oh, and it's really taking a little of the shine off of my idea. Not a same thing, I don't think. So I can handle. I mean, solitary life, that's for me. I can handle that, no problem. But it's just all the other stuff that's involved in it.
00:33:31
Speaker 1: Connecting to sewage.
00:33:35
Speaker 4: I mean, you got to have enough water. You gotta have enough water, and then you know you've got gray tanks and black tanks and all that, and connecting to the sewage to dump it. Where do you fill up the water at? Power wise, you're going to have to have solar. You got to keep your batteries charged. You got to have enough to do this and do that. And it's like everything I'm happy with now in life and your home, putting that in a van. It's just not going to compute.
00:34:00
Speaker 1: It sounds like it's a lot of work.
00:34:01
Speaker 4: It sounds like it's a lot of work, and especially at that time in your life. You know, do you want twenty years old trying to compute. Okay, I've got enough ampiers here to run their head right and all that. It's just maybe maybe it'll be something where I can rent a van and take a trip for.
00:34:18
Speaker 1: You that that's the greatest way to try it. If it's you're not committing, you're not buying something that's really expensive, right, Yeah, And you know, and you enjoy live vicariously for a weekend.
00:34:30
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, go treat it like or do a camper and go spend some time like in a national park it's been a week or two, and then come home and see how you like the comforts of home.
00:34:39
Speaker 4: If I'm going to rent. I think it'll be a camper because it's like, why I rent a tiny little van? And that common sense is finally kicked in, is what I'm saying here. I did enough research on it where it's like, that's not going to be what I wanted.
00:34:50
Speaker 1: It's really smart. That's good to know.
00:34:52
Speaker 4: Before I bought the van.
00:34:53
Speaker 1: Yeah, from being impulsive.
00:34:55
Speaker 3: You know what's not in one of those vans, your big bathtub.
00:35:00
Speaker 4: There's a hose on the back.
