127. Reputation Destruction (Smear Campaign): Decoding, Debunking and Managing A Toxic Ex Colleague

Narcissists HATE people talking. Why? Because they can't control what is said. They don't know what is said. That creates uncertainty and reduces their power. And yes, they will happily talk behind others' backs. Create falsehoods, narratives. But when people speak, they will realise conflicting na…

I noticed a series of strange signals before things get really weird - but I reacted calmly: I was prepared, this time. I'd started speaking with a woman at the hotel gym. I noticed some weird comments. Each, taken individually, didn't mean much, but together should have alerted me. I was going to…

One of the most helpful tools in systemic therapy is identifying primary and secondary goals. Otherwise we get hypnotised by words. I say I want to run a marathon but I smoke, eat pizza and don't even wear running shoes? Maybe I'm not a hypocrite, but maybe my primary goal is to do nothing whilst …