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Welcome to Beyond the Table, the reflective podcast for high-achieving women who are ready to move from overwhelm and burnout to balance, clarity, and a life that actually feels good.
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I'm your host, Adrienne Maxwell, licensed massage therapist, Reiki Master Teacher, and owner of One Healing Touch Reiki and Massage for Women in North Charleston, South Carolina.
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Let's get into today's episode.
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Welcome to another mindset lesson.
00:00:31.199 --> 00:00:35.359
Before we begin, let's take a moment to arrive in this space.
00:00:35.920 --> 00:00:44.240
Unclench your jaw, allow your shoulders to soften and relax, and maybe even gently roll your shoulders a couple times.
00:00:44.799 --> 00:00:48.320
Shake out any of the tension that you might be holding.
00:00:49.359 --> 00:00:56.399
Take a slow deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth.
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And again, deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth.
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Deep breath in and exhale.
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Perfect.
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At first it's subtle.
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You feel more tired than usual, you need more time to recover from things that never used to affect you.
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Your focus isn't as sharp, your patience is thinner.
00:01:32.400 --> 00:01:33.840
So you adjust.
00:01:34.079 --> 00:01:40.400
You drink more coffee, you try to get more sleep, you tell yourself it's just a busy season.
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But then your body gets louder.
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Tension doesn't go away.
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Exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix.
00:01:48.799 --> 00:01:52.719
A resistance to things you used to handle with ease.
00:01:52.959 --> 00:01:57.040
And suddenly, it's not something you can push through anymore.
00:01:57.280 --> 00:01:58.959
Your body is saying no.
00:01:59.359 --> 00:02:02.480
And your mind doesn't know what to do with that.
00:02:02.799 --> 00:02:05.120
Because on paper, your life makes sense.
00:02:05.280 --> 00:02:10.159
The responsibilities are still valid, the expectations are still there.
00:02:10.560 --> 00:02:19.840
So now you're caught in between a life that still requires you to show up and a body that no longer is willing to carry it in the same way.
00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:24.479
If that tension feels familiar, just acknowledge it for a moment.
00:02:24.879 --> 00:02:36.479
In today's episode of Beyond the Table, we're talking about what it means when your body starts saying no and how to respond without feeling like everything has to fall apart.
00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:38.400
Let's get into it.
00:02:38.719 --> 00:02:45.919
This is one of the most disorienting experiences because you're not just someone who quits when things get hard.
00:02:46.159 --> 00:02:57.680
You've built your life on being consistent, reliable, capable, so when your body starts resisting, it doesn't feel like a signal, it feels like a problem.
00:02:58.080 --> 00:03:03.439
Something to fix, something to override, something to get back under control.
00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:05.520
So you push.
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You try to recreate your old capacity, you tighten your routines, you tell yourself you just need to get back on track.
00:03:14.240 --> 00:03:18.560
But the harder you push, the more your body pulls back.
00:03:18.800 --> 00:03:25.520
And as you hear that, notice if there's anything in your life where that pattern is showing up right now.
00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:36.000
And that's the moment most people miss because this isn't your body failing you, it's your body refusing to continue in a way that's no longer sustainable.
00:03:36.400 --> 00:03:39.759
When your body says no, it's not always dramatic.
00:03:39.919 --> 00:03:42.719
It doesn't always look like a full shutdown.
00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:59.840
Sometimes it looks like procrastination that doesn't make sense, avoidance of things you used to handle easily, constant fatigue, low-grade anxiety or irritability, a lack of desire to engage even with the things you care about.
00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:05.039
And as you hear those, notice which one stands out.
00:04:05.360 --> 00:04:09.439
And because these symptoms aren't extreme, you minimize them.
00:04:09.680 --> 00:04:11.599
You tell yourself it's not that bad.
00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:15.199
I can handle this, I just need to get it together.
00:04:15.599 --> 00:04:20.240
But your body isn't trying to sabotage you, it's communicating.
00:04:20.480 --> 00:04:28.240
And here's the reframe: your body's know is often protecting you from a long-term breakdown.
00:04:28.480 --> 00:04:34.079
It's creating resistance now so you don't completely collapse later.
00:04:34.399 --> 00:04:39.199
The problem is we've been trained to trust our minds over our bodies.
00:04:39.439 --> 00:04:45.279
So when the two conflict, we override the body until we can't anymore.
00:04:45.519 --> 00:04:49.360
So what do you actually do when your body starts saying no?
00:04:49.759 --> 00:04:54.319
Not in theory, but in real life, when things need to get done.
00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:56.240
Let's make it practical.
00:04:56.480 --> 00:05:00.560
Number one, stop trying to return to your old capacity.
00:05:01.040 --> 00:05:09.680
This is the first shift because a lot of struggle comes from trying to get back to who you were before this started.
00:05:10.000 --> 00:05:16.319
But your body isn't asking to go backwards, it's needing to adjust forward.
00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:24.319
What worked before may not be what works now, and forcing it will keep you stuck in a cycle.
00:05:24.560 --> 00:05:31.680
What would it look like to work with where you are now instead of where you think you should be?
00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:36.480
Number two, identify where the resistance is strongest.
00:05:36.879 --> 00:05:40.480
Your body doesn't say no to everything equally.
00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:43.920
There are specific areas where the resistance is louder.
00:05:44.160 --> 00:05:45.680
Pay attention to that.
00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:52.879
Is it your workload, certain relationships, constant availability, unrealistic expectations?
00:05:53.199 --> 00:05:55.519
Your body is pointing somewhere specific.
00:05:55.680 --> 00:05:56.480
Follow that.
00:05:56.639 --> 00:06:01.279
You don't need to figure out everything, just notice where the signal is strongest.
00:06:02.000 --> 00:06:07.279
Number three, reduce pressure before increasing discipline.
00:06:07.680 --> 00:06:12.160
When things feel off, your instinct might be to tighten things.
00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:15.680
More structure, more effort, more control.
00:06:16.399 --> 00:06:21.759
But if your system is already overwhelmed, more pressure won't create stability.
00:06:21.920 --> 00:06:23.839
It creates shutdown.
00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:28.160
Instead, ask, where can I lower the demand?
00:06:28.480 --> 00:06:30.240
Even slightly.
00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:55.759
Honoring small signals, not just big ones.
00:06:56.079 --> 00:07:00.079
Consistency here matters more than intensity.
00:07:00.879 --> 00:07:05.600
Small moments of listening start to rebuild that trust.
00:07:06.000 --> 00:07:10.560
And number five, let know inform your boundaries.
00:07:10.879 --> 00:07:13.120
Your body resists in data.
00:07:13.360 --> 00:07:15.920
It tells you where something needs to change.
00:07:16.160 --> 00:07:28.879
And that change often shows up as a boundary, time boundaries, energy boundaries, access boundaries, not all at once, but one at a time.
00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:33.680
So before we move on, just pause for a second.
00:07:33.920 --> 00:07:41.120
Out of everything we just walked through, where is your body most clearly saying no right now?
00:07:43.040 --> 00:07:45.680
And that point is where you start.
00:07:45.920 --> 00:07:53.120
What if your body isn't working against you but trying to bring you back into alignment, balance?
00:07:54.079 --> 00:08:03.519
What if this resistance you're feeling is actually a form of intelligence, a course correction, a recalibration, if you will?
00:08:04.079 --> 00:08:10.879
Because the truth is you can only override your body for so long before it decides for you.
00:08:11.279 --> 00:08:14.720
So maybe this isn't the moment to push harder.
00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:18.079
Maybe it's the moment to listen differently.
00:08:18.319 --> 00:08:20.319
So here's what I want to leave with you.
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Where in your body are you already saying no?
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And what would it look like to respect that signal, even just a little bit more this week?
00:08:31.920 --> 00:08:40.240
You don't have to change everything, but you do have to start listening because your body will keep speaking until you do.
00:08:40.799 --> 00:08:52.159
Before you go, go ahead and take one more grounding breath in and exhale and let this be enough for today.
00:08:55.039 --> 00:08:56.960
Well, that's it for this episode.
00:08:57.200 --> 00:09:02.399
If you enjoyed it, share it with the woman who needs it and subscribe so you never miss one.
00:09:02.559 --> 00:09:10.399
When you're ready to take this work beyond the podcast, I'm at One Healing Touch Reiki and Massage for Women in North Charleston, South Carolina.
00:09:10.720 --> 00:09:14.639
Take care of yourself, not as a reward, but as a practice.
00:09:14.720 --> 00:09:17.440
And I'll see you beyond the table.
00:00:02.319 --> 00:00:13.279
Welcome to Beyond the Table, the reflective podcast for high-achieving women who are ready to move from overwhelm and burnout to balance, clarity, and a life that actually feels good.
00:00:13.439 --> 00:00:24.559
I'm your host, Adrienne Maxwell, licensed massage therapist, Reiki Master Teacher, and owner of One Healing Touch Reiki and Massage for Women in North Charleston, South Carolina.
00:00:24.719 --> 00:00:27.120
Let's get into today's episode.
00:00:28.640 --> 00:00:30.960
Welcome to another mindset lesson.
00:00:31.199 --> 00:00:35.359
Before we begin, let's take a moment to arrive in this space.
00:00:35.920 --> 00:00:44.240
Unclench your jaw, allow your shoulders to soften and relax, and maybe even gently roll your shoulders a couple times.
00:00:44.799 --> 00:00:48.320
Shake out any of the tension that you might be holding.
00:00:49.359 --> 00:00:56.399
Take a slow deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth.
00:00:58.560 --> 00:01:06.400
And again, deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth.
00:01:10.400 --> 00:01:15.280
Deep breath in and exhale.
00:01:17.760 --> 00:01:18.719
Perfect.
00:01:20.319 --> 00:01:22.079
At first it's subtle.
00:01:22.239 --> 00:01:28.319
You feel more tired than usual, you need more time to recover from things that never used to affect you.
00:01:28.560 --> 00:01:32.159
Your focus isn't as sharp, your patience is thinner.
00:01:32.400 --> 00:01:33.840
So you adjust.
00:01:34.079 --> 00:01:40.400
You drink more coffee, you try to get more sleep, you tell yourself it's just a busy season.
00:01:40.640 --> 00:01:43.280
But then your body gets louder.
00:01:43.599 --> 00:01:45.359
Tension doesn't go away.
00:01:45.680 --> 00:01:48.400
Exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix.
00:01:48.799 --> 00:01:52.719
A resistance to things you used to handle with ease.
00:01:52.959 --> 00:01:57.040
And suddenly, it's not something you can push through anymore.
00:01:57.280 --> 00:01:58.959
Your body is saying no.
00:01:59.359 --> 00:02:02.480
And your mind doesn't know what to do with that.
00:02:02.799 --> 00:02:05.120
Because on paper, your life makes sense.
00:02:05.280 --> 00:02:10.159
The responsibilities are still valid, the expectations are still there.
00:02:10.560 --> 00:02:19.840
So now you're caught in between a life that still requires you to show up and a body that no longer is willing to carry it in the same way.
00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:24.479
If that tension feels familiar, just acknowledge it for a moment.
00:02:24.879 --> 00:02:36.479
In today's episode of Beyond the Table, we're talking about what it means when your body starts saying no and how to respond without feeling like everything has to fall apart.
00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:38.400
Let's get into it.
00:02:38.719 --> 00:02:45.919
This is one of the most disorienting experiences because you're not just someone who quits when things get hard.
00:02:46.159 --> 00:02:57.680
You've built your life on being consistent, reliable, capable, so when your body starts resisting, it doesn't feel like a signal, it feels like a problem.
00:02:58.080 --> 00:03:03.439
Something to fix, something to override, something to get back under control.
00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:05.520
So you push.
00:03:05.919 --> 00:03:14.080
You try to recreate your old capacity, you tighten your routines, you tell yourself you just need to get back on track.
00:03:14.240 --> 00:03:18.560
But the harder you push, the more your body pulls back.
00:03:18.800 --> 00:03:25.520
And as you hear that, notice if there's anything in your life where that pattern is showing up right now.
00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:36.000
And that's the moment most people miss because this isn't your body failing you, it's your body refusing to continue in a way that's no longer sustainable.
00:03:36.400 --> 00:03:39.759
When your body says no, it's not always dramatic.
00:03:39.919 --> 00:03:42.719
It doesn't always look like a full shutdown.
00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:59.840
Sometimes it looks like procrastination that doesn't make sense, avoidance of things you used to handle easily, constant fatigue, low-grade anxiety or irritability, a lack of desire to engage even with the things you care about.
00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:05.039
And as you hear those, notice which one stands out.
00:04:05.360 --> 00:04:09.439
And because these symptoms aren't extreme, you minimize them.
00:04:09.680 --> 00:04:11.599
You tell yourself it's not that bad.
00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:15.199
I can handle this, I just need to get it together.
00:04:15.599 --> 00:04:20.240
But your body isn't trying to sabotage you, it's communicating.
00:04:20.480 --> 00:04:28.240
And here's the reframe: your body's know is often protecting you from a long-term breakdown.
00:04:28.480 --> 00:04:34.079
It's creating resistance now so you don't completely collapse later.
00:04:34.399 --> 00:04:39.199
The problem is we've been trained to trust our minds over our bodies.
00:04:39.439 --> 00:04:45.279
So when the two conflict, we override the body until we can't anymore.
00:04:45.519 --> 00:04:49.360
So what do you actually do when your body starts saying no?
00:04:49.759 --> 00:04:54.319
Not in theory, but in real life, when things need to get done.
00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:56.240
Let's make it practical.
00:04:56.480 --> 00:05:00.560
Number one, stop trying to return to your old capacity.
00:05:01.040 --> 00:05:09.680
This is the first shift because a lot of struggle comes from trying to get back to who you were before this started.
00:05:10.000 --> 00:05:16.319
But your body isn't asking to go backwards, it's needing to adjust forward.
00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:24.319
What worked before may not be what works now, and forcing it will keep you stuck in a cycle.
00:05:24.560 --> 00:05:31.680
What would it look like to work with where you are now instead of where you think you should be?
00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:36.480
Number two, identify where the resistance is strongest.
00:05:36.879 --> 00:05:40.480
Your body doesn't say no to everything equally.
00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:43.920
There are specific areas where the resistance is louder.
00:05:44.160 --> 00:05:45.680
Pay attention to that.
00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:52.879
Is it your workload, certain relationships, constant availability, unrealistic expectations?
00:05:53.199 --> 00:05:55.519
Your body is pointing somewhere specific.
00:05:55.680 --> 00:05:56.480
Follow that.
00:05:56.639 --> 00:06:01.279
You don't need to figure out everything, just notice where the signal is strongest.
00:06:02.000 --> 00:06:07.279
Number three, reduce pressure before increasing discipline.
00:06:07.680 --> 00:06:12.160
When things feel off, your instinct might be to tighten things.
00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:15.680
More structure, more effort, more control.
00:06:16.399 --> 00:06:21.759
But if your system is already overwhelmed, more pressure won't create stability.
00:06:21.920 --> 00:06:23.839
It creates shutdown.
00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:28.160
Instead, ask, where can I lower the demand?
00:06:28.480 --> 00:06:30.240
Even slightly.
00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:55.759
Honoring small signals, not just big ones.
00:06:56.079 --> 00:07:00.079
Consistency here matters more than intensity.
00:07:00.879 --> 00:07:05.600
Small moments of listening start to rebuild that trust.
00:07:06.000 --> 00:07:10.560
And number five, let know inform your boundaries.
00:07:10.879 --> 00:07:13.120
Your body resists in data.
00:07:13.360 --> 00:07:15.920
It tells you where something needs to change.
00:07:16.160 --> 00:07:28.879
And that change often shows up as a boundary, time boundaries, energy boundaries, access boundaries, not all at once, but one at a time.
00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:33.680
So before we move on, just pause for a second.
00:07:33.920 --> 00:07:41.120
Out of everything we just walked through, where is your body most clearly saying no right now?
00:07:43.040 --> 00:07:45.680
And that point is where you start.
00:07:45.920 --> 00:07:53.120
What if your body isn't working against you but trying to bring you back into alignment, balance?
00:07:54.079 --> 00:08:03.519
What if this resistance you're feeling is actually a form of intelligence, a course correction, a recalibration, if you will?
00:08:04.079 --> 00:08:10.879
Because the truth is you can only override your body for so long before it decides for you.
00:08:11.279 --> 00:08:14.720
So maybe this isn't the moment to push harder.
00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:18.079
Maybe it's the moment to listen differently.
00:08:18.319 --> 00:08:20.319
So here's what I want to leave with you.
00:08:20.639 --> 00:08:24.240
Where in your body are you already saying no?
00:08:25.040 --> 00:08:31.600
And what would it look like to respect that signal, even just a little bit more this week?
00:08:31.920 --> 00:08:40.240
You don't have to change everything, but you do have to start listening because your body will keep speaking until you do.
00:08:40.799 --> 00:08:52.159
Before you go, go ahead and take one more grounding breath in and exhale and let this be enough for today.
00:08:55.039 --> 00:08:56.960
Well, that's it for this episode.
00:08:57.200 --> 00:09:02.399
If you enjoyed it, share it with the woman who needs it and subscribe so you never miss one.
00:09:02.559 --> 00:09:10.399
When you're ready to take this work beyond the podcast, I'm at One Healing Touch Reiki and Massage for Women in North Charleston, South Carolina.
00:09:10.720 --> 00:09:14.639
Take care of yourself, not as a reward, but as a practice.
00:09:14.720 --> 00:09:17.440
And I'll see you beyond the table.
