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Hey, I'd like to talk to the men for a moment.
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Not the polished version of you.
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Not the guy that you post on social media.
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The real one.
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The one who lies awake at night.
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Running the tape back.
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The one who knows exactly where he's fallen short.
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That guy.
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I'm talking to him.
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Because somewhere along the way, somebody sold men a lie.
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You're either told you're the problem toxic, broken too much, or you're handed a trophy just for showing up.
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And neither one of those is true.
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The truth is harder than both of those.
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And it's also more freeing.
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God has always called men to something.
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Not dominance.
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Not passivity.
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To presence, to weight bearing to being the kind of man that when he walks into a room, his family breathes a little easier.
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That's not a cultural construct.
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That's Genesis.
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That's the design.
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But we live in a world that's done everything it can to untethered men from that calling.
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And a lot of us, if we're honest, we took the bait, we checked out, we numbed out.
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We stayed busy so we didn't have to deal with what's going on inside.
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And the people closest to us have paid for it.
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I'm not saying that to condemn you.
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I'm saying it because you already know it.
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And naming that is the first step toward changing that.
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Here's what I kept coming back to in Scripture.
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16, it says, A righteous man falls seven times and rises every time.
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Notice what it doesn't say.
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Doesn't say he never falls.
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Doesn't say he has a perfect record.
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Says he rises.
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That's the mark of a godly man, not perfection.
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Perseverance.
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Look, David was an adulterer and a murderer, and God called him a man after his own heart.
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Not because he didn't sin and not because sin didn't matter, but because he never stopped running back to God when he fell.
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Let's look at Peter.
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Peter denied Jesus three times out loud in front of witnesses, and Jesus still looked at him and said, you are the rock on which I'll build my church.
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God doesn't disqualify men for falling.
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He disqualifies men for staying down.
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So let me ask you something directly.
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Where have you stayed down?
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Where have you told yourself the story?
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That it's too late, that you've done too much damage, that your kids are too old.
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That your marriage is too far gone?
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That God has written you off?
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Because I want to tell you, that is not the voice of God.
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That is the voice of the enemy, and the enemy is a liar.
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Your family does not need the perfect version of you that's never going to get here.
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They need you.
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They need you present, honest, surrendered, and willing to do the hard work of becoming who God called you to be.
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That starts today.
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Not when you have it figured out today.
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Guys, here's your charge.
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Pray like it's the most important thing you do. Because it is.
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Lead your home not with a that you demand, but with a sacrifice that you offer.
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Own your failures out loud.
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Nothing breaks a generational curse faster than a father who looks in the eyes of his child and says, I was wrong.
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I'm working on it.
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Show up.
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Show up physically, emotionally.
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Spiritually.
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Just show up.
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The world is desperate for men who actually carry their weight, and your family is desperate for it.
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And whether you know it or not, you're desperate for it to become.
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There's nothing more hollow than a man who has walked away from his calling.
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There's nothing more powerful than a man who has walked back toward it.
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Guys, this is your moment.
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Not tomorrow.
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Not when life slows down right now.
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Rise.
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Lead. Love.
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Repent and repeat.
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That's the call.
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That's always been the call.
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Now go live like you believe it.
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I'm with you.
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Hey, I'd like to talk to the men for a moment.
00:00:03.536 --> 00:00:06.272
Not the polished version of you.
00:00:06.272 --> 00:00:09.242
Not the guy that you post on social media.
00:00:09.242 --> 00:00:10.410
The real one.
00:00:10.410 --> 00:00:12.679
The one who lies awake at night.
00:00:12.679 --> 00:00:14.714
Running the tape back.
00:00:14.714 --> 00:00:18.117
The one who knows exactly where he's fallen short.
00:00:18.117 --> 00:00:20.053
That guy.
00:00:20.053 --> 00:00:21.987
I'm talking to him.
00:00:21.987 --> 00:00:26.592
Because somewhere along the way, somebody sold men a lie.
00:00:26.592 --> 00:00:34.000
You're either told you're the problem toxic, broken too much, or you're handed a trophy just for showing up.
00:00:34.000 --> 00:00:35.902
And neither one of those is true.
00:00:35.902 --> 00:00:38.371
The truth is harder than both of those.
00:00:38.371 --> 00:00:41.274
And it's also more freeing.
00:00:41.274 --> 00:00:43.542
God has always called men to something.
00:00:43.542 --> 00:00:44.743
Not dominance.
00:00:44.743 --> 00:00:47.414
Not passivity.
00:00:47.414 --> 00:00:56.722
To presence, to weight bearing to being the kind of man that when he walks into a room, his family breathes a little easier.
00:00:56.722 --> 00:00:59.292
That's not a cultural construct.
00:00:59.292 --> 00:01:00.259
That's Genesis.
00:01:00.259 --> 00:01:02.094
That's the design.
00:01:02.094 --> 00:01:09.234
But we live in a world that's done everything it can to untethered men from that calling.
00:01:09.234 --> 00:01:14.908
And a lot of us, if we're honest, we took the bait, we checked out, we numbed out.
00:01:14.908 --> 00:01:19.611
We stayed busy so we didn't have to deal with what's going on inside.
00:01:19.611 --> 00:01:23.582
And the people closest to us have paid for it.
00:01:23.582 --> 00:01:25.718
I'm not saying that to condemn you.
00:01:25.718 --> 00:01:28.754
I'm saying it because you already know it.
00:01:28.754 --> 00:01:35.028
And naming that is the first step toward changing that.
00:01:35.028 --> 00:01:37.230
Here's what I kept coming back to in Scripture.
00:01:37.230 --> 00:01:47.507
16, it says, A righteous man falls seven times and rises every time.
00:01:47.507 --> 00:01:48.707
Notice what it doesn't say.
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Doesn't say he never falls.
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Doesn't say he has a perfect record.
00:01:54.680 --> 00:01:56.915
Says he rises.
00:01:56.915 --> 00:02:01.019
That's the mark of a godly man, not perfection.
00:02:01.019 --> 00:02:02.621
Perseverance.
00:02:02.621 --> 00:02:09.461
Look, David was an adulterer and a murderer, and God called him a man after his own heart.
00:02:09.461 --> 00:02:17.736
Not because he didn't sin and not because sin didn't matter, but because he never stopped running back to God when he fell.
00:02:17.736 --> 00:02:19.038
Let's look at Peter.
00:02:19.038 --> 00:02:30.383
Peter denied Jesus three times out loud in front of witnesses, and Jesus still looked at him and said, you are the rock on which I'll build my church.
00:02:30.383 --> 00:02:32.985
God doesn't disqualify men for falling.
00:02:32.985 --> 00:02:37.157
He disqualifies men for staying down.
00:02:37.157 --> 00:02:39.992
So let me ask you something directly.
00:02:41.461 --> 00:02:43.629
Where have you stayed down?
00:02:43.629 --> 00:02:46.265
Where have you told yourself the story?
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That it's too late, that you've done too much damage, that your kids are too old.
00:02:51.937 --> 00:02:53.872
That your marriage is too far gone?
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That God has written you off?
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Because I want to tell you, that is not the voice of God.
00:02:58.877 --> 00:03:03.550
That is the voice of the enemy, and the enemy is a liar.
00:03:03.550 --> 00:03:09.021
Your family does not need the perfect version of you that's never going to get here.
00:03:09.021 --> 00:03:10.657
They need you.
00:03:10.657 --> 00:03:18.598
They need you present, honest, surrendered, and willing to do the hard work of becoming who God called you to be.
00:03:18.598 --> 00:03:20.800
That starts today.
00:03:20.800 --> 00:03:23.836
Not when you have it figured out today.
00:03:23.836 --> 00:03:26.838
Guys, here's your charge.
00:03:27.539 --> 00:03:32.377
Pray like it's the most important thing you do. Because it is.
00:03:33.612 --> 00:03:38.985
Lead your home not with a that you demand, but with a sacrifice that you offer.
00:03:38.985 --> 00:03:41.054
Own your failures out loud.
00:03:41.054 --> 00:03:49.194
Nothing breaks a generational curse faster than a father who looks in the eyes of his child and says, I was wrong.
00:03:49.194 --> 00:03:51.396
I'm working on it.
00:03:51.396 --> 00:03:53.432
Show up.
00:03:53.432 --> 00:03:55.401
Show up physically, emotionally.
00:03:55.401 --> 00:03:56.269
Spiritually.
00:03:56.269 --> 00:03:59.271
Just show up.
00:03:59.639 --> 00:04:05.344
The world is desperate for men who actually carry their weight, and your family is desperate for it.
00:04:05.344 --> 00:04:09.915
And whether you know it or not, you're desperate for it to become.
00:04:09.915 --> 00:04:15.520
There's nothing more hollow than a man who has walked away from his calling.
00:04:16.588 --> 00:04:22.795
There's nothing more powerful than a man who has walked back toward it.
00:04:22.795 --> 00:04:25.064
Guys, this is your moment.
00:04:25.064 --> 00:04:26.298
Not tomorrow.
00:04:26.298 --> 00:04:30.302
Not when life slows down right now.
00:04:30.302 --> 00:04:31.504
Rise.
00:04:31.504 --> 00:04:33.706
Lead. Love.
00:04:33.706 --> 00:04:36.442
Repent and repeat.
00:04:36.442 --> 00:04:38.511
That's the call.
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That's always been the call.
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Now go live like you believe it.
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I'm with you.
