Clear the Clutter, Make Room for the New

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Welcome to the Thrive Mindset Podcast, where manifesting your dreams isn't magic, it's momentum.
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I'm your host, Carrie Dale, entrepreneur, author, and manifestation coach, and I'm here to help you stop holding yourself back and start building the life you've been craving.
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Each week, I'll share real stories, practical tools, and powerful mindset shifts to help you reframe the negative, embrace gratitude, and take aligned action toward your goals.
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If you're ready to uplevel your life, your relationships, your success, then this is your place.
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Let's dive in.
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I want you to picture your closet for a second.
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Not the tidy one you show people, the real one.
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The one with the shirt you haven't worn in three years because it might come back in style.
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The one with the shoes don't fit right, but you paid too much for them to give them away.
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The gift you never liked, but you feel guilty donating.
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Now, here's my question for you today.
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Is your life doing the same thing?
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Welcome back to the Thrive Mindset podcast.
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I'm Carrie Dale, and today we're going to talk about something that doesn't get nearly enough airtime in the manifestation world.
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Everyone wants to talk about vision boards and affirmations and asking the universe for more, but almost nobody talks about the part that comes first.
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And that's making room.
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So stick with me today because by the end of this episode, I want you to have a real tangible starting point, not just an idea, but an actual practice that you can start this week.
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So a few years ago, I was helping a client stage your home before it went on the market.
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And it was beautiful and it had great bones, but it felt really heavy.
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Not messy exactly, just full.
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Every surface had something on it.
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Every closet was packed.
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And she said something to me that I've never forgotten.
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She said, I know I need to declutter.
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I just don't know where to start because it all feels important.
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And that sentence stuck with me because it's not just about houses, it's about our minds, our calendars, our relationships, our self-talk.
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We carry things that once felt so important and maybe were never even ours to carry in the first place.
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And we wonder why we feel stuck.
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Why the new job, the new relationship, the next level of business isn't showing up.
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It's not always a mindset problem.
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Sometimes it's a capacity problem.
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There's just no room.
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And here's the thing about that client.
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Once we cleared the house, room by room, something shifted in her that had nothing to do with the sale.
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She told me a few weeks later that she finally made a decision she'd been putting off for over a year about her career, actually.
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Nothing to do with the house at all.
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She said the space just made the decision obvious.
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And that's not a coincidence.
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That's what happens when you stop asking your mind to hold everything at once.
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And I'm going to tell myself here for a minute, too.
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There was a season, maybe two years ago, where I felt like I was doing everything right.
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I was journaling, I was setting my intentions, I had the vision board up and nothing was moving.
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I remember sitting with Jeff one night, frustrated and saying, I don't understand why I feel so stuck when I'm doing all the right things.
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And it wasn't until I actually looked around, really looked, that I saw it.
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My office was a mess.
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It was filled with old files of clients that I didn't need anymore.
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My calendar was full of commitments that I'd said yes to out of guilt and had no desire to do.
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I was still holding on to a version of my business that I had already outgrown.
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I was asking for bigger, freer life while gripping tightly to the smaller, busier one.
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So I cleared it physically first because that's always the easiest entry point.
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Then I looked at my calendar and I started saying no to things that don't align with me anymore.
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And that's really uncomfortable.
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And if I'm honest, saying no still doesn't come naturally to me.
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But within a month or so, new opportunities started showing up.
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Not because the universe suddenly decided to reward me, but because I finally had the room to receive it.
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It's about making the space to receive.
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Think about it practically.
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If you want a full inbox of new opportunities, but you never clear out the old emails, you stop opening it, right?
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If you want new energy in your relationship, but you're still holding resentment from years back, there's no room for the new connection to breathe.
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If you want abundance, but your calendar is crammed with obligations that drain you, where exactly is that abundance supposed to go?
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Buying or selling a home is more than just a transaction.
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It's your move.
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It's your next chapter.
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And we're here to make sure that your move is remarkable.
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We know this market inside and out, and we care deeply about helping you find more than just a house.
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We want you to find the place where your life truly thrives, whether you're stepping into your first home, upgrading to something new, or starting something fresh.
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You deserve more than ordinary.
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With the Scott Lewis group, it's your moop.
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Let's make it remarkable.
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I like to think about clutter in three layers.
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The first is physical.
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Your home, your car, your desk.
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This is the easiest one to see.
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And honestly, the one to start with, because clearing physical space sends a signal to your nervous system that change is welcome here.
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There's actual research behind this too.
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Your body is registering all the stuff as unfinished business, even if your mind has stopped noticing it.
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The second is mental.
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The to-do lists never finish.
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The decisions you keep putting off, the mental tabs you leave open.
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This is quieter, but heavier than most people realize.
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I call these open loops.
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Every decision you're avoiding, every conversation you keep meaning to have, every half-finished project sitting in the back of your mind, that's mental clutter.
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And it's exhausting in the way that's hard to name because you can't see it piled up in a corner.
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And that's why it's kind of on a loop.
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And the third is energetic.
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The relationships that cost you more than a gift, the old identity you've outgrown to keep performing because it's familiar.
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The stories that you tell about yourself that were true five years ago and aren't true anymore.
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This is the deepest layer.
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And honestly, it's the one that takes the most courage to clear because it usually means letting go of who you thought you were supposed to be.
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And it's hard to let go of something that you thought about yourself, or it's hard to let go of pieces of you that were a part of your life.
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But when you do the work, you make so much more room.
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You don't have to clear all three of these at once.
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But I'd invite you to notice which one is the loudest for you right now.
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For some of you listening, it's genuinely your garage or your closet.
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For me right now, I have some cupboards in the kitchen that I greatly need to get to.
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I opened them up last night when I was trying to find a bowl.
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And I realized there were things in there I haven't touched in years.
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And so why are they just taking up space in the back of a closet or cupboard?
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And for others of you, it's a conversation you've been avoiding for months.
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And for some, it's a belief about yourself you've been dragging around since high school that has absolutely no business still being in your life.
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I think it's worth pausing here and asking why we hold on to things in the first place.
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Because if we don't understand that, the clearing never sticks.
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A lot of the time, it's guilt.
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We keep the gift we don't like because someone gave it to us with love.
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We keep saying yes to a commitment because we feel like we owe somebody.
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And sometimes it's identity.
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We keep old business cards, the old title, the old way of doing things because it's familiar.
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And familiar feels safe even when it isn't serving us anymore.
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And sometimes, if I'm honest, it's fear.
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If I clear the space, what if nothing comes in to fill it?
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What if I let go of the relationship, this job, this old story, and I'm left with just empty space and no plan?
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And here's what I want to offer you on that one.
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Empty space is not failure.
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Empty space is potential.
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It's a field that has to be cleared before anything can be printed on it.
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You are not behind because you have some clearing to do.
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You're actually right on time.
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So here's what I want you to think about this week.
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I'm going to walk you through three small actions, one for each layer.
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So for the physical layer, pick a drawer, pick a shelf, pick a closet, a cupboard, and clear it with intention.
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As you touch each item, ask yourself, does this still serve who I'm becoming?
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Not who I was, but who I am becoming?
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And if the answer is no, think it and let it go.
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And for the mental layer, I want you to do something called a brain dump.
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Take five minutes, no more, and write down every open loop running through your head right now.
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Every undone task, every unanswered text, every decision you've been avoiding.
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Don't organize it, don't judge it.
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Just get it all out of your head onto paper.
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And you'll be shocked how much lighter you feel just for seeing it outside of you instead of circling inside you.
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And for the energetic layer, I want you to write down one relationship, story, or identity that you've been carrying around that isn't yours to carry anymore.
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You don't have to do anything about it.
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Just naming it on paper starts to loosen its grip.
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Awareness is the first act of release.
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One more thing before we close, because I don't want anyone listening to feel like they need to clear their entire life by Friday.
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That's not how this works.
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And honestly, that kind of pressure will just create more clutter.
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This time in the form of guilt about not doing it fast enough.
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Clearing is a practice, not a project.
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You don't have to overhaul your whole life in one weekend.
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Pick the one drawer.
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Do the one brain dump.
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Name the one thing that you're ready to release.
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Small, consistent clearing creates way more lasting room than the one big dramatic purge that burns you out.
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And I tell you, I'm the queen of trying to bang everything out as quickly as possible.
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So don't do that.
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Take your time.
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Because here's what I know for sure the universe isn't withholding from you.
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Sometimes we're just cool.
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So clear the shelf, clear your mind, clear the old story, and watch how quickly the new finds its way in.
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I'd love to hear about what you've cleared this week, send me a message, or share it on our live mindset community.
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Thanks for spending some time with me today.
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And above all else, remember that I believe in you, and you can manifest the life of your brain.