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Welcome back to the rebuild.
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I hope you're having an amazing day today.
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Thank you for being here.
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Today I want to walk you through something I'm very passionate about.
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So if I get a little loud, I get a little bit, you know, manic.
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It's because I'm really passionate about this.
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I've essentially studied it my whole life.
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And I want to talk about busyness.
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And so I kind of titled this busy versus unstructured.
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Okay.
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And there's a massive core problem around this because for years, whether it's working with clients one-to-one, whether it's being on the gym floor, doing group training, having a gym, owning supplement stores, talking to people about their health and fitness, doing keynotes and businesses with high-level executives, the one-to-one coaching, the podcasts, the interviews.
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I hear this term, I'm just so busy so often, and I'm going to be really real with everyone right now.
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I've studied time management and systems since I was a boy, like a very young boy.
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And if I was like everyone else in culture today, I would definitely label myself with autism.
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So imagine like this autistic creature obsessing about something.
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And if you ever listen to my stuff, when I obsess about something, I know quite a lot about it.
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Okay.
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And I'm I'm almost making like a caveat around this because this one is probably going to trigger some folks.
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And I don't mean to.
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I'm coming at this with love and grace, but I want the truth pill to be swallowed.
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Number one, you are not too busy to look after your health.
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You just don't know what you're doing, and you have very low capacity and you do not know how to structure things.
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I've gotten to talk to a few in my life, and because we have the gracious thing of the internet, you can find all these things.
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I'm very interested in founders and the best athletes, and anyone who's achieved just monumental success in one area of their life.
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Most billionaires are scheduling their time to a seven-minute interval per day.
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Every seven minutes, there's a new micro meeting, there's a new task.
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And you know what all of them say?
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The number one thing that they try to focus on is their health because it's the one thing money can't buy.
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It's the one thing you can't get back when you lose.
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And when you have a bunch of problems, guess what?
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When you lose your health, you only have one.
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One problem.
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And so just a lot of the cope things that I might hear is like, I'm too busy to meal prep.
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Well, you're eating anyway.
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What do you mean?
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And if you weren't eating, you wouldn't have too much body fat.
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So that's nonsense.
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You're not too busy to meal prep.
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Maybe you don't know how.
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Maybe you're not a good cook.
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Maybe you're not prioritizing it or valuing it.
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Those are all things that can be true as to why they're not getting done.
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But just having such low-level excuses of like, I'm just busy.
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No, you're not.
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And I'm gonna be honest, most people I coach and or have coached in the past or have consulted with, their level of busyness could be like improved.
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I could add, if I taught them how to manage things, which is exactly what I try to do inside my coaching container, probably 20, 40 times the load.
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Like people's capac human beings are the most incredibly adaptive, like creatures.
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And human beings fascinate me.
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That's part of why I loved coaching, right?
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And so I'll ask someone like, oh, are we time blocking?
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What does that mean?
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Hmm, do you have any calendar blocks?
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Are we having weekly planning?
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Are we allowing small interruptions through our phone all day long?
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Just dopamine cycling, task switching.
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How many hours are we spending on our phone as far as you know, screen time?
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What's the Netflix log time?
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Listen, if things don't get scheduled and structured, and even me, even as much as I go hard for my clients, I try to run my business, I try to really take uh a very hearty look at responsibility.
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When I'm gonna schedule my training, when I'm scheduling these very uh podcasts right now, because my clients get a lot of value from this, and it's very important to me to add value to them.
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I wrote it on the calendar this morning that I was gonna come and do this.
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There was already four things that came up where I could have said, just ah, I'm too busy.
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But guess what?
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That's in there now, and everything else gets layered on top of that.
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And sometimes, of course, we're adults, we have to flip things, things will take of higher priority, which is why I'm too busy is usually a translation for I'm not valuing this enough.
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Excuse me.
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And so when you don't value something, you're not gonna prioritize it.
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And then I know there's always this knee-jerk reaction of like, no, no, I'm prioritizing it.
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And I'm like, well, okay, well, how are you doing that?
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It's like, well, I've hired you as a coach, or I've hired another coach, or I've I've done this thing.
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And I'm like, okay, that's that's suppositioning the act of spending money into thinking that that's doing the thing.
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Right.
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I've worked with tons of people who have paid me uh and over the years, and I'm very lucky that I see a lot less of this than what's in the marketplace.
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Just someone comes and pays for three months, six months, a year, and changes absolutely nothing.
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It's it's a lot of people like hiring a coach or starting a program or doing 75 hard because they like going to the lunchroom at work and saying, Oh, I'm doing 75 hard.
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Oh, yeah.
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It's like, okay, well, what about after 75?
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What about what what was happening before that we need a uh a 75 hard days or whatever it is, right?
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So you can see where I'm going with this.
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And again, I don't want to be combative on this because I also, and now I want to kind of make a bipolar point.
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I also don't believe that everyone has the same 24 hours in a day.
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And I also don't believe that a single mom with three kids has the same life as a 20-year-old who's going to university.
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No shot.
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And those 20-year-olds will also also all always say that they're way too busy.
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And I just tell them, listen, you just have no frame or reference of reality because you're not in it yet.
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This is actually the easiest time in your life.
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It feels like it's not, but adding kids, adding a career, adding a divorce, adding uh opening businesses, adding losing your parents, like go down the list as we age.
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And anyone who's you know 35, 40, 50 plus is just shaking their head right now, going, like, yeah, honestly, I thought it was hard then too, as did I.
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It's not.
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You get more competent, you get more seasoned, you you get more calm with dealing with problems usually, but life doesn't get quote unquote easier.
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And it usually comes in seasons.
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You guys have heard me talk about seasons a lot, but that doesn't mean that we throw the baby out with the bathwater.
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This is where people need to learn to reduce the scope, right?
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So I've gone through a crazy couple years and I'm just coming out the other side of it, specifically 2025.
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2025, I was doing my best to get in three really good sessions a week uh in the gym.
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Let's use an as an example.
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Well, to me, and to many people, that's all that they ever need, probably.
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But to me, because I've been used to training four or five days a week for 15 years, that felt like failing.
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And it would have been really easy for me to go, well, I'm just stressed out, I'm depressed, I'm exiting these businesses, I have this ex-wife problem, yada yada yada.
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I could have told myself that story and just kind of stopped going.
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But I went, no, what can we reduce the scope to?
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What can I actually do?
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What could I do?
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What should I do?
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And then most importantly, what would I do?
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It's like, okay, well, I think I could do that.
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And I reduced the scope for a while.
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And guess what?
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Now the seasons are changing, and it's like I'm back in the gym feeling much better, especially these last couple months, and I've worked my way up to four days a week, and this is my first week again hitting five days.
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Well, if you look at an entire year, imagine what happened or would have happened or wouldn't have happened, I guess, over the year.
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If I just went, well, I'm busy right now, and uh I guess I don't have time to train.
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What do you think the difference would be from training most of the year three days a week to zero after that year is aggregated?
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Huge difference in progress, performance, how I feel about myself.
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And this is where you teach yourself that you are responsible.
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This is where you teach yourself that you are reliable, and you teach yourself that you can do hard things and that you can trust yourself.
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And most people oftentimes don't trust themselves, which is why they just bail so easy on their goals when things get hard.
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And so I just want to make sure that you feel heard and seen because I get it, you're busy, things are difficult, but I want you to tell yourself instead of just saying I'm too busy, the end, I want you to tell yourself I have lower capacity than what's required to succeed in this busy season, but that can be built.
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I possess the skills to do so, and there's help for me to learn how.
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That's the truth.
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And so it's not so much that I'm too busy is completely false.
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It's just such a bad story, it's lacking so much context.
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And so if you're if you're in a spot, you know, one of my clients where you find yourself telling yourself this all the time, I want you to remember something you've heard me say a lot.
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The words you describe an experience with become the experience.
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The words you use to describe an experience will become that experience first internally, and then you'll create that manifested outwardly 100%, 10 out of 10 times, every time.
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And so when you change the language you use with yourself, and I'm this crazy coach that I tell people, like, no, you have to say stuff out loud to yourself.
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If you have a nonsense thought, like, oh, I'm just too busy, or this has never worked for me, or I don't have time, or you know, any kind of like what I would call low-level cope excuse.
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As soon as you either identify yourself, whether that's you know through development or you're working with a coach or a mentor or a parent or anyone tells you something that makes sense, you hear it and you're like, Yeah, I know.
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You have to tell yourself out loud like a little kid.
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It's super embarrassing.
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I do this all the time.
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I sit on the edge of my bed and I'm like, Dylan, no, this is not this, it's this.
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Do you accept that?
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And I literally talk to myself out loud.
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And then I have to go, yes, Dylan, I accept it.
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And then I repeat it to myself.
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And guess what?
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The next time you have that stupid thought, there'll be this circuit.
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You've implanted a circuit.
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I call these inhibitory circuits.
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And that inhibitory circuit will pop up and remind you that you're just talking nonsense.
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And maybe you're just tired, maybe you're having a bad day, but it's not time to throw in the towel.
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Okay.
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And if you're not a client of mine and you want to work on this with some one on one help, just reach out.
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I'd love to help.
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Super good to see you.
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And remember, you're not too busy.
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Welcome back to the rebuild.
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I hope you're having an amazing day today.
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Thank you for being here.
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Today I want to walk you through something I'm very passionate about.
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So if I get a little loud, I get a little bit, you know, manic.
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It's because I'm really passionate about this.
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I've essentially studied it my whole life.
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And I want to talk about busyness.
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And so I kind of titled this busy versus unstructured.
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Okay.
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And there's a massive core problem around this because for years, whether it's working with clients one-to-one, whether it's being on the gym floor, doing group training, having a gym, owning supplement stores, talking to people about their health and fitness, doing keynotes and businesses with high-level executives, the one-to-one coaching, the podcasts, the interviews.
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I hear this term, I'm just so busy so often, and I'm going to be really real with everyone right now.
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I've studied time management and systems since I was a boy, like a very young boy.
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And if I was like everyone else in culture today, I would definitely label myself with autism.
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So imagine like this autistic creature obsessing about something.
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And if you ever listen to my stuff, when I obsess about something, I know quite a lot about it.
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Okay.
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And I'm I'm almost making like a caveat around this because this one is probably going to trigger some folks.
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And I don't mean to.
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I'm coming at this with love and grace, but I want the truth pill to be swallowed.
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Number one, you are not too busy to look after your health.
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You just don't know what you're doing, and you have very low capacity and you do not know how to structure things.
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I've gotten to talk to a few in my life, and because we have the gracious thing of the internet, you can find all these things.
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I'm very interested in founders and the best athletes, and anyone who's achieved just monumental success in one area of their life.
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Most billionaires are scheduling their time to a seven-minute interval per day.
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Every seven minutes, there's a new micro meeting, there's a new task.
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And you know what all of them say?
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The number one thing that they try to focus on is their health because it's the one thing money can't buy.
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It's the one thing you can't get back when you lose.
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And when you have a bunch of problems, guess what?
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When you lose your health, you only have one.
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One problem.
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And so just a lot of the cope things that I might hear is like, I'm too busy to meal prep.
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Well, you're eating anyway.
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What do you mean?
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And if you weren't eating, you wouldn't have too much body fat.
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So that's nonsense.
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You're not too busy to meal prep.
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Maybe you don't know how.
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Maybe you're not a good cook.
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Maybe you're not prioritizing it or valuing it.
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Those are all things that can be true as to why they're not getting done.
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But just having such low-level excuses of like, I'm just busy.
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No, you're not.
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And I'm gonna be honest, most people I coach and or have coached in the past or have consulted with, their level of busyness could be like improved.
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I could add, if I taught them how to manage things, which is exactly what I try to do inside my coaching container, probably 20, 40 times the load.
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Like people's capac human beings are the most incredibly adaptive, like creatures.
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And human beings fascinate me.
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That's part of why I loved coaching, right?
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And so I'll ask someone like, oh, are we time blocking?
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What does that mean?
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Hmm, do you have any calendar blocks?
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Are we having weekly planning?
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Are we allowing small interruptions through our phone all day long?
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Just dopamine cycling, task switching.
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How many hours are we spending on our phone as far as you know, screen time?
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What's the Netflix log time?
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Listen, if things don't get scheduled and structured, and even me, even as much as I go hard for my clients, I try to run my business, I try to really take uh a very hearty look at responsibility.
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When I'm gonna schedule my training, when I'm scheduling these very uh podcasts right now, because my clients get a lot of value from this, and it's very important to me to add value to them.
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I wrote it on the calendar this morning that I was gonna come and do this.
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There was already four things that came up where I could have said, just ah, I'm too busy.
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But guess what?
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That's in there now, and everything else gets layered on top of that.
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And sometimes, of course, we're adults, we have to flip things, things will take of higher priority, which is why I'm too busy is usually a translation for I'm not valuing this enough.
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Excuse me.
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And so when you don't value something, you're not gonna prioritize it.
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And then I know there's always this knee-jerk reaction of like, no, no, I'm prioritizing it.
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And I'm like, well, okay, well, how are you doing that?
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It's like, well, I've hired you as a coach, or I've hired another coach, or I've I've done this thing.
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And I'm like, okay, that's that's suppositioning the act of spending money into thinking that that's doing the thing.
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Right.
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I've worked with tons of people who have paid me uh and over the years, and I'm very lucky that I see a lot less of this than what's in the marketplace.
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Just someone comes and pays for three months, six months, a year, and changes absolutely nothing.
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It's it's a lot of people like hiring a coach or starting a program or doing 75 hard because they like going to the lunchroom at work and saying, Oh, I'm doing 75 hard.
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Oh, yeah.
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It's like, okay, well, what about after 75?
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What about what what was happening before that we need a uh a 75 hard days or whatever it is, right?
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So you can see where I'm going with this.
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And again, I don't want to be combative on this because I also, and now I want to kind of make a bipolar point.
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I also don't believe that everyone has the same 24 hours in a day.
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And I also don't believe that a single mom with three kids has the same life as a 20-year-old who's going to university.
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No shot.
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And those 20-year-olds will also also all always say that they're way too busy.
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And I just tell them, listen, you just have no frame or reference of reality because you're not in it yet.
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This is actually the easiest time in your life.
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It feels like it's not, but adding kids, adding a career, adding a divorce, adding uh opening businesses, adding losing your parents, like go down the list as we age.
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And anyone who's you know 35, 40, 50 plus is just shaking their head right now, going, like, yeah, honestly, I thought it was hard then too, as did I.
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It's not.
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You get more competent, you get more seasoned, you you get more calm with dealing with problems usually, but life doesn't get quote unquote easier.
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And it usually comes in seasons.
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You guys have heard me talk about seasons a lot, but that doesn't mean that we throw the baby out with the bathwater.
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This is where people need to learn to reduce the scope, right?
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So I've gone through a crazy couple years and I'm just coming out the other side of it, specifically 2025.
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2025, I was doing my best to get in three really good sessions a week uh in the gym.
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Let's use an as an example.
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Well, to me, and to many people, that's all that they ever need, probably.
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But to me, because I've been used to training four or five days a week for 15 years, that felt like failing.
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And it would have been really easy for me to go, well, I'm just stressed out, I'm depressed, I'm exiting these businesses, I have this ex-wife problem, yada yada yada.
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I could have told myself that story and just kind of stopped going.
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But I went, no, what can we reduce the scope to?
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What can I actually do?
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What could I do?
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What should I do?
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And then most importantly, what would I do?
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It's like, okay, well, I think I could do that.
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And I reduced the scope for a while.
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And guess what?
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Now the seasons are changing, and it's like I'm back in the gym feeling much better, especially these last couple months, and I've worked my way up to four days a week, and this is my first week again hitting five days.
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Well, if you look at an entire year, imagine what happened or would have happened or wouldn't have happened, I guess, over the year.
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If I just went, well, I'm busy right now, and uh I guess I don't have time to train.
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What do you think the difference would be from training most of the year three days a week to zero after that year is aggregated?
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Huge difference in progress, performance, how I feel about myself.
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And this is where you teach yourself that you are responsible.
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This is where you teach yourself that you are reliable, and you teach yourself that you can do hard things and that you can trust yourself.
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And most people oftentimes don't trust themselves, which is why they just bail so easy on their goals when things get hard.
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And so I just want to make sure that you feel heard and seen because I get it, you're busy, things are difficult, but I want you to tell yourself instead of just saying I'm too busy, the end, I want you to tell yourself I have lower capacity than what's required to succeed in this busy season, but that can be built.
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I possess the skills to do so, and there's help for me to learn how.
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That's the truth.
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And so it's not so much that I'm too busy is completely false.
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It's just such a bad story, it's lacking so much context.
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And so if you're if you're in a spot, you know, one of my clients where you find yourself telling yourself this all the time, I want you to remember something you've heard me say a lot.
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The words you describe an experience with become the experience.
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The words you use to describe an experience will become that experience first internally, and then you'll create that manifested outwardly 100%, 10 out of 10 times, every time.
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And so when you change the language you use with yourself, and I'm this crazy coach that I tell people, like, no, you have to say stuff out loud to yourself.
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If you have a nonsense thought, like, oh, I'm just too busy, or this has never worked for me, or I don't have time, or you know, any kind of like what I would call low-level cope excuse.
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As soon as you either identify yourself, whether that's you know through development or you're working with a coach or a mentor or a parent or anyone tells you something that makes sense, you hear it and you're like, Yeah, I know.
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You have to tell yourself out loud like a little kid.
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It's super embarrassing.
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I do this all the time.
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I sit on the edge of my bed and I'm like, Dylan, no, this is not this, it's this.
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Do you accept that?
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And I literally talk to myself out loud.
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And then I have to go, yes, Dylan, I accept it.
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And then I repeat it to myself.
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And guess what?
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The next time you have that stupid thought, there'll be this circuit.
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You've implanted a circuit.
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I call these inhibitory circuits.
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And that inhibitory circuit will pop up and remind you that you're just talking nonsense.
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And maybe you're just tired, maybe you're having a bad day, but it's not time to throw in the towel.
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Okay.
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And if you're not a client of mine and you want to work on this with some one on one help, just reach out.
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I'd love to help.
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Super good to see you.
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And remember, you're not too busy.
