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Welcome to the fit and faith podcast
fit is an acronym representing founders,
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innovators, and trailblazers who
are looking to live a life who fully
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authentically and truly fit a space for
us to connect on the raw real stories
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of mind, body, and soul alignment of
entrepreneurs and kingdom leaders.
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I'm your host, Tamara Andre,
and this podcast, isn't like the
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cookie cutter interview experience.
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I've been coined the
entrepreneurial rabbi.
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And so we do go there unscripted,
no matter how far wide,
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deep or high the, there is.
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My desire is to see people rise
from the inside, out, into their
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greatest calling, by sharing their
truest stories, talents and tips as a
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purpose activator and brand builder.
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I believe our successes and
failures are derived from.
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And whose we are not what we do,
but strategy and vision are equally
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as important to the mission.
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So let's cut to the chase
together and get fit in faith.
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My person was Lauren is Lauren.
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I've had Lauren as my
avatar for five years.
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And it's not my best friend
Lauren, but actually someone I
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curated Lauren had some infusing.
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And so that's why I use somebody that I
know rather than just like fictitiously,
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creating this person as well.
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Um, one of the coolest ways that I
have implemented that, and I have my
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partners, I call my clients' partners,
cuz there's no hierarchy in coaching.
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It's, it's a, it's a
give and take experience.
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Uh, but they do it via P.
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So here we are in clubhouse.
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I know a lot of you guys
are on Instagram and TikTok.
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Uh, maybe LinkedIn, but I have
them go over to Pinterest and
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they create a secret board.
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And when they make a secret board,
they start adding in actually what they
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visualize or what they might dream up.
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That person would like to dos.
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See where, how they, um,
act what they're reading.
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Maybe it's even inspirational quotes
that they would draw from, um, that help
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to develop this person in all of their
humanity, rather than just maybe what
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they look like or what their titles are.
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Cuz I think that there's so much
more about and the emotional
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realm of someone, rather than to
just say that they're a mom or.
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Entrepreneur or they're
into fitness, right?
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There's multiple layers
to who we are as a human.
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And so I love to make it visual.
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And it's also an amazing element when
you are building something new, uh,
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to bring up that Pinterest board and
have your team in on this conversation
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to be like, is this being met?
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Has this person actually journeyed down
this, do the copy associated to who we're
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trying to talk to actually meet them?
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Or is it something we think is a good idea
because often we'll develop things and
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we know what it means, but Lauren doesn't
and we know what, what the outcome is
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gonna be, but Lauren doesn't get that.
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And so we have to not dumb it down
because Lauren is really brilliant.
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She's very smart and eager to learn, but
you have to get it into their language.
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And so again, when you're creating
content, when you're writing a video
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or you're writing, um, Sales page or
you're making a video sales letter
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or you're even just on social media.
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Like I am right now.
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I wanna make sure what I'm saying
matches the person that I want
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to integrate and partner with.
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And so I love that we talk about
this and just take that next
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step and create it as a board.
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And then when you hire social
media manager, which we just
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hired a new one onto the.
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To coexist with Morgan, our designer,
uh, she now has access to this board
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and she now can talk like Lauren
talks rather than talk like Tamara
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talks cuz there's differences in that.
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Especially coaching Tamara versus
preacher, Tamara versus whoever it
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is that you're interacting with mama.
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Right.
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So many different realms to me, I love
that Ashley said that there was multitude
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of avatars and a lot of times people
will be like, no, you need a niche down.
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You need to also have one avatar.
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That's.
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For us simply not true.
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So I talked this morning in here
about the element of different revenue
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streams, and we wanna really, and I
think I might start changing it from
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different revenue streams to different
profitability streams, because.
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Profit is more important than revenue.
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And I love that Nate said it in
association to how many followers
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you have, because a lot of people
think profitability only comes
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when you have a ton of followers
and that's simply not the case.
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And how much easier does it feel?
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How much more.
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Accessible and attainable.
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Does it feel to be able to know that
you can touch 30 people this week
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and you could have in the next four
weeks, an entire program filled?
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I wanna talk to 30 people.
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I do not wanna talk to 300,000 people.
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That feels really hard and exhausting
and like a huge energy pool.
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Now God blessed me with an
amazing community on Instagram.
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And when I get to speak
in person at conferences,
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however many people are there.
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No different than this room.
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There's 93 of you here.
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Now this room last year,
would've had 493 people in it.
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Does that make it less valuable?
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No.
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If anything, it makes it more intimate.
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And I found, especially through
my relationship with the Lord,
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intimacy is way more impactful
than element of how many people,
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how many chairs are in that space.
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So let's get into the, what
I wanted to talk about today.
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which will fuel from everything
you guys were sharing.
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I hope that that alone is an action
step that you take start your secret
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Pinterest board, share it with
the people that were on your team.
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Share it with the people who are
co visionaries with you, who are
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partnering with you for something.
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Maybe when you're doing a partnership,
you do a blended secret board.
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Who are we talking to?
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How is this different than Lauren?
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Maybe the person is now a male because
you're doing something alongside
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Tony or Dean Graziosi, and they
have a, a different audience, right?
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Maybe I'm doing it alongside Nate.
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Forest.
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And we're doing something for someone
different in the marketing spectrum.
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Everyone has a different avatar
and you can actually have
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multiple and still speak to them.
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Well, uh, it's just a matter of how you're
doing it and when you're doing it and
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how you show up in that consistently,
they know you based on how you show up.
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So to speak to that, if you guys
go to my most recent reel on, I.
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I posted about sea turtles and I know
Marcus was gonna be in the house and
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he's had his own revelation on the
similar experience that I just had to
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got the opportunity to have in Porto
Escondido with a sea turtle releasing.
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And I literally am gonna go line by
line from the copy of this real in
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order to speak into it from a lens
of social media, as well as from
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the lens as both the entrepreneur.
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The leader, the visionary, the
dreamer, and that's truly who we are
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so fit in faith, which you'll see
the link at the top fit sounds for
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founders, innovators, and trailblazers.
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And I don't believe whether
you're you consider yourself.
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Self-employed if you're never gonna be
an entrepreneur, you are an innovator.
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You are created by a creator and therefore
you have that nature inside of you.
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And that's why we dream.
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That's why we think, Ooh, if
we look at this wall, how could
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we position these pictures?
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D.
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What color would look good here,
something so simplistic to how I'm
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going to rearrange a flower bed or
something more magnificent on how
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I'm going to design this event.
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Right?
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The fit and faith, um, event
that's being sponsored is grow
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your business for God's sake.
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That's what Nate was talking about before.
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And I know lots of the people here
are going to be in person to hug next.
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Just energized together and
to get educated together.
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Um, and that's really, my passion is
to help people see that businesses,
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ministry and ministry is business.
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So how does a sea turtle
connect to all or any of that?
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And I'm also gonna maybe get a little
emotional in this because, uh, you can
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hear my joy filled emotion, but as, as
I was writing this specific concept,
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I was really focused on the lens of a.
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, I was really focused on the
lens of pain and the lens of
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hardship associated to activation.
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And that's because of some personal
things that we're walking through
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to support some people that we love.
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And it's been a consistent
theme in my life.
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And for those that don't know, my
husband and I have been, um, sober
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living without alcohol for the.
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Three years, a little over
three years at this point.
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And it's been because of situations
that are unfolding right now, but also
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because of personal preference towards
how we decide to show up in the world
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and why, if I'm referring to the sea
turtle experience and as you see,
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why would I create my own inability?
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Why do we choose to create our
own roadblocks when it's already
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guaranteed, there's gonna be
natural roadblocks in the.
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There's gonna be roadblocks
that just happen.
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There's gonna be unfortunate
events that transpire.
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There's gonna be people
that get in your way.
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There are going to be hardships that
come along that you didn't expect.
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But I feel from a perspective of learning
and even a perspective of your social
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media feed, why would we allow things
in our line of sight, in our ears?
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What are you listening to?
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Even what you're eating to affect a
prosperous life to affect your mission.
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Because I think we think through
self-made experiences and being a, a
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leader or an entrepreneur, it feels
very self made, but we're not self
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made solely were manmade because of
all the people around us and were also
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God designed, orchestrated and sustain.
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And so one of the first things that I
talked about in this was the difference
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of nature and the spiritual truth and the
realization of what's transpiring nature
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versus nurture on a consistent basis.
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So when you think through your avatar
and you're thinking through the nature
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in which they exist, where do they live?
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What does that look like?
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What conversations are they having?
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How does what you're sharing impact them?
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Nurture on the emotional
level of where they've been.
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It's not necessarily where they are
right now that you're talking to.
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It's where they've been and how
you're connected to that past,
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and also where they hope to go.
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So there are truths in their actual
location, and then they're the
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spiritual truths of who they are.
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And that's where I
believe the blending of.
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allows us to be fully free in what our
copy is and who we show up as I would
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feel very stagnant if I was only speaking
to one realm of a person on a consistent
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basis over and over and over again.
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So while I might give business tips,
I also want them to know that as a, an
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entrepreneur, as a Christian business
leader or coach their personhood.
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Their humanity, their emotional
stability, their mental health is
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more important to me in the long term
because they're impacting people.
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And we've heard before that
hurt people, hurt people.
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And I want aligned people to align people.
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Healing is a journey of that.
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So intrinsic to extrinsic
rewards, this is how you would
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literally develop even a sales.
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and you're thinking, how is she talking
about sea turtle, releasing business,
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coaching addiction, personal wellbeing,
emotional wellbeing, all at the same time.
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Aren't we miracles?
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Aren't we multifaceted.
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I love who you are individually.
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And that in this very moment,
you're likely doing a lot of
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other things besides just listen.
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the fact that you're even breathing to
me is proof that there is an intrinsic
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and extrinsic reward to your presence.
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So you talk about video sales letters.
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You talk about copy when you're putting
it out into social media, are you helping
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them understand how they're going to
feel the vibrancy of their emotion
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and their life as well as a tangible
cuz a lot of people feeling in touch
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being an element of our five sense.
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They want something tangible at the end.
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And I see this so often in the coaching
realm, and I know it was said earlier,
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even by bill Houser this morning in,
in breakfast with champions who, if you
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guys don't ever listen to his segments,
I highly encourage you to get your
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workout in during his energetic sessions.
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There's six 30 to seven
30, uh, on Wednesdays.
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And I go at eight.
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So I'm always like super ramped
up after I hear him speak.
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But I, I tell you that because he said.
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Specific element this morning
on intrinsic versus extrinsic
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reward is that we're all coaches.
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Whether you call yourself a coach or
not, you're teaching, you're showing up.
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Even your action of living and
breathing is coaching someone else.
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Everything in life is caught not taught.
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And so people around you
are catching your habits.
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People are around, you
are catching your emotion.
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It's why when you go into
a room and you're like, oh,
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the energy in here is so low.
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you've caught something that
someone else is carrying.
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And so these sweet, tiny newborn turtles
that were just a couple hours old.
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Now we had the opportunity of
watching their, their first
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steps essentially in life.
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Have you ever watched a baby
first crawl or a baby first walk?
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There's a lot going on
intrinsically and extrinsic.
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and this isn't probably like the thing
to brag about, but in order to get
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my child to crawl, I actually put a
phone across the room that had this.
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It was like a baby, uh, Einstein's app.
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And it was basically, it looked
like kind of trippy, honestly, now
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that I think about it, it was like
this black and really colorful.
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Imagine that color in me, uh, kinda
like stargazing experience and it would
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make all these crazy sounds and he
really loved it whenever I turned it
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on his little feet and arms would kick.
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And so I put it far enough outta
reach that he was gonna have
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to belly crawl to go get it.
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There was an extrinsic reward,
but intrinsically he was fighting.
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intrinsically, he was excited.
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Intrinsically he had a desire and a.
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And how the turtle knows that
they want to go in the ocean when
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they weren't born in the ocean.
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And they're, you know, a couple yards
away that feels impossible to get to.
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I don't know, but it's probably
the same way as the Monarch
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butterfly that travels from Canada
all the way to Mexico every year.
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And when an entire generation is, is
not there anymore, the new baby wakes up
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and knows exactly which direction to go.
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How can someone not know that God.
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He's intrinsically in
every single one of us.
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And so I would encourage you from your
copy, from the thing that you're selling
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from the way that you're showing up to
serve that there is a, both an intrinsic
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and extrinsic reward and you speak to it.
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The next one is the reality
of the fight flight or freeze.
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So these sweet little turtles, and
this is comparative to you as well.
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They came into contact with two
predators, literally within the
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first minutes of their, their.
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As they're going on this short
journey, it's not that far short
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journey that I know felt really,
really long and cumbersome.
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And how many of you can raise your hand?
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As I mentioned through this element of
the trials and tribulations of being,
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uh, in an addict's relat relationship
close to them, him have experienced
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what it feels like to have an enemy
and what your trigger response is.
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And I talked about this at EYA.
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You can either.
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and that's the natural tendency to
get angry or yell or spit fireworks,
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or maybe physically you can flight.
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You can, you can run away from
the situation or you can freeze.
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So they couldn't fight really
because they're so tiny.
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But when it came to the crab
predator, they would like
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flip, flip their little thin.
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and the crab would run away because
it was, it was more freaked out by
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the turtle than it was interested.
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At first it was curiosity that got
in its way, curiosity killed the cat.
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Right.
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And then it went from that to,
ah, I thing actually moves.
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I can't eat it after all it's
bigger than I thought it was.
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And then there was the predator of the.
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And the birds that were up above
swirling, trying to come down.
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And luckily we were able to throw sand
at both the crabs and the birds when
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they came down to attack our little
babies that we had just released,
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but we couldn't do anything about
the turtle when it entered the water.
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It's next element of life.
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It's next extrinsic environment.
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It's next.
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and I want you so desperately to
understand that this is in direct
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parallel to you as a human right now.
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What are your predators and what
is your triggered response maybe
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freezing, which is what you've been
doing is inhibiting you from activat.
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is, is inhibiting you from getting to
your safety zone is getting you, um,
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from a place of, of idealized dreams
to recognize dreams to prosperity.
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And that's where the
next one comes into play.
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It's the necessity of encouragement.
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Maybe your social media as a whole is
just there to encourage other people.
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do you know how many social medias
have started based on giving out ideas?
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And they had no idea that it was
gonna turn into a, a business.
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They didn't even know that they
were gonna be an entrepreneur simply
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because of the natural tendency
to teach coach and encourage.
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And so here, me and Gary are behind the
line of where we released our little
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turtles and we're like, go buddy.
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We're so proud of you.
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They can't probably hear us
or they can hear us, but they
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don't know what we're saying.
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They don't even know how to speak
English, but didn't, I do the
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same thing for my little guy.
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When he was going to grab that
phone for the first time he was
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crawling, he could sense my energy.
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He could feel my emotion.
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He heard my words.
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He saw my clapping and
eventually he emulated it.
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Eventually when everyone was
cheering on the side of the shore,
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the little turtle made it, made it
to the first part of its journey.
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to try something new to find its mama.
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I don't even know if they do that,
but that was what my heart was.
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I'm like, oh, yay.
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They're together again.
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And then in beyond encouragement, it's
the fearlessness of being a leader.
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I was shocked by how fearless
these tiny little babies were.
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I'm shocked by how fearless you are.
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I'm shocked that in spite of
all of these things that I just
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mentioned, you're still showing.
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to grow, to learn, to serve, to
give, to design, to create to hope.
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As I told you, I was
speaking to a loved one.
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Who's really going through
it right now yesterday.
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And this was my reflection, journaling.
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And why people, when they asked
me, how do you find energy to do
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social media every single day?
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How do you do a real, every.
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I look to my life.
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I look to my emotions.
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I look to the people
who teach me every day.
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I listen and I look to the movie of my
life, which is in my hand all the time.
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You all have your own movie in your
hand, all the time based on photo and
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video journalism that happens out of
life today is what we do with our phones.
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Whether it's a selfie, whether you're
videoing something that's happening.
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it's in your hand and if you're not
posting, if you're not doing that
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thing, then you're not doing what I
believe is a part of the call, right.
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Is sharing our testimony.
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So he was talking to me and he said, I
wouldn't be here if it wasn't for hope.
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And then I had an opportunity to talk
to another loved one who was already
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on the other side of addiction.
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And I asked him the question,
what's the one thing.
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That that got you to this place?
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Like, what was it, what was the
one thing that somebody said or
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did, or didn't say or didn't do,
and it wasn't about the extrinsic.
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It wasn't about the encouragement.
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It was about their activation of being
fearless and the knowing that they had.
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So when we all go towards this path
of least resistance as a desire
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for development, when it comes to
entrepreneurship or leadership or
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social media, we want all the followers.
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And yet there's no real
path of least resistance.
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Even as I watched these little
turtles and I looked left to
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right, like, don't go that way.
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They're gonna fall on the hole.
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Don't go that way.
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You're gonna go to the crab.
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there was no least resistance, no
matter what direction they went.
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So when you look to someone, especially
someone who you see as a leader or
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somebody who's ahead of you perhaps, or
somebody who you want to hire, even as a
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coach, like you can with our company, as
a team, that's gonna support you alongside
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you in the development of your dream.
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You need to realize that they
got there the same way you did.
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There's no magic.
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There's no spell.
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blueprints are created in the being,
and that's what you're investing in.
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I could only imagine if the turtle
could see far enough in sight that like
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he would've gone the same way as his
little brother or sister, rather than
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direction of his own, his own path.
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But no matter what blueprint somebody
gives you, you've already been on your
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own journey and you have so many elements
to yourself that will never be like
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anyone, no matter what coach you invest.
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. And so it's super important
for you to realize that you
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yourself are a fearless leader.
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I want you to anticipate the roadblocks
and the momentary failures, because they
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will happen no matter what, no matter what
or who you're following, they will happen.
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It's guaranteed.
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It's biblical.
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The sharks will exist even
past the crabs and the.
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Something else is gonna get in your way.
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So that's where that triggering
into faith versus fear is so
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powerful and so important.
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You have to know the stats.
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What are the stats of,
of sea turtle, survival?
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Not all those babies are gonna make it.
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Not all those businesses are gonna
make it, but that doesn't mean
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that you can't be the exception.
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That doesn't mean that if you don't say.
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There's no chance of it
coming into fruition.
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So beat the odds, be the
other side of the statistic.
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Be the, the 1% be the 3% that actually
stays open after three to five
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years based on the knowing and being
comfortable in failures and roadblocks,
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those turtles did not stop fighting.
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They might have taken a longer
break than their brothers and.
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It might have needed to get some extra
gumption in, in a little bit more rest.
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They needed a refuel, they
made it, they made it.
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The next one is the emotional investment.
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And to know that it's not just
about your physical, it's not
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just about your mental, it's the
emotional awareness and intelligence
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connected to everything that you're.
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I was supposed to have a team meeting
yesterday and everybody got on and I
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went to go talk and, and talk business.
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And I had all of the agenda and I
knew exactly what I was gonna say.
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And I just started crying.
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And I know that in that moment, while
I wasn't there to be a more effective
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leader, I was just being human.
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That I became a better leader
because I became human.
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And that is what social
media ultimately is about.
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It's about being real.
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It's about showing up in spite of
how you feel show up because you
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feel that is the truth of humanity.
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That's how we connect.
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That's that's the God dream.
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That's the God call.
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That's the God prompting.
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You have so much fervor for whatever
it is he's gifted you to do.
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and maybe you don't know exactly how to
get there, but just like those little
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turtles, it was one little thin at a time.
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It was one little breath at a time.
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It was one little encouragement at a time.
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It was one more gumption at a time.
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It was one more space of gratitude.
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I've made it.
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This.
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it was one more recognition that
nothing's gonna keep me down.
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No matter if it's a crab or a
bird or a shark, God's got you.
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I've been in this space, both physical
and emotional with the intention to make
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an impact one at a time, one at a time.
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just like the people that I love,
just like I've had to do with my
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husband getting past the addictions.
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It's one day at a.
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I love you guys.
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Hey, y'all it's me again.
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Before you go, let's solidify the
flame that was ignited within you
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today by sharing the spark with your
own community, whether it's mentally,
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physically, emotionally, relationally,
or spiritually, I would love for you
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to take the step right now by declaring
your takeaway snap APIC of the episode
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and share it on your stories or.
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Send you can tag me and the guest and we
will surely feature you on our Instas.
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Hey, you might even unlock a new
accountability buddy in me or them.
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We're totally in this together.
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And we appreciate the extra step taken.
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I would be so grateful if
you even took the extras.
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Step, come on, give you that extra
sauce and leave a review on iTunes
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for the podcast listening app.
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That is of your choice.
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I'm going to be featuring your
thoughts in fact, and this gonna
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be so fun an upcoming episode.
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So you'll not only hear your name
on the show, but maybe even your
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passion project or whatever, big
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So please, as a fellow writer, leave
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Thanks again for being a loyal listener.
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until next time blessings over your
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This is the fit and faith way.
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Welcome to the fit and faith podcast
fit is an acronym representing founders,
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innovators, and trailblazers who
are looking to live a life who fully
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authentically and truly fit a space for
us to connect on the raw real stories
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of mind, body, and soul alignment of
entrepreneurs and kingdom leaders.
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I'm your host, Tamara Andre,
and this podcast, isn't like the
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cookie cutter interview experience.
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I've been coined the
entrepreneurial rabbi.
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And so we do go there unscripted,
no matter how far wide,
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deep or high the, there is.
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My desire is to see people rise
from the inside, out, into their
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greatest calling, by sharing their
truest stories, talents and tips as a
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purpose activator and brand builder.
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I believe our successes and
failures are derived from.
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And whose we are not what we do,
but strategy and vision are equally
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as important to the mission.
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So let's cut to the chase
together and get fit in faith.
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My person was Lauren is Lauren.
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I've had Lauren as my
avatar for five years.
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And it's not my best friend
Lauren, but actually someone I
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curated Lauren had some infusing.
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And so that's why I use somebody that I
know rather than just like fictitiously,
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creating this person as well.
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Um, one of the coolest ways that I
have implemented that, and I have my
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partners, I call my clients' partners,
cuz there's no hierarchy in coaching.
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It's, it's a, it's a
give and take experience.
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Uh, but they do it via P.
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So here we are in clubhouse.
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I know a lot of you guys
are on Instagram and TikTok.
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Uh, maybe LinkedIn, but I have
them go over to Pinterest and
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they create a secret board.
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And when they make a secret board,
they start adding in actually what they
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visualize or what they might dream up.
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That person would like to dos.
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See where, how they, um,
act what they're reading.
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Maybe it's even inspirational quotes
that they would draw from, um, that help
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to develop this person in all of their
humanity, rather than just maybe what
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they look like or what their titles are.
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Cuz I think that there's so much
more about and the emotional
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realm of someone, rather than to
just say that they're a mom or.
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Entrepreneur or they're
into fitness, right?
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There's multiple layers
to who we are as a human.
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And so I love to make it visual.
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And it's also an amazing element when
you are building something new, uh,
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to bring up that Pinterest board and
have your team in on this conversation
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to be like, is this being met?
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Has this person actually journeyed down
this, do the copy associated to who we're
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trying to talk to actually meet them?
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Or is it something we think is a good idea
because often we'll develop things and
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we know what it means, but Lauren doesn't
and we know what, what the outcome is
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gonna be, but Lauren doesn't get that.
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And so we have to not dumb it down
because Lauren is really brilliant.
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She's very smart and eager to learn, but
you have to get it into their language.
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And so again, when you're creating
content, when you're writing a video
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or you're writing, um, Sales page or
you're making a video sales letter
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or you're even just on social media.
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Like I am right now.
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I wanna make sure what I'm saying
matches the person that I want
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to integrate and partner with.
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this and just take that next
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step and create it as a board.
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And then when you hire social
media manager, which we just
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hired a new one onto the.
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To coexist with Morgan, our designer,
uh, she now has access to this board
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and she now can talk like Lauren
talks rather than talk like Tamara
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talks cuz there's differences in that.
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Especially coaching Tamara versus
preacher, Tamara versus whoever it
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is that you're interacting with mama.
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So many different realms to me, I love
that Ashley said that there was multitude
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of avatars and a lot of times people
will be like, no, you need a niche down.
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You need to also have one avatar.
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That's.
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For us simply not true.
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So I talked this morning in here
about the element of different revenue
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streams, and we wanna really, and I
think I might start changing it from
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different revenue streams to different
profitability streams, because.
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Profit is more important than revenue.
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And I love that Nate said it in
association to how many followers
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you have, because a lot of people
think profitability only comes
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when you have a ton of followers
and that's simply not the case.
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And how much easier does it feel?
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How much more.
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Accessible and attainable.
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Does it feel to be able to know that
you can touch 30 people this week
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and you could have in the next four
weeks, an entire program filled?
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I wanna talk to 30 people.
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I do not wanna talk to 300,000 people.
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That feels really hard and exhausting
and like a huge energy pool.
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Now God blessed me with an
amazing community on Instagram.
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in person at conferences,
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however many people are there.
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No different than this room.
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There's 93 of you here.
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Now this room last year,
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Does that make it less valuable?
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If anything, it makes it more intimate.
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my relationship with the Lord,
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intimacy is way more impactful
than element of how many people,
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how many chairs are in that space.
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So let's get into the, what
I wanted to talk about today.
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which will fuel from everything
you guys were sharing.
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I hope that that alone is an action
step that you take start your secret
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Pinterest board, share it with
the people that were on your team.
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Share it with the people who are
co visionaries with you, who are
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partnering with you for something.
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Maybe when you're doing a partnership,
you do a blended secret board.
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Who are we talking to?
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How is this different than Lauren?
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Maybe the person is now a male because
you're doing something alongside
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Tony or Dean Graziosi, and they
have a, a different audience, right?
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Maybe I'm doing it alongside Nate.
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Forest.
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And we're doing something for someone
different in the marketing spectrum.
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Everyone has a different avatar
and you can actually have
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multiple and still speak to them.
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Well, uh, it's just a matter of how you're
doing it and when you're doing it and
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how you show up in that consistently,
they know you based on how you show up.
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So to speak to that, if you guys
go to my most recent reel on, I.
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I posted about sea turtles and I know
Marcus was gonna be in the house and
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he's had his own revelation on the
similar experience that I just had to
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got the opportunity to have in Porto
Escondido with a sea turtle releasing.
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And I literally am gonna go line by
line from the copy of this real in
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order to speak into it from a lens
of social media, as well as from
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the lens as both the entrepreneur.
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The leader, the visionary, the
dreamer, and that's truly who we are
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so fit in faith, which you'll see
the link at the top fit sounds for
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founders, innovators, and trailblazers.
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And I don't believe whether
you're you consider yourself.
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Self-employed if you're never gonna be
an entrepreneur, you are an innovator.
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You are created by a creator and therefore
you have that nature inside of you.
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That's why we think, Ooh, if
we look at this wall, how could
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we position these pictures?
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D.
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What color would look good here,
something so simplistic to how I'm
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going to rearrange a flower bed or
something more magnificent on how
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I'm going to design this event.
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The fit and faith, um, event
that's being sponsored is grow
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your business for God's sake.
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That's what Nate was talking about before.
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And I know lots of the people here
are going to be in person to hug next.
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Just energized together and
to get educated together.
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Um, and that's really, my passion is
to help people see that businesses,
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ministry and ministry is business.
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So how does a sea turtle
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emotional in this because, uh, you can
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hear my joy filled emotion, but as, as
I was writing this specific concept,
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I was really focused on the lens of a.
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, I was really focused on the
lens of pain and the lens of
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hardship associated to activation.
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things that we're walking through
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to support some people that we love.
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theme in my life.
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And for those that don't know, my
husband and I have been, um, sober
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living without alcohol for the.
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Three years, a little over
three years at this point.
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that are unfolding right now, but also
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because of personal preference towards
how we decide to show up in the world
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and why, if I'm referring to the sea
turtle experience and as you see,
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why would I create my own inability?
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Why do we choose to create our
own roadblocks when it's already
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guaranteed, there's gonna be
natural roadblocks in the.
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There's gonna be roadblocks
that just happen.
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There's gonna be unfortunate
events that transpire.
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that get in your way.
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There are going to be hardships that
come along that you didn't expect.
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But I feel from a perspective of learning
and even a perspective of your social
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media feed, why would we allow things
in our line of sight, in our ears?
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What are you listening to?
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Even what you're eating to affect a
prosperous life to affect your mission.
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Because I think we think through
self-made experiences and being a, a
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leader or an entrepreneur, it feels
very self made, but we're not self
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made solely were manmade because of
all the people around us and were also
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God designed, orchestrated and sustain.
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talked about in this was the difference
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of nature and the spiritual truth and the
realization of what's transpiring nature
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versus nurture on a consistent basis.
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So when you think through your avatar
and you're thinking through the nature
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in which they exist, where do they live?
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What does that look like?
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What conversations are they having?
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How does what you're sharing impact them?
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Nurture on the emotional
level of where they've been.
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It's not necessarily where they are
right now that you're talking to.
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It's where they've been and how
you're connected to that past,
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and also where they hope to go.
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So there are truths in their actual
location, and then they're the
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spiritual truths of who they are.
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believe the blending of.
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allows us to be fully free in what our
copy is and who we show up as I would
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feel very stagnant if I was only speaking
to one realm of a person on a consistent
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basis over and over and over again.
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So while I might give business tips,
I also want them to know that as a, an
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entrepreneur, as a Christian business
leader or coach their personhood.
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Their humanity, their emotional
stability, their mental health is
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more important to me in the long term
because they're impacting people.
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And we've heard before that
hurt people, hurt people.
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Healing is a journey of that.
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So intrinsic to extrinsic
rewards, this is how you would
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literally develop even a sales.
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and you're thinking, how is she talking
about sea turtle, releasing business,
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coaching addiction, personal wellbeing,
emotional wellbeing, all at the same time.
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Aren't we miracles?
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Aren't we multifaceted.
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I love who you are individually.
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you're likely doing a lot of
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other things besides just listen.
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the fact that you're even breathing to
me is proof that there is an intrinsic
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and extrinsic reward to your presence.
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You talk about copy when you're putting
it out into social media, are you helping
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them understand how they're going to
feel the vibrancy of their emotion
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and their life as well as a tangible
cuz a lot of people feeling in touch
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being an element of our five sense.
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They want something tangible at the end.
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And I see this so often in the coaching
realm, and I know it was said earlier,
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even by bill Houser this morning in,
in breakfast with champions who, if you
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guys don't ever listen to his segments,
I highly encourage you to get your
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workout in during his energetic sessions.
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There's six 30 to seven
30, uh, on Wednesdays.
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And I go at eight.
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So I'm always like super ramped
up after I hear him speak.
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But I, I tell you that because he said.
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Specific element this morning
on intrinsic versus extrinsic
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reward is that we're all coaches.
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Whether you call yourself a coach or
not, you're teaching, you're showing up.
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Even your action of living and
breathing is coaching someone else.
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Everything in life is caught not taught.
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And so people around you
are catching your habits.
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People are around, you
are catching your emotion.
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It's why when you go into
a room and you're like, oh,
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the energy in here is so low.
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you've caught something that
someone else is carrying.
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And so these sweet, tiny newborn turtles
that were just a couple hours old.
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Now we had the opportunity of
watching their, their first
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steps essentially in life.
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Have you ever watched a baby
first crawl or a baby first walk?
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There's a lot going on
intrinsically and extrinsic.
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and this isn't probably like the thing
to brag about, but in order to get
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my child to crawl, I actually put a
phone across the room that had this.
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It was like a baby, uh, Einstein's app.
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And it was basically, it looked
like kind of trippy, honestly, now
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that I think about it, it was like
this black and really colorful.
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Imagine that color in me, uh, kinda
like stargazing experience and it would
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make all these crazy sounds and he
really loved it whenever I turned it
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on his little feet and arms would kick.
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And so I put it far enough outta
reach that he was gonna have
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to belly crawl to go get it.
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There was an extrinsic reward,
but intrinsically he was fighting.
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intrinsically, he was excited.
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Intrinsically he had a desire and a.
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And how the turtle knows that
they want to go in the ocean when
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they weren't born in the ocean.
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And they're, you know, a couple yards
away that feels impossible to get to.
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I don't know, but it's probably
the same way as the Monarch
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butterfly that travels from Canada
all the way to Mexico every year.
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And when an entire generation is, is
not there anymore, the new baby wakes up
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and knows exactly which direction to go.
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How can someone not know that God.
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He's intrinsically in
every single one of us.
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And so I would encourage you from your
copy, from the thing that you're selling
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from the way that you're showing up to
serve that there is a, both an intrinsic
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and extrinsic reward and you speak to it.
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The next one is the reality
of the fight flight or freeze.
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So these sweet little turtles, and
this is comparative to you as well.
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They came into contact with two
predators, literally within the
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first minutes of their, their.
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As they're going on this short
journey, it's not that far short
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journey that I know felt really,
really long and cumbersome.
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And how many of you can raise your hand?
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As I mentioned through this element of
the trials and tribulations of being,
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uh, in an addict's relat relationship
close to them, him have experienced
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what it feels like to have an enemy
and what your trigger response is.
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And I talked about this at EYA.
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You can either.
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and that's the natural tendency to
get angry or yell or spit fireworks,
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or maybe physically you can flight.
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You can, you can run away from
the situation or you can freeze.
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So they couldn't fight really
because they're so tiny.
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But when it came to the crab
predator, they would like
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flip, flip their little thin.
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and the crab would run away because
it was, it was more freaked out by
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the turtle than it was interested.
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At first it was curiosity that got
in its way, curiosity killed the cat.
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Right.
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And then it went from that to,
ah, I thing actually moves.
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I can't eat it after all it's
bigger than I thought it was.
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And then there was the predator of the.
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And the birds that were up above
swirling, trying to come down.
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And luckily we were able to throw sand
at both the crabs and the birds when
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they came down to attack our little
babies that we had just released,
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but we couldn't do anything about
the turtle when it entered the water.
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It's next element of life.
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It's next extrinsic environment.
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It's next.
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and I want you so desperately to
understand that this is in direct
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parallel to you as a human right now.
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What are your predators and what
is your triggered response maybe
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freezing, which is what you've been
doing is inhibiting you from activat.
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is, is inhibiting you from getting to
your safety zone is getting you, um,
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from a place of, of idealized dreams
to recognize dreams to prosperity.
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And that's where the
next one comes into play.
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It's the necessity of encouragement.
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Maybe your social media as a whole is
just there to encourage other people.
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do you know how many social medias
have started based on giving out ideas?
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And they had no idea that it was
gonna turn into a, a business.
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They didn't even know that they
were gonna be an entrepreneur simply
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because of the natural tendency
to teach coach and encourage.
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And so here, me and Gary are behind the
line of where we released our little
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turtles and we're like, go buddy.
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We're so proud of you.
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They can't probably hear us
or they can hear us, but they
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don't know what we're saying.
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They don't even know how to speak
English, but didn't, I do the
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same thing for my little guy.
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When he was going to grab that
phone for the first time he was
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crawling, he could sense my energy.
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He could feel my emotion.
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He heard my words.
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He saw my clapping and
eventually he emulated it.
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Eventually when everyone was
cheering on the side of the shore,
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the little turtle made it, made it
to the first part of its journey.
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to try something new to find its mama.
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I don't even know if they do that,
but that was what my heart was.
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I'm like, oh, yay.
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They're together again.
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And then in beyond encouragement, it's
the fearlessness of being a leader.
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I was shocked by how fearless
these tiny little babies were.
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I'm shocked by how fearless you are.
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I'm shocked that in spite of
all of these things that I just
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mentioned, you're still showing.
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to grow, to learn, to serve, to
give, to design, to create to hope.
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As I told you, I was
speaking to a loved one.
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Who's really going through
it right now yesterday.
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And this was my reflection, journaling.
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And why people, when they asked
me, how do you find energy to do
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social media every single day?
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How do you do a real, every.
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I look to my life.
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I look to my emotions.
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I look to the people
who teach me every day.
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I listen and I look to the movie of my
life, which is in my hand all the time.
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You all have your own movie in your
hand, all the time based on photo and
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video journalism that happens out of
life today is what we do with our phones.
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Whether it's a selfie, whether you're
videoing something that's happening.
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it's in your hand and if you're not
posting, if you're not doing that
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thing, then you're not doing what I
believe is a part of the call, right.
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Is sharing our testimony.
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So he was talking to me and he said, I
wouldn't be here if it wasn't for hope.
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And then I had an opportunity to talk
to another loved one who was already
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on the other side of addiction.
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And I asked him the question,
what's the one thing.
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That that got you to this place?
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Like, what was it, what was the
one thing that somebody said or
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did, or didn't say or didn't do,
and it wasn't about the extrinsic.
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It wasn't about the encouragement.
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It was about their activation of being
fearless and the knowing that they had.
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So when we all go towards this path
of least resistance as a desire
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for development, when it comes to
entrepreneurship or leadership or
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social media, we want all the followers.
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And yet there's no real
path of least resistance.
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Even as I watched these little
turtles and I looked left to
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right, like, don't go that way.
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They're gonna fall on the hole.
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Don't go that way.
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You're gonna go to the crab.
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there was no least resistance, no
matter what direction they went.
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So when you look to someone, especially
someone who you see as a leader or
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somebody who's ahead of you perhaps, or
somebody who you want to hire, even as a
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coach, like you can with our company, as
a team, that's gonna support you alongside
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you in the development of your dream.
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You need to realize that they
got there the same way you did.
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There's no magic.
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There's no spell.
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blueprints are created in the being,
and that's what you're investing in.
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I could only imagine if the turtle
could see far enough in sight that like
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he would've gone the same way as his
little brother or sister, rather than
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direction of his own, his own path.
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But no matter what blueprint somebody
gives you, you've already been on your
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own journey and you have so many elements
to yourself that will never be like
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anyone, no matter what coach you invest.
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. And so it's super important
for you to realize that you
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yourself are a fearless leader.
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I want you to anticipate the roadblocks
and the momentary failures, because they
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will happen no matter what, no matter what
or who you're following, they will happen.
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It's guaranteed.
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It's biblical.
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The sharks will exist even
past the crabs and the.
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Something else is gonna get in your way.
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So that's where that triggering
into faith versus fear is so
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powerful and so important.
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You have to know the stats.
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What are the stats of,
of sea turtle, survival?
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Not all those babies are gonna make it.
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Not all those businesses are gonna
make it, but that doesn't mean
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that you can't be the exception.
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That doesn't mean that if you don't say.
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There's no chance of it
coming into fruition.
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So beat the odds, be the
other side of the statistic.
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Be the, the 1% be the 3% that actually
stays open after three to five
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years based on the knowing and being
comfortable in failures and roadblocks,
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those turtles did not stop fighting.
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They might have taken a longer
break than their brothers and.
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It might have needed to get some extra
gumption in, in a little bit more rest.
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They needed a refuel, they
made it, they made it.
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The next one is the emotional investment.
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And to know that it's not just
about your physical, it's not
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just about your mental, it's the
emotional awareness and intelligence
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connected to everything that you're.
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I was supposed to have a team meeting
yesterday and everybody got on and I
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went to go talk and, and talk business.
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And I had all of the agenda and I
knew exactly what I was gonna say.
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And I just started crying.
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And I know that in that moment, while
I wasn't there to be a more effective
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leader, I was just being human.
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That I became a better leader
because I became human.
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And that is what social
media ultimately is about.
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It's about being real.
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It's about showing up in spite of
how you feel show up because you
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feel that is the truth of humanity.
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That's how we connect.
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That's that's the God dream.
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That's the God call.
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That's the God prompting.
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You have so much fervor for whatever
it is he's gifted you to do.
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and maybe you don't know exactly how to
get there, but just like those little
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turtles, it was one little thin at a time.
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It was one little breath at a time.
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It was one little encouragement at a time.
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It was one more gumption at a time.
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It was one more space of gratitude.
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I've made it.
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This.
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it was one more recognition that
nothing's gonna keep me down.
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No matter if it's a crab or a
bird or a shark, God's got you.
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I've been in this space, both physical
and emotional with the intention to make
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an impact one at a time, one at a time.
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just like the people that I love,
just like I've had to do with my
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husband getting past the addictions.
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It's one day at a.
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I love you guys.
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Hey, y'all it's me again.
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Before you go, let's solidify the
flame that was ignited within you
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today by sharing the spark with your
own community, whether it's mentally,
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physically, emotionally, relationally,
or spiritually, I would love for you
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to take the step right now by declaring
your takeaway snap APIC of the episode
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and share it on your stories or.
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Send you can tag me and the guest and we
will surely feature you on our Instas.
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Hey, you might even unlock a new
accountability buddy in me or them.
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We're totally in this together.
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And we appreciate the extra step taken.
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I would be so grateful if
you even took the extras.
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Step, come on, give you that extra
sauce and leave a review on iTunes
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for the podcast listening app.
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That is of your choice.
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I'm going to be featuring your
thoughts in fact, and this gonna
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be so fun an upcoming episode.
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So you'll not only hear your name
on the show, but maybe even your
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passion project or whatever, big
shout out you want me to make.
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So please, as a fellow writer, leave
some words that I can attest to.
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And I can't wait to read
what you have to say.
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Thanks again for being a loyal listener.
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And I hope to meet you in person
soon at one of the events that.
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Speaking at or hosting.
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And I say we, because the fit and faith
team could not do this without you
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until next time blessings over your
joy, health, wealth, and wholeness.
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This is the fit and faith way.
