ÜBER DIESE EPISODE
Episode Summary:
In this conversation, we explore what it really means to understand IFS as a relational therapy. Alyce and I discuss how attention itself is relational, how Self-energy becomes an internal secure base. Everything happening inside our system shapes how we show up in our external relationships.
We talk about titrating small changes, noticing shifts in Self-energy, and reframing “triggers” as trailheads into deeper awareness and healing. This episode invites you to see IFS not simply as a model of parts, but as a pathway toward secure internal attachment and relational integration with ourselves and others.
If you’re interested in how IFS and attachment theory deepen trauma work and everyday relationships, this episode offers both clinical clarity and practical insight.
Topics Discussed:
How attention itself is relational
Why IFS is fundamentally a relational therapy
Noticing and strengthening Self-energy
Reframing triggers as trailheads
Titrating small shifts instead of forcing change
How internal relationships shape external ones
Gently leading and creating boundaries with our children
About Our Guest:
Alyce Messer, LCSW-S, is an EMDRIA-Approved Consultant and IFS Level 2-trained therapist specializing in complex trauma and therapist wellness. She integrates EMDR and IFS to help clinicians and clients cultivate differentiation, Self-leadership, and healing through secure internal attachment.
At its core, this conversation is about how the core of healing is really cultivating relationship, both with ourselves and others.
