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00:00:22.320I had to get it out real quick.
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00:00:25.600But Jean leading us tonight.
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00:00:32.799Our um our anonymous um callers is leading us tonight.
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00:00:42.960So let's address that story.
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00:00:50.880Crystal gonna let y'all in on what was our little anonymous story.
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00:01:03.520So if you got a little story to tell that you don't want your name on it, you can send it to us anonymous and we will read it and talk about it secretly.
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00:01:06.799All right, so I'm gonna read the story.
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00:01:25.200Yeah, you can call in live, or you can make it anonymous.
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00:01:36.640When they message us, is that now we won't know unless you put your name on it.
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00:01:39.920Yeah, but it don't even ask those questions.
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00:01:52.799I have a friend that had a child in her early 20s.
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00:02:05.200Okay, years go by, and she started noticing her child wasn't looking like the actual boyfriend.
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00:02:14.800The child started favoring the guy she actually cheated with, but she wasn't sure because it was just a one or two-time fling um for meeting each other off social media.
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00:02:23.199Come find out, the guy she cheated with was her friend once again on a different social site.
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00:02:31.039The child is grown now, and the guy she cheated with is also grown.
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00:02:35.280But at that time, he lied to her about his age when they met.
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00:02:43.439She feels bad because she doesn't like weirdos and pedophiles, but at the same time, he was 15 or 16 when she was in her mid-20s.
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00:02:48.240She was in her mid-20s, lock her ups.
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00:02:51.599That's what I said.
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00:02:55.120She was in her mid-20s.
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00:02:56.479Look at y'all, Besbi.
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00:02:58.400Lock her up immediately.
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00:03:01.039Sorry, because you had the same expression I had.
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00:03:01.919I was like, ooh.
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00:03:07.039Okay, so yes, he was 15 or 16 and she was in her mid-20s at the time of having her child.
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00:03:11.120So she thinks he kind of knows that he has her older child.
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00:03:15.919But my friend believes he's been knowing this for a long time, but she didn't know.
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00:03:25.680So she told her child that she believes her real father is this well-known celebrity, but she don't know how to approach the situation now that the child has already grown, grown.
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00:03:32.479She's hurting and feeling really bad now because all of this time my friend was struggling and she could have had help.
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00:03:39.360But how can I help her get to this guy for DNA and settle this for her child, for her child?
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00:03:45.280Um, her child missed out on this guy who's just might be her real father without him being upset.
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00:03:53.039The child hating her when it was just a childish mistake that she regrets wholeheartedly because it wasn't meant to be purposely done.
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00:03:57.680It was an accident that happened, but she loves her child deeply, but she can't change the past.
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00:04:02.319But she wants to make things better for her child because they have been through a lot.
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00:04:04.080Mom wants to make this better.
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00:04:05.680What should she do?
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00:04:13.360Y'all sitting here looking crazy.
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00:04:17.279Because the first thing is, why do them being a celebrity matter?
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00:04:18.720That was my first question.
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00:04:24.000That's why she said, How does she get to this person?
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00:04:25.600But they still friends on social media.
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00:04:29.360She did say that.
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00:04:30.879What if that means they just follow each other?
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00:04:35.439You know, you can be friends with somebody and then they be they blow up and they just still friends.
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00:04:36.959They nobody go back and unfriend you.
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00:04:38.560They could have been friends the whole time, my baby.
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00:04:42.160But but at the same time, they know he they slept together.
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00:04:42.639Oh, that's right.
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00:04:43.839This is our 62nd verdict.
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00:04:47.360So, Gian, what's your advice for this lady who sent this message in?
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00:04:50.639You can't be lying to me, kids.
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00:04:52.800No, I mean, she didn't lie though.
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00:04:55.040I mean, I don't know.
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00:05:01.120I I I really don't know because I just feel like everybody deserves to know the truth.
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00:05:10.560So, so he deserved to know if he has a child, and a child deserved to know that that's the real father, regardless of the celebrity status.
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00:05:14.240Like, I don't know why that part was why that matters, yeah, yeah.
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00:05:16.000What do you think, Keila?
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00:05:18.639What's your advice to our anonymous person?
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00:05:29.439Every action has a consequence, whether it's good or if it's bad, and I feel like these are the consequences when we lay down with people and we make these rash decisions, right?
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00:05:38.560So I just feel like she needs to put her big grill draws on, okay, and she needs to go ahead and tell everybody.
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00:05:48.000She tell her child, she needs to tell the baby daddy, regardless, like Jen said, regardless if he's a celebrity or not, it don't matter because he can still be a deadbeat just because he's a celebrity.
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00:05:49.680That don't mean nothing.
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00:05:58.639So, girl, tell us tell that child about her daddy and tell that man that he got a baby, and then it's questions too.
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00:06:00.079Like, was the other dad around?
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00:06:01.360Is the other dad in the life?
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00:06:01.759Right.
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00:06:09.439Do the other questions like I got so many questions because why did you not know this shot this man that young boy was 15, 16?
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00:06:11.199That's what I want to know.
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00:06:12.639Girl, what was you doing?
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00:06:15.600So we got Kira on the line who's supposed to be in this building.
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00:06:18.399You know, she belongs to me since I don't work a lot.
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00:06:23.839Hey, hey girl.
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00:06:27.360Okay, I got a question.
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00:06:30.079You said she knew he was 13, and how old was she?
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00:06:36.639Okay, no, she said she didn't know.
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00:06:40.240He lied about her age when they first got to you know, messed around or whatever.
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00:06:47.439How the hell did she know she was in with T.
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00:06:48.959Thank you, thank you.
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00:06:51.600Okay, thank you for it.
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00:06:57.120But um, I think we would know the ages of the kids.
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00:07:01.519Why I can't hear you, Crystal.
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00:07:02.480You can't hear me?
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00:07:03.519No.
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00:07:05.279But you responded.
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00:07:07.839I'm crazy.
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00:07:09.439Is that course?
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00:07:10.720Okay, not say it again.
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00:07:14.319Oh my god, she's crazy.
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00:07:15.759I can't hear you.
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00:07:18.240No, I had to turn up the other phone that I was on.
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00:07:27.199You said she was 20 something and he was 15 or 16, she said.
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00:07:30.480And how long did this affair last?
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00:07:37.920She said it was just a quick thing, like it was a one-time, two-time thing, but the kid looked just like this person and not the other person who she put it on.
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00:07:42.399Okay, so first off, I don't think I think she didn't know how old that baby was.
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00:07:44.399I just can't let that go, baby.
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00:07:47.199I can't say you know how old that baby was.
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00:07:52.240I'm pretty sure he wasn't putting it down in the bedroom like that for you to know she wasn't the age you was.
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00:07:58.959You know, we know as a kid, it's kids, just like we know how these men are adult enough to mess with each other.
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00:08:00.480With these conversations, you were peeking.
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00:08:02.399Yeah, it was no conversation.
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00:08:05.680She said it was a quick fling, so it could have been they could have been on a drunk.
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00:08:11.120She did not go to the park, it could have been like uh a weekend rendezvous.
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00:08:15.120She was she met him for the weekend, somewhere it's it's a lot of material.
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00:08:17.839Hey, have y'all seen these kizsies lately?
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00:08:24.160No, this is a long time ago, but still, yeah, but this is a long time, check some facts.
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00:08:28.879It's her fault.
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00:08:35.120Okay, I just understand why the kids are mad at her, but I feel like she should be the one to reach out to him.
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00:08:37.440That's what she that's what she's saying.
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00:08:41.279I don't understand what's the secret at this point.
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00:08:42.159You know what I'm saying?
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00:08:43.440The child is grown.
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00:08:45.919So I'm sorry, Kira, I didn't mean to jump in on your thing.
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00:08:46.639No, you're okay.
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00:08:48.559I just don't I I don't know.
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00:08:53.440I just don't see what's the point of hiding this still unless she's married.
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00:08:56.720Even if she was married, I feel like okay, Kira.
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00:08:57.679We got a call coming in.
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00:08:58.399Thank you for calling us.
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00:09:00.639Okay, girl.
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00:09:02.960We're gonna accept another call about this.
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00:09:06.240You're on with Session 35 podcast.
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00:09:07.200Who is this?
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00:09:09.440This is your husband.
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00:09:10.240Oh my god.
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00:09:16.399Sir, do you have an opinion on the story?
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00:09:18.000I do.
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00:09:23.039What's your opinion for it?
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00:09:26.960Not sit over there and act like you irritated.
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00:09:29.200The girl should go ahead and just let it go.
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00:09:31.759Why do you want to wait till your kid grown to say something?
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00:09:33.519Oh, let it go, Marlin.
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00:09:35.279Now you got his ad.
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00:09:36.480Is my mom in the background?
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00:09:38.080You wouldn't want to know.
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00:09:40.480Hold on, you gotta say that again.
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00:09:41.279I can't hear you.
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00:09:45.039You wouldn't want to know that you had a child out here all these years.
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00:09:46.480No, I would want to know.
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00:09:49.440I'm telling you asking what do the lady supposed to do?
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00:09:52.799Oh, the lady, you saying the lady should just let it go.
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00:09:57.360Okay, then when that child grows up, say she needs a kidney.
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00:09:59.039Well, she grown now.
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00:10:00.320Say she needs a kidney.
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00:10:01.519Hey, hey, no, no, no, no.
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00:10:02.559Okay, okay, Mark.
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00:10:03.120You know what?
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00:10:03.840You know what?
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00:10:04.799I'm gonna rephrase.
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00:10:05.840I'm gonna rephrase.
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00:10:07.759I ain't gonna say she should just let it go.
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00:10:12.720My thing is all right, my question would be just like, why would you wait all this time to find a place?
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00:10:13.440Thank you.
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00:10:22.399Don't wait till now, you know, when now you find out you're a celebrity, it's all oh yeah, oh you know, let me find my baby daddy.
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00:10:23.919No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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00:10:25.600Because now that's just money motivated.
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00:10:32.399I that's what I think too, because bringing up the fact that you ain't trying to get that kid, you ain't trying to get your child a relationship with their father.
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00:10:33.120You looking for someone.
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00:10:35.360Right.
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00:10:36.159Right.
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00:10:38.080So that's what that's what I was saying.
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00:10:39.200It's just on her with that.
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00:10:43.120Now I ain't gonna say he he shouldn't know, he should have known from the beginning.
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00:10:44.639That's a it's a shit.
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00:10:47.679I agree on stage, but I'm over it, I'm done.
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00:10:51.600Yeah, thanks for calling us all about the money now.
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00:10:58.480That's all I because one we know exactly when we get pregnant, okay.
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00:11:07.759That's something that a lot of women try to play with, but we do know, okay, it's some type of indicator that tells you something is going on.
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00:11:15.279Once you find out exactly how far along you are, you know if you were sleeping with somebody else in that time frame.
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00:11:22.080Yeah, so how did all of that time pass without you even thinking it could have been somebody else?
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00:11:22.799A possibility.
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00:11:25.840I think they think it, I think they just go with what they thought.
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00:11:28.559They go with what they think is best at the time.
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00:11:28.960Yep.
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00:11:32.240So now that he's a celebrity, I think it changed things.
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00:11:35.519In the beginning, the other guy might have been the best fit, right?
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00:11:37.440He have may have been true.
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00:11:44.159What she thought was best at that time, and maybe this other person didn't have nothing going on at that time, and now they do.
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00:11:49.519So now it's like, oh, I'm finna switch gears now, jumping over here because this is better.
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00:11:50.399I got it.
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00:11:51.519Okay, so okay.
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00:11:54.159Wait, to me, I don't I don't know the story, ma'am.
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00:11:56.080But I let me give my opinion about this story.
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00:11:57.360Oh, you didn't give your opinion.
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00:11:58.240Go ahead, Crystal.
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00:11:58.879I'm sorry.
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00:12:00.000I think so.
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00:12:04.879Her original question, y'all, was how does she help her friend get to this man?
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00:12:06.399That's what I was about to say.
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00:12:11.840I my opinion, I do think everybody needs to know where they came from and who they belong to.
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00:12:14.960So it is very necessary, regardless if you look up for something or not.
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00:12:18.399Hopefully you're not because the kid is grown and that ain't got nothing to do with that man no more.
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00:12:21.039Whatever he does after they meet, that's on them.
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00:12:21.440Right.
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00:12:23.440But they should know.
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00:12:25.200The child should know and he should know.
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00:12:33.759But you're saying by her saying the celebrity saddest part, I think she was really saying, like, how does she even get to somebody in that because of whatever celebrity he is?
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00:12:45.840I was saying, because the if this person is his celebrity, I would think you need to get a lawyer involved just to be able to establish your DNA, and then let that person, let that lawyer speak for you so they can go to them with the right terminology.
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00:12:49.600Because you pulling up, I got your baby, and ma'am, back off.
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00:12:50.480Because you know what I'm saying?
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00:12:51.840Like DM him.
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00:13:00.799I wouldn't though, because look how long it's been, and then I'm at this status, and then you struggling and probably need some help, and now you want to hit me up with it.
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00:13:04.240I can he can ignore that DM that DM uh DM and keep it moving.
00:13:04.399 -->
00:13:08.320So I think a lawyer makes it more now it could possibly happen.
00:13:08.480 -->
00:13:08.639Right.
00:13:08.799 -->
00:13:10.799And then it don't have to be all that chaotic.
00:13:10.960 -->
00:13:12.639It could be the lawyer approaching him and his lawyer.
00:13:12.879 -->
00:13:14.480You can still get the lawyer involved, right?
00:13:14.639 -->
00:13:16.159No, but I'm saying do that first.
00:13:16.320 -->
00:13:17.519Why am I DMing you first?
00:13:17.600 -->
00:13:18.399Like, we're not gonna do that.
00:13:18.480 -->
00:13:20.960Get the lawyer first, let the lawyer mediate the situation.
00:13:21.120 -->
00:13:22.559We have a meeting because such and such.
00:13:22.639 -->
00:13:23.519Let them explain the story.
00:13:23.600 -->
00:13:24.960I ain't coming after you for nothing.
00:13:25.039 -->
00:13:27.360That my child just looked like we remember we had this moment.
00:13:27.440 -->
00:13:29.120I just want to make sure this is that, yeah.
00:13:29.200 -->
00:13:29.759You know what I'm saying?
00:13:29.840 -->
00:13:31.279So don't don't be DMing me.
00:13:31.360 -->
00:13:35.679You know how many bras probably DM celebrity men saying crazy stuff like that.
00:13:35.759 -->
00:13:38.960So you make yourself but he's people get crazy things.
00:13:39.039 -->
00:13:39.519I believe it.
00:13:39.679 -->
00:13:40.960But he knows he slept with her.
00:13:41.039 -->
00:13:41.759You feel what I'm saying?
00:13:42.000 -->
00:13:44.559But the kid grown grown, she said grown grown.
00:13:44.720 -->
00:13:45.600I don't know how old this is.
00:13:45.679 -->
00:13:46.799This man could be ice cube.
00:13:46.960 -->
00:13:48.480Um, why would I put a name on there?
00:13:48.799 -->
00:13:50.480But I don't know how old this kid.
00:13:50.559 -->
00:13:52.240She said that kid is grown grown.
00:13:52.320 -->
00:13:56.559Like, don't DM me 40 years later, my baby daddy.
00:13:56.960 -->
00:13:58.879Okay, so this is I'm gonna think you're weird.
00:13:58.960 -->
00:14:00.559I this is my so do it the proper way.
00:14:00.639 -->
00:14:02.960You gotta you gotta be a lady at all times, right?
00:14:03.039 -->
00:14:06.080And if I'm in this sticky situation, I'm not coming at you like no hood rat.
00:14:06.320 -->
00:14:07.440I'm coming at you straight business.
00:14:07.519 -->
00:14:08.559I want nothing from you.
00:14:08.720 -->
00:14:12.240I just want to do this for her, him, or her, and for you, so y'all can know.
00:14:12.399 -->
00:14:13.919And let's just do this test and make sure.
00:14:14.159 -->
00:14:14.879I ain't asking for nothing.
00:14:14.960 -->
00:14:15.519What I'm gonna ask for.
00:14:15.679 -->
00:14:17.039I need your child support, it's keep growing.
00:14:17.519 -->
00:14:20.799And if it happens to be yours, yeah, if y'all want to make a relationship, go for it.
00:14:20.879 -->
00:14:22.799If not, I did my part, yeah.
00:14:23.200 -->
00:14:25.360So it should be a mediation involved.
00:14:25.679 -->
00:14:29.840So, do y'all think the friend is overstepping by putting this story out there?
00:14:30.480 -->
00:14:31.600Just period.
00:14:31.759 -->
00:14:34.240No, she may have axed her too.
00:14:34.399 -->
00:14:37.600She may, she may have axed her because I thought about that too.
00:14:37.840 -->
00:14:38.559What do you think?
00:14:38.720 -->
00:14:45.200Or she might just be trying to figure out a way for, like, yeah, let me see what I can do to make this situation.
00:14:45.679 -->
00:14:47.120And we ain't the million dollar podcast yet.
00:14:47.200 -->
00:14:48.720So anybody heard anybody gonna hear too far.
00:14:48.799 -->
00:14:49.840Hope it's not getting hearing it.
00:14:50.240 -->
00:14:50.799We're on our way there.
00:14:50.879 -->
00:14:51.600Your story gonna be okay.
00:14:52.159 -->
00:14:57.759I don't think that this is a bad way to get advice from I think real women, you know what I'm saying?
00:14:58.320 -->
00:15:04.240Like, I feel like people have been in these types of situations and really did not know what to do, right?
00:15:04.720 -->
00:15:14.159So I think that sometimes situations are scary, you can be judged, you can be all of the things, yeah.
00:15:14.320 -->
00:15:21.600But I think at the end of the day, you have to sometimes sit with these decisions that you made, you know what I'm saying?
00:15:21.759 -->
00:15:24.240And you have to make these hard decisions.
00:15:24.399 -->
00:15:26.879Yeah, your daughter's gonna be mad at you, but guess what?
00:15:27.039 -->
00:15:32.159If you have been a great mother, she will eventually get over it and let it go.
00:15:32.320 -->
00:15:33.039You know what I'm saying?
00:15:33.200 -->
00:15:35.360She said she child is already mad at the mother, yeah.
00:15:35.519 -->
00:15:36.399But oh, she's already mad.
00:15:37.120 -->
00:15:38.480Oh, right, she's already mad, yeah.
00:15:38.559 -->
00:15:44.399She's not a lot, everything because she don't know what what else you could be lying about, right?
00:15:44.559 -->
00:15:48.000So, like with anything, you have to build trust again.
00:15:48.240 -->
00:15:57.279And I think that if they had a great mother-daughter relationship, they are they will be able to rebuild that relationship back up again, right?
00:15:57.440 -->
00:16:02.000Because what you don't want to do is you don't want nobody else to come in and tell your daughter something else.
00:16:02.080 -->
00:16:02.960You get what I'm saying?
00:16:03.120 -->
00:16:03.519For sure.
00:16:03.679 -->
00:16:11.360So I think that she already knows you might as well go ahead and tell a man, get a lawyer, like you said, and move on.
00:16:11.519 -->
00:16:11.840Right.
00:16:12.080 -->
00:16:15.200So we're gonna wrap our 60-second verdict up.
00:16:15.360 -->
00:16:17.120The lady called, sent her message.
00:16:17.200 -->
00:16:18.000She wanted that advice.
00:16:18.159 -->
00:16:18.960I hope you heard us.
00:16:19.039 -->
00:16:21.360My advice is to get you a mediator and keep moving.
00:16:22.399 -->
00:16:24.960And then I'm sorry, I don't agree with the beat that people.
00:16:25.200 -->
00:16:27.360I don't there's no point of you feeling a bearers now.
00:16:27.440 -->
00:16:28.879What happened is happening at your past.
00:16:29.039 -->
00:16:29.840I don't know who you is today.
00:16:29.919 -->
00:16:30.320You know what I'm saying?
00:16:30.399 -->
00:16:33.600And you grown, grown, and you grown, so don't feel shitty about that.
00:16:33.759 -->
00:16:34.559Yeah, you're moving.
00:16:34.639 -->
00:16:37.200That's your mistake, and you taking the steps you're supposed to do.
00:16:37.279 -->
00:16:38.639So you'll be fine, right or wrong.
00:16:38.799 -->
00:16:39.440And it is what it is.
00:16:39.600 -->
00:16:40.799You live in to see another day, girl.
00:16:41.440 -->
00:16:41.759You'd be fine.
00:16:41.840 -->
00:16:42.240I don't know about it.
00:16:42.320 -->
00:16:47.840I would be the mediator because if it came back, now y'all know if it came back, right?
00:16:48.240 -->
00:16:52.799A grown man got a 15 or 16-year-old girl pregnant.
00:16:53.120 -->
00:16:54.080He's not even using that.
00:16:54.480 -->
00:16:56.720He is the father, so we definitely ignore that going to jail.
00:16:56.799 -->
00:17:00.080Like, we I'm just responding to her question on the bigger picture.
00:17:00.399 -->
00:17:01.679That is a horrible part.
00:17:02.000 -->
00:17:04.960I think that's the worst part of the story, too, though.
00:17:05.119 -->
00:17:06.799Like that he was young.
00:17:07.119 -->
00:17:09.440If you hear us, please hit us up with a little bit more information.
00:17:09.519 -->
00:17:10.160We want to leave.
00:17:10.640 -->
00:17:12.000I just need I'm not really I'm not.
00:17:12.640 -->
00:17:15.759I'm not my question was I don't want to condemn her, right?
00:17:15.839 -->
00:17:23.920But at the same time, like you need to, you didn't know that that little boy that that young man was that is not the topic.
00:17:24.240 -->
00:17:27.279I'm just saying we we cannot be going off on this.
00:17:27.839 -->
00:17:28.480It's not going off.
00:17:30.400 -->
00:17:32.799I just got a question in reality though.
00:17:32.960 -->
00:17:39.759If that was a man, everything would be totally different, and it would be in a total upward chaotic.
00:17:40.079 -->
00:17:42.960Even though we got a hundred celebrities, it's with these people.
00:17:43.279 -->
00:17:44.000This is with young people.
00:17:44.319 -->
00:17:46.240Please believe she never told me female that's a good one.
00:17:46.640 -->
00:17:48.960We're here talking about 15 and 16.
00:17:49.119 -->
00:17:50.400But we talk about people like that too.
00:17:50.559 -->
00:17:54.559I mean, yeah, but but but please believe she's not the only female that has ever done this, though.
00:17:54.720 -->
00:17:55.440Oh no, it's working.
00:17:56.319 -->
00:18:03.359I really believe it'd be more women sleeping with younger guys than it's older guys sleeping with younger girls.
00:18:03.519 -->
00:18:05.920It's just that uh guys talk about it and girls don't.
00:18:06.079 -->
00:18:08.000We don't tell our business exactly.
00:18:08.160 -->
00:18:10.400Come on, now they be with young boys.
00:18:10.559 -->
00:18:11.599I think it's about the same.
00:18:11.759 -->
00:18:12.480It's about the same.
00:18:12.799 -->
00:18:13.200They missed.
00:18:13.359 -->
00:18:14.319I really think it's about the same.
00:18:14.480 -->
00:18:15.759All right, girl, go get you a mediator.
00:18:15.839 -->
00:18:18.079Yeah, go get you a mediator so everybody can know.
00:18:18.319 -->
00:18:21.680And and Dora, you're your mama, you know, forget her girl.
00:18:22.000 -->
00:18:22.720She'd be okay.
00:18:23.039 -->
00:18:23.759All right, Gien.
00:18:24.160 -->
00:18:34.960What was your last so last week or the week before when we were here, we ended the topic because GN started off or ended the session by saying she is no longer a girls' girl.
00:18:35.200 -->
00:18:38.079I don't think she doesn't think she's no longer a girl's girl.
00:18:38.160 -->
00:18:38.880So tell us your dilemma.
00:18:38.960 -->
00:18:39.440Like, what in the problem?
00:18:40.559 -->
00:18:46.880One, I believe that being a girl's girl, I think it came with so many stipulations now.
00:18:46.960 -->
00:18:53.680Like, I think we need a real, true definition of what a girl's girl means.
00:18:53.839 -->
00:19:05.839Because when I hear everybody really talking about it, it's almost like being a pushover or being a person that can't call somebody out on their crap.
00:19:06.000 -->
00:19:10.319So, me thinking about myself, I'm a person that I don't let nothing slide.
00:19:10.480 -->
00:19:15.920So it's like you will look at that like the mean girl, and I look at it like it's honesty.
00:19:16.079 -->
00:19:18.960Like what I will, what I give is what I want.
00:19:19.200 -->
00:19:23.920So I feel like if I'm acting a fool, I feel like one of y'all is supposed to be like, girl, you acting a fool.
00:19:24.079 -->
00:19:25.519You need to cut it out.
00:19:25.599 -->
00:19:28.480And but I feel like girls don't want you to do that now.
00:19:28.559 -->
00:19:35.519They want us to condemn, I mean, condone every single choice that they make, even if it's a messed up choice.
00:19:35.680 -->
00:19:36.799And I'm just not doing that.
00:19:37.039 -->
00:19:37.839And I get you, I can't.
00:19:39.039 -->
00:19:41.920When y'all start suddenly setting these boundaries, suddenly the friendship changes.
00:19:42.240 -->
00:19:46.319It changes like when you young, you don't speak on a lot of things.
00:19:46.480 -->
00:19:52.559So it's like we let a lot of things slide and we we say face for the friendship.
00:19:52.720 -->
00:19:57.279So it's like a lot of things that we know is wrong, we don't address it.
00:19:57.440 -->
00:19:59.440Like it's a lot of things I was doing that was wrong.
00:19:59.680 -->
00:20:08.240Where I feel like if I had somebody that was truly for me, they'd be like, look, you shouldn't be doing this, or you shouldn't be doing that.
00:20:08.319 -->
00:20:21.200But it's like when you running around with a bunch of girls that's like like-minded, I say everybody on the same page like goes to what you said when the pages is turning and everybody different.
00:20:21.359 -->
00:20:31.920It's like we be okay with the bad behavior and the bad mistakes because it's like, okay, everybody around me doing it, so why is it bad?
00:20:32.000 -->
00:20:39.119But then it's like when you go do the work on yourself and you see all of these choices, it's like, okay, no, I'm not condoning that.
00:20:39.200 -->
00:20:43.039And I'm not riding with that, and I'm not gonna make you think that's okay.
00:20:43.200 -->
00:20:49.279Even if it's something that I did, and I feel like people want you to be okay with something just because it's something you did.
00:20:49.359 -->
00:20:52.480It's like, okay, so I made a mistake, or I burnt my hand.
00:20:52.559 -->
00:20:54.319You want me to let you burn your hand too?
00:20:54.400 -->
00:20:56.079You want me to be like, yeah, touch the fire.
00:20:56.559 -->
00:20:59.119Even though I know that if I touch the fire, it's hot.
00:20:59.279 -->
00:21:16.559So if I give you advice and be like, you shouldn't do this or you shouldn't do that, why is it that you're mean or you're always right, you know, you always criticizing, or you always talking bad about somebody, or it's always negative, and it's like, well, if that's what the truth is, do you not want the truth?
00:21:16.720 -->
00:21:16.880Right.
00:21:17.200 -->
00:21:24.240So I think um, yeah, I think people think of boundaries as disrespect and it's not.
00:21:24.319 -->
00:21:26.319It's not it's not, it's not disrespect.
00:21:26.480 -->
00:21:33.920And then I also think like we gotta, hmm, y'all know I'm big on this work just because I'm so big into mental health.
00:21:34.559 -->
00:21:37.759Everybody don't grow up the same, everybody weren't taught the same thing.
00:21:38.000 -->
00:21:38.319Definitely.
00:21:38.559 -->
00:21:40.640We don't feel the same, we don't think the same.
00:21:40.799 -->
00:21:43.119So a lot of things you learn as you go, right?
00:21:43.440 -->
00:21:50.720So you can have friendship with somebody for 20 years, and you're now in this healing phase of setting certain boundaries, right?
00:21:50.880 -->
00:21:58.960So that's gonna look like either disrespect to the other person or just like, oh, you don't mess with me like that no more because it's change, and change is uncomfortable in any relationship.
00:21:59.119 -->
00:21:59.759So I think great.
00:22:00.160 -->
00:22:07.519Should always be given when it comes to your friendships, your relationships, your family ships, because every change is uncomfortable.
00:22:07.839 -->
00:22:15.759So the right people, and I only want to say this because it some people are the right people, but they just not in that space to understand it and learn it yet.
00:22:16.160 -->
00:22:18.000So you can be a certain way and setting boundaries.
00:22:18.319 -->
00:22:24.240Yeah, you can be setting boundaries, and this person might like, you know, keep it moving from you, however, whatever made them feel that way, right?
00:22:24.319 -->
00:22:27.759But then they go and learn and be like, Yeah, you was doing the right thing, you know what I'm saying?
00:22:27.839 -->
00:22:31.119But sometimes people are not ready for that change, so it happens.
00:22:31.200 -->
00:22:35.680So that doesn't mean you stunch your healing though and keep them around just because they're not picking up.
00:22:35.759 -->
00:22:36.640You gotta keep it moving.
00:22:36.720 -->
00:22:37.599I understand that.
00:22:37.839 -->
00:22:42.960But I think with boundaries, we all have to understand, like, that's just how life works.
00:22:43.119 -->
00:22:48.640Like, don't expect for me to grow in my marriage, but I can't grow in my friendships.
00:22:48.880 -->
00:22:49.359You know what I mean?
00:22:49.440 -->
00:22:52.559Like, how I'm gonna set boundaries over here with my husband, but I can't set boundaries with you.
00:22:52.799 -->
00:22:54.000Or you're supposed to evolve.
00:22:54.079 -->
00:22:57.359Or motherhood, friends, everybody, and you should be involved in that.
00:22:57.519 -->
00:22:59.119Y'all should be able to offer your life.
00:22:59.359 -->
00:23:03.759Yeah, if I'm not like y'all know what's boundaries and what's bull crap, right?
00:23:03.839 -->
00:23:04.079Exactly.
00:23:04.319 -->
00:23:04.960You know what I'm saying?
00:23:05.039 -->
00:23:05.759You know the difference.
00:23:05.920 -->
00:23:08.400Now, there are some unrealistic boundaries out there.
00:23:08.480 -->
00:23:09.519I wonder if anybody knows some.
00:23:09.599 -->
00:23:10.799I couldn't think of none earlier.
00:23:11.119 -->
00:23:11.839Realistic?
00:23:12.000 -->
00:23:12.640Yes.
00:23:12.880 -->
00:23:17.200I was trying to some I I couldn't say this particular video I found, it made so much sense.
00:23:17.359 -->
00:23:19.359When I find it, I'm going to share a clip.
00:23:19.839 -->
00:23:21.359I mean, I would say it is a lot.
00:23:21.519 -->
00:23:30.160I would say it's a probably a lot of unrealistic boundaries, but it's also a lot of boundaries that are small that people can't accept.
00:23:30.319 -->
00:23:31.279Yeah, real small.
00:23:31.599 -->
00:23:36.960The smallest ones, I feel like, are the ones that people have a hard time accepting.
00:23:37.039 -->
00:23:39.920It's like, why can't this just be me?
00:23:40.319 -->
00:23:41.920Just like this is you.
00:23:42.000 -->
00:23:42.880You know what I'm saying?
00:23:43.039 -->
00:23:47.599I yeah, it's just like, well, let's name a boundary, because that's what your other topic was too.
00:23:47.680 -->
00:23:50.160But I also, like, when you were saying you're not a girl's girl no more.
00:23:50.319 -->
00:23:58.559When I say ever since we had that last segment on being a girl's girl, like I am truly thoughts I was truly a girl's girl.
00:23:58.720 -->
00:23:59.200I did too.
00:23:59.359 -->
00:24:02.319But women make it really hard for me to say a girl's girl.
00:24:03.119 -->
00:24:04.799I'm not even gonna hold you up this past year long.
00:24:04.880 -->
00:24:06.960I've been wanting, I don't like, I don't like none of you.
00:24:07.839 -->
00:24:09.200I just not feeling them.
00:24:09.440 -->
00:24:17.039It's like it's always something like even recently, and I won't even go that far because they're gonna know exactly what I'm talking about, but just being in a room with certain women.
00:24:17.200 -->
00:24:18.000I'm sorry, y'all.
00:24:18.079 -->
00:24:22.079I'm I'm friendly, and it only takes a little bit.
00:24:22.319 -->
00:24:24.799You know how you can read people's energy, you know what I'm saying?
00:24:24.880 -->
00:24:27.759And if you don't give me friendly, I probably wouldn't buy with you, right?
00:24:28.319 -->
00:24:30.559So, and I've learned my lesson about that too.
00:24:30.640 -->
00:24:31.519It ain't always that.
00:24:31.599 -->
00:24:34.480I'm gonna tell you how I learned my lesson because you were an example and my friend Alicia means.
00:24:35.359 -->
00:24:36.640That's why I said I've learned that's what I said.
00:24:36.720 -->
00:24:39.359So I'm not friendly, no, so that's what I'm gonna say.
00:24:39.440 -->
00:24:40.640I learned my lesson about that, right?
00:24:40.720 -->
00:24:45.279So I always give grace and I always give that second turnaround, but you only got a few, you know what I'm saying?
00:24:45.599 -->
00:24:47.920Because like when I met Gene, I was like, I'm not gonna like her.
00:24:48.000 -->
00:24:49.200She is ebo.
00:24:49.839 -->
00:24:50.559No, thank you.
00:24:50.720 -->
00:24:53.519And then when I met my best friend Alicia, probably both at Walmart.
00:24:53.599 -->
00:24:55.200When I met Alicia, it was like, who's that?
00:24:55.359 -->
00:24:56.160Mm-mm, mm-mm.
00:24:56.400 -->
00:24:57.839Keep her for with me.
00:24:58.000 -->
00:24:58.880I dogged her.
00:24:58.960 -->
00:25:01.039I was like, Oh no, no, I don't never want to kick it with her.
00:25:01.119 -->
00:25:02.559And then I love these people, yeah.
00:25:02.720 -->
00:25:04.400So that's why I said I learned my lesson.
00:25:04.480 -->
00:25:07.599Like, sometimes it ain't just the initial energy, it can be something else, right?
00:25:07.680 -->
00:25:15.039So I always give me a second chance, but these two particular people I'm talking about now, I gave a couple chances to they ain't gonna get another high gamurian, nothing out of me.
00:25:15.119 -->
00:25:16.160It ain't gonna never happen.
00:25:16.319 -->
00:25:24.880I can't take it, but but you gave them so like it's not it's not about just being friendly, I think it's just about being kind, right?
00:25:24.960 -->
00:25:27.680Yeah, but I really want to know like what is our real definition of a girl's girl?
00:25:27.839 -->
00:25:31.519Because I for me, I just thought it was just I don't think having empathy for other women.
00:25:31.920 -->
00:25:34.160People just need to take that out their vocabulary, right?
00:25:34.480 -->
00:25:39.519There, I think that's what I just think take it out your vocabulary and just be kind of for you.
00:25:39.599 -->
00:25:42.160Yeah, that's that's because I think that's what I'm more big on.
00:25:42.319 -->
00:25:50.720Like, be kind, be a kind person for who to everybody, but I'm also a person where I you you gotta get to know me in order to get that.
00:25:50.880 -->
00:26:02.079Like I'm gonna sing step because I'm I'm just I'm to myself, like I'm I'm reserved, but to other people, it's gonna be like, oh, she got an attitude, or she when it's not that, it's just okay.
00:26:02.160 -->
00:26:06.240You have to see my grandma to know that my face just that's just my face, okay.
00:26:06.400 -->
00:26:08.640And then I'm not gonna give anything.
00:26:08.720 -->
00:26:13.920It's like I'm just here, you know, scoping out and and seeing what's really going on.
00:26:14.079 -->
00:26:18.559But it's like you get judged for that right off the bat, like most people like it.
00:26:18.720 -->
00:26:28.640Because people feel offended, they get so offended, so be quick and so easy just because I didn't say a certain type of way.
00:26:29.279 -->
00:26:29.920You know what I'm saying?
00:26:30.000 -->
00:26:32.799They expect for you to be a certain type of way.
00:26:32.960 -->
00:26:34.880It's like as soon as you walk in.
00:26:35.039 -->
00:26:38.400If I walk in like I mean, I'm gonna walk in like I own here.
00:26:38.640 -->
00:26:40.240You you those are easily shown.
00:26:40.319 -->
00:26:44.000You walked in a room and you can tell the people that looking like they want you to be a way.
00:26:44.079 -->
00:26:45.759I do I'm sorry, y'all.
00:26:45.839 -->
00:26:47.599I purposely uh not give into people.
00:26:47.839 -->
00:26:49.119So it's like we not catch those lines.
00:26:49.440 -->
00:26:50.319Is that a bad thing?
00:26:50.400 -->
00:26:51.200You know what I'm saying?
00:26:51.279 -->
00:26:54.640Like, how I don't I never understood it, but I I don't.
00:26:54.880 -->
00:26:57.839And for uh, like I said, maybe you're right.
00:26:57.920 -->
00:27:01.759We probably should just take the girls girl word off the table without somebody having this concrete definition.
00:27:01.839 -->
00:27:03.680If y'all know a concrete definition, please let me know.
00:27:03.839 -->
00:27:09.440Yeah, but me, I just need to I just don't want to like always looked at it as I'm a girl's girl because I'm not gonna tear nobody else down.
00:27:09.599 -->
00:27:09.839Right.
00:27:10.000 -->
00:27:12.799I was never a part of the bitter bitch community.
00:27:12.960 -->
00:27:16.079Like I would never tear another woman down, and honestly, it's so bad.
00:27:16.319 -->
00:27:19.279I'm talking about to the T if I don't know care what she's done.
00:27:19.519 -->
00:27:22.000Now I ain't talking about you who are out here acting crazy.
00:27:22.079 -->
00:27:30.480Like I'm talking about somebody who's had something, went through something, whether it was like side eyeing them or not, but if you came from something, I'm never tearing nobody down.
00:27:30.799 -->
00:27:31.359I'm never tearing.
00:27:33.839 -->
00:27:35.359Okay, read that you because I can't see.
00:27:35.519 -->
00:27:36.079Plus five.
00:27:36.240 -->
00:27:44.079A girl's girl is a woman who actively supports, respects, and uplips other women instead of treating them like competition.
00:27:44.240 -->
00:27:44.960Ooh, thank you.
00:27:45.279 -->
00:27:45.680That's what I said.
00:27:46.000 -->
00:27:48.960Hey, the competition part is the problem though.
00:27:49.039 -->
00:27:52.720It's like with women, they automatically in competition with me.
00:27:52.799 -->
00:27:53.680And I don't know why.
00:27:53.759 -->
00:27:55.440It's like I don't have to do nothing.
00:27:55.519 -->
00:27:59.599It's just like, okay, it's gonna be, it's gonna be a problem.
00:27:59.759 -->
00:28:01.920And it's like, I didn't even do nothing.
00:28:02.160 -->
00:28:07.759I could just walk in somewhere and it'd be like, I'd be like, damn, all I did was come in.
00:28:07.839 -->
00:28:09.440Like, what is the problem?
00:28:10.079 -->
00:28:14.000So I think with it being like that for so long, I just I'm over girls.
00:28:14.319 -->
00:28:19.680But see, this is why I'd rather say I rather have a sisterhood than say that I'm a girls' girl.
00:28:19.839 -->
00:28:25.920I'm gonna be honest because I feel like a sisterhood got it, it gives you more value, right?
00:28:26.559 -->
00:28:31.599And you can have community with women, period, right?
00:28:31.680 -->
00:28:35.759You don't have to say, Oh, I'm a girl's girls just to be kind or just to see this.
00:28:35.839 -->
00:28:39.440And you got to understand that we exude confidence, right?
00:28:39.680 -->
00:28:42.559Jen has that, you have that, I have that, Kira have that.
00:28:42.640 -->
00:28:46.000Like, we are not in competition with each other, you know what I'm saying?
00:28:46.240 -->
00:28:50.480Like, we actually care for each other, we check in on each other, you know.
00:28:50.799 -->
00:29:00.240Say I was newly coming into the situation, and y'all accepted me with open arms, you know, and I love that, but I also prayed about that too.
00:29:00.400 -->
00:29:05.440So I'm I'm gonna say I wouldn't have to be like, I want to talk about that too, though.
00:29:05.519 -->
00:29:14.400I feel like, you know, like I told y'all, we always talk about my relationship with the Lord, but at the same time, like I feel like when you get people in your life too, pray about that.
00:29:14.559 -->
00:29:17.839Yeah, because sometimes people ain't meant to be in your life for forever.
00:29:18.000 -->
00:29:28.160Sometimes people is just in your life for you just to give you, you might need to give them a word or something, or they might need to give you a word, or they might need to show you something, or you like opportunities, right?
00:29:28.319 -->
00:29:38.480That don't mean that you need to hold on to those friendships either, you know what I'm saying, or be around them all the time because you might not like that character, you know what I'm saying?
00:29:38.559 -->
00:29:47.279You might not like who they are as a person, so it's okay to sometimes let those people go, but I'm never in competition with anybody, you know.
00:29:47.359 -->
00:29:48.000I'm saying so.
00:29:48.559 -->
00:29:52.319So I don't necessarily I'm not boycotting the word girls girl just yet.
00:29:52.480 -->
00:29:54.079I am because boycotting it.
00:29:54.240 -->
00:29:56.079I am I'm sorry.
00:29:56.319 -->
00:30:02.400I'm not gonna boycott it just yet, just because I do know I not adjusting to put that on a thing, I do remember all the research that we did.
00:30:02.559 -->
00:30:06.720It literally did just come down to a woman never in competition with another woman, yeah.
00:30:06.880 -->
00:30:12.720And and if that's what you are going to say, a concrete definition is because when I did when we looked it up, that is the definition of it, right?
00:30:12.880 -->
00:30:21.440So if that's what it really is, then I'm gonna consider myself a girls' girl just like I consider myself this black woman or just consider myself loyal, consider myself a girl's girl.
00:30:21.759 -->
00:30:26.400But other people gotta start putting their own made-up definitions up on it because I'm not gonna live by any of those.
00:30:26.640 -->
00:30:26.960Exactly.
00:30:27.039 -->
00:30:30.559That's why you're supposed to read, you're supposed to read stuff for yourself, right?
00:30:30.880 -->
00:30:43.200You're supposed to get knowledge for yourself and not what other people say because society, uh, the real definition might be this table is really wood, is it's wood, you know what I'm saying?
00:30:43.279 -->
00:30:47.440But it might be blue to somebody else, and they're gonna write, they're gonna make up a whole story about it.
00:30:47.599 -->
00:30:48.240You know what I'm saying?
00:30:48.559 -->
00:30:50.559And the color situation.
00:30:50.640 -->
00:30:52.799I'm I make probably very upset about that.
00:30:53.039 -->
00:30:57.200Y'all remember that time when they was that gold dress was going across the internet?
00:30:57.519 -->
00:30:57.759Uh-huh.
00:30:57.839 -->
00:30:58.319You remember that?
00:30:58.799 -->
00:30:59.440Do you remember that, G?
00:31:00.240 -->
00:31:00.559I remember that.
00:31:00.880 -->
00:31:01.440I'm gonna send it to you.
00:31:01.519 -->
00:31:06.240I don't want to ask you what it's a dress that everybody was like, Oh, that dress is white and gold.
00:31:06.400 -->
00:31:10.400Other people see blue, but it's so it sent the world in a frenzy, like it was on the news, it was crazy.
00:31:10.559 -->
00:31:11.119So me and Rob.
00:31:11.440 -->
00:31:13.920Everybody that seen it saw something different, but they see something different.
00:31:14.000 -->
00:31:16.400So I have the dress in my hand, I'm looking at it like, okay, this is white and gold.
00:31:16.480 -->
00:31:18.319I turned around, he's talking so you're crazy as blue.
00:31:18.480 -->
00:31:27.599So that took me for a loop, and he's so upset by it, it's because he thinks I'm lying or I'm so he he wasn't around for that, but yes, it's a whole other story.
00:31:27.759 -->
00:31:30.559Yeah, but I'm I'm taking the definition girls, girls out.
00:31:30.640 -->
00:31:33.599I'm I feel like at the end of the day, I'm kind, I'm loving.
00:31:33.839 -->
00:31:34.880I like what Kira said.
00:31:35.119 -->
00:31:36.000No, I care.
00:31:36.960 -->
00:31:38.240Treat me how you want to be treated.
00:31:38.400 -->
00:31:39.680That's my biggest knowledge.
00:31:40.000 -->
00:31:41.359I treat people the same way I'm gonna be able to do it.
00:31:41.599 -->
00:31:43.839Whatever you give me is what I'm gonna give you.
00:31:44.079 -->
00:31:50.480And that and my boundary with that is there is no person that's exempt from that.
00:31:50.720 -->
00:31:53.200Whatever you give me is what I'm giving you.
00:31:53.279 -->
00:31:56.480Mama, daddy, sister, brother, auntie, cousin, friend.
00:31:56.799 -->
00:32:01.279Whatever you give me, I'm giving I'm giving nothing more or nothing less.
00:32:01.440 -->
00:32:04.079Because I feel like that's another reason.
00:32:04.160 -->
00:32:13.200Like when you really is a girl's girl with all of those definitions, you always give, you always do, you always pour, and it's never returned.
00:32:13.359 -->
00:32:18.240Because people look at you at like competition, they look at you as if you don't need these things.
00:32:18.400 -->
00:32:20.240Oh, she always got this, she don't need that.
00:32:20.319 -->
00:32:22.319Oh, she all she got help, she don't need this.
00:32:22.480 -->
00:32:25.440Like, I get told all the time, like, oh well, you got a husband.
00:32:25.680 -->
00:32:26.960What do that mean?
00:32:27.200 -->
00:32:29.279Like, and I be so irritated by it.
00:32:29.440 -->
00:32:39.759And it'd be like, So, because I got a husband, I'm not supposed to have a support system, or I'm not supposed to have help, or I shouldn't be appreciating because I got a husband.
00:32:39.920 -->
00:32:41.200So it's like, oh, you got a husband.
00:32:41.279 -->
00:32:44.880Oh, well, your kids got a daddy, and it's like, okay, all kids.
00:32:45.519 -->
00:32:47.920So pardon me for choosing right, you know what I'm saying?
00:32:48.000 -->
00:32:52.880Now that's a bad thing, and it's like good, it's turned into bad.
00:32:52.960 -->
00:32:56.880And it's like, so now I gotta feel bad that I got a husband.
00:32:58.240 -->
00:32:59.519It's just so crazy.
00:32:59.759 -->
00:33:01.440Well, I do feel boundaries.
00:33:01.519 -->
00:33:01.920Oh, go ahead.
00:33:02.079 -->
00:33:06.000Well, I do want to say this I do love how women look out for each other.
00:33:06.160 -->
00:33:10.400I will say that I had posted a video, I'm not sure which which one of social media I posted on.
00:33:10.480 -->
00:33:16.720I want to save my transfer on transparency with Keila, and it was just showing different clips of women like looking out for each other.
00:33:17.119 -->
00:33:19.359Oh, you talk about that video I shared on uh TikTok.
00:33:19.519 -->
00:33:20.960Yeah, they were yelling like you're pretty.
00:33:21.039 -->
00:33:22.160It was like a five-minute long video.
00:33:22.319 -->
00:33:23.920And I love that video because it was giving girls.
00:33:24.160 -->
00:33:25.920It was like, okay, yes, you okay.
00:33:26.400 -->
00:33:28.079I hate that I feel that way this year, okay.
00:33:28.400 -->
00:33:29.359Because y'all be getting on my nerves.
00:33:30.000 -->
00:33:30.720Women love it.
00:33:30.960 -->
00:33:31.839But that video was dope.
00:33:32.000 -->
00:33:32.319I love it.
00:33:32.960 -->
00:33:35.680But that happens in real life more, yeah.
00:33:36.000 -->
00:33:38.640Getting more self-awareness, I think.
00:33:38.720 -->
00:33:38.960Yeah.
00:33:39.119 -->
00:33:45.599Like, you know, more self-aware of what you should or shouldn't be doing, you know, myself included.
00:33:45.680 -->
00:33:54.160But at the same time, it's like the competition part, I think, is what keeps a lot of women in the box because it's like all the comparisons.
00:33:54.319 -->
00:34:04.960I was watching Scrappy on the podcast with young jock and old girl, and he basically was saying that social media ruined his marriage.
00:34:05.200 -->
00:34:11.920And he felt like that because he said that for four years he did 50-50.
00:34:12.400 -->
00:34:18.880And then when Instagram took off and went hot, it was like, oh, if you doing 50-50, nigga, you ain't nothing.
00:34:19.119 -->
00:34:20.880And now he became nothing.
00:34:20.960 -->
00:34:23.599Because it's like I'm splitting things.
00:34:23.760 -->
00:34:27.519And he was like, when he's making more.
00:34:27.760 -->
00:34:33.840No, but he said when he looked at it, like he was literally just splitting the mortgage, but he was paying everything else.
00:34:34.079 -->
00:34:37.599But society was like, oh no, you supposed to be doing everything.
00:34:37.840 -->
00:34:39.599But what that say about his wife, though.
00:34:39.920 -->
00:34:42.559Like, I but that's a lot of the competition.
00:34:42.719 -->
00:34:48.239It's not even really the competition, it's just like everybody wants to live off of what everybody else doing.
00:34:48.559 -->
00:34:48.960Exactly.
00:34:49.280 -->
00:34:50.480My shoes is not fit for you.
00:34:51.039 -->
00:34:53.199Everybody's house is not the same, it's not the same.
00:34:53.599 -->
00:35:04.400Just because this ever just because society society saying that y'all, you if you if the man ain't if y'all splitting 50-50, he ain't no man, that's crazy because it's hard out here for a pimp.
00:35:04.559 -->
00:35:05.920I mean, if it it it depends.
00:35:06.320 -->
00:35:06.880It's hard out here.
00:35:07.199 -->
00:35:08.639I'm not splitting nothing straight down the middle.
00:35:09.119 -->
00:35:14.480But see, that's but that's you exactly, and it's some women that we it's not every woman ain't like that.
00:35:14.559 -->
00:35:18.320But girl, if you already have started off like that, then you just want to switch it.
00:35:20.480 -->
00:35:22.400Now I'm looking at you like you crazy.
00:35:22.480 -->
00:35:23.599Yeah, you get what I'm saying?
00:35:23.679 -->
00:35:30.880I can't stand, and and I think that that's another one that's like wide-range because when again, remember we talked about that last time.
00:35:31.039 -->
00:35:34.719When you say 50-50, it's so many range, yeah.
00:35:34.880 -->
00:35:37.360It's so many different scenarios where that can go.
00:35:37.599 -->
00:35:40.079We don't really use 50-50 in our house, like in my household.
00:35:40.159 -->
00:35:40.719You pay for it.
00:35:40.800 -->
00:35:42.320It's more just we just pay the 70%.
00:35:42.880 -->
00:35:43.280Exactly.
00:35:43.360 -->
00:35:48.079Like I know, like I know what hit your I know what hit homeboy copy for he know it is, right?
00:35:48.320 -->
00:35:48.559Exactly.
00:35:48.719 -->
00:35:50.400So I know what you're paying for already.
00:35:51.599 -->
00:35:53.119So not his business.
00:35:53.360 -->
00:35:53.920Exactly.
00:35:54.159 -->
00:35:54.880But that's what I'm saying.
00:35:55.119 -->
00:35:56.159But y'all both still paying B.
00:35:56.400 -->
00:35:59.760No, we both see that's a big we're both gonna pay and be contribute the same.
00:36:00.000 -->
00:36:07.760But you got some people when they say 50-50, they really mean splitting everything down the middle, and you pay half of this bill, and I pay half of that bill.
00:36:07.840 -->
00:36:08.800That means we splitting everything.
00:36:08.880 -->
00:36:09.599That's over that.
00:36:10.159 -->
00:36:12.320I know that's crazy if they really do it like this.
00:36:12.400 -->
00:36:15.280All right, the ideal 120 was weird, Joe's, you know.
00:36:15.519 -->
00:36:16.719But what if that works for them?
00:36:16.800 -->
00:36:17.840I'm just gonna play big devil.
00:36:18.480 -->
00:36:19.280It's possibly can.
00:36:19.760 -->
00:36:22.000What if that really works for both pockets?
00:36:22.239 -->
00:36:25.360But I also think that's for their household, a mental thing.
00:36:25.599 -->
00:36:30.159Because, say, for example, if I'm spitting, we're splitting this 120 bill and that's 6060.
00:36:30.239 -->
00:36:32.639Then we're finna spit the heat bill, and that's another 6060.
00:36:32.719 -->
00:36:34.559Why not just you take this one and take this?
00:36:35.199 -->
00:36:36.400Because it's spinning the same.
00:36:36.880 -->
00:36:43.360So when I think when y'all do this, there's some insecurity somewhere, there's some not trust somewhere, there's something not going on, right?
00:36:43.519 -->
00:36:48.000Because why we gotta like why are we giving up the exact same amount of money, but we gotta say we're splitting this half.
00:36:48.559 -->
00:36:49.440I don't trust each other somewhere.
00:36:49.760 -->
00:36:50.239Something they were.
00:36:54.480 -->
00:36:54.880Exactly.
00:36:55.199 -->
00:37:02.719If we're doing it, if you doing it in that order now, somebody paying the mortgage and somebody else paying all of the side bills or whatever the case may be.
00:37:02.880 -->
00:37:05.199Yeah, because I don't I hopefully they're not nobody's doing it like that.
00:37:05.360 -->
00:37:09.760When I when I hear it that way, I just heard people say they didn't do it like that.
00:37:09.920 -->
00:37:11.920Like they literally split all the bills, 50%.
00:37:12.400 -->
00:37:13.199What was I saying about bonds?
00:37:13.360 -->
00:37:14.960We gotta go back to our friendships or boundaries.
00:37:15.199 -->
00:37:21.760Like y'all, y'all didn't say what friendship boundary did you have to learn the hard way?
00:37:22.880 -->
00:37:23.519Overstepping.
00:37:24.480 -->
00:37:26.000You had to learn not to overstep.
00:37:26.480 -->
00:37:26.719Okay.
00:37:26.960 -->
00:37:28.000Take a step back.
00:37:28.239 -->
00:37:29.760How would you overstepping?
00:37:30.000 -->
00:37:32.639Just like I said, giving my two cents.
00:37:32.719 -->
00:37:38.159Like speaking on things that you know somebody making a messed up decision.
00:37:38.239 -->
00:37:41.760And it's like sometimes, just like in the mirrors, you gotta learn how to bite your tongue.
00:37:41.920 -->
00:37:44.480So I have to learn how to, okay, that's not my life.
00:37:44.639 -->
00:37:50.320This is not my relationship, this is not my kid, this is not my and learn how to not say anything.
00:37:50.800 -->
00:37:56.000And I feel like that's something that I and that's kind of hard, especially when you love and care for care for them.
00:37:56.480 -->
00:37:57.440Well, I'm gonna say something.
00:37:57.679 -->
00:38:04.400I I I used to, and I'm just not gonna take I'm not gonna keep a damper on a lot of relationships saying it, right?
00:38:04.559 -->
00:38:11.840I'm gonna say something because if I see you drowning or you're not supposed to be doing this, I'm gonna say something, but I'm not gonna keep saying it, right?
00:38:11.920 -->
00:38:14.480And I'm not gonna get offended if you don't take my advice.
00:38:14.639 -->
00:38:24.960But if if every time I'm giving you some advice, even if it's unsolicited and you never take it, and then you turn around and be like, Well, Keely, you said this, I'm gonna shut the hell up, right?
00:38:26.000 -->
00:38:28.639That's just how that's one of my boundaries.
00:38:28.880 -->
00:38:30.800I think I'm gonna have to agree with one of our honest.
00:38:31.039 -->
00:38:32.559Is that my just think of that?
00:38:32.960 -->
00:38:33.679Overshare.
00:38:33.760 -->
00:38:34.239That's me.
00:38:34.960 -->
00:38:36.719I'm definitely learning how to overshare.
00:38:37.199 -->
00:38:38.239I can't help myself.
00:38:38.320 -->
00:38:40.320I just be girl, that is it.
00:38:40.719 -->
00:38:41.280All my business.
00:38:41.440 -->
00:38:45.840That used to be yeah, you could tell me something, I forgot what you told me, and I told nobody nothing.
00:38:46.000 -->
00:38:46.400Because I don't care.
00:38:46.800 -->
00:38:48.159Now I am everybody's diary.
00:38:48.400 -->
00:38:49.039You understand me?
00:38:49.199 -->
00:38:54.000Tell me, I'm not gonna remember it unless it's like super crazy and we gotta talk more about it.
00:38:54.320 -->
00:38:57.679But once you tell me something, it's I'm gonna my advice is given and it's gone.
00:38:57.920 -->
00:39:00.079I don't remember, but me.
00:39:00.559 -->
00:39:03.360I'm telling it, I be telling my girl, yes.
00:39:03.519 -->
00:39:04.159I used to do that.
00:39:04.400 -->
00:39:07.039I overshare, yeah, and I will say I'm better.
00:39:07.119 -->
00:39:08.719Oh, I'm way better than I used to be.
00:39:08.880 -->
00:39:09.440No, I don't know.
00:39:09.519 -->
00:39:10.719I think I'm more loose lips now.
00:39:11.119 -->
00:39:11.440Really?
00:39:11.599 -->
00:39:18.400I'm trying to see because I think a lot of people thought they know much about me more than, but now people get a little bit more.
00:39:18.719 -->
00:39:19.599I really don't know.
00:39:19.760 -->
00:39:20.719Honestly, you know what?
00:39:20.800 -->
00:39:24.079I think it is it's oversharing too soon.
00:39:24.559 -->
00:39:30.400I will say that because I overshare, like I tell y'all my business most of the time, and then I've had somebody I've overshare with.
00:39:30.480 -->
00:39:33.679You ever overshare and then you be like, I feel nonsense?
00:39:33.920 -->
00:39:35.920Yeah, they happened to be, I think, today.
00:39:36.000 -->
00:39:37.119That happened to me the other day.
00:39:37.199 -->
00:39:41.679I was like, oh my god, but I think those are lessons that you have to learn, right?
00:39:41.840 -->
00:39:44.400Yeah, I mine that video I made.
00:39:44.639 -->
00:39:46.639What you want to know something?
00:39:48.159 -->
00:39:49.360It was Cardi B.
00:39:49.599 -->
00:39:53.760It was like when you say you never gonna overshare it and then squish the video by Cardi B small.
00:39:53.840 -->
00:39:54.800See, you know I'm gonna do something.
00:39:55.199 -->
00:39:57.039Right, right, so you anyway.
00:39:57.840 -->
00:40:00.639Mine's is not doing something that I don't want to do.
00:40:00.880 -->
00:40:04.800Oh, like if I don't want to go out, I'm staying in a house.
00:40:04.960 -->
00:40:07.199If I don't want to go here, I'm not going.
00:40:07.360 -->
00:40:08.960I I had to learn that the hard way.
00:40:09.440 -->
00:40:09.920Baby.
00:40:10.159 -->
00:40:12.960I was out to five o'clock in the morning.
00:40:13.199 -->
00:40:15.440I knew I should have had my ass in the bed.
00:40:15.679 -->
00:40:17.519But just that we knew once I got married.
00:40:18.559 -->
00:40:20.000Like doing everything.
00:40:20.079 -->
00:40:25.920Like, I feel like at one point in my life, I people that was closest to me, I didn't miss anything.
00:40:26.079 -->
00:40:26.400Okay.
00:40:26.639 -->
00:40:32.400I don't care what they had, if it was a celebration, if it was their kids, it was I didn't miss anything.
00:40:32.480 -->
00:40:32.639Okay.
00:40:32.880 -->
00:40:34.639I felt like I needed to be there.
00:40:34.719 -->
00:40:37.039If if it was important to you, it was important to me.
00:40:37.360 -->
00:40:38.239What bond did you put?
00:40:39.039 -->
00:40:39.840I don't do it no more.
00:40:40.000 -->
00:40:40.320Okay.
00:40:40.480 -->
00:40:45.199Because if it goes back to whatever you give me now, that's what I give you.
00:40:45.519 -->
00:40:49.519If you don't show up for me, and I'm not even gonna really say me.
00:40:49.679 -->
00:40:51.519I it all goes back to my kids.
00:40:51.599 -->
00:40:58.400It's like if you don't show up for them, how I show up for you and yours.
00:40:58.800 -->
00:41:06.000Like I can handle the rejection, I can handle the people not showing up for me.
00:41:06.159 -->
00:41:12.719But when it trickle down to my kids and it affects them and they bring it to my attention, I'm I'm cooked.
00:41:12.800 -->
00:41:13.280It's cooked.
00:41:13.360 -->
00:41:17.440Now you situation is literally you just own my entire boundary.
00:41:17.679 -->
00:41:18.000It's done.
00:41:18.400 -->
00:41:20.719Yeah, I don't care about that in this world, but them three people at home.
00:41:20.800 -->
00:41:23.599Yes, I mean you can do whatever you want to me.
00:41:23.679 -->
00:41:25.840Yeah, but once they feel something, that's the end of it, right?
00:41:26.000 -->
00:41:26.719And they feel something.
00:41:26.960 -->
00:41:36.159But so the boundary I said that I think that was hard for me to learn or put in place was that supporting people who didn't support my kids.
00:41:36.400 -->
00:41:38.719But for me, I mean in any way.
00:41:38.880 -->
00:41:43.119In any way, I mean in any way, in the smallest way, I mean the small baby.
00:41:44.320 -->
00:41:45.760But you know why we do too much.
00:41:46.159 -->
00:41:50.320We do so much because I'm coming to your birthday party with a cake, I'm coming with this, I'm coming with that.
00:41:50.639 -->
00:41:52.480Everything, I'm doing everything.
00:41:53.280 -->
00:42:02.000And it's so crazy because my sister brought it to my attention that I lacked with her because I picked up with more people.
00:42:02.159 -->
00:42:12.320So, more things that I could be doing with my sister who watching me break my neck and my back for all these people around me, and they don't show up for me.
00:42:12.559 -->
00:42:16.320Once she got old enough to voice that to me, it was like, oh wow.
00:42:16.480 -->
00:42:19.280She was like, I couldn't get a rag because you was giving everybody else a rag.
00:42:19.440 -->
00:42:25.119Oh my god, I couldn't do this because you was do, and I'm her big sister, so it was like, wait, pause.
00:42:25.440 -->
00:42:26.880It really was like that.
00:42:26.960 -->
00:42:35.360Like I was ripping and running and doing and going for my friends and people in my circle, and she was watching me, so it's like, okay, she's tired.
00:42:35.440 -->
00:42:37.920She's doing this, she doing that for this person and that person.
00:42:38.000 -->
00:42:40.960So I'm not gonna ask her to do this for me.
00:42:41.119 -->
00:42:43.119I'm not gonna ask her to be there for me.
00:42:43.199 -->
00:42:50.719And it was like, wait, you watch me do this for everybody else, but then you let me slack, because in my eyes, that's what it is.
00:42:50.800 -->
00:43:01.760I'm slacking on you because I feel like when it's your sister or your brother or like it's not a big deal, so it's not really a big deal because you're shedding that more on the people who you around more.
00:43:01.840 -->
00:43:11.119So your friends, you around them more, you talk to them more, you so your siblings kind of get put on the back burner of that unless they really need you.
00:43:11.280 -->
00:43:14.719So it's like, okay, so this is me, because I'm not asking for help.
00:43:14.800 -->
00:43:14.960Right.
00:43:15.119 -->
00:43:16.400So of course she's not gonna ask.
00:43:16.800 -->
00:43:23.760That's a big, that's a big light shine on my story, maybe in the sense of like, I I mean, I talked about this my husband before.
00:43:24.079 -->
00:43:34.320There, there is people, and I mean friendships, not so siblings, but there are friendships that I had that I should have poured more into, but I was too busy being straight, spread so thin.
00:43:34.719 -->
00:43:36.079I was here, here, here.
00:43:36.159 -->
00:43:39.760And these were people I probably should have poured into more than these people, right?
00:43:39.840 -->
00:43:41.440So that is a lesson I'm learning right now.
00:43:41.679 -->
00:43:42.880Boundaries with that.
00:43:43.280 -->
00:43:44.320I I gave too much.
00:43:44.480 -->
00:43:45.679I gave I gave too much.
00:43:45.760 -->
00:43:47.199And you gave yourself then.
00:43:47.519 -->
00:43:47.679I did.
00:43:48.000 -->
00:43:51.840I I feel like you look at it now like you didn't deserve a pennies.
00:43:52.400 -->
00:43:53.599Okay, you didn't deserve half.
00:43:53.760 -->
00:43:54.639You didn't deserve none.
00:43:55.039 -->
00:43:56.400I gave you and it's like one.
00:43:56.880 -->
00:43:58.079I've not been your friend.
00:43:58.320 -->
00:43:59.599When you look back on your stories.
00:44:00.079 -->
00:44:04.800It's like all I did was give, give, give, give, give, and nobody never gave me nothing.
00:44:05.039 -->
00:44:11.519But I think the heart and part of that all is when you look at it and you still don't feel appreciated.
00:44:11.599 -->
00:44:17.199It's like 20, 30 years later, and it's like things still didn't change with these people.
00:44:17.360 -->
00:44:18.880Things are still the same.
00:44:19.119 -->
00:44:21.440And you still never gotta thank you.
00:44:21.599 -->
00:44:22.639You still never gotta.
00:44:22.960 -->
00:44:26.960Well, I know if nobody else was there for me, you was always there for me.
00:44:27.199 -->
00:44:32.320So I look at it like I don't care who I fell out with, who I don't talk to no more.
00:44:32.559 -->
00:44:34.639Nobody can say I was a bad friend to them.
00:44:34.880 -->
00:44:36.639Nobody can say I never showed up for them.
00:44:37.360 -->
00:44:39.599Nobody can never say I wasn't there for them.
00:44:39.760 -->
00:44:44.559I can say that, but nobody that was in my close circle can ever say that about me.
00:44:44.800 -->
00:44:55.039A friend, a boyfriend, a cousin, uh no, I gave all of Jennifer to anybody who I felt like I loved or I cared about.
00:44:55.119 -->
00:44:57.280And it's like they didn't give it too heavily on that.
00:44:57.440 -->
00:44:59.519I don't have anybody that can call and say that about me.
00:44:59.920 -->
00:45:00.800Yeah, not as all.
00:45:01.119 -->
00:45:03.360And it's so sad to feel like that.
00:45:03.519 -->
00:45:12.400I think when you get especially when you ain't getting what you deserve from that when you don't get and it's easy to for you to fall back from those people too.
00:45:12.559 -->
00:45:13.920It hurt more than it hurt though.
00:45:14.079 -->
00:45:20.960No, I ain't saying that, but it is easy for me to easy, it's easy for me to fall back once I realize what's happening, right?
00:45:21.119 -->
00:45:22.000Once I see what's happening.
00:45:22.320 -->
00:45:25.519Yes, once I realize what's happening, you no longer exist in my world.
00:45:25.679 -->
00:45:28.960I in the bathroom, but I'm going to grieve you for real.
00:45:29.199 -->
00:45:30.079I'm gonna grieve you for real.
00:45:31.119 -->
00:45:32.320You probably grieve you.
00:45:32.480 -->
00:45:35.039I was just talking about that, like you miss these people.
00:45:35.360 -->
00:45:36.320Oh, totally.
00:45:36.480 -->
00:45:39.039Like, I have a best friend that I've been friends with for years.
00:45:39.199 -->
00:45:43.440I I still grieve her some days, and we were kids in grade school.
00:45:43.519 -->
00:45:52.159We was I mean, friends in grade school, so and I still wake up most days sometimes and or uh have a thought, and I'll be like, I'm miss, I'm miss her.
00:45:52.960 -->
00:45:53.599And I still do that.
00:45:53.679 -->
00:45:55.039I tell a story about this particular person.
00:45:55.119 -->
00:45:59.280Like, oh my god, me and such and such was doing this, I don't have no hate in my hate for nobody, right?
00:45:59.920 -->
00:46:02.719And it and it does get sad because you still read them, you still read them.
00:46:03.039 -->
00:46:03.679You have your moments.
00:46:04.079 -->
00:46:19.039I have my moments where I think about particular times because you've had great times with these people, but then it's like when you think about the times of people not showing up for you, and it's just like I can no longer give myself to people who don't give me nothing in return.
00:46:19.280 -->
00:46:22.719It makes me really cherish the people that I have in my life.
00:46:22.880 -->
00:46:24.800Oh, Crystal, I just love you so much.
00:46:24.880 -->
00:46:27.119I just want to say it on the podcast.
00:46:27.519 -->
00:46:28.960I'm gonna say what I just do.
00:46:29.280 -->
00:46:30.559I just love you so much.
00:46:30.639 -->
00:46:31.440I just want to say it.
00:46:31.679 -->
00:46:33.760I just love you, you too, Jitty.
00:46:34.159 -->
00:46:37.599Listen, I love the fact that you really brought us together.
00:46:37.840 -->
00:46:39.440And so I do want to say this.
00:46:39.519 -->
00:46:40.960This is what I wanted to bring up.
00:46:41.440 -->
00:46:43.360So I be okay.
00:46:43.599 -->
00:46:47.920So I pray about everything, any everybody that comes into my life, right?
00:46:48.159 -->
00:47:03.760When I had lost all my friends, when right before I got married, or even in the midst of my marriage, my my my prayer was God, please bring people in my life that will accept me flaws and all, right?
00:47:03.840 -->
00:47:04.880That was part of my prayer.
00:47:04.960 -->
00:47:09.119I'm not gonna go into everything, but that can be real with me, like I'm real with people.
00:47:09.599 -->
00:47:18.239I want people in my life where if I come to you and say, Hey, you wildin, I need you to chill out, or what you tell was what you're saying.
00:47:18.559 -->
00:47:18.880I love it.
00:47:19.119 -->
00:47:19.519I love it.
00:47:19.840 -->
00:47:22.639Check me, please check me.
00:47:22.880 -->
00:47:23.599You're the all the time.
00:47:26.480 -->
00:47:26.880You're crazy.
00:47:27.280 -->
00:47:28.800No, check me, check me.
00:47:28.960 -->
00:47:30.480You check no, check me for real.
00:47:30.800 -->
00:47:32.719So I need why we all click.
00:47:32.960 -->
00:47:35.679I think because we do, we do, we tell each other, right?
00:47:36.079 -->
00:47:37.280We understand what it takes to go further.
00:47:37.519 -->
00:47:39.280So let me if you can't be checked, you're not gonna be able to do it.
00:47:39.519 -->
00:47:41.599Can I give y'all my can I give y'all y'all flowers, please?
00:47:42.079 -->
00:47:42.320Thank you.
00:47:42.480 -->
00:47:42.800Okay.
00:47:44.239 -->
00:47:59.119So when I went, I'm gonna be honest, when Chris um when Crystal reached out to me, because I initially, when she first sent the the initial first post about, you know, joining the podcast, I was like, Oh, don't want I want to do that.
00:47:59.199 -->
00:48:01.760Like, I want to do anything Crystal be doing, you know what I'm saying?
00:48:01.840 -->
00:48:04.559Because Crystal just she was at that first table I had.
00:48:04.800 -->
00:48:07.280Yes, she was the she's the bomb.com.
00:48:07.360 -->
00:48:08.800I feel like she asked the right questions.
00:48:08.880 -->
00:48:11.519I feel like everything is just always intentional, you know what I'm saying?
00:48:11.599 -->
00:48:14.079What you and so I was like, Oh, I can't do it.
00:48:14.159 -->
00:48:17.920But then it was just like I really couldn't do it, and I'm glad I didn't.
00:48:18.239 -->
00:48:25.039But when you reached out to me that second time, like even to come on as a guest, I was super excited, right?
00:48:25.119 -->
00:48:26.639I had a good time I came here.
00:48:26.719 -->
00:48:30.400I was like, Oh, I hope I'm you know, I kick it with everybody really well.
00:48:30.559 -->
00:48:33.199Like, I didn't want to get into it with nobody for real.
00:48:33.360 -->
00:48:34.239That's just me.
00:48:34.400 -->
00:48:36.400Like, I just want to have fun with everybody, right?
00:48:36.480 -->
00:48:38.400I want to get along with everybody, and I did.
00:48:38.480 -->
00:48:47.519I came, I initially had fun, we talked about it, and then when you asked me to come aboard, I said, Oh, really, Lord, what's this about?
00:48:47.760 -->
00:48:49.920You know, I said, so I prayed about it.
00:48:50.000 -->
00:48:53.199I said, Lord, if this is not what you want me to do, I said, please let me know.
00:48:53.360 -->
00:48:55.519You know how to maneuver things.
00:48:55.760 -->
00:49:01.280And the more and more I thought about it, the more and more I got comfortable with the idea, right?
00:49:01.679 -->
00:49:11.360And I had already started my little podcast on Facebook, you know, with the questions and talking, and people was just like, you need to get your own stuff, you give great advice, da-da-da-da-da.
00:49:11.599 -->
00:49:25.679And I was just like, Okay, I had already started that process, and then we talked, we talked about it, and then when I came on with you ladies, uh, you know, permanently, I just love y'all.
00:49:26.960 -->
00:49:28.320Y'all, let me tell y'all something.
00:49:30.000 -->
00:49:36.400I love y'all, like I really have a great sisterhood, and I'm gonna be honest, I don't have many friends anymore, right?
00:49:36.800 -->
00:49:44.480I have not, I have like, okay, you know how we said we we we get comfortable too quickly, right?
00:49:44.800 -->
00:49:48.960I don't think I had a choice here with y'all, right?
00:49:49.360 -->
00:49:55.679It was just like I came into their sisterhood, and it was just like I really didn't have to fit in, you know what I'm saying?
00:49:55.760 -->
00:49:58.159It was just like I fed into their mode, y'all.
00:49:58.719 -->
00:50:05.199And like y'all don't really understand, like, sometimes it's hard getting already an established girl.
00:50:05.440 -->
00:50:12.719I thought it was gonna be hard too, and it wasn't, and it was not, it was real seemed almost like a puzzle piece and the perfect fitness, yeah.
00:50:12.800 -->
00:50:13.679It was like, all right, cool.
00:50:14.000 -->
00:50:17.679Because I'm gonna be honest, I'll be feeling like I'm the perfect friend to have in your life.
00:50:18.639 -->
00:50:24.000It is clocky, and I'll be like any if you don't get along with me, something wrong with you.
00:50:24.079 -->
00:50:24.559You know what I'm saying?
00:50:24.639 -->
00:50:25.840That's that's how I look at it.
00:50:26.079 -->
00:50:33.840But I really mesh well with y'all, and I I when I say I enjoy myself every chance, like every moment when we talk in.
00:50:33.920 -->
00:50:37.119When I say our group chat is live, y'all, it is lit.
00:50:37.199 -->
00:50:37.599It's live.
00:50:39.039 -->
00:50:39.840It is crazy.
00:50:40.000 -->
00:50:40.639I love y'all.
00:50:40.719 -->
00:50:44.559I'm mad that Kira comes here to get these, but I'm hoping she listening.
00:50:44.880 -->
00:50:45.920Girl, I love you.
00:50:46.159 -->
00:50:46.800Get well.
00:50:47.280 -->
00:50:48.400We miss you, girl.
00:50:49.519 -->
00:50:51.440But I had a nice little break without arguing with her.
00:50:51.599 -->
00:50:52.239Don't do this.
00:50:52.559 -->
00:50:56.079All we do is argue with Kira all day.
00:50:56.239 -->
00:50:56.800And I love it.
00:50:58.000 -->
00:51:01.199Like, even with that, like it's just so lighthearted.
00:51:01.360 -->
00:51:03.360Like, even just everything.
00:51:03.519 -->
00:51:06.960Like, I love how we can like check each other, check in on each other.
00:51:07.119 -->
00:51:08.719Y'all, thank y'all for just welcoming me.
00:51:08.800 -->
00:51:10.719Crystal, thank you for having me and thinking of me.
00:51:11.519 -->
00:51:15.280And God orchestrated this, like, because I was closed off.
00:51:15.360 -->
00:51:17.280I'm not gonna lie, like, I didn't want no friends.
00:51:17.360 -->
00:51:18.960I I was closed off too.
00:51:19.039 -->
00:51:22.159I swear, it was just like what to somebody coming?
00:51:22.639 -->
00:51:24.480No, I'm not just closing their friends.
00:51:24.800 -->
00:51:25.360Okay, okay, yeah.
00:51:25.519 -->
00:51:28.079In general, like yeah, I just had gave up.
00:51:28.159 -->
00:51:35.599Like, I just don't want to be bothered because again, like I said, I give so much for me, and it's like, oh, I'm not doing this no more.
00:51:35.840 -->
00:51:38.079Like I am not doing this no more.
00:51:38.239 -->
00:51:46.480And I yeah, and and I'm and I'm learning that from you mean people, because you see how she talked to us, you're they're like, Oh, Chrissy, you too friendly.
00:51:46.559 -->
00:51:48.000You can't be just calling everybody your friend.
00:51:48.079 -->
00:51:50.639I had a few friends to me in that way.
00:51:50.880 -->
00:51:58.800I think I think Nadia told me one time when she brought somebody to the forefront, was like, you cannot be friends doing this with this because of this.
00:51:58.960 -->
00:52:01.360I was just like, Holy shit, I had no idea.
00:52:01.599 -->
00:52:07.440But because I'm be just too open, it's just like, hey y'all, yeah, everybody ain't a gross girl, so I had to learn at the hard way.
00:52:07.840 -->
00:52:13.039I I have not learned that the hard way, but I don't want to learn that lesson, so I wanted to start to be careful about all that.
00:52:13.199 -->
00:52:20.880Yeah, I don't know if y'all want to finish talking about our boundaries or if y'all want to jump into what here she goes, y'all come back.
00:52:21.039 -->
00:52:22.719Somebody read here a comment immediately.
00:52:23.519 -->
00:52:25.199Can y'all read what she said?
00:52:26.400 -->
00:52:30.320Y'all, what y'all come see the group chat group immediately after some people?
00:52:30.639 -->
00:52:31.280You know what?
00:52:32.000 -->
00:52:35.360Yeah, oh, I was about to say it and I can't say it.
00:52:35.440 -->
00:52:37.360I'm gonna save this for the group chat.
00:52:37.599 -->
00:52:41.360Listen, y'all, y'all can't say this too in the group chat, I swear.
00:52:42.079 -->
00:52:42.880I can't say this too.
00:52:43.280 -->
00:52:45.840I think we should just let them go so y'all can just hear those.
00:52:45.920 -->
00:52:46.400It's so hard.
00:52:46.719 -->
00:52:48.400We got another freaking 60 second party.
00:52:48.480 -->
00:52:49.519Should we save this one?
00:52:49.840 -->
00:52:50.559Yeah, yeah.
00:52:50.800 -->
00:52:51.280Let's save it.
00:52:51.360 -->
00:52:51.920We're gonna read it.
00:52:52.000 -->
00:52:52.159Fine.
00:52:52.320 -->
00:52:52.719Okay, go ahead.
00:52:53.119 -->
00:52:54.239No, because we got enough minutes.
00:52:54.320 -->
00:52:56.480Oh, we don't sure you sure?
00:52:56.639 -->
00:52:58.559Yeah, is it long?
00:52:59.119 -->
00:53:02.239It is, but it's go if it goes into a whole bunch more.
00:53:02.400 -->
00:53:06.000We need a lot more advice to give to this, so I think we should save it and table it for the next.
00:53:06.320 -->
00:53:08.000Can it last long?
00:53:08.079 -->
00:53:10.159Can it put it out there and let them sleep on it?
00:53:10.320 -->
00:53:12.159So, should I read it and let them sleep on it?
00:53:12.400 -->
00:53:15.840Read it, and then we come back and do the no, you can read it right now.
00:53:16.159 -->
00:53:20.480But y'all can't say nothing about it, and then y'all don't know how to listen because y'all read it and then y'all gonna go in the group chat.
00:53:20.559 -->
00:53:21.119Did y'all hear that shit?
00:53:21.199 -->
00:53:22.719Okay, no, then y'all gonna get to talking about it.
00:53:22.800 -->
00:53:27.840And how we go, yeah, we don't all y'all good advice is on the line, and not all y'all don't even know.
00:53:27.920 -->
00:53:30.400They'll put all the good advice in the group chat to get her like, yeah.
00:53:30.480 -->
00:53:31.760So, what I said to you last week.
00:53:32.000 -->
00:53:32.320What?
00:53:32.480 -->
00:53:35.599No, get on here and repeat it again.
00:53:36.000 -->
00:53:36.639I'm not telling you.
00:53:36.960 -->
00:53:42.960So that means we gotta come back immediately because people really be needing advice on these of the soundlight.
00:53:43.119 -->
00:53:45.360Well, we are doing our take turn week.
00:53:45.440 -->
00:53:47.280I skipped last week, yeah.
00:53:48.719 -->
00:53:50.559Just so y'all know, I owe no money.
00:53:50.719 -->
00:53:51.440I have been doing mine.
00:53:53.280 -->
00:53:55.280I've been doing mine, so I hope y'all been looking in.
00:53:55.840 -->
00:53:59.280Y'all, the booty that's sleeping on the couch, they owe about$20.
00:54:00.480 -->
00:54:03.199They owe money, they y'all owe money, and y'all need to pay out.
00:54:05.119 -->
00:54:07.599If Kieran don't do tomorrow, she's gonna be paying for the whole next episode.
00:54:08.079 -->
00:54:14.480Listen, I really have uh like a love-hate relationship with social media, like just make a quick stupid video.
00:54:14.960 -->
00:54:16.400Mind your once, you know.
00:54:16.480 -->
00:54:22.400I I I used to set it off over there, and I I I learned like you can do it nicely now.
00:54:22.639 -->
00:54:24.400But remember, we talked about this the last time.
00:54:24.719 -->
00:54:26.239You gotta practice, you can do it.
00:54:26.320 -->
00:54:26.800You can do it.
00:54:26.960 -->
00:54:28.159I don't know how to do it nicely.
00:54:28.239 -->
00:54:28.800That's the problem.
00:54:28.880 -->
00:54:32.159Like, Jim and I'm gonna call our to you in a minute because she better figure it out.
00:54:32.480 -->
00:54:38.079But I think it's part of you, just be like, I I can't give you a sturdy.
00:54:38.480 -->
00:54:41.760Listen, it ain't gotta be not long, it ain't gotta just I'm coming up with it.
00:54:41.840 -->
00:54:42.639I'm coming up with it.
00:54:42.719 -->
00:54:43.599I'm I'm coming up with it.
00:54:43.760 -->
00:54:44.719You got the Saturday.
00:54:44.800 -->
00:54:46.639I know today only Wednesday.
00:54:46.719 -->
00:54:47.199I got time.
00:54:47.360 -->
00:54:48.320I work better under pressure.
00:54:48.719 -->
00:54:50.000Listen, I've been doing good.
00:54:51.199 -->
00:54:52.079I see it real good.
00:54:52.239 -->
00:54:53.280Yes, I need it real good.
00:54:54.400 -->
00:54:55.840I told her, I said I'm so proud of you.
00:54:55.920 -->
00:54:56.239She killed it.
00:54:56.320 -->
00:54:57.280Yeah, she's killing it.
00:54:57.440 -->
00:54:58.159Thank you, yes.
00:54:58.800 -->
00:54:59.679Here's that dress, y'all.
00:54:59.840 -->
00:55:01.840Y'all can't see this, but Jen, what color is this dress?
00:55:02.000 -->
00:55:03.679Oh, gold and white.
00:55:03.840 -->
00:55:04.079Period.
00:55:04.159 -->
00:55:05.119Marlon, it's not blue.
00:55:05.199 -->
00:55:06.320Marlon sees blue and black.
00:55:06.880 -->
00:55:07.280Blue and black.
00:55:07.440 -->
00:55:08.000What color you see?
00:55:08.880 -->
00:55:09.920Blue and gold and white.
00:55:10.159 -->
00:55:10.480Thank you.
00:55:10.559 -->
00:55:12.800He sees blue and black, Tyria sees blue and black.
00:55:12.880 -->
00:55:14.159It's a few other people that see blue and black.
00:55:14.320 -->
00:55:14.559You know what?
00:55:14.639 -->
00:55:16.079I women, a lot of women.
00:55:16.880 -->
00:55:17.760He's about to get really upset.
00:55:17.920 -->
00:55:20.559Yeah, a lot of women was saying that that too.
00:55:20.800 -->
00:55:21.840People see GM.
00:55:21.920 -->
00:55:23.440When people see this dress, they see blue and black.
00:55:23.599 -->
00:55:25.280I think they said something about your brain.
00:55:25.519 -->
00:55:27.199It's something about everybody's brain.
00:55:27.440 -->
00:55:30.000You should see how many people was like, oh, blue and black, white and gold, blue and black.
00:55:30.320 -->
00:55:36.880They wonder if our brains on different sides of the I don't know what it is, but they over here, the blue and black people's brains stink like this.
00:55:37.199 -->
00:55:41.360He missed so ghost or the white and gold people brains think like this.
00:55:42.320 -->
00:55:43.920I think the crazy people see blue and black.
00:55:44.000 -->
00:55:46.239But if Cory see blue and black, oh please act film.
00:55:48.320 -->
00:55:48.880Weirdos.
00:55:49.280 -->
00:55:50.800They they might be on the same side.
00:55:51.119 -->
00:55:53.519Please for those people and something ain't right with y'all.
00:55:53.840 -->
00:55:56.239Man, I mean I'm so mad I missed that trip.
00:55:56.320 -->
00:55:57.119I'm still mad about that.
00:55:57.360 -->
00:55:57.920We had a bar.
00:55:58.159 -->
00:55:58.719We had a bar.
00:55:59.119 -->
00:55:59.760We gotta take it.
00:56:00.400 -->
00:56:02.159We're bringing a group check to the to the live.
00:56:02.480 -->
00:56:02.639Okay.
00:56:03.440 -->
00:56:08.880Okay, so uh well we got we working on some stuff still.
00:56:09.039 -->
00:56:11.199We are working on we back sometime in September.
00:56:11.360 -->
00:56:14.079Yeah, y'all make sure y'all looking at our videos and comment.
00:56:16.719 -->
00:56:18.159Talk back to us on these questions too.
00:56:18.639 -->
00:56:22.079I'm gonna I'm gonna try to log back on there and y'all look for GN on Saturday.
00:56:22.239 -->
00:56:23.199I'm I'm y'all.
00:56:23.360 -->
00:56:24.880Everybody look for G on Saturday.
00:56:24.960 -->
00:56:26.559Oh my god, please look for G on Saturday.
00:56:26.800 -->
00:56:28.800If not, she will be on TikTok for sure.
00:56:28.880 -->
00:56:29.599I'm gonna be on TikTok.
00:56:29.760 -->
00:56:31.840Can we look for G on TikTok on Saturday?
00:56:31.920 -->
00:56:32.719I'm gonna clip this part.
00:56:32.960 -->
00:56:34.800Look for GN on Saturday.
00:56:34.880 -->
00:56:35.840She's shaking ass.
00:56:36.159 -->
00:56:40.639She her and her husband are gonna be in the kitchen and they're gonna give y'all a whole bunch of crazy advice.
00:56:40.719 -->
00:56:45.440She's gonna be cooking food, she's gonna be cooking with Kaya and Corey gonna be walking past.
00:56:45.599 -->
00:56:46.559Corey gonna have all muscles.
00:56:46.639 -->
00:56:47.599They're gonna give y'all a real shape.
00:56:47.840 -->
00:56:48.639Corey might cook.
00:56:48.719 -->
00:56:49.599See, that's what I'm saying.
00:56:49.679 -->
00:56:52.480My household is gonna be different too because I ain't cooking the night.
00:56:52.639 -->
00:56:54.800Except I'm not cooking night.
00:56:57.840 -->
00:56:58.880You get two days out.
00:57:00.079 -->
00:57:00.800Okay, make sure y'all.
00:57:00.960 -->
00:57:04.079So before we get out of here, make sure y'all check Kira out on Thursday, which is tomorrow.
00:57:04.159 -->
00:57:06.159Kira with the booty gonna be shaking the ass all over the internet.
00:57:06.320 -->
00:57:07.599So make sure y'all tap in with Kira.
00:57:09.599 -->
00:57:10.800Do not do that to her.
00:57:10.960 -->
00:57:12.400She is not, don't do that.
00:57:12.639 -->
00:57:13.840Rakira is not.
00:57:14.320 -->
00:57:15.199She got a booty.
00:57:17.679 -->
00:57:20.559She's coming to y'all with some some real action tomorrow.
00:57:20.639 -->
00:57:22.400Not no shaking, no behind.
00:57:22.480 -->
00:57:23.840Don't listen to Chris though.
00:57:24.000 -->
00:57:26.000But look out for Kira video tomorrow.
00:57:26.079 -->
00:57:26.800And I I thought that's what I'm saying.
00:57:28.960 -->
00:57:29.280Right.
00:57:29.440 -->
00:57:30.320You heard me, Crystal.
00:57:32.400 -->
00:57:34.000Kira, get get get get with it.
00:57:34.159 -->
00:57:36.880I mean, uh Gian, you have Saturday.
00:57:37.039 -->
00:57:38.480Kira, you have 24 hours.
00:57:38.559 -->
00:57:39.679Get in the booth.
00:57:40.639 -->
00:57:41.760G and get in the booth.
00:57:41.920 -->
00:57:42.559Get it together.
00:57:42.960 -->
00:57:43.920Talk your shit.
00:57:44.719 -->
00:57:45.039I am.
00:57:45.360 -->
00:57:45.840All right, y'all.
00:57:45.920 -->
00:57:46.480Thanks for tuning us.
00:57:46.719 -->
00:57:47.119All right, y'all.
00:57:49.679 -->
00:57:50.800Show up for y'all friends.
00:57:50.960 -->
00:57:51.440Please do.
00:57:51.679 -->
00:57:51.840For real.
00:57:52.719 -->
00:57:54.639Set realistic boundaries and stand on them.
00:57:54.960 -->
00:57:56.159Be the friend that you want.
00:57:56.320 -->
00:57:57.920Be perfect.
00:57:58.159 -->
00:57:58.800Perfect advice.
00:57:58.960 -->
00:58:02.719That's how we gonna end the friend that you want.
00:58:03.039 -->
00:58:03.360Yes.
00:58:03.599 -->
00:58:04.480And be kind.
00:58:04.880 -->
00:58:05.119All right.
00:58:05.440 -->
00:58:06.079We're gonna keep talking.
00:58:06.159 -->
00:58:08.400We're gonna hang this up, but we'll see y'all next year next week.
00:58:08.559 -->
00:58:09.039Bye.
00:58:09.679 -->
00:58:10.719G always saying next week.
00:58:10.800 -->
00:58:11.920We don't know if we're gonna be here next week.
00:58:12.000 -->
00:58:12.559Oh, we are.
00:58:12.880 -->
00:58:14.159Oh my god, we still recording.
