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Welcome to the Purpose for Life podcast.
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I'm your host, Suzanne Roberts, where we interview people that are deeply connected to themselves living on purpose.
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And I'm thrilled to have here with us today Vincent Vandenbroek.
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Did I do it?
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That was literally it.
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Eight out of a ten.
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Eight out of a ten.
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Not bad.
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Not bad.
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And where are you residing right now?
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In are you in Belgium or Brussels?
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Where are you?
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Do you know Belgium?
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No.
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But you know it exists.
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It's not a magical place.
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Belgium does exist.
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But you're in Brussels, right?
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Yeah, in Belgium, which is by the way the capital of Brussels.
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Which is the capital of Belgium, sorry.
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Okay, great.
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So you're in Brussels.
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Thank you so much for being with us today.
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I would like to start with my first question is technically, you shouldn't be where you are right now because of something that happened to you.
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So can we talk about what happened to you?
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And basically, you're a living miracle.
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So let's start there.
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I always find it crazy and mind-blowing to be reminded of because factually, if I have to believe the medical team that took care of me when I got hit by a car 2024.
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So long story short, October 11, 2024, get hit by a car in a disgusting kind of way.
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So I fall under my window, rooftop.
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Person that finds me, found me 11 meters further, wasn't wearing any helmet, fell on my skull, get weeks into coma, months through rehab.
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And like the narrative uh when I was still in coma to my wife, family was at least your husband is probably not gonna make it.
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Start preparing the funeral.
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And then it was literally every, and even I forget often, like it was every day.
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Like I didn't go through the worst, like I was just sleeping for three weeks, but for them it was every day a lot of bad news, bit of good news, a lot of bad news again, a bit of good news.
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So it was every day waiting.
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Like, is he gonna wake up?
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Is he gonna wake up?
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And then I finally did.
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And the scene was apparently magical.
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So the doctor did, so I was uh so the day I woke up, already a couple of days before I started moving an arm, then opened my eyes, and every time they were like, Oh, and then the doctors would then break them down with now.
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That's normal.
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People in coma do that reflexes, and then the day I wake up, I have my eyes open for 30 minutes, 45 minutes, 60 minutes, 90 minutes, and then my wife calls a doctor in.
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The doctor does some tests, walks out of the room, calls in other doctors, nurses, therapists, they all in inside the room, they start jumping around screaming like he's awake, he's awake.
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They start speaking about a miracle already at that time because again, odds were at least against me.
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So oh wow.
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Do you remember waking up?
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Do you remember that scene?
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Yeah, I would I would have loved to, and uh, you know what?
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I hate not being able to tell people like it was like an epiphany, like you wake up like what you see in the movies, it was like okay, I woke up, but even those first two weeks, I was only in coma for three weeks, but those first two weeks after me waking up, I was in a bad place.
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I was not, I didn't have a notion of time.
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Like for me, um minutes.
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Um, I was complaining all the time.
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I was in a bad place, I could not walk, I could not talk, could not eat by myself, needed help for even the most basic stuff.
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I hallucinated a lot, also.
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So I always tell people that it was almost as if two months of my life got taken away from me.
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And after that, two months, what happened?
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Where did you go to rehab or what yeah, and you know, actually, it wasn't too much, it was um at least a month to six weeks that got taken away.
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So I walk into rehab were November the 20th.
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Okay, and uh and then rehabs, and that's another crazy story.
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Then rehab takes way shorter than the expectations again until where January, the end of January 2025, last beginning of last year.
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Because I think when we spoke before to meet each other, you said they had said it would be two years before you would get through rehab, and it was two months.
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Yeah, that's crazy.
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It was uh you have to know, and why did I say that it's a crazy story?
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Because on November the 21, when I walked into rehab, I told everyone around me on my birthday, I'm out of this place.
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With all the knowledge that I had about my case, the way I progressed, on my birthday, I'm out of this.
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And what do we all love to do is telling, nah, that's not gonna happen.
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Feet on the ground, stop being realistic, start being realistic, stop dreaming.
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Except for one person, my wife, she tells me it might be better to not link it to a specific date, but to things you did before the accent, and gonna need to relearn again.
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And then we always have two options.
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Option one, you let ego do the talking, and you'll be like, What?
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You're supposed to be on my side, and you complain, complain, complain.
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Option two, and I've always been option two kind of person.
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You listen and you act upon.
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So that same evening, I made a list of everything I did before the accident, and I have to relearn again.
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So I did social media, so I have to learn all the applications again.
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Uh I did the books for the business, so Excel, I made a whole list, and I started working on that list every time there were no visitors between therapy sessions.
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A couple of days later, I post my very first video on Instagram for the business.
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And I don't know if you know with CapCut, there's this logo thing in the end that you're supposed to delete.
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Um, which I didn't get a phone call phone call from my wife.
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I think uh I'm not even now Leila.
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What on earth did you just do?
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You just posted a video and you forgot to delete the logo and it's shit.
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Um, and then again you have two options you got ego to the talking, and you'll be like, Man, what?
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But you're supposed to be supporting me, you're supposed to be on my side, and it's my very first video, and you complain, complain, complain, or option two, you listen and you act upon a couple of days later.
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I post my second video, which was probably still shit, but I at least deleted the logo.
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There, where it gets really interesting is indeed it wasn't my birthday, but on the in the week of my birthday, I walked out of there.
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Where do you attest that to?
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Everything I just said, mindset, mindset, planning, not sticking to your mood, but to the plan, being convinced of what is considered delusional is gonna happen.
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Like when you're chasing something big in general, could be whatever, could be losing a lot of weight, could be some crazy business you want to start, could be the taking the podcast to 72 countries, could be getting your help back.
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You will always seem delusional to the people around you, and you know it, and that's okay until it works.
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So you have to trust yourself.
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Of course, always like every everything, by the way, in life always starts with yourself.
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That's the only thing.
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The only thing you can't control, by the way, in life is yourself, is what you do, what you say, what you feel.
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Nothing else.
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You cannot control your friends, you cannot control your family, you cannot control society, you cannot control the weather.
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What you can't control though is yourself.
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And how have you come to understand that?
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Oh, that that comes from a very young age already, and that's why the subtitle also of the book is How the Life You Build Becomes a Life That Saves You.
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Wait, what is the title, the whole title of your book?
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Everything feels impossible until it's done.
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I love that.
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That's exactly all that.
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And it goes, We're 2018, and I opened my very first restaurant, and people would ask me, uh, yeah, Vincent, what if it doesn't work?
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Um, no, it's gonna work.
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Yeah, but what if it doesn't?
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No, it's gonna work.
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Yeah, but what is plan B?
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There is none.
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And for me, surviving was the bare minimum.
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There was literally no plan B.
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I I remember telling myself, like, I'm not staying in this place for another five years.
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That ain't gonna happen.
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And it's not by praying or by wishing or by thinking that things happen.
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You have you're gonna have to execute, you're gonna have to do.
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That's by the way, and going back to the title, there's two the two most important words of the title are the feeling part, which is always connected to the outcome, which you will never be able to control.
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The impossible part, you will never be able to control it.
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Meaning it's not factual, it doesn't mean nothing.
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And done the doing part.
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What you can control though is doing, and right now we're 2026.
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We've been along for quite some time right now, human race, and the past has taught us enough that results always follow.
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Hard work always pays off.
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Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, nor next month, maybe not even next year, but one day when you keep on giving, you get you'll get that's right, that's so interesting.
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The person I interviewed before you said the same exact thing.
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Oh wow.
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Yeah, it was uh we were talking about like rather than the big success, like each action you take is a success.
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Right?
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And each success builds on the other success.
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So it's like rather than you know, thinking it's out here, it's the next moment, it's the next action.
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And it's staying the course because you have uh a passion, a vision, and a why, you know, and then you just keep going.
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And and you don't let I mean I think what's fascinating for me about your story is that there were outside predic predictions about whether you were gonna recover ever or not, or when you were gonna recover, and you're like, you're not letting that control you.
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Now you don't know what the outcome's gonna be of you deciding you're gonna learn Excel, that you're gonna learn programs again.
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You know, you don't really know what that outcome is gonna be, but you know if you don't take that action, you're not gonna know, right?
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And so you get to find out through taking the action.
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Suzanne, listen, you're gonna love this.
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There's the thing with not doing, like the negative impact of not doing daily is this literally, it's pretty tiny, like life will still be pretty okay, bills will still be paid, there will be people around you that will still like you, but the positive impact of you doing is this, you cannot even see it on the screen, and the only the only way you're gonna be able to see that is by doing, and that is by the way, why most of us stay over here because it's just enough, and we convince ourselves that we're good, but wait, Suzanne, wait until you saw you see this.
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I love that for those of you that are listening and not able to watch right now.
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His hands were very close together.
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And then when he talked about taking actions, it was like soaring to the heavens, right?
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And so that it created this space of possibility.
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I always say we're a little bit stingy with ourselves.
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We think things are good enough, and we can get complacent in like thinking that things are good enough, and those actions become generative towards a different future that is yet to unfold, right?
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Is that what you're saying?
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Yeah, life is most of the times, hey Suzanne, let me be real honest here, especially for you, me, you live in the you live in the states, I'm in Europe.
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Life is pretty decent already in a general kind of way.
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So being accepting that is yeah, of course, it's good enough.
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It's good enough.
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And you know what?
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For most of us, it's not.
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We just got so good in 2026 lying to ourselves, pretending you know what the only person you're fooling is yourself.
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Keep keep on keep on pretending, keep on lying to yourself.
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I can guarantee you one day, again, maybe not tomorrow, nor next week, maybe not even next year.
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One day you're gonna wake up with so much regret you're not ready for it.
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And one thing I'm afraid of is exactly that.
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Regret I that ain't gonna happen with me.
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I'm afraid of it.
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Is there any way that you think that you've changed because of the accident?
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Oh, not at all.
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Not at all.
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Really?
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But again, you're not able to do what I did if you weren't ready for exactly that.
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Going back to the title, how the life you built becomes a life that then saves you.
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Like I did a lot of things just because I thought it was the right thing to do, which then eventually helped me to go through the most difficult period of my entire life.
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What did change though is I became way more non-negotiable about certain things, like um, for example, I missed the four first birthdays of my sister daughters.
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That will never ever happen again.
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I remember, and this is practically almost before the accident, I remember opening the restaurant, and in the group chat that we have, she sent over some pictures of or videos of her being uh dressed like princesses, and I remember just falling into tears.
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I will never ever do that again.
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Never before before the accident, having dinner with my wife was a rare occasion.
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I'm not doing that again, I'm not doing that again neither anymore.
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We we eat together every single evening.
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Like spending time with the people I like, you know what?
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Problems that are not not that important, I'll manage them tomorrow.
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Or next week.
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So some of your go on just became my priorities changed, and they were already important before the accent, but again, actions speak louder than words.
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I put money where my mouth is right now.
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I love that.
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And what does authenticity mean to you?
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Oh, pretty simple.
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Again, not easy and nor difficult, but pretty simple.
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It's you looking at yourself in the mirror and being able to tell yourself you're living a true life.
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It means you are you being who you think you are.
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Authenticity is just being real when you take away the money, when you take away uh what your parents think about you, what your family expects you to do, what your friends expect you, Suzanne just being Suzanne by herself, is she who she thinks she is, who she wants to be.
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That's authentic authenticity.
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It's that simple, and you know what we all know.
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And I love and I love using examples that are easier to understand.
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It's like going to the gym.
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You have a personal training right now.
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We all know at the end of the workout if we went all in or not, right?
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Truly, you know.
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But what do we love to do?
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Take a picture in the gym, put it on Instagram, hoping for some likes, some encouragement.
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Which again is not a bad thing, need uh, but what you want to chase going back to anticity is you go into the gym and going all in every single time you go.
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Every single time you go, you go, stop pretending, please.
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Being authentic, you know what?
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It's but I I can tell you right now, you're authentic.
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There's there's a vibe, there's an energy, you just that it's there in the room.
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You know how many times I've heard the past couple of days like, oh, you seem authentic, and I do not even know those people.
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It's just when when the way, listen, when the way you move, the way you talk, what you talk about, what you do is just so aligned that's being authentic.
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Oh, you know what?
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I'm gonna give you even a better definition.
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When what you think what you say and what you do are aligned.
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Yeah.
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You're not performing or producing or thank you.
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Yeah.
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I really love what you said about the gym because working out is such a um metaphor for For are you giving everything that you have?
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And, you know, I I get trained by someone who's um doing like a professional jujitsu fight soon and he's training to be an MMA.
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And he doesn't look at me like I'm 73 years old.
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He watches me to see how much strength I have, and he just keeps giving me more weights.
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And I probably wouldn't go do those weights on my own, but he sees something.
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I mean, then I I feel excited because then I'm doing something I never thought I could do.
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Like I did squats holding a bar today for the first time with heavy weights, and I'm like, I'm doing it.
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What am I doing?
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Like I loved it.
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And but I think when you're talking about not having regrets, are we emptying ourselves fully?
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And in that, I think also it's a combination of are we being in alignment, which is actually efficiency.
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Because we're not wasting our energy trying to do, be, or say something that we're not, right?
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And then when we're in that alignment, are we taking action and giving everything we have so that we don't end up with regrets?
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So we don't live with complacency.
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Thank you.
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You know what?
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Again, I'll I'll really love using a sports metaphor.
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You just leave everything on the court.
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Yeah.
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You leave, you left everything on the court.
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There wasn't there there is no conversation about being able to do better.
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No, you just left everything on the court.
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And you know what?
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You might leave everything on the court and you might lose.
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That's right.
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So then I'm gonna give you even a better one.
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You do not need to win every game to win the season.
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Oh yeah, oh yeah, that's see in sports, all of a sudden that's accepted, normal.
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In real life, we love stigmatizing failure, and making mistakes is bad, and losing is not good, and judgment, we love j like.
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Come on, what are we doing?
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Please lose.
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You know what?
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In life, in sports, you'll lose more than you'll win, and you know what?
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That's okay.
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You might have a beautiful career while not having one every single game.
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Uh, again, hey, there's enough enough examples of Kobe Bryant, who died even way too early, right?
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Michael Jordan, LeBron James, Roger Federer, this uh Lionel Messi, Christiano Ronaldo.
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Do you think they won all their games?
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Did you think they won all of their seasons?
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No.
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But they put in the but they put in the time to practice.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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And that is what, and that is what matters.
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Suzanne, listen, uh, on this topic, I'm gonna give you an uh a last one because again, you're gonna love it.
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There's one thing that all high performance athletes all share around the world.
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Could be whatever tennis players, basketball players, hockey players, football players, athletes.
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Love for the game.
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Yes.
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Me myself, I truly love this thing called life.
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From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed, every single bit of it, the adversity, the challenge, the obstacles, the questions, the doubts, the espresso in the morning, the dinner at label with my wife, every single bit about it.
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There's a second thing they all share worldwide.
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They know losing is part of the game.
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Yes.
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Uh, a couple of months ago, not even uh two, three months ago, uh at Yopath, next year it was the World Cup.
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Considered the highest competition in your terms, soccer, football, in our terms.
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There's not a I can guarantee you, there's not a single player that got eliminated or even lost the final that told himself the day after, you know what?
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I'm done with this.
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I'm not doing this anymore.
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Right.
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Not a single one.
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No, how can I train better?
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How can I learn, right?
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How could I but Morocco is the perfect example?
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Uh months ago, it was the African Cup of Nations.
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They were so they hosted it and they were supposed to win it.
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They then did lose it.
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And you know what?
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A couple of months later, at the world, they did pretty decent, and that is ownership.
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It does not matter.
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You just do you live and you learn, you do better, and you give all you got.
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Thank you.
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We're gonna have to wind down for today.
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I could talk to you for a really long time, but we do have to wind down, and I love to ask my guests, what do you think the purpose for life is?
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Oh, you know what?
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And I encourage everyone to do this.
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Being able to tell yourself at the very last moment, at the end of your life, that you did everything you wanted to do and you said everything you wanted to say.
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What a beautiful life that I have.
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I love that.
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Well, I know that people can pre-order your books.
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So do you have a way for them to do that?
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We'll certainly put it in the link.
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But do you have a way to tell us how to do that or how people can get a hold of you?
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Oh, you can order everything feels impossible onto the exam right after listening to this already on Amazon.
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Okay.
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By the way, by the way, to anyone that loved this conversation, you absolutely, if I have to believe people that already read it, you're gonna love the book.
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It's an amazing story.
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I love that.
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Say the name of your book again.
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Everything feels impossible until it's done.
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Great, I love that.
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Um, and how can people get a hold of you?
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Oh, I'm on I'm on mostly on Instagram, but I'm on TikTok too.
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I'm on YouTube, I'm on LinkedIn with my real name, Vincent Venombroek.
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On social, it's Vincent in the kitchen.
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And by the way, I love talking about whatever, whenever.
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So if you feel like reaching out about something, please do.
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Please do.
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Awesome, thank you.
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It's been a pleasure having you today, and thank you all for listening again to Purpose for Life podcast, where we interview people who are deeply connected and living on purpose.
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I am your host, Suzanne Roberts.
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Thank you for being with us today.
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Welcome to the Purpose for Life podcast.
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I'm your host, Suzanne Roberts, where we interview people that are deeply connected to themselves living on purpose.
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And I'm thrilled to have here with us today Vincent Vandenbroek.
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Did I do it?
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That was literally it.
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Eight out of a ten.
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Eight out of a ten.
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Not bad.
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Not bad.
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And where are you residing right now?
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In are you in Belgium or Brussels?
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Where are you?
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Do you know Belgium?
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No.
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But you know it exists.
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It's not a magical place.
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Belgium does exist.
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But you're in Brussels, right?
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Yeah, in Belgium, which is by the way the capital of Brussels.
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Which is the capital of Belgium, sorry.
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Okay, great.
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So you're in Brussels.
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Thank you so much for being with us today.
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I would like to start with my first question is technically, you shouldn't be where you are right now because of something that happened to you.
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So can we talk about what happened to you?
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And basically, you're a living miracle.
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So let's start there.
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I always find it crazy and mind-blowing to be reminded of because factually, if I have to believe the medical team that took care of me when I got hit by a car 2024.
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So long story short, October 11, 2024, get hit by a car in a disgusting kind of way.
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So I fall under my window, rooftop.
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Person that finds me, found me 11 meters further, wasn't wearing any helmet, fell on my skull, get weeks into coma, months through rehab.
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And like the narrative uh when I was still in coma to my wife, family was at least your husband is probably not gonna make it.
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Start preparing the funeral.
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And then it was literally every, and even I forget often, like it was every day.
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Like I didn't go through the worst, like I was just sleeping for three weeks, but for them it was every day a lot of bad news, bit of good news, a lot of bad news again, a bit of good news.
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So it was every day waiting.
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Like, is he gonna wake up?
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Is he gonna wake up?
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And then I finally did.
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And the scene was apparently magical.
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So the doctor did, so I was uh so the day I woke up, already a couple of days before I started moving an arm, then opened my eyes, and every time they were like, Oh, and then the doctors would then break them down with now.
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That's normal.
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People in coma do that reflexes, and then the day I wake up, I have my eyes open for 30 minutes, 45 minutes, 60 minutes, 90 minutes, and then my wife calls a doctor in.
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The doctor does some tests, walks out of the room, calls in other doctors, nurses, therapists, they all in inside the room, they start jumping around screaming like he's awake, he's awake.
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They start speaking about a miracle already at that time because again, odds were at least against me.
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So oh wow.
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Do you remember waking up?
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Do you remember that scene?
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Yeah, I would I would have loved to, and uh, you know what?
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I hate not being able to tell people like it was like an epiphany, like you wake up like what you see in the movies, it was like okay, I woke up, but even those first two weeks, I was only in coma for three weeks, but those first two weeks after me waking up, I was in a bad place.
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I was not, I didn't have a notion of time.
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Like for me, um minutes.
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Um, I was complaining all the time.
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I was in a bad place, I could not walk, I could not talk, could not eat by myself, needed help for even the most basic stuff.
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I hallucinated a lot, also.
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So I always tell people that it was almost as if two months of my life got taken away from me.
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And after that, two months, what happened?
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Where did you go to rehab or what yeah, and you know, actually, it wasn't too much, it was um at least a month to six weeks that got taken away.
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So I walk into rehab were November the 20th.
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Okay, and uh and then rehabs, and that's another crazy story.
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Then rehab takes way shorter than the expectations again until where January, the end of January 2025, last beginning of last year.
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Because I think when we spoke before to meet each other, you said they had said it would be two years before you would get through rehab, and it was two months.
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Yeah, that's crazy.
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It was uh you have to know, and why did I say that it's a crazy story?
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Because on November the 21, when I walked into rehab, I told everyone around me on my birthday, I'm out of this place.
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With all the knowledge that I had about my case, the way I progressed, on my birthday, I'm out of this.
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And what do we all love to do is telling, nah, that's not gonna happen.
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Feet on the ground, stop being realistic, start being realistic, stop dreaming.
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Except for one person, my wife, she tells me it might be better to not link it to a specific date, but to things you did before the accent, and gonna need to relearn again.
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And then we always have two options.
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Option one, you let ego do the talking, and you'll be like, What?
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You're supposed to be on my side, and you complain, complain, complain.
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Option two, and I've always been option two kind of person.
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You listen and you act upon.
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So that same evening, I made a list of everything I did before the accident, and I have to relearn again.
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So I did social media, so I have to learn all the applications again.
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Uh I did the books for the business, so Excel, I made a whole list, and I started working on that list every time there were no visitors between therapy sessions.
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A couple of days later, I post my very first video on Instagram for the business.
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And I don't know if you know with CapCut, there's this logo thing in the end that you're supposed to delete.
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Um, which I didn't get a phone call phone call from my wife.
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I think uh I'm not even now Leila.
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What on earth did you just do?
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You just posted a video and you forgot to delete the logo and it's shit.
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Um, and then again you have two options you got ego to the talking, and you'll be like, Man, what?
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But you're supposed to be supporting me, you're supposed to be on my side, and it's my very first video, and you complain, complain, complain, or option two, you listen and you act upon a couple of days later.
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I post my second video, which was probably still shit, but I at least deleted the logo.
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There, where it gets really interesting is indeed it wasn't my birthday, but on the in the week of my birthday, I walked out of there.
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Where do you attest that to?
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Everything I just said, mindset, mindset, planning, not sticking to your mood, but to the plan, being convinced of what is considered delusional is gonna happen.
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Like when you're chasing something big in general, could be whatever, could be losing a lot of weight, could be some crazy business you want to start, could be the taking the podcast to 72 countries, could be getting your help back.
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You will always seem delusional to the people around you, and you know it, and that's okay until it works.
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So you have to trust yourself.
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Of course, always like every everything, by the way, in life always starts with yourself.
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That's the only thing.
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The only thing you can't control, by the way, in life is yourself, is what you do, what you say, what you feel.
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Nothing else.
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You cannot control your friends, you cannot control your family, you cannot control society, you cannot control the weather.
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What you can't control though is yourself.
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And how have you come to understand that?
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Oh, that that comes from a very young age already, and that's why the subtitle also of the book is How the Life You Build Becomes a Life That Saves You.
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Wait, what is the title, the whole title of your book?
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Everything feels impossible until it's done.
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I love that.
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That's exactly all that.
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And it goes, We're 2018, and I opened my very first restaurant, and people would ask me, uh, yeah, Vincent, what if it doesn't work?
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Um, no, it's gonna work.
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Yeah, but what if it doesn't?
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No, it's gonna work.
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Yeah, but what is plan B?
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There is none.
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And for me, surviving was the bare minimum.
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There was literally no plan B.
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I I remember telling myself, like, I'm not staying in this place for another five years.
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That ain't gonna happen.
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And it's not by praying or by wishing or by thinking that things happen.
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You have you're gonna have to execute, you're gonna have to do.
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That's by the way, and going back to the title, there's two the two most important words of the title are the feeling part, which is always connected to the outcome, which you will never be able to control.
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The impossible part, you will never be able to control it.
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Meaning it's not factual, it doesn't mean nothing.
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And done the doing part.
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What you can control though is doing, and right now we're 2026.
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We've been along for quite some time right now, human race, and the past has taught us enough that results always follow.
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Hard work always pays off.
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Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, nor next month, maybe not even next year, but one day when you keep on giving, you get you'll get that's right, that's so interesting.
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The person I interviewed before you said the same exact thing.
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Oh wow.
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Yeah, it was uh we were talking about like rather than the big success, like each action you take is a success.
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Right?
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And each success builds on the other success.
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So it's like rather than you know, thinking it's out here, it's the next moment, it's the next action.
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And it's staying the course because you have uh a passion, a vision, and a why, you know, and then you just keep going.
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And and you don't let I mean I think what's fascinating for me about your story is that there were outside predic predictions about whether you were gonna recover ever or not, or when you were gonna recover, and you're like, you're not letting that control you.
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Now you don't know what the outcome's gonna be of you deciding you're gonna learn Excel, that you're gonna learn programs again.
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You know, you don't really know what that outcome is gonna be, but you know if you don't take that action, you're not gonna know, right?
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And so you get to find out through taking the action.
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Suzanne, listen, you're gonna love this.
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There's the thing with not doing, like the negative impact of not doing daily is this literally, it's pretty tiny, like life will still be pretty okay, bills will still be paid, there will be people around you that will still like you, but the positive impact of you doing is this, you cannot even see it on the screen, and the only the only way you're gonna be able to see that is by doing, and that is by the way, why most of us stay over here because it's just enough, and we convince ourselves that we're good, but wait, Suzanne, wait until you saw you see this.
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I love that for those of you that are listening and not able to watch right now.
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His hands were very close together.
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And then when he talked about taking actions, it was like soaring to the heavens, right?
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And so that it created this space of possibility.
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I always say we're a little bit stingy with ourselves.
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We think things are good enough, and we can get complacent in like thinking that things are good enough, and those actions become generative towards a different future that is yet to unfold, right?
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Is that what you're saying?
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Yeah, life is most of the times, hey Suzanne, let me be real honest here, especially for you, me, you live in the you live in the states, I'm in Europe.
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Life is pretty decent already in a general kind of way.
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So being accepting that is yeah, of course, it's good enough.
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It's good enough.
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And you know what?
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For most of us, it's not.
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We just got so good in 2026 lying to ourselves, pretending you know what the only person you're fooling is yourself.
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Keep keep on keep on pretending, keep on lying to yourself.
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I can guarantee you one day, again, maybe not tomorrow, nor next week, maybe not even next year.
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One day you're gonna wake up with so much regret you're not ready for it.
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And one thing I'm afraid of is exactly that.
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Regret I that ain't gonna happen with me.
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I'm afraid of it.
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Is there any way that you think that you've changed because of the accident?
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Oh, not at all.
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Not at all.
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Really?
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But again, you're not able to do what I did if you weren't ready for exactly that.
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Going back to the title, how the life you built becomes a life that then saves you.
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Like I did a lot of things just because I thought it was the right thing to do, which then eventually helped me to go through the most difficult period of my entire life.
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What did change though is I became way more non-negotiable about certain things, like um, for example, I missed the four first birthdays of my sister daughters.
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That will never ever happen again.
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I remember, and this is practically almost before the accident, I remember opening the restaurant, and in the group chat that we have, she sent over some pictures of or videos of her being uh dressed like princesses, and I remember just falling into tears.
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I will never ever do that again.
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Never before before the accident, having dinner with my wife was a rare occasion.
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I'm not doing that again, I'm not doing that again neither anymore.
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We we eat together every single evening.
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Like spending time with the people I like, you know what?
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Problems that are not not that important, I'll manage them tomorrow.
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Or next week.
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So some of your go on just became my priorities changed, and they were already important before the accent, but again, actions speak louder than words.
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I put money where my mouth is right now.
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I love that.
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And what does authenticity mean to you?
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Oh, pretty simple.
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Again, not easy and nor difficult, but pretty simple.
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It's you looking at yourself in the mirror and being able to tell yourself you're living a true life.
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It means you are you being who you think you are.
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Authenticity is just being real when you take away the money, when you take away uh what your parents think about you, what your family expects you to do, what your friends expect you, Suzanne just being Suzanne by herself, is she who she thinks she is, who she wants to be.
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That's authentic authenticity.
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It's that simple, and you know what we all know.
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And I love and I love using examples that are easier to understand.
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It's like going to the gym.
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You have a personal training right now.
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We all know at the end of the workout if we went all in or not, right?
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Truly, you know.
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But what do we love to do?
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Take a picture in the gym, put it on Instagram, hoping for some likes, some encouragement.
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Which again is not a bad thing, need uh, but what you want to chase going back to anticity is you go into the gym and going all in every single time you go.
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Every single time you go, you go, stop pretending, please.
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Being authentic, you know what?
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It's but I I can tell you right now, you're authentic.
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There's there's a vibe, there's an energy, you just that it's there in the room.
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You know how many times I've heard the past couple of days like, oh, you seem authentic, and I do not even know those people.
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It's just when when the way, listen, when the way you move, the way you talk, what you talk about, what you do is just so aligned that's being authentic.
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Oh, you know what?
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I'm gonna give you even a better definition.
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When what you think what you say and what you do are aligned.
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Yeah.
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You're not performing or producing or thank you.
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Yeah.
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I really love what you said about the gym because working out is such a um metaphor for For are you giving everything that you have?
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And, you know, I I get trained by someone who's um doing like a professional jujitsu fight soon and he's training to be an MMA.
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And he doesn't look at me like I'm 73 years old.
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He watches me to see how much strength I have, and he just keeps giving me more weights.
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And I probably wouldn't go do those weights on my own, but he sees something.
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I mean, then I I feel excited because then I'm doing something I never thought I could do.
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Like I did squats holding a bar today for the first time with heavy weights, and I'm like, I'm doing it.
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What am I doing?
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Like I loved it.
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And but I think when you're talking about not having regrets, are we emptying ourselves fully?
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And in that, I think also it's a combination of are we being in alignment, which is actually efficiency.
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Because we're not wasting our energy trying to do, be, or say something that we're not, right?
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And then when we're in that alignment, are we taking action and giving everything we have so that we don't end up with regrets?
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So we don't live with complacency.
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Thank you.
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You know what?
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Again, I'll I'll really love using a sports metaphor.
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You just leave everything on the court.
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Yeah.
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You leave, you left everything on the court.
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There wasn't there there is no conversation about being able to do better.
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No, you just left everything on the court.
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And you know what?
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You might leave everything on the court and you might lose.
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That's right.
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So then I'm gonna give you even a better one.
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You do not need to win every game to win the season.
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Oh yeah, oh yeah, that's see in sports, all of a sudden that's accepted, normal.
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In real life, we love stigmatizing failure, and making mistakes is bad, and losing is not good, and judgment, we love j like.
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Come on, what are we doing?
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Please lose.
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You know what?
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In life, in sports, you'll lose more than you'll win, and you know what?
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That's okay.
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You might have a beautiful career while not having one every single game.
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Uh, again, hey, there's enough enough examples of Kobe Bryant, who died even way too early, right?
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Michael Jordan, LeBron James, Roger Federer, this uh Lionel Messi, Christiano Ronaldo.
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Do you think they won all their games?
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Did you think they won all of their seasons?
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No.
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But they put in the but they put in the time to practice.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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And that is what, and that is what matters.
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Suzanne, listen, uh, on this topic, I'm gonna give you an uh a last one because again, you're gonna love it.
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There's one thing that all high performance athletes all share around the world.
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Could be whatever tennis players, basketball players, hockey players, football players, athletes.
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Love for the game.
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Yes.
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Me myself, I truly love this thing called life.
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From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed, every single bit of it, the adversity, the challenge, the obstacles, the questions, the doubts, the espresso in the morning, the dinner at label with my wife, every single bit about it.
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There's a second thing they all share worldwide.
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They know losing is part of the game.
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Yes.
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Uh, a couple of months ago, not even uh two, three months ago, uh at Yopath, next year it was the World Cup.
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Considered the highest competition in your terms, soccer, football, in our terms.
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There's not a I can guarantee you, there's not a single player that got eliminated or even lost the final that told himself the day after, you know what?
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I'm done with this.
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I'm not doing this anymore.
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Right.
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Not a single one.
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No, how can I train better?
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How can I learn, right?
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How could I but Morocco is the perfect example?
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Uh months ago, it was the African Cup of Nations.
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They were so they hosted it and they were supposed to win it.
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They then did lose it.
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And you know what?
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A couple of months later, at the world, they did pretty decent, and that is ownership.
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It does not matter.
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You just do you live and you learn, you do better, and you give all you got.
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Thank you.
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We're gonna have to wind down for today.
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I could talk to you for a really long time, but we do have to wind down, and I love to ask my guests, what do you think the purpose for life is?
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Oh, you know what?
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And I encourage everyone to do this.
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Being able to tell yourself at the very last moment, at the end of your life, that you did everything you wanted to do and you said everything you wanted to say.
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What a beautiful life that I have.
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I love that.
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Well, I know that people can pre-order your books.
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So do you have a way for them to do that?
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We'll certainly put it in the link.
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But do you have a way to tell us how to do that or how people can get a hold of you?
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Oh, you can order everything feels impossible onto the exam right after listening to this already on Amazon.
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Okay.
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By the way, by the way, to anyone that loved this conversation, you absolutely, if I have to believe people that already read it, you're gonna love the book.
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It's an amazing story.
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I love that.
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Say the name of your book again.
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Everything feels impossible until it's done.
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Great, I love that.
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Um, and how can people get a hold of you?
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Oh, I'm on I'm on mostly on Instagram, but I'm on TikTok too.
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I'm on YouTube, I'm on LinkedIn with my real name, Vincent Venombroek.
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On social, it's Vincent in the kitchen.
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And by the way, I love talking about whatever, whenever.
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So if you feel like reaching out about something, please do.
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Please do.
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Awesome, thank you.
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It's been a pleasure having you today, and thank you all for listening again to Purpose for Life podcast, where we interview people who are deeply connected and living on purpose.
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I am your host, Suzanne Roberts.
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