ÜBER DIESE EPISODE
In this episode, we talk about something that comes up all the time in our DMs and real-life conversations: mom friends. How to find them, why they matter so much, and why it can feel surprisingly vulnerable (and awkward) to even try.
This conversation goes exactly where real mom conversations go — a little all over the place. We talk about library story hours, swim lessons, group chats that quietly change your postpartum experience, and the friendships that don’t look like a “group” but still end up being everything you need in a season.
We also talk honestly about how weird it can feel to put yourself out there as an adult, how becoming a mom shifts the way you think about friendship, and why not every mom friend has to be your best friend to still matter.
If you’ve ever left an interaction thinking, “That felt really nice… should I have asked for her number?” — this episode is for you.
✨ What We End Up Talking About
→ Why making mom friends feels more vulnerable than we expected
→ What “finding your mom group” actually looks like in real life (and why it’s usually not one tight circle)
→ How everyday places — story hour, swim lessons, school pickup — become connection points
→ Why texts can be lifesaving, even if you never hang out in person
→ Having different friends for different needs (and letting that be okay)
→ Getting past the awkward “are we friends now?” moment
→ Differences in risk tolerance, judgment, and letting kids be kids when moms get together
🧠 The Thing We Keep Coming Back To: You don’t need more friends.
You need connection that fits the season you’re in. Some mom friends are for advice. Some are for venting. Some are for sending pictures at 2am. Some are just for a really good conversation once a week. And a lot of the time, it starts smaller and simpler than we think.
💛 A Gentle Reminder: You’re not bad at making friends.
And you don’t have to wait until you find the “perfect” group to feel less alone.
Sometimes it really does start with: “How old is yours?”
📣 Connect With Us
Rachel on Instagram: @regulatingwithrachel
The podcast on Instagram: @judgment_not_judgmental
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