Gentle Systems and Tiny Supports: For Brains That Carry A Lot (aka Neurodivergence, Perimenopause & Practical Magic)

In this deeply validating and practical episode, Rachel Inabinet and Clair Poletti explore the quiet, often invisible work of navigating the world with a brain that’s carrying a lot. Whether it’s neurodivergence, hormonal shifts, stress, or simply modern life, they unpack the power of tiny supports and gentle systems that make daily functioning more possible and more humane.

The conversation highlights:

• Why traditional productivity systems fail and who they leave out
• Gentle systems vs. rigid structures: designing support that works with your brain, not against it
• Tiny supports as “practical magic:” cues, rituals, and micro-adjustments that reduce friction
• Shame vs. support: moving from self-judgment to self-compassion
• Leadership implications: how teams and organizations can better support diverse brains

This episode is both a permission slip and a toolkit: you don’t need more discipline, rather, you need better support.

Reflection Prompts:

1. Where are you still using shame in places where support might work better?
2. What’s one small system or cue that genuinely helps your brain function better?
3. What’s one thing you could make easier instead of harder this week?
4. What support have you resisted because you thought you “shouldn’t need it?”

Keep Soaring with Additional Resources:

• Buy the book! ADHD, Unpacked by Alex Connor & James Brown
• Buy the book! How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis LPC
• Buy the book! How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe
• Sign up for Dragonhood Coaching or any of our other services! https://www.dragonhood.world