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In this episode of EFT Tapping Junction, you are going
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to learn how to combine EFT with value-based affirmations, why
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you should do that, and how you will benefit. Hello,
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Stephen Carter, your host for EFT Tapping Junction. I do
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thank you for joining me. If you use emotional freedom techniques,
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thought field therapy, or other tapping protocol to help others
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or for your own personal growth, this show is for you.
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In brief introduction, for more than four decades, I've worked
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with thousands of clients to help them achieve healthier, happier,
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more productive lives using an array of methods to include,
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of course, emotional freedom techniques, thought field therapy, neuro-linguistic programming, hypnosis, meditation,
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and multiple other methods. To learn more about my background,
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to include the method in which I have certifications, visit
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us at StressReliefRadio.com. One of my other podcasts is Positive
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Word Power. A few weeks ago, I released an episode
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entitled Use the Power of Value-Based Affirmations for More Success.
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Listeners to that show typically are not EFT practitioners. They
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tend to be focused on goal achievement for personal, professional,
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or other purposes. As an EFT practitioner, you have the
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ability to apply value-based affirmations in your life far more
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effectively than the rest of the world. Using value-based affirmations
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is a powerful pathway to success, When you combine it
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with emotional freedom techniques or other meridian-based methods, you can
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supercharge your results. With value-based affirmations, rather than focusing primarily
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on what we want to have to achieve or to feel,
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A value-based affirmation focuses on the kind of person you
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want to be and the values you want to express
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through your behavior. Values, of course, are qualities or principles
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that are important to you. They may encompass kindness, honesty, courage, Compassion, respect, curiosity, responsibility, forgiveness.
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A conventional affirmation might be something like, I am successful.
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I have the capacity to achieve. Your value-based affirmation could
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be something like, I choose to approach my work with
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perseverance and integrity. The first affirmation statement focuses on an outcome.
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The second focuses on a value that is within your control.
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A standard affirmation leads the way to a physical, emotional,
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or perhaps a financial end goal. A value-based affirmation points
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the way to living a virtuous and happy life. With
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value-based affirmations, you're identifying the way you can achieve the
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outcome that is consistent with your principles and with your values.
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To begin your step-by-step values-based affirmations with EFT, choose the
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value that you would like as your North Star. Appropriate
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values here could be kindness, Courage, patience, integrity. A key
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question here, what quality do I want to bring to
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my life more consistently? As an example, let's choose patience.
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Your next step, define what the value means behaviorally. Define
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what that value means behaviorally. You're not looking for some
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abstract value in and of itself. Your question here, if
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I were actually living according to this value, what would
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I be doing differently? If I were actually living according
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to this value, what would I be doing differently? If
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your outcome goal here is to be more patient, The
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answer to this question could be, I want to listen
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without interrupting. I will give other people time to respond.
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I'll be less critical of my own mistakes. This is
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a big one. I will be less critical of my
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own mistakes. I'll pause before reacting when I'm frustrated. Your
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value has now become something you can observe. You can see, feel, hear,
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or otherwise evaluate in a sensory way. Your next step,
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identify a situation that challenges your chosen value. Identify a
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situation that challenges your value. Bring to mind a specific
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upcoming or a recent situation. For example, my co-worker is
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constantly interrupting me and I become irritated. Or my significant
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other doesn't seem to really pay attention to me when
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I speak. On the SUD scale, 0 to 10, rate
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your level of irritation. Let's say it's a 7 out
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of 10. emotions being what they are, the value-based goal
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isn't necessarily to eliminate the irritation completely. Although, if you can,
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of course, that would be absolutely wonderful. With this, we're
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identifying the emotional obstacle that could interfere with acting in
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accordance with your chosen value. Your next question, what makes
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it difficult for me to live this value in this situation?
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What makes it difficult for me to live this value
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in this situation? After you ask the question, go silent.
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Allow your subconscious to bring one or more difficulties to
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your awareness. It could be, I feel disrespected. I want
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to get even. It just feels that nobody listens to me.
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I get frustrated. I don't have time for this. I'm
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afraid that if I'm patient, people will take advantage of me.
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Choose the most emotionally charged statement. Let's say, for example,
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you choose, if I don't react immediately, people will take
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advantage of me. That is the reaction to begin your
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tapping process. You're going to begin with the obstacle, not
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the positive affirmation. You're going to begin with the obstacle,
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not the positive affirmation. Your setup statement could be something like,
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even though I'm really irritated when people interrupt me and
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part of me wants to react immediately, I acknowledge that
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this is how I'm feeling right now. You could add
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here or it could be your setup statement. Even though
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I want to defend myself, I choose to be open
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and respond in a way that is consistent with the
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person I choose to be. You move to your eyebrow point.
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Tap the eyebrow point. This is irritation. I'm so irritated
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when this happens. Side of the eye. I don't like
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being interrupted. Under the eye. Part of me wants to react.
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Under the nose. I feel disrespected. Chin. This is frustration.
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This is frustrating. Collarbone. This urge to react. Under the arm.
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What if I could pause? Top of the head. And
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choose how I respond. What if I could pause and
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choose how I respond? Allow yourself a loving in and
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an extended out breath. After tapping through one round, reassess
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the emotional intensity. If it's above a two, conduct another round.
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If it is a two or less, do a floor-to-ceiling
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eye roll while tapping the gamut spot. You can also
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do the floor-to-ceiling eye roll using the karate chop point
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as well. For most people, the gamut spot is the
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better choice. You're tapping in that gamut spot. Bring your
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eyes all the way to the floor. And as you're inhaling,
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allow the eyes to come up, up, up, up, to
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the count of 10. Close your eyes, hold for a moment,
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and then exhale to Going down 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9,
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and 10. Switch hands. Tap the gamut spot on the
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opposite hand. Send your eyes down to the floor. Begin
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at the floor and raise the eyes as you're tapping.
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Keep the head straight. Close your eyes. Open your eyes
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and bring the eyes down. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Yawn, sigh, stretch, oh,
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and say the word peace. Now reassess the emotional intensity
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on what you identified as your reactions. Once you've worked
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through all of the obstacles, it's now time to introduce
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the value. Recall that value here for our demonstration is patience.
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You're going to begin another tapping round. Your setup statement,
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I choose patience. I choose patience. I can pause before
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I respond. I can pause before I respond. I can
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listen without immediately reacting. I can be patient without being passive.
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I can respect myself and still treat others with patience.
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I choose to respond according to my value. I choose
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to respond according to my value. We are now going
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to convert the affirmation into a behavioral commitment. This is
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a key step in this entire process. You and I
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will convert the affirmation into a behavioral commitment. One important question,
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what is one specific action I can take today that
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demonstrates this value? What is one specific action I can
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take today that is going to demonstrate this value? Run
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scenarios in your mind as to how you're going to
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incorporate this value into a given problematic situation. One idea
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could be, the next time my co-worker interrupts me, I
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will take one breath before responding. See yourself in your
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mind's eye acting that way. Now tap while visualizing this
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desired behavior. As you tap, you're going to mentally rehearse
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the situation and your response. Imagine your coworker interrupts you.
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You notice the reaction beginning. Then imagine yourself bringing in
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a loving in-breath, holding for a moment and exhaling deeply.
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You're rehearsing how you're going to respond in alignment with
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your chosen value. As you're visualizing the scenario, just tap
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through the tapping points. Finish with your values-based affirmation. I
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choose patience and allow myself and others the time needed
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to grow. I choose patience. Tap through the points, repeating,
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I choose patience. I choose to pause. I choose to listen.
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I choose to respond rather than react. I choose behavior
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consistent with my values. I can practice patience one moment
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at a time. Finally, you're going to want to anchor
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the new chosen value to a physical cue. Allow one
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slow breath and touch your thumb and your index finger together.
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Feel the relaxation flow through your body. This allows you
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to pause your reaction before reacting. Let that anchor go.
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Repeat it again. Bring the thumb and index finger together.
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Feel yourself, see yourself pausing in your visualized situation. Feel
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the relaxation through your body. And then slowly release the
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thumb and index finger. Repeat that three more times. And
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in the situation with a coworker, as an example, when
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you see your coworker approaching, Fire your anchor, bring your
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thumb and index finger together, feel yourself relax ahead of
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that potential problematic conversation. Over the next few days, repeat
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the anchoring process and make it a tool you can
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use every day, not only for your co-worker situation, but
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any time that you need patience. You will, of course,
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adjust this process to align with your chosen value. Bringing
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all this together, your 10-part sequence is choose the value.
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What quality do I want to express? Number two, define
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the behavior. What would this value look like in action?
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Number three, identify the trigger. What situation makes this difficult?
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Number four, rate the emotional intensity on the SUDS 0
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to 10 scale. Number five, tap on the obstacle. Even
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though I feel blank, I acknowledge this reaction. Number six,
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reduce or process the emotional charge. Tap until the intensity
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becomes more manageable, preferably at two or less. Number seven,
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introduce the value. I choose and insert your value. Number eight,
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create a specific behavioral intention. When this happens, I will.
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Number nine, Tap while mentally rehearsing the behavior. You do
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this by imagining the trigger. In the example that we cited,
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you imagine the trigger, the pause, and your value's consistent response.
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Number 10, use the affirmation as a daily cue. I choose,
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insert the value. In the next situation where I have
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an opportunity to practice it, those are your 10 steps.
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I've created a document using five affirmations for values that
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you likely hold. Those values are kindness, courage, patience, integrity,
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and gratitude. I've identified a beginning affirmation for you to consider,
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and I've identified the behavioral commitment that pairs very nicely
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with that affirmation and with the value. The guide also
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contains the step-by-step process that we shared in this episode.
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If you would like a copy of this guide, create
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an email with the subject line EFT Affirmations Guide, and
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email that to me at cartermethod at gmail.com. You can
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leave the body of the email blank. I will send
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Stephen Carter, wishing for you and your loved ones blessings
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in abundance.
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In this episode of EFT Tapping Junction, you are going
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to learn how to combine EFT with value-based affirmations, why
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you should do that, and how you will benefit. Hello,
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Stephen Carter, your host for EFT Tapping Junction. I do
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thank you for joining me. If you use emotional freedom techniques,
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thought field therapy, or other tapping protocol to help others
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or for your own personal growth, this show is for you.
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In brief introduction, for more than four decades, I've worked
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with thousands of clients to help them achieve healthier, happier,
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more productive lives using an array of methods to include,
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of course, emotional freedom techniques, thought field therapy, neuro-linguistic programming, hypnosis, meditation,
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and multiple other methods. To learn more about my background,
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to include the method in which I have certifications, visit
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us at StressReliefRadio.com. One of my other podcasts is Positive
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Word Power. A few weeks ago, I released an episode
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entitled Use the Power of Value-Based Affirmations for More Success.
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Listeners to that show typically are not EFT practitioners. They
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tend to be focused on goal achievement for personal, professional,
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or other purposes. As an EFT practitioner, you have the
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ability to apply value-based affirmations in your life far more
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effectively than the rest of the world. Using value-based affirmations
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is a powerful pathway to success, When you combine it
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with emotional freedom techniques or other meridian-based methods, you can
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supercharge your results. With value-based affirmations, rather than focusing primarily
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on what we want to have to achieve or to feel,
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A value-based affirmation focuses on the kind of person you
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want to be and the values you want to express
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through your behavior. Values, of course, are qualities or principles
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that are important to you. They may encompass kindness, honesty, courage, Compassion, respect, curiosity, responsibility, forgiveness.
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A conventional affirmation might be something like, I am successful.
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I have the capacity to achieve. Your value-based affirmation could
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be something like, I choose to approach my work with
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perseverance and integrity. The first affirmation statement focuses on an outcome.
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The second focuses on a value that is within your control.
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A standard affirmation leads the way to a physical, emotional,
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or perhaps a financial end goal. A value-based affirmation points
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the way to living a virtuous and happy life. With
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value-based affirmations, you're identifying the way you can achieve the
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outcome that is consistent with your principles and with your values.
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To begin your step-by-step values-based affirmations with EFT, choose the
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value that you would like as your North Star. Appropriate
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values here could be kindness, Courage, patience, integrity. A key
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question here, what quality do I want to bring to
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my life more consistently? As an example, let's choose patience.
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Your next step, define what the value means behaviorally. Define
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what that value means behaviorally. You're not looking for some
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abstract value in and of itself. Your question here, if
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I were actually living according to this value, what would
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I be doing differently? If I were actually living according
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to this value, what would I be doing differently? If
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your outcome goal here is to be more patient, The
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answer to this question could be, I want to listen
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without interrupting. I will give other people time to respond.
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I'll be less critical of my own mistakes. This is
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a big one. I will be less critical of my
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own mistakes. I'll pause before reacting when I'm frustrated. Your
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value has now become something you can observe. You can see, feel, hear,
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or otherwise evaluate in a sensory way. Your next step,
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identify a situation that challenges your chosen value. Identify a
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situation that challenges your value. Bring to mind a specific
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upcoming or a recent situation. For example, my co-worker is
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constantly interrupting me and I become irritated. Or my significant
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other doesn't seem to really pay attention to me when
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I speak. On the SUD scale, 0 to 10, rate
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your level of irritation. Let's say it's a 7 out
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of 10. emotions being what they are, the value-based goal
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isn't necessarily to eliminate the irritation completely. Although, if you can,
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of course, that would be absolutely wonderful. With this, we're
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identifying the emotional obstacle that could interfere with acting in
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accordance with your chosen value. Your next question, what makes
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it difficult for me to live this value in this situation?
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What makes it difficult for me to live this value
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in this situation? After you ask the question, go silent.
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Allow your subconscious to bring one or more difficulties to
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your awareness. It could be, I feel disrespected. I want
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to get even. It just feels that nobody listens to me.
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I get frustrated. I don't have time for this. I'm
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afraid that if I'm patient, people will take advantage of me.
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Choose the most emotionally charged statement. Let's say, for example,
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you choose, if I don't react immediately, people will take
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advantage of me. That is the reaction to begin your
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tapping process. You're going to begin with the obstacle, not
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the positive affirmation. You're going to begin with the obstacle,
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not the positive affirmation. Your setup statement could be something like,
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even though I'm really irritated when people interrupt me and
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part of me wants to react immediately, I acknowledge that
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this is how I'm feeling right now. You could add
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here or it could be your setup statement. Even though
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I want to defend myself, I choose to be open
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and respond in a way that is consistent with the
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person I choose to be. You move to your eyebrow point.
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Tap the eyebrow point. This is irritation. I'm so irritated
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when this happens. Side of the eye. I don't like
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being interrupted. Under the eye. Part of me wants to react.
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Under the nose. I feel disrespected. Chin. This is frustration.
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This is frustrating. Collarbone. This urge to react. Under the arm.
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What if I could pause? Top of the head. And
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choose how I respond. What if I could pause and
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choose how I respond? Allow yourself a loving in and
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an extended out breath. After tapping through one round, reassess
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the emotional intensity. If it's above a two, conduct another round.
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If it is a two or less, do a floor-to-ceiling
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eye roll while tapping the gamut spot. You can also
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do the floor-to-ceiling eye roll using the karate chop point
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as well. For most people, the gamut spot is the
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better choice. You're tapping in that gamut spot. Bring your
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eyes all the way to the floor. And as you're inhaling,
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allow the eyes to come up, up, up, up, to
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the count of 10. Close your eyes, hold for a moment,
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and then exhale to Going down 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9,
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and 10. Switch hands. Tap the gamut spot on the
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opposite hand. Send your eyes down to the floor. Begin
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at the floor and raise the eyes as you're tapping.
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Keep the head straight. Close your eyes. Open your eyes
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and bring the eyes down. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Yawn, sigh, stretch, oh,
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and say the word peace. Now reassess the emotional intensity
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on what you identified as your reactions. Once you've worked
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through all of the obstacles, it's now time to introduce
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the value. Recall that value here for our demonstration is patience.
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You're going to begin another tapping round. Your setup statement,
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I choose patience. I choose patience. I can pause before
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I respond. I can pause before I respond. I can
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listen without immediately reacting. I can be patient without being passive.
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I can respect myself and still treat others with patience.
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I choose to respond according to my value. I choose
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to respond according to my value. We are now going
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to convert the affirmation into a behavioral commitment. This is
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a key step in this entire process. You and I
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will convert the affirmation into a behavioral commitment. One important question,
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what is one specific action I can take today that
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demonstrates this value? What is one specific action I can
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take today that is going to demonstrate this value? Run
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scenarios in your mind as to how you're going to
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incorporate this value into a given problematic situation. One idea
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could be, the next time my co-worker interrupts me, I
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will take one breath before responding. See yourself in your
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mind's eye acting that way. Now tap while visualizing this
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desired behavior. As you tap, you're going to mentally rehearse
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the situation and your response. Imagine your coworker interrupts you.
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You notice the reaction beginning. Then imagine yourself bringing in
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a loving in-breath, holding for a moment and exhaling deeply.
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You're rehearsing how you're going to respond in alignment with
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your chosen value. As you're visualizing the scenario, just tap
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through the tapping points. Finish with your values-based affirmation. I
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choose patience and allow myself and others the time needed
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to grow. I choose patience. Tap through the points, repeating,
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I choose patience. I choose to pause. I choose to listen.
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I choose to respond rather than react. I choose behavior
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consistent with my values. I can practice patience one moment
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at a time. Finally, you're going to want to anchor
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the new chosen value to a physical cue. Allow one
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slow breath and touch your thumb and your index finger together.
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Feel the relaxation flow through your body. This allows you
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to pause your reaction before reacting. Let that anchor go.
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Repeat it again. Bring the thumb and index finger together.
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Feel yourself, see yourself pausing in your visualized situation. Feel
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the relaxation through your body. And then slowly release the
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thumb and index finger. Repeat that three more times. And
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in the situation with a coworker, as an example, when
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you see your coworker approaching, Fire your anchor, bring your
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thumb and index finger together, feel yourself relax ahead of
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that potential problematic conversation. Over the next few days, repeat
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the anchoring process and make it a tool you can
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use every day, not only for your co-worker situation, but
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any time that you need patience. You will, of course,
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adjust this process to align with your chosen value. Bringing
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all this together, your 10-part sequence is choose the value.
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What quality do I want to express? Number two, define
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the behavior. What would this value look like in action?
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Number three, identify the trigger. What situation makes this difficult?
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Number four, rate the emotional intensity on the SUDS 0
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to 10 scale. Number five, tap on the obstacle. Even
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though I feel blank, I acknowledge this reaction. Number six,
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reduce or process the emotional charge. Tap until the intensity
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becomes more manageable, preferably at two or less. Number seven,
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introduce the value. I choose and insert your value. Number eight,
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create a specific behavioral intention. When this happens, I will.
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Number nine, Tap while mentally rehearsing the behavior. You do
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this by imagining the trigger. In the example that we cited,
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you imagine the trigger, the pause, and your value's consistent response.
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Number 10, use the affirmation as a daily cue. I choose,
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insert the value. In the next situation where I have
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an opportunity to practice it, those are your 10 steps.
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I've created a document using five affirmations for values that
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you likely hold. Those values are kindness, courage, patience, integrity,
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and gratitude. I've identified a beginning affirmation for you to consider,
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and I've identified the behavioral commitment that pairs very nicely
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with that affirmation and with the value. The guide also
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contains the step-by-step process that we shared in this episode.
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