The Superhero Inside You

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Welcome to Create Harmony.
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This is a place where we slow down, we breathe a little deeper, and we look to discovering more peace and joy in the rhythms of our everyday life.
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We try to have meaningful conversations with fellow peacemakers.
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We explore simple practices and really live with greater intention.
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We try to notice the beauty that's all around us, and we make space for the quiet ways that God may be speaking to each and every one of us.
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So settle in, take a breath, and let's create a little more harmony together.
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Welcome to the Create Harmony Podcast, and I am your host, Sally Burlington.
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And today, guys, you're gonna love this.
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We have Noreen Noble with us, and she is a self-trust coach, and she's an author, and we're gonna touch on a little bit of superheroes, so I'll tease that.
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But welcome, Noreen.
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We're so excited to have you.
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Oh, I'm so excited to be here.
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I love to talk about self-trust and superheroes and all the good stuff.
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Awesome.
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Okay, well, let's dive right into what do you you call yourself a self-trust coach.
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So tell me more about what that means for you.
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Do you want the long story?
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You want the short story.
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Just give us the lowdown.
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Give us the great story.
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Well, I uh essentially I am a life coach.
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It came after being in corporate for 20 years, and I have a lot of a long story about how I hopped from vice president of marketing to a self-trust coach.
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But as I was coaching, I realized and I came up this theory that the quality of your life will never exceed the quality of the relationship you have with yourself.
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So no matter no matter how much you have or how much you do or how much you gain, if you don't have a good relationship with yourself, it's not gonna be what you want.
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And it's not gonna be you're not gonna be living the joyous life that you live.
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And so that's why I focused on self-trust, self-love.
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And it's more than pedicures, even though I'm a fan of a good pedicure, until they scrub that ball of your foot, then I go crazy.
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But I it's more about even just taking time, it's about loving yourself, giving yourself grace, about taking accountability for what you've done and for taking action for what you want to go forward.
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All that is self-love.
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So that's what I teach.
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That is awesome.
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And so you meet with individuals to do that, and then you also have classes, and I understand that you have a book that's coming out.
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I have a book that's coming out.
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Okay, tell us, tell us.
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As I was going through the coaching space, I would hear things like, oh, that's your superpower, you know, oh, Sally, you can really talk to people.
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That's your superpower.
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Or, and then I was like, What are these people saying?
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I grew up with only boys, and so I really know my superheroes, and so I was thinking to myself, what are they saying that's your superpower?
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So I try to like do some research and I researched over 150 popular superheroes, which by the way, there are so many superheroes out there, just to find out how they got their superpowers.
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Because are we telling people that's your superpower?
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Are we saying, oh, that's a talent or that's something that you trained for?
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Or what what are we saying when we talk to people about that?
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And when I looked at the way these superheroes got their powers, I found that there was a pattern of like nine different ways.
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And when I looked at them, I said, that's the same way we humans get our powers.
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Right?
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So the very obvious one is born different.
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So you know the mutants, right?
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Okay.
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They all have their they were all born different.
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They had a different thing.
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And at the time, in even in the movies and in the comic books, they are maybe criticized or actually they had to go to their own special school, even, and they were segregated and things like that.
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So what were you how were we different when we were younger?
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What made us different that actually has become our superpower?
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Well, for me, I've always I'm a Polynesian woman.
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You can't see me because we're on audio, but I'm a larger woman, and it was I've been like five and eight since I was, I don't know, 10 or 11.
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It wasn't awesome back then when I was taller than all the teachers.
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That was before the superpowers were activated.
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Yeah, that was when the superpowers were awkward.
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But what happened that came out of it, my bigness necessarily wasn't my superpower.
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I actually do have a story in the book that where it is, but what came out of that superpower is I learned to be funny or I learned to be more uh conversational so people would see me, not how tall I was or how big I was, right?
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So there's superpowers that come out of being different.
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Or for example, Superman.
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On his planet, he was normal, but when he came to our planet, he was extraordinary.
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So where have when we have been like grown up in a certain thing in a certain space?
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It could be culture, like you're, you know, your your culture.
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It could just be like maybe you're the only woman in a core in a boardroom.
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You're bringing your own uh something from your planet, your quote unquote planet, to another group in another space.
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So these are all superpowers.
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It goes on and on.
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It's training black widows.
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She didn't have any special powers, she just trained really hard.
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So what have you trained for?
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And we could go on and on.
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Very cool.
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I love that.
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I love the fact that it's that you've taken it that way and linked it to how we can access this for ourselves.
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I think that's amazing.
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But when we do that too, we can look at ourselves and be like, okay, yeah, they have the skin tight suit, great, and some really cool tools, but we are also superheroes.
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And we probably don't even realize that we are superheroes in people's lives and we never even knew it.
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Yeah.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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Just because we're showing up as ourselves.
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And that's what the book is about is about recognizing, not being different, just recognizing what you already have, and then really stepping into that, believing it through your mind and your body, through somatic and mindset practices, and then just being like, okay, I own this, and this is how I'm gonna show up.
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And you don't have to show up as a coach or as an Olympic athlete.
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You can just show up with the confidence that you bring something into that room.
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And when you do, it's it's it helps everybody, it gives permission to everybody else to also own what they have as well.
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That is lovely.
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That is lovely.
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Okay, I heard you say the word somatic.
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Yes.
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So I want you to talk a little bit about your how you define, you know, your connection with somatic healing and somatic practices.
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Okay.
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Because I love you so much.
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I'm gonna go back a little bit of time.
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Okay.
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That's good.
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And um I was in corporate for like I said before, a long time.
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And then my mom passed away.
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And then I, my kids started entering high school, and oh boy, are those the days.
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So I decided that I was gonna stay at home and my husband was now gonna go work because we were opposite before.
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So he goes to the workforce.
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I stay home.
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Weirdly enough, all the problems I thought I had because I was a working mom followed me as a stay-at-home mom.
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Like that.
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Yeah.
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You know, I was tied to doing and accomplishing.
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So then when I was a stay-at-home mom, I was PTO president, the head of all the booster clubs, all the things.
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I was still wasn't super happy.
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Then my dad passed away.
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And I was like, gosh, Noreen, there's like gotta be something more.
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So that was when my sister-in-law is like, you should be a life coach.
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And I'm like, oh girl, I don't even have it together.
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She's like, no, you should listen to this one, which I think is a trick for me to listen to a life coach.
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You need a life coach, and I'm gonna figure out how to- Yeah, I'm gonna figure out.
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She's so sweet.
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I love her.
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So I listened to this life coach, and she was a mindset life coach.
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I decided, oh my gosh, this is it.
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Because now I had been outsourcing my happiness to like how all these other people showed up, not taking responsibility for how I showed up.
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So I decided, okay, I'm gonna go to this life coach school.
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My sister-in-law joined me.
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We've became life coaches together.
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We decided that this is how it's gonna go.
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But there was something missing, and I just was like, no, I I I love this so much.
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So I got certified, it was a year-long thing.
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I started my practice, and then I got cancer.
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Oh, wow.
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I was like, oh.
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But my life, my mindset coaching helped me through that.
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And as I was sitting in the chemo chair, and the nurse were came in to remind me, when you go to the bathroom, make sure to flush three times because we don't want the toxicity of what you are flushing to get to the next person.
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I was like, what is happening?
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What am I pumping into my body?
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And it was right then and there, as I had mentioned before, I've always been a bigger girl and I haven't had the best relationship with my body.
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I always wanted it to be thinner, I wanted it to run faster, I wanted it to do things that, you know, it just wasn't built for.
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But there I was pumping poison in my body, and it was still, my heart was still beating, my lungs were still breathing, everything was still working, and I said to myself, I have to make peace with this body to thank it for everything it's done.
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And it was then, not too long after that, that I found the book, The Body Keeps a Score, about the amount of information and the amount of wisdom that we have in our bodies.
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And then I went through my six rounds of chemo and then my 28 rounds of radiation, and then two weeks after radiation, I started somatic coaching school, where I learned to that the mind is very important.
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Of course, we do have to manage our minds, but also I learned to listen to the wisdom of my body, to take the time and the movement and the breath that it needs so that I can hear what my body and my intuition of actually is trying to tell me.
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And that's what I meant with somatic coaching, because even if you do find your superpower, for if let's say you're like, okay, you know what?
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I am a great listener.
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Your mind will start attacking.
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Well, are you sure?
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Because sometimes you don't listen, da da da.
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But if you have your body on board, if you have somatically feel like I am a very good listener, I own this power, that will override the nervous system that's telling you, I'm not sure that that's what your power is, and all the things, and all the negative talk that comes.
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When you're so when you bring your somatic, when you bring your body online, it you like you can step into your power a lot, a lot more powerfully.
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Yeah, this is really, really resonating with me.
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Everything that you're saying is really resonating with me personally because I spent a whole long career as a stay-at-home mom.
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And during that time, I was particularly early on in those years, I was very much a list maker, an organizer, you know, I'm I was on top of it.
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I had it, I had crap together, you know.
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And at some point, I've shared this a lot in the history of the podcast and in the in the history of Create Harmony, that it I it dawned on me that I wanted my life to be peaceful, but that every to-do that I had had to do with something other than peace.
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None of it had anything to do with pointing me in the direction of peace because it was about organizing or personal finance or my children or PTA or, you know, all the things.
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You know, all the things.
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And it was a light bulb for me to think, okay, I am going to have to put some things in my field of vision that have to do with peace, some practices, some habits.
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And then it, you know, the long story short, we came to create harmony, which is all about the practices of peace and how to know yourself and how to connect with yourself.
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And also, what about your story resonates with me is that I have just started personally with a somatic coach here in the town that I live.
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I did not know that that was a thing until about a month ago.
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And I felt that I needed that because I feel like for me, what I've learned about my own body is that I like to hold all of the emotions in there.
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It's not that I feel I in my brain, it was that when I thought of holding emotions in your body, I was assuming that that meant, you know, anxiety, worry, whatever.
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No, I like to hold my excitement in my body.
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I like to hold my joy, I like to hold it just so tight.
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And I'm learning how to let that be more relaxed from from my somatic practices.
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I okay, I have a question for you.
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This is weird.
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Turk in tables.
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Have you when you started seeing your somatic coach?
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Did you, did you, I don't know, it's just like me, but your how did you think that you were able to kind of I guess heal is kind of a different word or purge or however, whatever method you were doing, but like did you think that it was slower or faster or how how was your well?
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Well, I've been one time.
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So I'm not sure the science experiment is finished yet, but I've been once.
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I am going to return later this week.
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Um, I'm supposed to go, you know, period.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Because it's a process.
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Because all those habits are in there.
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Like I've got all those habits already in there, and it's a process of retraining my brain on how to not hold all my joy inside and just let it out, you know.
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Um, so I I I don't know yet.
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It to be continued, uh, to be continued on that.
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So I ask because I like I was a mindset coach for a really long time, right?
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Well, not a really long time.
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It was a couple months, and then the year I was doing like cancer stuff, but I was still coaching.
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Um, and I had this one client that, and I'm not uh, you know, I won't give names and all that stuff, so it's totally fine.
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But I had one client who was coming back to me, and every week we were working on almost like the same thing because it was very hard for a mindset to change if you're not giving your body online at the same time.
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So as I was studying somatics and I had to do practicum, I was like, okay, we're gonna try a couple things.
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Will you be my guinea pig?
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This will be a free session for you.
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So she's like, great.
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It went so much more quickly that for a coach, I was like, oh wait, you're not gonna pay me anymore because now you're done.
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And it was so intense.
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When you can bring your mind and your body together, automatically your soul will come online too.
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And it was just a huge difference of being able to make that change because you're feeling it viscerally.
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You learn how to feel your emotions.
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The thing about emotions, how you said you like to hold on to it.
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I was the same way.
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The problem is, is I learned to build walls against the negative emotions because you know, good girls don't whine, we don't complain, we just power through, mamas don't have time to be upset or da-da-da.
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We we can't be mean to anybody.
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Like we just push all that down.
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The problem is that when you push all that down, you're also pushing down all the joy, the happiness, the fulfillment, the other everything.
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So you're not feeling anything.
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Yeah.
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And you think that that's good.
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No, no, no.
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Because you're mentally you're striving for joy, but you're physically pushing everything down, so you're never gonna get there, and it becomes an endless cycle.
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So, one, I want to applaud you and I want you to give yourself just a little bit of cheer and grace for yourself for taking the step and doing that.
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So we're gonna celebrate you.
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Yay! Thank you.
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Yeah, um, and then two is just like sitting in that feeling and just knowing, like, okay, do I want yeah, this is the problem sometimes people think that the pain of getting to joy is too painful because they don't want to have to feel through all the other things.
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And I just want to say to them that especially if it's very traumatic and you're if you're with somebody, if you're with a coach or a therapist or somebody, you don't have to do it alone, but it's worth it.
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It's worth getting past the uncomfortable to feel the joy, the peace, the serenity, the calm on the other side.
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For sure, for sure.
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And that and what I will say about my one session is you know, I've I've for years I am a spiritual director and have worked with a spiritual director, which is similar to coaching.
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You it's a one-on-one experience.
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And that is very life-giving to me.
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But going to a somatic coach was totally different in the sense that like when I got ready to go to bed that night, I felt like I had the best massage ever.
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And she had barely touched me.
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You know, I mean, it wasn't, it was just like so much was released, and that was just amazing.
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And I just think figuring out like it's pain when you were talking about the pain that you have to go through to get to joy.
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I mean, it's painful to hold all that.
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Yeah.
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Like holding that was causing me pain.
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So, you know, getting on the other side of it is going to actually eliminate some pain, hopefully.
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The problem is, is our nervous system is used to holding all that.
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Right.
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Right.
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So when we're saying to our nervous system, hey, we're gonna introduce you to something and it's gonna actually be better, our our nervous system's like, oh no, no, no, no, no.
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I know how to hold this pain.
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I don't want to learn how to hold joy or you know, celebrate and live in abundance.
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I don't no, no, no, that's that's dangerous to me.
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And so all that happens, but that's the beauty of doing all the work, not just mind, not just body, not just spiritual, but all the work together.
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Yeah, that's beautiful.
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That's beautiful.
00:18:10.960 --> 00:18:17.519
Okay, so do you have tips for people on how to learn to trust yourself more?
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As a self-trust coach, how do we sort of baby step ourselves in that direction?
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I have this um I have my my one of my things is I was funny.
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I'm like, should I do it?
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Should I make the noise?
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No, I don't make the noise.
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I'm gonna make the noise.
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So when you first have to be aware, like you have to uh uh part of the self-trust is like being like, you know what?
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I'm gonna name what I'm feeling.
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I'm feeling unsatisfied.
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And I know that it's bad for us to sometimes say that out loud, but we to really love ourselves, we have to acknowledge what we're really feeling.
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So it doesn't mean that like our husbands are bad or our children are bad.
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It's just like at this point in our life, I feel unsatisfied, or I feel uh tied down, or I feel I'm not being creative.
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Whatever it is, you have to name it to be able to even help it.
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And so when you do, when you get that awareness, I have it's ACC um awareness.
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You have to have curiosity and compassion.
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Oh, that's lovely.
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Because curiosity broadens your mind and compassion keeps curiosity safe.
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So if you're saying I feel stuck, and you can then curiously say to yourself, what?
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What's what's what's causing the stuck?
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And in that voice, not girl, what's what what do you complain about?
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What's wrong with you?
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What's wrong with you?
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Yeah, no.
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With the compassionate, what's like what's what do you think is stuck?
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Well, I'm not doing what my life purpose is.
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Okay, well, what why?
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Well, this is all these things.
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Okay, was that you know, just asking questions is the first thing to do, is because what's happening is is a lot of what we're doing is like like a plant in this tight soil, and we're rooted into what we believe.
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But in order to loosen that soil to like plant us in a different garden, we have to ask questions.
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Questions is the the the the loosening of that soil, and then feeling the answers, not just being like, Oh, wait, well, you know, mentally I it's this and this and this.
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No, like what do I feel?
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Oh my gosh, I feel I feel trapped, I feel, I feel sad, I feel disappointed in myself.
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Well, why?
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Okay.
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And then like the the honesty, honestly, that's self-love right there, that self-trust.
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Because now your your intuition is saying, oh, she's listening.
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You don't even have to do anything.
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And you're already trying to trust yourself.
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It's just the knowledge.
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So uh it is awareness with curiosity and compassion, and then you can take an action, and that is ACCA, which I used to be like a car, like that's why I thought maybe I shouldn't say it, but no, it's a car.
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It's like, oh, okay, uh, awareness, curiosity, compassion, and then I can take an action.
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Okay.
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Sometimes your action isn't gonna be any different than you would have taken prior.
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But now your body knows that you were it's been heard, your intuition knows it's been heard, and you say, you know what, I don't feel safe right now to make that decision, but I heard you, and I'm gonna still continue down this path.
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But then the next time you catch yourself, it might be a little bit easier to break that, break away a little bit.
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It starts small.
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You can't go from it's like you don't go from meeting someone and then getting married the next day.
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It is.
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Yeah, we that we're not those people.
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We're not those people.
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It's like you have to date yourself.
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You're like, okay, what do you like?
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Because you know, funnily enough, with all the women that I coach, often I ask, Well, what do you want?
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Well, I want my children.
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No, no, no, no.
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What do you want?
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Well, I would love it if my husband no, no, no, no.
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What do you want?
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And they have outsourced their joy to everybody around them, making sure everybody else is happy that they don't even know what they want.
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Interesting.
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Yeah.
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There's a lot to be said for that.
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I'm reading a book right now called The Magic of Knowing Exactly What You Want, or The Magic of Knowing What You Want.
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I I might have that title incorrect.
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But it is interesting how we don't attack we don't get as comfortable with knowing what we want, I think particularly as women, um as as would be desired, you know, if you could think more, what is it that I really want and dwell with that?
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That I think is a path to pay to peace right there.
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Yeah.
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And you know, a lot of people say that, oh, you know, women, if you say what you want, that's selfish.
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If a man says what they want, they're just determined.
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And so we have this thing where we we can't vocalize what we want because then we'll be considered like selfish or self-centered.
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No, no, no, no.
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No, no, no.
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We have to know what we want.
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We can still cater to other people, but we have to put ourselves in the in our in the room.
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Mm-hmm.
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Mm-hmm.
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Or we're never gonna find the joy, right?
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Yeah, I love that.
00:23:34.880 --> 00:23:39.039
So then your book about superheroes, your book has talks about superheroes.
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Power I'm gonna circle back to that, is going to come out.
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It's not quite out.
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Is that right?
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Yeah, uh, hopefully by the end of September.
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So it depends on when this podcast comes out.
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It will be out, yeah.
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Yes, on Amazon called The Superhero Inside.
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Okay.
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I uh I'm excited for it to come out.
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I think that um it's it's written towards women because that's my life experience.
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But I've had uh my brother read it.
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I mean, of course he's my brother, but he he got out a lot out of it too.
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I what happens is in the first the first part of the book is about defining your origin story.
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Okay.
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Basically finding which path of those nine different frameworks you fit into.
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And I really think it's very, very important that we know our origin story.
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So if you're are you a Marvel fan, I'm not sure if you are.
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Uh and I'm familiar, yeah.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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So um I don't know if you remember Loki.
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He was kind of like an anti-hero.
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He was Thor's less musly, less Australian brother.
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Okay, so he comes in the scene and the first thing, and you just oh, oh, he's definitely he's a villain through and through.
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Yeah, he's like causing trouble, blah, blah, blah.
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Right.
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Then he comes with his own movie that explains his backstory, and you're like, oh, he was adopted.
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Oh, he was never treated really well.
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Oh, and you start to have compassion for him, and all of a sudden he kind of becomes a hero to you.
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That's the same way with understanding your own origin stories.
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Some of us think, oh, we're just, oh, you know what, I'm bossy.
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But if we don't take time to look back at what made us bossy, oh, we're the oldest girl child and we did have to take care of everybody, and da-da-da.
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I understand now.
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Now I can have more compassion and understanding my origin story from what I have or what I've I've done.
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And that's why I the first part of the book is dedicated to like finding out what your powers are and what your origin story is, mostly so you can have some great compassion and grace for yourself.
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Yeah, I love that part.
00:25:47.759 --> 00:25:58.400
And even just thinking about my own very beginning of somatic coaching, you know, I noticed myself doing the things that I do, holding holding the emotions in my body.
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And I haven't maybe been that compassionate.
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Maybe I needed to like notice that and say, not you're doing it again, don't do that, you know, but to say, okay, here's what you can do.
00:26:10.160 --> 00:26:11.279
You can reset, you know.
00:26:11.359 --> 00:26:16.000
I mean, a more compassionate approach would probably be more ideal.
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Yeah.
00:26:16.640 --> 00:26:17.680
Well, here's a little tip for that.
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Yeah, you'll yeah, give yourself, yeah, to give yourself time.
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The first uh my my somatic training was on about uh eight months, and the first three months was all about ourselves.
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We had to do it to ourselves first.
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And so my little trick was I found a picture of myself when I was a little child, and I put it by my computer.
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So anytime I decided that I was gonna be mad at myself or something, I looked at her and I was like, I would never talk to her like that.
00:26:44.319 --> 00:26:45.119
Oh, very good.
00:26:45.200 --> 00:26:47.359
I will never talk to her like that.
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So that helps you start your self-compassion a little bit when you realize that most of our protective patterns and most of our like quote unquote weaknesses or whatever comes from that little person had to make some decisions when she was three to seven to ten years old that has caused those patterns.
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I see.
00:27:12.559 --> 00:27:16.960
And I would never tell her the things that I used to say to myself, right?
00:27:17.200 --> 00:27:19.119
That's a great, that's a great way to do it.
00:27:19.279 --> 00:27:25.519
Just to kind be kind and you know, yeah about and and even just thinking about like I would never even do that to my adult.
00:27:25.599 --> 00:27:32.079
Like just how would you treat your beloved child, pet kit, you know, something you care about a lot.
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Yeah.
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I like that.
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That's a great, that's a great idea.
00:27:37.200 --> 00:27:39.519
So this is just so exciting.
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I feel like, oh, I can't wait to get into the superhero.
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I want to know what is my origin story.
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I'm trying to think, what is my origin story?
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I'm not sure, but I'll be ready to read that one.
00:27:49.039 --> 00:27:58.480
Well, there is also um I well in the book, so in that first part of the book, I give a a a superhero kind of a background.
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Um, some superpowers you may have if you kind of align with that superhero.
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Okay.
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I give a personal story that uh goes, and then I highlight two people from the world, either history or currently, that are those kind of heroes.
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And then I have some reflective questions, and then that goes through the nine different ones.
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By the way, most of us are multiple origins stories.
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So know that you have multiple because you have multiple powers.
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We're not just so we're not just so one trick pony, guys.
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We can do a lot of different things.
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I love it.
00:28:29.680 --> 00:28:34.319
So we so it's going through and just recognizing and finding compassion for yourself.
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And then the second part of the book is once you've identified your powers, then the second part of the book take tells you about the nervous system, like why you might not think they're their powers, or why when you decide that they're your powers, your nervous system's like, uh, I don't think so.
00:28:50.480 --> 00:29:00.160
And how to handle the villains in your life, which sometimes is your inner critic, and like how to like get past it, somatic practices to like really feel it.
00:29:00.319 --> 00:29:06.079
And then the third part of the book is saying, All right, you know your power, you feel your power.
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How are you gonna put it in the world?
00:29:07.680 --> 00:29:11.519
And it doesn't have to be your new business, it could just be, you know what?
00:29:11.759 --> 00:29:18.880
As the room mom, I'm gonna walk in and know that I have a talent for seeing people as they are.
00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:21.920
So I'm just gonna see little kids as they are, right?
00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:29.279
Whatever your talent is, when you walk into rooms, now you're like, you know what, that's this is what I'm really good at, and this is what I'm gonna like hone in on.
00:29:29.759 --> 00:29:44.160
There's an energy, and if we want to talk about energy or whatever, a spirit or whatever it however you want to call it, but there is an energy that can that it is multiplied once someone is authentic, right?
00:29:44.400 --> 00:29:45.599
Standing in their authenticity.
00:29:45.680 --> 00:29:56.480
I think Brene Brown said that that it's like the opposite of it was like authenticity is the thing that actually makes people it's better than joy.
00:29:56.720 --> 00:29:57.839
Yeah, absolutely.
00:29:58.000 --> 00:29:58.799
Yeah, absolutely.
00:29:59.039 --> 00:30:07.279
And so when you're really authentically standing in your power, there's so much you can do, not just for yourself, but for everybody around you.
00:30:07.519 --> 00:30:14.240
So taking the time to look at yourself is actually helping everyone else.
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So it's not.
00:30:15.599 --> 00:30:25.119
Well, and I'm just picturing, I'm thinking as you're talking, like if everyone shows up and sees, you know, like in their own power, like that's amazing.
00:30:25.279 --> 00:30:33.759
It'd be like when you're I mean, I'm dating myself, but when we were kids and there was like the the superhero headquarters or whatever, and they were all in there.
00:30:33.920 --> 00:30:35.359
I mean, that's what this can be like.
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Everybody's in the superhero.
00:30:36.880 --> 00:30:39.599
Justice League and whatever, yeah, there that's what it is.
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You know the name of it.
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Yeah, you you know, it could be we could create a world like that if we all were able to show up in our own power and that yes.
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Because I'll go back to what I said at the very beginning: the quality of our lives will never exceed the quality of the relationship with ourselves.
00:30:56.880 --> 00:31:02.480
But if we're having a good quality of relationship with ourselves, it's elevating.
00:31:02.559 --> 00:31:06.720
I feel like if everybody just loved themselves, we wouldn't have all these problems.
00:31:06.960 --> 00:31:07.599
Yes, for sure.
00:31:07.920 --> 00:31:15.440
If everyone saw themselves for the divine creatures that they are, yeah, we would not have all this stuff happening.
00:31:15.680 --> 00:31:16.640
Yeah, that's amazing.
00:31:17.119 --> 00:31:17.759
I love that.
00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:20.079
Okay, so we're to the point in the podcast.
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I always ask my guests this if is there anything that we missed?
00:31:24.160 --> 00:31:33.359
Is there anything about your story or about your the things that you do, the self-trust coaching that you do that you want to share that we haven't touched on yet?
00:31:34.400 --> 00:31:35.519
We touch on a lot.
00:31:35.599 --> 00:31:36.960
You're very thorough.
00:31:37.279 --> 00:31:39.279
So And then it might not be.
00:31:39.359 --> 00:31:40.640
There's not always something that we miss.
00:31:40.720 --> 00:31:44.799
I'm just well, there's always there's there's there's a ton to talk about.
00:31:45.119 --> 00:32:01.039
But I'll say this whether or not it is with me or a somatic coach or any other coach or however, just take time today, especially after you listen to this episode, to thank yourself for listening to this episode episode.
00:32:01.359 --> 00:32:02.160
That is lovely.
00:32:02.640 --> 00:32:15.759
Give yourself a little bit of love and compassion and maybe picture yours picture that little version of you, the five, the seven-year-old, and just tell her, him that you love them.
00:32:16.319 --> 00:32:17.440
That's beautiful.
00:32:17.680 --> 00:32:18.640
That is beautiful.
00:32:18.720 --> 00:32:19.279
I love that.
00:32:19.440 --> 00:32:20.799
That's just perfect.
00:32:21.039 --> 00:32:22.319
Well, thank you, Noreen.
00:32:22.480 --> 00:32:23.440
This has been amazing.
00:32:23.519 --> 00:32:24.799
I loved every second of it.
00:32:24.960 --> 00:32:27.599
I just I know it's gonna, I cannot wait.
00:32:27.759 --> 00:32:30.720
I'm literally right on the edge of my seat for that superhero book.
00:32:30.799 --> 00:32:32.319
I think it's gonna be so great.
00:32:32.640 --> 00:32:33.759
And oh, thank you.
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I love it.
00:32:34.319 --> 00:32:34.640
I love it.
00:32:34.880 --> 00:32:36.079
I love this conversation too.
00:32:36.160 --> 00:32:42.960
You're I I love it when the host knows and can and feels and knows exactly what I'm talking about.
00:32:43.119 --> 00:32:49.920
I love that you have that experience and that you're you're doing this to bring joy and peace to people's lives.
00:32:50.240 --> 00:32:50.720
Absolutely.
00:32:50.880 --> 00:32:56.720
Yeah, and we hope that I mean, like I said, I didn't even know that there was such a thing as a somatic coach about until about a month ago.
00:32:56.799 --> 00:33:03.599
So hopefully more people will learn about that and learn about you, and you know, we can all show up in our superhero powers.
00:33:03.680 --> 00:33:11.440
I'm looking forward to have uh, you know, read the book and have superhero powers, send me a picture of you in your cape.
00:33:11.519 --> 00:33:12.160
I'd love to see it.
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There we go.
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I love that.
00:33:13.839 --> 00:33:14.559
That's adorable.
00:33:14.720 --> 00:33:15.519
That's adorable.
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All right, well, thank you so much, Noreen.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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As you step back into the rhythm of your day, remember that creating harmony and peace does not require big changes.
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It can begin with one small choice.
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Maybe the choice to slow down a little bit, notice what's good.
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Maybe it's just making a little bit more room in your day for joy, or simply being still enough to notice right where God is meeting you.
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Keep making space for peace, play, and possibility.
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And until next time, peace.