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Hello, it's Blank Space.
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We read between the lines of Taylor Swift lyrics one song at a time.
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I'm best, a Swifty.
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I'm Adam, a Swifty in Training.
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For this episode, it's almost two AM.
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We're feeling like we just lost a friend.
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Hope you know it's not easy to listen to Breathe, a sad ballad from Fearless, featuring Kobe Callay.
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What do you think?
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So my first question is who is Colby?
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He you don't know her.
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She's like she was um she sang bubbly and she featured in Jason Ross
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song Lucky.
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No.
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Lucky I'm in love with my best friend.
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Lucky to have been where I have been.
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She was like she was um she she was a big
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Star back in, you know, 2008, 2009.
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Okay.
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I mean I've never heard of her.
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This is our first
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feature, right?
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That we've heard so far?
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Yeah, that's true.
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So it is a big deal to feature someone.
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Sure.
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They wrote this song
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Together.
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Okay.
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Is Colby like a country musician?
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Yeah.
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Just like pop, country.
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She has a very nice voice.
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I like her.
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So but then my thing is
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Does it can you even tell that she's featured?
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She was doing this thing called like really low harmonizing.
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Right.
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So she was just like harmonizing in the background
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Do you remember that song with um Kanye and Rihanna and Paul McCartney?
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No.
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They did a song together and it was like Kanye and Rihanna and Paul McCartney together, but like
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I think Paul was just playing instrument.
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I kept like trying to listen to the song over and over again.
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I'm like, what where's Paul McCartney in this?
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He's just like
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strumming a guitar and you're like if you didn't see him in the video you wouldn't even know he was part of it.
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It's like why wouldn't you use Paul Picartney's voice, idiots like what are you doing?
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It's not featuring him.
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Like
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Like just get him to say something.
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Yeah.
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Weirdo.
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Yeah, Taylor had a song with Lana Doray recently for Midnights called Snow on the Beach.
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And same problem, nobody hurt Lana.
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Yeah.
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And so she had to release another version that says featuring more Lana
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It's for a lot not to be heard on it.
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See this is the thing, like even on like rap songs if you're featuring someone, they get their own verse.
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Right?
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They get to shine.
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But like if if it didn't say featuring Colby
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And the whole music video wasn't some weird behind-the-scenes thing making it super clear that like Colby did something.
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Yeah.
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You could not even hear it.
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Yeah.
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Which is just an interesting thing, like, to have this be your first feature and
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it's like not really a standout or or anything.
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I mean I like the song.
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It is sweet and sad.
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But yeah, I agree.
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You don't really lit you don't hear Colby
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It's a big deal to be the first person featured on a 'cause I feel like she is so intentional.
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Yeah.
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So it must be a big deal
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To feature someone.
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Taylor in this song.
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I don't know.
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I don't know anything about music, so I can't say Yeah, no.
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It's just uh I it's just interesting.
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Um but yeah, what do you think?
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I like it, but you know, it's
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not really a standout.
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Um uh it's quite repetitive.
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Um I think it's Yeah she co-wrote this.
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So like what?
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What
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I mean, yeah, if you're writing this with Colby, then like why is it not the best thing?
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You have two songwriters on this.
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Yeah.
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Well, I I like some verses.
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I like the words here, but you know
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Um, this is not a song that I would put on repeat for any reason.
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No really, because it's it doesn't feel
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Um it's it it feels too generic at the same time, um as not being
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like as well I I don't know how to say it.
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It it feels a bit it feels a bit too generic even though it it's not really, you know.
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No, it you're I I see what you're saying.
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And look, I'll say
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There's is a certain expectation when you're saying featuring someone.
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So when it does sound generic, you it draws even more attention to it because you're like
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Th y you're saying this had extra help or like do we all blame Colby on this one?
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No, we're not blaming anyone.
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This song feels to me like a warm hug that goes on forever and doesn't get warmer.
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You know what I mean?
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Maybe they both had a hard time collaborating and so they couldn't really get the song off the ground.
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Yeah, it doesn't feel like there's much personality in it at all.
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Either ty either Taylor's or Colby
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You know, but you know, all in all it's like nice songwriting is nice, it's got nice narrative.
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You see uh the narrator again in a car driving away from something
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It's like sick in the driving almost signifies an ending and moving on now in like the Taylor Swift cinematic universe
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And I like some lines here, like, you know, people are people and sometimes we change our minds.
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Or like music starts playing like the end of a sad movie.
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I don't know what to be without you around.
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Like all of these are like nice
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sentences poetic enough to an extent, but it still feels a bit generic, you know.
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And what's the song about?
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It's about losing a friend.
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And you know, you But they die?
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No, I I think there's a fallout because it mentions nothing we say is gonna save us from the fallout.
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Like probably a fight or or some sort of
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maybe not even fighting, like just just growing apart, gradual falling out and basically trying to imagine what life's gonna be like without them now.
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I mean, have you been in a situation like this?
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Breaking up with a friend?
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Yeah, pr pretty much.
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Yeah, all the time.
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Do you know s think about it in a wistful way like this?
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Or more like bitch fucking die Like get out of my fucking life.
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I mean that's how I uh think about most of 'em.
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I did have one
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uh best friend in America who like once I came to Bangkok I never really talked to him again because I'm a bad texture.
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And I guess he's not the best either.
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Okay.
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Um so, you know, I I lost
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Touch pretty fast and just felt disconnected and like I've always been a little wistful about that because I do wonder, you know, but it's I've it's been too long I think to like kind of we kind of yeah, like I don't know
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Um, so I kind of feel bad about that and a little wistful.
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But every other time you're yeah, it's like, no, fuck you, because it was like there's a reason.
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Yeah.
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It wasn't like a
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Geographic reason.
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You know?
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Um you said you just ghost people when you break up with them.
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Yes.
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I have had talked to people about like ending friendships and stuff.
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What really?
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And you know one of them.
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Yeah.
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You know what?
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You know one of 'em.
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Oh right shit.
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Okay.
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Wait, you actually have have talks about this stuff?
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Yeah, be like, okay, like yeah, I'm just so here's the logistics.
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We're not gonna be in the same place at the same time.
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Something like that.
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Or no, just like okay, it's you know we're
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Um, like I don't feel like being friends with you, like, you know, like I'll be nice and cordial, but like
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Um, yeah, I'm not really interested in like being friends, you know.
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Damn.
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I've had to have those conversations, yeah.
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Look, I can't have it
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You know, people say you can choose your friends and you can't choose your family, and I totally agree with that.
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Like, I mean friends are supposed to plus up your life, right?
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Yeah.
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And if they are bringing you down
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Like, you know, sometimes yeah, sometimes you can ghost them if they're not close, but sometimes like you should talk to them or something.
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Because like they don't just because you have known that person doesn't mean like you owe them anything necessarily, right?
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And people change and people grow.
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And I think it's okay to not have like friends forever.
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I don't have friends that, you know, I like went to high school with or anything.
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I don't really talk to anyone much.
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Um, from that time.
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But like, you don't I I don't believe in that obligation.
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I think like, you know, you can be a shitty friend, they can be a shitty friend, you can move on and stuff.
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It's just hard for me to have a conversation like this with a friend because I mean, first of all, why do I assume that they care enough to have a conversation
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Right?
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And second of all, how do I I can't even articulate this without I I just don't know how it's supposed to go.
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And it's easier to just fade away, let it die.
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And if you know, if if you run to each other, you can be cordial about it.
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Um, you can even say hello.
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But
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You will keep your distance.
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You've never so you've done that and like they don't even know why maybe you've done that?
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Yeah.
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I mean I've done that too.
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If it's not super serious, I'll just be like uh and then
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I mean w when I do this it's not something it's it's not anything serious.
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It's just got to a point where, okay, maybe they have disappointed me way too many times or they have like let me down
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Um, and I'm just done having those conversations.
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And then I just like remove myself.
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I'm still a little bit like this, but I was way worse when I was younger.
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But I just remembered there was this in high school
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There's this girl that I was friends with and and then me watching her, I didn't like how she was treating other people.
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And I just but we were in the same friend group.
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And so one day I kinda ghosted, but just like we we're still in the same friend group.
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I just stopped talking to her.
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And I'm just like such a stubborn freak that I just like
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did total silent treatment even though we'd be in the same room and stuff.
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And she had no real idea like why I was doing that.
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And I honestly couldn't even articulate it otherwise other than like
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I knew that she just wasn't I felt like she just wasn't a good person, but it wasn't like anything specific.
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I was just like, uh But I made everything super weird for everyone because like we'd all be hanging out.
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I was just completely pretending like she wasn't there and it was absurd.
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Oh my gosh.
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It was super absurd, but I
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just like super stubborn about it and stuff.
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I've tried to be better since then, but no, I've definitely had those where I'm just like a and the thing is like I'm very bad at acting too.
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So like even to this day like
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If there's someone I'm around that I'm just not vibing with, like I can't hide that.
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So what do you do?
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So I just like try to ignore or like keep my distance or something, you know, but it's obvious
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You know, 'cause I'm just not good at like Do you leave the room?
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N I mean no, usually not.
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But like I'm not gonna e engage either.
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'Cause I I don't like being kind of faky, nicey, you know
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I I have a hard time doing that, so I just yeah, I have to literally distance myself.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Damn, that's awkward.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So first of all I just try to not be in any place that I know
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some people that I don't want to see will be Of course.
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Yeah.
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Which means I end up ghosting more than one people, but it's just the way it is.
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And I will come back in a few months.
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Or you're talking about specific places right now?
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Yeah.
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This is why like I tread so carefully at the places I regular now because
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What?
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Because like that's happened to me before too, where like I'm like, well great, I can't go to this place again.
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You know, so like I really try to avoid that now that like you know I'm stuck in habits and at this age
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And so like I just try to like really f isolate and like because I like I'll fuck it up and like I'll make enemies and stuff, you know?
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And yeah.
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It's tough when like you're there's a lot of people that like are shitty for the most part.
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This is Bangkok.
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For sure.
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This is the untapped thing about Bangkok.
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Yeah.
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You know one time I got mad at a friend, um, who I thought
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you know, I was a good friend m and uh betrayed my trust and I just like didn't speak to him for a while.
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But, you know, he messaged me to apologize
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Not once, but twice.
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So so did you have to tell him why you were mad though?
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I did.
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Okay.
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Did he ask?
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He didn't know.
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So and you volunteered it.
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Yeah.
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Okay, okay, cool.
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It's like, hey, this is not cool what you did and
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you know, you betrayed my trust.
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And that's a big deal for me.
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And da da da da da.
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And I didn't announce that I was gonna like unfriend him or stop that I was gonna stop talking to him, but I stopped talking to him
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And like after a few days he apologized.
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And then I I saw it and I'm like it still didn't move me enough to do something about it.
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And he apologized again.
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And then
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after I would I was done ghosting him and people, you know, I went came around and I saw him.
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And it was like, you know, he apologized again um for a third time.
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It was like it's okay.
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By now I'm like it's forgiven
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Where were you friends again?
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Yeah, we're friends now.
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But like I I described he asked he he said like
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He said like I was avoiding him blah blah and I was I just wasn't.
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I just was taking a break from you.
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I that's what I said.
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Yeah.
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Because I need to
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process some stuff and it's better to do that in isolation than with his input in it.
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You know what I mean?
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Were you able to get over it?
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Yeah.
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I have a hard time with that sometimes
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Me too.
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But most times I'm able to get over things if I disappear long enough to deal with my shit.
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But sometimes my issue is like with the person's character
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Uh-huh.
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Sometimes if I if I like the person, they can do stuff, but I'm like, I know that they're like a good person or whatever.
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Yeah.
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But if they revealed themselves in my mind, um to be like
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An asshole or even just like cowardly.
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Like I it's hard for me not to like write them off and be like you know, this is not I think I can't like trust you.
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Yeah
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Like so like why am I gonna try to get close?
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Like I because I I again I am Mr.
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Don't Date Potential and I do it I do internalize that.
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So I think sometimes I write people off because I'm just like okay like
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You don't have your shit together, like I'm not gonna go near this.
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You know and I don't think they're gonna cause I just don't think I don't think people will improve unless maybe they do later, but I'm not like banking on it.
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Is it it's not cool
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No, it's cool that you have that much self-respect.
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I it is self- I mean look, because again, like I th I do think about this a lot.
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I think
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Talking to some people, I don't think they realize how optional a lot of s situations are and scenarios.
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A lot of things are very optional.
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And like
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If you focus on the things you can control, then yes, then the things you can't control become more manageable, right?
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But like so you have to make all the optional things
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you know, um you have to give them thought.
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And so like a lot of scenarios you don't have to be involved with.
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You can just walk away.
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Where people that cause you grief
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Yeah.
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You can just walk away.
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You don't have to interact.
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Dude, you know, I'm like a recovering people pleaser and that concept just did not exist to me.
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Yeah.
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That you can just walk away and that you can just choose to not deal with something.
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Um, yeah, but now I'm like, actually, once I am able to start walking out on things, I do walk out on things a lot now.
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You should though, it's very powerful because you don't need to deal with it.
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It's not even about being powerful, it's just being like
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Yeah, this is not worth it for me.
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Like I have better things to do.
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Sorry.
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But that's what I mean.
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Like it's it's a very powerful tool because you can manage like your emotions and time and stuff.
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Yes
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I do talk to like a lot of people who are like I have to you know all this shit and like if you really look at it it's like completely o pretty optional
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And it sucks.
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Like you don't have to go through that turmoil.
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Like you can choose the the things that, you know, make your life better.
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Yeah.
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And really examine the stuff that annoys you 'cause like you I don't really have to do it if you don't want to keep every friend in your life.
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Who's ever been in it?
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If they're causing grief, how much of a friend is that?
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Yeah.
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Like is that I feel like friendships are things that where both people contribute to each other, right?
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Like you want the best for each other or something
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Yeah.
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But if someone's not doing that, or you know, if if if they make your life worse, then then that's not really a a friend to me.
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Yeah, if they cause me a peace of mind, they're gone
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Right.
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Yeah.
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And so that leads me to have very few close friends, but I have some.
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No, that's cool.
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But you have to be picky because I get anxiety too much.
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I do know that I have to be more picky with my time and who I keep around.
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Yeah.
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So it's a work in process.
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Work in progress
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But at least at least I don't feel like I have to please everyone or like have to keep the peace all the time anymore.
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'Cause if I don't like them I can just ghost them.
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Yay.
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Yes, you can.
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And to be clear, I don't I'm not saying what I'm doing is brave.
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But like here's the thing.
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Like um I have so much anxiety all the time that like
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Uh I have to do things to control it.
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Like I have to avoid stressful situations or like I'll kind of not like I'll physically get ill.
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So like
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There's just a a ton of situations that like I just I don't know um I'm walking away from because I'm just avoiding pain.
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I'm just you know, like I'm avoiding I'm yeah, it's like completely avoiding social situations on purpose.
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Yeah.
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I'm pain avoidant, not like
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Brave, I'm just avoidant of like suffering, which means not being stressed.
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Okay.
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Anyways.
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Okay.
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It's good to be aware, I guess.
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So Colby, I want to mention this in the music video as well, completely overshadowed overshadowed by Taylor.
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Yeah.
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I mean it's her song.
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It's Taylor's song, right?
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Yeah, but even like
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Then it's Taylor interrupting the song to talk about how good Colby is.
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Yeah, it's kinda weird.
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Instead of you just watching Colby be good.
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That's kinda weird.
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Yeah.
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You see Kobe arriving in a car and then Colby harmonizing on a line and then nothing else.
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And then Taylor talking about Colby being good, but like just show me Colby then.
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And you don't really see them like
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Collaborating or yeah, or like singing together or anything.
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And there is this like weird thing in the I guess this was the official music video, but Taylor's just like talking in the beginning with like pretty bad
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sound just talking about like what the amazing process this was.
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I've never seen an intro to a music video like that in this time period of like people just
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talking over the the video of just being like this was a really great song I did.
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You're about to see this.
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Hmm.
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You remember the music video for I'm Only Me When I'm With You, which was about the tour.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah, I think Taylor just likes to do like
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a music video that is a documentary of something in progress.
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I do too.
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It's just the production value is super bad.
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Yeah, it's it's weird.
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Yeah.
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It doesn't seem like it has been talked about before the camera started rolling.
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Like, you know there were scenes when her hair was like all over the place or like
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You know, her clothes were kinda weird.
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Um n yeah, it didn't seem that intentional.
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And it's like Colby on the couch mouthing along to the lyrics.
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Yeah
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And nodding her head.
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It's just sucks.
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Cause if you're being like, oh my god, man, I'm featured on Taylor's like new album and like you know, you would expect her to have like a lot of fans after this, right?
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Was there like a big Colby explosion with Swift fans?
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No.
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Yeah.
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Set C, that's a pretty big um dud right there, I think.
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But Kobe was already big on her own terms.
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Like she had
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that hit song bubbly.
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I don't remember I don't even remember that.
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Yeah, it was like mainstream, pretty mainstream on the radio back then.
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And like she was featuring on Jason Braz.
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So Kobe was already big.
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Yeah.
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Okay, well I'm glad she helped out little Taylor Swift here.
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Thanks, Colby, for giving the
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Classic Colby boost.
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Yeah, I feel like there's a lot of words in this song.
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I don't know what to talk about.
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The outro is I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I
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sorry
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Yeah, I guess I'm I'm just not able to connect that much to it because I don't know what the backstory is.
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Like this song does not give out that much of a backstory that
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that would, you know, allow us to imagine the situation leading up to like the chorus and all that to to make it feel more um relevant and climatic
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And look, I don't think it's well written.
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Okay.
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I think there are some nice words, but yeah.
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It's not it's not really building
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much to me.
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It's hard to write songs with other people.
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Hmm.
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That is true.
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I that's how I feel about group projects.
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Exactly.
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And results are never good because
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It's a compromise.
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Yeah.
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And everyone has their own weird little process and it takes a lot of time.
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And if you just do a one-off with a friend, like you're gonna just you're not gonna expose your whole self and writing process in that moment.
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So I think it's probably pretty awkward.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, but you know, friendship breakups is never simple, never easy, never a clean break.
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At least that much is true.
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It was nominated for a Grammy Award.
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Oh, great.
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Her best pop collaboration.
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Did it win?
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Oh it lost the song.
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No, it lost the to that other song that Kobe was featuring.
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Kobe won Kobe beat herself
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Colby was featured on a Jason Moraz thing.
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Yeah.
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Called Lucky and that and Lucky one.
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But this is kind of sad too that like Colby is only being featured on songs that are winning and losing, you know?
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Getting tossed around like a hot potato.
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Oh yeah, true.
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You're right.
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You're right.
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You're right.
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Actually good for Colby for being on two different ones like that.
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But Lucky was a superior song for sure, because in that one
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Kobe did serve a purpose of being the female character, whereas Jason was the male character.
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So check this out
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Breathe peaked at 87 on the Billboards and its appearance tied Swift with Hannah Montana for two records on the Billboard Ha 100.
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So we were just talking about how they were contemporaries.
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Right.
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Well that's not very high.
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87 is not very high.
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No, but it got the r it was just tying with Miley for having two records on the top one hundred.
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Hmm.
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Yeah
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Cool.
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So soon to eclipse the Disney stars here.
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You see the the the origins of this.
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Okay.
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Thanks, Colby.
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Short and sweet.
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Much like your Taco Bell meal.
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How was that?
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I regret it.
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Really?
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Already, yeah.
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You have holy.
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I didn't even finish it.
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Yeah.
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Well that was a nice song, but there are better ones.
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And you know, it's a good message.
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Don't forget to breathe.
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Breathing's important, you know?
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I know it's not easy, but you got
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Gotta do it now.
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One at a time, one after the other.
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It's never simple, never easy, never clean break.
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No one here to save you.
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You gotta save yourself
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When you wake up, please breathe.
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Before you sleep, don't forget to do it.
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You can't breathe without me, but you have to.
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Brush your teeth twice and breathe while you're doing that.
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Stop it.
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Alright, bye
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Hello, it's Blank Space.
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We read between the lines of Taylor Swift lyrics one song at a time.
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I'm best, a Swifty.
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I'm Adam, a Swifty in Training.
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For this episode, it's almost two AM.
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We're feeling like we just lost a friend.
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Hope you know it's not easy to listen to Breathe, a sad ballad from Fearless, featuring Kobe Callay.
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What do you think?
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So my first question is who is Colby?
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He you don't know her.
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She's like she was um she sang bubbly and she featured in Jason Ross
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song Lucky.
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No.
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Lucky I'm in love with my best friend.
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Lucky to have been where I have been.
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She was like she was um she she was a big
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Star back in, you know, 2008, 2009.
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Okay.
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I mean I've never heard of her.
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This is our first
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feature, right?
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That we've heard so far?
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Yeah, that's true.
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So it is a big deal to feature someone.
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Sure.
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They wrote this song
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Together.
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Okay.
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Is Colby like a country musician?
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Yeah.
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Just like pop, country.
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She has a very nice voice.
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I like her.
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So but then my thing is
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Does it can you even tell that she's featured?
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She was doing this thing called like really low harmonizing.
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Right.
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So she was just like harmonizing in the background
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Do you remember that song with um Kanye and Rihanna and Paul McCartney?
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No.
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They did a song together and it was like Kanye and Rihanna and Paul McCartney together, but like
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I think Paul was just playing instrument.
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I kept like trying to listen to the song over and over again.
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I'm like, what where's Paul McCartney in this?
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He's just like
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strumming a guitar and you're like if you didn't see him in the video you wouldn't even know he was part of it.
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It's like why wouldn't you use Paul Picartney's voice, idiots like what are you doing?
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It's not featuring him.
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Like
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Like just get him to say something.
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Yeah.
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Weirdo.
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Yeah, Taylor had a song with Lana Doray recently for Midnights called Snow on the Beach.
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And same problem, nobody hurt Lana.
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Yeah.
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And so she had to release another version that says featuring more Lana
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It's for a lot not to be heard on it.
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See this is the thing, like even on like rap songs if you're featuring someone, they get their own verse.
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Right?
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They get to shine.
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But like if if it didn't say featuring Colby
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And the whole music video wasn't some weird behind-the-scenes thing making it super clear that like Colby did something.
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Yeah.
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You could not even hear it.
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Yeah.
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Which is just an interesting thing, like, to have this be your first feature and
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it's like not really a standout or or anything.
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I mean I like the song.
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It is sweet and sad.
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But yeah, I agree.
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You don't really lit you don't hear Colby
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It's a big deal to be the first person featured on a 'cause I feel like she is so intentional.
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Yeah.
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So it must be a big deal
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To feature someone.
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Taylor in this song.
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I don't know.
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I don't know anything about music, so I can't say Yeah, no.
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It's just uh I it's just interesting.
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Um but yeah, what do you think?
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I like it, but you know, it's
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not really a standout.
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Um uh it's quite repetitive.
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Um I think it's Yeah she co-wrote this.
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So like what?
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What
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I mean, yeah, if you're writing this with Colby, then like why is it not the best thing?
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You have two songwriters on this.
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Yeah.
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Well, I I like some verses.
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I like the words here, but you know
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Um, this is not a song that I would put on repeat for any reason.
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No really, because it's it doesn't feel
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Um it's it it feels too generic at the same time, um as not being
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like as well I I don't know how to say it.
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It it feels a bit it feels a bit too generic even though it it's not really, you know.
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No, it you're I I see what you're saying.
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And look, I'll say
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There's is a certain expectation when you're saying featuring someone.
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So when it does sound generic, you it draws even more attention to it because you're like
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Th y you're saying this had extra help or like do we all blame Colby on this one?
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No, we're not blaming anyone.
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This song feels to me like a warm hug that goes on forever and doesn't get warmer.
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You know what I mean?
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Maybe they both had a hard time collaborating and so they couldn't really get the song off the ground.
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Yeah, it doesn't feel like there's much personality in it at all.
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Either ty either Taylor's or Colby
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You know, but you know, all in all it's like nice songwriting is nice, it's got nice narrative.
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You see uh the narrator again in a car driving away from something
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It's like sick in the driving almost signifies an ending and moving on now in like the Taylor Swift cinematic universe
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And I like some lines here, like, you know, people are people and sometimes we change our minds.
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Or like music starts playing like the end of a sad movie.
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I don't know what to be without you around.
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Like all of these are like nice
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sentences poetic enough to an extent, but it still feels a bit generic, you know.
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And what's the song about?
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It's about losing a friend.
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And you know, you But they die?
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No, I I think there's a fallout because it mentions nothing we say is gonna save us from the fallout.
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Like probably a fight or or some sort of
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maybe not even fighting, like just just growing apart, gradual falling out and basically trying to imagine what life's gonna be like without them now.
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I mean, have you been in a situation like this?
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Breaking up with a friend?
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Yeah, pr pretty much.
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Yeah, all the time.
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Do you know s think about it in a wistful way like this?
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Or more like bitch fucking die Like get out of my fucking life.
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I mean that's how I uh think about most of 'em.
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I did have one
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uh best friend in America who like once I came to Bangkok I never really talked to him again because I'm a bad texture.
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And I guess he's not the best either.
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Okay.
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Um so, you know, I I lost
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Touch pretty fast and just felt disconnected and like I've always been a little wistful about that because I do wonder, you know, but it's I've it's been too long I think to like kind of we kind of yeah, like I don't know
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Um, so I kind of feel bad about that and a little wistful.
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But every other time you're yeah, it's like, no, fuck you, because it was like there's a reason.
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Yeah.
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It wasn't like a
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Geographic reason.
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You know?
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Um you said you just ghost people when you break up with them.
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Yes.
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I have had talked to people about like ending friendships and stuff.
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What really?
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And you know one of them.
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Yeah.
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You know what?
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You know one of 'em.
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Oh right shit.
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Okay.
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Wait, you actually have have talks about this stuff?
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Yeah, be like, okay, like yeah, I'm just so here's the logistics.
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We're not gonna be in the same place at the same time.
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Something like that.
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Or no, just like okay, it's you know we're
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Um, like I don't feel like being friends with you, like, you know, like I'll be nice and cordial, but like
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Um, yeah, I'm not really interested in like being friends, you know.
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Damn.
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I've had to have those conversations, yeah.
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Look, I can't have it
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You know, people say you can choose your friends and you can't choose your family, and I totally agree with that.
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Like, I mean friends are supposed to plus up your life, right?
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Yeah.
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And if they are bringing you down
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Like, you know, sometimes yeah, sometimes you can ghost them if they're not close, but sometimes like you should talk to them or something.
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Because like they don't just because you have known that person doesn't mean like you owe them anything necessarily, right?
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And people change and people grow.
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And I think it's okay to not have like friends forever.
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I don't have friends that, you know, I like went to high school with or anything.
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I don't really talk to anyone much.
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Um, from that time.
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But like, you don't I I don't believe in that obligation.
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I think like, you know, you can be a shitty friend, they can be a shitty friend, you can move on and stuff.
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It's just hard for me to have a conversation like this with a friend because I mean, first of all, why do I assume that they care enough to have a conversation
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Right?
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And second of all, how do I I can't even articulate this without I I just don't know how it's supposed to go.
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And it's easier to just fade away, let it die.
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And if you know, if if you run to each other, you can be cordial about it.
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Um, you can even say hello.
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But
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You will keep your distance.
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You've never so you've done that and like they don't even know why maybe you've done that?
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Yeah.
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I mean I've done that too.
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If it's not super serious, I'll just be like uh and then
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I mean w when I do this it's not something it's it's not anything serious.
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It's just got to a point where, okay, maybe they have disappointed me way too many times or they have like let me down
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Um, and I'm just done having those conversations.
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And then I just like remove myself.
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I'm still a little bit like this, but I was way worse when I was younger.
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But I just remembered there was this in high school
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There's this girl that I was friends with and and then me watching her, I didn't like how she was treating other people.
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And I just but we were in the same friend group.
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And so one day I kinda ghosted, but just like we we're still in the same friend group.
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I just stopped talking to her.
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And I'm just like such a stubborn freak that I just like
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did total silent treatment even though we'd be in the same room and stuff.
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And she had no real idea like why I was doing that.
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And I honestly couldn't even articulate it otherwise other than like
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I knew that she just wasn't I felt like she just wasn't a good person, but it wasn't like anything specific.
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I was just like, uh But I made everything super weird for everyone because like we'd all be hanging out.
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I was just completely pretending like she wasn't there and it was absurd.
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Oh my gosh.
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It was super absurd, but I
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just like super stubborn about it and stuff.
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I've tried to be better since then, but no, I've definitely had those where I'm just like a and the thing is like I'm very bad at acting too.
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So like even to this day like
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If there's someone I'm around that I'm just not vibing with, like I can't hide that.
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So what do you do?
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So I just like try to ignore or like keep my distance or something, you know, but it's obvious
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You know, 'cause I'm just not good at like Do you leave the room?
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N I mean no, usually not.
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But like I'm not gonna e engage either.
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'Cause I I don't like being kind of faky, nicey, you know
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I I have a hard time doing that, so I just yeah, I have to literally distance myself.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Damn, that's awkward.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So first of all I just try to not be in any place that I know
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some people that I don't want to see will be Of course.
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Yeah.
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Which means I end up ghosting more than one people, but it's just the way it is.
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And I will come back in a few months.
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Or you're talking about specific places right now?
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Yeah.
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This is why like I tread so carefully at the places I regular now because
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What?
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Because like that's happened to me before too, where like I'm like, well great, I can't go to this place again.
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You know, so like I really try to avoid that now that like you know I'm stuck in habits and at this age
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And so like I just try to like really f isolate and like because I like I'll fuck it up and like I'll make enemies and stuff, you know?
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And yeah.
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It's tough when like you're there's a lot of people that like are shitty for the most part.
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This is Bangkok.
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For sure.
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This is the untapped thing about Bangkok.
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Yeah.
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You know one time I got mad at a friend, um, who I thought
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you know, I was a good friend m and uh betrayed my trust and I just like didn't speak to him for a while.
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But, you know, he messaged me to apologize
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Not once, but twice.
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So so did you have to tell him why you were mad though?
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I did.
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Okay.
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Did he ask?
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He didn't know.
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So and you volunteered it.
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Yeah.
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Okay, okay, cool.
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It's like, hey, this is not cool what you did and
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you know, you betrayed my trust.
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And that's a big deal for me.
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And da da da da da.
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And I didn't announce that I was gonna like unfriend him or stop that I was gonna stop talking to him, but I stopped talking to him
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And like after a few days he apologized.
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And then I I saw it and I'm like it still didn't move me enough to do something about it.
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And he apologized again.
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And then
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after I would I was done ghosting him and people, you know, I went came around and I saw him.
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And it was like, you know, he apologized again um for a third time.
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It was like it's okay.
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By now I'm like it's forgiven
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Where were you friends again?
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Yeah, we're friends now.
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But like I I described he asked he he said like
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He said like I was avoiding him blah blah and I was I just wasn't.
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I just was taking a break from you.
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I that's what I said.
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Yeah.
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Because I need to
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process some stuff and it's better to do that in isolation than with his input in it.
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You know what I mean?
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Were you able to get over it?
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Yeah.
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I have a hard time with that sometimes
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Me too.
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But most times I'm able to get over things if I disappear long enough to deal with my shit.
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But sometimes my issue is like with the person's character
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Uh-huh.
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Sometimes if I if I like the person, they can do stuff, but I'm like, I know that they're like a good person or whatever.
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Yeah.
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But if they revealed themselves in my mind, um to be like
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An asshole or even just like cowardly.
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Like I it's hard for me not to like write them off and be like you know, this is not I think I can't like trust you.
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Yeah
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Like so like why am I gonna try to get close?
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Like I because I I again I am Mr.
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Don't Date Potential and I do it I do internalize that.
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So I think sometimes I write people off because I'm just like okay like
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You don't have your shit together, like I'm not gonna go near this.
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You know and I don't think they're gonna cause I just don't think I don't think people will improve unless maybe they do later, but I'm not like banking on it.
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Is it it's not cool
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No, it's cool that you have that much self-respect.
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I it is self- I mean look, because again, like I th I do think about this a lot.
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I think
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Talking to some people, I don't think they realize how optional a lot of s situations are and scenarios.
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A lot of things are very optional.
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And like
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If you focus on the things you can control, then yes, then the things you can't control become more manageable, right?
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But like so you have to make all the optional things
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you know, um you have to give them thought.
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And so like a lot of scenarios you don't have to be involved with.
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You can just walk away.
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Where people that cause you grief
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Yeah.
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You can just walk away.
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You don't have to interact.
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Dude, you know, I'm like a recovering people pleaser and that concept just did not exist to me.
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Yeah.
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That you can just walk away and that you can just choose to not deal with something.
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Um, yeah, but now I'm like, actually, once I am able to start walking out on things, I do walk out on things a lot now.
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You should though, it's very powerful because you don't need to deal with it.
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It's not even about being powerful, it's just being like
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Yeah, this is not worth it for me.
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Like I have better things to do.
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Sorry.
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But that's what I mean.
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Like it's it's a very powerful tool because you can manage like your emotions and time and stuff.
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Yes
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I do talk to like a lot of people who are like I have to you know all this shit and like if you really look at it it's like completely o pretty optional
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And it sucks.
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Like you don't have to go through that turmoil.
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Like you can choose the the things that, you know, make your life better.
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Yeah.
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And really examine the stuff that annoys you 'cause like you I don't really have to do it if you don't want to keep every friend in your life.
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Who's ever been in it?
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If they're causing grief, how much of a friend is that?
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Yeah.
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Like is that I feel like friendships are things that where both people contribute to each other, right?
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Like you want the best for each other or something
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Yeah.
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But if someone's not doing that, or you know, if if if they make your life worse, then then that's not really a a friend to me.
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Yeah, if they cause me a peace of mind, they're gone
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Right.
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Yeah.
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And so that leads me to have very few close friends, but I have some.
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No, that's cool.
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But you have to be picky because I get anxiety too much.
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I do know that I have to be more picky with my time and who I keep around.
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Yeah.
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So it's a work in process.
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Work in progress
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But at least at least I don't feel like I have to please everyone or like have to keep the peace all the time anymore.
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'Cause if I don't like them I can just ghost them.
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Yay.
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Yes, you can.
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And to be clear, I don't I'm not saying what I'm doing is brave.
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But like here's the thing.
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Like um I have so much anxiety all the time that like
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Uh I have to do things to control it.
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Like I have to avoid stressful situations or like I'll kind of not like I'll physically get ill.
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So like
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There's just a a ton of situations that like I just I don't know um I'm walking away from because I'm just avoiding pain.
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I'm just you know, like I'm avoiding I'm yeah, it's like completely avoiding social situations on purpose.
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Yeah.
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I'm pain avoidant, not like
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Brave, I'm just avoidant of like suffering, which means not being stressed.
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Okay.
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Anyways.
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Okay.
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It's good to be aware, I guess.
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So Colby, I want to mention this in the music video as well, completely overshadowed overshadowed by Taylor.
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Yeah.
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I mean it's her song.
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It's Taylor's song, right?
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Yeah, but even like
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Then it's Taylor interrupting the song to talk about how good Colby is.
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Yeah, it's kinda weird.
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Instead of you just watching Colby be good.
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That's kinda weird.
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Yeah.
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You see Kobe arriving in a car and then Colby harmonizing on a line and then nothing else.
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And then Taylor talking about Colby being good, but like just show me Colby then.
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And you don't really see them like
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Collaborating or yeah, or like singing together or anything.
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And there is this like weird thing in the I guess this was the official music video, but Taylor's just like talking in the beginning with like pretty bad
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sound just talking about like what the amazing process this was.
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I've never seen an intro to a music video like that in this time period of like people just
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talking over the the video of just being like this was a really great song I did.
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You're about to see this.
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Hmm.
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You remember the music video for I'm Only Me When I'm With You, which was about the tour.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah, I think Taylor just likes to do like
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a music video that is a documentary of something in progress.
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I do too.
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It's just the production value is super bad.
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Yeah, it's it's weird.
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Yeah.
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It doesn't seem like it has been talked about before the camera started rolling.
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Like, you know there were scenes when her hair was like all over the place or like
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You know, her clothes were kinda weird.
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Um n yeah, it didn't seem that intentional.
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And it's like Colby on the couch mouthing along to the lyrics.
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Yeah
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And nodding her head.
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It's just sucks.
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Cause if you're being like, oh my god, man, I'm featured on Taylor's like new album and like you know, you would expect her to have like a lot of fans after this, right?
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Was there like a big Colby explosion with Swift fans?
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No.
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Yeah.
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Set C, that's a pretty big um dud right there, I think.
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But Kobe was already big on her own terms.
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Like she had
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that hit song bubbly.
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I don't remember I don't even remember that.
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Yeah, it was like mainstream, pretty mainstream on the radio back then.
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And like she was featuring on Jason Braz.
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So Kobe was already big.
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Yeah.
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Okay, well I'm glad she helped out little Taylor Swift here.
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Thanks, Colby, for giving the
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Classic Colby boost.
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Yeah, I feel like there's a lot of words in this song.
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I don't know what to talk about.
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The outro is I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I
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sorry
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Yeah, I guess I'm I'm just not able to connect that much to it because I don't know what the backstory is.
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Like this song does not give out that much of a backstory that
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that would, you know, allow us to imagine the situation leading up to like the chorus and all that to to make it feel more um relevant and climatic
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And look, I don't think it's well written.
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Okay.
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I think there are some nice words, but yeah.
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It's not it's not really building
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much to me.
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It's hard to write songs with other people.
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Hmm.
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That is true.
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I that's how I feel about group projects.
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Exactly.
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And results are never good because
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It's a compromise.
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Yeah.
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And everyone has their own weird little process and it takes a lot of time.
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And if you just do a one-off with a friend, like you're gonna just you're not gonna expose your whole self and writing process in that moment.
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So I think it's probably pretty awkward.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, but you know, friendship breakups is never simple, never easy, never a clean break.
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At least that much is true.
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It was nominated for a Grammy Award.
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Oh, great.
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Her best pop collaboration.
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Did it win?
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Oh it lost the song.
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No, it lost the to that other song that Kobe was featuring.
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Kobe won Kobe beat herself
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Colby was featured on a Jason Moraz thing.
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Yeah.
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Called Lucky and that and Lucky one.
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But this is kind of sad too that like Colby is only being featured on songs that are winning and losing, you know?
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Getting tossed around like a hot potato.
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Oh yeah, true.
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You're right.
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You're right.
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You're right.
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Actually good for Colby for being on two different ones like that.
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But Lucky was a superior song for sure, because in that one
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Kobe did serve a purpose of being the female character, whereas Jason was the male character.
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So check this out
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Breathe peaked at 87 on the Billboards and its appearance tied Swift with Hannah Montana for two records on the Billboard Ha 100.
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So we were just talking about how they were contemporaries.
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Right.
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Well that's not very high.
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87 is not very high.
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No, but it got the r it was just tying with Miley for having two records on the top one hundred.
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Hmm.
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Yeah
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Cool.
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So soon to eclipse the Disney stars here.
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You see the the the origins of this.
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Okay.
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Thanks, Colby.
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Short and sweet.
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Much like your Taco Bell meal.
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How was that?
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I regret it.
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Really?
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Already, yeah.
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You have holy.
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I didn't even finish it.
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Yeah.
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Well that was a nice song, but there are better ones.
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And you know, it's a good message.
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Don't forget to breathe.
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Breathing's important, you know?
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I know it's not easy, but you got
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Gotta do it now.
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One at a time, one after the other.
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It's never simple, never easy, never clean break.
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No one here to save you.
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You gotta save yourself
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When you wake up, please breathe.
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Before you sleep, don't forget to do it.
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You can't breathe without me, but you have to.
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Brush your teeth twice and breathe while you're doing that.
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Stop it.
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Alright, bye
