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Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say
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yes to creativity totally uncut because we all make mistakes
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so turn it into a tool this is arrow unplugged
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hey it's.
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Arrow this is vocal defrag vocal defragging is done out
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here on this beautiful path inside a forest in south
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charlotte north carolina It gets me away from the four
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walls of the human home. It gets me in nature
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to ask the questions and question the answers. My invitation
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to you is to go for a walk. Get into
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a place of not just solitude, but peace. To get
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into a thought of processes in the way of accepting
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who you are as you are. And in that process,
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the only way you can gain access to progress is
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by asking the questions and questioning the answers. Knowing who
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you are and where you are is so, so vital.
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I keep a journalized version of defragging, which I've been
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doing since November of 2017, and the vocal defrag. Because
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there's something about listening to your own pitch, volume, and tone.
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That opens your heart. It puts you in that place of, oh,
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I'm not interpreting this. I'm hearing. the answers that i'm
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going to question this is vocal defrag pretty interesting subject
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today this came to me about three or four days
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ago and i've been pushing it aside pushing it aside
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and the reason why is because i wanted to better
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understand it while doing my own personal vocal defrag i
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i did say something that as i face this thing
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called grumpy old man syndrome I looked at my life
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and I said, you know, you have had moments where
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you've been kind of a jerk. And so people have
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accused you of having a huge ego. And in my defense,
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while asking the questions and questioning the answers, I said,
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I don't think it was an ego. I think it
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was a perfectionist. And so in that moment of now,
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I thought, yeah, that's it. I was a perfectionist. So
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I wanted to go in there and do some research
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on a perfectionist versus ego. Oh, I was stunned when
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I learned the difference between the two. There is no difference.
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In order to have an ego, you have to be
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a perfectionist. The ego is trying to make the world perfect. Therefore,
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the perfectionist is given birth. They go hand in hand together.
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So if you're having an ego-driven moment, talk to your
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perfectionist and see if you can mend the broken fence.
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Because your ego is always going to get hurt. Your
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actions in real life will prove that you've got an
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ego and that you've probably got a problem with being
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a perfectionist. So when people say, you know, you were
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a little bit rough back in your 30s and 40s. Oh,
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I know for a fact it's because the perfectionist in
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me wanted the best for everybody. My family, my job,
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the ratings in radio. I wanted to dedicate my entire
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soul to everything because I believed we could be and
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can be the greatest of all time. Only to learn...
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Life doesn't work that way. The perfectionist can talk all
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he or she wants. I dream of this. I want this.
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We're going to get this. And when it doesn't happen,
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then the ego is injured. And when the ego is injured,
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here comes your reaction. We've identified that the ego and
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perfectionist are connected. They're hand in hand. Is it possible
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that we're returning to to bad habits we think that
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we've knocked a habit out of our life only to
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realize wait a second i think i've been here before
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and the research on that says look it's not just
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possible to return to a habit it's probable In other words,
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the things that you did in your teens, you probably
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did in your twenties, your thirties, which means your ego
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is now involved because you thought you changed. You thought
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you were finding victory. You thought this and you thought this,
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and maybe one day it'll be like this. But when
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old habits return and it slows you down, you're perfectionist.
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is given fuel. I think I can fix this. I
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am a perfectionist. I know I can fix this. I'm
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going to work on this. I'm going to make sure
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that timing is down perfectly for this. And when it
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doesn't happen, the ego is injured. So those are the
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four things I want you to find focus on when
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you do your vocal defragging. Number one, identify that you're
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a perfectionist. It doesn't have to be, you know, an artist.
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It doesn't have to be a chef. It doesn't have
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to be a great business leader. We're all perfectionists. We
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all have procrastination moments because the perfectionist needs some time
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to plan things out. But look at your perfectionist self
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and connect it to the ego that you have. We've
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all got an ego. Where do you think we find
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confidence and courage? We all have an ego. Listen to it.
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Ask a question. Question answers. And if you are going
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through a moment where you think, I've been here before,
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my habits are returning, then do what I do. I
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keep a written journal. I do a vocal defrag journal.
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I can go back to any of these pages and
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see things and identify what I did in that moment
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to help heal it so I can use it as
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a tool. That's why I always tell people that, hey, look,
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we all make mistakes. So turn it into a tool.
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So the four words are perfectionist, Ego, old habits returning.
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Not only is it possible, it's probable. Learning to listen
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to the inner core of your being. And when you
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do return to an old habit, what triggered you to
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make that return? Was it something that happened at work,
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at home? Living in the presence of what is right
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now helps you understand that you don't need to live
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in your past. You don't need to step back there
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and try to redesign anything. It's already happened. The damage
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is done. Your perfectionist and ego self, they've already dealt
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with it. But we keep putting the fuel on the fire.
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Ask the questions. Question the answers. Please put it in
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a journal. The Defrag Journal is just you asking yourself
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questions and you responding only to be asked more questions.
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It's like talking to a child. Why do you do this?
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But don't treat yourself as a child. Treat yourself like
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you want to be treated. It has to start somewhere, right?
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I'm Errol, and that's Vocal Defrag.
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Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say
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yes to creativity totally uncut because we all make mistakes
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so turn it into a tool this is arrow unplugged
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hey it's.
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Arrow this is vocal defrag vocal defragging is done out
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here on this beautiful path inside a forest in south
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charlotte north carolina It gets me away from the four
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walls of the human home. It gets me in nature
9
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to ask the questions and question the answers. My invitation
10
00:00:26.390 --> 00:00:29.859
to you is to go for a walk. Get into
11
00:00:29.879 --> 00:00:33.299
a place of not just solitude, but peace. To get
12
00:00:33.399 --> 00:00:37.700
into a thought of processes in the way of accepting
13
00:00:37.859 --> 00:00:41.640
who you are as you are. And in that process,
14
00:00:41.759 --> 00:00:44.380
the only way you can gain access to progress is
15
00:00:44.399 --> 00:00:48.299
by asking the questions and questioning the answers. Knowing who
16
00:00:48.340 --> 00:00:51.380
you are and where you are is so, so vital.
17
00:00:52.210 --> 00:00:55.469
I keep a journalized version of defragging, which I've been
18
00:00:55.490 --> 00:00:58.969
doing since November of 2017, and the vocal defrag. Because
19
00:00:59.250 --> 00:01:02.530
there's something about listening to your own pitch, volume, and tone.
20
00:01:03.549 --> 00:01:07.349
That opens your heart. It puts you in that place of, oh,
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I'm not interpreting this. I'm hearing. the answers that i'm
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going to question this is vocal defrag pretty interesting subject
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today this came to me about three or four days
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ago and i've been pushing it aside pushing it aside
25
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and the reason why is because i wanted to better
26
00:01:24.730 --> 00:01:28.260
understand it while doing my own personal vocal defrag i
27
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i did say something that as i face this thing
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called grumpy old man syndrome I looked at my life
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00:01:35.980 --> 00:01:37.760
and I said, you know, you have had moments where
30
00:01:37.780 --> 00:01:41.540
you've been kind of a jerk. And so people have
31
00:01:41.560 --> 00:01:45.459
accused you of having a huge ego. And in my defense,
32
00:01:45.579 --> 00:01:48.310
while asking the questions and questioning the answers, I said,
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I don't think it was an ego. I think it
34
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was a perfectionist. And so in that moment of now,
35
00:01:53.870 --> 00:01:58.090
I thought, yeah, that's it. I was a perfectionist. So
36
00:01:58.189 --> 00:01:59.939
I wanted to go in there and do some research
37
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on a perfectionist versus ego. Oh, I was stunned when
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I learned the difference between the two. There is no difference.
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In order to have an ego, you have to be
40
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a perfectionist. The ego is trying to make the world perfect. Therefore,
41
00:02:16.419 --> 00:02:20.949
the perfectionist is given birth. They go hand in hand together.
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So if you're having an ego-driven moment, talk to your
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perfectionist and see if you can mend the broken fence.
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Because your ego is always going to get hurt. Your
45
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actions in real life will prove that you've got an
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ego and that you've probably got a problem with being
47
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a perfectionist. So when people say, you know, you were
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a little bit rough back in your 30s and 40s. Oh,
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I know for a fact it's because the perfectionist in
50
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me wanted the best for everybody. My family, my job,
51
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the ratings in radio. I wanted to dedicate my entire
52
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soul to everything because I believed we could be and
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can be the greatest of all time. Only to learn...
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Life doesn't work that way. The perfectionist can talk all
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he or she wants. I dream of this. I want this.
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We're going to get this. And when it doesn't happen,
57
00:03:19.250 --> 00:03:23.710
then the ego is injured. And when the ego is injured,
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here comes your reaction. We've identified that the ego and
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perfectionist are connected. They're hand in hand. Is it possible
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that we're returning to to bad habits we think that
61
00:03:37.819 --> 00:03:41.020
we've knocked a habit out of our life only to
62
00:03:41.060 --> 00:03:43.930
realize wait a second i think i've been here before
63
00:03:44.909 --> 00:03:48.590
and the research on that says look it's not just
64
00:03:48.770 --> 00:03:53.680
possible to return to a habit it's probable In other words,
65
00:03:53.699 --> 00:03:56.699
the things that you did in your teens, you probably
66
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did in your twenties, your thirties, which means your ego
67
00:04:01.030 --> 00:04:03.770
is now involved because you thought you changed. You thought
68
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you were finding victory. You thought this and you thought this,
69
00:04:06.389 --> 00:04:09.419
and maybe one day it'll be like this. But when
70
00:04:09.479 --> 00:04:14.599
old habits return and it slows you down, you're perfectionist.
71
00:04:15.520 --> 00:04:18.459
is given fuel. I think I can fix this. I
72
00:04:18.660 --> 00:04:21.339
am a perfectionist. I know I can fix this. I'm
73
00:04:21.360 --> 00:04:22.750
going to work on this. I'm going to make sure
74
00:04:22.790 --> 00:04:25.730
that timing is down perfectly for this. And when it
75
00:04:25.769 --> 00:04:29.769
doesn't happen, the ego is injured. So those are the
76
00:04:29.810 --> 00:04:31.569
four things I want you to find focus on when
77
00:04:31.589 --> 00:04:36.600
you do your vocal defragging. Number one, identify that you're
78
00:04:36.620 --> 00:04:39.769
a perfectionist. It doesn't have to be, you know, an artist.
79
00:04:39.810 --> 00:04:41.290
It doesn't have to be a chef. It doesn't have
80
00:04:41.310 --> 00:04:44.670
to be a great business leader. We're all perfectionists. We
81
00:04:44.829 --> 00:04:49.129
all have procrastination moments because the perfectionist needs some time
82
00:04:49.449 --> 00:04:52.629
to plan things out. But look at your perfectionist self
83
00:04:53.550 --> 00:04:56.550
and connect it to the ego that you have. We've
84
00:04:56.870 --> 00:04:59.420
all got an ego. Where do you think we find
85
00:04:59.540 --> 00:05:04.209
confidence and courage? We all have an ego. Listen to it.
86
00:05:04.899 --> 00:05:08.180
Ask a question. Question answers. And if you are going
87
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through a moment where you think, I've been here before,
88
00:05:11.500 --> 00:05:15.050
my habits are returning, then do what I do. I
89
00:05:15.110 --> 00:05:17.870
keep a written journal. I do a vocal defrag journal.
90
00:05:18.589 --> 00:05:20.230
I can go back to any of these pages and
91
00:05:20.310 --> 00:05:23.470
see things and identify what I did in that moment
92
00:05:23.490 --> 00:05:25.889
to help heal it so I can use it as
93
00:05:25.930 --> 00:05:28.959
a tool. That's why I always tell people that, hey, look,
94
00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:32.220
we all make mistakes. So turn it into a tool.
95
00:05:34.079 --> 00:05:40.459
So the four words are perfectionist, Ego, old habits returning.
96
00:05:41.860 --> 00:05:46.579
Not only is it possible, it's probable. Learning to listen
97
00:05:46.620 --> 00:05:49.269
to the inner core of your being. And when you
98
00:05:49.350 --> 00:05:52.949
do return to an old habit, what triggered you to
99
00:05:52.990 --> 00:05:55.629
make that return? Was it something that happened at work,
100
00:05:55.680 --> 00:06:01.449
at home? Living in the presence of what is right
101
00:06:01.610 --> 00:06:05.189
now helps you understand that you don't need to live
102
00:06:05.209 --> 00:06:07.970
in your past. You don't need to step back there
103
00:06:08.009 --> 00:06:11.689
and try to redesign anything. It's already happened. The damage
104
00:06:11.750 --> 00:06:16.019
is done. Your perfectionist and ego self, they've already dealt
105
00:06:16.040 --> 00:06:19.399
with it. But we keep putting the fuel on the fire.
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Ask the questions. Question the answers. Please put it in
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a journal. The Defrag Journal is just you asking yourself
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questions and you responding only to be asked more questions.
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It's like talking to a child. Why do you do this?
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But don't treat yourself as a child. Treat yourself like
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you want to be treated. It has to start somewhere, right?
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I'm Errol, and that's Vocal Defrag.
