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Creativity is an addiction. Unplugged because we will always say
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yes to creativity. Totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
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So let's turn it into a tool. This is Arrow Unplugged. Hey,
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it's Arrow, and this is Vocal Defrag.
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Vocal Defrag is asking yourself the questions and questioning the answers.
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I do my vocal defragging out here inside this forest
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in South Charlotte, North Carolina. Beautiful trees, beautiful day, 41 degrees,
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a little chilly, but it's the final day of the
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year 2023. Which kind of puts me in the center
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of what our subject is going to be about today.
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I've asked the questions and I will question the answers
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as we grow into a brand new season. But today's
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focus is putting yourself in a place of right now.
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How do you break that habit of being somebody who's
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always living in your past? We'll be right back. greater
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more rewarding but in reality to the rest of us
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when we see you living in your past it's like
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listening to the same old song over and over again
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the goal is to find your monsters know your ghosts
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this is how you break free of living in your
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past what is your trigger what is putting you in
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that place where you think you've got to escape where
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we are right now and jump back into a past
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that you can't change or to try to lay out
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a future that you really have no control over you
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can do whatever you want through education through speaking through
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putting out through designing your own picture board and it
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ain't gonna play out the way you want to It
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doesn't happen that way. And the reason why is because
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we allow so many people around us to control what
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it is that we're doing. The expectations of others, they
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hire you to make them look better. You're just part
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of the team. And it's the same thing when it
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comes to your past. You put yourself back there so
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that your present place doesn't have to deal with what's
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going on in the world today. So the number one
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thing that I want to talk about today is know
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your ghost. Know how many ghosts you have. The way
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you do that is you sit down with a sheet
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of paper and you write out what bothers you. Write
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out why you enjoy going back to a past. Learning
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to listen to yourself by asking the questions and then
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questioning the answers. When you identify the ghost, it doesn't
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mean to shun the ghost away. What you're doing is
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you're saying, hey, I see you. Yeah, I know what
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you're up to. Yeah, you've been there a long time.
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Here's the thing. It's going to take a lifetime to
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probably get rid of you because I can't erase you.
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But here's the one thing I want to do most.
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I want to say you don't have any power over
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me anymore. We like to live in our past because
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There are certain things that we did that we shame
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ourselves of each and every day. And we think we
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can go back and fix that moment to rewrite the story. See,
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knowing your ghosts will give you that opportunity to say,
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you know what? It was a mistake. It wasn't as
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bad as I thought it was, or maybe it was.
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But the thing is, is that knowing your ghosts puts
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you on that avenue of developing and mindfully growing with
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a more peaceful you. And knowing your ghosts is a
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great way to introduce yourself to the self that you
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need to be, not want to be, need to be.
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It's very difficult to have a lot of dreams. And
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it's even more difficult when those dreams don't play out.
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You become the used to be. Didn't you used to be?
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That's a ghost. Yeah, when you become a used to be,
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that's a ghost. Hey, I know that you tried really
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hard to do this. But when you did it, what happened?
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And how did it stop from taking place? Once again,
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you're introducing yourself to a ghost. Because you're going to
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hold yourself responsible for for the fears and doubts that
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we have in an everyday world. And that's the thing
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about it. Live in your moment of now and deal
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with the moment of now. The thing that we need
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to seek are the little things. We all dream of
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these big, gigantic mountains of success and victory. But what
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we have to do is seek the little things. Identify
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the ghost in the way of saying, I'm listening. I'm
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not going to agree with you. You can have a
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place in my heart, but you're not going to dominate
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my season. Knowing your ghosts. It starts with asking the
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questions and then questioning the answers. Defragging. I have a
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defrag journal that I write in and I also do
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the vocal defragging. It's not like what we're doing right now.
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This right here is a teaching tool. Vocal defragging to
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me is a very personal and private thing and it
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should be for you too. You're more than welcome to
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share it with other people. But remember, anytime you bring
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anyone into your circle... They now own it. Just like
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your career. Just like your dreams. They now own it.
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They have room for judgment. And don't you judge yourself enough?
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I'm Arrow, and that's Vocal Defrag.
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Creativity is an addiction. Unplugged because we will always say
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00:00:03.569 --> 00:00:07.410
yes to creativity. Totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
3
00:00:07.950 --> 00:00:11.509
So let's turn it into a tool. This is Arrow Unplugged. Hey,
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00:00:11.519 --> 00:00:13.140
it's Arrow, and this is Vocal Defrag.
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00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:17.320
Vocal Defrag is asking yourself the questions and questioning the answers.
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I do my vocal defragging out here inside this forest
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00:00:20.800 --> 00:00:24.739
in South Charlotte, North Carolina. Beautiful trees, beautiful day, 41 degrees,
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00:00:24.760 --> 00:00:27.160
a little chilly, but it's the final day of the
9
00:00:27.199 --> 00:00:30.820
year 2023. Which kind of puts me in the center
10
00:00:31.019 --> 00:00:32.590
of what our subject is going to be about today.
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I've asked the questions and I will question the answers
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00:00:35.770 --> 00:00:38.649
as we grow into a brand new season. But today's
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00:00:38.670 --> 00:00:42.549
focus is putting yourself in a place of right now.
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How do you break that habit of being somebody who's
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always living in your past? We'll be right back. greater
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more rewarding but in reality to the rest of us
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when we see you living in your past it's like
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listening to the same old song over and over again
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the goal is to find your monsters know your ghosts
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this is how you break free of living in your
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past what is your trigger what is putting you in
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that place where you think you've got to escape where
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we are right now and jump back into a past
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that you can't change or to try to lay out
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a future that you really have no control over you
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can do whatever you want through education through speaking through
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putting out through designing your own picture board and it
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ain't gonna play out the way you want to It
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doesn't happen that way. And the reason why is because
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we allow so many people around us to control what
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it is that we're doing. The expectations of others, they
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hire you to make them look better. You're just part
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of the team. And it's the same thing when it
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comes to your past. You put yourself back there so
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that your present place doesn't have to deal with what's
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going on in the world today. So the number one
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thing that I want to talk about today is know
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your ghost. Know how many ghosts you have. The way
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you do that is you sit down with a sheet
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of paper and you write out what bothers you. Write
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out why you enjoy going back to a past. Learning
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00:02:32.479 --> 00:02:35.240
to listen to yourself by asking the questions and then
43
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questioning the answers. When you identify the ghost, it doesn't
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mean to shun the ghost away. What you're doing is
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you're saying, hey, I see you. Yeah, I know what
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you're up to. Yeah, you've been there a long time.
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Here's the thing. It's going to take a lifetime to
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probably get rid of you because I can't erase you.
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But here's the one thing I want to do most.
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I want to say you don't have any power over
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me anymore. We like to live in our past because
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There are certain things that we did that we shame
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ourselves of each and every day. And we think we
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00:03:12.629 --> 00:03:16.840
can go back and fix that moment to rewrite the story. See,
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knowing your ghosts will give you that opportunity to say,
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you know what? It was a mistake. It wasn't as
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bad as I thought it was, or maybe it was.
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But the thing is, is that knowing your ghosts puts
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00:03:29.770 --> 00:03:36.310
you on that avenue of developing and mindfully growing with
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a more peaceful you. And knowing your ghosts is a
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great way to introduce yourself to the self that you
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need to be, not want to be, need to be.
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It's very difficult to have a lot of dreams. And
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it's even more difficult when those dreams don't play out.
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You become the used to be. Didn't you used to be?
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That's a ghost. Yeah, when you become a used to be,
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that's a ghost. Hey, I know that you tried really
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hard to do this. But when you did it, what happened?
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00:04:08.090 --> 00:04:11.509
And how did it stop from taking place? Once again,
70
00:04:11.530 --> 00:04:14.750
you're introducing yourself to a ghost. Because you're going to
71
00:04:14.810 --> 00:04:17.649
hold yourself responsible for for the fears and doubts that
72
00:04:17.689 --> 00:04:19.920
we have in an everyday world. And that's the thing
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00:04:19.980 --> 00:04:23.379
about it. Live in your moment of now and deal
74
00:04:23.439 --> 00:04:25.540
with the moment of now. The thing that we need
75
00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:28.800
to seek are the little things. We all dream of
76
00:04:28.839 --> 00:04:32.899
these big, gigantic mountains of success and victory. But what
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00:04:32.939 --> 00:04:36.939
we have to do is seek the little things. Identify
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the ghost in the way of saying, I'm listening. I'm
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not going to agree with you. You can have a
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place in my heart, but you're not going to dominate
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my season. Knowing your ghosts. It starts with asking the
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00:04:49.870 --> 00:04:54.220
questions and then questioning the answers. Defragging. I have a
83
00:04:54.269 --> 00:04:56.540
defrag journal that I write in and I also do
84
00:04:56.560 --> 00:04:59.139
the vocal defragging. It's not like what we're doing right now.
85
00:04:59.160 --> 00:05:02.319
This right here is a teaching tool. Vocal defragging to
86
00:05:02.360 --> 00:05:05.060
me is a very personal and private thing and it
87
00:05:05.100 --> 00:05:07.139
should be for you too. You're more than welcome to
88
00:05:07.170 --> 00:05:10.389
share it with other people. But remember, anytime you bring
89
00:05:10.529 --> 00:05:14.389
anyone into your circle... They now own it. Just like
90
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your career. Just like your dreams. They now own it.
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They have room for judgment. And don't you judge yourself enough?
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I'm Arrow, and that's Vocal Defrag.
