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[SPEAKER_00]: the people that we feel the most are actually reflecting something back to us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not in I, everything is a mirror, a really simplified kind of way, but in a, this is a grounded real real response.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like certain people can highlight patterns you already have, parts of yourself that you haven't fully seen, things you're drawn to, things you're avoiding, that's why some connections feel so charged and it's not always just about the other person that really is just about what's being activated in you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Something reflects something you admire, or something you want more of, something that feels exciting or expansive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And other times, they reflect something that feels uncomfortable, something that triggers you, something that brings up insecurity or fear of world patterns.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that doesn't automatically mean the connection is wrong, but it does mean that there's something to be attention to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, hello, magical friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yo, me, this is my name is Rakel, and welcome to your own magic, a podcast for the creative, and the curious soul, happy Thursday, as we are.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this many times, but you know, we're doing episodes on Mondays and Thursdays now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And Mondays, more grounding, more reflective, come back to yourself, kind of space, magic Monday.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then Thursdays, where we're gonna get a little more curious, so that I'm more open, a little bit older, we'll be a little witchy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We'll explore things like last week we did numerology, we'll also explore energy and all of the thus slightly more otherworldly concepts.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But always in a way that feels that still feels real and actually useful in your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So Monday is our anchor for our week and then Thursday's the little portal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And today's episode is something that I've been thinking about a lot lately, especially when it comes to relationships and the people in our lives.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever met someone and it just feels acy or familiar?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you don't even have to try, you don't have to overthink it just, it just worked.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then on the other hand, have you ever met someone where something felt a little awful, complicated, just not aligned?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Couldn't feel like it's went away or just being yourself, but on paper, I mean, maybe everything might look fine, but the energy just felt different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think a lot of people turn to things like astrology to try to understand that, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But today, I want to look at it through a slightly different lens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love looking at it through the astrology lens, but we're going to talk about compatibility beyond astrology, using numerology, energy, and just a deeper understanding of how we actually interact with other people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, first, let's talk about what compatibility even is, though you obviously know, but I think that we've been taught to think of compatibility in a really surface of the way, like, do we have things to comment, do we like the same things, do we get along easily?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And those things do matter, but they're not the full picture because you can have all of those things and still feel like something is off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And on the flip side, you can meet someone who is completely different from you, and it just works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So compatibility is not just about being the same, it's about how your energies interact, and it's about how your nervous systems respond to each other, how your communication styles meet, your patterns play off one another, how you feel in their presence over time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's something that I think that we don't always pay attention to we might brush aside.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we tend to look at what makes sense, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, those good on paper instead of what actually feels like.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think that those listening right now actually think, oh, this looks good on paper.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think we do intuitively.
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[SPEAKER_00]: whether it's friend, relationship, love a, even just being close with certain members of our family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We likely follow our intuition there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I wanted to just talk more about that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you're listening to a podcast like this, you likely don't really give a crap about what it looks like on paper instead you care more about the energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's just an interesting topic to discuss.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So,
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I think do I feel calmer on them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Does my nervous system feel safe and relaxed?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I can be myself?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do things feel easy or do they feel like work?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that doesn't mean everything should always be effortless, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But there's a difference between something that flows and something that constantly feels like it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It just It needs to be managed and that's where
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[SPEAKER_00]: This gets interesting because when you start looking at compatibility this way you stop trying to force things to make sense and you start noticing how things actually feel and that's where tools like numerology can add another layer and this is not to label people not to box anyone in but to just give you a little more insight into why certain dynamics may feel the way they do and once you start to see that a lot of your past experiences start to make a lot more sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, when it comes to numerology, most people only really know their life path number.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But even then, it's usually explained in a really surface level way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we've had the surface level 101 numerology, and we've also got in depth with comic numbers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, let's say you're a three.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're creative, or you're a Nate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're driven, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And while that's not wrong, it's also not the full picture, because numerology isn't just about who you are individually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's also about how your energy interacts with other people's energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to put the numerology more recent numerology episodes linked in the show notes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And also, I think I had an expert on, if I did, I'm going to, and that could be an older episode, but numerology is timeless, so I'll put that into the show notes too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, every number carries a different kind of rhythm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, some numbers are more structured, some are more emotional, some are more independent, or more relational, and
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when those energies come together, they either flow naturally or they create friction.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that friction, it's not all bad, it's not always bad, it's sometimes it's growth, sometimes it's a mirror.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's just a difference in how you move through the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And something that I think is really important to understand is compatibility is not about finding someone who is exactly like you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about how your differences interact, like someone who is more grounded and structured might feel really stabilizing to someone who is more fluid and emotional.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but at the same time, that same dynamic could feel restrictive or overwhelming if it's not balanced.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or someone who's very independent might feel exciting and inspiring but also distant or hard to read depending on what you need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's not just about
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[SPEAKER_00]: are we compatible or not, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's more like how do our energies meet?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What does this dynamic actually feel like over time?
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[SPEAKER_00]: a numerology can give you a language for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not to label someone as good or bad for you, but to understand why something feels easier, why something feels a little more complicated.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that when you start to see it this way, you stop taking things so personally because it's not always about someone doing something wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's often just
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[SPEAKER_00]: about two different energies, trying to find their rhythm together, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's a little more nuanced, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It becomes a little more nuanced.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not just black and white, or perfect or not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about the dynamic, and once you understand that, you start to see your relationships in a completely different way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so...
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, let's, uh, we have the foundation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was simple.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is also where things really start to click, because we'll have you ever noticed that, like I said before, some people just feel easy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you don't overthink what you say, your nervous system feels calm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't feel like you have to manage the interaction.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just feel comfortable and at ease.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not always about how much you have in common, really, it's just the energy flows.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your tiny matches, your communication feels natural, your nervous system feels relaxed around them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's huge.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's usually a sign that your energies are either similar, or they compliment each other in a really balanced way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there's not a constant push or pull, it's just it just works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean they're bad or good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It just works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, we're all so different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: then there's also other people where it feels a little more complicated and again it's just not always obvious why but maybe you overthink more around them or you feel slightly on edge or things feel inconsistent or unclear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe there's a strong pull but it also just feels a little chaotic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: which also can change over time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know that there are people in my life that I didn't feel ease around at first, but then I ended up feeling at ease when I got to really know them, but this is just that first energy that we're talking about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think this is something a lot of people get confused about, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because intensity that can feel a connection or not, or it can feel a chemistry or
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[SPEAKER_00]: It can feel like something very important, but a lot of the time intensity is actually activation, and it's your system reacting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be a pattern being mirrored back to you, or a wound to be in touch.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A dynamic that feels familiar, even if it's not healthy, and that's why certain connections can feel so strong, but also so unstable, because they're just not just about connection, they're activation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And on the other side of that,
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[SPEAKER_00]: sometimes something that is actually good for you can feel unfamiliar.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, there are people that I didn't feel fully comfortable with that first and then I got comfortable with and they're so good for me in my life as friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It can feel slower and quieter and less dramatic and your brain might interpret that as ugh.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is boring, or this is an A, or I don't feel safe in my nervous system because my mind is going crazy, and I'm just trying to impress this person for some reason, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: When really, it just might be stable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so you're just not used to stability, and that can feel a stranger first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So part of understanding compatibility is learning to notice that does this feel calm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Word does this feel chaotic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel steady?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or is this inconsistent?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like myself here?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or do I feel like I have to adjust?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And again, this isn't about labeling people as good or bad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about understanding what a dynamic actually is doing to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because once you can see that clearly, you stop getting pulled in just by
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[SPEAKER_00]: It feels over time, and that shift alone can change so much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there's another layer to all of this, I'd like to say that there is just, I mean, this is something that's really important to understand in my opinion is that sometimes the people that we feel the most are actually reflecting something back to us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not in everything as a mirror really simplified kind of way, but in a, this is a grounded real real response.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like certain people can highlight patterns you already have, parts of yourself that you haven't fully seen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Things you're drawn to, things you're avoiding, and that's why some connections feel so charged, and it's not always just about the other person, but really it's just about what's being activated in you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that can go in different directions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like sometimes,
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[SPEAKER_00]: or something you want more of, something that feels exciting or expansive, and other times, they reflect something that feels uncomfortable, something that triggers you, something that brings up insecurity or fear-world patterns.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that doesn't automatically mean the connection is wrong, but it does mean that there's something to pay attention to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because not every strong connection is meant to be long-term, some connections are here to show you something not necessarily to stay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think this is where a lot of confusion happens because we feel something strongly, and we assume that means it's meant to be, but sometimes it's just, it just means it's meaningful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there's a difference, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So instead of asking, why do I feel this way about them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be more helpful to ask yourself, what is this bringing up in me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that question brings the awareness back to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's where the clarity usually is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love this conversation about energy and bringing questions back to ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, how do you actually use all of this without overanalyzing every person that you meet or trying to figure everyone out?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because this isn't about turning relationships into a puzzle or becoming more aware of your experience inside of them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So instead of focusing so much on, what does this person mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are they right for me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can start with something simpler,
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do I feel around them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel calm or do I feel like myself?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel grounded?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or do I feel anxious?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I have to perform?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I'm trying to figure something out all the time?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then pay attention to patterns over time because one moment doesn't tell you everything but consistency does.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this is where self-trust comes back in because tools like numerology, astrology, all of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That can give you a language but
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[SPEAKER_00]: they shouldn't replace your own awareness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They should support it, so you can use them to understand dynamics.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But still come back to yourself as the final reference point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And something I think is really important to remember is that you don't need to figure everything out and you don't need to label every connection, obviously.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can just observe, just notice, just let things reveal themselves over time and trust that you'll feel what's right for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's where this becomes really empowering because instead of trying to control or to code everything you're just paying attention to it, and that's honestly enough.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So as you think about all of this, you don't need to figure ever reconnection out, don't be available every dynamic like I've said.
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[SPEAKER_00]: just want to emphasize that you can just start noticing, noticing how you feel around certain people, noticing what feels easy, what feels a little more complicated, what feels more calm, what feels more activating, and letting that be information, because the more you pay attention to your own experience, the clearer things tend to become, and then tools like numerology astrology, all that that can give you a language, right, and that can give you a perspective.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But at the end of the day, your own awareness is always going to be the most important piece.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I do love to dive into numerology and astrology especially for these Thursday episodes, but I really wanted to bring this into our awareness first before we go more into all of those different systems for a Thursday episode because I really want that to be important is obviously what you recognize and bring in awareness to the energies around you is the most important thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's the episodes again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're just going to be opening your mind a little.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can go a bit deeper, a bit more curious.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then there are going to be many, many episodes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Probably next Thursday I'll do one that's a little more otherworldly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love a little more otherworldly, a little witchy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But still bringing it back to something real, something that you can actually use in your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So anyway, take what resonates, leapo doesn't always, and just let yourself explore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you want to stay connected with me outside of the podcast, you can connect with me on Instagram or Substack.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My username is at RecallMontra.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's R-A-Q-U-E-L-L-E-M-A-N-T-R-A.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And with all that said, thank you so much for listening and thank you for your magic.
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[UNKNOWN]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: the people that we feel the most are actually reflecting something back to us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not in I, everything is a mirror, a really simplified kind of way, but in a, this is a grounded real real response.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like certain people can highlight patterns you already have, parts of yourself that you haven't fully seen, things you're drawn to, things you're avoiding, that's why some connections feel so charged and it's not always just about the other person that really is just about what's being activated in you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Something reflects something you admire, or something you want more of, something that feels exciting or expansive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And other times, they reflect something that feels uncomfortable, something that triggers you, something that brings up insecurity or fear of world patterns.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that doesn't automatically mean the connection is wrong, but it does mean that there's something to be attention to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, hello, magical friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yo, me, this is my name is Rakel, and welcome to your own magic, a podcast for the creative, and the curious soul, happy Thursday, as we are.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this many times, but you know, we're doing episodes on Mondays and Thursdays now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And Mondays, more grounding, more reflective, come back to yourself, kind of space, magic Monday.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then Thursdays, where we're gonna get a little more curious, so that I'm more open, a little bit older, we'll be a little witchy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We'll explore things like last week we did numerology, we'll also explore energy and all of the thus slightly more otherworldly concepts.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But always in a way that feels that still feels real and actually useful in your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So Monday is our anchor for our week and then Thursday's the little portal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And today's episode is something that I've been thinking about a lot lately, especially when it comes to relationships and the people in our lives.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever met someone and it just feels acy or familiar?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you don't even have to try, you don't have to overthink it just, it just worked.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then on the other hand, have you ever met someone where something felt a little awful, complicated, just not aligned?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Couldn't feel like it's went away or just being yourself, but on paper, I mean, maybe everything might look fine, but the energy just felt different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think a lot of people turn to things like astrology to try to understand that, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But today, I want to look at it through a slightly different lens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love looking at it through the astrology lens, but we're going to talk about compatibility beyond astrology, using numerology, energy, and just a deeper understanding of how we actually interact with other people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, first, let's talk about what compatibility even is, though you obviously know, but I think that we've been taught to think of compatibility in a really surface of the way, like, do we have things to comment, do we like the same things, do we get along easily?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And those things do matter, but they're not the full picture because you can have all of those things and still feel like something is off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And on the flip side, you can meet someone who is completely different from you, and it just works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So compatibility is not just about being the same, it's about how your energies interact, and it's about how your nervous systems respond to each other, how your communication styles meet, your patterns play off one another, how you feel in their presence over time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's something that I think that we don't always pay attention to we might brush aside.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we tend to look at what makes sense, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, those good on paper instead of what actually feels like.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think that those listening right now actually think, oh, this looks good on paper.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think we do intuitively.
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[SPEAKER_00]: whether it's friend, relationship, love a, even just being close with certain members of our family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We likely follow our intuition there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I wanted to just talk more about that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you're listening to a podcast like this, you likely don't really give a crap about what it looks like on paper instead you care more about the energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's just an interesting topic to discuss.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So,
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I think do I feel calmer on them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Does my nervous system feel safe and relaxed?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I can be myself?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do things feel easy or do they feel like work?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that doesn't mean everything should always be effortless, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But there's a difference between something that flows and something that constantly feels like it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It just It needs to be managed and that's where
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[SPEAKER_00]: This gets interesting because when you start looking at compatibility this way you stop trying to force things to make sense and you start noticing how things actually feel and that's where tools like numerology can add another layer and this is not to label people not to box anyone in but to just give you a little more insight into why certain dynamics may feel the way they do and once you start to see that a lot of your past experiences start to make a lot more sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, when it comes to numerology, most people only really know their life path number.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But even then, it's usually explained in a really surface level way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we've had the surface level 101 numerology, and we've also got in depth with comic numbers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, let's say you're a three.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're creative, or you're a Nate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're driven, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And while that's not wrong, it's also not the full picture, because numerology isn't just about who you are individually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's also about how your energy interacts with other people's energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to put the numerology more recent numerology episodes linked in the show notes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And also, I think I had an expert on, if I did, I'm going to, and that could be an older episode, but numerology is timeless, so I'll put that into the show notes too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, every number carries a different kind of rhythm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, some numbers are more structured, some are more emotional, some are more independent, or more relational, and
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when those energies come together, they either flow naturally or they create friction.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that friction, it's not all bad, it's not always bad, it's sometimes it's growth, sometimes it's a mirror.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's just a difference in how you move through the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And something that I think is really important to understand is compatibility is not about finding someone who is exactly like you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about how your differences interact, like someone who is more grounded and structured might feel really stabilizing to someone who is more fluid and emotional.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but at the same time, that same dynamic could feel restrictive or overwhelming if it's not balanced.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or someone who's very independent might feel exciting and inspiring but also distant or hard to read depending on what you need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's not just about
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[SPEAKER_00]: are we compatible or not, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's more like how do our energies meet?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What does this dynamic actually feel like over time?
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[SPEAKER_00]: a numerology can give you a language for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not to label someone as good or bad for you, but to understand why something feels easier, why something feels a little more complicated.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that when you start to see it this way, you stop taking things so personally because it's not always about someone doing something wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's often just
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[SPEAKER_00]: about two different energies, trying to find their rhythm together, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's a little more nuanced, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It becomes a little more nuanced.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not just black and white, or perfect or not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about the dynamic, and once you understand that, you start to see your relationships in a completely different way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so...
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, let's, uh, we have the foundation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was simple.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is also where things really start to click, because we'll have you ever noticed that, like I said before, some people just feel easy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you don't overthink what you say, your nervous system feels calm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't feel like you have to manage the interaction.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just feel comfortable and at ease.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not always about how much you have in common, really, it's just the energy flows.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your tiny matches, your communication feels natural, your nervous system feels relaxed around them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's huge.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's usually a sign that your energies are either similar, or they compliment each other in a really balanced way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there's not a constant push or pull, it's just it just works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean they're bad or good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It just works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, we're all so different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: then there's also other people where it feels a little more complicated and again it's just not always obvious why but maybe you overthink more around them or you feel slightly on edge or things feel inconsistent or unclear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe there's a strong pull but it also just feels a little chaotic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: which also can change over time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know that there are people in my life that I didn't feel ease around at first, but then I ended up feeling at ease when I got to really know them, but this is just that first energy that we're talking about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think this is something a lot of people get confused about, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because intensity that can feel a connection or not, or it can feel a chemistry or
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[SPEAKER_00]: It can feel like something very important, but a lot of the time intensity is actually activation, and it's your system reacting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be a pattern being mirrored back to you, or a wound to be in touch.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A dynamic that feels familiar, even if it's not healthy, and that's why certain connections can feel so strong, but also so unstable, because they're just not just about connection, they're activation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And on the other side of that,
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[SPEAKER_00]: sometimes something that is actually good for you can feel unfamiliar.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, there are people that I didn't feel fully comfortable with that first and then I got comfortable with and they're so good for me in my life as friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It can feel slower and quieter and less dramatic and your brain might interpret that as ugh.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is boring, or this is an A, or I don't feel safe in my nervous system because my mind is going crazy, and I'm just trying to impress this person for some reason, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: When really, it just might be stable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so you're just not used to stability, and that can feel a stranger first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So part of understanding compatibility is learning to notice that does this feel calm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Word does this feel chaotic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel steady?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or is this inconsistent?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like myself here?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or do I feel like I have to adjust?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And again, this isn't about labeling people as good or bad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about understanding what a dynamic actually is doing to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because once you can see that clearly, you stop getting pulled in just by
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[SPEAKER_00]: It feels over time, and that shift alone can change so much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there's another layer to all of this, I'd like to say that there is just, I mean, this is something that's really important to understand in my opinion is that sometimes the people that we feel the most are actually reflecting something back to us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not in everything as a mirror really simplified kind of way, but in a, this is a grounded real real response.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like certain people can highlight patterns you already have, parts of yourself that you haven't fully seen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Things you're drawn to, things you're avoiding, and that's why some connections feel so charged, and it's not always just about the other person, but really it's just about what's being activated in you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that can go in different directions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like sometimes,
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[SPEAKER_00]: or something you want more of, something that feels exciting or expansive, and other times, they reflect something that feels uncomfortable, something that triggers you, something that brings up insecurity or fear-world patterns.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that doesn't automatically mean the connection is wrong, but it does mean that there's something to pay attention to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because not every strong connection is meant to be long-term, some connections are here to show you something not necessarily to stay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think this is where a lot of confusion happens because we feel something strongly, and we assume that means it's meant to be, but sometimes it's just, it just means it's meaningful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there's a difference, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So instead of asking, why do I feel this way about them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be more helpful to ask yourself, what is this bringing up in me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that question brings the awareness back to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's where the clarity usually is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love this conversation about energy and bringing questions back to ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, how do you actually use all of this without overanalyzing every person that you meet or trying to figure everyone out?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because this isn't about turning relationships into a puzzle or becoming more aware of your experience inside of them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So instead of focusing so much on, what does this person mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are they right for me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can start with something simpler,
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do I feel around them?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel calm or do I feel like myself?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel grounded?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or do I feel anxious?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I have to perform?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I'm trying to figure something out all the time?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then pay attention to patterns over time because one moment doesn't tell you everything but consistency does.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this is where self-trust comes back in because tools like numerology, astrology, all of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That can give you a language but
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[SPEAKER_00]: they shouldn't replace your own awareness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They should support it, so you can use them to understand dynamics.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But still come back to yourself as the final reference point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And something I think is really important to remember is that you don't need to figure everything out and you don't need to label every connection, obviously.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can just observe, just notice, just let things reveal themselves over time and trust that you'll feel what's right for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's where this becomes really empowering because instead of trying to control or to code everything you're just paying attention to it, and that's honestly enough.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So as you think about all of this, you don't need to figure ever reconnection out, don't be available every dynamic like I've said.
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[SPEAKER_00]: just want to emphasize that you can just start noticing, noticing how you feel around certain people, noticing what feels easy, what feels a little more complicated, what feels more calm, what feels more activating, and letting that be information, because the more you pay attention to your own experience, the clearer things tend to become, and then tools like numerology astrology, all that that can give you a language, right, and that can give you a perspective.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But at the end of the day, your own awareness is always going to be the most important piece.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I do love to dive into numerology and astrology especially for these Thursday episodes, but I really wanted to bring this into our awareness first before we go more into all of those different systems for a Thursday episode because I really want that to be important is obviously what you recognize and bring in awareness to the energies around you is the most important thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's the episodes again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're just going to be opening your mind a little.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can go a bit deeper, a bit more curious.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then there are going to be many, many episodes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Probably next Thursday I'll do one that's a little more otherworldly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love a little more otherworldly, a little witchy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But still bringing it back to something real, something that you can actually use in your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So anyway, take what resonates, leapo doesn't always, and just let yourself explore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you want to stay connected with me outside of the podcast, you can connect with me on Instagram or Substack.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My username is at RecallMontra.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's R-A-Q-U-E-L-L-E-M-A-N-T-R-A.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And with all that said, thank you so much for listening and thank you for your magic.
