OM DENNE EPISODE
Have you ever set a healthy boundary, said no to the extra request, protected your time, or closed your laptop, and then spent the next few hours feeling guilty anyway?
In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, SaCola Lehr sits down with Dr. Kim Foster, a former family physician, TEDx speaker, identity-based transformation expert, and author of Redesigning You: Change Your Inner Story, Transform Your Health.
Dr. Foster shares why a boundary can be healthy and still feel emotionally difficult. The issue is not always that you need a better script, more willpower, or another routine. Sometimes the choice is colliding with an old identity story, especially the belief that you must always be the dependable one.
From her own transition out of a 20-year career in family medicine to the health crisis that forced her to reconsider what she was prioritizing, Dr. Foster offers a compassionate, practical way to approach lasting change. You will hear why your past can be a foundation rather than a cage, how identity shapes behavior, and how a bridge identity can help you take one believable next step toward work-life harmony.
If you have ever wondered why saying no can feel so hard, this conversation will give you language for the guilt, and a way to move forward without abandoning yourself.
• Guilt after setting a boundary does not automatically mean that the boundary was wrong.
• Habits can support change, but behavior often returns to the identity you believe at your core.
• Being “the dependable one” can be a meaningful strength, but it becomes restrictive when it leaves no room for your own needs.
• You do not have to reject your past to begin a new chapter. Let it be a foundation, not a cage.
• A bridge identity gives you a believable next step: “I am someone who is learning how to prioritize myself.”
• Small promises kept to yourself become proof that you can create a new inner story.
• When guilt appears, pause and ask: Who am I being in this moment? What identity is calling the shots here?
“Your behavior is going to start to gravitate back to who you believe you are.”— Dr. Kim Foster
If this episode gave you language for something you have been carrying, tap follow, leave a review, and share it with the woman in your life who is known as “the dependable one.” She may not need permission to care less. She may need permission to include herself in the care.
Click here to learn more about Kim Foster, M.D.
• Website: https://drkimfoster.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drkimfoster/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KimFosterMD
• Book: Redesigning You: Change Your Inner Story, Transform Your Health
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