OM DENNE EPISODE
What if the opinion you've been listening to most... shouldn't be theirs?
Starling was once told she couldn't sing.
She went on to become a signed singer-songwriter, tour with huge artists, work with Grammy-winning songwriters and reach millions of listeners.
But this conversation goes somewhere much deeper than proving somebody wrong.
Starling joins us for an incredibly open conversation about what happens when other people's words become part of the way you see yourself - and what it takes to rewrite that story.
We talk about growing up without emotional safety, low self-worth, healing, money, nervous-system work and why becoming truly comfortable in your own skin can change everything.
We also explore the pressure women feel to improve themselves, the difference between doing something from love versus doing it to become more lovable, what authenticity can cost you, and why you don't have to squeeze every part of yourself into one neat identity. Pasted text
Because perhaps the goal isn't becoming someone more worthy.
Perhaps it's remembering that you already were.
In this episode:
- Being told you can't do something and deciding whether you believe it
- How low self-worth can infiltrate every area of your life
- Why emotional safety matters
- Healing without staying trapped in blame
- Being both a masterpiece and a work in progress
- Doing the same thing for completely different reasons
- Why feeling at home in yourself is magnetic
- What becoming more authentic can cost you
- Trusting yourself through periods of uncertainty
- Why other people's opinions don't get to define your identity
- Refusing to choose one box when you're made for more than one thing
- Becoming committed to the woman you decide to be.
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THE REIGN WHEN IT'S RAINING RETREAT
Do you know what you really desire?
Not what you should want. Not what makes sense on paper.
What do you really want?
And what happens when you think about it?
Does something light up... and then your very persuasive brain gives you seventeen perfectly sensible reasons why maybe now isn't the right time?
On Sunday 15 November, just 12 women will join us at The Spa Hotel in Tunbridge Wells for one immersive day to get honest about what you really desire, notice where you've been thinking yourself away from it and move from:
“I want...” to “I intend...”
There'll be breathwork with Abi, hypnosis with Dolina, brilliant women, two hours in the Wellness Suite and seven days of support afterwards to help you keep moving towards what you chose.
Our intention is that you leave able to say:
I know what I want.
I trust myself enough to back it.
And I know what I'm doing next.
There are only 12 places, and bookings are open now.
👉 BOOK YOUR PLACE / FIND OUT MORE
You've thought about it enough.
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Connect with Starling:
Website: https://www.starlingsworld.com/
Insta: starlingsworld
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🎙️ OVER TO YOU
Tell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.
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Episode Time Stamps:
- 00:00 Not Good Enough
- 01:13 Instant Connection
- 02:15 Career Highlights
- 03:12 Earl Grey Ritual
- 03:33 Pandemic Pivot
- 04:55 Told You Cant Sing
- 05:28 Childhood Survival Mode
- 06:17 Drama School Doubts
- 08:39 Self Worth Spiral
- 10:47 Therapy And Safety
- 12:24 Somatics And Coaching
- 14:19 Turning Point Story
- 18:31 Breaking Generational Cycles
- 20:01 Beliefs Shape Reality
- 20:55 Heart Coherence Power
- 21:27 Science of Visualization
- 22:27 Why Women Feel Not Enough
- 24:11 Masterpiece vs Progress
- 25:57 Retreat Invitation
- 27:32 Creator Mindset
- 29:08 Abundance Over Competition
- 31:27 Magnetism of Realness
- 35:23 Trust the Unfolding
- 39:16 Don’t Die With Dreams
- 40:18 Owning Many Identities
- 41:58 Write Your New Story
- 42:39 Key Takeaways and Farewell
