Session No. 25

Sisters In Session: Welcome back to Sisters in Session, where therapy meets sister talk and nothing's off limits, where two sisters who overthink everything laugh too loud and try to make sense of life's chaos one session at a time. From relationships and self-care to the messy middle of growing up, it's part heart-to-heart, part comedy hour with an all-real talk with zero chill. So grab your coffee or drink of choice and settle in. It's time for your weekly dose of sisterhood and self-reflection. We should have had him out of frame. He said that, his grand entrance. Literally asked for a grand entrance. So I'm sorry. No grand entrance. So I guess if you're watching, you know, and you've just heard him speak before his introduction. We have our first guest. Woo! Clap for myself? Is that weird? No, it's not weird. Okay. ⁓ so our sister, remember we said that our first guest should be our sister. Yeah. And she was like, I'm not really into it. So we just say that. She kind of like was like, I think she more or less was like, I don't really know that I want to do that. What a hater. So we went with the next best thing. Welcome to the podcast, our brother Zachary. Heard a little bit that I'm the second best thing, but you know, we'll Welcome in sister. It's nice to have you, sister. I'm having childhood flashbacks. Chandler's a girl! Chandler's a girl. Okay, so they're sipping on coffee. I left my water on the table. I'm gonna need to get that at some point. Alright, so Zach, is there anything you wanna like start off with with the listeners? Not really. I'll just kinda roll off of you guys, you know. So Zach actually told me that he is not a listener. So that's nice. So we're just airing that out, alright. Why? You like hate us? No no no. No no no. He doesn't have time. You drive four hours to work every Monday and home every Wednesday, Tuesday, Tuesday, Wednesday. Well let's play this out, shall we? Yeah. No no we shall I get up at three o'clock in the morning on Mondays. Yeah. What could be better than us in your ears at three o'clock in the morning? I feel like I just fall asleep, you know? ⁓ no. You don't understand. I need like upbeat. We're very upbeat. We laugh like the whole time. Okay, actually before we get too into this, I did want to mention I got a rave review today. I mean, this person told me that they watch our little like shorts and just laugh and most pee their pants and they think that we are hilarious and so funny. It would be our meme, but We love her. We do. So shout out Mimi. Yes. She said she said there was a spawn. And she was like, I don't remember what it was. She's like, but I am a s she's like I had to pee anyways. And I She said, I forget what was happening, but you just like raised your hand to me. And I said, Was Lexi singing? And she said, I think so. And she's like, I told your dad. He said, Yeah, they do that. Father's a listener? ⁓ yeah. Yeah. It's just UNT. Hey Dad. Shout out. He'll definitely listen to this one. Well, obviously I'm the favorite. As you know. He well no we've discussed that. Now I know. Okay. Yeah, because we've already covered that on here, and he will. Well, he actually said, I don't think you should go. I'm a little wounded. tonight I'm not gonna lie. He is. Got the zoomies and now you gave me coffee, so And it's good. ⁓ there she goes. Guess it's water break she felt I've done. Tessa, those shoes do be making you sound stompy. Sound like a client's deal, I'm not gonna lie. dense. I'm not airing that. I have creative powers. You need to shave again. Dude, I just shaved. I know, I remember. But it's like grown in thick again. Good. how's work this week? was good, you ⁓ Rough day and a half, but ⁓ Okay, so Zach, do you wanna tell them what you do for work? I'm a lineman. I go out of town for like I just said, a day or two, then I'm back home. It's rough some days, you know? But like I said, I get up three o'clock in the morning. Mm-hmm. Actually that's a lie. I get up at two thirty, I leave by three. And then three and a half hour drive. So you know. So let's just discuss a few of the things that we have discussed on this podcast before. Bring him up to speed. And then we'll get into we do have a hot button object that we were actually talking about before we sat down, and then Zach was like safe for the plot. And I said, you know what? That is actually really gonna be a great discussion. So I have no idea what it is. So we have covered the fact that you are the favorite of the family. Right. Right. I think we have mentioned ⁓ the fact that he used to Try to kill us. Yes. When we are home. ⁓ he had a really bad temper, still kind of does, but so what I'm picking up is I'm just catching some strays whenever like I'm not present. Well you don't listen, so what's the matter? I feel like if you have something to say, you should probably say it like to my face. Okay, you have temper. Consider it said to your face. Okay. Noted. Noted. ⁓ also Lexi saying about Zach used to never grow hair. Do you remember whenever you're growing your armpit hair? It was like the biggest deal. It was. And he's just now getting little chin hairs. You call them little, but they come in pretty thick. They are, and you know what? You did just shave. It was last Sunday. You're growing up like three days ago or like a week and a half. What day was it? I think a week and a half. Yeah, we've got Either way. Why is your mustache not growing here? It just grows here. Nobody has a mustache here. Like in the middle? Well like Yeah, they do. I mean like right thicker here. Lexi, I don't know. Like you literally just have right here and here. What do you want me to say? I know, fix it? I just want you to fix it. Well I mean I just shave it so it fixes everything. That's what I'm saying. up. Okay, anyway. Hot button object. Yes. Topic, hot button topic. Okay. It's our button. No. Hot button button. We do. ⁓ birthday gift. You want a button? She gave me a shirt. I can get your shirt. I want platform bands. I thought he told you he wasn't buying those. I did multiple times. Anyway, back to the hot Yes. So ⁓ I'm trying to convince Zack. Not convince him. Okay, Zach does not want to have kids ever. Which is like fine. I said that there's a very fine line, because I have kids. So there's a very fine line between like, I get it, like I totally understand why you'd feel that well by the Feel that way. But also there's there there will also always be a part of your life, like there's a lack of fulfillment. Not that your life won't be fulfilled, but it and it's not something that you would know that you're missing until you have it. Do you know what mean? Like you might not ever feel like, ⁓ I'm missing something, but then once you have it, you'd be like, wow, this is like what I was missing. I feel like you didn't do a good job of explaining that, but I do know what you're talking about. Yeah. And he disagrees with me. Like, if I don't know that it's missing, then how I ever miss it. Right. But I'm telling you that you will. But how would I know? Right, 'cause I said you can't know. You can't know until you have it. Right, so exactly, so I'm not missing out on anything. Realistically speaking. Okay, well this actually will be fun. I could just be a mediator because I have one sibling unmarried who does want have kids, another sibling unmarried, who doesn't want to have kids. I have a ring. But you're still unmarried. Yeah. You're in a committed relationship and so is Lexi, like unmarried. Shout out Becca. Love you. Okay. She don't listen. Are you married? I am not. Are you married? Nope. You want kids? Yep. You want kids? Ooh, no. Okay. So Lexi, why don't you tell us why you do want kids? W you're you're kinda putting me on the spot here. Yeah, I think That's what the pod does. Because I love kids. Right. I I I think it'll be a fun exper like, obviously it'll have its trials. I'm not saying that. Right. As as parenting does, but I just think it'll be really fun to grow up or to raise, I guess I should say, half of me and half of Michael and Just do that with him and be be a family and you know, family vacations and have babies and not too many. Don't get it twisted. I'm not an incubator. What's your response to that? ⁓ Everybody says about the experience of it, you know? What are we experiencing? Like there's experiences, alright? Like, you know what mean? I don't think experience is the right word, because it's not like a trial run. Like that is a lifelong commitment. A pet. A pet is a trial run. A pet is a experience. You can't give the kids back. They're here. I think I tell that do grow up. Yeah, but they're always there. Look at me and her. No, I think. We're attached, alright? You guys are always there. Always where? Like at mom and dad's. I'm here. And like you weren't whenever you still lived in PA? Ooh, burn. I'm not that wasn't excuse me. Joking on my spit. Let's cut that out. Anyway. Well, I think Okay, so let me bring in kind of something that you said because you said that you're tied down. Like you like if you have kids you're tied down, like you can't just go. Before we started this. Right, yeah. You can't just go. But like so walk me through the scenario. Like if that's and I said that you could leave them at mom's and he's like, I'm not just gonna dump them off. I No, I'm not saying like if you if you plan to travel every weekend, that's probably not the life for you, but no offense. When's the last time you and Becker really took a trip? Down in Florida. When are we came to visit you guys? Right. Like three months ago? Yeah. Okay, okay. But hear me out. But like here's the thing. Walk me out what you like, how often do you guys want to take to or like what is your plans? Wait, we need to pause. We need to put a disclaimer. We don't care that Zach doesn't want to have kids. ⁓ no no no. We don't care that anyone doesn't want to have kids. This is just a discussion between siblings. If we don't like it, click off. Yeah, we have two opposing opinions and we're just gonna talk about it. What's all the listeners click off? Well if they don't like it Can just learn to listen to it. Anyway, power through. So we're powering through anyway, friends reference. It's gonna be throughout. Throughout. Anyway, ⁓ so like we like concerts. The other month we just picked up on a random Tuesday, went to a concert. You can't do that. ⁓ actually, this one time at like nine o'clock. Mm we had Addy Grays, so we just had one. Mm-hmm. And us and our friends Let me cut in. What did you do with your baby? It took her to moms. Mm. But it's not every day. Like you like I that's what I was trying to walk out for you. Like so you had a concert when? It was a Tuesday night. Okay. Tuesday night. You d when did you decide to go to the concert? It was a Christmas gift. So this was months in advance? Yeah. So ample time to have babysitting arrangements made. You just killed your whole point. No, I didn't. ⁓ So you have a real issue like ⁓ people giving like letting grandparents Yes. Yes. Why? Because they're your children, your responsibility. That's not I'm not saying you can never like let them spend time or like, you know, whatever. But like me being me, the youngest, seeing it first hand, it just happens quite a bit. It is a commitment for sure. I get home and the children are there. Right, but you wouldn't be there. He'd have his own kids. I would have my own kids to where I would be with them. Not pawning them off. Honestly. But sorry. Selfishly. That's what it is. Yeah. That's just fine. I'll say it. Yeah. But like, I don't want t them to hold me up, you know? I feel like you say like people often think like selfish like is a bad thing. Like in this case, I I don't think it's a bad thing. Like you're doing here's the thing, you don't you don't want the responsibility, so you're not gonna like give yourself the responsibility. Does that make sense? Yeah. Like so in that sense, I'm like, ⁓ yeah, that makes sense because he like you don't want him to have kids and then be pawning them off all the time. Like having kids is a big decision and it's a big choice and it's a big responsibility. So like more power to you if you've decided for yourself, that's just not something right. I don't think you should go into it being like ⁓ well if we want to do something we'll just give ⁓ you know, we'll just not we'll just go do our thing and then ⁓ kind of like taking it I think there's a line. But I'm saying like a long weekend trip in February, a one night concert in April, to me that's like because if you always have your kids have your kids. Yeah. Like 'cause the grandparents wanna see them. Do you know what I mean? Like they want to see them. Right. But like You have a bad taste in your mouth because you were still at home whenever our kids were getting drunk. Yeah, but then Like and I've seen like whenever they were dropped off, where mom and dad had to adjust their schedule to work around you guys, 'cause obviously they're going to do it, just because they're not selfish people. Honestly, can we just say can I just say for myself, I'm glad he's not having kids. Hear me out. I just know your kids your kids would be the favorites, and my kids wouldn't stand a chance. Lex, I'm not gonna lie to you. You got me. You got Becca. Gorgeous babies. Without a doubt. And then you get the personality of both of us in one. Gosh. Could you imagine? ⁓ yeah, it's just just not for me. And that's fine. At least you know. I do. And it's great being with somebody who also knows. Well, I feel like people sometimes just do it 'cause it's like the next step. You know what I'm saying? Like they're like they're like, ⁓ yeah, let and then five years down the road they're like, What did I do? So I mean more power to you if you already know you don't want to do it. Yeah. What I think you're in a different position because like you're twenty six. Newly 26. Happy birthday. Thanks. Thank you. ⁓ I mean, by the time I was twenty-six, Addy Grace was four. That's sickening. Ooh. Could you imagine me as a parent right now? Let's be real. I can't imagine you as a parent whenever at four years ago. Well that too. Like four years ago was a rough period for this guy. Aww. We love growth. I mean, by the time I was twenty-six, Addy Grace was four. That's sickening. Ooh. Could you imagine me as a parent right now? Let's be real. I can't imagine you as a parent whenever at four years ago. Well that too. Like ⁓ four years ago was a rough period this guy. Aww. We love growth. Done ⁓ done. Did a lot of growing up, ⁓ I will say. Yeah, and so that's a like good for like I'm glad you didn't go have a baby at that age. ⁓ my gosh. Do you mean just because it's like I'm getting ill. Like, I mean, think of where you were at four years ago and who you could potentially have been married to and have a kid with and be at your spot four years later and be like, ⁓ I hope she listens. Be like, What did I do? ⁓ so we're just throwing strays out on this podcast. No, I hope she's listening. Honestly, yeah, I don't care. But you know what I mean? Because like you're just like growing up how we grew up, it's just like you get married young, you have kids right away because that's just what you do. Everybody does it. I'm surprised we on honestly, I'm surprised that this town has not set off like another baby boom. Everybody's having them. Nothing. Everybody's having them. I was gonna say push you know. Keep it family friendly. That's what I mean. Yeah, so I mean I there's definitely something to be said. There's nothing to be said for you just not having them. I would never want you to have one just because society thinks you should have one. Well, society is wrong for saying that people should have kids. It's terrifying. Technically. The world is terrifying. Well, that is true. No, I know. However, the world was terrifying w whenever God commanded them to multiply and What's first? Be fruitful and multiply. Fru fru fru and fruit fruitful. Be fruitful and multiple. Just for like the records. Yeah. Fru fruit Fee Pee. No, but like I get that. It's a very discouraging. Well. There's the whole price of everything. Yeah. Not bragging. I make good money. So does Becca. But like Between the housing market. Yeah. My bills that I already have, between my vehicles, my toys. Like do you imagine a baby? Hospital bills? Ooh. So no yeah, no, I'm good on that. Yeah. But do you see like and I get it. Like I do you see like thirty, thirty two, you being like, we're kinda just like living life. We've lived a lot of life in the last five to six years, like maybe now we just do that. You've traveled, you've done a bunch of things together. I don't really see a slowing down at thirty two, I'm not gonna lie. Okay, we'll tell you. We're just not those type like you guys obviously know her. Very energetic. She's great. Is she not great? She's great. I'm very happy. Anyway. ⁓ But yeah. She's energetic. I'm energetic. Golden Retriever energy. You know? So Nah. Do not lie to the people. I'm not. You're about you can be as energetic as a turtle sometimes. I can be, but not around her. Sure, we have blobbing days where we just blob. But Blob. You can look that up on Urban Dictionary. It's a being. It's all heavyweight. The blob. That there is called The blob, huh? I haven't watched that movie in a long time. Go-karts! How many times you get to go on the go-karts? As much as you like, Jerry. You're fatter than I am, aren't you going on the camp? You show your father some respect. I can tell you right now, I'm not going. That's a terrible plane impression. I knew what you meant. I didn't. Hey there. Hey there, Mr. Rainy Day. I got a little surprise for you. Not rainy day! I forgot she said that. Hey there, Mr. Rainy Day. The best part. Going to fat camp. No. Why do you say that? Because you're fat. So are you. ⁓ no, what's it say? I ruined it! No, wait. You go to fat camp? No? Everybody out there just watch heavyweights because my sister over here butchered it. Cause you're fat. Well, you're fat too. No. Yes, that's what he says. I'll probably know, would you just tell us? I'm trying to think. I know it's not that. I know. That's why I'm going to fat camp. ⁓ yeah, that might be it. No. Yeah, I'm going. I knew it! Said something else and it was kind of it it cut out for the longest time because of our parental controls on the TV. Do you guys remember TV Guardian? I'm asking the people. Do you? No, that's what it was. Yeah, parental controls. Yeah, but it was called T V guardian. ⁓ I didn't know that. ⁓ yeah, I I threw that phrase around a lot growing up. I just feel like T V guardian? Yeah, just like whenever you're watching something, you'd be like, ⁓ TV Guardian. What? It's kinda like coveted eyes. Lexi, tell the people what Covenant Eyes is. D It's like this like program that you get downloaded on a computer to keep you from looking at virtually anything. Do you have this at work? No. At college. Stop. People probably listen. And make fun of me. 'Cause that's that's what you do. I mean you've been throwing out strays apparently this whole time. So I'm gonna throw out some strays. That place up there is a joke. ⁓ You're gonna have to edit this out joke. No That's all I've said. Yeah. has flown out the window. Saucered. Boomerang, here it comes. It's coming back. I am back on it. Yeah. ⁓ but yeah, not for us. Okay. ⁓ So I said about the money aspect. Mm-hmm. The responsibility aspect. I don't want that. Mm-hmm. Like, it's easy like I'll put it in I'll say it this way. She has a dog. Nobody really to take care of it whenever she's not around or whenever I'm not around. Me, like whatever, I have mom. There for my dog, so I don't really get it. But either way, I see her how she acts, and she just feels bad all the time for leaving Miss Daisy. ⁓ Yeah, no, you can't leave a baby. That's what and she is too. She's the sweetest little thing. Anyway, ⁓ She's talking about a real baby. Yeah, no, I meant like you can't leave a baby even if you feel like No, see Selfishness, I can't do that. Yeah. Well I mean least you know that about your children. I know. And like whatever. Bash me if you want people, but Or don't. Or don't because you probably really don't care. But I'm just You probably really don't want to. Lexi's very protective. But so is he. And then we both are of her. Which doesn't really make a lot of sense 'cause she's the oldest, but she's so little. You know what's funny? Let's back up to like the beginning of this where I had such a bad temper. I never heard anything bad about my temper whenever I was standing up for one of ewes. Wanna use? Is it her? Or just like in general? Yeah. ⁓ Well no. Well no, 'cause like we use it to our advantage. ⁓ well I wouldn't want I would never want you to punch somebody for me. I'm serious. Okay. ⁓ So speaking of ⁓ children and like Mm-hmm. feel like we've of figured out where you both land. Right. I mean there wasn't like a ton of discussion, but that's okay. So ⁓ how would you describe your childhood? ⁓ You're gonna make me go into my trauma. We're going into my trauma of my childhood. Right. Where to begin? Okay, so let's let's flash back here. Imagine this the first time we actually find out that he actually has like trauma. Actually, like you don't believe me. Crazy. Anyway. So let's start at the beginning, shall we? I swear if you say that you came out the world I come into the world straight to a helicopter. Well that's your fault. I haven't I was not born for ten minutes. And I was in a helicopter, flying to Pittsburgh. Okay, so start breathing. Yeah, like what do you like we can't make you breathe. trauma gotta start at the beginning so I'm in there you know in that chopper you remember it my baby blue is just catching light ⁓ I can see your smudges it's crazy noise crazy you guys wouldn't believe it sensitive ears anyway we flash forward dude this is such a load flash forward to whenever I was two or three mom ⁓ here we go. Did she not want me or something? I doubt it. ⁓ I don't know if I go into that. Anyways. two or three. Sitting down, you know. Sit down for a nice lunch. You know. Peanut butter jelly, for those who don't know. ⁓ I'm not sure what's up with me breathing, but you know. Peanut butter allergy, right here. We didn't know, obviously. So they say. so there's that whole thing. And then there was pneumonia. I had pneumonia at the same time. And do you know what do you want to know where mom was? With you at your hospital. Kathy was with me at my hospital. Yo who was with me? Dad, probably. I don't know. Grandma? Maybe. I honestly pawning them off. I remembered that you guys were both sick at the same time because they made you sunshine boxes at church. I don't remember that. I don't either. You guys both got boxes of like gifts and presents. So they say. How old were you guys? I think I was Six, five or six. So he would have been That makes me four. Yeah. ⁓ three or four. Either way, mom was with him. Shocker. ⁓ shout out to Aunt Kathy for actually showing up. Coming through. Yeah. He loves whenever we interrupt him. There's that. I'm also trying to think. Yeah, you had a seizure on my birthday. On my birthday. At my birthday party. Typical. Guys, and listen, you know me. My life was a movie. If we were a movie, you sing every episode. And I'd be the best friend that you fall in love with. In the end we'd be laughing. Why? Say something. I said fade to back. Close enough. Anyway. So, anyways, like everything that I did, I was like in my head was a movie. And it's so funny because Addie Gray says the same thing, but I went down and sat by the Crick and was just crying. And just imagined that there was like a camera on me. The girl whose brother had a seizure at her birthday party. And I was so dramatic. Like we were back, I was with my cousin in the bathroom. We were playing with like I think I got like play makeup or something. And who ran back? Pro Matt. My cousin Matt ran back. He's like, Tessa, your brother's in trouble. And I was like, okay. Like I c like, what do you mean? I don't care. But I like ran out, okay? So I'd go out and everybody's like around Zach on the couch. He was sick, he had a fever or something. Yeah. Anyways, I take one look at him and his eyes are like rolling back in his head. I like crumble and just start like screaming. Of course. This does not shock me at all. Great to know that you were putting on a show whenever I was dying. But anyways, and so then I either they kicked me out or I went offline. Tessie, you're not helping. Get out. And I just went down and sat by the creek and was crying, pretending that all the cameras were on me while the ambulance driveway. Anyways, go on. You have a t shirt? Yeah. And then there's the picture at the beach where I'm just buried up to my neck. In sand. All three of you guys around me. See, I imagine myself not being able to move, trying to get up and you guys know. Just holding me down. Three on one, are you kidding me? You probably won Probably. You were like a troubled child because then you were in the hospital from a snowboarding accident. There's that too. That's peer pressure. Don't give into it. I was told to hit a jump, landed on my face. and then there's a car wreck a couple years ago. That was you. You guys ask about trauma. I'm giving you trauma. Yeah, childhood. You were twenty-three. Okay. But yeah, that's pretty much it. Okay, so generally, because we can make our own surmising about what it was like to grow up with all sisters, but like what was it like? Was it like good or genuinely, no jokes. Was it good or bad? Tessa, I'm not gonna lie to you, I don't remember a whole lot. I know. I think we should get that looked at 'cause I don't either. I don't remember anything. I literally don't. It's all blur. Mm-hmm. Teach remembers everything. Must be nice to have no trauma. She says she believes everything or remembers everything, but like who's gonna like fact check her? Not us. We just kinda mm-hmm. Sounds about right. We listened to her stories, we're like, yes. ⁓ my gosh, yes, I was there. I was there but mentally and he had eczema. No. He had like bad eczema. He did. He was crossed. Up until a couple years ago, which still does. That's that's true. Bullying. If you need help, reach out. Not to us. Put the number up. She doesn't care about you guys. Anyways So you wanted a brother? Yeah. Yeah, but y guys, we had our cousins across the driveway. Yeah. They're basically your brothers. Right. But they could all be like, Huh, my brother, my brother. Not my sisters. How blessed are you? Right. Is it like having three extra mothers? Probably just one. Is it just me? Yes. Tori Tori, yes, but like in the most annoying way. About the most annoying things. I'm not even gonna lie, I'm gonna keep it a buck. ⁓ It was about things that didn't really matter, but she was you were controlling. You were. I can't wait for my turn. No, you're gonna be like, and she was just my friend. ⁓ Somebody has to be responsible. I wanted to be friend, I didn't have the option. You were also a bad influence though. You were. You can deny it. Am I wrong? When? Mm, she would know she was sneaky. ⁓ yeah, she could be sneaky for sure. ⁓ Just like when you were teenager you were sneaky. She was mouthy. Let's never forget that ⁓ Three years ago when our dad lightly tapped her on the cheek. We haven't heard the end of that. There she goes. Camera's rolling. Zoom in. Get a close up. Anyway, you never got to me. We had our battles. We did. Like whenever we were younger, my gosh, I hated you. She hated me. You guys were the worst. Fighting. Yeah. Living across the hall from these three I had my own room by the way. These two stuff in a room. And the bigger one. ⁓ My gosh, you guys were horrible. I don't remember. This one time I accidentally knocked off a a snow globe off the bookshelf and it hit her on the head and broke. I remember That's why I don't remember anything. I was concussed for half my life. And her hair was so blonde and it was just bloody. You did it on purpose. I'm s I'm really proud of you. Look at all that hair you grew after I ripped it out of your scalp. He used to rip my hair on clones. So wait a so you didn't finish. You guys had your rough times. ⁓ yeah. Yeah, no, they were. But she wasn't like a mom to you. No, she was an annoying like you were also controlling. Were you? ⁓ my gosh. I tried the mother hen. Mother. Mother Hen over here. Mother Goose. Like when you guys were younger. ⁓ yeah. Because I always wanted to be a mother. Kinda like you ever You wanna do what? Be a mother. I love playing with babies. He was like my little heathen child. You know how Addie Grace does the crew sometimes? Yeah. Multiply that by about five. See, I kinda thought like that was me with you because that would be about the same age difference. Five? Yeah. And you guys wonder why I had a temper and chased you with what was it, scissors? Knives. Knives. Guys, he would run away to the wo woods. Do you remember that one time? Mom found him. Well, because he didn't answer her. Yeah, you got it bad. So I was also beat as a child, apparently. This is why I don't remember. You remember for dragging you out by the woods? I got kicked in the butt. Yeah, but you did literally. He ran and hid in the woods and did not answer whenever she hollered. 'Cause he was mad. 'Cause he he was so mad. I don't even know about what. I probably this little this little twerp was just as blonde as could be. Mind you, he's tiny at this point. He's little and he has a buzz haircut. Like he always had a buzz haircut. Dude, my haircuts were the worst. My my mother hated me. She hated me. Anyways, in some of my school pictures, my bangs feel like this. Yeah, they do. They run up the. Listen to me. He he is this little blonde, so blonde. Buzzed cut, just Angry just an angry boy angry just hiding in the woods arms crossed black my black rain boots on just mad at the world and not answering whenever my mom hollered for him. Well she found him and boy did she ever find him Yeah, you got it. No, I know. Yeah, but what in your teens you and Lex were really close. Yeah. And then I still had the mother. You were kinda off doing your own thing. I was motherless. Except for like our actual mother. Yeah, no, I'm kidding. No me and likes were pretty tight. I would dare say that she was my best friend at one time. No, she's still one of my befs, but and this is how I'm finding out. But obviously as we grow older, we grow farther apart. No I wouldn't even say farther apart. Like we're doing our own things, but like when we get together, it's still Apparently you disagree. ⁓ yeah, I do. 'Cause I'm not blind. Jeez! I don't think maybe this is the time for this. Matter of fact, time is up. With honestly, how long have we been going? 40 minutes. Yeah, so we can wrap this up. Okay, so you don't really have any childhood trauma. That was dramatic. I'm just kidding. We want to flip up this rug to brush it under the rug, but metaphorically speaking, we'll just do it. Metaphorically speaking, I guess. Just kidding. We all have our things. But you did have the fact that you were the favorite going for you. Right. He still does. He still does. Right it's I feel like that's a zone cross to bear. It's a gr dude, the burden. Yeah. The heavy the cross be heavy. Yeah. You know? I could see that. Honestly, it would kind of be nice to just be the middle child and just kinda like nobody pays attention to you. I feel like there's a line somewhere between As a child it was great being the favorite. As a twenty six year old. Sometimes you just want to be left alone, you know? Cause our parents, you know, you would think the mother, you know, worrying all the time. But dad, horrible. Horrible. He just cares. That's not a bad thing. I'm not saying it like a bad thing, but like he'd be checking up on you guys like crazy? Sometimes. Yeah, I think it's just you like I think it's just you two. Listen, it is nice being the middle child 'cause not all the attention's on you, but like no attention's on you. Yeah. And then when you're six and you're playing a little g game of hide and seek, you get lost in the clothes and your mom loses you in the mall. You were hiding in the clothes. And she just what walked away? She's she's like Yeah, I don't know where she's at. She'll show up. So I had to go, my little six year old self, to the service desk and they had to call my mother's name over the loudspeaker in the mall. Imagine me. That is wild energy. Like crew does head in the clothes sometimes, but I'm always like, Crew, crew, crew. That's just bad parenting. No, on you. ⁓ no. Leave ⁓ there, toughen them up. That's what this like ⁓ boy. That's what's wrong with this world. I'm not gonna say that. I think she actually forgot about me. Well she almost had to have. Well like she didn't That's what I'm saying. If she had all four kids, like she's probably like one, two, three, four's around here somewhere. Let's go. Did she leave the store? Yeah. Yeah, that's wild. No Did you learn a lesson? I probably did it again. Do you think? No, probably not. I probably have PTSD. Now. See, that's what I'm saying. You think some kids need to learn hard lessons. Well me, like kidless, it's easy for me to say this, but like I try to do it with my nibs. My niblings. Hmm. Just like Pick on him, you know, just tease them a little bit. Give them a little opposition a little bit. A little bit, yeah. Yeah, no, that is good. 'Cause it like no offense to you or Tori, but the kids are sensitive. Too sensitive. They're soft. They are, very soft. And it's slightly the whining and just over the smallest things, it just drives me nuts. Another He's on a soapbox. ⁓ another reason not to have kids is like the wine I can't do the whining. You know, it's just not for like I can't handle that. Maybe I'm not mature enough to handle that, but like at the same time. But at least you know it. Right, and like what if I handle it the wrong way? You know what mean? I mean I ⁓ so you don't believe you'd be a good dad? I do. I think I could be. I think I would learn to be, but like Well yeah, because I'll just be honest. It's different every day. Yeah, nobody's perfect, but like at the same time. Nobody's perfect. I'm gonna work it again and again till I get it right. That's a second hand Montanasol. Yeah. Slay. Go on. Talk about a good show. Anyways. ⁓ I lost my train. My train derailed call Krager. No, he did it too. Not that catching streets. Everybody's catching streets. Anyway, But yeah, not saying that I wouldn't learn to be better. But like right now, I just I it's easy for me to say, ⁓ my kids would never act like that and I truly believe that they wouldn't because the wine like Y like No, you go. I'm sure we had our moments of whininess, but like mother would not mouthy, but like I don't put up with whining at my house. It's a little different story at my house then apparently. Yeah, because No, and I understand, but like Mom's gone soft. That is true. Mammal, she went soft. She is so soft. I would Craig or East E He's soft with Addie Grace. Yeah, but like Addie Grace not She wa she wasn't bad either. She really wasn't. Like whininess wine I think she's She's more whiny now. Yeah. It's that girl tween Ugh the worst. Eck. ⁓ my gosh. If I had a freaking daughter, dude, I'd go crazy. You guys seen how protective I am. Slash was with you guys. Yeah. Yeah. Scary thought. Yeah. Well anyways, hey. It ain't for the faint of heart, that's for sure. Yeah. Plus it really makes you so I can guess who you are as a person. If I need more of that. I mean I mean I feel like I'm pretty sure of myself these days and I don't need any questions. That's good. Self doubt, you know, I've been down that road. Yeah, 'cause I don't do it. Well this was fun. It was. Just a lot of banter. ⁓ What? We got a glimpse of the entire heavyweight movie, which was hysterical. Any other movie quotes you want to throw out? ⁓ my gosh, I can't We are good for that. If there's one thing our family's gonna do is-If there's a movie, we're gonna quote it. Or show friends. Yeah, Zach and I will go all day. ⁓ my gosh, Ross, how much do you weigh? I'd prefer not to answer that right now. I'm still carrying a little holiday weight. ⁓ Good show, Lex. You're messing out. I I like join in. I like the episodes that I've I've seen. Exactly. So you mo you watch more. I don't think I told you this, but crew the one time, if he's in bed with me, like I let him watch it because he doesn't really understand anything that would be off colour. ⁓ But his favorite episode, or like because he saw it one time and I kinda chuckled, and so then he laughed and he thinks it's h hilarious is whenever Ross is talking about ⁓ moving in with Emily or something, whatever the case is. Yep. And Chandler says, I there's a jack there's a gallon of milk in my fridge that I've had a longer relationship with than this. And then Ross goes on and he goes, Yeah, but I love her and Chandler goes, and I love the milk. Crew will quote that line. And and he thinks it's hysterical. As he should, 'cause it is. Yeah. Alright, Peter Chandler, man. Matthew Perry, shout out. Yeah. Not so much, but yeah. Too soon? A little sensitive still. Sorry. It does hurt. It does. He was wrong. Anyway. Yes. Cause he fought through a lot of really bad stuff. Came through the other side. And then, anyways. Had as close as people betray him. Yes. That's you guys. Jeesh! And on that note. Yeah, we're gonna call her. Alright. Hey, thanks for joining. Have a great weekend. Thanks so we'll see you next time. It was great to be here, guys. Thanks for having me on. ⁓ absolutely. Anytime. We'll have to change the the title of this. ⁓ no. ⁓ Nope. Now I'm a brother. ⁓ you're a sister here. Okay. Bye. Bye. ⁓