Hope for Healthy Intimate Relationships (podcast) with Erin Moniz

Whether you’re single or married, young or old, finding and keeping meaningful and genuine personal relationships is what we all desire.

In our digital age, relationship building is not easy. Young people are finding people to date on apps, and they are communicating with friends on social media. No matter whether you're married or single, we all need to understand how to have healthy relationships.

College chaplain Erin Moniz is deeply attuned to the questions and concerns of today’s emerging adults. In her new book, Knowing and Being Known: Hope for All Our Intimate Relationships (IVP, 2025), she explores the essential elements of healthy relationships, addresses the complexities of intimacy, and shines a light on the barriers that can impede genuine connection.

What we discuss in this episode:

* The secular culture says that the two key benchmarks of full adulthood are (1) Autonomy, and (2) Sexual Activity.

* But the sad truth is that this hypersexuality and romance idolatry has seeped into the church. We still see adulthood in these categories, though they're framed slightly differently.

* We begin to reimagine a theology that emphasizes the importance of intimacy in all our relationships (with God and with our fellow humans).

* The Fall introduced shame into our relationships. Shame is destructive and is not the same as guilt or conviction.

* Erin explains how vulnerability is the currency of intimacy.

* While marriage and family remain important, the church and other ministries need to focus on what true friendship is and how to develop friends.

Scroll down to learn more about Erin Moniz.

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Your hosts are Dr. Bob Robinson and David Loughney. For further resources on reintegrating all of life with God’s mission, go to re-integrate.org.

Rev. Erin F. Moniz

Rev. Erin F. Moniz (DMin, Trinity School for Ministry) is a deacon in the Anglican Church in North America and Associate Chaplain and Director for Chapel at Baylor University, where she disciples emerging adults and journeys with them toward healthy, gospel-centered relationships.

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