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What does sex have to do with
birth? Hopefully, you've been
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following us for a while so you
have some ideas, and maybe even
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have your own list.
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Hi, I'm Debra. I am director of
the award winning documentary
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Orgasmic Birth, and host of the
Orgasmic Birth Podcast. I'm
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excited to be sharing with you
today. So if you're curious
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about how birth and sex are
connected, or maybe you would
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just want to dive deeper and put
together a good list, then
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you're in the right place.
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Today, I'm going to be sharing a
topic that can transform the way
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you think about labor and birth
forever. You'll learn 4 Powerful
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Secrets That Unveil the Deep
Connection Between Sex and Birth
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to Transform Your Birth
Experience. So spoiler alert.
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Yes, birth and sex aren't just
loosely connected, they're
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deeply intertwined. When we
honor this connection, we open
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the door to more joyful,
empowered and even pleasurable
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birth experiences. Yes, I am
saying pleasurable. Stick with
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me. We're gonna unpack this step
by step. So whether you're
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pregnant, planning a family,
maybe you're a doula, a nurse, a
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midwife, someone with a birth
business, or simply intrigued by
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the idea of rethinking
childbirth, let's explore
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together how birth is not just a
physiologic process, but a
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profoundly intimate, emotional
and sensual journey.
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Let's begin by addressing the
core question, why are birth and
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sex connected? To answer this,
we need to talk about one of the
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key players in both sex and
birth are hormones. A key
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hormone, oxytocin, often called
the love hormone, is released
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during acts of intimacy, such as
cuddling, kissing, arousal and
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orgasm. It's the hormone that
fuels connection, trust, love
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and bonding. But did you know
that it's also the main hormone
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that drives labor and birth?
We've talked about this, and Dr.
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Sarah Buckley has joined us in
earlier episodes. So if you
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really want to go into detail,
definitely go back and listen to
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Dr. Buckley.
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But just briefly, here's how it
works during labor. Oxytocin
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produced in the brain, drips
down through the hypothalamus,
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in the pituitary through the
blood, bonds with the receptors
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on the uterus, and causes those
uterine contractions. It also
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helps soften and open the cervix
and continues to flow even after
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birth to safely help you to
birth the placenta, and to
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promote bonding between you and
your baby, the highest oxytocin
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of a person's life happens in
the moments after birth, and
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it's not just for the person
giving birth. The baby's getting
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the benefit of all this oxytocin
too. The easier oxytocin flows,
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the smoother and the gentler the
labor process can be.
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Now, here's where it gets really
fascinating. Oxytocin doesn't
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just flow automatically. It's
actually a shy hormone. It needs
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the right conditions. It's
stimulated when you feel safe,
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when you feel private,
unobserved, loved and relaxed.
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So think about it. Do you feel
aroused or intimate in a cold,
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clinical, brightly lit room with
strangers watching your every
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move? Probably not. And birth is
no different that's why we often
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say the right place to give
birth would be the right place
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to make love. They require the
same conditions, that's why
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creating an environment that
feels warm, safe and sensual can
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make a world of difference
during labor. Think dim lights,
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calming music, comforting sense,
process and the presence of
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someone you trust. And if
possible, someone you love.
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These elements help mimic the
conditions under which oxytocin
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thrives, whether during love
making or birthing. But here's
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an important takeaway, birth is
not just about hormones, it's
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also about mindset.
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When we view birth as a
continuation of our sexual
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journey rather than clinical or
painful event, we unlock an
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entirely new way of thinking
about labor. So really, take a
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moment to think about that.
Because when all we think about
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in preparing for birth is, oh,
my goodness, the pain. Or I'm so
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afraid, or it's going to be more
than I can handle. Imagine if
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you brought those feelings to
sex on any night, whether it was
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alone enjoying your own body or
with a partner, it would make
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that experience probably not the
best. So we really have to
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unpack all the stories we've
been told about birth. We have
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to get away from all the taboos
where for how many years you
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probably haven't heard that
birth is a part of your sexual
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life, and this is something that
we need to transform. We need to
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really look at and say, what
would it take for you to really
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see that connection and change
your mindset about birth?
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So let's go to my second tip,
the role of sexual organs in
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birth. Let's take this
connection now a step further by
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exploring how the very organs
involved in sex also all play a
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critical role in birth. Your
vagina, labia, cervix, uterus,
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clitoris and pelvic floor are
all intimately involved in both
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acts of creation, sex and birth.
During sexual arousal, vaginal
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tissues swell and soften
similarly. During labor, your
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body produces the same natural
lubrication softening it makes
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it easier for your baby to
descend and for your body to
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open. And think about it. We all
know that those of us that have
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vaginas that in the right
conditions, they lubricate,
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soften and open. But if we're
not in an environment that feels
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safe, that feels private, that
feels welcoming, they will stay
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shut and stay dry.
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parents on this incredible
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Unknown: So when we think about
how we prepare for birth and the
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conditions that many people are
birthing in, it kind of makes
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sense that we're doing too many
things that are pulling, cutting
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and sucking babies out, because
we're not really looking at what
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does it take for the body to
feel safe, private and relaxed
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so that the body can naturally
lubricate and open it was
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designed to give birth. So let's
go a little further.
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The cervix remains closed most
of your life, but it undergoes a
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profound transformation during
labor. Opening just as it does
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open during orgasm, although to
a much larger degree. The
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uterus, which contracts
rhythmically during orgasm or
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climax, does the same thing
during labor, only also with far
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greater purpose to help bring
life into the world. What's
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more? The clitoris and
surrounding tissues are
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incredibly sensitive, packed
with thousands of nerves,
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somewhere between 8 and 10,000
nerve endings that respond to
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touch, pressure and movement
during birth. These same areas
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can create sensations of
pleasure, comfort and relief
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when stimulated gently. That's
why practices like massage,
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masturbation, vibration or
gentle counter pressure can be
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so effective and even enjoyable
when we honor these parallels
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and treat birth as a natural
extension of our sexuality. We
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begin to shift from fear and
tension to curiosity, and maybe
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even excitement.
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Third tip is bring pleasure into
birth. I know that some of you
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might still be thinking,
pleasure in birth. Is that
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really possible? And my answer
is yes, absolutely. If you've
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been listening to a lot of our
back episodes, then you know how
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much pleasure is possible in
birth. And that's not to say
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that there might not be pain,
challenge or intensity, but we
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still can have waves and moments
of pleasure. Pleasure and birth
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can take many forms. It doesn't
have to mean a literal orgasm.
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Although for some people, this
is part of their experience.
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If you've watched our
documentary, Orgasmic Birth, you
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see Amber who shares her rolling
orgasms in labor completely
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unexpected. And if you're
listening to our many birth
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stories throughout the podcast,
you're hearing all different
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elements of pleasure. Some
involve orgasm, some just
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involve touching themselves or
finding comfort and pleasure
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with themselves or a partner. So
instead of tapping into your
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body's natural capacity for
pleasure, relaxation and
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empowerment, too many people are
tapping into fear.
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Here comes another one. Just
that thought or saying that out
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loud or in your mind is
tightening you up where, if you
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have a pleasure practice, you
are going the other way leaning
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into the opening for birth. So
here are some ways to
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incorporate pleasure into your
birth experience. Massage and
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touch. Gentle touch can release
tension and stimulate oxytocin.
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This might include a partner or
a doula massaging your
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shoulders, back or feet. Some
people even find nipple
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stimulation helpful during labor
movement. Your body knows how to
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move. Trust it.
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Can you imagine if you were
making love and you were told
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that you have to stay completely
still and you can't do anything
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else? So the same things. Listen
to your body swaying, rocking,
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dancing. Bouncing on a birth
ball can not only relieve
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discomfort, but also connect you
to your body's natural rhythms.
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Breath work, deep intentional
breathing can help you focus,
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relax and ride the waves of your
sensations. Think of it as
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tuning into the flow of energy
in your body. So again, are you
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seeing the similarities? There's
movement, there's shifts in
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breath, right? There's touch.
All these things that we bring
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to intimacy, we need to really
consider, how can we bring them
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to birth visualizations? Close
your eyes and imagine yourself
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opening like a flower, or
visualize your baby gently
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journeying down through the
birth canal. I remember thinking
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of each sensation as a hug,
wrapping my baby in my love and
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hugging them into the world.
There are so many ways.
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I love Naoli Vinaver, a
wonderful midwife, a dear
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friend. She teaches with us at
our Eat, Pray Doula Retreat in
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Bali. When she was giving birth,
she talked about that the
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sensations were like her love
with her partner were swollen,
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and it was their love that was
trying to burst out. So there's
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so many ways to rethink. When we
take our mind and turn the way
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that we look at what we're
feeling, look at the process, we
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get completely different
sensations, and it can be
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incredibly powerful and
pleasurable. So really, think I
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always say, create at least five
visualizations that are going to
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help you connect with your body,
feel safe, maybe even take you
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to a beautiful place that you've
had a past association with
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pleasure or intimacy in.
Remember too that every birth is
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unique, so pleasure might look
different for you than it does
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for someone else. The goal isn't
to force a specific experience,
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but to open yourself to the
possibilities you.
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Debra Pascali-Bonaro: ***Are you
looking to connect with a
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passionate, engaged audience
that values empowerment,
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wellness and transformative
experiences during pregnancy and
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parenting? Then consider
sponsoring here the on Orgasmic
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Birth Podcast. Our listeners are
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seek Holistic Health, mindful
living and products or services
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that support their journey
through pregnancy, birth and
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parenting. Partner with us to
share your offerings with our
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audience that cherishes
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family well being. To learn more
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visit orgasmicbirth.com. Or
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that's D-E-B-R-A
@orgasmicbirth.com Let's grow
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together, and support parents on
this incredible journey.
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Unknown: Last is orgasmic birth.
What does it really mean? And
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again, we've had whole podcasts
about this and how we came to
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develop orgasmic birth as a film
and a movement. But for a
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minute, let's talk again about
the term orgasmic birth. Why it
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may sound like a lofty or
unattainable idea? It's not
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necessarily about achieving a
physical orgasm, although it
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might be. It's about
experiencing birth in a way that
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feels empowering, powerful and
deeply fulfilling and
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satisfying. For some people,
this is the literal sensation of
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pleasure or climax at some point
during labor or birth.
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Again, Amber's rolling orgasms.
If you haven't seen them, I
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would definitely go back and
rent or purchase our documentary
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Orgasmic Birth to see that. For
others, it's the emotional high
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of surrendering fully to the
process and connecting with your
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body's power. And for many, it's
simply about transforming fear
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into joy, and reclaiming birth
as a sacred, sensual act. Here's
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the key. Orgasmic birth isn't a
goal to check off. It's a
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mindset. It's embracing the full
spectrum of sensations, trusting
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your body, allowing yourself to
be fully present in the moment.
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When you do this, you're
creating the conditions for
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pleasure, empowerment and love
to flow naturally.
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As we kind of wrap up, I invite
you again to reflect on this
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question, how can you bring more
love, intimacy and pleasure into
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your birth preferences? I would
love for you to respond, post on
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Instagram, and tag us at
Orgasmic Birth. How are you
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bringing more love, intimacy and
pleasure into your birth
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preferences? Birth is sacred and
sensual. And when we honor it as
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such, we open ourselves up to a
world of possibilities. We can't
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think ourselves to orgasm,
although, if you can let me know
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that.
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In the film, actually when Sally
met Harry and she was at Kat's
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Deli in New York and had this
great orgasm, and the person
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across the room said, I want
what she's having. But for most
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people, having an orgasm is
about getting out of our head.
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If we're thinking the three
things we have to do tomorrow,
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or what we didn't finish today,
or if the kids might wake any
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second, those are thoughts that
immediately shut down the
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process. But when we can fully
let go, when we can be in the
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moment, we can allow our body to
move, our breath to flow when we
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can trust what we're
experiencing. Now, that's where
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the pleasure and that's where
the orgasm can come from so be
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really careful.
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So many people in labor are
thinking, here comes another
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one. This is what I'm gonna do.
What's going on here? And I
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often find when the mind gets
involved, the body takes much
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longer to birth the baby. So if
you can let the mind go and get
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into your body be present with
what's going on, connect to your
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baby, allow yourself to be in
that safe, private, sensuous
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space, then the pleasure flows
so much easier.
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Olivia Bergeron: Thank you for
joining me on this journey
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today. If the conversation
resonated with you, I encourage
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helps us spread the message that
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yes, even orgasmic experience.
If you have a story, or you have
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an expert that you know you'd
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please write us. We're always
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and your feedbacks, and welcome
your joyful, challenging,
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difficult, pleasurable and
orgasmic birth stories.
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Remember, you have the power to
rewrite the narrative of birth
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to reclaim it as a joyful,
intimate and loving act. Until
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next time, I hope you'll stay
connected, live and birth with
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pleasure.
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What does sex have to do with
birth? Hopefully, you've been
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following us for a while so you
have some ideas, and maybe even
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have your own list.
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Hi, I'm Debra. I am director of
the award winning documentary
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Orgasmic Birth, and host of the
Orgasmic Birth Podcast. I'm
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excited to be sharing with you
today. So if you're curious
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about how birth and sex are
connected, or maybe you would
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just want to dive deeper and put
together a good list, then
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you're in the right place.
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Today, I'm going to be sharing a
topic that can transform the way
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you think about labor and birth
forever. You'll learn 4 Powerful
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Secrets That Unveil the Deep
Connection Between Sex and Birth
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to Transform Your Birth
Experience. So spoiler alert.
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Yes, birth and sex aren't just
loosely connected, they're
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deeply intertwined. When we
honor this connection, we open
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the door to more joyful,
empowered and even pleasurable
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birth experiences. Yes, I am
saying pleasurable. Stick with
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me. We're gonna unpack this step
by step. So whether you're
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pregnant, planning a family,
maybe you're a doula, a nurse, a
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midwife, someone with a birth
business, or simply intrigued by
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the idea of rethinking
childbirth, let's explore
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together how birth is not just a
physiologic process, but a
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profoundly intimate, emotional
and sensual journey.
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Let's begin by addressing the
core question, why are birth and
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sex connected? To answer this,
we need to talk about one of the
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key players in both sex and
birth are hormones. A key
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hormone, oxytocin, often called
the love hormone, is released
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during acts of intimacy, such as
cuddling, kissing, arousal and
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orgasm. It's the hormone that
fuels connection, trust, love
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and bonding. But did you know
that it's also the main hormone
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that drives labor and birth?
We've talked about this, and Dr.
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Sarah Buckley has joined us in
earlier episodes. So if you
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really want to go into detail,
definitely go back and listen to
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Dr. Buckley.
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But just briefly, here's how it
works during labor. Oxytocin
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produced in the brain, drips
down through the hypothalamus,
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in the pituitary through the
blood, bonds with the receptors
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on the uterus, and causes those
uterine contractions. It also
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helps soften and open the cervix
and continues to flow even after
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birth to safely help you to
birth the placenta, and to
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promote bonding between you and
your baby, the highest oxytocin
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of a person's life happens in
the moments after birth, and
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it's not just for the person
giving birth. The baby's getting
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the benefit of all this oxytocin
too. The easier oxytocin flows,
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the smoother and the gentler the
labor process can be.
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Now, here's where it gets really
fascinating. Oxytocin doesn't
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just flow automatically. It's
actually a shy hormone. It needs
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the right conditions. It's
stimulated when you feel safe,
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when you feel private,
unobserved, loved and relaxed.
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So think about it. Do you feel
aroused or intimate in a cold,
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clinical, brightly lit room with
strangers watching your every
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move? Probably not. And birth is
no different that's why we often
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say the right place to give
birth would be the right place
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to make love. They require the
same conditions, that's why
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creating an environment that
feels warm, safe and sensual can
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make a world of difference
during labor. Think dim lights,
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calming music, comforting sense,
process and the presence of
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someone you trust. And if
possible, someone you love.
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These elements help mimic the
conditions under which oxytocin
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thrives, whether during love
making or birthing. But here's
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an important takeaway, birth is
not just about hormones, it's
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also about mindset.
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When we view birth as a
continuation of our sexual
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journey rather than clinical or
painful event, we unlock an
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entirely new way of thinking
about labor. So really, take a
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moment to think about that.
Because when all we think about
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in preparing for birth is, oh,
my goodness, the pain. Or I'm so
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afraid, or it's going to be more
than I can handle. Imagine if
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you brought those feelings to
sex on any night, whether it was
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alone enjoying your own body or
with a partner, it would make
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that experience probably not the
best. So we really have to
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unpack all the stories we've
been told about birth. We have
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to get away from all the taboos
where for how many years you
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probably haven't heard that
birth is a part of your sexual
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life, and this is something that
we need to transform. We need to
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really look at and say, what
would it take for you to really
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see that connection and change
your mindset about birth?
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So let's go to my second tip,
the role of sexual organs in
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birth. Let's take this
connection now a step further by
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exploring how the very organs
involved in sex also all play a
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critical role in birth. Your
vagina, labia, cervix, uterus,
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clitoris and pelvic floor are
all intimately involved in both
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acts of creation, sex and birth.
During sexual arousal, vaginal
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tissues swell and soften
similarly. During labor, your
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body produces the same natural
lubrication softening it makes
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it easier for your baby to
descend and for your body to
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open. And think about it. We all
know that those of us that have
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vaginas that in the right
conditions, they lubricate,
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soften and open. But if we're
not in an environment that feels
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safe, that feels private, that
feels welcoming, they will stay
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shut and stay dry.
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Unknown: So when we think about
how we prepare for birth and the
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conditions that many people are
birthing in, it kind of makes
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sense that we're doing too many
things that are pulling, cutting
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and sucking babies out, because
we're not really looking at what
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does it take for the body to
feel safe, private and relaxed
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so that the body can naturally
lubricate and open it was
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designed to give birth. So let's
go a little further.
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The cervix remains closed most
of your life, but it undergoes a
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profound transformation during
labor. Opening just as it does
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open during orgasm, although to
a much larger degree. The
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uterus, which contracts
rhythmically during orgasm or
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climax, does the same thing
during labor, only also with far
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greater purpose to help bring
life into the world. What's
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more? The clitoris and
surrounding tissues are
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incredibly sensitive, packed
with thousands of nerves,
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somewhere between 8 and 10,000
nerve endings that respond to
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touch, pressure and movement
during birth. These same areas
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can create sensations of
pleasure, comfort and relief
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when stimulated gently. That's
why practices like massage,
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masturbation, vibration or
gentle counter pressure can be
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so effective and even enjoyable
when we honor these parallels
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and treat birth as a natural
extension of our sexuality. We
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begin to shift from fear and
tension to curiosity, and maybe
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even excitement.
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Third tip is bring pleasure into
birth. I know that some of you
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might still be thinking,
pleasure in birth. Is that
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really possible? And my answer
is yes, absolutely. If you've
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been listening to a lot of our
back episodes, then you know how
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much pleasure is possible in
birth. And that's not to say
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that there might not be pain,
challenge or intensity, but we
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still can have waves and moments
of pleasure. Pleasure and birth
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can take many forms. It doesn't
have to mean a literal orgasm.
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Although for some people, this
is part of their experience.
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If you've watched our
documentary, Orgasmic Birth, you
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see Amber who shares her rolling
orgasms in labor completely
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unexpected. And if you're
listening to our many birth
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stories throughout the podcast,
you're hearing all different
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elements of pleasure. Some
involve orgasm, some just
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involve touching themselves or
finding comfort and pleasure
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with themselves or a partner. So
instead of tapping into your
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body's natural capacity for
pleasure, relaxation and
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empowerment, too many people are
tapping into fear.
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Here comes another one. Just
that thought or saying that out
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loud or in your mind is
tightening you up where, if you
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have a pleasure practice, you
are going the other way leaning
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into the opening for birth. So
here are some ways to
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incorporate pleasure into your
birth experience. Massage and
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touch. Gentle touch can release
tension and stimulate oxytocin.
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This might include a partner or
a doula massaging your
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shoulders, back or feet. Some
people even find nipple
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stimulation helpful during labor
movement. Your body knows how to
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move. Trust it.
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Can you imagine if you were
making love and you were told
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that you have to stay completely
still and you can't do anything
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else? So the same things. Listen
to your body swaying, rocking,
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dancing. Bouncing on a birth
ball can not only relieve
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discomfort, but also connect you
to your body's natural rhythms.
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Breath work, deep intentional
breathing can help you focus,
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relax and ride the waves of your
sensations. Think of it as
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tuning into the flow of energy
in your body. So again, are you
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seeing the similarities? There's
movement, there's shifts in
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breath, right? There's touch.
All these things that we bring
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to intimacy, we need to really
consider, how can we bring them
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to birth visualizations? Close
your eyes and imagine yourself
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opening like a flower, or
visualize your baby gently
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journeying down through the
birth canal. I remember thinking
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of each sensation as a hug,
wrapping my baby in my love and
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hugging them into the world.
There are so many ways.
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I love Naoli Vinaver, a
wonderful midwife, a dear
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friend. She teaches with us at
our Eat, Pray Doula Retreat in
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Bali. When she was giving birth,
she talked about that the
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sensations were like her love
with her partner were swollen,
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and it was their love that was
trying to burst out. So there's
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so many ways to rethink. When we
take our mind and turn the way
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that we look at what we're
feeling, look at the process, we
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get completely different
sensations, and it can be
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incredibly powerful and
pleasurable. So really, think I
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always say, create at least five
visualizations that are going to
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help you connect with your body,
feel safe, maybe even take you
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to a beautiful place that you've
had a past association with
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pleasure or intimacy in.
Remember too that every birth is
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unique, so pleasure might look
different for you than it does
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for someone else. The goal isn't
to force a specific experience,
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but to open yourself to the
possibilities you.
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Unknown: Last is orgasmic birth.
What does it really mean? And
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again, we've had whole podcasts
about this and how we came to
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develop orgasmic birth as a film
and a movement. But for a
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minute, let's talk again about
the term orgasmic birth. Why it
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may sound like a lofty or
unattainable idea? It's not
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necessarily about achieving a
physical orgasm, although it
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might be. It's about
experiencing birth in a way that
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feels empowering, powerful and
deeply fulfilling and
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satisfying. For some people,
this is the literal sensation of
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pleasure or climax at some point
during labor or birth.
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Again, Amber's rolling orgasms.
If you haven't seen them, I
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would definitely go back and
rent or purchase our documentary
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Orgasmic Birth to see that. For
others, it's the emotional high
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of surrendering fully to the
process and connecting with your
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body's power. And for many, it's
simply about transforming fear
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into joy, and reclaiming birth
as a sacred, sensual act. Here's
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the key. Orgasmic birth isn't a
goal to check off. It's a
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mindset. It's embracing the full
spectrum of sensations, trusting
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your body, allowing yourself to
be fully present in the moment.
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When you do this, you're
creating the conditions for
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pleasure, empowerment and love
to flow naturally.
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As we kind of wrap up, I invite
you again to reflect on this
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question, how can you bring more
love, intimacy and pleasure into
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your birth preferences? I would
love for you to respond, post on
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Instagram, and tag us at
Orgasmic Birth. How are you
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bringing more love, intimacy and
pleasure into your birth
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preferences? Birth is sacred and
sensual. And when we honor it as
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such, we open ourselves up to a
world of possibilities. We can't
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think ourselves to orgasm,
although, if you can let me know
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that.
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In the film, actually when Sally
met Harry and she was at Kat's
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Deli in New York and had this
great orgasm, and the person
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across the room said, I want
what she's having. But for most
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people, having an orgasm is
about getting out of our head.
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If we're thinking the three
things we have to do tomorrow,
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or what we didn't finish today,
or if the kids might wake any
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second, those are thoughts that
immediately shut down the
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process. But when we can fully
let go, when we can be in the
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moment, we can allow our body to
move, our breath to flow when we
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can trust what we're
experiencing. Now, that's where
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the pleasure and that's where
the orgasm can come from so be
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really careful.
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So many people in labor are
thinking, here comes another
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one. This is what I'm gonna do.
What's going on here? And I
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often find when the mind gets
involved, the body takes much
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longer to birth the baby. So if
you can let the mind go and get
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into your body be present with
what's going on, connect to your
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baby, allow yourself to be in
that safe, private, sensuous
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space, then the pleasure flows
so much easier.
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Olivia Bergeron: Thank you for
joining me on this journey
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today. If the conversation
resonated with you, I encourage
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you to subscribe, share this
episode with someone that might
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benefit from it, and please
leave us a review. Your feedback
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helps us spread the message that
birth can be an empowering. And
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yes, even orgasmic experience.
If you have a story, or you have
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an expert that you know you'd
like to see on the podcast,
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please write us. We're always
open to hear your suggestions
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and your feedbacks, and welcome
your joyful, challenging,
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difficult, pleasurable and
orgasmic birth stories.
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Remember, you have the power to
rewrite the narrative of birth
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to reclaim it as a joyful,
intimate and loving act. Until
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next time, I hope you'll stay
connected, live and birth with
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pleasure.
