Haters: How Negativity Predicts Your Breakthrough

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Yo, yo, welcome back to another episode of the High Value Agent Podcast,
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where we inspire people to create a better life through real estate.
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Listen, y'all, have you ever noticed that the loudest criticism,
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the coldest energy, the must-be-nice comments always seem to spike right before
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something big happens for you?
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Has that ever happened to you before? Because the reality is,
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when you start to experience that, you should start to get excited.
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Now, I want to help us understand and reframe hate or haters as a signal, not as a setback.
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Naturally we look at the haters right we look at the people that are spreading the negativity,
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about us and we immediately get defensive we go right into negative mode alongside
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with them right we retaliate,
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we do things that typically result in us being or put or putting ourselves in a worse situation,
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than we were before.
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I want to help reframe that for us.
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Hate is not a setback. It's a signal that you are getting close to something,
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great, that you are about to level up, you are about to break through.
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I want you to think about it this way. The people that are hating,
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they don't waste their energy reacting to nothing.
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Is someone is stepping up their level of doubt or negativity towards you.
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It probably means that they have felt your momentum.
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They have felt your momentum. And before you've even seen it sometimes, right?
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Like they have felt or they are feeling your momentum. They are seeing real time you level up. Okay.
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And so I want to tie it into business directly. Like let's talk about real estate.
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Let's talk about being an agent.
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You're showing up. You're doing what you need to do. You're prospecting consistently.
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You're building up your pipeline. You're building and maintaining those relationships.
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Meanwhile, the other agent is making the excuses.
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That's when you start to notice the sideline commentary, right?
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And it gets louder. It gets louder and louder and louder.
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The competitors, the haters, they notice what you're doing. They notice what you're doing.
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You staying locked into your schedule, you being disciplined in your day.
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They notice it, and it makes them feel uncomfortable.
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It does. And so when we can reframe how we make people feel,
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them being uncomfortable, reframing it to, oh, that's not my problem,
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but that is an indication that I'm on the right path,
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that creates what we consider a breakthrough into the next level.
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What a lot of people want to do is they feel that that tension or they hear,
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you know the hate going on and they tend to slow down,
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that's the danger right and i don't think like they intentionally slow down
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like they want to it's just they're now becoming undisciplined in their schedule,
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the giving energy and time to the hater to the criticism to the negativity naturally
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slows you down because your mind is focused on things that are not productive,
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maybe just maybe word are we good all right we're back we're back going okay,
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i don't know what happened there something,
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Yo, yo. Okay, we're good.
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All right, let's do this again. Yo, yo, welcome back to another episode of the
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High Value Agent Podcast, where we inspire people to create a better life through real estate.
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Listen, have you noticed that the loudest,
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criticism or the codest energy, the must be nice comments always seem to spike,
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right before something big happens for you? Has that ever happened to you before?
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You know what? If that has happened to you, you are on to something big.
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You are about to break through in your business, in your life.
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I want to share a message that's going to help you reframe hate,
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not as a setback, but reframe it as a signal that you are on the right path.
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There's haters all around us. When you are doing what you need to do When you're
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focused and you're locked in And you're not giving energy to the negativity,
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That tends to attract Haters,
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And that is not a bad thing Here's why The people that are hating on you They
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wouldn't waste their energy Reacting to nothing,
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If somebody is stepping up Their level of hate and doubt And negativity towards
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you It means that you've created enough momentum,
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To where they can feel it And you may not even know it yet You may not even
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see the momentum yet Because maybe it's not showing up.
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On the scoreboard yet But they feel it They feel it,
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When you experience that negativity, the haters it is a signal that you are on the right path,
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now let's tie it into real estate specifically right because you know you can
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have haters just in just the normal day-to-day life but when we refer to business,
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because this is a business podcast i mean we talk life as well but,
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you know you're the agent showing up you're committed you're making your prospecting
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dials and and having your conversations You're building and maintaining the relationships.
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You're working in your database every single day.
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You're building your skill set. You're committed to your schedule.
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You're executing every single day.
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When you are killing the game at that level, meaning you're being consistent,
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you're blinders on, that's exactly when the sideline commentary wants to get louder.
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That is exactly when you start hearing, hey, did you hear what so-and-so said about you?
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Hey, did you hear about what's-his-name said? Oh, my God, you ain't gonna believe what so-and-so said.
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Yeah it starts getting loud and just know what we can do and fall and we could
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actually fall into this trap,
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is we allow that negativity,
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the hate to slow us down how because we're giving energy and time to explain
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ourselves to retaliate all that stuff that's not going to benefit you Thank you.
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Keep your foot on the gas. This is where you go harder. You destroy the haters
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by suffocating them with success.
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You got it? You can get so high in your success.
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You can elevate your world so high to where they are known. It's almost like they are an ant.
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They are a small little ant crawling around And everything they're trying to
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say to you, you can't even hear anymore Why?
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Because you're just out of their reach You're on a whole nother level But most
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of us, when we start getting haters We allow that to affect us,
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we get defensive And we want to put energy and time into trying to get back at them,
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So you do not do that Reframe the hate And it's a signal that you are on the
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right path And it's time to double down Don't respond to it Don't shrink from it,
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Grow from it Learn from it,
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Learn that you are on the right track Use it as fuel Do not use it as friction.
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Period. Use it as fuel. Now, here's what I want to do to challenge you,
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because I really want you to internalize this and apply it so you can win bigger.
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Think of a hater or some hate that you recently have gotten.
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And if you haven't received any hate, if you haven't had somebody come to you
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say somebody was hating on you, or you experienced it firsthand,
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I'm here to tell you, with love, you ain't doing enough.
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You ain't doing enough to make somebody uncomfortable.
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Your growth, or the lack thereof, isn't making the people in your community
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that are the haters, not everyone's a hater, but the haters uncomfortable.
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They're not feeling the momentum yet.
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But they're not feeling it. So you got more work to do.
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But if you have been experiencing the hate and you've been doing what you need
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to do and it's getting louder, what does that actually say about how close you
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actually are to a breakthrough?
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What is the noise that you're hearing, the hate trying to tell you right now?
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I want you to answer those questions. It's a good thing. I want you to embrace
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it. I want you to be thankful.
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And I want you to go find more haters, okay? Keep grinding, keep putting in the work.
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I'm always here to remind you we are on this path together of growth,
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of giving back, of contribution, of learning, of improving life, improving self, okay?
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So keep going out there, doing what you got to do. Like, comment,
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subscribe, leave a review. You know what to do.
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Appreciate you guys. me strong. Peace.