OM DENNE EPISODE
"In those situations, it's not being defensive. It's defending myself. And those are two very different things. And one is actually extremely necessary and healthy."
Someone says something to you that's out of line. You say nothing. Not because you don't have a response, but because the line I don't want to be defensive has functioned as a gag order for the last twenty years.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz unpacks the cultural confusion that's been keeping a lot of high-functioning people silent in situations where they should be speaking. He distinguishes between being defensive (closed off to feedback, refusing accountability) and defending yourself (asserting your reality, your perspective, your no). Personal growth culture has collapsed the two, and the cost is enormous.
He also shares a consulting-group story he hadn't told before: four therapists spending five to seven minutes each interrogating his career decision to move into coaching. The kind of conversation that, when you stay silent in it, you end up carrying in your head for three weeks.
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