45 Forward #243 - Values, Voting & Listening for Common Ground

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It's it's just fascinating to me the resiliency that people had.
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Seventy five percent of the people that we talked to
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grew up with no power, with no election, you know,
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no electricity half the time, no running water, bathrooms outside
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of it's a rural area. And the one thing they
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all have in common is nobody complained that. There's not
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one iota of complaining about So I mean my tolerance,
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this is like my tolerance level of young people complaining
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about stuff is extremely low. Shallow. Yeah, yeah, so.
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It Hello everyone, this is Ron Roell, the host of
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forty five Forward. They all love good storytellers, and the
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best storytellers are the ones with the most to tell.
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American seniors who have already lived long lives, but our
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older generations often don't get a chance to tell their stories.
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In fact, they're not even asked. In today's episode, I'll
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be talking with Jack Yorke, whose mission is to change
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all that. Jack has been immersed in the senior living
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world for more than twenty five years, and he is
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the founder and chief storyteller of Tailgate Now. He spends
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his days crisscrossing the country capturing the amazing often untold
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personal stories of seniors, including those of our oldest old
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one hundred year olds, our nation centenarians, through a project
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he calls Vintage Voices. The story of Jack and Tailgate
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is in a more amazing, heartfelt story in itself, and
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today I'm privileged to share this story with you. So
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now let's meet jack yorke Jack. Welcome to the show.
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All right, thanks Ron for having me on. I love
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your whole tagline of making the second half of life
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better than the first. That's that's awesome.
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Yeah, and you've done that. You've had multiple parts of
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your life, so let's start with that a little bit. Jackson,
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give us well. During the course of the of the
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our conversation, we'll talk about a lot of your different pivots,
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but just give us a sense. And I know you
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started out with the tech industry, you know, I guess
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selling semiconductors, and then you made a dramatic shift. Tell
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us about that beginning, and you're a bit about your
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origin story.
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Had a a you know, fairly conventional I guess, you know,
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corporate climbing life that I was in my mid twenties,
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started working in the Silica Valley for a company called Siliconics.
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That was in in as you said, in the semiconductor industry,
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and I uh, people in the senior living world have
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assumed I'm a tech guy, but I was always I
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was just a good sales and marketing guy in the
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in the in that in that technology world, and just
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never thinking of it as it was a good career,
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good you know, you check all the boxes of of
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what you're supposed to be doing, a great family and
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and all that stuff, and never thinking of it as
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a business. A really good friend of mine, Leslie Sweeney,
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in nineteen ninety eight, all of a sudden, that's a
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long that's a long time ago, she had the idea
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to donate some computers to a local assisted living community
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in California. And again, it was never an idea for
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a business. It was just she just noticed that it
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looked like a lot of the people in this community
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that she was pretty close to geographically that were pretty
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lonely or they said, just seem kind of bored, and
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so we just just donated some computers. She worked with
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the residents for a year and it was just kind
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of a cool thing to do, and then a very
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spiritual thing happened that my mom. We were having an
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eighty the surprise birthday party from my mom in nineteen
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ninety eight, and towards the end of the party, she
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started not feeling the little great, you know, just as
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the party was winding out, she was getting a little dizzy.
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So we just had a precautionary calling ambulance. They come
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out and they look at her and that not overly concerned,
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but that well, maybe we should take her to the
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hospital just to be safe. And it turned out that
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she you know, this is such a joyful story, but
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it sounds so sad when you say that she wound
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up having a massive stroke in the ambulance on the
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way of the hospital and died the next morning. But
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it was her spirit was telling me to do something
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with my life that had purpose and had meaning, and
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it was kind of her last gift to me. And
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so without having any any idea, I mean, I'd worked
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for the same company for almost fifteen sixteen years, so
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I just completely jumped off a cliff to start a
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company called It's Never Too Late with Leslie and my
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and my brother Tom and had you know, usually people
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start companies, they have some semblance of a you know,
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you know, a skill set in whatever that industry is.
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We we had no idea on any level of what
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we were doing, which in some ways was bad and
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maybe some ways was good. But that was the whole
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inception of Iron two l and, which was all about
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bringing technology to older adults. And that's kind of how
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the whole major pivot happened and how everything else since
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then has followed.
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Yeah, so then you decided that on the name is
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never too late with Is that for you or.
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For Yeah, it was because it was all about it
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was all about just you know, it's it's nineteen ninety nine,
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so the whole computing you know, Windows had just been
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out for a while. I mean, the whole computing world
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in general was just starting much less the uh you know,
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much less older adults, much less nursing now, it was
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much less dementia. I mean, we were ahead of the
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curve on pretty much every level. But it was just
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you know, with just observationally is really kind of how
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the whole idea started. Observationally, you go into a senior
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living community and you'd see these you know, none of
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this is meant to say anything demeaning about the incredibly
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dedicated staff that work in senior living. But you know,
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you go back to nineteen ninety nine and you have
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these people that are you know, the residents that are
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you know, teachers and welders and doctors and lawyers and
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whatever the heck their their life was. They had lived
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completely rich lives and you'd look at the you know,
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at what then was called activity programming, and it was
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it was just so demeaning to people that had lived
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such full lives. And again it's not not at all
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a reflection of the of the people that worked the
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internest that just didn't have any tools. So you know,
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you have rooms full of you know, old VHS tapes
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and you're, you know, you're just you're just trying to
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keep people. It was, it was, there was just nothing,
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it was nothing really aging about it, and it just
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seemed like there's got to be a better way to
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do this. And that was That's just kind of how
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it started. The fact that we didn't know the industry,
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the fact that we didn't know that we didn't know
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what we were doing, it made us just ask questions
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of people. And there were so many people along the
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road that really helped guide the product development. They saw
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that our hearts were in the right place, and and
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it was just it was just really a you know,
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just kind of an organic beginning to a company in
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a in an industry that was starting to look at computing,
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but only through the lens of medical records and clinical applications.
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So we were, you know, you go to a conference,
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we were like out in left field doing all this
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crazy stuff. So we were way ahead of a curve.
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And like I said, it was either it was probably
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to our benefit that we had no idea what we
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were what we were talking about.
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Yeah, well it's sometimes you're right, it's good not to know.
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Yeah, yeah, exactly.
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But yeah, so of course I love your story because
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my show is forty five forward, Yeah, right, right right.
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It focuses on the fact that it is never too late,
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you know, And and many of my guests Jack, you know,
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have have had multiple careers, you know, after middle age,
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and I think that's you know, that's the point of
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it is that you can keep growing and learning things.
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And I mean we've gone through some tremendous changes. I mean,
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as I think back to my early days as a
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writer as a journalist, I'm like a little stunned I'm like, okay,
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so we were using typewriters and I was making copies
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using carbon paper.
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I was, you know it is it's so, you know,
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I want to do a you know, one of my
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many off the wall ideas. I'd love to do some
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kind of a contest of twenty five year olds to
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give them a street and Smith's map guide and tell
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them how and they kind of leave the cell phone
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home and like drive from you give them an address
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and they got to figure out how to get there.
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I mean, it's a there's and you know that's what's
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obviously we're gonna get into the Honeyrolds. You know, you
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you get into the world of folks that are centinarians,
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and you get into slide rules, and you know, it's sure,
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it's just kind of one step back, but it's the
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same thing. It's just people's aversion to change and doing
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things differently and and kind of being on the edge
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to to do it right.
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Yeah. So we'll talk about a lot of things, but
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I want to just talk a little bit more about
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it's never too late and uh, you know which you
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know now I guess is life loop right, that's it's yeah,
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And about so just a little bit about how how
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you how you do this? How do you go into communities?
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What sort of things do you do with them? And
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and how do you because you do a lot of things.
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Yeah, it's kind of like Iron two L and it's
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it's now you know, to my to my delight, it's
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a it's a it's a much it's become a much
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more sophisticated, broader product. It's part of a company called
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life Loop and it was but like I said before,
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the ion Tel, the conception was it was just trying
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to bring two older adults that did not kind of
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a combination of they didn't have a lot of computer experience,
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but they also were dealing with different levels of physical
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or cognitive decline. How do you bring them the same
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kind of things that we get used to with the computer.
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It's it really I don't know. I don't think it
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was that that that complicated of an idea, just through
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we were way ahead of the curve with touch screen.
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So it's touchscreen technology and to try to let people
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be able to get to without having to really know
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how to use a computer that just through the touch
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screen and well laid out content, they could get to
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just sections based of travel and spirituality and games and
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you know, whatever they want, just whatever. You know, what
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do we do? We want to listen to music, we
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want to I always use the analogy I'm a big
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I'm a big Springsteen guy. And it's not like when
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I hit eighty, I'm gonna all of a sudden want
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the carpenters. You know, you just we all have our
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passions right that our bodies change. We may change a
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little physically or cognitalant, we don't change the We don't
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lose the thirst to stay connected and engage with things
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that are meaningful. So Iantua is just all about trying
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to bring that what was relevant to that person and
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make it easy either for them to get to individually
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or for an activity professional to be able to guide
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their way to the content in a group context. And
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it took, and it took forever to take off. The
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first ten years of the company was more just trying
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to get people to open up to the ideas of
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computers and residents and dementia more than you're selling against
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a competitor. Was just trying to change mindsets and and
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I'm super proud of the fact that I think we
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helped did uh you know, help we helped move the
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needle of just kind of that common sense, the equation
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that you know what, everybody should have access to the
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same kind of things that we take for granted with technology.
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Yeah, and I love this approach because I mean it
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relates to actually who's using it and why are they
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using it? So, you know, I've been involved, you know,
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with ARP and a lot of advocacy groups for seniors,
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and you know, people talking, well, how do we teach
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people seniors that use technology? Well, the same way we
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teach anybody about things like like why is why is
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this relevant to you? Why would you use it? You know,
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what do you need it for? Not just oh well
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I'll learn how to use all these things and program
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and so forth. You know. So you're you're you know,
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you're just the fact that you you know, it's it's well,
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in some ways, it's customer driven. You're looking at who
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is the customer here? It's it's it's the senior and
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why do they need it? And and also you know,
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breaking through this myth of like oh well, no, seniors,
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they can't use it. You know, used to paper and
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pencils and stuff like that and no, you know, but
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you you needed your approach of really paying attention to them.
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but in the early days, and this is you know,
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it kind of reminds me. It reminds me. It reminds
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me so viscerally of a moment I had when I
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early you know, early twenties, think that I was working
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for my dad, and my dad was a civil engineer,
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and I remember this guy coming in with a Texas
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instrument computer and my dad's a total slide roll guy,
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you know, you know, grew up with that, and he
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was so resistant to this calculator, even though it was
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so I'm just sit there looking at the outs. I go, Dad,
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that seems to be a lot easier than that thing
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that you have. And I think a lot of the
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early resistance to iron two L and it was almost subconscious,
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job a certain way for twenty years, all of a sudden,
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here's this guy showing up that has no knowledge of
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senior living and no knowledge of the you know, intricacies
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of aging and dementia, just saying, you know it, it's
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a lot easier just to you know, touch this. You know,
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if you're showing, if you've got a resident who you've
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built this activity about going to France and the person
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wants to go to Germany, instead of having to completely
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redo your whole day, just touch this button instead of
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that button. It's a heck of a lot easier than
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all the work you've done. But there was such resistance
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because it was just a different way for people to
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do their job. And so it you know, you'd like
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anything else, you have people that are willing to take
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a risk, a little bit of early adopters, a whole
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bunch of people that were so beneficial to us early on,
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wound up being, you know, succeeding beyond my wildest and
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I'm Leslie and my unfortunately my brother died the other
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founder early on. So it was a tough first ten
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years of company, but wound up being like I said,
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very successful.
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lot of it too. I mean, nobody likes change.
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a tangent, but a lot of why I talk a
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lot to people, to young people that are entrepreneurs starting businesses,
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and as much as anything else, the reason that I
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in two L succeeded was when I was twenty five,
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I started saving twenty ten between ten and twenty percent.
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I would save of what I made and put it
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into no load mutual funds and just every month, put
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money in every month. And I'm forty and it got
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too close to a million dollars and that's what we
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used to launch I in two L. Every dime went away,
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but I didn't have have to go look for until
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about ten years later. I didn't have to go look
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for any other capital and didn't have to answer to
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anybody else. So I'm I'm a firm belief. You know,
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I've been more the like Jimmy Stewart model of starting
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a company. But half the people I talk to you
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don't even know who Jimmy Stewart is ordered to come
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up with you with a new analogy. But it was,
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you know, I think part of it just growing up
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with depression area. You know, air of parents than you know.
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You just are You're conservative and you save money and
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that's kind of how the whole thing happened from a
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financial standpoint, right right.
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Okay, So we're going to take a quick break jack Folks.
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When we come back, when we're talking much more with
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Welcome back, folks, to forty five Forward. This is your host,
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Ron Rowell, and we're talking today with jack Yorke, the
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founder of Tailgate, whose mission is to capture and tell
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the stories of our best storytellers, America's seniors. So before
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the break, we were talking about Dak's earlier career with
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It's Never Too Late and how I want to now
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get into how you developed and moved into Tailgate. How
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did this transition take place.
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Yeah, when so as I and two L got bigger,
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one of the you know, I did a lot. I could.
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I could spend a lot of time talking about mistakes
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that I made, and you know, as any entrepreneur can
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can tell you that. But the one thing I did,
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I think do well was I was very self aware
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of what, you know, what I was good at when
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I was not good at. And I think I was
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a good CEO for a company of you know, ten,
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fifteen twenty people. As I in two L got larger,
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you know, and more successful, I knew that I wasn't
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the right CEO to kind of take it to the
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next level. Didn't I didn't lose the passion for the product,
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But it just takes a different skill set to kind
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of go from point, you know, from point B to
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point C. And I think a lot of people are
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their egos get in the way of letting go a
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little bit. And so as the year before COVID, I
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was trying to do some things that were more you know,
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almost more kind of public. And I was still passionate,
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still working for Ryan two out, but I did I
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wanted to kind of get out of the operational role
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and just do more really just more out in the
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field ethics, living communities and this that, and so we
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we came up with the idea I turned sixty. This
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is five and a half years ago. I turned sixty,
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and I in twell turned twenty, and so we invented
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this thing called the sixty twenty Tour that I drove
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around at a van with go pro cameras, which is
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what I'm doing now. We'll get to that later, but
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we it was it was really like carpool karaoke. We
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couldn't call it that from a license at stepoint, so
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we called it cruising and croonin. But I would we
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would just go to communities and we would get resonance
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to drive around, you know, drive around the neighborhood with me,
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and we'd sing songs and and just you know, just
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have really kind of a just wherever, wherever the conversation
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would go would go. And it was the first time
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I'm you know, my I in twel career. Not that
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this is a bad thing, but I would, you know,
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I'd lug in a demo unit and I'm trying to
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talk to the executive director and the therapists and the
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activity world from to sell the product and show what
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it was, you know, say hello to the residents, and
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but I didn't really interact with them. And then, you know,
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then you leave and you go to the next community,
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and all of a sudden, with the sixty twenty tour,
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it was really the first time that I really had
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had more deeper relations or conversations with the residents. And
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it was like, the guys people are just so cool
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and they're so thirsty to be heard, and that was
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kind of the the It just kind of planted the
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seed of there's got to be a bigger and better
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way to do this, and then when COVID hit, it was,
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you know, it's kind of it was kind of odd
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because everything I in Twell was about was really so
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ideal for cod because it was all about trying to
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connect residents to the outside world, to their families, to
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you know, to what mattered to them. And so, you know,
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just in blunt capitalistic terms, COVID probably tripled the valuation
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of I N two L and all of a sudden,
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a lot of a lot of of private equity companies
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were interested in it. And it really it really wasn't
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that we were necessarily looking to sell the company, but
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it was It's kind of and it was like, well,
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maybe maybe this is the right time to do that,
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and so we we were acquired through a private equity company,
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became part of a company Life Loop, and and I'm
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still involved with it. I love what it's turned into.
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Like I said earlier on It's It's it's the the
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the infusion of capital and of life Loop has allowed
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the product to become a lot broader, and it's now
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tied into AI and doing all. I mean, it's it's
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totally thriving. But uh, but that allowed me to my
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I never lost the passion for Iyan twelve, but I
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really felt like, almost like when I started I and twelve.
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It sounds kind of hokey, but it's true that it
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really felt like a calling to me. When I just
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saw the isolation and how technology was just leaving people behind,
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I just felt the same way. I had kind of
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the same feeling with Tailgate that or just in general,
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that just a calling to do a deeper job of
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trying to capture the stories of some of these folks.
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And so the initial launch of Tailgate was a forty
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two foot trailer that we had and that's kind of
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how the name tailgate came because it was ta it's
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spelled ta l e because you're capturing stories. But it
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was initially a lot of tailgate parties that we had
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this forty two foot trailer that we'd bring all over
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the country and we built a recording studio inside the trailer,
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and so we'd show up at a community and have
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a whole of activities and the tailgate party, and then
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we'd be capturing stories on the inside. And I just
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I fell in love with doing it. But I also felt.
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Like the the the the sanctity of capturing the stories
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was getting lost in this big party, and it really
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wasn't all about the party.
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And it was also the other, the other practical side
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of it is that everybody else in the company, like
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had lives back at home and they wanted I was
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pretty comfortable being on the road all the time, and
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so there was a little bit of like, you know what,
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what's a different way to do this, And so that's
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kind of what it's evolved to now. But that's how
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it started, and and it was the same. It's it's almos.
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I mean, really, the patron saint of me is probably
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Leonardo DiCaprio and catch me if you can, because now
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I'm a you know, now I'm a documentary film producer,
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and before I was a tech entrepreneur, both of which
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I had appo no business doing. But you you know,
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you just jump in and figure stuff out and all
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of a sudden you're you know, you start making a work.
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Yeah, So what did you have a moment when when
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you just really realize, like, wow, people really have a
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thirst to tell stories and as they've told me before,
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sort of uplifting stories. There are stories of their lives
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and no one was asking them. Was there sort of
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an epiphany.
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Part of it for me? You know, this is also
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going back to the idea of starting it is that
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when I was a kid, I you know, and I
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was talking to this before. With my dad and like
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the latter part of high school or the part of college,
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I worked for my dad and in the summers and
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so we would drive every day back and forth. We
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would drive about thirty minutes both ways, and after he died,
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it just it kind of you know, it's the classic
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story that you find out these things that your parents
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did after they die. So with my dad, had you know,
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I knew about his you know, I knew he had
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been a part of World War Two. I knew, you know,
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just very rudimentary about what he did. And I found
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out after god, all this really you know, incredibly cool
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stuff that he did that I you know, I sat
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there in the car with him, you know, not, you know,
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not one day, you know, I asked, you know, we
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talk all day about the Dodgers, about Nebraska Cornhusker football,
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you know, about this stuff that with you know, with
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the father son conversations. But I never asked him. You know,
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what was it like being a twenty year old kid
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with a civil engineering degree and all of a sudden
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you're on a plane going to India to build landing
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strips in this thing called the Burma Road. And so
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I that always bothered me. And so I think part
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of the you know, almost my subconsciousness with Tailgate is
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that every every person's story we capture is kind of
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a you know, almost a subconscious tribute to my father,
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whose story you know, you know, I never I never
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did capture. But you know, going back to your question,
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I don't think it was like a like a moment,
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It just it was like a daily occurrence well, actually,
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you know what, as I think about, there was I
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would say a moment. There was two or three times
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where people would come up to me after an interview
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and say how much the interview, how much it meant
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to them, And one one guy in particular, it's funny,
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I haven't thought about this forever, and just your question
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triggered it for me. I was in a really cool
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community called C. C. Young outside of Dallas, Texas, and
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did the interview in the trailer and this guy, you know,
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I'm leaving the building and we had spent maybe a
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half hour with four or five different residents. This guy
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was one of them, and this real, you know, tall guy,
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and he kind of waves me to come upstairs. Beautiful community.
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He waves me to come upstairs to say goodbye to him,
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and I and I go up to him and and
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I'm just say goodbye, and he just he looked me
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in the eye and just said, you know, you made
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me feel relevant today and I don't always feel relevant.
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And it hit me, you know, just that comment hit
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me that you know this is more important then maybe
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I'm thinking it is. And then I would hear people
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say this has happened a lot and when it first
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you know, when when I first heard it, it made
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me feel really good, and as time has gone, it's
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actually made me feel a little more sad than good.
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And that is people that have said that in the
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drives that we do, which we'll talk about in a
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few minutes, but you'll wind up talk you know, driving
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somebody around capturing their story and the personal again will
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tell you that it's the most meaningful thing that they've
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done in the last year. And when I first heard that,
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it was, wow, that is really cool. And then it's
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just like, you know that that's a sad thing that
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they're not And I think it's just it's not that
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it's me, and it's not that it's fan fair. I
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just think that it's somebody is is authentically taking the
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time to ask questions of somebody that hasn't that's lived
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a full life, yeah, and is rarely asked those questions.
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Yeah, you know, it's interesting Jack, as you're talking, I'm
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thinking back to my childhood too, and and also and
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and you know, I know we're now into tailgate, but
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but going back to life loop. To me, there is
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sort of a life loop to this. So you know,
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you think about being a kid. And what's the most
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important thing that for kids is for them to feel
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listened to, you know, and and you know the adults
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are in their own world doing this, and so there's
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this I think this long like I just want to
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be listened to, and I think that sort of carries
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through a lot of life. And now you're at the
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end of your life loop ord or further down the road,
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and again, you know, you've got this full life and
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no one listening. We're not you and I have talked
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about this before. We're not a society of listeners or talkers,
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which is okay, but what people wanted frequently is to
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be listened to, because that what makes you relevant.
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Yeah, you know, it's it's talkers. And it's also you know,
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we're a society of just sucked into our little reality,
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into a cell phone. And and again this is something
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we can talk about later, but it's a it's you know,
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a passion of mine is trying to put together this
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isolation of the older adults paired with these high school
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students who were so you know, they have their own
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version of loneliness, which is just it's just wrapped in
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a different box and it and just looking at at
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just what and we can talk about that later about
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about when about some of the things that have really
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struck me as as changes that I think that's much
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change is just I think things that senior living communities can
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do to enhance this whole issue or bring to light
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this whole issue.
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Yeah, yeah, so Jack, we're going to take another quick break,
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but folks, we have a lot more to talk about,
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so don't go away. We'll be talking much more with
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Jack Yorck, the founder of Tailgate, and now we'll get
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a transition to his stories about how he actually collects
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these stories. So we'll be right back.
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Welcome back, folks to forty five Forward. I'm Ron Roell,
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your host once again. We're talking to Jack Yorck, the
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founder of Tailgate, and about his passion for telling the
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stories of seniors really is the backbone of our of
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our society and our culture. So Jack, let's get into
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a little bit more about how you do this. I
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know that you've about how you do your interviews. I've
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seen some of your interviews where you're actually interviewing folks
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in the car. I found fascinating and remind me a
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little bit of that you know, that Jerry Seinfeld bit,
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you know, coffee in the car with comedians, you know. Yeah, yeah,
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but I like your version better.
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Yeah yeah. Well, I mean there's a couple like the
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Tailgate there. There's a couple of different things that we're doing,
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and one of them is we do really cool documentaries
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and why don't we can talk abou that in a minute.
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And then we're also we have a great author in
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our staff. Her name is Aubrey Road, and she's writing
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a book about some of these people that we meet
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along the way. So, I mean, everything we're generically doing
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is tied to just elevating aging and as a second
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tier way kind of elevating senior living and trying to
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kind of tweak that. But as far as the what
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a lot of people see is the uh the Vintage Voices,
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what we call Vintage Voice. It's a partnered partnership between
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Tailgate and the company called Dash Media that does great
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work with social media and see living. And so that's
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where I do a lot of the you know, a
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lot of the interviews in the car there there there,
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I think everybody's everybody who's a parent has experienced kind
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of the how you can get your kids to say
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things in a car that you know, you can just
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you can have good conversation in a car. So there
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is something oddly uh comfortable about, you know, about just
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talking while you're driving. So if you look at the
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channel we've put together with this partnership, the Vintage Voices,
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it's called Vintage Voices one hundred, which you can see
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on on Instagram and YouTube all that stuff. But I
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but I you know, I guess just we can get
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to that more of that in the minute. But in
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terms of just your question. You know, I think it's
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it's just it's just interesting to me. You know, it's
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funny because people will say people will I just I
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laugh my rear sometimes because people will say that they
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really appreciate my work and they say it like how
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you would talk to somebody who who's digging wells in
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you know, in in the you know, in Africa, like
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like I mean, I it's just it's I've always been
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a history person. I've always very enjoyed history, and I'm
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fascinated to just see, you know, what happens from generation generation.
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So for me, it's just it's just curiosity to just
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try to put myself in that person's head of what
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their life was like. And then I think that people
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they have a good radar of authenticity and they see
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that I'm authentic, right and the fact that I'm a stranger,
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I think makes it a lot easier sometimes to open up.
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And so it's it's interesting, and you know this totally.
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I think this next comment fits with the whole premise
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of what you're doing. Ron is then I honestly, I
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never really felt to be to be brutally honest, I
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never felt like I was a very good CEO. At
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I twelve, I was a good sales guy, but I
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really wasn't very good CEO. But I really feel like
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I'm good at interviewing and and and and I think
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it's a to the point of your show. It's a
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skill set that I never would have ever thought that
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I had, that I don't even tap into till my
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early sixties. And and it's and it's turning out to
631
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be something I thoroughly enjoy, you know, I think that
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I'm good at and I've surrounded myself with phenomenal with
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the documentaries that we do, phenomenal team of editors and
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uh and videographers that really make the conversations that we
635
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have come to life. But it's really it, you know,
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I think that I think what anybody's good at doing
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doesn't seem that hard. Like for me, I really enjoy
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public speaking and getting in front of you know, get
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in front of groups of people and talk about these
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lessons I'm learning and this is that. And so like
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when you hear how the terror that public speaking strikes
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inside of people, I don't get it. But man, throw
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me a pipe wrench with a with a toilet overflowing
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and that's when I get terrified. I have no idea
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what dude, So I think, you know, we all kind
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of have our mojo of what we do. But to me,
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I think, again, just going back to your question, it's
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just being genuinely curious about a person's whatever the topic is,
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and then just shut up and let them, let them
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run with it.
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Yeah, I think you're right, Jack. I think I think
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people detect your curiosity. It's a genuine curiosity. You're just
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interested in their lives. You're listening to them, and you know,
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I think especially with older people, you know, they've lived
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a long time and they can pick up, you know, things,
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they can sense things, you know, because they've their brain
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is is you know, a similating a lot of experiences,
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and they can tell very quickly. This guy is for real,
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and he's generally interested, and he's not he's not threatening
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to me, he's not trying to do he's not trying
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to coerce me get something out of me. He's genuinely
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curious and he wants to know what was my name?
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Yeah, like this guy. There's a guy, a guy in
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Iowa that worked for forty five mill forty five years
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at General Mills and making cereal, and I just thought
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that was I thought that was fascinating. Like, you know,
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it's easy to stereotype, like, you know what a that's
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that's kind of must have been kind of a boring job,
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you know, you the guy starts talking about it, he
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was doing all kinds of stuff and that was that's
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his his identity is General Mills and the stuff that
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he was doing to improve cereal, and it, uh, you know,
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from the outside it could seem like a simple thing
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to him. That was his life for forty five years,
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and you want to you want to honor it and
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let him talk about it. And the guy hadn't talked
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about it for probably you know, you know, he was
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a hundred and one and there is a hundred one
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and the buddies that he worked with are all gone.
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So I mean there's a lot of yeah, a lot
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of psychological kind of dynamics to some of these conversations
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that I think. You don't you don't really think of
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you just have the conversation. But there's a The more
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I do it, the more I realize it really is
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tappened into something a lot deeper than I originally thought.
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Yeah, yeah, I think that we just don't think about
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the fact that, you know, there is loss in life.
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You know, you lose your family, your friends, they move away,
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they pass away, but but your need to connect is
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still there, you know, and and you know, so I
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think that as you pointed at earlier, COVID really pushed this,
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you know, triggered this realization like, oh wow, people are
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really lonely. They need to connect. But but this does
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it in the more, you know, I don't know. Yeah, well,
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I think it's nice that you you know, you have
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you tailgate for for Roman numeral for joy, which is
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the joy aspect of it, that this is joyful. I mean, yeah,
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there's a certain wistfulness about it, it's true. But the
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ability for people to do this I think is really
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important to them. Any any other you mentioned this guy
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from Gentlem Mills, any other stories that have surprised you
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or just sort of stuck with you that you know,
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you've done so many. I know it's hard.
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Yeah, you know, I think the you know, let me
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answer kind of both specifically and generically. Specifically, you know,
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I've talked to a handful of World War Two vets
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that and those stories are just fascinating, but just a
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couple of months ago. Like you, I'm talking about one
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hundred You like, the documentaries that we do are very
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planned and there's a real you know, there's a whole
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story that we're putting together and plotting, and that's a
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very structured process. The Vintage Voice one hundred year old visits,
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you just show up. You don't know what's going to happen.
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But anyway, So I've had a lot of these, a
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lot of the World War two vets, and all of
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a sudden, a couple of months ago, a guy gets
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in just a thick German accent, and he grew up
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he grew up in Germany as a kid, and he
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had to spend thirty minutes every morning singing praise songs
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to Hitler Wow. And then and that night he's running
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between his house and a bomb shelter, you know, right
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in the middle of everything. But you think about that stuff,
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you know, I think you you you think about that
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as being ancient history. And then you're just sitting, you know,
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in the car, right next to somebody. You know, you
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each got your cup of coffee, and it's a person
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that just lived it. So I think that there's you know,
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it's almost like, you know, it's I could spend you know,
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fourteen of your episodes talking about the individual stories there
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there there just is it's it's just fascinating to me,
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the resiliency that people had. Seventy five percent of the
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people that we talked to grew up with no power,
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with no election, you know, no electricity half the time,
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no running water, bathrooms outside of it's a rural area.
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And the one thing they all have in common is
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nobody complained that. There's not one iota of complaining about So.
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I mean, I my tolerance, I you know, this is
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like my tolerance level of young people complaining about stuff
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is extremely low. Gallow, Yeah, yeah, so it uh but
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I do I I you know, honestly, ron I I
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go to bed at night, I can't. I can't tell
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you how the spiritual impact these people have on me.
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And it just I try to really at the end
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of the day just spend some time with the lights
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out and nothing and just think about who that person
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was that I talked that day, and it is it
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is you know, it sounds hokey to say it, but
748
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it is such an honor to capture this you know,
749
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we just you have somebody's life on an SD card, right,
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and you know, we do all the social media stuff
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and it's getting you know, it's getting tens of thousands
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of followers and it's got millions of views. And you know,
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I don't mean to sound flippant, but that is so
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00:42:38.719 --> 00:42:41.239
irrelevant to me. The relevant to me, the relevance to
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00:42:41.239 --> 00:42:44.800
me what we're doing is that you you give that family.
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Here's the story, you know, here's this. You know, we'll
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edit the SD card, here's the story of your dad's life,
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00:42:52.920 --> 00:42:56.800
your grandpa's life. And my kids, you know, my kids
759
00:42:56.920 --> 00:43:01.320
never met my dad, and and you know, you can
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00:43:01.400 --> 00:43:06.119
show a picture and it's great, but to listen, you know,
761
00:43:06.239 --> 00:43:09.239
it's it's just the honor of doing this, the capturing.
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And it's happened several several times where the person's died
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and then we can we can get for the family,
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here's the stuff you inevitably didn't know about your mom
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00:43:22.559 --> 00:43:24.800
or dad. So there is a I think I used
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this for before. There's a sanctity to all of this,
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and it's spirituality at all this that is just is
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just it's it's hard to it's hard to.
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Convey Yeah, yeah, you know, you you you missed those opportunities.
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You know, I think for a lot of us, you know,
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after after college, you know, I came back and I
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spent some time well after bad to school. It was
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a little bit after but with my folks, when I
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was working on an entrepreneurial project with one of my brothers.
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And you know, at first, you know, you're like, here,
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00:43:59.519 --> 00:44:02.920
I am back home, you know, my parents. But now
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you're both adults, and you know, interestingly, in some ways
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the time was too short because I realized, well, now
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I can really talk to my dad, you know. And
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I remember, you know, you know, inviting him to lunch
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one day and saying, you know, why why did you
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make that decision? You know, why did you decide to
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drop out of law school? And who was at Harvard
784
00:44:26.199 --> 00:44:28.320
Law School? Why did you? You know, so things that
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you know that that we miss because you know, we're
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such a you know what mobile society. You know, we're
787
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a society of movers, and we just keep moving and moving.
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We don't get that time to connect. And so this
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is an interesting you know, you know, dventure viewers. I
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really appreciate the fact.
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That what's something you found out about your dad that
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you that you had no idea.
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Well, I had no idea his his father was a lawyer,
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very you know, successful lawyer, and and he could have
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been a lawyer. So what I found out, I said,
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why why didn't you want to go to law school?
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What bothered you about the law? Because he's like your dad,
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he turned out to be an engineer. And so he said, well,
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I didn't like the fact that as a lawyer you
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could argue two sides of the issue, one side and
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the next. He said, like, either either one side is
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right or not. You know, that's his engineering mind. So
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he didn't you know, he didn't like that kind of
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what to him was the sense of hypocrisy, you know,
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in the profession. So but that he had never really
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I had never really asked him about that, like why
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you know and that, and I it made a lot
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of sense knowing my dad's had a real sense of
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deep ethical sense of fairness in life, you know. So
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if it weren't for that lunch, though, I don't think
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I really would have been able.
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To Yeah, yeah, after that. Well the other thing too,
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is like you're in your not that it's this is
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a bad thing. It's it's just reality. I think you
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in your teens and twenties, you're kind of in your
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00:46:00.920 --> 00:46:03.039
own head. You know, you're just you're trying to figure
817
00:46:03.039 --> 00:46:05.360
out your own stuff, so you don't you don't think
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about the reflectiveness that you think about when you you know,
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for me in kind of mid sixties, I do it.
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It's kind of an eye This is was not planned
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at all, but it's it's it's so relevant. Is that
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we have the van. I drive around in this whole
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vintage voice, hundred year old van. I drive around. It's
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all wrapped and there's a great picture of my there's
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of my dad in World War Two, and it's like
826
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right where the gas cap is. It's like every time
827
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I get gas, I'm like having a little silent Hey,
828
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what's going on Dad. It's like whole little connection that
829
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we have. But that, yeah, it's I mean, it is.
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I think you know, a takeaway from this for people
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is that you know it's a cliche, but just you know,
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go it's so easy with goport. There's so many ways
833
00:46:49.239 --> 00:46:52.320
to film things that there's just no excuse not to
834
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do it. And you just you know, while your parents
835
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are or even your kids, you know, you know, just
836
00:46:58.039 --> 00:47:01.559
just take time to slow down and capture stuff and
837
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you never regret it.
838
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Yeah, so we're just take one more quick break. I
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still want to get into quite a bit of that
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stuff with you, but we'll get in as much as
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we can. So, folks, we're going to take one more
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quick break. But don't go away because we have a
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lot more to talk about in our last segment with
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jack Yorke, the founder of Tailgate. So don't go anywhere.
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And welcome back, folks to forty five forward when we're
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talking today with jack Yorke, we've been covering a lot
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of territory about how he is gathered and disseminated the
860
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stories of America's seniors, terrific stories. A very interesting and
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we're going to now just talk about you know, his
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Vinca's Voices project talks about the lives of centenarians one
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hundred year olds, and he had some interesting observations about
864
00:48:54.320 --> 00:48:56.920
you know, because everyone says like, oh, well, what are
865
00:48:56.920 --> 00:49:01.239
the secrets to living so long? And interesting observations that
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have nothing to do with food and diet.
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00:49:03.400 --> 00:49:07.559
Yeah, yeah, yeah, well the uh, you know one thing too,
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I think this is this is like a good for
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your listeners, a a good trivia bar statistic is that
870
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there there's more people, you know, more centenarians, more people
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over one hundred now than in the history of the
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00:49:23.920 --> 00:49:27.719
world combined. So that, I mean, that is that isn't crazy.
873
00:49:27.880 --> 00:49:30.719
So it's definitely you know, and it's just with all
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00:49:30.760 --> 00:49:33.320
the medical advances obviously, it's it's not as much of
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00:49:33.360 --> 00:49:36.159
a novel it as before it you know, we talked
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00:49:36.199 --> 00:49:39.719
a little bit about this before that it's and there's
877
00:49:39.760 --> 00:49:41.840
you know, there's really, you know, you look at something,
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00:49:42.000 --> 00:49:43.679
you know, like the blue zone, there's all that. You know.
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00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:45.800
I don't want to pretend to be a researcher. All
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00:49:45.840 --> 00:49:48.239
I'm talking about is just the anecdotal stuff I've seen.
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00:49:48.960 --> 00:49:54.400
But there has been no consistency at all when it
882
00:49:54.559 --> 00:49:59.719
comes to diet, when it comes to you know, do
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00:49:59.760 --> 00:50:02.760
you ankoring? And there's there's people that have not had
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a drink ever. There's somebody else that, you know, at
885
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nine in the morning has a glass of bourbon every day.
886
00:50:08.960 --> 00:50:12.079
Like there's no consisten is that? But the things that
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have been consistent are I mean, faith has been like
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00:50:17.840 --> 00:50:21.559
ninety five percent consistent, that people having a very strong
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00:50:21.599 --> 00:50:26.000
connection with God, with you know, whatever their God is.
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A few people have been you know, just kind of
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vehemently not but that's still about ninety five percent. What's
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00:50:31.800 --> 00:50:34.400
been one hundred percent consistent, and it was It's interesting.
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00:50:35.159 --> 00:50:37.599
It's almost a couple of things. One of is it's
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almost a feistiness of people. You know, obviously, anybody over
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one hundred, most of them are gonna have some kind
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of physical issues and so there are some things they
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00:50:49.280 --> 00:50:53.599
need help with, but they they begrudgingly take that help
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they do. And it's interesting because I think a lot
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of mindset, you know, for good reason, and whether it's
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is an individual or a living community, is you try
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to take every you try to do everything for people.
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00:51:06.920 --> 00:51:09.679
And I think that I walk away from this thinking
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that's probably not the right answer, because people still, you know,
904
00:51:13.360 --> 00:51:16.039
they they still want to try to use you know,
905
00:51:16.159 --> 00:51:18.239
use their utensils. They still want to try to walk
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00:51:18.280 --> 00:51:20.599
as much as they can. So that was one thing.
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00:51:20.679 --> 00:51:24.159
Another thing is just a you know, very few people
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that I've interviewed over one hundred are sitting around watching television.
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00:51:27.320 --> 00:51:31.599
There there is a a thirst of there's a curiosity
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00:51:31.679 --> 00:51:35.280
that stays there. People asking me about the cameras and
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00:51:35.360 --> 00:51:36.840
you know, what are we doing with all this stuff?
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00:51:36.880 --> 00:51:40.559
And it really is you know, that has been very interesting.
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And the last thing, and this has been a great
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thing for me to to look at in my in
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my mid sixties, is just movement. Just very intentional people
916
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trying to move realize, you know, not heavy exercise, not
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some people do heavy exercise, but a lot of but
918
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people just intentionally trying to walk as much as they
919
00:52:00.159 --> 00:52:04.480
can and uh and and have consistent movement. But those
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00:52:04.559 --> 00:52:07.679
those three things have been pretty consistent, but it it
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you know, the personalities, the we you know have Oh,
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I'll just say a couple of things like you you
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kind of you kind of have this this this sense
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of puritanism that you know is not really relevant. But
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00:52:21.840 --> 00:52:24.599
there was one guy that was ninety it was one
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hundred and two and he was talking about his wife
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died when he was seventy five and uh and so
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00:52:31.559 --> 00:52:33.119
it was like, that must have been hard. How did
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you excuse me eighty five? He wiped time he was
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eighty five. I was like, well, how did you it
931
00:52:36.920 --> 00:52:38.480
must have been you know, how did you deal with that?
932
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What was your you know, what what was it like?
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And he was like, well, luckily, six months later I
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met a short redhead and she was a sexual dynamo.
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And so this is like a guy in eighty five.
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So I think that the I think the reason the
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channel is popular this is this. I have no research
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on this. It's just kind of intuitive that Dad Media
939
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and our friend Nathan Jones, who does all the analytics,
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most of the people that watch it, and it's been
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millions and millions of views this stuff has had are
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people like between forty five and sixty five, and I
943
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think it's I think it's showing their eighty year old
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parents that are feeling like they should check out that.
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00:53:21.280 --> 00:53:24.159
You know, Mom, look at this lady that's twenty years
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old older than you are, and it's just kicking butt.
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And I think, you know, for your audience, run that
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is so relevant. I think that how how it's it's relevant,
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how irrelevant the number of an age is because you'll
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just see people that are super frail at sixty something
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and somebody just going crazy at a at one hundred
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and five, and so it really it's just it's it's
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a joy to keep, you know, keep finding these people
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and to and to just see you know, what they're
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going to say. And like I said before, it's not
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the stories don't have to be about dramatic things they've done.
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There's there's there's a there's a beauty to the the
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more simplistic people that have just lived good lives and
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are proud of those good lives.
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Yeah, you've talked to me about you know, there's just
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a quiet dignity about a lot of these people that
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you and a lot of them. But as you mentioned,
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you know, going back to World War two, especially these
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veterans that you can sense that in them, but in general,
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I think a lot of people there is that. You know,
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you you get more comfortable with yourself as you get older.
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Yeah you are.
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Yeah. And I and I just again a little lot
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of talk, but I just I want to not regret
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that and bring this up. There really is an intense,
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an intensity of loneliness throughout the communities, and I really
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do the one thing I'm really really trying to preach
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as I speak and as I talk to a lot
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of people that run livy communities is to tie in
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with local high schools. Because like the one quick story
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that speaks to that is a gentleman, a gentleman that
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was you know, he's one hundred and one. It's kind
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of frail in his walker going up to the van.
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He gets into the van, we started talking. The guy
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had a silver Star from World War Two for jumping
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out of a plane that was flying about one hundred
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feet over the water to rescue two British pilots that
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had crashed. And like you hear that story and the
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guy instantly is not this frail guy in a walker.
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He's the guy that jumped out of a freaking plane
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to do that. And so I went to his house
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later that day. He had all of the stuff there
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to show me. He was so thirsty to tell it
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and show it. He'd lived at the community for ten years.
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I drive out of the parking lot at the end
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of the afternoon. It's right across the street from a
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high school. How any classes have graduated talking about World
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War two, talking about the creat war, created war, talking
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about Vietnam and right across the street are these people
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that are so thirsty to tell their experiences? And so
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I just think that I think it's easy to get
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caught up in the enormity of big picture issues. It's
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not difficult to forge a partnership between a senior living
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community in a high school to just have their history
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classes start integrating residents, to tell that that's things that
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people can just do.
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Yeah, And I think that's you know, there's much more engagement,
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much more sense of meaning. Yeah, nothing wrong with going
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to having you know, elementary or kids go and visit
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00:56:44.239 --> 00:56:47.440
a senior community or senior center and share, you know,
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00:56:47.480 --> 00:56:50.840
with the seniors. But the sharing of those experiences, I
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think that's what's It's not just you know, being there
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and leaving them.
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Yeah. Yeah, and it's a whole other topic. But I
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think that the the importance of a relationship rather than
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00:57:02.599 --> 00:57:04.880
kind of a one and done experience.
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So before we go, I want to make sure that
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we tell people how to get in touch with you
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00:57:10.639 --> 00:57:13.679
into you know, how how to watch the videos and
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00:57:13.800 --> 00:57:17.280
all the contact information. But before that, I just want
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00:57:17.320 --> 00:57:18.400
to know what's next for you.
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Now.
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You you so you mentioned that you're you're going around
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and you're you're still doing your lecturing, you want to
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do other things.
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Yeah, well we're gonna I mean, it really is. I
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mean my life is insane schedule wise. So we're going
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to wrap up the Vintage Voices tour at the end
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of the year, and then next year I'm really going
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to be focused. So we're going to still be showing
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some of the content, but next year I'm really going
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to be focusing on doing the these kind of deeper
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dive documentaries that are all about aging, and they're all
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you know, I'm not trying to make political states. It's
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all about elevating agent. It's all about stories of people
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00:57:56.719 --> 00:57:59.199
that either live in senior living, people that work in
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senior living, but really elevating all these stories that need
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to be told in a really professional, well done way,
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and we've done dozens of them so far. You can
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see them at our our website as www dot Tailgate
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for Joy dot com, t A L E g A
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T E for Joy dot Com. And then I really
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enjoy speaking, you know, all over the country to you know,
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a lot of what I'm speaking is to senior living organizations,
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00:58:30.920 --> 00:58:33.199
but I'm trying to kind of branch out of that.
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I'll still keep doing that, but I really want to
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kind of get out to the the community at large
1043
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about these lessons I've learned, and you know, in my
1044
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own you know, however, I can do it myself, and
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00:58:47.320 --> 00:58:50.840
through the work we've done just really just kind of
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help change the stigma of aging and for both for
1047
00:58:54.440 --> 00:58:58.840
the older adults themselves, but also for the people that
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00:58:59.079 --> 00:59:03.440
have all these fears and stereotypes and all this stuff
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00:59:03.440 --> 00:59:07.679
that I don't think has changed through Anti Aging Week
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or all these things that are well intentioned. I think
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it's you know, you watch the story of somebody that's
1052
00:59:14.000 --> 00:59:17.719
really made an impact, and it makes you not so
1053
00:59:17.960 --> 00:59:20.280
fearful I think of growing old, and I think the
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work you're doing Ron speaks exactly to that as well.
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So Jack, and people want to get in touch with you,
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can I give me your email?
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00:59:29.599 --> 00:59:32.880
Oh yeah, email you know, you know, we love to
1058
00:59:32.880 --> 00:59:36.480
be getting folks following the Vintage Voices too, or that's
1059
00:59:36.519 --> 00:59:43.039
just Vintage Voices one hundred on Instagram or YouTube or Facebook,
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TikTok whatever, and then yeah, email me and I you know,
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if you've got I'm I'm working my way throughout the
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whole from kind of the Carolinas up through the Northeast,
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through the Upper Midwest and up in California. If somebody
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that hears this has a great hundred year old I
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can't guarantee it, but reach out to me. And if
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there's a way to swing my van around and grab
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the story, I'll do it.
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01:00:10.199 --> 01:00:13.320
Mm hmm okay. And you know you're on LinkedIn and
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01:00:13.360 --> 01:00:16.599
Facebook and people you've got lots of interesting posts there
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01:00:17.440 --> 01:00:20.599
and then they can watch your reels, which I've done,
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01:00:20.800 --> 01:00:22.480
you know, So that's a great way to get a
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01:00:22.519 --> 01:00:24.920
taste for all of the stuff you've done. So I
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01:00:25.000 --> 01:00:27.679
encourage people to go on that because they are joyful.
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01:00:28.239 --> 01:00:32.000
You do come away with a sense of gratitude and joy.
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01:00:32.239 --> 01:00:35.880
So so Thanks very much, Jack, it was a great
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01:00:36.480 --> 01:00:40.280
hour to talk with you. I really appreciate the terrific conversation,
1077
01:00:41.039 --> 01:00:48.440
provoking thoughts to myself about my aging and my overall mantra,
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01:00:48.480 --> 01:00:51.800
which is to help people age successfully whatever that means,
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but basically to do it with a not ignoring the
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01:00:55.840 --> 01:01:00.480
challenges we have, but also appreciating the lifelong growth, you know,
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01:01:00.679 --> 01:01:01.400
the life loop.
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01:01:01.639 --> 01:01:05.480
So yeah, that's right, all right, thanks Royan. Great work
1083
01:01:05.519 --> 01:01:07.159
you're doing as well, and it's I'm honored to be
1084
01:01:07.440 --> 01:01:08.159
to be on your show.
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01:01:08.280 --> 01:01:08.719
All right.
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So, folks, if you have questions for me, you want
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to get in touch with me, I'm Rondot Rowell at
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01:01:12.920 --> 01:01:17.559
gmail dot com. Send me your comments for questions. Uh So,
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until our next episode, keep moving forward forty five forward