Beyond Mindset Limits - Tisha Marie Cain JD, CHt October 21, 2026 - When Passion, Loyalty, and Integrity Collide

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Welcome to Beyond Mindset Limits with Tisha Marie Cain. Here,
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we explore how unlocking your mindset can pave the way
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for unlimited success. Discover how to create opportunities through legal
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challenges and transform your business and life with effective public
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relations strategies. Get ready to elevate your journey and maximize
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your potential. Now, let's welcome your host, Tisha Marie Cain.
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Hi, you guys, and welcome back to Beyond Mindset Limits.
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I am your host, Tisha Marie Kane. I'm an executive counsel.
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I'm an expert mediator and communicator, even though I can't
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communicate today. I'm a breakthrough mindset coach. I'm a clinical hypnotherapist.
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I am a number one best-selling international author and artist.
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And I'm recognized for my work with Fortune 500 Executives,
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with visionary leaders and high-performing entrepreneurs, and I guide them
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to unlock their influence, align with purpose, and create lasting impact.
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I have a unique blend of legal expertise, leadership strategy,
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and transformational coaching, and I help individuals and organizations alike
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rewire the subconscious mind, release emotional weight, and elevate their
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relationship with money, power, and self-worth. And if you're here today,
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welcome to the show. I have got a good one
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for you. And I hope that today on this segment,
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you'll be able to feel my passion because my passion
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is going to be oozing through this radio. So I
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hope you can feel it. Let's dive in. I want
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to start with a question for you though. Who decides
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what you deserve to know? So I'm going to give
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you a little pre pre-lum here as to why I
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have that question for today's radio show. So imagine investing
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your hard earned money into something that you absolutely love.
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Not just a little money. I'm talking about a significant
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investment of your financial financial resources, your time, your attention,
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your loyalty, and your passion.
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Okay.
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So imagine investing in A significant amount of your financial
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resources into your passion. You show up. You participate. You
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support the organization. You wear the colors. You become part
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of the community. And then something happens right in front
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of you. Something significant. But you aren't given enough information
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to understand exactly what took place. And the event continues forever.
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And everyone moves forward and you're left asking one question.
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Who gets to decide what I deserve to know? Welcome
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to Beyond Mindset Limits. I'm Tisha Marie Kane. I can
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be found at www.tishamariekane.com. And I hope this segment today
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excites you because we're going deep today. And we're going
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beneath the surface of a subject that I am deeply
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passionate about. Integrity, authenticity, congruency, transparency, all of that. And
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what matters when our loyalty comes face-to-face with an experience
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that challenges our trust. So our show today is called
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Full Disclosure. When passion, loyalty... and integrity collide. Now, before
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you're assuming that we're having a conversation about football, let
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me tell you something. Football is simply where the lesson
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presented itself to me. This is a conversation about business.
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It's a conversation today about relationships and leaderships and organizations.
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It's a conversation about what we expect from others. And
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even more importantly, what we expect from ourselves. Because I
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believe how we do one thing is how we do everything.
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And this is what I teach week after week as
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a mindset coach. I can drill down to see the
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patterns of human behavior. How we do one thing is
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how we do everything. And if you want to understand
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someone's integrity, pay attention to what happens when things become inconvenient.
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Anybody can claim integrity when everything is going according to plan.
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The real test comes when something goes wrong. And I
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want you to think about the people and the organizations
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that you trust. Think about it for a second. I
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want you to think about your employer or let's say
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your business partner, your spouse, your coach, your spiritual leader maybe,
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or the government, your favorite sports organization. Why do you
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trust them? Is it because they have demonstrated integrity or
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is it because you've been so emotionally invested that you've
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stopped asking questions? And that is where we're going today.
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And I hope you'll walk away with something more valuable
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than agreement with me. I hope you walk away today
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asking better questions because knowledge is free and integration is
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where transformation begins. And I did a deep dive study
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into all the programmers and our listeners today on to
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KMET and smart radio and looking at the common denominator
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of all of our programmers, right? And what I saw
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was authority. I saw these programmers on this radio station
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step up. They have expertise. They have experience. They have wisdom.
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But what I'm talking about today and what sets me
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apart is integration, right? and integration, and I help you
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metabolize what's going on because knowledge is free, but are
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you integrating what we're talking about? So let's dive in.
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Over the weekend... My husband and I attended a Raiders
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game at the Allegiant Stadium here in Las Vegas. I'm
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reporting live today from Las Vegas, Nevada, and Las Vegas
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is not dead. There's more people spending money here now
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than ever. I don't know why, but we're going to
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dive deep into that in a couple other radio shows
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here in a few weeks. Now, if you know me,
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you know I love the Raiders, right? I'm a season
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ticket member. I've invested substantially in the experience because it
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matters to me. And I'm telling you something, there's nothing
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quite like walking into a stadium surrounded by thousands of
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people who share your passion. And you know, us Raiders,
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we've been losing for years and we just keep showing
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up in silver and black. And it's a family, right?
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And you walk into that stadium with thousands of people.
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You share their passion. You share their music, their excitement,
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their anticipation. It doesn't matter if you like the Raiders
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or you have, or the Bills are your favorite team
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or the 49ers. I don't care. Most of the time
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when I walk into the stadium, even though I love
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me some Raiders, I just put my intention. I hope
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both teams get out there and have fun and nobody
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gets hurt, right? That's my intention when I walk into
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this stadium. I'm passionate about football. There's an energy inside
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that building that's difficult to explain until you really experience it.
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People from all different kinds of backgrounds are there, different professionals,
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different walks of life. They all come together because of
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one common interest, football. And so we cheer together, we
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celebrate together, we become emotionally invested in what happens on
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the field. And that's beautiful, right? There's times we're hanging
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our head together. There were many times this last Sunday,
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my head was in my hands. I was like, oh
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my gosh, you know, and just having so much fun.
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Passion has an extraordinary ability to bring people together, but
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passion doesn't. also creates expectations. And I did a deep
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dive into this this weekend. I was like, oh, I
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got to talk about this on our radio show on Wednesday.
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During the game, there was an incident involving an opposing player.
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So I don't know if you saw the Raiders and
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the Bills. And this is beyond mindset limits. And we're
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going beyond the mind. But I just have to set
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the scene for you and give you a foundation. So
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just just stay with me here, OK? So there was
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an incident involving an opposing player and the player was
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ejected following an unsportsman. And if you could see me
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right now, I'm doing the air quotes, right? The unsportsmanlike
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conduct ruling. Okay, from my seat, because I'm a season
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ticket member, from my experience sitting inside that stadium, I
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was not given a meaningful explanation as to why and
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what happened. The game continued. All I knew was unsportsmanlike conduct,
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first down. And I was like, okay, whatever. Let's just
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get the game going, right? That was my perspective from
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my seat on Sunday. Well, the game continued. And later,
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after returning home, I watched the coverage, you know, because
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I don't think there's anybody harder on the Raiders than
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the Raiders fans themselves, right? You could talk mad. mess
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about the Raiders, but I think the Raiders fans themselves,
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like me, you know, we actually own up. I mean,
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we're in rebuild. Let's be real. We're in rebuild and
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have been for some time, right? But there's no one
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like the Raiders fan who really drilled down and they're
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harder on their team than anybody else. And I've witnessed this.
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Time and time again, I go to podcasts, I go
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to radio shows and I'm like, wow, wow.
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Okay.
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You guys are so hard on the team, you know?
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So I, I, I saw that right. And after returning home,
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I watched coverage explaining that the ejection involved a player
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spitting towards one of our team member members. Now, I
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want to be very precise. I'm not suggesting there was
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an intentional effort to hide information. I'm not suggesting that
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at all. There may have been some operational or production
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timing or other considerations that I simply didn't know. I'm
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really grounded. I mean, I wrote a book called The
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Wisdom of the Trees and I'm a tree hugger and
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I love the trees and I'm a if you know
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anything about astrology, I'm a triple Virgo, my sun, my moon,
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and my rising are in Virgo and I'm system oriented
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and I'm really grounded. And I'm, I can look at
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things from perceptual positions is what they call it in NLP, right?
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So I don't know what was happening all on the
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other side. I just know that when I got home,
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I know what I was feeling, right? And so I
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don't know if there was an operational production or timing
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or anything, but it didn't erase my experience and how
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I felt. As a spectator, I felt uninformed about a
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significant event that happened during a game that I was attending.
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And I tell you, that bothered me. And it's funny
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because my husband and my son, who's 11, you know,
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they're passionate about the game of football too. They watch
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me get inflammatory and I dramatize this up. And I
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went on for the next two hours on how that
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bothered me. And then I had to sit there and
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ask why, right? Why am I so bothered that I
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had to get home and watch the clips as to
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what happened to the game to understand what really happened
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at the game when I significantly, and don't get me
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on my bandwagon right now, because I tell you, I
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could feel, I don't know if you guys can feel
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it through the radio, but I can feel the heat
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rising in my body right now because I'm so passionate
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about this. that I was like, why is it when
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I invested significant amount, hundreds of thousands of dollars to
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be a season ticket member for my PSL license for
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30 years, plus not to mention we bought three sodas
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and three popcorns at $ 237, okay? Of course, yeah, we
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had to have the little souvenir buckets and all that stuff, right?
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Like we're not gonna go to the game and go
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on a budget. That doesn't make sense to me. But
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I invested significant amount amount of money. And I felt
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uninformed about what happened at the game that I was attending,
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that I was sitting right freaking there in the audience, right?
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And I had to ask myself why. And the answer
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came because transparency is one of my core values. I
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don't want to carefully curated version of reality for me, right?
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I don't want that. I want to understand what happened.
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I want to understand the facts. I want to be
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able to draw my own conclusions. I mean, I was there.
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Of course, I was up in the nosebleeds, but that's
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all I could afford on my season tickets. And I'm
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not shaking my nose at that because I'm very grateful
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and blessed that we were able to invest in these
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season tickets. But I couldn't see down on the field.
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I didn't have a clue as to what happened. All
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I heard was unsportsmanlike conduct, first down. So when I
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got home and I saw these clips, and transparency is
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one of my core values, I wanted to understand. Of course,
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I called Tommy Lou and Lily and Chris and Bruce.
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And I'm like, you guys were all at the game, right?
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They said, yeah. I said, did you know that that
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player got ejected? And they said, no, we didn't know
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until we saw the clips. few hours later. And I'm like,
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that's a problem. That is a problem. Sometimes our strongest
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emotional responses reveal our deepest values. And that's what I
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talk about on Beyond Mindset Limits. For me, this was
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about more than football. It was about trust. It was
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about communication. It was about congruency. It's about feeling that
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an organization receiving my loyalty and my investment is should
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make reasonable efforts to communicate openly with all of its supporters. Now,
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here's where I want to challenge myself too, right? So
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I'm always doing this flip-flopping, flip-flopping, right? Because even though
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you can hear my passion coming through these radio waves
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on how passionate I am about transparency and congruency, I
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always have to look and do a self audit. Okay,
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Tisha Marie Kane, are you being drama right now? Are
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you out of alignment? Are you out of congruency? And
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so I have to flip back and like, take a moment.
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So here's where I challenged myself. The amount of money
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I invest does not entitle me to every piece of information,
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regardless of the context. And I know that, right? So
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I'm like, okay, Is it the amount of money that
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I invested? Does that entitle? Do I feel entitled, right?
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Because I wanted to check myself. And it's so funny
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because I had a little sidebar. I had a conversation
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with a coaching client this weekend. And she goes like this, Tisha,
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how do I know if I have narcissistic personality disorder
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or not? I said... just the mere fact that you're
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asking that question to me just tells me that you don't.
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Because narcissistic personality disorder, people with those disorders don't ask
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that question. So you're good. And she goes, okay, good, right?
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So when I flip-flopped, Am I being too dramatic about this, right?
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Is the amount of money I invest, does that entitle me?
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Am I acting from an entitled butthole position, you know? Like,
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am I being a brat about this? My parents would
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totally be a brat. And I said, no, right? But
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I can still have a high expectation for clarity when
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something directly affects the experience I've paid for and the
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experience that I participated in. And I understand that those
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two ideas can coexist. And that's what emotional maturity looks
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like today. I can love the Raiders and ask questions.
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I can support the organization and express disappointment. I can
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be passionate without becoming blindly loyal. And I can remain
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a fan without surrendering my standards. Now, let me ask
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you something. Where in your own life have you confused
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loyalty with silence? Have you ever stayed quiet because you
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didn't want to upset the person or the organization or
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a boss you were supporting? Have you ever ignored something
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because you had invested too much into it to ask
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good questions? I have, you know, I'm guilty. I'm raising
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my hand over here. Have you ever said, I've already
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put so much into this. I can't walk away now.
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I'm guilty.
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I'm guilty.
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And I'm just asking the good quality questions. That's probably
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going to be my 10th book out. Ask yourself the
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good quality questions. I've been talking about this for a
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few years. So that book's going to come out. There
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is a psychological concept that I remember. It's called, let
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me remember, sunk cost fallacy. I don't know if you
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guys have ever heard about that, research it. Sunk cost fallacy.
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It describes how people sometimes continue investing in something because
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they've already spent so much time and money and effort
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on it, even when reconsidering what's for the betterment of
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them and their family and their organization. Think about that.
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The business that you keep funding, the relationship that you
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keep defending, the program that you keep paying for, or
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the organization you keep protecting? Are you making the decision
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based on what is happening now, or are you protecting
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what you've already invested, right? So loyalty should be an
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expression of your values, not a replacement of your judgment.
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What are you so passionate about that you've stopped evaluating
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it objectively? And that's the question, right? So I had
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to look at My passion, what was underneath that, right?
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I had to be an excavator. And I'm constantly, because
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typically what you believe is the presenting problem, the more
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I ask for what purpose, and that's what I did.
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For what purpose am I angry? Well, I don't feel
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like they were giving me full disclosure, okay? For what
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purpose do I need full disclosure, Well, I need to
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feel like they're being truthful for me. For what purpose
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do I need to feel like they're being truthful? Oh, safety.
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For what purpose do I need to feel safe, right?
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So as a mindset coach, what is the presenting thing
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on top is typically not the issue, right? So I
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had to do this little self-audit with me and why
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I was so angry. Why is it that I invested
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hundreds of thousands of dollars and I sat inside the
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stadium and I wasn't given full disclosure. I had to
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find out by watching clips at home three hours later.
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That was nonsense. And then I got to the root cause. Okay, cool.
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I got to the root cause of this. It's integrity
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and authenticity and congruency. Integrity is I do what I say,
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including when nobody is watching. Congruency is my behavior must
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match the values that I publicly claim. Authenticity is I
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communicate honestly rather than managing appearances. Transparency is I share
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relative information clearly within legitimate boundaries. And so I felt
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like I was being disrespected, right? I am a loyal
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football fan and I wasn't given disclosure and I own
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those seats and I had to wait to go home
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and watch it on the TV to get full disclosure.
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I thought that was bunk, right? So I hope you
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feel my passion here. I was so mad, right? But
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then I had to, okay, take a moment, pause. take
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a deep breath. Let's understand where your passion is coming
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through on this. And what are you making this mean?
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Are you making it mean, you know, the NFL sucks,
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the Raiders sucks, the Bulls suck. Are you making that
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mean that? Or what is it underneath? And I was
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able to excavate it and go underneath and realize what
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the true cause of my passion was. It was, it
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was being in integrity, being in authenticity and having transparency.
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I felt like I was owed, not entitled, but owed
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transparency sitting in those seats. Why is it that I
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don't get to know? And I invested all that time.
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And money, right?
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So it was really funny to watch my family watch
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me sit up on a bandwagon. And you know, it's
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so funny. My husband's so great. He goes, you know what, babe,
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you're so amazing. And I said, you can't say that
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in the face of me being angry right now. I
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just want to be angry. And he goes, well, you're
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so cute. He goes, because I could feel your passion
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and I understand you from a personal perspective where you're
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coming from. So that's what I want to say about that.
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I was really passionate about it. But if we look underneath,
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on why we're angry or why we're sad. It really
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isn't the presenting thing. It's really something underneath that really
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hits the core of who we are. And when I'm
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not given full disclosure, it triggers something inside of me.
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And they say, when you're triggered, there's something inside of
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you that needs to be looked at, right? I love
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it when I'm triggered. I'm like, ooh. girl, why am
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I triggered? There's something there that I get to look
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at because personal development isn't for the faint of heart, right?
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Those who do this type of work, it's hard work.
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And that's why they hire coaches like me to bring
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them through the process. So let's stop right there. We're
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going to pause for a few moments from our sponsors.
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And then when we come back, we're going to tie
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a big red bow on full disclosure. loyalty and transparency,
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all the things that I love, my core values. Thanks guys.
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Hold on right there.
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Titia Marie Kane. I love being here every week. This
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is my jam. You know, it's like, I think about
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like all the breadcrumbs that I've had throughout my life
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and how I got to where I am today. And
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I'm just so proud of myself. You know, I'm like,
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I remember when I had a court career, I had,
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I was in the family court I had gone 283
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times in the fight for my children through family court
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where they ran a schmear campaign and they tried to
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take away my voice and all the things which that
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was 10 years ago. And I look at now and
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I have my own radio show, Beyond Mindset Limits, where
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we think and go beyond the limits of the mind, right?
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If I could go back and give my 40-year-old self
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some nuggets, I'd just say, hang on, Tisha Marie Cain,
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you're going to go for the ride of your life
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and just keep going, right? So I invite you listeners,
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if you're listening right now, which I know you are,
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I'm increasing my listener reach, which is so good. And
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we're going to be pivoting and doing some on location
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in Las Vegas. So stay tuned for that. But I
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just invite you to, you know, if you can go
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back and tell yourself 10 years ago, you know, three
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little nuggets, what would you tell yourself? You know, and
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I thought about that and I asked my family about
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that this week and And for me, being very introspective
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and looking at that, I was like, no, I just
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want to go back and hug her and love her
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and just tell her she's going to be fine and
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it's going to be okay and just keep on going.
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Have no worries. You're here for the life experience. And
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now I'm very.
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Careful with my words, because I want to I'm here
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for the good live experience, although I know we need
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a little bit of texture. Right. I need to get
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angry at the the stadium for not disclosing why the
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player was ejected so I could drill down to be
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able to look at my core values and see what
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matters to me most and show up with integrity and authenticity.
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And that's who I am. That's who I am at
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my core. And I think in this day and age,
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and I'm going off on a little tangent here, And
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that's fine because this is my radio show, Beyond Mindset.
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I'm sitting here and I have a party with myself
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all the time. But going off on a little tangent,
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you know, we're moving into some times. We're moving into
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some times here in 2026 of uncharted waters. Things that
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we as humanity have never been before. And I don't
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know about you, but I am excited. I am more
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excited than ever before. And let me also, I would
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be remiss if I didn't mention that I know people
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are suffering. I know suffering is out there and continuing
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to happen. But I also know as a mindset coach
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where I coach executives, I coach people at the highest
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of the food chain on mindset and looking at things differently.
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that what you focus on grows, right? So if you
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wake up in the morning and you have gratitude from
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the moment you wake up, I'm like, I'm so grateful
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for my hot cup of coffee. I'm so grateful for
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the moments that I get to write with my favorite
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pen in my journal. I'm so grateful. And I look
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for evidence of other things that I'm grateful for. Life
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really gets to be exquisite. And I know that I
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can focus on all the bad things. And I was
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talking to my client today about that too. She invested
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a couple of weeks ago in a hypnotherapy appointment with
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me to go back and work on not good enough.
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She had some stuff, some frenetic energy around feeling not
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good enough in her life. And we went back and
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did a hypnotherapy session to rewire the subconscious brain. And
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I gave her two integration calls after that, because I
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just want to be your accountability buddy to make sure
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that what we unraveled in the hypnotherapy session, you're still
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on the up and up. And she's already in two
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weeks made leaps and bounds from where she was two
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weeks ago. She says, I'm feeling more alive. I'm feeling lighter.
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I'm feeling like I can do anything. I'm feeling like
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You know, I made meaning around this one situation that's
476
00:32:20.569 --> 00:32:23.869
been holding me back my whole entire life. And I
477
00:32:23.930 --> 00:32:27.809
didn't realize it was because of that situation that I
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00:32:28.150 --> 00:32:30.990
am a leader. She's a general manager at one of
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those home improvement stores. She goes, if it wasn't for,
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I give so much gratitude for that situation, because if
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it wasn't for that situation, I wouldn't, it wouldn't have
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propelled me to do what I'm doing today. And so
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00:32:43.839 --> 00:32:47.859
what she told me was, Tisha, I'll never, forget you.
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And I thought, I almost lost it because I'm so,
485
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I'm an empathic, sensitive soul. And when she said that,
486
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I thought, wow, I'll never forget you. Thank you for
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00:32:57.759 --> 00:33:00.700
saying that to me, right? And so just being her
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00:33:00.759 --> 00:33:03.900
accountability buddy to look at those things, to keep her
489
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driving forward, to unravel the things in her mind of
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what she made meaning of, she's just gonna do well
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from here on out. And I told her, hey, sometimes
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as we get rid of not good enough, sometimes people
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get angry and then we have to go back in
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and look at anger on their timeline and be able
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to rewire their subconscious mind in regards to their relationship
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with anger. So it was a beautiful journey as to
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where she came to me from and where she is
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00:33:36.349 --> 00:33:40.039
now in a short two week session. So if this
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conversation is activating something inside of you, this is the
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work that I do in my Beyond Mindset Limits breakthrough session, right?
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So if you need more information, reach out to me.
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You can do a free discovery call. You know, I'll
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jump on there to see if we're aligned, if the
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00:33:58.089 --> 00:34:01.769
energy's aligned. Sometimes people don't want to fix it and
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I'm okay with that. You know, sometimes people want to
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sit in their sadness for a minute until they're done.
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You know, I had to really say I am completely
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fed up with myself. I am done being sad on
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00:34:17.059 --> 00:34:20.760
my career in the family court, which is all perfect
510
00:34:20.800 --> 00:34:22.980
because that's why I went to law school to figure
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00:34:23.119 --> 00:34:27.760
out these court systems and have my own truth about them, right?
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And it's all perfect in the end. Everything coming towards
513
00:34:33.079 --> 00:34:36.199
you is God's. And everything leaving you is God. And
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once you frame it like that, you're like, okay, good.
515
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And I pray to Gus, God, universe and spirit, right?
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A higher power, whatever, right? When everything coming towards you
517
00:34:48.610 --> 00:34:51.480
is God and everything leaving you is God. And when
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I just, I look at that and I'm like, okay,
519
00:34:54.019 --> 00:34:58.150
that homeless person on the side of the street, She's
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someone's daughter and that's God too. And how could I
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00:35:01.690 --> 00:35:04.380
just wrap a white light around her and send her
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00:35:04.460 --> 00:35:06.659
so much love? My family, they're like, oh my gosh,
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I know mom's really quiet right now in the car.
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I know she's sending everybody light and love. Yes, I am.
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Because I believe in my core values, believe that whatever
526
00:35:17.119 --> 00:35:20.590
you put out, you get back by times 10, right?
527
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And so if I'm putting out love and light times 10,
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I'm getting love and light back. And that's my belief system.
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And when we dive into belief systems, whatever you believe,
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you are right. Right? Let me say that again. Lean
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in for this. Reach over and turn up the radio
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00:35:41.599 --> 00:35:47.460
right now. Whatever you believe, you are right. So in
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the line of work that I do, I help rewire
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your limiting beliefs. So my son said, math is hard.
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And he's doing the Y and the X axis. And
536
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for me, I was like, I love putting points on
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a map or a grid because for me, I just
538
00:36:05.579 --> 00:36:09.119
mapped it across. I'm a traveler, right? I'm a world traveler.
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00:36:09.139 --> 00:36:12.460
I'm like, okay, this point and this point equals Australia
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00:36:12.559 --> 00:36:16.880
to the UK. Yes, I have a cosmic sister in Australia.
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I have a cosmic sister in the UK. And these
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00:36:19.869 --> 00:36:23.070
coordinates are exciting. And so when I looked at my
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00:36:23.090 --> 00:36:25.909
son and he said, oh, math is hard. I'm like, okay,
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you're right, right? But can you believe that math gets
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to be easy if you look at it differently and
546
00:36:31.500 --> 00:36:33.860
just reframe it up? So we spent two hours last
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night doing maps and doing coordinates on the Y and
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X axis for him to understand negative and positive numbers
549
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up and down. And it was fun. We were having
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a great time. I don't know about him. I didn't
551
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ask him, but I was having fun. But whatever you believe,
552
00:36:47.780 --> 00:36:52.530
you're right. So- I want to move this conversation about
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the Raider game and about me not having transparency. I
554
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want to map it across to the courtroom because this
555
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is where my legal background becomes especially relevant in this
556
00:37:02.349 --> 00:37:08.230
conversation today. In the legal world, evidence matters and documents matter,
557
00:37:08.389 --> 00:37:12.150
dates matter. All of that matters, right? I just dive in.
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And disclosure can matter enormously. Depending on the type of
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case or the applicable rules, Parties may have objections to
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exchange particular information or evidence. But one thing I want
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everyone listening to today to understand is that there is
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a difference between what somebody believes happened and what the
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evidence actually establishes. Those are not always the same thing
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in the legal work that I do. People can be
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absolutely convinced of their interpretation and still be missing information
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and the facts. And I had this happen to me.
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This was probably, I don't know, if I go back
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in the databanks of my mind, I'm thinking this was
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probably 12 years ago. And I needed to be, I
570
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was the general manager at a logistics company and I
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needed to be at work at 5 a.m. and I
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left my house at 4 a.m. And when I left
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my house at 4 a.m., I pulled up to the
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red light at this major intersection in central California and
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this major intersection. And I looked in the rear view
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mirror at 4 a.m. And I thought, huh, that car
577
00:38:28.039 --> 00:38:31.800
is actually traveling really fast right now. I'm like, huh,
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00:38:31.820 --> 00:38:33.960
I really, I just kept saying, huh, are they going
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to slow down? Cause I'm at a red light. What
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00:38:35.929 --> 00:38:38.070
are they doing? Are they going to slow down? Well,
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come to find out, luckily I was in the left-hand
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lane and they were on the right and they plowed
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through the intersection and And they hit another car or
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a truck rather. And when they hit the truck, the
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bed of that truck came off of the truck chassis,
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flew up in the air and came back down. And
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it was a big mess. But what I believed happened
588
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was I thought the car behind me ran the red light.
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But in all actuality, it was the car to the
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left of me that ran the red light. My light
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had turned green, but this car was traveling so fast.
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that it wasn't the car behind me. So what I'm
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trying to tell you is it's not always the same thing.
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What you believe happened is not always what's real, right?
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So it establishes different things. They're convinced that what they
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saw happened, but they needed more facts. And when we
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00:39:36.010 --> 00:39:38.730
ran those cameras, it was clear to the person to
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the left of me, yes, the person behind me was
599
00:39:41.849 --> 00:39:43.710
going way too fast, but the person to the left
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of me actually ran the red light. So two people
601
00:39:47.860 --> 00:39:51.369
can experience the same event and walk away with two
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00:39:51.650 --> 00:39:56.489
completely different narratives. One says something like, hey, you disrespected me.
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And the other one says, well, I didn't mean to
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disrespect you. I thought it was helping, right? And so
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now we have an interesting problem. One person is talking
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about how they impacted them. And the other person is
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talking about intention and neither conversation by itself gives us
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the whole picture. And that's why communication matters. That's why
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asking questions matter, right? And I do small claims cases
610
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all the time. And the first thing I do out
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of my mouth is, did you ask the other party
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to pay you? If they say no, I say, well,
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hang up the phone with me and go ask the
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other party to pay you, right? It's about being congruent
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00:40:36.000 --> 00:40:39.460
and authentic and transparent. And so they go and ask
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the other party, hey, I've been harmed, can you pay me?
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And if not, that's where the law provides a remedy.
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The law will provide a remedy, but you've got to
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come into this with clean hands. So I want to
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tell you about this particular discovery call that I had.
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I think it was Monday night or Sunday night. Guy
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calls me and he says, hey, my old roommate is
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taking me to small claims court because I didn't pay
624
00:41:08.639 --> 00:41:11.800
the rent. And he's going to take me to small
625
00:41:11.840 --> 00:41:15.320
claims court for like $ 6, 500. I said, okay, did you
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pay the rent? And he goes, no. I said, then
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pay the.
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$ 6, 500.
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To me, I'm laughing because I'm like, that's the right
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thing to do. And he goes, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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He goes, I need to tell you more information. I said, great.
632
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What do you need to tell me? He goes, well,
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he goes, I didn't pay the rent, but the rent
634
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was only $ 500. And so I only owe $ 1, 500, but
635
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now he's wanting me to pay the utilities and all
636
00:41:35.809 --> 00:41:38.630
that stuff. And that's not right. I'm like, oh, okay.
637
00:41:38.670 --> 00:41:41.059
I said, well, Did he ask you to pay him?
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And he said, yes, yes. He asked me to pay him.
639
00:41:44.699 --> 00:41:46.989
And I said, how? And he said in a text message.
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And I said, what did you say? And he goes,
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I don't owe that amount of money. I said, great.
642
00:41:51.449 --> 00:41:54.309
I said, well, he's already kicked off the small claims case.
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So you're going to need to respond. And what do
644
00:41:58.340 --> 00:42:00.059
you how do you want to handle this? And he goes, well,
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I don't know. I'm like, well, you're calling me. How
646
00:42:02.559 --> 00:42:05.559
do you want to handle this case? He goes, well,
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I don't want to pay anything. I said, but you
648
00:42:08.739 --> 00:42:12.289
just told me that you owe the rent. He goes,
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I do. Then pay the rent. He goes, well, oh,
650
00:42:14.969 --> 00:42:17.650
you know, I left him speechless. But the thing is,
651
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communication matters. You can say, hey, buddy, darn it. It
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00:42:22.289 --> 00:42:24.409
looks like you kicked off this small claims case. I
653
00:42:24.449 --> 00:42:26.489
really don't want to be wrapped up in courts because
654
00:42:26.510 --> 00:42:29.269
there's been a big breach of trust and there's been
655
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a collapse of confidence for a long, long time. You
656
00:42:33.530 --> 00:42:37.889
were always my friend. And I believe that... you and
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I can work this out on our own. If you
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would be willing to counsel the small claims action, I'd
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be willing to zell you over the $ 1, 500 right now
660
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and we can call this quits. He goes, oh, I
661
00:42:51.659 --> 00:42:55.880
can do that? I'm like, yes, you can do that.
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Imagine that. Imagine communicating with someone, especially someone that you've harmed.
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What's upsetting is, He was friends with this roommate for
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a long, long time. And, you know, they're probably not
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friends because he didn't pay. So I told him to
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come into it with clean hands. And he says, I
667
00:43:16.949 --> 00:43:20.590
don't understand what that means, right? Because here is the
668
00:43:20.650 --> 00:43:28.219
work that I do, right? Talking about integrity, congruency, authenticity, transparency, loyalty.
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They say. They say, and you can define they however
670
00:43:34.570 --> 00:43:40.110
your brain wants to define they. But they say, ignorance
671
00:43:40.349 --> 00:43:44.070
of the law is no excuse, right? Don't they say that?
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00:43:44.670 --> 00:43:49.309
Ignorance of the law is no excuse? But in your
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12 years of public school, have you ever had a
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00:43:51.849 --> 00:43:56.659
law school class? No, you didn't, right? So he had
675
00:43:56.800 --> 00:44:00.150
no clue why. what coming into the case with clean
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00:44:00.250 --> 00:44:03.929
hands meant. And so I had to educate him a
677
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little bit and say, equity, doing things that are fair.
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If you come into this case and you think you're
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gonna counter-sue him for $ 10, 000, because he's just being a horrible,
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00:44:17.280 --> 00:44:21.820
no good, dirty person, you're not gonna prevail. You're most
681
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likely not going to prevail because if you come into
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it with dirty hands, the law provides a remedy and
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that remedy will not prevail. So anyway, long story short,
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I talked to myself out of a job and I
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00:44:36.869 --> 00:44:40.010
typically do that because I am a, I work for
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the light, right? I work for the light and I
687
00:44:43.079 --> 00:44:47.929
typically train people how to communicate and what to do.
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He didn't know that he can make a private contract. Yes,
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00:44:50.730 --> 00:44:52.909
we have an unlimited right to contract. It's in the
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United States constitution. If you guys have ever read it,
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nobody reads. And this is the same thing that I
692
00:44:59.469 --> 00:45:02.570
was telling my 11 year old son just last night.
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I said, do you understand? He had to, there was
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some consequences and he had to write sentences. That's what
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we do in our family. And so he was writing
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sentences and he was reading and doing some things. And
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I said, Can I just give you a life hack?
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And he goes, yeah. He was like, he gave me
699
00:45:21.369 --> 00:45:23.949
a thumbs up. He goes, yeah, mom, what's your life hack?
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I said, you know what? People pay me to read
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the fine print. Do you know people are so busy
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00:45:29.880 --> 00:45:35.260
right now trying to survive that they don't have time
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to read the fine print? Do you know people pay
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00:45:38.469 --> 00:45:40.909
me to read? And I get paid a lot of
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money just to read. I said, if you slow down
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and take your time, and he's a very good reader.
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I taught him to read at like three and a
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half Sam I am book, right? If you slow down
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and you read every word on the page, people are
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going to pay you to read. And you can be
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abundantly blessed just by reading the fine print. You know, like,
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let's take this back to Willy Wonka. You know, those people,
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all those people, which drives me bonkers when I watch
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this movie, because all those people, Sign that contract without
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even reading the fine print. I don't sign contracts without
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reading the fine print, you know? Anyway, so what I'm
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saying is this is why having all of the information,
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this is why communication matters. This is why questions matter.
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And this is why you can mediate, right? Mediation creates
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a structured opportunity for people to examine the conflict and
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communicate their interests. and explore potential solutions. So I want
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to get this client who called me the other night,
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I want to get him and his buddy in a
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room and I want him to hug it out. Hey,
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you're out of alignment, you're out of alignment, but you
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harmed your buddy. And so therefore, you know, you have
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to make him whole. And how do we make him whole?
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You know, hey, yeah, I owe $ 1, 500. Why don't I
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just give you 2,000, call it quits, you know, because
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I know you had to open up the case and
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then we can shake hands and go about our way
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or we can go out and have supper together, right?
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I really wish I can get these people in the
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room together to communicate. So I ask you, how many
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conflicts in your life might have unfolded differently if someone
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had simply provided a clear explanation? Think about a marriage
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where a person becomes distant. The other person begins filling
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in the blanks. Maybe they don't love me anymore. Maybe
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they're hiding something, right? I just recently, you know, moved
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from California to Las Vegas, going back and forth to LA,
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Central California back. And I'm trying to put roots down
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in Las Vegas. And, you know, I found some community
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members that I really think are just awesome. And I'm like, okay, man,
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I found this lady in my community that's just so amazing.
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And I want to spend more time with her and
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I want to put roots down. And I reached out
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and said, hey, just wondering if you want to have,
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you know, hot coffee and art night. And she said,
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you know what? I'm going through a process right now.
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And to be completely transparent, I'm in a process and
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I want to keep things pretty quiet and pretty low key.
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So I'm not making any social plans at the moment,
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but I certainly appreciate the invitation. And you know what?
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I looked down at that message and thought, huh, this
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is a person that's well-rounded. This is a person that's
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who can absolutely be my friend. This is a person
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that I knew from the moment that I read her
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energy that she could be in my fear of influence
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because she was in integrity. She was in congruency. She
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was transparent about how she was feeling. You know, she's
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going through something right now. I get it. And I
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didn't have to fill in the blanks and make it
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mean something about me. Like, oh, she don't like me, right?
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Like we did in grade school. I don't care. Hey,
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if you're swimming in my energy, you're winning. And that's
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my whole thing, right? Because I'm like, I'm fun. I'm
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always finding fun. And I reframe life, especially when we
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see a negative situation, right? I just reframe it up,
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communicate it up. So let's move into business. Imagine a
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company announces a major restructuring, right? And employees start asking
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questions and they start saying, hey, are you going to
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eliminate our job? You know, will our responsibilities change? What's
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going to happen next? And leadership answers every question. every question.
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And they answer with enthusiasm and they say, hey, we're
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excited about the future, right? And there's nothing inherently wrong
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with their optimism. But optimism is not a substitute for
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more information. People don't necessarily need every private detail. They
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need communication that they can understand and rely upon, right?
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And I just map this across to, I try to
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stay off I don't consume social media too much. I
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just get on there and post and then get off.
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So I try to stay off social media because I
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want to be social outside of media. I'm here about
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deep rooted connection, like those trees I mentioned before. And
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it kind of reminds me of the people in France
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right now. They're going through it. And those little students,
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they decided to protest because they were done. They were
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upset with not having a math teacher for three to
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four months. And so they were going to protest about that, right?
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And nowhere in the French government did they ever come
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in and say, hey, you know, we hear you. We understand,
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you know, our elections are in April. We're going to
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just cool the jets right now, but we hear you.
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Nothing was ever addressed. And so the children felt like
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no one cared and they're protesting, right? A lot of
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times people just want to be heard. A lot of
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people just want to have their questions answered. And so
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that's where we're at today. And that's the crux of
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my show is I go beyond mindset limits. I go
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beyond the mind and just ask the good quality questions
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that get us to a neutral point where everybody feels good. Right?
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That's what I do. That's what feeds my heart. Feeds
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my heart. I had Joanne from Pasadena. She wrote in
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and she said, hey, Tisha, I've... supported a company for
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five years, but lately its decisions don't match its stated values.
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At what point does loyalty become making excuses for bad behavior? Ooh,
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dang girl. Yeah, that's a good one, right? Loyalty is
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a commitment, not a waiver of personal judgment, right? Evaluate
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the actions and the actual conduct and ask them reasonable
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questions and decide whether you wanna continue to support them
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if it's gonna be consistent with your values. Because I
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tell you somewhere right now, I cannot be in a
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space where someone is not congruent and authentic. I can't
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be in that space, right? So it's looking at what's
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important to you and what matters. So if this conversation
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activated something in you today, if it activated your passion
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for football or sports, or congruency or integrity, I want
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you to reach out to me. Go to my website, www.tishamariecain.com.
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I'd love to be able to support and serve you
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in a larger scale. Thank you for tuning in today.
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What an amazing conversation and how football continues to bring
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us together. So until next week, you guys, this is
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Beyond Mindset Limits. I'll see you next week. Bye guys.
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Thank you for joining Tisha Marie Cain for Beyond Mindset Limits.
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Tune in every Wednesday at 4 p.m. as the conversation
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continues around mindset, legal insight, and publishing as a strategic
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tool for business positioning. Visit TishaMarieCain.com or CainsLegalSupport.com for more
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information or to schedule your private appointment. Thank you.