Trigger Happy: When Someone’s Wounds Run the Relationship

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie examines what happens when past relationship wounds and emotional triggers take over a connection. From anxious-avoidant push-pull dynamics to the addictive cycle of “frustration attraction,” Trigger Happy explores why some relationships feel intense but unstable—and why learning to trust someone’s actions over their words can reveal whether real intimacy is possible. 

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Books mentioned on Attachment Theory
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• Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller — the gold-standard intro to attachment theory and the best place to start. https://amzn.to/4g18h4t
• Relationship OCD by Sheva Rajaee — for the anxious, intrusive doubts that show up even when nothing's wrong. https://amzn.to/4g6xH0K
• The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron — navigating relationships when you feel everything more deeply. https://amzn.to/44unsvT
• I Am by Anya Lincoln — identity work for dismantling the false beliefs you hold about yourself. https://amzn.to/4eHw1IF
• Spiritual Divorce by Debbie Ford — reframing a breakup as something that came to teach you. https://amzn.to/4waOCUC