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Hey, hello, my name is Erica Kramer, the queen of confidence, confidence coach and founder
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of the sisterhood coaching program.
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I want to tell you the five things that you need to do if you want to become more resilient.
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Number one, you need to become aware of the stories that you have in your head and the meaning
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that you put behind it. What does that mean? That means that we all have a story about our lives
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about what's happened to us or for us, like I like to say. And what meaning are we putting behind
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this? Maybe you had a traumatic past. Does that mean that something's wrong with you? You're wounded,
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you're damaged. That's what I used to make it mean. Or does it mean that you are strong? Does it
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mean that you've overcome so much? Does it mean that you are becoming resilient? If you can pay
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attention to what the stories are in your head and what meaning you're putting behind it,
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that is number one, do you becoming more resilient? Okay, number two is commit to working on you,
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commit to growth, creating a growth mindset. If you cannot work on yourself, if you cannot unravel
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your stories, if you don't commit to growth, meaning listening to podcasts, audiobooks,
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listening to things like this, getting a mentor, coaching, something that's going to grow you,
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the growth mindset is everything and becoming resilient, commit to working on yourself,
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commit to looking at the areas that you're not happy with so that you can change them and grow them.
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All right, number three is choose to see that things happen for you, not to you.
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This is a beautiful lesson that I learned from the gorgeous Tony Robbins. What an amazing man.
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You know, when I look back at my life and the terrible things that I've been through and the traumas
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and losing my husband and sexual abuse and everything difficult that was really hard at the time,
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I didn't think at the time they were happening for me, but now looking back after doing all the
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work that I did after unraveling my story and my meanings, I'm able to go back to the past,
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I'm able to take the gift that is inside of that difficulty and building resilience is exactly
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like this. When you see that all of your hard times, all of the things that you've had to overcome,
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all of the hard things that you've been through, think about it in your life, anything difficult
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that you had to move through. If you go back to it, you can get the gems from that experience.
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There is gold to be mined in all of the difficulties and that is number three on how you can build
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more resilience. Things happen for you, not to you. Number four is work on yourself confidence.
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Yes, I'm a confidence coach. This is my gem. I'm going to tell you right now, I lacked so much
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confidence. I did not have a belief in myself. I did not have any self confidence or self worth.
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And so when you work on your confidence, you understand that you have the ability to overcome
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difficulty, that you have the ability to deal with hard things. When you grow your confidence,
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you grow your belief in self and your ability to become resilient. Confidence is key to this,
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my friend. Okay, number five, the last one. Get around community of resilient mentors, leaders,
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coaches, mentors, whoever get around resilient people. They have a different way of seeing the world.
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And if you right now have difficulties with your resilience and you're trying to grow and shift
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and change, you need community around you. Who you hang out with is very important. So get around
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these people. They have a different way. When I was starting to work on myself, you know, the people
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that I would look up to didn't look at trouble or problems the way I was looking at them.
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They were excited about it. They were looking forward to overcoming it. Obviously they had done
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a lot of work and understood that bad news and bad things weren't bad. And they were just here
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to challenge and level up and get us to the next level. So be sure to get around community,
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get around people that are doing this work, get around resilient people. That is number five.
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All right, so wrapping up number one, become aware of your stories and the meaning that you
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are putting behind it. Number two, commit to working on yourself. You need to work on you.
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Number three, choose to see that things are happening for you. They're happening for you,
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not to you. Number four, work on yourself in your confidence, your self confidence,
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and number five, get around mentors and people who are already resilient, who you look up to.
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That is it. The five steps to becoming more resilient. Thank you so much.
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Hey, hello, my name is Erica Kramer, the queen of confidence, confidence coach and founder
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of the sisterhood coaching program.
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I want to tell you the five things that you need to do if you want to become more resilient.
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Number one, you need to become aware of the stories that you have in your head and the meaning
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that you put behind it. What does that mean? That means that we all have a story about our lives
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about what's happened to us or for us, like I like to say. And what meaning are we putting behind
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this? Maybe you had a traumatic past. Does that mean that something's wrong with you? You're wounded,
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you're damaged. That's what I used to make it mean. Or does it mean that you are strong? Does it
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mean that you've overcome so much? Does it mean that you are becoming resilient? If you can pay
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attention to what the stories are in your head and what meaning you're putting behind it,
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that is number one, do you becoming more resilient? Okay, number two is commit to working on you,
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commit to growth, creating a growth mindset. If you cannot work on yourself, if you cannot unravel
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your stories, if you don't commit to growth, meaning listening to podcasts, audiobooks,
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listening to things like this, getting a mentor, coaching, something that's going to grow you,
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the growth mindset is everything and becoming resilient, commit to working on yourself,
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commit to looking at the areas that you're not happy with so that you can change them and grow them.
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All right, number three is choose to see that things happen for you, not to you.
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This is a beautiful lesson that I learned from the gorgeous Tony Robbins. What an amazing man.
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You know, when I look back at my life and the terrible things that I've been through and the traumas
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and losing my husband and sexual abuse and everything difficult that was really hard at the time,
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I didn't think at the time they were happening for me, but now looking back after doing all the
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work that I did after unraveling my story and my meanings, I'm able to go back to the past,
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I'm able to take the gift that is inside of that difficulty and building resilience is exactly
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like this. When you see that all of your hard times, all of the things that you've had to overcome,
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all of the hard things that you've been through, think about it in your life, anything difficult
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that you had to move through. If you go back to it, you can get the gems from that experience.
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There is gold to be mined in all of the difficulties and that is number three on how you can build
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more resilience. Things happen for you, not to you. Number four is work on yourself confidence.
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Yes, I'm a confidence coach. This is my gem. I'm going to tell you right now, I lacked so much
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confidence. I did not have a belief in myself. I did not have any self confidence or self worth.
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And so when you work on your confidence, you understand that you have the ability to overcome
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difficulty, that you have the ability to deal with hard things. When you grow your confidence,
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you grow your belief in self and your ability to become resilient. Confidence is key to this,
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my friend. Okay, number five, the last one. Get around community of resilient mentors, leaders,
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coaches, mentors, whoever get around resilient people. They have a different way of seeing the world.
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And if you right now have difficulties with your resilience and you're trying to grow and shift
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and change, you need community around you. Who you hang out with is very important. So get around
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these people. They have a different way. When I was starting to work on myself, you know, the people
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that I would look up to didn't look at trouble or problems the way I was looking at them.
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They were excited about it. They were looking forward to overcoming it. Obviously they had done
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a lot of work and understood that bad news and bad things weren't bad. And they were just here
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to challenge and level up and get us to the next level. So be sure to get around community,
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get around people that are doing this work, get around resilient people. That is number five.
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All right, so wrapping up number one, become aware of your stories and the meaning that you
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are putting behind it. Number two, commit to working on yourself. You need to work on you.
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Number three, choose to see that things are happening for you. They're happening for you,
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not to you. Number four, work on yourself in your confidence, your self confidence,
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and number five, get around mentors and people who are already resilient, who you look up to.
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That is it. The five steps to becoming more resilient. Thank you so much.
