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Support for the following podcast is provided
by the user experience specialists at Johns and
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00:00:05.639 --> 00:00:14.199
Taylor. More information follows this episode
What if you had the power to choose
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to just be less angry. I'm
Joe Taylor Junior. This is Search and
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00:00:20.359 --> 00:00:28.359
Replace. Shannon Talbot thought she had
it all, at least on paper.
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00:00:28.760 --> 00:00:32.320
I had a fabulous career in the
corporate world. I worked for seventeen years
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00:00:32.320 --> 00:00:35.920
in corporate. I worked fifteen years
in banking, two years in advertising,
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00:00:36.640 --> 00:00:40.359
rose the corporate ranks, you know, I was always getting that next level,
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00:00:40.479 --> 00:00:46.520
that next salary increase, and yes, on paper, everything looked amazing,
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00:00:46.799 --> 00:00:49.799
and it was the dream that I
thought I wanted when I was a
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00:00:49.799 --> 00:00:54.039
little kid. I was working in
advertising, which I loved, but at
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00:00:54.079 --> 00:00:58.479
the same time, it had unpredictable
hours, long hours. I was in
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00:00:58.560 --> 00:01:03.560
client services, you know, we
were always putting out fires and I had
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00:01:03.599 --> 00:01:10.280
never ever managed my stress well.
And in Shannon's world, that seemed okay.
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After all, she was surrounded by
other corporate ladder climbers who themselves had
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pushed through a ton of big emotions
and made sacrifices to get where they got.
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So it took someone with a very
different point of view to make Shannon
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reconsider the path she was on.
One day, I was pushing my then
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five year old on the swing that
three years ago, and he said,
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Mommy, can I give you a
goal for the year? And I said,
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yeah, Bud, what's the goal
you want to give me? Give
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it to me. And he looked
at me and he said, Mommy,
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can I give you a goal to
be less angry this year? You are
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angry all the time. And that
was not the goal I was affecting him
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to give me, But it was
the goal I needed to hear because it
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was true. And so him telling
me I was angry all the time was
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the note for me to be like, ugh, okay, Shannon, something's
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00:02:15.159 --> 00:02:21.840
got to change. And it also
made me realize even though on paper things
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00:02:21.879 --> 00:02:27.479
looked good, I wasn't that happy
in my career. After that, Shannon
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00:02:27.520 --> 00:02:30.759
drew up a plan to break free
from her present reality. I had three
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00:02:30.800 --> 00:02:36.960
steps I had to take after that
moment, and really the first one was
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to actually start prioritizing my well being
and looking after my stress and anxiety.
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I was the type of person who
always said I'm too busy. Oh,
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I'll just push through or I'll get
to it at another point, and I
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never did, so in that moment, I finally had the motivation to start
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to prioritize my well being. The
second step was I just I did to
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finally show up more authentically. When
I got married, I had an official
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role and that role was wife,
and then later my role became people manager,
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and then later my role became mom. With each role that I got
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throughout my career, I told myself
I should act a certain way, and
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00:03:17.919 --> 00:03:22.919
I put the expectations on pressure on
myself. No one told me to act
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00:03:22.960 --> 00:03:27.840
this way. It was all self
imposed, but it meant I didn't show
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00:03:27.879 --> 00:03:30.719
up authentically, and it meant I
was always holding a piece of myself back.
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And the third step I took was
I finally gave myself permission to chase
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my happy. What I mean is
I finally went for the career that I
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had dreamt of in high school,
that I had told myself was silly.
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It wasn't a real career. I
couldn't do it, and I went for
47
00:03:51.960 --> 00:03:57.520
that career. That dream career as
an author also included a new role as
48
00:03:57.560 --> 00:04:00.719
a coach to other burned out professionals
who I wanted to find personal and career
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00:04:00.759 --> 00:04:05.479
happiness. But it wasn't an overnight
transformation. The leap to finally do the
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00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:12.439
thing looked like me taking about six
months to prepare. And I started doing
51
00:04:12.479 --> 00:04:15.600
coaching on the side and it lit
me up. You know. I was
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doing it in the evenings after working
a long, full day, and it
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would light me up and I would
have more energy afterwards than when I started,
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So I knew I was on the
right track. Like the reward outweighed
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the risk, and I knew that
by doing that, I'd be a better
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mom, I'd be a better wife, I'd be you know, a better
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friend and professional. And really I
just wanted to help make a difference in
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people's lives and I wanted to help
them chase their happy. I felt like
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I broke free and it no longer
was just about the money I was earning
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and the title, but really it
was about, Okay, how much time
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do I get to spend with my
kids. I wanted to spend that quality
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time with them, and I wanted
to be less angry, as my son
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had asked me to be my relationships
with my sons and husband or stronger than
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ever. I followed my dream of
writing a book, something I'd also dreamt
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of since I was ten years old. And I'm finally in a routine with
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healthy habits personally and professionally and managing
that stress, and overall, I am
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happier than I have ever been in
my life. Through our coaching practice,
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Shannon's held hundreds of professionals. She's
even worked with a few large companies that
69
00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:35.439
want to improve the lives of their
employees, and she often shares this advice
70
00:05:35.480 --> 00:05:41.040
with her new clients. I don't
think it's ever too late to go after
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what you want. And our brains
might tell us it's too late, or
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we're not qualified, or it's too
scary or too risky, and I just
73
00:05:50.079 --> 00:05:55.879
think that those are stories we tell
ourselves to keep ourselves safe. But if
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someone truly wants to go after what
they want, or wants their job to
75
00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:03.920
light them up more, wants to
feel more present with their family, than
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00:06:04.000 --> 00:06:08.519
I think they should go for it. They should chase the thing. We
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00:06:08.639 --> 00:06:12.600
all have obstacles to overcome that will
be in our path to where we want
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00:06:12.600 --> 00:06:16.560
to go, but more often than
not, they're worth breaking through to get
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00:06:16.560 --> 00:06:23.240
what we want. If I look
back at everything I've gone through and where
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I've gotten to today. I wouldn't
change a thing. I wouldn't have started
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a company earlier. I wouldn't have
tried to be a motivational speaker earlier because
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I needed these experiences and I needed
these successes and the failures to build who
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I am today. I think everything
happens for a reason, and it's all
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00:06:45.120 --> 00:06:48.240
about the right time, right place, and it all comes together when it's
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00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:53.839
supposed to. That's author and life
coach Shannon Talbot. We've got links to
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00:06:53.879 --> 00:06:58.240
Shannon's work in our show notes and
on our website at Search and Replace dot
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show to these EPISODISO was produced by
Nicole Hubbard with help from the entire podcast
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Taxi team. I'm Joe Taylor Jr. This has been a podcast Taxi Radio
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production support for Search and Replace is
provided by Johnson Taylor User Experience specialists serving
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media and technology companies that want their
websites to work. Learn more about how
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top performing businesses eliminate barriers between customers
and their goals at www dot Make the
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website work for me dot com
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00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:05.559
Support for the following podcast is provided
by the user experience specialists at Johns and
2
00:00:05.639 --> 00:00:14.199
Taylor. More information follows this episode
What if you had the power to choose
3
00:00:14.240 --> 00:00:20.280
to just be less angry. I'm
Joe Taylor Junior. This is Search and
4
00:00:20.359 --> 00:00:28.359
Replace. Shannon Talbot thought she had
it all, at least on paper.
5
00:00:28.760 --> 00:00:32.320
I had a fabulous career in the
corporate world. I worked for seventeen years
6
00:00:32.320 --> 00:00:35.920
in corporate. I worked fifteen years
in banking, two years in advertising,
7
00:00:36.640 --> 00:00:40.359
rose the corporate ranks, you know, I was always getting that next level,
8
00:00:40.479 --> 00:00:46.520
that next salary increase, and yes, on paper, everything looked amazing,
9
00:00:46.799 --> 00:00:49.799
and it was the dream that I
thought I wanted when I was a
10
00:00:49.799 --> 00:00:54.039
little kid. I was working in
advertising, which I loved, but at
11
00:00:54.079 --> 00:00:58.479
the same time, it had unpredictable
hours, long hours. I was in
12
00:00:58.560 --> 00:01:03.560
client services, you know, we
were always putting out fires and I had
13
00:01:03.599 --> 00:01:10.280
never ever managed my stress well.
And in Shannon's world, that seemed okay.
14
00:01:10.640 --> 00:01:15.560
After all, she was surrounded by
other corporate ladder climbers who themselves had
15
00:01:15.599 --> 00:01:21.040
pushed through a ton of big emotions
and made sacrifices to get where they got.
16
00:01:21.680 --> 00:01:25.680
So it took someone with a very
different point of view to make Shannon
17
00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:30.719
reconsider the path she was on.
One day, I was pushing my then
18
00:01:30.799 --> 00:01:34.879
five year old on the swing that
three years ago, and he said,
19
00:01:34.959 --> 00:01:40.040
Mommy, can I give you a
goal for the year? And I said,
20
00:01:40.120 --> 00:01:42.400
yeah, Bud, what's the goal
you want to give me? Give
21
00:01:42.439 --> 00:01:45.239
it to me. And he looked
at me and he said, Mommy,
22
00:01:46.159 --> 00:01:51.640
can I give you a goal to
be less angry this year? You are
23
00:01:51.760 --> 00:02:00.799
angry all the time. And that
was not the goal I was affecting him
24
00:02:00.840 --> 00:02:05.519
to give me, But it was
the goal I needed to hear because it
25
00:02:05.640 --> 00:02:10.719
was true. And so him telling
me I was angry all the time was
26
00:02:10.759 --> 00:02:15.000
the note for me to be like, ugh, okay, Shannon, something's
27
00:02:15.159 --> 00:02:21.840
got to change. And it also
made me realize even though on paper things
28
00:02:21.879 --> 00:02:27.479
looked good, I wasn't that happy
in my career. After that, Shannon
29
00:02:27.520 --> 00:02:30.759
drew up a plan to break free
from her present reality. I had three
30
00:02:30.800 --> 00:02:36.960
steps I had to take after that
moment, and really the first one was
31
00:02:37.280 --> 00:02:42.759
to actually start prioritizing my well being
and looking after my stress and anxiety.
32
00:02:43.240 --> 00:02:46.479
I was the type of person who
always said I'm too busy. Oh,
33
00:02:46.520 --> 00:02:49.919
I'll just push through or I'll get
to it at another point, and I
34
00:02:50.000 --> 00:02:53.599
never did, so in that moment, I finally had the motivation to start
35
00:02:53.639 --> 00:03:00.680
to prioritize my well being. The
second step was I just I did to
36
00:03:00.719 --> 00:03:05.039
finally show up more authentically. When
I got married, I had an official
37
00:03:05.159 --> 00:03:08.520
role and that role was wife,
and then later my role became people manager,
38
00:03:08.560 --> 00:03:13.840
and then later my role became mom. With each role that I got
39
00:03:13.879 --> 00:03:17.719
throughout my career, I told myself
I should act a certain way, and
40
00:03:17.919 --> 00:03:22.919
I put the expectations on pressure on
myself. No one told me to act
41
00:03:22.960 --> 00:03:27.840
this way. It was all self
imposed, but it meant I didn't show
42
00:03:27.879 --> 00:03:30.719
up authentically, and it meant I
was always holding a piece of myself back.
43
00:03:31.159 --> 00:03:37.120
And the third step I took was
I finally gave myself permission to chase
44
00:03:37.360 --> 00:03:42.879
my happy. What I mean is
I finally went for the career that I
45
00:03:42.919 --> 00:03:46.280
had dreamt of in high school,
that I had told myself was silly.
46
00:03:46.360 --> 00:03:51.719
It wasn't a real career. I
couldn't do it, and I went for
47
00:03:51.960 --> 00:03:57.520
that career. That dream career as
an author also included a new role as
48
00:03:57.560 --> 00:04:00.719
a coach to other burned out professionals
who I wanted to find personal and career
49
00:04:00.759 --> 00:04:05.479
happiness. But it wasn't an overnight
transformation. The leap to finally do the
50
00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:12.439
thing looked like me taking about six
months to prepare. And I started doing
51
00:04:12.479 --> 00:04:15.600
coaching on the side and it lit
me up. You know. I was
52
00:04:15.600 --> 00:04:19.920
doing it in the evenings after working
a long, full day, and it
53
00:04:19.920 --> 00:04:24.800
would light me up and I would
have more energy afterwards than when I started,
54
00:04:25.160 --> 00:04:28.879
So I knew I was on the
right track. Like the reward outweighed
55
00:04:28.959 --> 00:04:32.399
the risk, and I knew that
by doing that, I'd be a better
56
00:04:32.439 --> 00:04:34.759
mom, I'd be a better wife, I'd be you know, a better
57
00:04:34.839 --> 00:04:41.199
friend and professional. And really I
just wanted to help make a difference in
58
00:04:41.240 --> 00:04:45.040
people's lives and I wanted to help
them chase their happy. I felt like
59
00:04:45.079 --> 00:04:48.160
I broke free and it no longer
was just about the money I was earning
60
00:04:48.279 --> 00:04:53.120
and the title, but really it
was about, Okay, how much time
61
00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:56.560
do I get to spend with my
kids. I wanted to spend that quality
62
00:04:56.959 --> 00:05:00.680
time with them, and I wanted
to be less angry, as my son
63
00:05:00.720 --> 00:05:04.600
had asked me to be my relationships
with my sons and husband or stronger than
64
00:05:04.600 --> 00:05:09.920
ever. I followed my dream of
writing a book, something I'd also dreamt
65
00:05:09.959 --> 00:05:15.560
of since I was ten years old. And I'm finally in a routine with
66
00:05:15.639 --> 00:05:23.000
healthy habits personally and professionally and managing
that stress, and overall, I am
67
00:05:23.480 --> 00:05:27.360
happier than I have ever been in
my life. Through our coaching practice,
68
00:05:27.480 --> 00:05:30.839
Shannon's held hundreds of professionals. She's
even worked with a few large companies that
69
00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:35.439
want to improve the lives of their
employees, and she often shares this advice
70
00:05:35.480 --> 00:05:41.040
with her new clients. I don't
think it's ever too late to go after
71
00:05:41.079 --> 00:05:45.720
what you want. And our brains
might tell us it's too late, or
72
00:05:45.720 --> 00:05:50.040
we're not qualified, or it's too
scary or too risky, and I just
73
00:05:50.079 --> 00:05:55.879
think that those are stories we tell
ourselves to keep ourselves safe. But if
74
00:05:55.920 --> 00:06:00.720
someone truly wants to go after what
they want, or wants their job to
75
00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:03.920
light them up more, wants to
feel more present with their family, than
76
00:06:04.000 --> 00:06:08.519
I think they should go for it. They should chase the thing. We
77
00:06:08.639 --> 00:06:12.600
all have obstacles to overcome that will
be in our path to where we want
78
00:06:12.600 --> 00:06:16.560
to go, but more often than
not, they're worth breaking through to get
79
00:06:16.560 --> 00:06:23.240
what we want. If I look
back at everything I've gone through and where
80
00:06:23.240 --> 00:06:27.959
I've gotten to today. I wouldn't
change a thing. I wouldn't have started
81
00:06:27.959 --> 00:06:33.639
a company earlier. I wouldn't have
tried to be a motivational speaker earlier because
82
00:06:33.680 --> 00:06:40.399
I needed these experiences and I needed
these successes and the failures to build who
83
00:06:40.439 --> 00:06:45.079
I am today. I think everything
happens for a reason, and it's all
84
00:06:45.120 --> 00:06:48.240
about the right time, right place, and it all comes together when it's
85
00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:53.839
supposed to. That's author and life
coach Shannon Talbot. We've got links to
86
00:06:53.879 --> 00:06:58.240
Shannon's work in our show notes and
on our website at Search and Replace dot
87
00:06:58.360 --> 00:07:02.160
show to these EPISODISO was produced by
Nicole Hubbard with help from the entire podcast
88
00:07:02.160 --> 00:07:06.720
Taxi team. I'm Joe Taylor Jr. This has been a podcast Taxi Radio
89
00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:14.839
production support for Search and Replace is
provided by Johnson Taylor User Experience specialists serving
90
00:07:14.920 --> 00:07:19.560
media and technology companies that want their
websites to work. Learn more about how
91
00:07:19.600 --> 00:07:28.160
top performing businesses eliminate barriers between customers
and their goals at www dot Make the
92
00:07:28.199 --> 00:07:30.800
website work for me dot com
