Beyond Mindset Limits - Tisha Marie Cain JD, CHt October 28, 2026Becoming the Woman Who Can Live the Life She Wants

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Welcome to Beyond Mindset Limits with Tisha Marie Cain. Here,
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we explore how unlocking your mindset can pave the way
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for unlimited success. Discover how to create opportunities through legal
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challenges and transform your business and life with effective public
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relations strategies. Get ready to elevate your journey and maximize
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your potential. Now, let's welcome your host, Tisha Marie Cain.
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Welcome back to Beyond Mindset Limits. I am your host,
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Tisha Marie Kane, and I have got a good one
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for you today. We talk about manifesting our dreams, building businesses,
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creating abundance, and living without limits. But what about the
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sleepless nights, the self-talk, the relationships that change, the sacrifices
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nobody sees? and the courage it takes to walk away
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from an identity that no longer fits. Today, we have
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a fabulous guest on. Her name is Buta Nina, and
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she is taking the world by storm. We're going beneath
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the surface of success, talking about something deeply personal, womanhood, identity, ambition, consciousness,
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and the real work of creating a life that actually
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belongs to you. So my guest, she's an entrepreneur, she's
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a public speaker, she's a thought leader, and she's the
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host of her own Bhutania show. Her work challenges the
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limitations we've conditioned to accept and explores the extraordinary potential
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within every human being. But today, I don't just want
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to talk about entrepreneurship and thought leadership. I want you
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to meet the woman behind this extraordinary vision. Because building
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your dream is one thing, but becoming the woman capable
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of living it is another. So welcome to Beyond Mindset Limits.
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And thank you for saying yes to the show.
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Thank you so much for having me. Thank you. I
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really appreciate it.
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So great. I know this has been in the works
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for a while, so I'm so glad, you know, life
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was lifing us and we get to come back and
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like be here and, you know, raise the planet's vibration
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and just like show up in our own authentic self
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and our own authentic space. And I want to know
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before the world knew you as an entrepreneur, as a speaker,
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as a as a thought leader. Who was Butuanya? And
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what did that little girl dream about? And how much
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of her still lives inside of the woman she is today?
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I want to know.
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I want to know. I love it. Well, thank you
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for having me again. So when I was a little girl,
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I always knew since I was a toddler that I
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would be in front of people. I knew that I
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would be on TV. I just knew it. So I
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was always a creative. I always pursued the arts. I
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was always in theater. I loved storytelling and I just
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loved people and interacting with people. I always felt that
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I was better just being around people, interacting with them,
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hearing their story. I was raised by a deaf grandmother.
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So to me, I understood that human connection was beyond
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just words because I could just feel her speak to
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her and she did not sign because she did not
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learn to sign. So I could just basically almost telepathically
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communicate with her because I could read her body language
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and connect with her. And so I just pursued human
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connection ever since I was a little girl. And I
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just loved being on stages. I love the spotlight, but
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I was also uncomfortable with how much you know, spotlight
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was always on me. Every room I walked into, people
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would just look at me. I just had the aura,
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but I was very uncomfortable with it because I was
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not raised to embrace it. I was raised to be
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modest and humble. I come from Morocco. And so as
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a woman, it's more about showing how beautiful you are
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and being tidy and classy than speaking your voice and
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your mind. And And that kind of, you know, went
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into my adulthood a little bit, which I had to unravel.
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So that was me growing up. Wow.
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That's so fantastic. And I, you know, I resonate with,
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you know, always having to be tidy and show up perfect,
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perfect and, you know, never creating a mess. That's why
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when I do art, it, it really takes a lot
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for me to just Put the paint on the canvas
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and just, you know, balls all out, if we will,
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on the canvas and allow myself to be messy because
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we're taught to like be prim and be proper. And
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you're a little girl and you need to act a
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certain way. So for you to unravel that, talk about that.
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Talk about the moment where you're like, heck no, we're
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changing it.
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So it was after college. So throughout high school and college,
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I moved to the States when I was 10 and
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I moved to the Washington, D.C. area where it's very diplomatic.
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And so I went from prim and proper to even
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more prim and proper with a lot more rules and
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a lot more just people performing for one another in
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a very quiet way because it was diplomatic. So everything
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was around us. you know, performing secrecy, right? My family
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wasn't diplomatic, but I grew up around people like that.
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So then there was more of that rule following and
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being quiet and everybody looks the same and does the
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same thing and operates the same way and goes to
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the same schools and pursues the same things. And I
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was like, I cannot just become like another version of
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this woman, you know, like this blueprint of these women
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around me, nothing wrong with them. It just wasn't me.
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And I felt like I was losing me. So during
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college is when I could finally be myself because I
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was out of my family's household. Right. So I just
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had my fun with it. I met so many people.
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I pursued what I wanted to pursue. I joined clubs.
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I joined, you know, a business fraternity that helps me
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develop my skillset in business. I knew I didn't want
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to pursue politics, even though I grew up around people
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like that. And so I decided, you know what? Maybe psychology,
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maybe business. And I decided to just merge the two
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of them, got my degree in business. But along the way,
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I could still tell that I was following this vision
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that was given to me, this blueprint of, OK, again,
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prim and proper. This is what we do. We get
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out of college. We join consulting firms. We get out
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of college. We join, you know, another business school. It
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was just a pathway that was given to me. And
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I was like, but it's not me. I don't get
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to be creative anymore. I don't get to be me.
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I don't, I feel like I'm performing and I don't
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know who I am. And I kept getting lost in myself.
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And as a neurodivergent woman, if you can't create yourself,
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you feel like you're getting lost and there is no
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way out. So I kept getting more trapped and trapped
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by these expectations. And so it wasn't until I went
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into consulting. I worked for big tech. I sold millions
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of dollars and I was around, you know, beautiful, smart people,
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but they were also following very specific paths. And I
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was like, I can't do this. I can't. It was
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like when the spiritual awakening started happening and I was like,
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get me out, get me out of here. So I
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ended up leaving. There was like a whole thing that
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happened with the firm. And I was like, you know what?
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I'm out. So I leave. And that's when the real
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opportunity presented itself. Now it was really hard because I
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now had the opportunity. I was living by myself for
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a few years at this point, thank God. So I
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had the opportunity to just be a little messy in
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my own space. I don't have to follow my mom's rules.
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Everything belongs here. You can't use this napkin. You can't
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do this.
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You can't do that, right?
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It was always, you can't do this.
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You have to do this.
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And so I started to just basically unravel everything. And
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I realized the vision I had lived and the person
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that I was, was not somebody I built myself. I
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was built along the way through my environment.
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Hmm.
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Through my own, you know, parents and families projections and
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expectations and, you know, society's expectations. Once I got to
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America and especially the DC area, there's a lot of
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pressure around high performance, you know, just high performance at
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whatever cost. So the journey was then who am I,
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if I don't have my title at this prestigious school
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you know, like this, diploma, if I don't have my
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title at this prestigious consulting firm, who am I? If
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I don't have my family to tell me who I am,
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who am I? And I didn't know the woman I
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was looking at, at the time I was a young girl,
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I was not a woman just yet. So I was
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out there by myself, I started to just say, you
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know what? I want to do something that is worth
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my time. Instead of performing, I want to go into
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the nonprofit world. And that helped me meet all of
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these journalists and these activists and all of these people
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that were doing really wonderful things. And I got into
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the UAP disclosure space. the hearings, all of that, helping
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with that. And I felt like I was finding out
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who I was because I could finally be creative. Now
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I am working on campaigns. Now I am actually going
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and talking, lobbying, even though I didn't have technically a lobbying,
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you know?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But I was able to talk to these offices, you know,
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senators' offices, congressmen and women's offices, And I was doing
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something that was finally me. Was I making money?
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No.
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Worth while, because I was like, who am I? Yeah.
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And I started to realize I'm dating these people also
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because I was expected to date this certain, you know,
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persona and this level of success behind the person. But
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I was in a relationship and I was like, he
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wants to marry me, but I don't want to marry him.
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I don't want to be with this person. So I
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had to leave that relationship. Who am I outside of
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this relationship? So now I start going online. I had
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to reframe internally who I was. And I'm starting to
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see myself as not a girl, but a woman and
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this goddess. I bring things to life. I have a womb.
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I am powerful beyond measure. This is not a patriarchy
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I'm living in. They want me to believe it, but
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it's my world. If I choose to opt into the patriarchy,
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then that's my choice. And so now I'm unraveling all
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of these concepts, all of these things, and I go
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online and I start teaching women about what I learned
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through my journey, which was so difficult. And I built
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my business out of it.
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Yes. And I love that for you and for the world,
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because to be completely transparent about two things I want
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to make point. Like when you go through your spiritual awakening,
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it's like, um, how do I say it's like a
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crocheted blanket. And the moment you pulled out one thread,
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like everything else seems to unravel.
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Right.
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And I, I, I was there on my own little
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journey through religion and I'm like, Oh my gosh, the,
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the religion that my family had sold me was not
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what God really was. Right. And I had to understand that,
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but um, I have a few God daughters and they're
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like 19 years old. And one is going through a
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little thing with her boyfriend and I sent her to
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your page. I'm like, you know what? No one teaches
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us how to be a queen. No one teaches us
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how to be a woman. No one teaches us how
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to show up and own who you really are. And
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I don't ever reach for a door. I don't open
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any doors. I don't open my car door. I don't
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open the restaurant doors. I mean, if I want to
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be treated like a queen, I need to act like
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a queen, right? And so my husband steps up, my
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11 year old steps up. They always grab the door.
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They do all that because I like to act like
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a queen, the queen that I am. And my husband
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gets to be the king that he is, right? And
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so I sent my goddaughter to your page. I'm like,
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follow her.
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She's amazing.
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She's going to teach you. She's funny. She lives in
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her joy. She's going to teach you how to show
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up and set some boundaries, you know, not to be
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a brat, but it's okay to be a brat, especially
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when your needs aren't getting met. So I love that.
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So you went online and it was really challenging for
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you to show up authentically on. Talk about that.
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Well, you get it a little bit. There's pressure, right?
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So I show up online. I'm finally... I'm still on
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the spiritual journey, right? So now I'm opening up my
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psychic abilities. Now I am being guided by my family
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members who have crossed over. Now I'm starting to understand, okay,
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so when we die, we're not really dead. We're just
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transforming that energy transformation. We're playing different games. Now I'm
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beginning to understand that we get to choose to be
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humans and incarnate But then when we pass over, we
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can also choose to be guides. So I had these
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guides coming through that were teaching me these different concepts.
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And now I'm accessing my own wisdom as the soul, right? This,
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you know, wise soul that we all are. I really
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want to emphasize here that while all of us online
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here are doing our beautiful work and spreading knowledge, remember
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that you know this stuff. Remember that you have the
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wisdom and that your truth will resonate with you. What
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feels true to you will resonate. So whatever I say next,
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if it doesn't resonate, it's okay.
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Yes.
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Here's what happens, right? So I am being guided through
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this initiation by these different goddesses that I'm working with, right? Aphrodite, Hekate,
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all of these beautiful, powerful, houses that a lot of women,
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when they go through the spiritual awakening, they're, they're accessing
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and really you're accessing concepts and wisdom that has been
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there for centuries and millennia. It's, it's part of the
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human consciousness that we're all accessing. And so I'm accessing
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this wisdom. I'm applying it. I am now walking in
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my power and I'm teaching these women how the game
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is played. Okay. From a heterosexual perspective. if you want
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to date the man of your dream, a man with integrity,
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a man that's loyal to you, a man that's successful,
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who's going to treat you this way, here's how the
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game is played. And basically the mindset of men and
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how you have to show up and the men get
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upset with me. Now I'm getting dragged through the internet.
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Oh, I could imagine the comments on these. Oh my gosh.
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My videos are getting... spread everywhere. These men throughout corners
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of the internet are making videos and they're getting millions
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of views and they're bullying me and they're coming into
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my DMs and threatening my life. And I'm like, okay,
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so I touched a nerve. Let's go.
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Yes. Lean all the way in.
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I knew I had something because if you touched a nerve,
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I worked in consulting, right? And my job was to
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map out people's reactions for these tech companies and conversations.
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So I knew I hit a nerve in society. And
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now we have all of these women. I start coaching
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one-on-one and I'm seeing that the problem is not men.
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The problem is us.
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Is our framework, how we view ourselves, how we decide
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to show up and what we were taught to be right. Quiet, poised,
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you know, men are here. They're your savior. They are
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here to protect you. They are here to give to
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you and all of these things. To protect you from what?
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To give you what? Right?
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This is so great. Oh my God.
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And all of a sudden, I'm starting to see a
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pattern with hundreds of women that are coming in in
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these one-on-one sessions. And the business initially started out as relationship,
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you know, advising, coming in with your problems and me
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giving you advice. But then I'm seeing the same pattern,
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which is outsourcing your power. Same thing I went through personally.
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And I'm like, Oh, we need to revamp this operation
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because now all of a sudden I'm also attracting women
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that are so frustrated with men. They just want to
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hate on men. And it's not the space to hate
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on men because now we're just creating this negative spiral
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of energy and the space where all of us are frustrated,
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but what is the result? So I start talking about
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mindset and how to show up in your own power,
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how to be a goddess, how to, tap into your
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womb energy and your womb power. And it's simply as listeners,
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if you are a woman and you're, you don't have
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a womb, that's okay because you still have an energetic one.
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That's right. That's right.
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So it's okay if you don't have a physical one
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and men have their own as well. Every human being
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has their own womb. It just looks different depending on
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your gender. Also your level of progression in your human consciousness.
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So I'm now starting to teach how to clean that
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out because we inherit a lot from our family members,
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from our heritage, from our DNA, all of the problems,
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all of the experiences that our families have from both sides,
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we inherit and it's our job to clean it. If
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they don't clean it before us, imagine you just inherited
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a mansion and it's centuries old and nobody's done any
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work on it. Mm-hmm. It's your job to clean it up. Yeah.
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Like no pressure, but come on. You know, like we
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are who our ancestors have been waiting for. No pressure,
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but you got it. You got to do something.
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Right. And the simplest way to understand this is a
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lot of people are scared of getting eaten by a
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lion or snakes and whatnot, but you don't know why.
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Right.
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Right. Because your ancestors had experiences where they found out
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why they passed on the wisdom through our DNA and
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it lives in our body because our bodies are conscious.
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And so not only do you have to work on
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your mindset and your standards and your expectations and hold
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the vision of who you are, and show up as
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that person. But you also have to work on how
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your body is interpreting the information that it has and
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the way that it interacts with the world. Right? So
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does your body feel safe in the presence of other
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people in specific environments and so forth? Because you could
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have opportunities. You could have the right partner. You could
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have the right business. You could have everything. But if
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your nervous system is not set up for that success
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and the reception of it, creating that space and that bandwidth,
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it's basically like a radio frequency. If you can't accept
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that into your life, into your body, you're going to
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sabotage yourself. You're going to go back to the person
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you used to be. You're going to lower your standards.
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you're going to be scared. You're going to talk yourself
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out of it. And your body's going to say, you
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know what, this is not safe. And how many times
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have we all shown up in different situations where we
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felt we weren't safe, even though we were.
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Right. And that's why, you know, at the core teachings
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of beyond mindset limits, it's like, we don't need to
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be indulging in low frequency activities like drugs and alcohol,
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because once you clear and clean your vessel, it's as
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simple as, I can just step into a room and,
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and be in my body and feel the energy. And
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now I'm like, no, that's not for me. I went
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to a, this is so remedial and it's so basic foundation,
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but I went to an HOA meeting and I walked
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into this HOA meeting in hopes to, in hopes to
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make friends. And I'm like, hi, I'm here to make friends.
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And I nudged my husband. I'm like the energy in
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this room, you could cut with a knife. Like, The
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energy in this room is so off. Like I can't
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even stand to sit in this chair. I got to go.
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But it's like coming into your body, coming into that,
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like you said before, that remembering of who the F
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we are to come in and be able to feel
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it out to, to, to help, to protect yourself, to
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be safe. But like you said, like, you don't even
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know what you're running from.
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Right. Right. And to enjoy. And a lot of people
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don't know how to enjoy themselves, which we were talking
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about before the show. A lot of people don't know,
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and especially women, how to rest. And so part of
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my journey was to learn how to rest, how to
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not be productive while still ensuring that everything that I
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wanted to get done is done.
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No.
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No, I'm an Aries. Okay.
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Because that is very, I'm a triple Virgo, sun, moon,
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and rising. So it's like, what you're saying is I
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don't know how to rest. Like I've got spreadsheets for
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my spreadsheets and like, oh- I don't have to fill
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this time. Like I have an hour and oh, I'm
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doing nothing. So what am I making that mean?
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Right.
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That I'm a loser, all this negative self-talk because I'm
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not so busy.
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Right.
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Like I need to be doing something.
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Oh no.
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I need to be drinking my sweet tea, you know,
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on the patio. That's what I need to be doing. Right.
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Absolutely. Absolutely. And as an Aries, but it's just how
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I was raised, but also who I became along the way.
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I am very detail-oriented, okay? I will see something other
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people don't see. I run my household, which is my
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life is how I see it, like the house of Butaina. Mari,
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I run it like a military because I see myself
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as the queen of my world. And so I'm commanding.
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And so every command that goes out, if I want something,
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it's got to be very specific. It has to be
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a certain way. I'm commanding. And so- I used to
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feel like if I wasn't commanding and I wasn't doing everything,
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then I wasn't sufficient enough to rule my world. Oh, girl.
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The title of being the queen of my world. And
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so I had to work on that and say, as
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a queen, as her majesty, right? Yes. can't be the
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military and the government and all of these different departments
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that run your kingdom, you have to understand what you
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need to delegate and what is within your role, what
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is within your limits. And so part of that is
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because I run my, my.
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House, it's your queendom and my.
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My, my queendom as a business as well, I will
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fire anyone from my life that does not fit.
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Oh, I love that.
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So I hired someone recently to do something for me
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within a week of signing that contract. I could see,
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I already saw the patterns, but I was like, let
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me give this person a chance to rise to the occasion. Again,
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I bet my standards, they didn't come at level. And
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so what I had to do was fire them. I
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just literally emailed and they said, you move too slow.
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You're fired. I wish you the best on your endeavor.
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You have to fire your friends, your partners sometimes, and
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you have to give out new orders. So new expectations.
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So if you are showing up as this new version
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of yourself and you have these expectations of yourself, they
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have to translate to other people around you. And if
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you around, for example, your partner, your siblings, your family,
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people that have been, you know, enmeshed in your life
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for so long and you don't want to fire them,
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you have to run the protocol as I call it,
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which is come on in, let's have a little intervention.
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This is a meeting. Let's, let me tell you about
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how I'm doing things now and what I expect of you.
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Let's have a conversation because moving forward, I don't want
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there to be a discrepancy between who you thought I
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was and who I am now. We're going to bridge
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the gap. That clear communication needs to happen with people
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around you. And so now there is no gap between
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the world that you're in and the world that you're
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moving towards.
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Yes.
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Right. Yeah. Up to date. And if they don't want
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to participate, that is their free choice. They have free
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will and That's okay. As I can, as I usually say,
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you may excuse yourself.
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Exactly.
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You have an invitation, but you're done.
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Yeah, exactly. You know, and I map this across to
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like every week, my family, we have a tailgate meeting
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and we look out on Sunday. We have a tailgate meet,
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you know, we love us some American football, right? And
482
00:29:07.660 --> 00:29:09.420
we look out for the week and like, okay, what
483
00:29:09.440 --> 00:29:12.799
are we driving for the week? I'm running four successful businesses.
484
00:29:13.289 --> 00:29:15.470
And each day I have to compartmentalize this and I
485
00:29:15.490 --> 00:29:17.269
need everybody on board. And if you're not on board,
486
00:29:17.650 --> 00:29:19.009
if you're not in the boat, you're off the boat.
487
00:29:19.069 --> 00:29:21.349
And so you're going to sink. Everybody needs to be
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in the boat. Everybody needs to be singing the same song.
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And if you're not, you know, looking out to where
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00:29:27.119 --> 00:29:30.019
we're going, then you got to get out.
491
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Right.
492
00:29:30.579 --> 00:29:35.450
So, I mean, this really is, this is, I love
493
00:29:35.569 --> 00:29:38.849
how you say this is like, there's no gap between
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who I am and where I want to go. And
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00:29:41.029 --> 00:29:44.710
if there is a gap, that's something energetically, physically that
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00:29:44.769 --> 00:29:46.950
we need to clean up, or we're not going to
497
00:29:47.009 --> 00:29:48.769
get to that level that we want to get. And it,
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00:29:49.049 --> 00:29:51.390
this work is not for the faint of heart. This
499
00:29:51.450 --> 00:29:54.490
is hard freaking work. Yeah.
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Because you, you have to be your own coach, your
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00:29:57.750 --> 00:30:01.490
own boss, your own cheerleader to You are also showing
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00:30:01.529 --> 00:30:04.589
up as that person. You have to be the team
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00:30:04.670 --> 00:30:08.150
that you are wanting outside of you. You have to
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00:30:08.190 --> 00:30:10.930
be a great teammate to your own self because there's
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00:30:10.970 --> 00:30:15.339
that dialogue that's happening internally. And so you show up
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every day. And the way that I do it is
507
00:30:17.680 --> 00:30:21.579
I program myself the night before. What are the expectations?
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00:30:23.000 --> 00:30:26.329
Walk us through that, because I think our listeners can
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benefit from your wisdom, your education, your experience. How does
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one program themselves to set themselves up for success the
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night before they go into the next day? Walk us
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through your framework.
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Absolutely. So I've worked with high achievers. very successful, you know,
514
00:30:48.519 --> 00:30:51.819
business owners and just very successful people globally. And so
515
00:30:51.920 --> 00:30:54.240
I picked up some of these things and I tweak
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00:30:54.279 --> 00:30:58.440
them to my own, you know, identity and what works
517
00:30:58.500 --> 00:31:02.140
for me. So the basis of this is understanding that
518
00:31:02.569 --> 00:31:07.990
the soul itself, that is the operator, right? You are
519
00:31:08.029 --> 00:31:11.609
the commander. You're sitting in your own mind, in your
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00:31:11.710 --> 00:31:15.170
own body, and you're giving out the signals, the commands.
521
00:31:15.829 --> 00:31:18.190
And then your body and your mind are the ones
522
00:31:18.230 --> 00:31:22.809
that are receiving it and carrying them out. So understanding
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00:31:22.849 --> 00:31:26.130
this at a basic, simple level allows you to understand
524
00:31:26.190 --> 00:31:31.980
how to easily manipulate energy, manipulate your mind and show
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00:31:32.160 --> 00:31:35.160
up and, you know, quote unquote, quantum shift in a
526
00:31:35.200 --> 00:31:38.079
way that's so easy where you don't need too much time.
527
00:31:38.549 --> 00:31:42.890
So the night before I will sit and, you know,
528
00:31:42.990 --> 00:31:45.869
you can have your own way of doing this. But
529
00:31:46.009 --> 00:31:47.849
usually I like to do it right before I go
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00:31:47.910 --> 00:31:50.670
to bed because I just have a quiet moment to
531
00:31:50.730 --> 00:31:57.410
myself before my cat comes and cuddles. And she's like, meow, meow, meow.
532
00:31:57.430 --> 00:32:00.289
So I like to think about the day that I've had.
533
00:32:00.950 --> 00:32:03.609
What did I do today? All of the things that
534
00:32:03.630 --> 00:32:06.430
I've done. What did I enjoy about that day? The
535
00:32:06.509 --> 00:32:08.970
gratitude that I have for the day. I'm so thankful
536
00:32:08.990 --> 00:32:10.579
that I did all of these things and showed up
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00:32:10.640 --> 00:32:13.500
this way and so forth. What could I have done better?
538
00:32:14.539 --> 00:32:20.589
not because I am trying to make myself feel bad
539
00:32:20.619 --> 00:32:23.029
about anything. But again, I'm trying to edit myself to
540
00:32:23.069 --> 00:32:29.009
this quote unquote, ideal version, perfect version of myself that
541
00:32:29.069 --> 00:32:32.309
has everything that I want. And so the way to
542
00:32:32.750 --> 00:32:35.910
do that is to just gently ask yourself, what could
543
00:32:35.930 --> 00:32:38.599
I have done better? I had this conversation. Maybe I
544
00:32:39.019 --> 00:32:42.000
didn't need to say too much. Or maybe I could
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00:32:42.019 --> 00:32:44.059
have walked away. Or maybe, you know, I had the
546
00:32:44.099 --> 00:32:46.200
instinct to not be in that room and I did.
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00:32:47.119 --> 00:32:51.509
Whatever it is, then you say, okay, you can also
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00:32:51.549 --> 00:32:55.690
journal about this if it helps. Then I go through
549
00:32:55.829 --> 00:32:58.829
what are the expectations of tomorrow? What do I have
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00:32:58.869 --> 00:33:02.579
to do tomorrow? And what is the routine that I'm
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00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:05.039
going to go through before I get done what I
552
00:33:05.079 --> 00:33:07.279
need to get done? So tomorrow I'm going to wake up,
553
00:33:07.329 --> 00:33:08.910
I'm going to do my morning routine. It's going to
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00:33:08.970 --> 00:33:11.410
entail X, Y, Z. I'm going to do my breath work.
555
00:33:11.470 --> 00:33:14.009
I'm going to work out. I'm going to, you know,
556
00:33:14.069 --> 00:33:16.609
do my skincare and so forth. I'm going to make
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00:33:16.690 --> 00:33:20.349
sure I have my journaling time, whatever it is that
558
00:33:20.450 --> 00:33:24.230
works for you because each person is different. And then
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00:33:24.289 --> 00:33:27.670
I'm going to go into my work or my responsibilities
560
00:33:27.710 --> 00:33:29.890
and so forth. You have to make sure that you
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00:33:29.930 --> 00:33:33.930
have your own time every morning and every night because
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It's your life and it's about you. After that, I
563
00:33:40.200 --> 00:33:43.339
then say, all right, that is the command. When I
564
00:33:43.400 --> 00:33:48.440
wake up tomorrow, I'm going to wake up in this perspective.
565
00:33:48.500 --> 00:33:51.460
So I also visualize my day the night before.
566
00:33:51.480 --> 00:33:53.730
Okay.
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00:33:54.109 --> 00:33:56.069
So I'm going to be happy tomorrow. I'm going to
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00:33:56.089 --> 00:33:58.529
wake up. I'm going to do all of these things.
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00:33:59.609 --> 00:34:01.609
Then I will go to bed. When I wake up
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00:34:01.690 --> 00:34:06.079
that morning, I... First thing I say is I'm so
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00:34:06.119 --> 00:34:08.860
thankful for the breath that I have. I'm so thankful
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to be alive and to have the opportunity to live
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the day that I want. And then I will go
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00:34:15.800 --> 00:34:21.159
again through plan in the morning right before I get
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00:34:21.239 --> 00:34:25.460
out of bed. I will try my best to not
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00:34:25.500 --> 00:34:28.500
be on my phone unless I need to listen to affirmations.
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00:34:29.179 --> 00:34:30.960
I used to have my own affirmations that I would
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00:34:31.000 --> 00:34:34.860
listen to or other people's affirmations. But now I just
579
00:34:35.000 --> 00:34:38.420
programmed myself to have affirmations run in the background that
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00:34:38.460 --> 00:34:39.480
I say to myself.
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00:34:39.860 --> 00:34:40.159
Yes.
582
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Listen to other people's affirmations. You can create your own.
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00:34:43.610 --> 00:34:46.570
But again, that is the soft spot. You just started.
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00:34:46.670 --> 00:34:49.329
The slate is clean. And then I'll go and listen
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00:34:49.369 --> 00:34:52.750
to music and begin my journey for the day. And
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00:34:52.809 --> 00:34:55.590
I will repeat that again. And throughout the day, if
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I need to remember who I am, I'll remember who
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I am.
589
00:34:59.619 --> 00:35:00.800
You know, we're.
590
00:35:01.079 --> 00:35:05.929
Running a queendom. We... This version of me does not
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00:35:06.010 --> 00:35:08.769
do this. I do not do this. That may have
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00:35:09.030 --> 00:35:13.750
flown around a week ago, a month ago. That doesn't
593
00:35:13.789 --> 00:35:15.949
fly over here. And you don't even need to talk
594
00:35:15.989 --> 00:35:18.289
about your previous self. You can just talk about who
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00:35:18.329 --> 00:35:22.050
you are today. We don't do that around here. Yeah.
596
00:35:22.380 --> 00:35:25.119
So, and I love how you say that because you probably...
597
00:35:25.449 --> 00:35:28.610
I don't have any like negative self-critic talk. I'm just,
598
00:35:29.070 --> 00:35:32.269
I'm just so forward thinking like, Oh no, if I
599
00:35:32.409 --> 00:35:35.090
did something, you know, if I didn't exercise long enough
600
00:35:35.150 --> 00:35:37.489
or something, I'm like, that was yesterday. And today we're
601
00:35:37.510 --> 00:35:39.409
just going to be focusing on, you know, getting 20
602
00:35:39.409 --> 00:35:42.260
more minutes. Like, so in your mind and your brain,
603
00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:45.400
I would envision that you don't have any negative self-talk
604
00:35:45.519 --> 00:35:47.400
or if something negative comes up, you kind of quickly
605
00:35:47.739 --> 00:35:50.239
push it aside and say, no, this is what we're creating.
606
00:35:50.300 --> 00:35:50.820
Is that true?
607
00:35:51.960 --> 00:35:54.900
Yes. So I don't have negative self-talk that I used
608
00:35:54.920 --> 00:35:57.400
to have. Oh, my God. It was so bad before.
609
00:35:57.440 --> 00:35:58.780
Was it?
610
00:35:59.239 --> 00:36:04.090
Because I was internalizing other people's negative self-talk and no
611
00:36:04.130 --> 00:36:07.110
one taught me to be kind to myself because I
612
00:36:07.230 --> 00:36:11.190
was raised being hard on, you know, these are the expectations,
613
00:36:11.570 --> 00:36:14.329
so forth. I didn't have those words of affirmation from
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00:36:14.389 --> 00:36:15.469
my Arab family.
615
00:36:15.489 --> 00:36:15.650
Yeah.
616
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Right?
617
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Yeah.
618
00:36:18.469 --> 00:36:21.090
We were more of like touchy, like the love that
619
00:36:21.110 --> 00:36:23.969
you got were kisses and hugs and so forth. Not
620
00:36:24.050 --> 00:36:28.530
so much words and words really matter. And so where
621
00:36:28.590 --> 00:36:31.929
I am now is I'm not going to lie. Sometimes
622
00:36:31.989 --> 00:36:37.360
the self-doubt creeps in. When you're trying to do something big,
623
00:36:39.679 --> 00:36:44.480
when you're, when you're trying to go for it and
624
00:36:44.559 --> 00:36:48.420
you know that the vision is big and you know
625
00:36:48.460 --> 00:36:53.039
what you're about to do is is so impactful is
626
00:36:53.219 --> 00:36:59.389
so huge there's this voice that may come through or
627
00:36:59.730 --> 00:37:04.349
however you you know as the listener interact with yourself
628
00:37:05.030 --> 00:37:08.510
it could be a feeling or whatnot and it becomes
629
00:37:09.559 --> 00:37:13.969
you know, but I'm comfortable where I am. And it's like,
630
00:37:14.300 --> 00:37:19.090
oh no, here comes the self-sabotage because comfort is not
631
00:37:19.130 --> 00:37:23.190
your enemy. You deserve to be comfortable. But if you
632
00:37:23.210 --> 00:37:29.429
get a little too comfortable, you don't act on your dream.
633
00:37:29.630 --> 00:37:34.530
So have the comfort, have the foundation, but make sure
634
00:37:34.630 --> 00:37:38.030
that that ambition you have And that vision you have,
635
00:37:38.050 --> 00:37:42.050
you're always moving towards every day, every day, every day,
636
00:37:42.429 --> 00:37:44.809
not because anyone's coming to take it away from you
637
00:37:45.429 --> 00:37:49.530
or anything is going to go wrong. It's simply because
638
00:37:49.730 --> 00:37:51.070
you deserve more.
639
00:37:52.170 --> 00:37:56.650
Yes. I'm so glad we're having this conversation. It's interesting
640
00:37:56.690 --> 00:38:00.280
how all of this, um, you know, we're already swimming
641
00:38:00.360 --> 00:38:03.179
in this. I had this conversation yesterday about, you know,
642
00:38:03.219 --> 00:38:05.099
here's where I am and here's where I want to go. And, uh,
643
00:38:06.710 --> 00:38:08.670
you know, my husband said, okay, are you ready now?
644
00:38:08.869 --> 00:38:11.949
Are you, is, are you ready now? And I'm like, Oh, I,
645
00:38:12.869 --> 00:38:15.630
you know, I'm like, huh? I had to sit there
646
00:38:15.670 --> 00:38:22.699
because I was comfortable. Honestly, transparency. If I don't move forward,
647
00:38:22.800 --> 00:38:26.320
I get to be lazy and just do whatever I
648
00:38:26.380 --> 00:38:28.900
want and be comfortable and not push forward. And that
649
00:38:28.940 --> 00:38:31.159
was in that moment that he said, are you ready
650
00:38:31.179 --> 00:38:33.500
now to take this next step? I was like, Oh, right.
651
00:38:34.159 --> 00:38:34.380
Right.
652
00:38:35.699 --> 00:38:38.280
I had to really check in. Like, I know I
653
00:38:38.679 --> 00:38:41.500
can blow this. And if any of our listeners are watching,
654
00:38:41.539 --> 00:38:44.039
whether you have your own personal brand or you have
655
00:38:44.420 --> 00:38:46.760
a small business or a large business and moving this
656
00:38:46.820 --> 00:38:50.670
business forward, you know, you got to really check in. Like,
657
00:38:50.730 --> 00:38:53.150
is this really something that I want? Otherwise, you're going
658
00:38:53.170 --> 00:38:54.510
to be lazy and you're going to be sitting on
659
00:38:54.530 --> 00:38:58.110
the sofa eating bonbons and not really driving it forward
660
00:38:58.150 --> 00:39:00.030
like you really want it to be. Like, you can
661
00:39:00.090 --> 00:39:04.750
take this as far as you want past your dreams if...
662
00:39:05.539 --> 00:39:07.739
You're willing to do your part, you know?
663
00:39:07.760 --> 00:39:13.960
Absolutely. So I don't have fears. I programmed that out
664
00:39:14.079 --> 00:39:19.309
of my body and my mind, my life. I don't
665
00:39:19.349 --> 00:39:25.590
fear anything, but my God, do I wholeheartedly hate boredom?
666
00:39:26.090 --> 00:39:28.329
Me too!
667
00:39:29.070 --> 00:39:29.210
So.
668
00:39:29.929 --> 00:39:34.449
here's the thing. That is human consciousness at its core.
669
00:39:34.510 --> 00:39:36.699
We are meant to play. We are meant to have fun.
670
00:39:36.739 --> 00:39:38.960
We are meant to interact with our environment and each
671
00:39:39.059 --> 00:39:43.360
other and concept and create. And so when we're bored
672
00:39:43.460 --> 00:39:45.300
is when we don't live up to that potential and
673
00:39:45.340 --> 00:39:48.480
we're not exploring the potential in our environment and so forth.
674
00:39:49.030 --> 00:39:53.090
And so for me, anytime I don't want to move
675
00:39:53.210 --> 00:39:55.869
forward or I'm getting a little too comfortable, I ask,
676
00:39:55.929 --> 00:39:59.599
am I bored? Because my mind moves so fast and
677
00:39:59.639 --> 00:40:03.480
I like to move fast, but also be slow. I ask,
678
00:40:03.559 --> 00:40:07.059
am I bored or am I about to get bored? Yes.
679
00:40:07.679 --> 00:40:10.550
We got to move this forward because I know if
680
00:40:10.610 --> 00:40:14.710
I get bored, I'm about to ruin this entire experience
681
00:40:14.769 --> 00:40:17.610
for myself. I will tear down the project. I will
682
00:40:17.650 --> 00:40:22.340
start something new and so forth. So I'm always wary
683
00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:26.110
of boredom because having too much space.
684
00:40:28.010 --> 00:40:31.730
Man, you're laughing, but two things I want to, I
685
00:40:31.750 --> 00:40:34.889
want to bring in here. One, the frequency of your
686
00:40:34.949 --> 00:40:38.360
laugh draws people in. You get to do that more
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00:40:38.440 --> 00:40:41.619
like the frequent, like every time I hear you laugh.
688
00:40:41.639 --> 00:40:43.340
And that was one of the reasons why I'm like,
689
00:40:43.659 --> 00:40:48.590
she's coming on beyond mindset limits. There's, um, a visceral
690
00:40:48.710 --> 00:40:51.150
feeling in my body where I'm like, I want to
691
00:40:51.170 --> 00:40:54.289
be on the sofa with her and maybe have a
692
00:40:54.349 --> 00:40:57.769
mushroom journey and just laugh our butts off, you know,
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00:40:57.829 --> 00:41:01.889
until whatever. So one, the frequency of your laugh, you
694
00:41:01.909 --> 00:41:04.039
get to do that more. Cause I think people, it just,
695
00:41:04.280 --> 00:41:09.219
it just blows people wide open. And secondly, say that again.
696
00:41:09.920 --> 00:41:12.139
Freedom, freedom, freedom.
697
00:41:12.579 --> 00:41:15.639
Yes. It's the freedom. And secondly is I had a
698
00:41:15.659 --> 00:41:18.380
client yesterday and she was talking about boredom. Interesting how
699
00:41:18.420 --> 00:41:22.260
this is all like, you know, the synchronicities walking in
700
00:41:22.320 --> 00:41:25.070
here today, but she's talking about boredom. And what I
701
00:41:25.110 --> 00:41:28.750
did is I elicited her strategy for, cause she does
702
00:41:28.789 --> 00:41:31.329
a lot of doom scrolling, she said. And I said, okay,
703
00:41:31.349 --> 00:41:34.150
let's walk through your strategy. Like, how do you know
704
00:41:34.210 --> 00:41:36.690
it's time to scroll? And she went and she had
705
00:41:36.710 --> 00:41:39.780
to uncover, right? Do some excavating to uncover what was there.
706
00:41:40.030 --> 00:41:41.619
And she goes, oh, I get bored. And then I
707
00:41:41.679 --> 00:41:44.079
reach for my phone. And I'm like, Oh God.
708
00:41:44.139 --> 00:41:44.860
Yeah. I am.
709
00:41:44.920 --> 00:41:50.179
So we're so multi-passionate creatives. I cannot stand, which I
710
00:41:50.219 --> 00:41:52.260
think that's why we're busy bodies is I cannot stand
711
00:41:52.280 --> 00:41:53.880
to be bored. Like I need to be creating, I
712
00:41:53.880 --> 00:41:56.179
need to start another business. I need to be doing something,
713
00:41:56.579 --> 00:42:00.039
you know, but allowing yourself to like, okay, all right.
714
00:42:00.079 --> 00:42:02.840
Is this boredom? Right. And if it's boredom, how could
715
00:42:02.889 --> 00:42:06.769
I make this boredom, make it create more money for me?
716
00:42:06.809 --> 00:42:12.119
Right. Absolutely. I, so I was so bored. I'm going
717
00:42:12.139 --> 00:42:13.269
to be honest with you.
718
00:42:13.329 --> 00:42:13.829
Yes.
719
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So I shut down my coaching business.
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I saw that, you know, because I've been a coach
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since 2009. And when you said, I'm going to shut down,
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I'm like, go girl. Cause there's so many times you're like,
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I'm done messing with these remedials that don't even get it.
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You know? I mean, I'm not, I'm just saying that
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to be fun, but you know, I'm just done. So
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you shut down your coaching business.
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I shut down my coaching business. And the reason why
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I shut it down is because I was bored. I
729
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was bored talking about multidimensionality. I was like, I have
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mastered this and I don't mean to come off as
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like someone who, you know, I was so bored out
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of my mind because I have astral traveled and I
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have all of these different concepts. And how am I
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going to sit here and just teach people about it?
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That's so boring. I would never listen to, I would
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never go into a classroom and just listen to somebody teaching.
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I want to experience it. And so my coaching business,
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while I was enjoying my time with my clients and
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they were superb and they were honestly amazing. such incredible
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human beings. And at the pace they were moving, I
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was like, let's go, let's go. I was like, I'm
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so bored because it's not translating online. I don't know
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how to translate this online. I can't just take my
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entire experience and dilute it to a 30 second, a
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one minute video. I am bored. So I shut it down.
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I took the summer and I was like, you know what?
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There are a few things that I want to get
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out of my system, just clean out of my life.
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And I decided that I wanted to run an academy.
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Yes.
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People to be players in their games. I wanted to,
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so I understood this whole concept that life is a
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game and we get to be players and we get
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to choose. Well, I want to build this out.
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I am bored.
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Built it out, built out the academy, built out everything.
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The academy has not been launched yet. It's going to
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be launched this winter.
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Okay.
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Okay, I want to elevate this. I don't want to
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just be this one person who used to show up
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and talk to people from this perspective. I want to
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do it at the highest level because I want to
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remind people that we're here to play. We're all so bored.
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We're so bored.
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And this is why women need to, yes, this is
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why women need to get into spaces and swim in
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00:44:51.989 --> 00:44:54.670
each other's energy is because we're bored, but then they
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show up in their, their complete authentic expression with no judgment.
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And however that is, you know, I've done, I'm sure
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you've done several retreats too, but I even get it.
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bored on that too because I'm like I don't need
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you to be teaching me I just want to dance
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around and you know growl and act like a leopard
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that I am you know it's just like don't give
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me another framework that's not what I need right.
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And that is the thing that I've been working on
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is how do you give somebody a framework by showcasing
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your story a little bit so they can relate to
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it but also have it be interactive because oh my
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god like sitting there and I've tried it out They've
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been successful, but not in the way that I wanted
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because I was experimenting. Right. Because I wasn't there. You
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can't sell something to someone if you wouldn't digest it yourself. Right. Right.
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So if I'm creating these frameworks and these classes for people,
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would I buy them? Would I attend them? No, like
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for me, I would not do that unless it was
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very specific, unless I was interacting with that person, unless
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I felt like I was in the room with them.
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So for me, public speaking is so wonderful because that's
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what I like. I create motivational videos because that's what
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I consume. So if there's anything that I would encourage
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your audience listeners to engage with is create what you
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would consume.
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Yes, yes.
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Because you're creating more of you.
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Yeah, I love that. Create what you consume because you're
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creating more of you. And that changes too. Like I
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was consuming in the fetal stages of me growing my
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coaching business, I was consuming all of the personal health
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and growth and development, you know, podcasts that I could
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00:46:49.610 --> 00:46:52.099
get my hands on from, you know, the greats of
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00:46:52.159 --> 00:46:54.739
Tony Robbins all the way down to Australia, you know,
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like all of it. And now I'm like, so bored
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because it's like that level of mastery. I'm like, okay.
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So then I just call in my guides. I am like, okay,
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what is my conscious level of, What does my consciousness
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need to do to, I want to evolve to the
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next level. What do I need?
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Right.
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And so you get to create more of you. I
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love that message.
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Creating more of what you love opens up pathways for
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you to create more of what you love. And then
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you meet people who are also doing the same thing.
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And now you're living, not in just the, this frequency
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of joy, but you're actually living in a world where
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you're creating your own world. because a lot of people
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are not creating their own worlds. They are given frameworks,
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which there are general frameworks that anyone can apply. But
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the point is the way you're living your life, the
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way I'm living my life, the way that any listener
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is living their lives are going to be different because
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we're trying to create different things. And so understanding what
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you're trying to create is super, super important. understanding the
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vision and allowing it to evolve with you and allowing
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it to be edited but understanding that you're moving towards
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something that's bigger than you which is this bigger version
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of you right there's more of you the whole point
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of our human experience is to be more of ourselves
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and so as much space as you can take up
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in your own life is it is so important because
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that is the gift we're all giving to each other
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and ourselves. There is enough space for you, for me,
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for all of us to create, to be ourselves and
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to give to the world. But if you don't want
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to give, you don't have to just give to yourself.
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Yeah. Just give to yourself. I love it.
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Right. And so if there's anything that I want to
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leave you with today is you can have everything you want,
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especially as a woman, as a human being,
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You can have none of it.
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You can have them all at the same time. You
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don't have to choose. The other day I was at
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the grocery store and I was like, should I choose
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between the sleep tea or the beauty day tea? And
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then I looked at them both and I was like,
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I can have both. Why would I need to choose
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between either or?
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And it's like, yes, I've done that with outfits too.
854
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I'm like, do I get this shirt or that shirt?
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I'm like, can you just buy both to collapse time
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and move forward to whatever you want to do?
857
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Exactly. Exactly. And so do what you want to do,
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live by your own set of rules, allow yourself to
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evolve by holding the standard that You are perfect as
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you are, and you are moving towards this version of
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you that is more perfect, not in the way that
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we've been told what perfection is, but define it as
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embodying all of me, being authentically myself and receiving everything
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that I want. And another thing, if you engage with men,
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especially in a heterosexual environment, but I wasn't any. If
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they're doing something for you, you are gifting them the
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opportunity to show up in your world and interact with you.
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So they're not doing you a favor. The opportunity to
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interact with you and you're not above them. You're simply
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allowing them into your world and do not let people
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come into your world without offerings. Do not let people
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come into your world without offerings because that's a form
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of respect. And don't go into other people's homes, literally
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their worlds, without an offering. That's just a form of respect.
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I have something for you. You have something for me.
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And we are here to co-create it. you know, with
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each other and together.
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So I love that. I speak about reciprocity all the time.
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It's just like, yes, I'm a giver, but there's gotta
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be some sort of a reciprocity back. You know, we
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need to honor the sacred exchange of energy.
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Right.
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And, and I love that go in with an offering.
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My gosh, I am so thankful. that I was able
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to swim in your energy today. And this, this radio
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show is going to go out to millions of people.
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And I'm so glad because the core crux of this
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is be who you are. It's come back to your
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remembering show up in your authentic space. Where can our
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listeners find you? I know for me, like I could
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just binge watch your stuff. If I'm having like an
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off day, I never have bad days. I have bad moments.
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But if I have an off day, I'm like, oh
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my gosh, I know where to go. And I could
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just binge watch your stuff. But where can our listeners
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find you? What's up next? And what's happening next? So
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we know what's going on.
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Yes. So you can find me at butaina.marim. That is
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my handle for everything. Just look up my name and
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you can find it spelled out in the description. I
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am launching an academy. I've launched the Game of Life Society,
902
00:52:07.889 --> 00:52:10.579
which has different private clubs that you can subscribe to
903
00:52:10.639 --> 00:52:13.940
and get access to different frameworks and interactions and just
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Lifestyle and fun. And there is another club that will
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00:52:18.360 --> 00:52:21.719
be launched this winter called the Masters Club. And that's
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where you can find the academy. And again, the point
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is to teach people that this is a game and
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you can choose whatever game you want to, whether that's business,
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whether that's relationships and whatnot, and just be yourself, master it.
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And have fun. The point is to have fun.
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I love it. Thank you so much for being here.
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I hope you have a fantastic day and we'll talk soon.
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Thank you for joining Tisha Marie Kane for Beyond Mindset Limits.
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Tune in every Wednesday at 4 p.m. as the conversation
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