Breaking the Silence: Miscarriage, Grief, and Finding Community

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All Things Conceivable, a surrogacy podcast with Nazca Fontes.
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Hi, everyone. My name is Christy Miller, and I have the incredible honor today
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of stepping in for Nazca Fontes as your host for this episode of All Things Conceivable.
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I'm the manager of the mental health team at Conceivabilities,
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and I work with surrogates and intended
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parents, navigating the emotional complexities of family building.
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Including infertility, pregnancy loss, and grief.
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Because October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month,
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today we wanted to make space for an important conversation that touches so
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many families but doesn't always get the attention it deserves.
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I am joined by Jen Sinrich, a longtime parenting and health journalist,
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mom of three, and founder of the Mother Chapter and Miscarriage Movement.
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After experiencing pregnancy loss herself, Jen created a platform to help others
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feel less alone and find support, information, and community.
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Jen, thank you so much for being here and for sharing your perspective with
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us. Thank you so much for having me and truly making space for this kind of
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a conversation, especially this time of year.
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Absolutely. We're honored to have you.
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And Jen, for listeners who may not know you yet, can you please tell us a little
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bit about yourself, your family, and your career? Of course. I'm a journalist.
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I got my start working in New York City at Parenting and Pregnancy Magazines.
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I was a very young 20-something with no parenting experience,
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but for some reason I was just very drawn to that space, creating life and the
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journey that it takes to get there.
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And I learned very quickly that it's not a linear process for most people.
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And I was at What to Expect When You're Expecting, Parents Magazine,
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Fit Pregnancy, American Baby.
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And then I became a mom myself.
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And I learned even more about how you can spend a career writing about everything
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having to do with creating a family and the road to get there,
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but know nothing when it comes to your time.
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So after I had my first daughter, I actually had two miscarriages back to back,
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which was a really devastating time where I felt incredibly isolated and alone
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despite having a wonderful husband and family.
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Supporting me the best that they could, I felt that there were very limited
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resources during the process.
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And that's really what inspired me to create Miscarriage Movement
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as a space to give voice to the experiences of women who've gone through loss
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in all different shapes and forms so that other women going through it like I was.
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Did not feel so alone.
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Absolutely. And I'm so sorry that you've had that experience of loss yourself. Yeah.
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Can you share a little bit more about the mother chapter and miscarriage movement?
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What are the differences between those platforms? And tell a little bit more
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about how you see those affecting and impacting the people involved.
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On the outset, you might think that they are completely different topics.
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Miscarriage movement focuses on infertility and pregnancy loss,
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while the mother chapter focuses on the identity changes that come along with the matricence.
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Of becoming a mother in the postpartum period, which we always like to say is forever.
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I'm not limited to a year or anything numerical.
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So what is so similar about the two platforms is that it all comes back to wanting
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the person going through the process to feel understood in an experience that
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can be incredibly lonely.
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Miscarriage is very lonely, of course. It seems a little bit more understanding
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to feel that pain and that isolation from people in your life who don't seem
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to understand what you're going through.
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But postpartum is very similar to that isolation experience and to not know
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what to expect while you're going through it.
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And so both of the platforms really come from a place of trying to give women
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a voice during a process where it can be incredibly difficult. Okay, absolutely.
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Well, you know, it's October. That's one of the reasons Since we're having this
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conversation here today just to honor Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.
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How do you feel about having this time of year to focus on this topic?
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And why do you feel it's important to dedicate this time to recognizing experiences of loss?
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I think having a month that focuses on pregnancy and infant loss,
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it creates an opening for something that people really often don't know how to bring up.
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Not only do they not know how to bring it up, but they don't know the right wording.
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To speak about something so unique and individual and personalized.
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And that wording matters so much for somebody going through pregnancy loss.
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For someone who's experienced loss herself, seeing it acknowledged publicly
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is so meaningful, especially if the people around, you know,
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you haven't really recognized it.
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They might not know what to say or what to do or how to support you.
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But for example, on October 15th, there's the wave of light where you can light
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a candle in honor of a pregnancy loss or an infant loss.
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And that is a simple way to come together and show that you're remembering the
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pregnancy or the baby loss.
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It's also an opportunity to help people really better understand miscarriage
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and stillbirth and infant loss and that their distinct experiences and that
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even people with similar kinds of losses, they may feel very differently and
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they may grieve the process very differently.
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Absolutely, absolutely. It's common, and yet there are differences in how people
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experience those losses.
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Why do you think that there is still such a silence around loss and what needs
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to change? What would be helpful in changing that?
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Yeah, as painful it is when someone doesn't seem to understand how it feels.
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It really does come from a place of just being uncomfortable of not knowing
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how to fix something that can be fixed.
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I think that whether it's, you know, your partner, your friend,
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your parent, colleague, you
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know, they want to be able to offer something that could make it better.
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And sometimes, especially when it comes down to loss, there's just nothing that
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can be said or done to make the situation any different or better.
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But to the person going through it, sometimes silence can just feel like their
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loss doesn't matter or that they need to get over it or that they need to move on.
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There's also this expectation that you should keep an early pregnancy private
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in case something goes wrong, which I don't see how that serves anybody but
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the society and the people around that person.
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It's not helping the person grieving a pregnancy that might not be going right
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or knowing that they're having a loss.
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Privacy can be someone's choice, absolutely, and I think there's nothing wrong
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with keeping an early pregnancy private, but I also don't think it should feel
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like it's an obligation to keep it private to protect everyone else from difficult news.
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So we need to make talking about law something that's more possible and okay
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and open without making it like a disclosure or another expectation.
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People deserve support, whether or not they share it publicly. Absolutely.
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If you're comfortable sharing, would you be open to telling us a little more about.
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Your own experiences of loss and what did help and maybe what didn't help when
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you were going through those intense times of grief?
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Yeah. With my first pregnancy loss, you know, I was very excited.
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I found out I was pregnant and surprised my husband with a little card and we
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were so excited and we did what we felt like we were supposed to do,
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which was to not share our news with our family right away.
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And even though we were so excited to do it, we started planning out when we're going to tell them.
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And unfortunately, we got some very bad news, our second ultrasound,
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that there was no longer a heartbeat.
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And then telling our family and our friends at that point, it was so painful.
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I remember telling a friend, so I need to talk to you.
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I was pregnant. And then she's like, congratulations. And I said, no, no, no, no.
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I had a pregnancy loss and it was just a very difficult way to express what had happened to me.
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And I started to think, you know, if I want to share this news with these people
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in my life, why did I feel that I had to wait to share that with them until
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a certain amount of weeks had gone by?
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Which anyone who's experienced a later loss knows that there's never a guaranteed
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time where you can share news to ensure that nothing can go wrong.
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So I really started to realize that rule of not sharing that news really doesn't
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serve anyone but society as a whole in this blanket treatment of how it's expected
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that a person should deal with pregnancy loss.
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Yeah, absolutely. And I can imagine that was incredibly difficult to have to
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share all of that news at once.
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And you talked about, you know, people have different experiences and make different
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choices about what they share, when they share things.
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And the impact of grief, of course, can affect people differently.
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What have you learned from people who have found their way to miscarriage movement
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about, you know, what they may need most and what are some different ways that that can look?
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I always come back to is the importance of believing a person about what that
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experience might feel like and mean to them.
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There's all of these sayings people love to offer up like, oh,
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well, at least you know you can get pregnant or at least it was early or whatever
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it is. First of all, if it starts with at least, just hold back and don't say anything at all.
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The best way to support is to send a message or say out loud,
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you know, I'm thinking of you. I am here for you.
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How are you handling everything? It just gives somebody an opening without having a period at the end.
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Leaving it with a question mark leaves it in the person's hands that's going
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through the process. You also shouldn't have to explain why you're grieving
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or convince somebody that, you know, your loss was big enough or worthy enough to deserve support.
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So I'm also careful not to assume that everybody, like, needs the same thing.
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Might want to tell their whole story in detail, they might want to write an
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essay about it, and somebody else might want nobody to ever know.
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And there's nothing wrong with either. But the bottom line is that both individuals
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with different preferences on how they want to share or if they want to share
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should feel supported in the decision to or to not. Absolutely. Absolutely.
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Pregnancy loss, of course, can be part of a longer fertility journey.
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And we see this a lot at Conceivabilities with intended parents who have maybe
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experienced loss on their path to choosing surrogacy. So there's often.
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Uncertainty, some fear, some anxiety about those next steps and trying again.
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Could you share a little about your own experience with trying again after loss?
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And what would you say, you know, any advice for better supporting others facing
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that same uncertainty about whether or how they'll become parents?
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I think that it is very individualized as most of this this process of grieving
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and coping and pushing forward is.
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But for me, what was most helpful after going through, you know,
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back-to-back losses, each pregnancy loss gave me almost less hope at first.
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At first, it just felt so devastating. How could this happen? This isn't normal.
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Pregnancy loss, despite it happening to one in four pregnancies,
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and that's not one in four people. That's one in four pregnancies.
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It's obviously very incredibly common, but back-to-back losses are a lot less common.
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They happen to about 1% to 2% of people conceiving. And so after that process,
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I felt in the beginning, like, how could this be happening to me?
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But I sought out fertility treatment to do what I could to optimize my chances
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of hopefully not having another pregnancy loss.
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And what helped me most mentally was to remind myself what was in and what was not in my control.
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There's so much when it comes to fertility that we like to take on as a burden
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emotionally and physically and mentally.
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But so little is really in our control when you look at, you know,
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the research, whether or not you drink one or two cups of coffee,
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whether you have a glass of wine, whether you don't, whether you exercise,
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whether you exercise too much.
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I started digging into every little detail. Maybe I'm running too much.
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Maybe I'm running too fast. Maybe I should just walk.
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All of these things. And when I finally just kind of said to myself,
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you know what, this is not your fault.
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That was so freeing. And I think that was the one thing, if anything, that really helped me.
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When I finally got pregnant with my third child, I was at first,
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you know, incredibly scared.
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Like, how do I make sure that this isn't my third pregnancy loss in a row?
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But I remember walking into that ultrasound room and giving myself a mantra
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of, this is not in your control. This is not in your control.
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And that was just very freeing because I felt like no matter what happens,
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it's not my fault. It's not something I did or didn't do.
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Absolutely. I think that's such an important reminder.
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And I know a lot of our surrogates and intended parents feel that so intensely,
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just that desire to control things in this process that we can't ultimately control.
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So always a great reminder there.
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In your experience, Jen, working with a fertility clinic and others in your own platforms,
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what role do you believe that fertility specialists and other family building
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organizations can play in helping people feel supported as they're exploring
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their own family building options?
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I think they have a pivotal role and a giant responsibility to support the.
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Hopeful or expecting parent in ways that I think a lot of times,
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you know, the patient doesn't experience the most emotional support.
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And I think that what I mean by that is just because a fertility clinic,
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for example, might be offering the service of here's how we look at your blood work.
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Here's how we analyze your statistics, your chances.
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Here's what we recommend and here's why It's very science-based a lot of times.
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And I think that the number one need is that emotional layer of support.
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That's what I think is so wonderful about Conceivabilities is that Conceivabilities
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provides that layer of emotional support alongside other types of support.
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So without that emotional layer, it just is not sufficient enough in my opinion.
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So I think that ensuring that fertility clinics especially are able to offer
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that as well, I think would significantly improve.
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The experience for patients. Okay. Yeah, absolutely.
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I know the path to parenthood doesn't look the same for everyone.
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And within your platforms, can you talk a little bit about, you know,
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different family building paths you've seen others take?
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And how do you and how can we all create more open conversations about these
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different paths to family building without making options about what someone
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should choose or what's best or...
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Those preconceived notions that people often have. I think it starts with asking
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whether someone wants to talk about their situation and about their options
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before offering up opinions.
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Those unsolicited comments seem to come at all stages of life.
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And for some reason, the path to parenthood is one where there seems to be no
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boundaries. So a person sharing their pain and their experience isn't necessarily
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asking the other person to solve it for them.
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And we also need to be incredibly careful with the word just.
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Just do IVF. Just use a surrogate.
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Because it makes something so personal and so incredibly complicated sound so simple.
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And that the other person knows what they're talking about, which 99.99% of
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the time they really don't.
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So I think being open about the different paths is, it means making room for
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people's choices, which might and very well possibly does include choices that
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we wouldn't make for ourselves.
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So someone might want to explore treatment, they might want to explore egg donation
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or surrogacy, and they may need to take a break or decide, you know,
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not to pursue one path or another.
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And so the bottom line, though, is that they really deserve the respect without
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having to defend that decision to every single person in their life.
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Absolutely. What do you feel is important for people to understand about navigating
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some of those transitions, whether it's,
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you know, going from trying on your own to pursuing fertility treatment to considering
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egg donation or surrogacy?
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What have you learned just from your own work? I think you owe nobody an explanation.
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You don't have to explain why you're doing something, why you're not doing something.
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You don't have to explain your timeline. You don't have to explain even something
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so simple as when you want to have another child or have a child.
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You don't have to explain anything. And one of my favorite fertility experts
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is Dr. Laura Shaheen. She's a reproductive endocrinologist.
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And she speaks about how, you know, the casual questions that are often asked
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at Thanksgiving or Christmas are about family planning are incredibly invasive
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and oftentimes very inappropriate.
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And so I do love her suggestion of kind of how to handle it.
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And the way that she prefers to say it is, you know, reproduction is not small
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talk. And you can just end it there.
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You don't have to continue. I think they should get the memo at that point.
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And it's not, you know, being rude or anything.
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In fact, it's, you know, you're answering a very rude question in the first
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place. So I think that's important to lean into. And you do not owe anybody
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an explanation of your choices or even, you know, what you're going through
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unless you want to talk about it.
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Absolutely. I think it can be empowering to set those kinds of boundaries and
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to have something simple like that to say to shift the conversation,
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I think, is incredibly powerful.
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Jen, since launching the miscarriage movement, can you talk about,
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you know, any shifts that you've noticed in how openly people might be discussing
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pregnancy loss and where might you say that we still have work to do?
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So I think that there's so much more work to do as a society.
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In the miscarriage space, we think we're being very loud and encouraging to
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be open and to provide resources for people going through pregnancy loss and infertility as well.
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But I think that as a society, there needs to be a shift.
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There needs to be so that your boss at work knows how to handle you saying,
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I need time off because I just gone through a pregnancy loss.
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And it should be inappropriate for you to share that if you'd like to share
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that. It's a human experience, just like, you know, someone in your family passing away.
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It's a type of grief that should be honored and respected on a society level.
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So I think that until we're at the place where that is as acceptable as any
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other kind of loss that occurs in life, then I think there's still work to be done.
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Right. I 100% agree.
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What would you say to someone listening who has experienced a loss but maybe
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hasn't felt comfortable sharing their story or is...
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Looking for resources but maybe isn't sure where to begin?
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First of all, you don't owe anyone your story in order for your loss to matter.
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If you keep it to yourself, it's just as important as if you decide to share
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it, as if you decide to tell, you know, your friends to post about it on social
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media, but you don't have to post about it or to, you know, to find some bigger purpose in it.
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So keeping it private doesn't mean that you're doing anything wrong or you're
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handling it wrong or that you're grieving wrong.
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If there's a part of you that wants support, but you don't know where to begin,
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you can always just start small by telling someone in your life,
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something happened that I'm having a hard time with and I don't want advice.
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I just want to be able to tell you what's going on and I'd like you to listen.
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But if you're not ready to talk about it, I think that's completely okay.
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And my hope is simply that more people know that there are support.
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Organizations out there, their support platforms like Miscarriage Movement,
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and that there are people who do take that experience incredibly seriously whenever
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that person might be ready to reach out for support. That's great. That's great to hear.
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What are some meaningful ways that you've seen people recognize Pregnancy and
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Infant Loss Awareness Month or support others they care about?
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And how have you recognized this time of year?
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I've checked in with my friends and family who I know have had a loss.
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I honor my own pregnancy losses as well. As I mentioned, October 15th was a
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wave of light. I think that's a very simple and uniting way for everybody who's
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experienced a pregnancy loss to kind of come together and honor that experience.
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If you know someone who's experienced a loss, checking in in a private,
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thoughtful way can be so much more meaningful than a generic awareness post.
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You could say something like, I know this month might bring up a lot for you.
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I'm thinking of you. You don't have to respond.
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If they shared a name or maybe something more specific like a date.
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It's important for you to remember that information.
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I think if they're sharing it because it's so important to them.
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So keeping track of it, like in your calendar app and just sending a text message
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or giving them a call and just saying, you know, I know this day brings up a
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lot for you. I'm here for you.
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And follow their lead on whether or not they do want to talk about something.
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Those are great, great pieces of advice there.
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I know sometimes remembering those dates, there can be some fear,
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I think, in reaching out, you know, not wanting to bring up something that might,
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cause discomfort or cause more grief. And I think that's probably also a misconception
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that you have seen too, just that bringing it up might bring up harder feelings
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when that grief is there.
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And so recognizing it can actually be the more meaningful choice rather than
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avoiding talking about it.
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Yes, absolutely. And the goal, I think, is to just to help somebody feel like
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they're being thought of and their experience is being honored and remembered
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without like putting them on the spot.
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And if you're, you know, if you're sharing awareness content,
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always be careful to not reveal someone else's experience without making sure
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that they give you permission to do so. Absolutely. Absolutely.
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Well, Jen, is there anything more that you would like to share about the mother
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chapter or the miscarriage movement just in how you support others through those platforms.
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Yeah, I mean, you can find us on Instagram. We also have our own websites,
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both. So it's themotherchapter.com and miscarriage.com.
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And on both platforms, we publish essays from real women going through,
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you know, miscarriage, surrogacy, pregnancy loss.
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And we're always looking for, you know, more people to come forward with their
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stories, and they can do so anonymously.
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They absolutely do not have to share their story with, you know, using their name.
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They can use a, you know, a different name if they would like,
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but these stories serve such an important purpose.
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Not only is it so therapeutic as any, you know, windows to journal and to write,
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but also to provide proof to someone,
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searching that they're not alone, that my experience is here for you to read
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because I don't want you to go through something similar and feel like you're the only one.
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And so across both platforms, my hope is that someone reads something and thinks,
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wow, that's what I've been trying to say.
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But also, you don't have to share your experience to be part of our community.
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So please, you know, reach out, even if it's just to share something. That's great.
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I can completely understand that in the midst of grief or experiencing an unexpected
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blast, that reading someone else's story and about how they've processed that
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and sought support, that that can.
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Help someone feel less isolated in that experience.
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So thank you for creating these platforms and facilitating this community to
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help people feel less alone.
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Is there anything else, Jen, that you would like to share or any other thoughts
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about your own experience or words of wisdom for anyone else who may have experienced loss?
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Yeah, I would just say that, you know, life can be very difficult and pregnancy
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loss and infertility is one of the most painful journeys to go through.
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And there's no guarantee that you're going to come out on the right side of
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it at the end, which is also incredibly painful to experience.
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But, you know, miracles happen every day. Throughout the process,
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you reaching out to support platforms and hearing stories,
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of success is a wonderful way to keep your spirits up and to remind you that,
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you know, as arduous as the journey is, there's always,
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you know, another day to put the rifle forward mentally and provide yourself
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with that, you know, positive attitude and support.
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That can help you carry through.
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That's wonderful. Thank you so much for sharing your story and helping us make
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room for a conversation that definitely should happen more often.
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And just in closing, I want to share that pregnancy and infant loss and infertility,
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the many different paths people take to build their families,
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are obviously very deeply personal experiences that can be very emotional.
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So everyone deserves compassion, understanding, and support wherever they are in their journey.
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And Jen, you've definitely shed light on so many different aspects of all of
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that in our conversation today. So thank you again for your time.
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Thank you so much for having me. It means so much to be able to talk about pregnancy
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loss and my own experience. And I also hope that someone listening can feel
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a little less alone because of it. Absolutely.
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Thank you so much again, Jen.
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Nazca always shares an aha moment at the end of each podcast episode that she
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does. And I wanted to share my own today after my conversation with Jen.
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I think it's incredible to hear just how important community has been in Jen's
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own journey and experiences with loss where she has sought that out.
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She's created that for others to help people feel less of their experiences of loss so i just want to,
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highlight that and and also highlight that,
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great advice she shared about kind of letting go of that need to control things
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in the process and accepting that we don't often have control in in our family
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building and fertility journeys and yet there is still,
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hope there is still community.
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There are others who've been through what we're going through who are there
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to help us if we know how to look in the right places.
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And I hope that those listening will seek out Jen and her platforms if needed
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for that extra support along their own journeys.
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