Bản chép lời đầy đủ của Beating the Winter Blues, Starting the New Year Right – Emma Solo (Ep.31)

00:05:11.346 But most of us don't like that, and I raised my hand, especially me. 00:05:11.346 --> 00:05:22.783 So I understand this condition, right, it could take a toll if we don't do something about it, if we're not proactive about it, which I'm going to talk about and share all kinds of goodies on how to come back to all these things in part two of this presentation. 00:05:22.783 --> 00:05:24.607 So that it's a lot. 00:05:24.607 --> 00:05:26.129 So that was number two. 00:05:26.670 --> 00:05:30.817 Then we go into reason number three, the financial strain. 00:05:30.817 --> 00:05:40.720 Now some people are really good at being minimalist, not spending a lot, sticking to a budget, but most people are not and they really enjoy the holidays. 00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:42.392 They really love to treat their loved ones themselves. 00:05:42.392 --> 00:05:43.153 They really enjoy the holidays. 00:05:43.153 --> 00:05:49.026 They really love to treat their loved ones themselves, take advantage of all the offers, all the sales, all the things. 00:05:49.026 --> 00:06:04.151 And that adds up the additional expenses of the holidays on potentially already a strained budget, if that's the case for you, or a strained financial situation, and even if it isn't, but you still spent a lot. 00:06:04.151 --> 00:06:08.024 That doesn't feel so good, sometimes in January, right. 00:06:08.024 --> 00:06:11.583 So it's all fun and games when you're doing it, but then afterwards you're like, oh, what did I do? 00:06:11.583 --> 00:06:13.228 That was so much excess. 00:06:13.228 --> 00:06:19.973 And also something else that adds to the financial thing, even if you didn't go crazy with the gifting or the celebrating. 00:06:20.737 --> 00:06:23.625 Sometimes you put things in place for the new year, right. 00:06:23.625 --> 00:06:38.560 So those are additional expenses, like joining a gym or whatever subscriptions or memberships you might buy, or getting coach or whatever things you might do that adds to that financial burden. 00:06:38.560 --> 00:06:46.733 Or maybe you kick off whatever projects and things that carry a financial tag to them. 00:06:46.733 --> 00:06:48.963 So that's number three. 00:06:48.963 --> 00:06:51.571 Like you're adding all this financial stress. 00:06:51.571 --> 00:06:56.572 So even if you have money, you might still be feeling this just because you spent a lot more than usual. 00:06:57.899 --> 00:07:05.365 Then reason number four and this one and the reason five are the ones that I love because they are the ones that we could. 00:07:05.365 --> 00:07:12.007 Well, I was going to say that you could really do something about, but you could do something about the other ones too, and I'm going to actually show you what. 00:07:12.007 --> 00:07:14.608 But these are the ones that, to me, feel fun. 00:07:14.608 --> 00:07:23.745 The things that you want to put in place for this next two are the fun things that you could be proactive about and have fun with, and so let me just share what they are. 00:07:23.745 --> 00:07:32.884 So at first it might not sound fun, right, but just wait until I tell you the solutions and they are fun. 00:07:32.904 --> 00:07:34.069 But so number four is unfulfilled New Year's resolutions. 00:07:34.069 --> 00:07:36.237 Now you might be saying I don't even have resolutions, I don't do that. 00:07:36.237 --> 00:07:39.682 That's silly, like that's so old school, we don't do that. 00:07:39.682 --> 00:07:47.987 But you might have some kind of an idea of things that you want to start in the new year, some intentions, some new habits. 00:07:47.987 --> 00:08:03.855 And then come around this time of the month and you didn't really stick with those intentions or with those ideas, with those air quotes, goals if you want to call them goals or things that you just wanted to try, new practices, new habits. 00:08:04.456 --> 00:08:24.264 You might have gotten strong for the first few days coming off of that, like I was saying before that momentum from the holidays, you're like woohoo and you put all these things in place and you might be doing really well for a few days, and then the regular routine takes its hold and you're back to your usual and you're not feeling so hot about that, because now it feels hopeless. 00:08:24.264 --> 00:08:33.176 Whatever changes you wanted to make, you're off the path already and you're beating yourself up potentially over that, and so you might feel discouraged. 00:08:33.176 --> 00:08:36.798 You're not making progress or you already gave up on those things and that doesn't feel so good. 00:08:36.798 --> 00:08:40.789 And then number five is lack of motivation. 00:08:40.789 --> 00:09:09.644 So with everything that we just talked about, it's very hard to feel motivated, to feel inspired, to feel the oomph to stick to whatever we want to do or to even start the things that we want to start or to just even have the energy to do the regular life right, because all these things could take a toll, and so we're not feel so good, we're like, meh right, we're barely moving around or we're just drudging through our days. 00:09:09.644 --> 00:09:22.841 We're barely making it, and so what I want to do now is offer you a few things I want to cover it into three different kind of areas on how to tackle all of that. 00:09:22.841 --> 00:09:33.905 So, again, you could either beat the winter blues, if you're already experiencing them, or get ahead of them and be preventative if you usually get them, or, just in case, this is a year that you happen to get them, so you don't get them right. 00:09:33.905 --> 00:09:34.708 So you could get ahead of this. 00:09:34.708 --> 00:09:43.066 And let me throw another thing in there, and that is that you might be doing amazing, and then what I'm gonna offer is gonna help you do even better. 00:09:43.066 --> 00:09:55.818 All right, so as I go, I'm also going to share all the resources that I have in my repertoire of content in all of the places,

so that you could access additional support for yourself. 00:09:55.818 --> 00:09:58.768 Some of it is free, some of it is paid, very minimal. 00:09:58.768 --> 00:10:08.822 I'm going to show you how to get access very, very accessible things so that you could have your own back and minimize the stress and get ahead of this thing. 00:10:08.822 --> 00:10:13.592 Okay, so number one is managing the feelings and your state. 00:10:14.780 --> 00:10:17.145 Now there's a bunch of things that we could do here. 00:10:17.145 --> 00:10:38.230 Number one let me just say that if you're really struggling and you're really feeling that seasonal affective disorder or depression, or you're really feeling down and blue or you have a tendency to struggle with your mood, please get professional assistance so you could go to therapy anywhere you want. 00:10:38.230 --> 00:10:39.524 Of course we are here for you. 00:10:39.524 --> 00:10:45.789 If that serves you, you could contact us through the contact page on our website, metrorelationshipcom. 00:10:45.789 --> 00:10:48.957 We also have a Get Started tab there. 00:10:48.957 --> 00:10:51.082 We have some other things that you could check out on our website. 00:10:51.082 --> 00:10:54.451 If you need a deeper level of support, we're here for you. 00:10:54.451 --> 00:10:55.602 Please don't struggle on your own. 00:10:55.602 --> 00:10:56.345 It doesn't make sense. 00:10:56.345 --> 00:11:07.615 All right Now, if you're not at the side of the spectrum and you just want more support, of course you could always get professional support, no matter where you are on the spectrum, right, we could always help you have your back. 00:11:07.615 --> 00:11:11.447 But if you're really struggling, please definitely get support. 00:11:11.447 --> 00:11:17.126 So, regardless of where you're on the spectrum, all the things that I'm going to offer you will serve you. 00:11:17.287 --> 00:11:23.009 So, number one, we want to make sure that we are nurturing ourselves, that we're doing self-regulation. 00:11:23.009 --> 00:11:39.245 Our mood is going to be really out of whack because of the seasonal experience and everything else that I mentioned less dopamine, less excitement, less all of the things, different routine, everything and so we want to make sure that we self-regulate, we self-soothe. 00:11:39.245 --> 00:11:45.469 So, whatever that means for you, there is a ton of different resources and techniques that we could apply here. 00:11:45.469 --> 00:11:45.551 A few off the top of my head that will. 00:11:45.551 --> 00:11:46.434 For you, there is a ton of different resources and techniques that we could apply here. 00:11:46.434 --> 00:12:00.921 A few off the top of my head that will support you is doing things that give you joy journaling, meditation, deep breathing, eft, emotional freedom technique like the tapping where you just tap right. 00:12:00.921 --> 00:12:02.644 This regulates your nervous system. 00:12:02.644 --> 00:12:06.360 You can find all these resources online, also on our website. 00:12:06.360 --> 00:12:10.975 Check out the blog metro relationshipcom forward slash blog. 00:12:10.975 --> 00:12:13.743 I have a lot of articles there on different things to support you. 00:12:13.743 --> 00:12:22.427 You could even journaling deep breathing, mindfulness practices, gratitude practice, things of that nature. 00:12:22.427 --> 00:12:26.774 Reducing screen that will continue to mess with you. 00:12:27.033 --> 00:12:34.961 Okay, being kind to yourself, having compassion with yourself, for yourself, focus on things that you can control. 00:12:34.961 --> 00:12:36.206 You can't control the weather. 00:12:36.206 --> 00:12:40.523 You can't control whether it's snowing, how cold it is, but you can control how cute you look. 00:12:40.523 --> 00:12:49.394 Wear that cute scarf, wear warm clothing right, carry your mug with a nice hot coffee, get your Starbucks, whatever. 00:12:49.394 --> 00:12:55.557 Like all the things that you feel like you're nourishing yourself and you have your own back and you're taking care of yourself. 00:12:55.557 --> 00:13:08.065 These are very basic things, but we lose sight of these things when we're not feeling well, right, so just take some notes and start putting these things back in place for yourself, so you have your own back and you take care of yourself, your future self will. 00:13:08.065 --> 00:13:12.735 Now, those are just very, very basic. 00:13:12.955 --> 00:13:16.583 Then we go into your beliefs, your thoughts. 00:13:16.583 --> 00:13:17.004 Right. 00:13:17.004 --> 00:13:17.947 What are you telling yourself? 00:13:17.947 --> 00:13:27.485 Are you beating yourself up in terms of I'm a dummy, I can't stick to my intentions, my resolutions, whatever. 00:13:27.485 --> 00:13:28.206 I have no goals. 00:13:28.206 --> 00:13:29.349 I don't know what the heck I'm doing. 00:13:29.349 --> 00:13:34.801 This ear's kicking my butt, it's too cold, I hate this, I'm too depressed, I'm not motivated, I don't know what to do. 00:13:34.801 --> 00:13:37.984 Whatever things you're telling yourself and those are just some basic ones. 00:13:37.984 --> 00:13:50.999 You could go even darker is catching that for yourself, giving yourself a little pep talk, telling yourself it's okay that you are figuring it out. 00:13:50.999 --> 00:13:56.177 You have your own back, you're going to get yourself support if you need it and you're going to put the things in place that will have your back and nourish you. 00:13:56.177 --> 00:14:04.100 I'm going to say a few more in a second, and I know that when we are not feeling well, that's even hard to do this. 00:14:04.100 --> 00:14:05.884 Basic things, I get it Right. 00:14:06.125 --> 00:14:13.495 And so some of the things that you might be experiencing is like feeling discouraged, feeling guilt, feeling fear of being judged. 00:14:13.495 --> 00:14:17.124 You're not asking for help or going for help because there's stigma around that.

00:14:17.124 --> 00:14:17.846 Like what's wrong with me? 00:14:17.846 --> 00:14:18.768 Why can't I do this? 00:14:18.768 --> 00:14:21.162 Like I should just tough it out Right? 00:14:21.162 --> 00:14:22.085 Like that kind of stuff. 00:14:23.235 --> 00:14:27.845 There's an inertia to getting started, to getting moving, to putting the things in place. 00:14:27.845 --> 00:14:28.767 I get it. 00:14:28.767 --> 00:14:34.642 I understand it's hard to break that cycle of like just getting going and putting the things in place. 00:14:34.642 --> 00:14:39.816 You feel paralyzed like the whole new year ahead of time and I'm throwing in there a quarter of a century. 00:14:39.816 --> 00:14:41.480 That's even worse. 00:14:41.480 --> 00:14:42.783 Like well, what the heck right? 00:14:42.783 --> 00:14:48.174 Like oh my gosh, I don't know what the heck I'm doing tomorrow, nevermind 25 years from now, how I want my 25 years to look like. 00:14:48.174 --> 00:14:49.518 I get it. 00:14:49.518 --> 00:14:52.763 Okay, those things are to be inspirational. 00:14:52.763 --> 00:14:54.306 Just take it first. 00:14:54.306 --> 00:15:03.118 I view of things are not to you're not supposed to plan the next 25 years, but just kind of like thinking ahead, and I'm going to say more about that in a second. 00:15:03.118 --> 00:15:14.484 It's supposed to be inspiring, not overwhelming and scary, and so I get that those feelings that I experienced there, and to even do the things that you care of yourself might feel like too much and that you can't. 00:15:14.484 --> 00:15:16.793 So I'm going to show you what to do about that in a second. 00:15:16.793 --> 00:15:21.184 I just want to give you some more things to do first and then I'm going to tell you how to go about doing it. 00:15:21.765 --> 00:15:38.642 Some things that might help is like going back to whatever habits and interests you might have, your friend group, making sure that you have some connections there that you're putting in place, that your networks, your people, your family, your friends, like you, have something on a recurring basis. 00:15:38.642 --> 00:15:48.385 So you build that connection need that gets the whole nervous system and the whole thing that's out of whack, realigned and settled down right. 00:15:48.385 --> 00:15:52.441 So that's another way to self-soothe and co-regulate, setting boundaries. 00:15:52.441 --> 00:16:00.395 If you feel like anything that feels like too much, figure out how to do a smaller dose of it or putting on pause or addressing it so that you don't feel overwhelmed. 00:16:01.378 --> 00:16:07.589 And then, of course, the food, the movement, the sleep, the hydration. 00:16:07.589 --> 00:16:10.942 Again very basic, but, and again they go out the window usually. 00:16:10.942 --> 00:16:18.437 So get the nourishing food, get a little bit of movement, find a consistent sleep schedule. 00:16:18.437 --> 00:16:25.299 We've been off for a little while and therefore maybe staying up later, getting up later, we're a little out of whack. 00:16:25.299 --> 00:16:36.389 So just getting back into a rhythm of good sleep, those basic things like nourishment, sleep, hydration and movement, a little exercise, sleep, hydration and movement, a little exercise. 00:16:36.389 --> 00:16:49.392 Those will help you with your chemistry, right, with your brain chemistry, all your neurotransmitters, like all the things that make you feel good, so that we start getting ahead of what the funky chemistry is doing. 00:16:49.392 --> 00:16:55.288 And then you might want to add things like vitamin D, melatonin and light therapy. 00:16:55.975 --> 00:17:01.927 There are also things like grounding mats that you kind of get the nature dose in the fake way. 00:17:01.927 --> 00:17:07.968 You put your feet on that and it mimics the feel of being in nature. 00:17:07.968 --> 00:17:11.365 I believe the way it works is that it gives you the opposite charge. 00:17:11.365 --> 00:17:14.307 We have a tendency to be loaded, I think, in a negative charge and when you go on the mats, it gives you the opposite charge. 00:17:14.307 --> 00:17:18.059 We have a tendency to be loaded, I think, in a negative charge and when you go on the mats it gives you the positive charge. 00:17:18.059 --> 00:17:19.201 So it helps you. 00:17:19.762 --> 00:17:25.182 Your magnetics in your body, the things that might make you feel off, get realigned. 00:17:25.182 --> 00:17:34.643 That was not very good science, guys, sorry, but you can look it up for yourself and see what that, the research behind that, how it works, and something else to check out. 00:17:34.643 --> 00:17:40.323 So the light therapy might be a very good source of, like you get the fake sunlight in the grounding mat, you get the fake nature. 00:17:40.323 --> 00:17:48.419 So those two things, the fake grass, so those two things might be really helpful to help the body, kind of like realign and recharge and re-nourish itself. 00:17:48.419 --> 00:17:52.641 Okay, let's see, did I give you all the ones that I wanted to give you? 00:17:52.641 --> 00:18:00.278 Meditation, of course it's in there, okay. 00:18:00.298 --> 00:18:09.536 So I gave you a bunch of ideas on how to manage your feelings and manage yourself so you get ahead of the seasonal affective disorder, any depression, any blues, any winter blues or anything that's making your body feel off and out of whack and then you don't feel well. 00:18:09.536 --> 00:18:11.819 Okay, physically, mentally, emotionally, all the things. 00:18:11.819 --> 00:18:14.184 Now I also mentioned that. 00:18:14.184 --> 00:18:23.048 I get that it might be hard to do these things, like you're giving me more things to do, I can't even do the base, like even just going, getting up and going to work or taking care of the kids or whatever. 00:18:23.048 --> 00:18:31.249 And so the tip and the trick and the hack for that is everything in measured, in a measured manner. 00:18:31.249 --> 00:18:38.041 You're not going to

overhaul your whole life If not, if you're not feeling well, be very, very gentle. 00:18:38.041 --> 00:18:38.761 This is the key. 00:18:39.182 --> 00:18:53.740 Okay, so out of everything that I mentioned, you might want to rewind this, go back and make a list and then say, okay, and, by the way, there's three groups of things there. 00:18:53.740 --> 00:18:57.419 One is like kind of like the more mental, emotional, and the other one's more physical and the other one's more social and fun. 00:18:57.419 --> 00:19:00.727 Right, so you could sort them by those three categories. 00:19:00.727 --> 00:19:17.441 I should have probably spoke them that way, share them with you that way, but just if you go back to the list, you'll see and then look at that and feel into which one resonates the most, Like what would feel really yummy to me, like what would nourish me. 00:19:17.575 --> 00:19:19.000 Do I need to do the physical thing? 00:19:19.000 --> 00:19:29.464 So I need to, like eat healthy food, take my supplements, all those, those vitamin D, melatonin, light therapy, the grounding thing, like that kind of stuff, the sleep. 00:19:29.464 --> 00:19:36.941 Or do I need to do more of the emotional things, like the mindfulness, the meditation, the journaling, the EFT. 00:19:36.941 --> 00:19:48.128 Or do I need to do more of like the fun and just kind of like get me going, motivate me, things like the hobbies, the hanging out with people, being in groups and connecting with others, right? 00:19:48.128 --> 00:19:49.359 So those are the three groups. 00:19:49.359 --> 00:19:53.482 So just kind of make the list, see what group talks to you the most. 00:19:53.564 --> 00:19:57.642 Where you feel that you need it, you may need all of it and, again, don't overdo it. 00:19:57.642 --> 00:19:59.221 Don't try to do all of the things that I said. 00:19:59.221 --> 00:20:02.161 Pick what feels the easiest. 00:20:02.161 --> 00:20:07.202 That will give you the most bang for your buck, if you may, for your investment, for your effort. 00:20:07.202 --> 00:20:10.674 And just sprinkle a couple of things. 00:20:10.674 --> 00:20:20.464 You start recharging, realigning, nourishing, and you could start getting your system back on gear, back to restarted, reset, realigned. 00:20:20.464 --> 00:20:28.076 So this part one, with all this stuff that I just mentioned, will resource you so you could tackle the next two that I'm going to give you. 00:20:28.076 --> 00:20:36.648 So, with that, sprinkle some things in, be very gentle, go easy and start resourcing. 00:20:36.648 --> 00:20:48.815 Get the machine going again, if you may realign, resource, reset, renew, recharge, all the res, and that will get you back on track, back to yourself, back on the right path Again. 00:20:48.855 --> 00:21:06.865 If you're struggling, if you can't do this and even if you're not feeling like so so at the other side of the spectrum, where, like, you're really, really depressed, but even all of this sounds like oh

gosh, I can't even like, I just don't have it in me, even that level of not feeling so hot, please get support. 00:21:06.865 --> 00:21:10.325 Okay, there's no need to struggle and we want to be preventative. 00:21:10.325 --> 00:21:11.637 We don't want that to get worse for yourself. 00:21:11.637 --> 00:21:24.042 Okay, so let me offer some resources, all the resources that I have on all of my places that could help you additionally with this, if you need. 00:21:24.042 --> 00:21:27.696 If you're like right now I'm kind of consuming information like how do I take care of myself? 00:21:27.696 --> 00:21:33.400 I don't know what to do, and you're kind of like in that place and you need resources and you need to kind of get inspired and to get moving. 00:21:33.400 --> 00:21:42.240 I'm going to give you a few other things that you could use for that or to actually go through very specifically to have your back and put things in place to have your back. 00:21:42.240 --> 00:21:43.904 Okay, so these are the resources. 00:21:44.346 --> 00:21:59.020 Go to my website, metrorelationshipcom forward slash resources and go to December and January and you're going to get the planning the end of year and new year planning process. 00:21:59.020 --> 00:22:04.045 That's a December one and the other one for January is values. 00:22:04.045 --> 00:22:09.685 Those two things will give you inspiration, motivation and help you do what I'm going to say next. 00:22:09.685 --> 00:22:10.648 Okay, so just hang in there. 00:22:10.648 --> 00:22:14.645 If you're like, oh, I can't do more things, just take your notes. 00:22:14.645 --> 00:22:16.680 Right, they will become handy when you need them. 00:22:16.680 --> 00:22:18.025 So those are free. 00:22:18.025 --> 00:22:21.105 You just subscribe and you get a nice downloadable. 00:22:21.105 --> 00:22:25.515 It's very easy, very fun to use and you get like an email with all the instructions. 00:22:25.515 --> 00:22:28.766 It's fun and easy and motivating and inspiring. 00:22:28.766 --> 00:22:31.758 And just, I got you Okay, so get those. 00:22:31.758 --> 00:22:44.690 If you feel like I had no idea how to nourish myself the things that you said are fine, emma, but like, eh, they're so basic I don't know what to do Then check out the self-love practice podcast episode that I did last January. 00:22:44.789 --> 00:22:46.432 That's episode eight in the podcast. 00:22:46.432 --> 00:22:55.969 So go to the website metrorelationshipcom forward slash podcast and go back. 00:22:55.969 --> 00:22:57.375 Scroll back to find episode eight. 00:22:57.375 --> 00:22:58.397 Slash podcast and go back. 00:22:58.397 --> 00:23:02.832 Scroll back to find episode eight that one goes into like in depth about all the ways that you could implement a self-love practice. 00:23:02.832 --> 00:23:07.905 So if you're doing okay and you want to take it to the next level, that one's for you, then we have. 00:23:07.905 --> 00:23:22.650 If you're like in the middle of the way

somewhere, we have a video on YouTube that we recently put up in Connection Talk playlist and it talks about 10 things to kind of shift your mindset. 00:23:22.710 --> 00:23:47.428 If you're kind of feeling stuck and you're grinding a little bit and you're like not here, not there, and you just can't have your own back, and you're like flundering around a little bit but you're not totally depressed, you're not totally motivated, you're like eh, then that one might be really helpful because I just give you a bunch of different ways of looking at things that will help you kind of reset, okay, and in some practicals on what things to implement to have your back so you could get back on track and get moving. 00:23:47.428 --> 00:23:58.905 Then I'm going to share something else that's paid in a second and, again, very accessible, okay, very reasonable. 00:23:58.905 --> 00:24:00.059 So I'll tell you in a second what that one is. 00:24:00.059 --> 00:24:02.903 But so let me go back to the solutions. 00:24:02.903 --> 00:24:08.508 We did one already which is like the self-management in the feelings, managing your feelings. 00:24:08.508 --> 00:24:11.176 Now I'm going to give you number two Now. 00:24:11.196 --> 00:24:12.967 This one is address your financial goals. 00:24:12.967 --> 00:24:19.762 Okay, if the finances are stressing you out, then do something about them. 00:24:19.762 --> 00:24:23.898 Okay and I'm not trying to be a jerk, so just bear with me here. 00:24:23.898 --> 00:24:27.157 Now, that's very hard to do what I just said. 00:24:27.157 --> 00:24:30.195 If you didn't do one, okay, so please resource yourself. 00:24:30.195 --> 00:24:40.276 So then, like your brain is functioning better, you're resourcing yourself, your ideas start coming up, you have the motivation, you have the energy, your brain is thinking again right, and then you could do this one. 00:24:41.038 --> 00:24:50.011 Now, with this, it doesn't have to be a crazy goal planning session around finances, but you could come up with a little bit of a plan in terms of managing that stress. 00:24:50.011 --> 00:24:51.678 Like, what is the thing? 00:24:51.678 --> 00:24:54.165 Did you get yourself into a lot of debt? 00:24:54.165 --> 00:24:58.137 Whatever the thing might be for you, then what is the plan? 00:24:58.137 --> 00:24:59.622 What are you cutting out? 00:24:59.622 --> 00:25:00.815 What are you adding in? 00:25:00.815 --> 00:25:02.634 How are you saving? 00:25:02.634 --> 00:25:03.818 What are you streamlining? 00:25:03.818 --> 00:25:05.036 How are you shuffling money around? 00:25:05.036 --> 00:25:09.855 Or what is the plan to knock out this credit card debt, or whatever your thing is? 00:25:09.855 --> 00:25:17.133 I'm not a financial advisor, so that's just some quick ideas, but that's another suggestion you could check out. 00:25:17.133 --> 00:25:19.780 You could consult with a financial advisor. 00:25:19.780 --> 00:25:30.257 There are plenty of free resources online for this, plenty

of apps for this, if you need the support, or just design a quick little plan and put it in place and bam, all right. 00:25:30.257 --> 00:25:32.212 So that's number two and number three. 00:25:32.212 --> 00:25:33.016 This is the fun one. 00:25:33.950 --> 00:25:48.502 Earlier, I said that recent number four and recent number five of the things that get you that might be contributing to not feeling well were my favorites, and let me just name them again so it makes sense what I'm saying. 00:25:48.502 --> 00:25:53.836 Number four was unfulfilled New Year's resolutions or intentions and number five was lack of motivation. 00:25:53.836 --> 00:26:09.122 So this one now the solution I'm going to give you now is going to address those, and this is where I usually have a lot of fun, and in my book, this is the fun one, and what this one has to do is with having a vision. 00:26:09.122 --> 00:26:26.938 Now, having a vision sounds so big, but think about what the issue was right Unfulfilled New Year's resolutions or intentions and lack of motivation, aside from all the reasons that we talked about, like why, like your body and your head and your brain and your feelings, and everything might be out of whack. 00:26:26.938 --> 00:26:46.215 Aside from that, usually what gets in the way is not having a clear vision, things that we're going for in a way of getting there or getting them, and that's why we tend to get discombobulated, overwhelmed, lost, whatever, because we don't have a good strategy, we don't know how to get the things that we want. 00:26:46.215 --> 00:26:53.434 Okay, and so everything that I gave you so far is to address the thing so that you're a resource, so that doesn't get in the way. 00:26:53.434 --> 00:27:02.765 We get the financial things out of the way and then you could dive in into this thing, and that is to have an idea of where you're going. 00:27:09.049 --> 00:27:11.528 It doesn't have to be a major planning session per se, but at least like what is the thing that I would like to experience? 00:27:11.528 --> 00:27:12.290 Meaning? 00:27:12.290 --> 00:27:14.920 What flavor do I want my life to have? 00:27:14.920 --> 00:27:16.415 What do I want this quarter century to be like? 00:27:16.415 --> 00:27:17.561 Or my life Like what do I want my life to be like? 00:27:17.561 --> 00:27:18.446 Do I want this quarter century to be like? 00:27:18.446 --> 00:27:20.654 Or my life Like what do I want my life to be like? 00:27:20.654 --> 00:27:24.673 To feel like, to experience, to have accomplished, for it to be about? 00:27:24.673 --> 00:27:27.279 What do I want my human experience to be? 00:27:27.359 --> 00:27:30.335 So these are kind of like esoteric, kind of big questions. 00:27:30.335 --> 00:27:38.013 These are good things to wonder about, because they give us meaning, they give us purpose, they give us guidance, guidelines, direction. 00:27:38.013 --> 00:27:41.538 They give us the roadmap, if you may like, we know where we're going. 00:27:41.538 --> 00:27:42.397 That's very important. 00:27:42.397 --> 00:27:44.601 Our brain doesn't like question marks, it doesn't like the unknown. 00:27:44.601 --> 00:27:47.884 If we're given instructions, then it goes to work for us, okay. 00:27:47.884 --> 00:27:48.805 So we're shooting for that. 00:27:48.805 --> 00:27:54.054 We really want that and again, it doesn't have to be a crazy thing. 00:27:54.054 --> 00:28:02.211 It could just be like oh, this way as opposed to this way, so create some kind of that, and I'm going to give you resources for this in a second. 00:28:02.211 --> 00:28:03.996 Okay, so what is what? 00:28:03.996 --> 00:28:05.619 What kind of life do I want to have? 00:28:05.619 --> 00:28:30.953 And then more measurable things, like the things that I want to accomplish, experience feel be become, have, get whatever measurable, right so, getting a raise, increasing revenue, hanging out with friends, nurturing a relationship, getting fit some kind of financial goal, whatever the thing is. 00:28:30.953 --> 00:28:33.500 But I just mentioned a couple of things. 00:28:33.500 --> 00:28:35.262 You can make it more concrete. 00:28:35.262 --> 00:28:37.952 You can make it more concrete, right so? 00:28:37.972 --> 00:29:03.279 Connect more deeply with my partner by having a couple times, this many times a week day and night, every week, every two weeks, once a month this level of intimacy, this kind of fun, this type of collaboration, this type of fun, this kind of activities quarterly staycations, vacations twice a year, whatever, right? 00:29:03.279 --> 00:29:15.496 So ways of connecting, feeling together, working together, creating your shared life together, having shared goals, hobbies, interests, activities, experiences, so just that. 00:29:15.496 --> 00:29:20.260 If I'm feeling blue just thinking about that, automatically I'm feeling much better, right? 00:29:20.260 --> 00:29:25.396 Because that's the fun, that's the connection, that's the yummy, that's the meat, that's the content of our life. 00:29:25.710 --> 00:29:27.518 And relationships are super important. 00:29:27.518 --> 00:30:07.806 If you look it up I have it in my stuff too, but I can't, off the top of my head, guide into a specific blog post but you can look it up MetroRelationshipcom, forward slash blog and do a quick search for meaning and research and you would get research from experts that show how relationships are so important that they you might already know this and you could do your own research outside of my blog, of course, but how they help with health, with vitality, with longevity, with happiness, like just all the things that we usually shoot for in life. 00:30:07.806 --> 00:30:11.179 Our relationship supports that or doesn't, right? 00:30:11.179 --> 00:30:13.778 So that's why we have to make sure that our relationship is healthy. 00:30:13.778 --> 00:30:23.553 But people that don't have relationships or have bad relationships have the opposite effect,

right, they struggle and their health, longevity and well-being and happiness and everything else goes down the drain. 00:30:23.553 --> 00:30:26.080 We want to make sure our relationship is healthy. 00:30:26.080 --> 00:30:36.178 We want to get ourselves in good shape, our relationship in good shape and then, of course, the things that we want to do in life, and so we have all of the resources for you for this. 00:30:36.178 --> 00:30:36.858 This is what we do. 00:30:36.858 --> 00:30:39.924 We help couples create a successful and radiant relationship. 00:30:40.651 --> 00:30:44.441 Now I said I was going to share all the ways to have your own back here. 00:30:44.441 --> 00:30:54.522 So the quickest and easiest access aside from all the free stuff that I already mentioned and all of the resources on my website and all of our socials is our membership. 00:30:54.522 --> 00:31:00.913 We have a membership that's $29 a month and you get all kinds of content to support you with all of these things. 00:31:00.913 --> 00:31:04.241 So, for example, in December we did a whole planning process. 00:31:04.241 --> 00:31:14.522 So it's like about an hour and 15 minutes or so of me walking you through the whole process so that you don't have to reinvent the wheel right. 00:31:14.522 --> 00:31:21.434 So you could just the whole planning process from top to bottom, from the celebrations and the acknowledgement to like implementation. 00:31:21.434 --> 00:31:30.460 So the whole thing is laid out for you in that, just that one piece of content is worth a lot more than the $29. 00:31:30.460 --> 00:31:34.734 But with the $29 a month, you get access to all of the other content that we have. 00:31:34.734 --> 00:31:38.903 That covers a whole gamut of wellness for yourself and relationship health. 00:31:40.111 --> 00:31:42.539 And then we have the January. 00:31:42.539 --> 00:31:47.613 The other one was an integration experience where I just mentioned that we did the whole planning process For January. 00:31:47.613 --> 00:31:49.619 We're doing activating protocols. 00:31:49.619 --> 00:31:51.837 We've just launched that new feature. 00:31:51.837 --> 00:32:04.277 We're going to be doing those monthly and the one for January walks you through identifying your highest potential in all areas of your life and designing your ideal life and make it. 00:32:04.277 --> 00:32:09.200 Designing it and getting started to make it happen and to put it in place. 00:32:09.200 --> 00:32:20.867 That will help you, like I walk you through, I hold your hand and we make it happen and we design and implement and create the whole thing. 00:32:20.867 --> 00:32:25.000 We design it and put the things in place to help you start living it. 00:32:25.000 --> 00:32:29.305 And so just those two things, bam. 00:32:30.291 --> 00:32:37.240 If you want to come on only for one month to get access and benefit to that and then cancel and you're good, fabulous, you could do that. 00:32:37.240 --> 00:32:38.795 You could

say one month, three months, whatever. 00:32:38.795 --> 00:32:42.178 As long as you want to, you could use as much of the content as possible. 00:32:42.178 --> 00:32:43.596 We also have a live feature. 00:32:43.596 --> 00:32:55.311 So on a monthly basis, we're doing a get together in our online community, so you get to hang out with me and ask me questions and I show you all the things to do, how to implement all the things that we're talking about for the month. 00:32:55.311 --> 00:32:58.556 We have monthly themes, so you have that live feature. 00:32:58.596 --> 00:33:03.561 You have the option of adding support sessions privately if you want, and you have all of the content. 00:33:03.561 --> 00:33:13.894 We have deep dives, workshops, masterclasses, integration experiences, activation protocols all kinds of things to inspire you, motivate you, guide you. 00:33:13.894 --> 00:33:18.573 All the tools, all the things that you need to take care of yourself and take care of your relationship, increase success in your life and create the life that you love. 00:33:18.573 --> 00:33:22.520 Okay, so $29 a month not too shabby. 00:33:22.520 --> 00:33:23.482 So go right ahead. 00:33:23.482 --> 00:33:27.540 You can sign up for that and you can cancel whenever you want if you feel that you got enough. 00:33:27.540 --> 00:33:29.673 So that's the paid version. 00:33:29.673 --> 00:33:35.579 Of course, you could always work with us privately and feel free to check out our website for that if that's what resonates and calls to you at this time. 00:33:36.441 --> 00:33:37.541 But that's it. 00:33:37.541 --> 00:33:49.156 I hooked you up with all kinds of things for today to get you out of the funk, and you have all kinds of resources free and that paid membership if you want to take it to the next level, and I'm here for you. 00:33:49.156 --> 00:33:59.838 I am on a mission to help you succeed at yourself, at your relationship and at your life, and I look forward to hearing from you. 00:33:59.838 --> 00:34:00.701 Let me know how you're doing. 00:34:00.701 --> 00:34:02.897 Connect with us in all of the places. 00:34:02.897 --> 00:34:06.160 You could email us through our website or connect with us on social. 00:34:06.160 --> 00:34:09.059 You could leave a message on this. 00:34:09.289 --> 00:34:12.257 If you're watching this on YouTube, you could also leave us a comment. 00:34:12.257 --> 00:34:12.980 Let me know how you're doing. 00:34:12.980 --> 00:34:13.641 What are you working on? 00:34:13.641 --> 00:34:17.090 What resonated for you the most and how are you feeling? 00:34:17.090 --> 00:34:18.431 I what resonated for you the most and how are you feeling? 00:34:18.431 --> 00:34:20.914 I would love to hear how you're feeling and how can I best support you. 00:34:20.914 --> 00:34:25.237 You have any suggestions or ideas for additional podcasts or any other piece of content. 00:34:25.237 --> 00:34:28.739 Let us know what you want, what you need, and we're here to serve. 00:34:28.739 --> 00:34:32.322 Thank you so much for watching, for listening, for being here with me, sharing time. 00:34:32.322 --> 00:34:33.163 Happy New Year. 00:34:33.163 --> 00:34:36.065 I'm wishing you the best and I look forward to seeing you at the next one. 00:34:36.065 --> 00:34:36.945 Bye.