Bản chép lời đầy đủ của Better Conversations, Better Lives: 7 Conversations That Can Change Your Life

00:06:11.360 So no matter what you think, community, no matter what you see, uh, you know, unfairness is not going to win the day. 00:06:11.600 --> 00:06:22.879 Uh at the end of the day, I think that this whole, I mean, it it's it's it it had it had become in style there for a minute, uh, for everybody just to be angry. 00:06:23.040 --> 00:06:32.879 I'm angry, and I want somebody to fight for me, you know, and and you can just point me at somebody that ought to be angry at, and I'm angry at you because somebody told me how to be, you know. 00:06:33.600 --> 00:06:38.399 But the reality is, I think that that just runs out of energy, it runs out of life. 00:06:38.720 --> 00:06:45.360 And uh I am almost certain that we are going to make a pivot. 00:06:45.759 --> 00:07:11.120 What you're seeing right now for the social media uh companies is that they're being held to account for the irresponsible ways in which they hooked young people on social media in uh sort of uh ways that created habits and addictions that have affected people negatively. 00:07:12.079 --> 00:07:25.360 As a result of doing almost anything they could to keep you just your kid locked in and not being able to tear away and and really engage with other human beings. 00:07:25.759 --> 00:07:28.000 Yeah, that was cool for a minute. 00:07:28.240 --> 00:07:45.600 You could uh take advantage of people uh who could resist uh the notion of I can just hold your attention because I know a lot about psychology and and I know a lot about how to hold on to you in ways that take away your own will. 00:07:46.079 --> 00:07:56.560 And now many of those companies are, oh my God, we didn't try to do that, you know, and uh and they are losing multimillion dollar lawsuits. 00:07:56.879 --> 00:08:05.199 And so I'm gonna say to you, community, that you cannot do wrong things forever and get away with it. 00:08:05.439 --> 00:08:11.519 So I think that those that are just stoking up, and I'm now talking to mainstream media as well. 00:08:11.759 --> 00:08:20.480 We're just stoking up fear and discouragement and and bitterness against somebody else who's harming us. 00:08:20.959 --> 00:08:22.480 That's not healthy. 00:08:22.800 --> 00:08:25.600 And uh you you've got to really think. 00:08:25.680 --> 00:08:31.040 Here's what I would say: if anybody in my community is a part of the media, I'd say this to you. 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:32.799 Find ways to be more creative. 00:08:32.960 --> 00:08:33.679 That's all. 00:08:34.159 --> 00:08:44.639 Uh utilize greater levels of creativity in order to inform people, to engage them in ways that add to their lives. 00:08:44.879 --> 00:08:51.279 I'm not suggesting that we don't need to be informed by uh about some of the craziness that's happening around us. 00:08:51.440 --> 00:09:02.799 But if that's what you're doing 24-7, you absolutely know that you are harming us as a society and me as an individual. 00:09:03.039 --> 00:09:14.159 And the reason why I know you know that, uh

I think it even sickens some of the media people because they'll say out of nowhere, oh, this is a positive news story. 00:09:14.320 --> 00:09:17.360 We just want to make sure that people hear some of the positive things too. 00:09:17.519 --> 00:09:22.639 That's a rare thing that you do, but you're doing it because you know you're killing people. 00:09:22.879 --> 00:09:30.399 And so I would say that uh all of us have to take a look at what I am putting out in the world around me. 00:09:30.559 --> 00:09:42.000 Uh, and so I was grateful to, like I say, be at the billion uh dollar roundtable and make so many new friends and see some other people that I've known uh and haven't seen them for a while. 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:43.600 And so I was grateful for that. 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:48.240 Uh I had a chance to uh go to the flight museum there. 00:09:48.399 --> 00:09:51.919 Uh Boeing uh has his flight museum, I think. 00:09:52.080 --> 00:09:56.320 And uh, oh man, I loved looking at all the planes and everything. 00:09:56.480 --> 00:10:02.000 And uh, but by the time uh, you know, uh we were done with the tour, man, I was the only one there almost. 00:10:02.240 --> 00:10:07.360 And uh there was one other person that was going back to the hotel, and I was like, hey, can I share an Uber with you? 00:10:07.600 --> 00:10:09.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah, come on. 00:10:09.519 --> 00:10:25.039 And uh we had a wonderful opportunity to really just have an amazing conversation, not about business, not about the billion-dollar roundtable, but about our kids and our families. 00:10:25.360 --> 00:10:42.639 And uh I was just so grateful that uh I had a chance to listen to her talk about uh one of her children that had served in the military and had uh uh has experienced some trauma as a result of uh the abuse and different things that she experienced. 00:10:42.720 --> 00:10:50.159 And mom was just there pouring out her heart about how she fought for all of her daughter's uh benefits and things like that. 00:10:50.320 --> 00:10:55.919 And uh as I uh as I listened to that, uh just began to tear up on the inside. 00:10:56.159 --> 00:11:00.799 But there was something about what she was saying that was inspiring. 00:11:00.960 --> 00:11:12.480 She was saying that her and her daughter were really at it a lot of times, but she gave her daughter maximum grace because she recognized what she was battling with. 00:11:12.720 --> 00:11:14.879 And so here you are a parent. 00:11:15.039 --> 00:11:32.639 Uh, you've birthed this child, you sent them off to the military to uh stand up for our country, and uh and now you've received back someone who has been broken in some ways because of the experience. 00:11:32.879 --> 00:11:44.000 And now your child that you remember raising them in such a loving way, now they are fighting you uh because they're fighting themselves. 00:11:44.240 --> 00:11:59.519 And to hear the love of a mother that says that you're not gonna change my love for you no matter what, uh, to be in that fight, um, I can relate to that uh because I love my children the same exact way. 00:11:59.759 --> 00:12:05.919 And then she talked about her son uh being the youngest, you know, and uh the closeness that they have. 00:12:06.080 --> 00:12:12.399 And you know, uh I love all my children, but uh there's some that really just sort of respond. 00:12:12.639 --> 00:12:17.039 Uh she was, you know, saying something, you know, one that responds to her differently. 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:21.759 And as a result of that, that makes that person easier to be around. 00:12:21.919 --> 00:12:36.240 And so I was grateful that out of all of the powerful business conversations that I had and all the things that I learned, I also had a chance to uh just have some real conversation about life with some people as well. 00:12:36.399 --> 00:12:45.039 One of the things that we did, we had to build these solar energy uh uh devices for uh students in STEM. 00:12:45.440 --> 00:12:50.080 So it's kind of like a team building exercise that we were supposed to be doing together. 00:12:50.320 --> 00:12:55.120 Oh my goodness, I've never participated in anything more frustrating than that. 00:12:55.279 --> 00:12:57.679 Uh, and and most of the people just kind of quit. 00:12:57.840 --> 00:13:10.960 I think, you know, for those of you that uh uh maybe in places where you're trying to raise uh uh donations and funds, all you have to do is uh give people an exercise like that. 00:13:11.039 --> 00:13:21.679 And then ask them in the middle of it while they're pulling their hair out uh would you like to continue trying to build that little gadget, or would you like to make a contribution to this nonprofit? 00:13:21.759 --> 00:13:27.200 I think, man, you would get everybody bailing on the activity and increasing their donations. 00:13:27.279 --> 00:13:36.080 So we had a great time uh sort of uh learning together, uh listening to some uh powerful uh experts. 00:13:36.240 --> 00:13:37.759 And so I enjoyed that. 00:13:37.919 --> 00:13:47.759 Uh also this uh last week, uh, you know, in my own situation, my nephew and I are kind of living together, so he's the only one in my house. 00:13:48.000 --> 00:13:54.879 And uh, you know, as young people do, uh, you know, he's had some challenges. 00:13:55.039 --> 00:14:09.120 Uh, you know, I re I told him, I said, I remember being your age, you know, uh when I was young, there was a period in my life where it felt like, man, trouble was just finding me all the time, just attaching itself to me. 00:14:09.200 --> 00:14:10.000 I was like, what? 00:14:10.559 --> 00:14:12.639 I can't outrun trouble at all. 00:14:12.799 --> 00:14:14.080 I'm not even looking for it. 00:14:14.240 --> 00:14:15.440 I'm at home by myself. 00:14:15.519 --> 00:14:17.600 And here trouble is chasing me. 00:14:17.840 --> 00:14:19.360 And so I understand that. 00:14:19.600 --> 00:14:34.240 But uh, you know, because of all the things that I'm going through,

man, uh, you know, he had uh uh you know had a uh specific challenge uh that uh, you know, for me almost was like the last straw. 00:14:34.639 --> 00:14:38.559 And I was I was certain that, you know, I'm done, man. 00:14:38.720 --> 00:14:44.879 You know, you're gonna have to go back to mama because I'm already licking my own wounds. 00:14:45.600 --> 00:14:55.679 And uh and all of a sudden, right in the midst of my certainty that I was done, uh, God showed up and let me know that he wasn't done. 00:14:55.919 --> 00:15:00.559 And so uh, you know, so God said, Look, Eric, you're not done with him yet. 00:15:00.799 --> 00:15:10.080 And then I felt like my older brother, his dad, my nephew's dad, who's who's passed away, I felt like he was saying to me, Eric, don't give up on my son. 00:15:10.720 --> 00:15:24.960 And so here I am, uh back on the battlefield, uh fighting on my own fronts, and yet I've got to extend love uh for somebody who I didn't birth. 00:15:25.200 --> 00:15:29.519 Uh, but those are the things that God calls us to do. 00:15:29.840 --> 00:15:34.639 And so uh my topic today is better conversation, better lives. 00:15:34.879 --> 00:15:44.080 But in many ways, I think that um there was a poem that said, I'd rather see a sermon than hear one any day. 00:15:44.320 --> 00:15:49.679 And so sometimes it's not about what you say, it's really gonna be about what you do. 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:59.679 So let's look at this because I've uh pulled together some things for uh us to think about, community, and I'd love you to weigh in uh uh on this conversation. 00:15:59.840 --> 00:16:04.159 Let me just make sure that I'm not missing any of your comments. 00:16:04.480 --> 00:16:06.879 Uh so great to see you. 00:16:07.039 --> 00:16:07.679 Absolutely. 00:16:07.840 --> 00:16:11.840 We are glad to have you all joining us uh this this morning. 00:16:12.159 --> 00:16:13.200 Uh the U.S. 00:16:13.279 --> 00:16:32.080 Surgeon General's uh review uh cites evidence from across 148 studies showing that stronger social connection is associated with about a 50% greater likelihood of survival. 00:16:32.320 --> 00:16:41.279 In other words, if you have uh a higher level of social connections, it can in fact extend your life. 00:16:41.519 --> 00:16:43.519 And so I think that that's powerful. 00:16:43.600 --> 00:16:53.039 Uh, maybe some of the conversations that could most improve our lives aren't the ones dominating the television set and social media. 00:16:53.200 --> 00:17:05.119 Maybe they're conversations about purpose, uh, responsibility, forgiveness, listening, joy, wisdom, community, and love. 00:17:05.759 --> 00:17:18.640 And uh, and so that's that's what I want to bring to you this morning is some topical areas that I think can uh add powerful value to our lives. 00:17:18.799 --> 00:17:27.359 Uh, one of the areas I think that we need to talk more about uh you know, more about is self-reliance and community reliance. 00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:32.319 Uh the question for us is can we build the village? 00:17:32.640 --> 00:17:47.680 Right now, much of our discouragement is because we're sitting around listening to our government, because that's really what dominates the uh news waves, is is real political conversations about failings that are happening. 00:17:47.920 --> 00:18:00.960 And uh for me, man, it's just it's futile, it's it's hard to believe that we even pay people for these jobs that they're doing. 00:18:01.119 --> 00:18:12.079 Uh, because all it is, it's all performative, and it doesn't feel like anybody cares about us, the common man and woman. 00:18:12.319 --> 00:18:24.640 Uh, and uh so it is exhausting uh to hear these debates all the time over things that just drive up our uh heart rate. 00:18:24.880 --> 00:18:40.000 And I would say that uh that in many ways politicians use the media because they know that they love a sensational story, so all they have to do is say something outrageous, and then politicians will act as though you needed to know this. 00:18:40.160 --> 00:18:43.200 You know, I mean the news media will be like, you needed to know this. 00:18:43.279 --> 00:18:44.079 No, we didn't. 00:18:44.160 --> 00:18:47.200 You're wasting our time because you're trying to keep our attention. 00:18:47.440 --> 00:18:55.279 Uh but the question is, what if we were to talk more about what we can do for each other, what we can do together? 00:18:55.519 --> 00:19:03.039 Uh, only 26% of Americans say they know all or most of their neighbors, the people that live on their street. 00:19:03.119 --> 00:19:08.720 Uh, and just 44% say they trust uh most of them. 00:19:09.920 --> 00:19:19.440 Now, in my neighborhood, when we built our house 33 years ago, uh there are no sidewalks on my street. 00:19:19.680 --> 00:19:25.920 And I feel like in many ways, if there are no sidewalks, that means don't come over my house for nothing. 00:19:26.079 --> 00:19:29.680 Uh don't come over my house for any sugar, eggs, bacon, nothing. 00:19:29.920 --> 00:19:34.559 And so we don't know very many of our neighbors. 00:19:34.799 --> 00:19:41.200 And I'm just now beginning to kind of see more often the neighbors that live right across the street from me. 00:19:41.279 --> 00:19:42.640 They're retired now. 00:19:42.880 --> 00:19:59.119 Uh and uh and so I don't, you know, when I grew up uh in the, you know, there are two neighborhoods that I really love the most, and that was Skyline Acres uh and uh and then Forest Park. 00:19:59.279 --> 00:20:10.160 In Skyline Acres, that's where I was in elementary school, man, and we knew that if we came home and my parents weren't there, we could just go right uh next to the uh next door to the neighbors, Mrs. 00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:10.880 Andrews. 00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:11.440 And Mrs. 00:20:11.519 --> 00:20:20.880 Andrews would take us in and just keep us until our parents came home, no matter when that was, whether that was later on that evening or the next day or the next week.

00:20:21.039 --> 00:20:22.559 We knew that we had Mrs. 00:20:22.640 --> 00:20:25.519 Andrews there who was gonna look out for us, feed us. 00:20:25.680 --> 00:20:28.720 She didn't have to be paid, called, or nothing else, you know. 00:20:28.880 --> 00:20:30.880 And so that's uh a powerful thing. 00:20:31.039 --> 00:20:32.640 Forest Park was the same way. 00:20:32.799 --> 00:20:37.440 When we moved into Forest Park, that was a neighborhood, that was a community that we knew each other. 00:20:37.519 --> 00:20:39.599 Let's see what comments you all are saying. 00:20:40.480 --> 00:20:43.519 Uh, that is where the power uh is together. 00:20:43.680 --> 00:20:44.480 I love that. 00:20:44.640 --> 00:20:46.400 Uh also, Brooke, thank you. 00:20:46.559 --> 00:20:50.079 I've started bringing the people together on my street. 00:20:50.240 --> 00:20:54.960 It's where the rubber meets the road, literally, uh, with all that I believe. 00:20:55.039 --> 00:20:56.240 I love that, Brooke. 00:20:56.400 --> 00:20:58.640 Uh, that uh it's helpful. 00:20:58.720 --> 00:21:05.519 And Brooke is the kind of person she has been a producer of this show as well, uh, and she's producing today. 00:21:05.599 --> 00:21:11.599 Uh, but she's the kind of light that really makes people feel better. 00:21:11.839 --> 00:21:23.200 And I would say to you all, community, that part of what we have to do is lean into how can we make the changes that we want to see happen together. 00:21:23.359 --> 00:21:33.920 Uh, that is the commission that God has given me, you know, when I was thinking about uh the times and all the attacks on my uh industry and business. 00:21:34.160 --> 00:21:38.960 Um, you know, I felt like God said to me, Eric, I want you to tap your network. 00:21:39.200 --> 00:21:47.839 Uh and so that's what I've been doing is really looking at the people that I know and reaching out to them and saying, hey, how can we help each other? 00:21:48.000 --> 00:21:56.960 And I have found the people that I know, some of them in a hole where they were just fighting depression all by themselves. 00:21:57.119 --> 00:21:59.599 I'm gonna say to you all, community, that we have got. 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:06.799 Got to really reach out to one another and say, how can we make some positive things happen together? 00:22:07.039 --> 00:22:10.559 And I would say people are kind of afraid of each other. 00:22:10.799 --> 00:22:20.480 It's almost like in the world that we live in today that if you're in need, man, I mean, people have almost been trained to just run, run, somebody's in need. 00:22:20.799 --> 00:22:34.720 You know, and uh, you know, one of the things that I felt like God said to me uh three years ago, he was saying to me, he said, Eric, he said, you find it hard not only to ask for help, but to receive help. 00:22:34.960 --> 00:22:44.400 And I felt like God said that if if you're unwilling to receive help, then your giving is nothing but pride. 00:22:45.359 --> 00:22:46.000 Huh? 00:22:46.240 --> 00:22:47.039 Like, what? 00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:49.279 Uh let me say that again. 00:22:49.440 --> 00:22:56.480 If you're unwilling to receive help, then sometimes maybe your giving is nothing more than pride. 00:22:56.559 --> 00:23:00.400 You you see, it's easier to say, I'm helping other people out. 00:23:00.559 --> 00:23:01.759 I did this or I did that. 00:23:01.920 --> 00:23:04.000 Oh no, I don't want any credit, you know. 00:23:04.240 --> 00:23:10.559 Uh, but it's it is actually very difficult at times to receive help. 00:23:10.799 --> 00:23:28.799 Uh, I had a chance to talk to one of my very, very good friends, and I was telling him that uh uh I've got another good friend that uh knew you know a number of months ago uh how you know the uh political environment has affected my industry. 00:23:29.359 --> 00:23:36.480 And uh they just asked me, would uh would this financial gift be helpful to you? 00:23:36.799 --> 00:23:38.720 And it was rather significant. 00:23:39.440 --> 00:23:43.759 And I've never ever had that happen in my life. 00:23:44.240 --> 00:23:46.960 And I said, Yeah, man, I appreciate that. 00:23:47.279 --> 00:24:03.440 And they just wrote a personal checkout, and uh so I was telling my friend who I've helped on occasion, I was telling him, I said, I know that sometimes you don't really like being in a situation where you are in need of help. 00:24:03.680 --> 00:24:07.599 I said, but here's what I want you to hear from me. 00:24:07.920 --> 00:24:10.880 I said, I have received help now. 00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:14.160 And I said, I'm just grateful. 00:24:14.559 --> 00:24:16.400 I don't feel ashamed. 00:24:16.640 --> 00:24:27.519 I feel grateful that God cared enough about me that he was able to work through a person here on earth to deliver a blessing to me. 00:24:27.759 --> 00:24:35.920 Uh, community, I'm gonna say to you that um receiving help, asking for help, you don't want that to become a way of. 00:24:37.359 --> 00:24:51.759 But I would say that it also builds your character and your confidence in humanity, if on some occasions that if you're in need of help, that you can reach out and ask for it. 00:24:51.839 --> 00:25:01.759 Uh, my grandmother said to me, she said, uh, Eric, she said, if you have more than two or three uh good friends in your entire life, count yourself fortunate. 00:25:02.000 --> 00:25:06.319 And at that time, I was like, Grandma, oh, grandma, what are you talking about? 00:25:06.480 --> 00:25:07.839 I got all kinds of friends. 00:25:08.000 --> 00:25:09.680 I got thousands of friends, you know. 00:25:09.839 --> 00:25:11.279 She said, No, no, son. 00:25:11.599 --> 00:25:15.759 You got a lot of people you know, but you don't have a lot of friends. 00:25:16.000 --> 00:25:22.240 And so I can tell you that uh today I do have uh friends. 00:25:22.480 --> 00:25:24.160 I count them on one hand. 00:25:24.240 --> 00:25:35.680 Uh, so I'm not looking to everybody in the world to be my friend, but I do

have a couple of really, really good friends, uh, friends that I would do anything for. 00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:41.279 Uh, and the way that you, I think, get good friends is by being a good friend. 00:25:41.440 --> 00:25:50.559 And so I want to encourage you not to be uh always afraid of others and afraid to ask people how you can help. 00:25:50.640 --> 00:26:04.880 Uh, because helping others out, I think that's a part of how we uh how we get there, how we reduce our dependence upon the circus that we are watching in Washington. 00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:11.359 The way that we get around that is by looking out for each other and coming together to make things happen together. 00:26:11.599 --> 00:26:20.400 Uh, the second thing I think that we ought to talk more about, uh, and community, I certainly want you to weigh in on this, is purpose. 00:26:20.720 --> 00:26:26.079 Purpose may literally uh be good for your health. 00:26:26.400 --> 00:26:28.799 Now, let me let me share some research. 00:26:28.960 --> 00:26:52.079 Uh, a 2026 meta-analysis covering 25 samples across the United States, Europe, and Asia found that the greater purpose in life was associated with roughly a 30% lower risk of early mortality uh before adjustment uh for other factors. 00:26:52.319 --> 00:26:52.960 Huh? 00:26:53.359 --> 00:27:02.880 In other words, if you have a greater recognition of your purpose, it reduces mortality by 30%. 00:27:03.920 --> 00:27:15.839 In other words, it's almost like uh the Bible talked about the talents and the different ones that had talents, and and and and one took their talents and they did something with it. 00:27:16.079 --> 00:27:20.960 Uh, and another uh took took the talent and buried it. 00:27:21.359 --> 00:27:29.519 And so uh, you know, uh when uh God showed back up through the prophet or whatever, uh you know, hey, what have you done? 00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:30.799 Well, God, I buried it. 00:27:30.880 --> 00:27:33.119 And so they go undig it, and here it is. 00:27:33.440 --> 00:27:34.079 What? 00:27:34.559 --> 00:27:40.400 Uh, and so uh so this is saying, don't bury your purpose. 00:27:40.720 --> 00:27:52.160 That literally, if you know and apply your purpose, it reduces uh, you know, the reality of you dying early. 00:27:52.559 --> 00:27:53.839 Isn't that crazy? 00:27:54.160 --> 00:28:04.000 That purpose, it's almost like God extends your life when you recognize your purpose because you get up each day with something to do. 00:28:04.160 --> 00:28:08.640 And so, community, I'm gonna say this to you with a sense of boldness. 00:28:08.880 --> 00:28:18.160 Uh identify what it is that God has created you to do, what is your purpose, and then lean into that. 00:28:19.279 --> 00:28:23.680 Uh, what if finding your purpose isn't just motivational language? 00:28:23.839 --> 00:28:31.039 Uh, what if it changes how you live, behave, and possibly how long you live? 00:28:31.200 --> 00:28:37.440 Uh, you know, how do you identify purpose and what keeps people from acting on it? 00:28:37.599 --> 00:28:40.000 So that's the question that I want to pose to you. 00:28:40.240 --> 00:28:44.799 How is it that you identify purpose in your own life? 00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:49.279 And then what are the things that keep you from acting upon it? 00:28:49.440 --> 00:29:02.000 Uh, I was talking to a business associate uh uh yesterday, and I was just sharing with them they're they're looking at uh we're looking for some advice on what they should do in terms of their career. 00:29:02.160 --> 00:29:13.119 They're working as an executive right now in an organization, but they're feeling like they have fulfilled uh what they were called there, hired to do, and now they're looking at what's next. 00:29:13.440 --> 00:29:29.839 And so uh I was saying to them that um they they they were thinking, you know, I want to look at another executive position, but not one that I can come in, fix the problems right away and move on, but maybe something that uh can be sustainable uh for a longer amount. 00:29:30.079 --> 00:29:35.839 Uh or I'm wondering if I should be looking at entrepreneurship. 00:29:36.079 --> 00:29:40.880 And so I was just listening to them and, you know, uh hearing their heart. 00:29:41.039 --> 00:29:53.119 And then I said, what if you were to sort of uh, you know, partner up with a firm like mine and do some things, but then also be able to start your own business at the same time. 00:29:53.279 --> 00:30:03.920 And so I was telling them stay in the job, maybe help, you know, somebody else begin to do some part-time consulting and then build your dream for the future. 00:30:04.079 --> 00:30:08.079 Uh, and they they found that uh advice helpful. 00:30:08.240 --> 00:30:16.160 Um, community, you say one of my favorite questions, and I don't know, except help women heal. 00:30:16.880 --> 00:30:23.119 So I believe I hear you saying that that's a part of what your purpose is. 00:30:23.519 --> 00:30:26.480 Man, to help women heal. 00:30:27.519 --> 00:30:28.160 Wow. 00:30:28.240 --> 00:30:39.039 Uh, and I'm just thinking about uh the the friend that I just made in Seattle, and her daughter is in need of somebody to help her heal right now. 00:30:39.839 --> 00:30:57.039 Um if you reach out to me and share your information, maybe I can also make a connection because community, I'll tell you that sometimes you, as the parent, you love your kid, but you may not be always the one who can help them heal or recover. 00:30:57.359 --> 00:31:02.640 Uh, here's someone who is saying that that is what I believe my purpose is. 00:31:02.799 --> 00:31:05.599 I mean, I love that, I love it, I love it, I love it. 00:31:05.920 --> 00:31:21.599 And uh I would want to know that there's somebody, uh, somebody on earth who have that as their purpose uh for uh you know my ex and my daughter, you know, somebody that would be there for them. 00:31:22.000 --> 00:31:29.039 Um I have stripped away a lot so that I can really tune in to my

purpose. 00:31:29.279 --> 00:31:32.640 It is in the core of who I am. 00:31:33.039 --> 00:31:38.400 Uh I'm grateful to be uh in overtime right now. 00:31:38.640 --> 00:31:47.599 I feel like where I am in my career right now, it feels like everybody in my generation is going this way and I'm going the other way. 00:31:47.680 --> 00:31:49.279 And I'm like, what am I doing? 00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:50.720 Going the other way. 00:31:50.960 --> 00:31:57.119 But it almost feels like also that God is preparing me for the second half. 00:31:57.279 --> 00:32:02.720 I'm gonna say second half, uh, because I've got two new needs, number one. 00:32:03.039 --> 00:32:09.119 Uh, and uh, but I stopped eating all the crazy stuff that I was uh eating like a kid. 00:32:09.200 --> 00:32:12.960 You know, I was just eating like a kid, you know, for all my adult life, man. 00:32:13.200 --> 00:32:15.599 I was just eating all the kids' cereals. 00:32:15.759 --> 00:32:20.640 Uh, you know, I mean, I love, I'm thinking about it right now, rice krispies uh treats. 00:32:20.720 --> 00:32:22.240 I love those rice crispy treats. 00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:23.920 York mint patties, man. 00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:24.640 I just love those. 00:32:24.720 --> 00:32:29.039 I would stop at a gas station and get those and uh get a couple Cokes. 00:32:29.440 --> 00:32:37.839 And uh, and all of a sudden I went to the doctor uh five months ago and got a bad report in terms of my A1C. 00:32:38.160 --> 00:32:43.440 And I was like, I didn't realize that your A1C could go up on medicine. 00:32:43.680 --> 00:32:44.559 Like what? 00:32:45.200 --> 00:32:53.680 And so I literally just cold turkey, got sugars out of my diet. 00:32:54.319 --> 00:33:18.400 I literally, and and I've said this to a few people before, I may have even said this last week or the week before, that in many ways a lot of eating can be associated to uh sort of stress management, emotional eating. 00:33:18.720 --> 00:33:29.599 Uh men, God bless our hearts, uh rarely admit that we might be engaged in something like emotional eating. 00:33:29.920 --> 00:33:36.880 Uh, but but what I would say is that I don't ever think I even admitted that to myself. 00:33:37.519 --> 00:33:45.119 That the way I was dealing with the stresses in my life was that I was just eating. 00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:55.359 I was grazing, if you will, just throughout the day, uh, my mouth was constantly being shoving something in there that wasn't good for me. 00:33:55.519 --> 00:34:04.079 Uh, I remember three years ago, God told me, He said, You put premium gas in your car and you put less than regular in your body. 00:34:04.319 --> 00:34:11.039 I need you to change how you uh manage and care for the tempo that I've given you. 00:34:11.280 --> 00:34:14.320 And so five months ago, I shut it down. 00:34:14.480 --> 00:34:18.480 Uh my uh doctor asked me, Do you need a uh a dietitian? 00:34:18.559 --> 00:34:20.880 Uh you know, no, I don't. 00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:27.519 I said, uh, it's is my my situation has not been because of a lack of information. 00:34:27.840 --> 00:34:29.840 It's a lack of the why. 00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:34.000 So I didn't have any why should I eat differently? 00:34:34.159 --> 00:34:38.559 Uh, but when I got that report, uh, I decided it's time to change. 00:34:38.719 --> 00:34:41.360 Now, I don't really fear death. 00:34:41.599 --> 00:34:44.800 You know, uh when I'm gone, I'm gone. 00:34:44.880 --> 00:34:48.320 You know, it's like I'm not gonna be in pain, you know, I'm dead. 00:34:48.559 --> 00:34:52.000 And so, uh, but I don't want to be limping out of here. 00:34:52.159 --> 00:34:58.719 I don't want them to take a foot and then a uh a shin and then a lower leg and then the upper leg. 00:34:58.800 --> 00:35:03.199 I don't want them to be taking me away in pieces, as uh my friend Ken Wilson said. 00:35:03.440 --> 00:35:11.840 Uh so uh, but I also have introduced self-discipline into my life. 00:35:12.159 --> 00:35:25.119 And when I'm not eating, when I'm not grazing, it causes me to reckon with what were the things that I was covering with my eating. 00:35:25.360 --> 00:35:30.400 I remember uh being in high school, you know, I never drank, smoked, got high, any of that kind of thing. 00:35:30.480 --> 00:35:33.119 Ha ha ha, you know, so those are the things I don't do. 00:35:33.199 --> 00:35:33.920 What do I do? 00:35:34.000 --> 00:35:41.920 You know, uh, but but I remember being in high school parties and seeing friends of mine that would get drunk. 00:35:42.079 --> 00:35:44.159 And I would be like, oh, I'd be sad. 00:35:44.320 --> 00:35:51.280 I mean, they're laughing up at the, you know, having a party, and I'm sad because my friend is drunk and I'm wondering why. 00:35:51.440 --> 00:35:52.480 Like, why are you drunk? 00:35:52.559 --> 00:35:53.599 What's going on? 00:35:53.840 --> 00:35:55.199 You can tell me. 00:35:55.440 --> 00:35:58.960 Well, sometimes people are just drunk because they're, I guess they were having fun. 00:36:00.079 --> 00:36:04.159 And uh I always wondered what was wrong. 00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:15.840 Uh and so I would say to you now that all this eating that I was doing, I had to stop and ask myself, Eric, what's wrong? 00:36:16.320 --> 00:36:27.840 And as I started asking myself that, God started entering into the conversation and said, Eric, you can carry all those weights if you like. 00:36:28.880 --> 00:36:31.920 But if you just want to carry the weight, good for you. 00:36:32.239 --> 00:36:33.039 Have at it. 00:36:34.079 --> 00:36:37.119 Or you can turn that over to me. 00:36:37.840 --> 00:36:57.840 And so, what I would say for those of you that might not be people of faith, even that you can either carry those weights quietly and privately, or you can acknowledge them and recognize that you may or may not be able to do anything about it. 00:36:58.320 --> 00:37:00.159 And it's okay either way. 00:37:00.639 --> 00:37:07.679 I was just telling a friend of mine

uh before the show that uh, you know, all of us have Goliaths in our lives. 00:37:07.920 --> 00:37:10.400 Uh, you remember the story of David and Goliath. 00:37:10.800 --> 00:37:18.079 Uh, and so Goliath was a big, huge man, and everybody was afraid of Goliath. 00:37:18.719 --> 00:37:22.400 And uh, David was able to take him down with a little stone. 00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:30.639 But I'd say to you that a lot of the challenges that we face, in many ways, they can become Goliaths in our lives. 00:37:30.880 --> 00:37:33.039 And I'm gonna say something to you, community. 00:37:33.199 --> 00:37:44.480 Don't spend all of your time staring into the eyes of those Goliaths in your life and thinking, oh my God, look how big you are. 00:37:44.719 --> 00:37:46.800 Oh my God, look how scary you are. 00:37:47.039 --> 00:37:48.880 All of you are taller than me. 00:37:49.119 --> 00:38:03.199 You know, if you're sitting around looking at all of your challenges and all of your failures and shortcomings and uh insufficient uh funds and resources for the things that you're trying to do. 00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:12.239 If you spend all of your time looking at those things, then you don't have any time left to implement solutions or to think about solutions. 00:38:12.480 --> 00:38:15.840 You see, the mind is a powerful thing. 00:38:16.480 --> 00:38:22.239 Uh and there was used to be a saying uh the mind's a powerful thing to waste. 00:38:22.400 --> 00:38:26.000 You don't want to waste, you know, your mind. 00:38:26.639 --> 00:38:40.639 And so uh I would say that if you spend too much time sweating uh the Goliaths or the challenges in your life, then you leave very little energy for solutions. 00:38:40.880 --> 00:39:01.840 Uh the book Blink says that our brain has the ability to make very quick, accurate decisions, that there is so much power inside of our brain uh that we don't access when we sit around and literally just worry about uh uh the challenges that we face. 00:39:02.079 --> 00:39:09.360 So, one of the conversations that we need to have with ourselves and with others is what is our purpose? 00:39:09.679 --> 00:39:17.440 Because as you uh get clarity about your purpose, remember this, you extend your life. 00:39:17.599 --> 00:39:18.960 Let's look at what's next. 00:39:19.119 --> 00:39:26.079 What are some other conversations that we ought to be having with ourselves and with others? 00:39:26.320 --> 00:39:33.519 Uh, the third conversation I think that is critical is the conversation about forgiveness. 00:39:33.840 --> 00:39:40.559 Uh, the words forgive me may not be the most important part of an apology. 00:39:40.719 --> 00:39:41.360 Hmm. 00:39:42.400 --> 00:39:46.719 I would say that people struggle with apologizing. 00:39:46.880 --> 00:39:51.039 I would not say to you that it comes easy to me either all the time. 00:39:51.199 --> 00:40:02.159 Uh, I think that that apologizing, I don't know, there's something about our brain that says to us, well, you don't need to apologize. 00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:07.119 Uh, you know, if you apologize, then they're gonna be holding that over your head forever. 00:40:07.280 --> 00:40:09.920 Don't you apologize, let them apologize. 00:40:10.639 --> 00:40:16.159 And so I want to say to you that one of the conversations that we need to have is about apologizing. 00:40:17.440 --> 00:40:20.079 Let me go back and just make sure I get this comment. 00:40:20.320 --> 00:40:24.800 I love it when people uh write in and say things, so I'd like to acknowledge that. 00:40:25.519 --> 00:40:36.000 I learned I was scared to be hungry because uh it leads me to a place of vulnerability that I wasn't willing to feel. 00:40:38.719 --> 00:40:47.840 Wow, I was scared to be hungry because it leads me to a place of vulnerability I wasn't willing to feel. 00:40:48.159 --> 00:40:54.079 Wow, I love that vulnerability and honesty and transparency. 00:40:54.400 --> 00:40:55.760 You're not alone. 00:40:56.159 --> 00:41:08.000 And what I would say, community, is that's why we have to really make room for each other and conversations worth having. 00:41:08.480 --> 00:41:14.480 Because as we do that, I'd suggest to you that we give each other more life. 00:41:15.119 --> 00:41:22.320 Uh, that you may look to others as somebody who's got it all together. 00:41:22.639 --> 00:41:24.559 Nobody's got it all together. 00:41:24.800 --> 00:41:33.119 Uh, we all have strengths and weaknesses, we have things that we feel good about, we have challenges that we face, and it's not always easy. 00:41:33.360 --> 00:41:38.719 See, I didn't grow up learning how to say I'm sad. 00:41:39.519 --> 00:41:41.760 I didn't I didn't grow up learning that. 00:41:41.920 --> 00:41:45.920 Um my dad would always uh tell us, you know, we can. 00:41:46.079 --> 00:41:51.280 I can accomplish things, I can do anything I need to, I can be responsible for myself. 00:41:51.360 --> 00:41:56.159 Uh there's there's no battle that I face that I can't defeat. 00:41:56.800 --> 00:42:00.960 But the reality is that there are times that I'm afraid. 00:42:01.519 --> 00:42:10.800 And I'm grateful right now that I have people in my life that to know that doesn't cause them just simply to run away from me. 00:42:11.199 --> 00:42:27.920 If if people are around you that if they know of your challenges, they're all running, then I would uh recommend that you go back to my grandmother's assertion that you may have only one or two good friends across your life. 00:42:28.239 --> 00:42:31.440 You need to have people in your life that are good friends. 00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:40.480 And what I've said to my good friends is that we're not friends if you don't call me when you are in need of help. 00:42:40.719 --> 00:42:42.079 We're not friends. 00:42:42.320 --> 00:42:44.719 Uh either I got it or I don't. 00:42:44.880 --> 00:42:49.519 Uh, but but don't rob me of the opportunity to help. 00:42:49.760 --> 00:43:11.199 Uh, and and I I like this comment here that

that that sometimes the eating, because I called it emotional eating, is uh because I don't want to feel that hunger, uh, you know, because it leads me to a place of vulnerability uh that I don't want to feel. 00:43:11.360 --> 00:43:16.719 And I would say being vulnerable is also a part of being human. 00:43:17.280 --> 00:43:25.119 Um and so we we are better off if we begin to just kind of embrace part of that. 00:43:25.280 --> 00:43:32.880 Uh so as I look at forgiveness and the words may not be the most important uh part of an apology. 00:43:33.199 --> 00:43:37.360 Uh there are six components of an effective apology. 00:43:37.519 --> 00:43:38.239 Did you know that? 00:43:38.320 --> 00:43:40.800 That there are six components of an apology. 00:43:40.960 --> 00:43:51.599 I know you didn't, so I'm gonna read them off so that you are now aware that there are six elements of an effective apology. 00:43:52.000 --> 00:43:54.480 First, expression of regret. 00:43:54.960 --> 00:43:55.840 I'm sorry. 00:43:56.000 --> 00:43:59.760 So an apology includes the words, I'm sorry. 00:44:01.119 --> 00:44:03.199 An explanation of what went wrong. 00:44:03.440 --> 00:44:07.599 Briefly explain what happened without making excuses. 00:44:08.159 --> 00:44:10.559 So here's what happened. 00:44:10.880 --> 00:44:12.800 Man, I was wrong. 00:44:12.960 --> 00:44:14.079 I'm sorry. 00:44:14.559 --> 00:44:21.360 An acknowledgement, uh, when appropriate, of responsibility, taking ownership of responsibility. 00:44:21.440 --> 00:44:24.159 I was wrong and I take responsibility for that. 00:44:24.320 --> 00:44:26.480 Uh, declaration of repentance. 00:44:26.639 --> 00:44:31.760 Uh, communicate that you intend not to repeat that behavior. 00:44:31.920 --> 00:44:32.800 That's important. 00:44:32.960 --> 00:44:37.039 Apology doesn't mean anything if you don't plan to make any changes. 00:44:37.280 --> 00:44:45.920 And so you've got to make sure that you uh that you're repentant and that you say, This is something that I don't want to see happen again. 00:44:46.159 --> 00:44:48.320 Uh, an offer of repair. 00:44:48.400 --> 00:44:50.320 Uh, what can I do to make this right? 00:44:50.480 --> 00:44:59.440 So sometimes when you've blown it, uh, when you've made a mistake, uh ask people what can I do to repair this? 00:44:59.599 --> 00:45:01.920 And then a request for forgiveness. 00:45:02.079 --> 00:45:04.480 Uh, can you ever forgive me? 00:45:04.800 --> 00:45:18.480 So uh the research of an effective apology identified six components, but found that the most important was accepting responsibility, uh, followed by offering to repair the damage. 00:45:18.719 --> 00:45:25.760 Simply asking for forgiveness was the least important component of an apology. 00:45:26.000 --> 00:45:36.800 And so I think that it's important for us to uh allow our words and our conversation uh to go beyond simply saying, I'm sorry. 00:45:36.960 --> 00:45:54.960 Uh and so if I look at uh, you know, the next point that uh area that we need to be talking about is that uh listening to what people really need to tell us uh reduces loneliness. 00:45:55.199 --> 00:46:06.239 And so there are a lot of people that are experiencing loneliness because there's something that they have to say that we haven't made room for. 00:46:06.639 --> 00:46:16.400 And as I think about my nephew, in many ways, I mean, for those of you that may know me, you know that I'm a huge extrovert. 00:46:16.719 --> 00:46:27.360 And some people may feel as though that I could never be by myself uh because I love to, you know, uh talk and interact with others. 00:46:27.440 --> 00:46:36.159 Uh, but I would say to you that uh the older I get, I just love being by myself a lot of times. 00:46:36.400 --> 00:46:44.800 You know, uh, you know, I'm out in the world during the day and I'll just go home and I'll go in my room and I'll just shut the door. 00:46:45.360 --> 00:46:51.360 And I was just now thinking here in this moment that it's just me and my nephew. 00:46:51.519 --> 00:47:00.400 And I was just thinking that I need to become more intentional about making time for a conversation with him. 00:47:00.960 --> 00:47:07.280 Uh, you know, I placed some uh demands on him as a result of uh the crazy things that have been happening. 00:47:07.440 --> 00:47:11.119 One of them was, you know, you're gonna have to go to church every uh week. 00:47:11.440 --> 00:47:15.440 And so he and I went to church last week and he enjoyed it. 00:47:15.679 --> 00:47:20.400 And uh they had a uh youth uh picnic, young adults picnic after church. 00:47:20.559 --> 00:47:21.840 He asked, could we go? 00:47:21.920 --> 00:47:24.159 And so I said, Yeah, man, I took him down there. 00:47:24.400 --> 00:47:33.360 But on the drive to church and on the drive back home, we got a chance to listen to the music that I wanted to play. 00:47:33.440 --> 00:47:35.840 Uh, but we also got a chance to talk. 00:47:36.159 --> 00:47:46.480 And I could see just like uh one of those commercials, those those bounty commercials, you know, when there was a spill there and he just put bounty down like the corner of it and he sucked it all up. 00:47:46.960 --> 00:47:57.280 Uh I felt like in many ways that's what was happening even with our conversation, that there were some things that I was saying that he was just sucking those up. 00:47:57.440 --> 00:48:06.639 And so I'd say that uh one of the things that we have to do is we have to be willing to listen uh to what it is that people want to say to us. 00:48:06.880 --> 00:48:13.840 Uh research found that high-quality listening reduces people's feelings of loneliness. 00:48:14.000 --> 00:48:25.360 Uh, after they talked about experiences uh of social rejection uh and other things, uh it's helpful if you simply listen to others. 00:48:25.440 --> 00:48:28.000 So a lot of times you think to yourself, I can't help anybody. 00:48:28.079 --> 00:48:29.119 I'm struggling myself. 00:48:29.199 --> 00:48:32.320 I can't

help pay your bills, I can't pay my own. 00:48:32.559 --> 00:48:40.239 Well, you don't always need money to uh rescue people from loneliness. 00:48:40.800 --> 00:48:48.639 Uh I am uh increasingly trying to make sure that I make room to listen to others. 00:48:48.800 --> 00:49:04.159 Uh I would say one of the challenges with listening is that uh if you're carrying your own weight and you don't feel like you're doing that especially well, it's like the last thing I want to do is be carrying somebody else's weight, you know. 00:49:04.320 --> 00:49:13.360 Uh but I think that as we're able to listen, uh not just give people a lot of advice, sometimes just simply listen to what they have to say. 00:49:13.599 --> 00:49:19.119 Uh, listen to understand versus listening to react or speak. 00:49:19.440 --> 00:49:24.800 Number five, what should we be talking about in our conversations with each other? 00:49:24.960 --> 00:49:31.119 Uh joy, hobbies, food, and spending time together. 00:49:31.280 --> 00:49:34.320 I think all those things ought to be things that we're talking about. 00:49:34.480 --> 00:49:36.800 Uh, fun isn't frivolous. 00:49:37.199 --> 00:50:00.320 A study of 1,399 people, ages 19 to 89, found that people who engaged more frequently in enjoyable leisure activities had greater life satisfaction and positive emotion, less depression, uh, and were also associated with lower blood pressure. 00:50:00.480 --> 00:50:02.159 Uh, I mean, come on now. 00:50:02.400 --> 00:50:08.159 There are health benefits to spending more time laughing, hanging out, doing fun activities with others? 00:50:08.400 --> 00:50:09.280 Absolutely. 00:50:09.679 --> 00:50:13.119 Uh, the study was uh observational. 00:50:13.440 --> 00:50:28.559 Uh, and and so I would say that it extends the quality of your life to spend more time uh playing golf in my instance uh with friends and just laughing and sitting around. 00:50:28.719 --> 00:50:30.800 Uh I I was out on the golf course. 00:50:30.880 --> 00:50:33.280 I think I told you all this week, uh a couple weeks ago. 00:50:33.519 --> 00:50:57.360 Man, I was out on the golf course, and nothing had changed some of the stressors that were in my life, uh, but I I felt so good because I was grateful to just be out there on a sunny day uh with the green grass and all the beautiful trees. 00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:08.480 And I was out there with two friends of mine, and I had my music blast, and I was just feeling like my life was being extended. 00:51:08.719 --> 00:51:18.159 The quality of my life was being improved simply by not playing good golf, but simply just being out there with friends. 00:51:18.320 --> 00:51:25.519 Uh, and and golf was the thing that we were out there for, but that wasn't the most important part at that moment. 00:51:26.079 --> 00:51:36.239 The most important part was recognizing how blessed I am simply to be alive and with good people who kind of like each other. 00:51:36.480 --> 00:51:41.760 So I'm gonna say joy, hobbies, food, spending time together. 00:51:42.000 --> 00:51:47.679 All of those things can uh extend the quality of your life. 00:51:48.400 --> 00:51:55.519 Number six, I think that one of the things that we ought to be talking more about is sharing our knowledge. 00:51:55.679 --> 00:52:02.480 Uh, your family may be more important uh school than you realize than you realize. 00:52:02.719 --> 00:52:12.239 Uh your family may be uh a more important education, they may be more important educators than formal school. 00:52:12.559 --> 00:52:15.599 A lot of kids may uh say, yeah, I can go for that. 00:52:16.000 --> 00:52:17.679 I don't want to go to school. 00:52:18.960 --> 00:52:22.800 So I would say lean into that. 00:52:23.599 --> 00:52:26.239 I grew up in a family of debaters. 00:52:26.880 --> 00:52:33.760 Uh that's what my father raised us to do is to debate each other on any topic, man. 00:52:33.840 --> 00:52:35.360 We just were debaters. 00:52:35.840 --> 00:52:43.280 And I have over the years become exhausted at the notion of debate. 00:52:44.320 --> 00:52:52.400 And so uh, you know, I was talking to one brother about AI yesterday, and he was telling me that the other is working on building models. 00:52:52.480 --> 00:52:57.920 And I was telling him, hey, they told us at the conference that you can you don't even need to know how to code anymore. 00:52:58.159 --> 00:53:02.639 The whole world has opened up to those of us who are not coders. 00:53:02.960 --> 00:53:06.400 And so he he was debating me on that a little bit. 00:53:06.639 --> 00:53:13.440 And uh, and uh my other brother, who's the one who's really leaned in and got some expertise, uh, sort of called me. 00:53:13.599 --> 00:53:16.639 And I saw who it was from and I didn't pick up. 00:53:16.800 --> 00:53:22.960 I was like, uh, okay, uh, this is probably gonna be uh you know part two of the debate. 00:53:23.360 --> 00:53:33.599 Uh all of that is kind of stereotyping, it's uh in some ways prejudging, uh, not allowing people to speak for themselves. 00:53:33.760 --> 00:53:42.719 Uh and as I thought about it just uh uh 30 seconds longer, I realized that my brother is brilliant. 00:53:42.960 --> 00:53:54.320 Uh and uh that uh I know that when I talk to him, that he's gonna have information and insight that can benefit me. 00:53:54.480 --> 00:53:58.719 And there may be even something that we can do together based upon that. 00:53:59.039 --> 00:54:10.559 But uh I can't wait to call him today because sometimes, community, I would say to you that you have to change the story, uh, especially in families. 00:54:10.719 --> 00:54:17.760 In families, uh we grew up with each other, and everybody uh to some extent uh has a story. 00:54:17.920 --> 00:54:28.559 And I remember uh, you know, my brothers, my younger brothers telling me, I don't think that you've changed the tape uh, you know, in your memory banks about who I am. 00:54:28.880 --> 00:54:34.480 I have evolved from the person I was when we were

all grown up in the same household. 00:54:34.639 --> 00:54:45.280 And I'd appreciate you giving me uh the space, the room, the opportunity to introduce the new person that I am today. 00:54:45.599 --> 00:54:48.639 And so I've apologized for that. 00:54:48.719 --> 00:55:02.639 Uh and I'll apologize again here, even right now, that that's something that we all have to watch our habits of not allowing people to graduate from who they used to be. 00:55:02.880 --> 00:55:17.440 And so I'm looking forward to uh celebrating him, calling him up and saying, Look, I want to tell you how impressed I am, how proud I am of who you are as a thinker, as a researcher. 00:55:17.599 --> 00:55:25.840 And I'd love to take advantage of all the knowledge that you have around AI and AI models and things like that. 00:55:25.920 --> 00:55:31.199 And so I'm so grateful that I got somebody in my family that is really, really uh good at that. 00:55:31.360 --> 00:55:33.119 And I had seven points today. 00:55:33.199 --> 00:55:40.559 And so the last one that I want to close out on is telling people that we care. 00:55:41.920 --> 00:55:44.559 Don't make an assumption that people know that. 00:55:45.440 --> 00:55:53.119 Uh, I don't think I grew up in a household where my dad was saying or my mom was saying on a regular basis that they loved me. 00:55:53.840 --> 00:55:58.559 I knew they loved me, but they never really said it a lot. 00:55:58.960 --> 00:56:06.159 And so right now, I think it's important for us to tell people that we care about them. 00:56:06.639 --> 00:56:14.800 And I want to say to my friends connected to Diversity Conversation, Tommy, I care about you and I love you. 00:56:15.039 --> 00:56:18.480 Uh, Lydia, I care about you and I love you. 00:56:18.639 --> 00:56:21.440 Brooke, I'm so glad we got a chance to catch up today. 00:56:21.599 --> 00:56:27.119 I care about you and I love you, and I'm so proud of who you are in the world. 00:56:27.360 --> 00:56:34.559 I'd say to my family, Judy, I love you, you know, uh, to my kids, my adult children. 00:56:34.639 --> 00:56:40.079 You know, I love each and every one of you, and I care about you with everything inside of me. 00:56:40.239 --> 00:56:43.840 Uh, community, I wanted kids when I was a kid. 00:56:44.079 --> 00:56:46.639 And I'm so grateful that I have four children. 00:56:46.800 --> 00:56:48.400 My oldest is Jillian. 00:56:48.559 --> 00:56:53.519 I'm so proud of her and what she's doing in corporate America, working for Coca-Cola. 00:56:53.599 --> 00:57:03.119 She's about to uh move to Atlanta, and uh I didn't even get a chance to get to Chicago and see her place, but I'm uh definitely going to get to Atlanta. 00:57:03.199 --> 00:57:04.000 Uh I love her. 00:57:04.079 --> 00:57:04.800 I'm proud of her. 00:57:04.960 --> 00:57:07.760 She was my first basketball player, my first golfer. 00:57:08.239 --> 00:57:19.199 And uh she is an angel from heaven, and I pray that she will find uh the right husband who can value uh who God has made her. 00:57:19.280 --> 00:57:21.039 Uh I love my son Eric. 00:57:21.199 --> 00:57:23.440 You know, Eric is back in LA. 00:57:23.599 --> 00:57:27.679 Uh, he is uh entrepreneurial in many ways. 00:57:27.920 --> 00:57:29.679 He's got words from heaven. 00:57:29.840 --> 00:57:33.599 He's uh gifted all my kids, all four of my gifted communicators. 00:57:33.760 --> 00:57:34.159 I love him. 00:57:34.239 --> 00:57:35.599 I'm very proud of him. 00:57:35.840 --> 00:57:47.360 I love his leadership within the family and the way that he's even challenged me and put up a little mirror to remind me of who I am in order to make better decisions. 00:57:47.519 --> 00:57:55.760 Uh, I love Evan and I love that he is my introvert, but my greatest performer uh musically. 00:57:55.840 --> 00:58:01.760 And he, I was just thinking about him and George, because they both are academically just brilliant. 00:58:01.920 --> 00:58:11.039 Just, you know, he told me uh, you know, a couple of weeks ago that uh he had some feedback for me around my social media and all the AI stuff that I was doing. 00:58:11.199 --> 00:58:17.360 He was saying, like, look, the whole world is looking for the authentic, that's what you have the most of. 00:58:17.679 --> 00:58:23.679 So don't trade in your authenticity for AI and the artificial. 00:58:23.760 --> 00:58:24.800 And so I'm grateful. 00:58:24.880 --> 00:58:26.320 And I shed a tear over there. 00:58:26.400 --> 00:58:28.000 He's like, daddy, don't start crying. 00:58:28.159 --> 00:58:34.480 But when you see that the children that you've raised can now turn around and be your teacher, that's a that's a beautiful moment. 00:58:34.639 --> 00:58:43.119 And then Ethan is my youngest, and he is all of them are musically tremendously gifted, but he's uh my musical genius. 00:58:43.280 --> 00:58:45.360 Uh Ethan is 6'5. 00:58:45.760 --> 00:58:49.679 I know I would have uh all his life almost wanted him to be my star basketball player. 00:58:49.760 --> 00:58:51.920 Let's get find him gonna get to the NBA. 00:58:52.400 --> 00:58:55.679 But he is an amazing artist. 00:58:56.000 --> 00:59:19.440 You can put him in a studio with nothing, and he can make the beat, he can write the song, he can write the lyrics, he can sing the lead, he can prepare complex backgrounds, he can engineer the project, produce it, and make something that Stevie Wonder, Chris Brown, Drake uh would all wanted. 00:59:19.679 --> 00:59:23.920 And so uh he too is a brilliant communicator. 00:59:24.079 --> 00:59:26.400 All four of my kids are communicators. 00:59:26.559 --> 00:59:28.880 I love them uh very much. 00:59:29.119 --> 00:59:35.519 And community, I love you and I appreciate you joining us at this uh podcast. 00:59:35.679 --> 00:59:43.760 And I look forward to you joining me again next week for another installment of Diversity Conversations. 00:59:44.000 --> 00:59:44.639 Take care.