Bản chép lời đầy đủ của Contentment vs Satisfaction

00:05:17.360 That's almost what I call it. 00:05:17.439 --> 00:05:20.959 Is it's it's a necessary recharge period for now. 00:05:21.040 --> 00:05:22.639 I'm now I know I'm on the go. 00:05:22.720 --> 00:05:28.240 I'm feeling my motivation, I'm feeling driven, I'm feeling disciplined, and I've already rested, so I'm good to go. 00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:29.680 Um, does that make sense? 00:05:29.920 --> 00:05:38.160 Yeah, um, I would see it as more of a perpetual so the ladder, and that's uh because again, it's it you're constantly improving. 00:05:38.399 --> 00:05:43.759 So um the way of content being content is all the time. 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:45.360 Like I am all the time content. 00:05:45.439 --> 00:05:47.920 I'm in that period of life, I am content. 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:50.560 So um, yes, it's fifth. 00:05:50.720 --> 00:05:55.439 I'm I'm still content, and I could have not even finished it. 00:05:55.600 --> 00:05:59.279 I'm gonna be content because that's that's what I was given. 00:05:59.360 --> 00:06:01.600 That's the output that I delivered. 00:06:01.680 --> 00:06:03.759 So I'll be content no matter what. 00:06:03.920 --> 00:06:21.680 But the problem that I have is when people are either comparing it to others and saying, Well, I'm not content because of um that person finishing first, or uh, I could have been so there's that difference, and that's why I said, Well, content versus satisfaction. 00:06:21.759 --> 00:06:22.959 So I'm never satisfied. 00:06:23.120 --> 00:06:25.040 No, I will never be satisfied. 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:28.000 And that's like food, essentially, right? 00:06:28.079 --> 00:06:30.319 When you're looking at food, you're hungry. 00:06:30.480 --> 00:06:33.439 Well, you're never completely satisfied. 00:06:33.600 --> 00:06:56.240 Yes, in that particular meal, you're going to be satisfied because you over ate or overindulged, but even then you're going to learn something in that process because, well, you overate, and so maybe you're going to be sick as a result, or maybe you understand that eating certain type of food creates certain types of inflammation. 00:06:56.399 --> 00:06:58.959 And so, again, that is the learning process. 00:06:59.120 --> 00:07:02.720 That satisfaction, that hunger is always there. 00:07:02.879 --> 00:07:17.279 And you wake up in the morning, you will be hungry, you will be hungry for some type of food, but it's understanding what type of food you should be eating that create that level of inflammation, so you can always improve on that sense. 00:07:17.439 --> 00:07:22.319 And the only level to be able to improve is the emotional state, right? 00:07:22.480 --> 00:07:38.639 Which I explain, or being able to look at these facts versus and and logic and science versus just looking at your uh your your your feelings, like now you're not just eating a dessert because well, but you feel like it. 00:07:38.800 --> 00:07:43.040 Now you're eating a dessert because there is a process to it, right? 00:07:43.279 --> 00:07:58.399 If you are designed to go and you're an athlete, and right, if you're not an athlete and you just want to and you are somewhat healthy, eating that dessert is based on your feelings, and then there are these times where I just yeah, I indulge in it, but that's an experience of life. 00:07:58.560 --> 00:08:00.399 I'm experiencing food, right? 00:08:00.480 --> 00:08:02.000 I'm experiencing that hunger. 00:08:02.079 --> 00:08:03.360 Now that's being content. 00:08:03.519 --> 00:08:24.560 So whether I eat the cake because I feel like it, or whether I eat the cake because uh I am going to use it to increase my carbs intake and use it to go to the gym right after and then burn it off because it's it's quick fuel, then I'm still going to be content. 00:08:24.720 --> 00:08:26.720 So it's still an ongoing process. 00:08:26.879 --> 00:08:31.519 And that's one thing that I really like about how you phrase it because you don't marry the two ideas. 00:08:31.680 --> 00:09:00.080 My hunger is not isn't in uh correlation to my contentness, and I think that's super important because especially when I start off with people, one of the first things I tell them is identify exactly where you are, be so not uh critical, but critique yourself, be honest with yourself, give yourself an honest review because until you know actually where you are and why these patterns are happening the way they are, you can't make a plan and then build to where you want to go. 00:09:00.240 --> 00:09:02.320 And I've always found you have to become content with it. 00:09:02.480 --> 00:09:03.840 Otherwise, you're gonna be fighting yourself. 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:05.440 Like, I am this way a little bit. 00:09:05.600 --> 00:09:09.679 How do I make a plan to not be that way or to not have that show off in every way? 00:09:09.840 --> 00:09:15.200 Like I know for me, I love sweets more than anything in the world, especially fresh baked goods. 00:09:15.440 --> 00:09:19.360 Um, and I I would eat, eat, eat, eat, eat compulsively. 00:09:19.440 --> 00:09:23.919 And I've suffered all the health effects that came with that, especially uh in high school. 00:09:24.080 --> 00:09:32.000 I would always feel bad and groggy, and I I never I worked out extensively and I was always a little overweight, which I always made me in my head. 00:09:32.080 --> 00:09:36.960 Um, and it was because I couldn't actually come to terms with the fact that I had a problem with sweets. 00:09:37.039 --> 00:09:37.840 I would lie to myself. 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:40.960 I'd be like, oh, well, I had four cookies and I work out. 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:51.200 And I think where you're getting at is I have an honesty with where I am, and that gives you the contentness to say, I that is why I'm striving, and I'm gonna keep trying to get better. 00:09:51.440 --> 00:09:53.840 So I I really like the way you phrase that. 00:09:54.080 --> 00:10:03.440 Um, another thing that I have that I wanted to ask you is is

contentness the number one thing that's driving your optimization? 00:10:03.600 --> 00:10:11.600 When I say that, is it your desire to be content or your desire to do great things that makes you make yourself the best version of yourself? 00:10:11.840 --> 00:10:15.120 Well, they they both have their their own path. 00:10:15.279 --> 00:10:20.720 It would be like asking the question, um, what's more important, discipline or motivation? 00:10:20.879 --> 00:10:24.480 And then many people will say, Well, it's about discipline, much better. 00:10:24.960 --> 00:10:28.240 Well, then again, I would say which one is better for you? 00:10:28.399 --> 00:10:31.360 Is it your endocrine system or is it your nervous system? 00:10:31.519 --> 00:10:35.120 They're both regulated to operate at different intensities. 00:10:35.279 --> 00:10:40.720 So now you have your nervous system, which is quick, and your endocrine system, which takes much longer. 00:10:40.960 --> 00:10:45.360 The motivation is quick, and then the discipline takes much longer. 00:10:45.519 --> 00:10:47.279 So is it content? 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:54.799 So the question is is posed in a way where both would be equally important. 00:10:55.120 --> 00:11:04.799 I and that I think that's really important too, because I think it really uh sets in stone the idea that these are two separate concepts, that you're growing these separately. 00:11:05.039 --> 00:11:13.200 So, how do you because I I personally am not default content, I don't wake up in the morning and be super content. 00:11:13.519 --> 00:11:16.960 Um, I find myself journaling, I find myself reading quotes. 00:11:17.039 --> 00:11:22.080 Um, so what are the ways that you and yourself throughout your day, or maybe it comes naturally to you? 00:11:22.159 --> 00:11:23.120 Tell us more about that. 00:11:23.279 --> 00:11:24.799 How are you feeling content? 00:11:24.960 --> 00:11:25.759 Do you do anything? 00:11:25.840 --> 00:11:28.799 Is there anything in your routine that you have to do, or does it come naturally? 00:11:28.960 --> 00:11:33.759 No, no, it doesn't come naturally because the human body is not designed for thriving. 00:11:33.840 --> 00:11:39.440 The human body is designed for survival, and so we have to learn these patterns. 00:11:39.759 --> 00:12:06.799 Um now, now, now I'll speak about it from a Christian point of view because I am Christian and uh our company is has uh Christian principles, but uh the this is applicable for any faith, any religion, or anyone listening, whether you're a man or women, so uh meditation, meditation is a huge part of my day, and so I start my day with uh well I trust best, right? 00:12:06.879 --> 00:12:12.720 Like when I say I start my day, this is not a every single day it will happen. 00:12:12.879 --> 00:12:17.679 Uh, we had an event this weekend, so we had to wake up at four o'clock in the morning. 00:12:17.759 --> 00:12:23.759 I did not wake up in the morning and read my Bible and then spent 12 minutes

just meditating. 00:12:23.840 --> 00:12:28.559 I I did okay, so this is not something that did happen. 00:12:28.639 --> 00:12:32.320 Okay, there are other parts of my life that will happen for sure. 00:12:32.480 --> 00:12:34.399 Uh, but meditation is a huge part. 00:12:34.639 --> 00:12:52.399 There are several different ways of meditation, and uh the main part that people have to understand is that um when when the brain shift between brain waves, uh it's been studied with EEGs in the book How God Rewires Your Brain. 00:12:52.559 --> 00:13:00.639 And um scientists that again, when they say God, uh, those guys are not Christian, though the entire book is not based on Christianity. 00:13:00.720 --> 00:13:17.679 They pick different faith and then they analyze them through EEGs or electroence phylogram that calculates uh how brain waves operate, and they prove that it's a minimum of 12 minutes that you require two shifts from one to another. 00:13:17.840 --> 00:13:22.480 And so there are several ways that people can implement it in their life right now. 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:38.799 One is the 12-minute minimum, uh, and then there is the passive and active, and so uh passive is you are going to break it down into two where you're either allowing your mind to just free flow, that's the one I prefer. 00:13:38.960 --> 00:13:44.960 Uh, and then there are other people that just focus on one aspect, so focus on their breathing or focus. 00:13:45.039 --> 00:13:46.320 I tend not to do that. 00:13:46.480 --> 00:13:53.279 Uh, that's because I try to focus on several uh things throughout the day, anyway. 00:13:53.360 --> 00:13:57.519 So might as well just allow my brain to just go free flowing for 12 minutes. 00:13:57.679 --> 00:13:59.120 And then there is the active side. 00:13:59.279 --> 00:14:06.399 The active side that many coaches out there are forgetting is um the aspect of that zone one, right? 00:14:06.639 --> 00:14:10.720 Which if you're not familiar with it, like I know you are definitely, right? 00:14:10.879 --> 00:14:30.080 But for those that don't know that are listening, zone one is you're able to uh perform the activity that has been given to you, and you're also able to have a coherent conversation with the other person, so you're not out of breath that you're able to say for for some people it's going for a hike, okay. 00:14:30.159 --> 00:14:41.919 That would be zone one for them, for them, but there are other people just going for a walk 10 minutes, and then after 10 minutes they're out of breath, so uh maybe five minutes or even just getting off the couch. 00:14:42.399 --> 00:14:50.639 It depends on your level of fitness and how your body is designed at that moment, and that's uh that that's a ballpark for zone one. 00:14:50.799 --> 00:14:53.679 Okay, so that would be the active uh component. 00:14:53.840 --> 00:14:56.320 I tend to do some rock climbing sometimes. 00:14:56.480 --> 00:15:06.320 I uh I like rock climbing, uh, so it plays on your spatial recognition where you don't you cannot look at your feed, but it has to be placed on a certain hold. 00:15:06.480 --> 00:15:07.919 So I I like that. 00:15:08.080 --> 00:15:13.919 So those are some types of uh ways that I I used in my daily life, uh even today. 00:15:14.159 --> 00:15:14.720 Yeah, yeah. 00:15:14.799 --> 00:15:21.919 And I I really like that you have the inactive and the active, because I'm a big proponent of we have to use our bodies, we have to push our bodies. 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:23.440 If you don't use it, you lose it. 00:15:23.600 --> 00:15:29.519 Um, but I find so many people kind of neglect the importance of the mental growth as well. 00:15:29.679 --> 00:15:35.200 Uh, and that's why I really love your approach that you said that you do with meditation, which is like, I'm gonna let my brain run with this. 00:15:35.440 --> 00:15:40.879 Because I know for me, I I will do like Wim Hof breathing and stuff like that, and it'll be great for math. 00:15:41.120 --> 00:15:43.200 You know, I'll never track Wim Hof breathing at all. 00:15:43.279 --> 00:15:44.240 It's wonderful. 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:53.360 Um, but my best moments in myself where it's I bring myself to say, this is why this really matters in my life. 00:15:53.519 --> 00:16:02.879 Uh, you know, uh, I guess practicing the mindfulness in my meditation is is is my favorite thing because I always ask myself, instead of limiting thoughts, I'm gonna invite them. 00:16:03.039 --> 00:16:08.639 Why of all things in the world, while I'm sitting down here and thinking, did I think of being a son? 00:16:08.799 --> 00:16:12.000 Did I think of uh a friendship that I have? 00:16:12.159 --> 00:16:17.519 And oftentimes it's because you actually need to think about that and put some excess thought to it. 00:16:17.679 --> 00:16:27.840 So that's what I use meditation a lot for is to grow and and uh I guess refine my own philosophical beliefs to identify and address relationships that need work. 00:16:28.000 --> 00:16:39.679 Because again, I think that helps with the contentness, because if I have my life in order, then I can get to the gym, and the gym isn't this this daunting thing that's weighing on me because the rest of my life is stressful. 00:16:39.840 --> 00:16:43.440 Um, so I I really like that approach where it's inactive and active. 00:16:43.519 --> 00:16:46.480 I've I've I've personally never heard it put that way, but I really like that. 00:16:46.639 --> 00:16:48.080 Yeah, it's one way to do it. 00:16:48.159 --> 00:16:51.279 To me, I give it all to God, right? 00:16:51.440 --> 00:16:55.200 To me, I understand that there are variables that I can control. 00:16:55.679 --> 00:17:01.039 Uh, there, for example, like my my physical state, I can improve it. 00:17:01.200 --> 00:17:10.319 For my mental state, I can improve it, certain types of supplements or the mindfulness, but there are other variables that I will not be able to control. 00:17:10.720 --> 00:17:18.799 Uh,

even in the epic decay, I say that physically there's a lot of people that would be able to do all of the races that I've done. 00:17:18.960 --> 00:17:31.759 If you're adding to the pool of individuals that would be competing, the mantle side, I would say, yes, there are some people, I would say at least more than three that would complete more than the epic decade. 00:17:31.839 --> 00:17:55.519 But because it's the variables that you can't control that made me one of three people to finish the epic decor, or uh some of these races that I've done around the world that or or even all the things that I've accomplished, it's because there are variables I can't control, and I have to be content and understand at that specific moment, this is where God wants me to be. 00:17:55.680 --> 00:18:00.480 Like I went through this difficult time of my life for a certain reason. 00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:07.359 I have to understand sometimes where I need to be, and I don't need to understand why I am in this position. 00:18:07.519 --> 00:18:14.799 For example, I to go do the epic deca, I didn't have the money, and um, I sold my house. 00:18:15.039 --> 00:18:18.640 So I was homeless when I came back from the epic deca. 00:18:18.880 --> 00:18:37.680 And now I was thinking, oh, I'm gonna get fame, uh, I'm gonna be uh known around the world, and I'm gonna get money and sponsorship, and um and none of this happened, none of it happened, and even then I got more negative than positive. 00:18:37.839 --> 00:18:44.480 People were telling me you need to be in a mental institute for what you've done, uh, people were rejecting me. 00:18:44.640 --> 00:18:48.480 Uh, and and there was a lot of pride that came with it. 00:18:48.720 --> 00:18:58.160 And so what I learned after was that the pride had to decrease so that I could be more even prepared to help other people. 00:18:58.400 --> 00:19:28.319 Because if my pride was up, then my guard would be much higher, and I would not be able to help other people, or I would help people in terms of pride, which would just fuel their own pride, and then we would have a well pride square or a pride exactly, and and I think that's I one thing that I I I really like about that is you have to surrender to something that's bigger than yourself. 00:19:28.480 --> 00:19:32.079 And so for me and you, that's easy because you know we're Christians, we believe in God. 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:42.400 But if even if you're secular, even if you don't believe in God, surrendering to a purpose, if you don't because what I always try to tell people is life incurs challenges, we are guaranteed the challenges. 00:19:42.480 --> 00:19:44.559 It was gonna be hard, it wasn't easy. 00:19:44.799 --> 00:19:51.599 And if you aren't pursuing or striving or building towards something, this is gonna be a miserable drive. 00:19:51.680 --> 00:19:53.839 It's gonna it's gonna be a pretty hard life. 00:19:54.240 --> 00:20:01.039 And you know, so that that's uh, you know, especially where you're saying, like, I don't know why I'm doing this, people are calling me crazy. 00:20:01.200 --> 00:20:03.359 I sold my house and took a bet on myself. 00:20:03.519 --> 00:20:03.839 Why? 00:20:04.000 --> 00:20:07.279 Because God told you to, you know, why because your purpose told you to. 00:20:07.359 --> 00:20:12.079 And so, you know, where I I definitely uh am akin to that with where my contentness comes from. 00:20:12.160 --> 00:20:17.279 It's like, you know, uh, I don't know a lot of the reasons why I do some of the things I do, but I just feel God tells me to. 00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:30.480 If it's a purpose in your life, whether it's a political purpose or it's uh uh uh an outreach purpose or whatever it is, if you don't have that purpose, I find you're not going to incur the suffering necessary to actually become a good person. 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:31.680 Because why are you doing it? 00:20:32.000 --> 00:20:37.200 You know, like life is already hard, you're gonna suffer more uh without a cause. 00:20:37.599 --> 00:20:38.960 That doesn't make any sense. 00:20:39.119 --> 00:21:04.160 Uh so I I I'm happy you did it because you know, again, that's why we have you and and and the fact that you do, and sometimes your your heart leads you to crazy places, and when you listen to it, you can actually be content in yourself because you, you know, I think about what uh Franklin Roosevelt, I think it was Franklin Roosevelt, what he says uh uh in the man in the arena speech, which is like credit is to the man in the arena because he is separating himself from the people who never tried. 00:21:04.319 --> 00:21:09.440 They will live for the rest of their lives not knowing, could I have done it, could I not have done it? 00:21:09.599 --> 00:21:14.160 The person who actually tries, he says, I could do it, I could not do it, and you and now you know. 00:21:14.319 --> 00:21:22.480 There's a and so I think there's a piece to actually attempting and doing the crazy thing because again, JD, you could, you did, you know, and I think that's a beautiful thing. 00:21:22.960 --> 00:21:25.119 Yeah, exactly. 00:21:25.279 --> 00:21:47.279 Yeah, and what so now I get contentment through doing meditation, prayer, and uh you also get contentment by for me, it's reading the Bible because uh and for for people that uh don't follow Jesus, uh, it would be about following a certain set of values. 00:21:47.519 --> 00:21:53.200 So understanding your values, which just structure would create a certain form of discipline. 00:21:53.440 --> 00:21:59.519 The way I can frame it is um, and maybe you can tell me more about your point of view on that. 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:14.160 You were in the military, is that to me when I joined, I was 17 years old, so just a chop, couldn't even buy a pack of cigarettes or drink my own beer without getting it from somebody else, and then I was given a gun, right? 00:22:14.319 --> 00:22:16.559 So uh here's the military for you.

00:22:16.720 --> 00:22:22.960 So I thought as a civilian, even as a kid, that as soon as I would join, I would get discipline immediately. 00:22:23.039 --> 00:22:28.799 You're getting discipline, you're getting resilience, and you're gonna be working out, you're gonna be in shape. 00:22:28.880 --> 00:22:30.079 Like, this is the military. 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:39.599 And so I joined, and little did I know, I looked around, I said, there there's there's a lot of people that are disciplined, and there's a lot of people that are not disciplined. 00:22:39.839 --> 00:22:42.720 And I try to figure out okay, well, what's the problem? 00:22:43.039 --> 00:22:47.200 Like, there are people that are disciplined, not disciplined, like what is the cause? 00:22:47.359 --> 00:22:53.200 So, what I discovered is that the military gives you a structure, it gives you that system. 00:22:53.599 --> 00:23:01.920 If you follow the structure, if you follow the system or those standards, if you follow the standards, then you acquire discipline. 00:23:02.079 --> 00:23:05.759 It's the same, except that the civilian is way more difficult. 00:23:05.920 --> 00:23:16.559 Oh, switching from the military to the civilian, it's it's one of the most difficult parts because they're telling you, oh, you need to separate military from civilian life. 00:23:16.720 --> 00:23:18.880 No, I I it took me years. 00:23:19.119 --> 00:23:28.319 Now you have to merge the two together and understand, okay, I I was a soldier and I will always be a soldier, but I am also a civilian. 00:23:28.400 --> 00:23:30.319 So now you're merging the two together. 00:23:30.480 --> 00:23:34.160 And so now you're creating that structure, you're creating that system. 00:23:34.240 --> 00:23:36.640 But now you're in a civilian, you can do whatever you want. 00:23:36.880 --> 00:23:39.599 If I want to walk a certain way, I'm walking a certain way. 00:23:39.759 --> 00:23:42.559 I don't have someone telling me this is the way to walk. 00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:54.640 I I don't tell, hey, if I want to wear a dress shirt, that's that's what I want to wear, but no one's telling me, oh, your dress shirt is crooked over here, or no one's gonna inspect my bed. 00:23:54.799 --> 00:24:06.400 Or so now what God gives you, or or having this framework where you have values, you're able to be content because you understand that these are your values. 00:24:06.559 --> 00:24:10.240 You're going on a date, the girl doesn't fit the values. 00:24:10.400 --> 00:24:11.039 That's fine. 00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:12.640 I'm content with it. 00:24:12.799 --> 00:24:14.319 I had a fun time. 00:24:14.799 --> 00:24:15.680 It's okay. 00:24:15.839 --> 00:24:17.759 We're just parting ways, and that's it. 00:24:17.920 --> 00:24:19.839 You're on your journey, I'm on my journey. 00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:21.440 You're not a Christian, I'm a Christian. 00:24:21.519 --> 00:24:22.079 There you go. 00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:27.519 You can go on your own, but I will respect my boundaries based on my system of value. 00:24:27.680 --> 00:24:32.559 I will do my best and I will be content when I please my God. 00:24:32.799 --> 00:24:40.720 My God is in the Bible, He gave me that set of rules, He gave me that, so I can gain discipline, so I can gain resilience. 00:24:40.880 --> 00:24:50.880 And then when you look at it from a non-secular perspective or like a person that is not a Christian, then at least if you haven't written down all your values, okay. 00:24:50.960 --> 00:24:55.519 For for me, it's easy because boy, I I I have it written down already. 00:24:58.000 --> 00:25:01.119 Like, well, people died to give me that book. 00:25:02.880 --> 00:25:06.079 It's already written down, like it's like the cheat code of all. 00:25:06.640 --> 00:25:08.079 It's so painful. 00:25:08.319 --> 00:25:27.279 But for yeah, but for people that don't believe in Jesus, well, he he here are all these stories or here are all these stories, or here are the stories that you can make up, or like the value system that you can make up, and then create it based on your stories and your values, enumerate it, look at it, and say, Well, this is what I want you. 00:25:27.680 --> 00:25:32.720 So now you're able to be content because you're living according to your values. 00:25:32.960 --> 00:25:45.279 So I would say pick your values before your goals, which, if you pick your values before your goals, then you can pick any goal that you want, because any goal can become a, in my view, a sin. 00:25:45.519 --> 00:25:51.119 Any goal can become a sin, even as righteous as it may seem to everybody else. 00:25:51.200 --> 00:25:58.400 There's nothing inherently wrong in becoming a doctor, but it's how you get to becoming a doctor, and it's all the things that you're gonna be doing. 00:25:58.480 --> 00:26:04.319 So there's nothing wrong with it, but it's the values before the goal, and that will lead you to be content. 00:26:04.559 --> 00:26:10.559 I I think that's really well put because especially what I what I think you're you're really drawing to is an authority structure. 00:26:10.720 --> 00:26:19.839 I report to an authority structure, and in the army it's easy because if you don't make your bed, that guy's gonna come and put you in the front leaning rest, and you're not gonna be able to move until you learn your lesson. 00:26:20.079 --> 00:26:28.799 Um, and so the discipline is is it's right in front of your face, you know, it and it's applied from somebody else, that authority structure. 00:26:28.960 --> 00:26:32.000 When you get out of the military, there is no authority structure. 00:26:32.160 --> 00:26:38.400 You know, most you're not likely living with mom and dad, or even if you are, mom and dad probably aren't going in your room and telling you what to do. 00:26:38.640 --> 00:26:45.599 And so I think that's something to where the ability to for us to say that authority structure is God. 00:26:45.680 --> 00:26:55.920 So this is what's

going to drive me and what's going to fulfill me, you know, surrendering to that for us, and you know, anybody who abides by that, the more you surrender to that, I promise you, the more contentment you'll feel. 00:26:56.079 --> 00:27:00.160 But if you're not a Christian, one thing that I really love, it's a quote from uh Eric Thomas. 00:27:00.240 --> 00:27:02.480 And it's always just rang in the back of my head. 00:27:02.559 --> 00:27:05.279 It's he says, at the end of every principle is a promise. 00:27:05.519 --> 00:27:13.599 And so if you don't have principles in your life that you're adhering to, you're not guaranteed any fruit at the end of this. 00:27:13.680 --> 00:27:16.480 You're not guaranteed yields for all of your hard effort. 00:27:16.640 --> 00:27:31.359 But if I know I'm gonna make my bed every single day and I know I'm gonna be on time to every single thing I do, and I know I'm gonna have a good attitude, and you have these principles in your life that drive you, even if they're not religious, um, those will guarantee you things in your life. 00:27:31.519 --> 00:27:34.720 If you have just those four things we listed, well, you're pretty employable. 00:27:34.799 --> 00:27:39.359 You're probably going to be able to get a job, and that's a thing that lots of people struggle with these days. 00:27:39.519 --> 00:27:45.200 And so I think if, like you said, you need to pick your values before you pick your goals. 00:27:45.359 --> 00:27:51.839 If I don't know my principles and what drives me, then I'm kind of just a bull in a china shop knocking stuff over. 00:27:51.920 --> 00:28:00.799 And I might get something done that I wanted to accomplish, but it's more, it's more often than not going to cause chaos in my life than I am gonna uh make it better. 00:28:02.640 --> 00:28:03.440 Yeah, yeah, you're heard. 00:28:03.920 --> 00:28:04.400 Awesome. 00:28:04.640 --> 00:28:08.559 So what was the what was the uh the hardest part for you? 00:28:08.799 --> 00:28:29.519 Because was well, let me let me rephrase this question because I had a distinct transition period where I went from the discipline and structure of the army, and then I went and just sat on my butt and ate as much fast food as I could because I was like, I'm I'm free, I did my work, I did what I was supposed to do, and I quickly was met with the uh realization that you can't do that forever. 00:28:30.079 --> 00:28:34.640 Uh and so I changed course back uh back into a life of fitness, thankfully. 00:28:34.799 --> 00:28:37.599 Um, but that was a distinct period of my life. 00:28:37.759 --> 00:28:45.440 Did you have a distinct transition where you had to kind of set a fire under your own butt to get back into structure, or was it seamless for you? 00:28:45.680 --> 00:28:52.720 Seamless in the sense of moving from one transition to the next, but having different learning curves. 00:28:53.440 --> 00:29:02.799 So going from military structure where you're um or going from yeah, the military structure to the civilian. 00:29:02.960 --> 00:29:07.200 I understood, well, I I want that this is where God wants me to be. 00:29:07.440 --> 00:29:10.720 Um, so I had to pray about it. 00:29:10.880 --> 00:29:15.039 And so the the seamless transition was more through faith. 00:29:15.200 --> 00:29:31.519 So at first it was about uh going from the military to the civilian and not really understanding what I would have to do, or it was more uh I said, Oh god, uh, I need ten thousand dollars just to go to college. 00:29:31.680 --> 00:29:33.519 Like I just need that money. 00:29:33.599 --> 00:29:53.119 Here's on a piece of paper, and I was praying, and then when I stood up, phone rang, and it was this lady, and she said, We we did this claim in the military, and uh we said no, we're so sorry, we made a mistake, you'll have the money in the next couple of days. 00:29:53.359 --> 00:29:55.359 Um we approved it. 00:29:55.440 --> 00:29:59.279 I don't know what happened, and then all of a sudden it was 10,100. 00:29:59.759 --> 00:30:01.759 Like it was just wow, okay. 00:30:02.000 --> 00:30:05.519 So I had to renew my mind daily. 00:30:05.680 --> 00:30:18.720 That's what was happening, is that every every so often I would get these form of ways that God would show, okay, I I still got you, but you still have to do the work that I called you to do. 00:30:18.960 --> 00:30:22.640 So um, again, my pride was was huge. 00:30:22.799 --> 00:30:44.559 Uh I I wanted to again, you you want to leave the military, but you want to be highly successful financially, and you want everybody to love you, and you want everybody, and then you realize okay, God is placing me at that specific moment, that specific state of mind, and I have to perform certain actions based on that. 00:30:44.960 --> 00:31:00.240 And um, that's when I got to the Epic Decca, and it would it was still difficult, I still, but it was at another level to sell your house so that you can go do a race for two weeks to go to Hawaii, and then two weeks later you come back. 00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:22.000 And I was in a in a storage unit, and I remember being on a on an air mattress, using my jacket as a pillow with all my boxes around, sleeping in a in a place that is smaller than under a uh a desk, and thinking, I'm the epic deck of guy, like I finished this. 00:31:22.160 --> 00:31:24.240 Like, do you know who I am? 00:31:24.400 --> 00:31:34.400 And and it was just and I was thinking, uh, this is how I'm going to inspire others, and um that might be the platform for certain individuals. 00:31:34.640 --> 00:31:44.079 It just wasn't the platform that God could use because it is prideful, and so my pride had to break down, my pride had to go out the window. 00:31:44.319 --> 00:31:46.559 Uh, and so it took me a while. 00:31:46.720 --> 00:31:56.000 It took me a while to really just let go and say, okay, this is and even after I let go, it took some time to really build back up to really like now.

00:31:56.079 --> 00:31:59.519 We're I'm doing fine, I have a house, like I'm doing very fine, right? 00:31:59.680 --> 00:32:04.079 But but it took a while for for your mind to be renewed. 00:32:04.240 --> 00:32:14.960 And so when the Bible in uh Romans 12, 2, it says to renew your mind daily, uh it is a daily task that people have to go through. 00:32:15.119 --> 00:32:18.640 Your situation might shift in some instance. 00:32:18.799 --> 00:32:31.920 For me, it did when I reached college, then all of a sudden I had that 10,100 boom, but I still had to walk through my own desert, so to speak, to use the analogy of the Israelites in the desert. 00:32:32.319 --> 00:32:45.119 I still had to perform certain actions that would yield a certain result, and uh, people want the magic pill that will get them to the other side immediately. 00:32:45.279 --> 00:33:03.119 Uh, because well, Neil had the choice between two pills and he picked one, and because he picked that one, now he has an unlimited amount of knowledge because you can just have a chip in your brain and do whatever you want, and your entire life has changed like this. 00:33:03.279 --> 00:33:12.160 That does not happen, and there's not a story in the like anywhere that's that everything just changes from one day to another. 00:33:12.319 --> 00:33:19.119 All of these movies are showing, and there's a word for it, it's called a montage, right? 00:33:19.200 --> 00:33:25.119 Which is a French word to say your take or in English, uh, the English word would be montage, right? 00:33:25.200 --> 00:33:31.839 Like when you take that in your face, I was thinking, well, he probably didn't get the yeah. 00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:36.640 That's funny, yeah. 00:33:36.880 --> 00:33:56.160 So a montage, right, or in the French way is uh is when you take a bunch of clips and then you're you're just uh putting the workouts of Rocky and not showing that he trained for an entire winter or he trained for an entire year to beat that guy on the ring. 00:33:56.319 --> 00:34:00.160 That would be montage that a lot of people would know. 00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:14.800 And so when you're starting to look at the life, and and you can even look at the Bible that way, you're you're flipping one page and you're going, Yeah, the Israelites were struggling for 400 years, and then you flip the next page, and you're like, Oh wow, there's deliverance right there. 00:34:15.039 --> 00:34:17.920 You're thinking, well, okay, that's that's the very next page. 00:34:18.000 --> 00:34:26.480 So within, so for you within the span of time, you just read 400 years of stories of the Israelites. 00:34:26.639 --> 00:34:28.559 You read the beginning and then you read the end. 00:34:28.719 --> 00:34:33.679 Congratulations! But in your life, it will last every single day. 00:34:33.840 --> 00:34:43.440 And so when I say renew your mind, is uh the Bible, Bible acclaim it, but I I'm saying it right now, is that you have to do it daily. 00:34:43.760 --> 00:34:59.920 Daily, you are to renew your mind on what are your values, so it's not just about being um in a gratitude state, it's contentment is understanding that there are some difficult situations. 00:35:00.079 --> 00:35:06.960 See, I was in a storage unit on an air mattress that I had to fold because otherwise I would not even have a place to write my book. 00:35:07.039 --> 00:35:08.639 That's what I was doing. 00:35:09.519 --> 00:35:18.480 And and and putting my jacket back on so I could go outside because it's cold in Canada, and so uh was I content? 00:35:18.639 --> 00:35:21.679 Well, it was a difficult moment, but I was content, right? 00:35:21.840 --> 00:35:24.880 My pride was saying, no, you're you shouldn't be content. 00:35:25.039 --> 00:35:32.239 But I said, you know what, I am in the position that I am right now, and I will get to that next level when the time comes. 00:35:32.400 --> 00:35:42.800 I will work for that next level, and right now I am working on that next level because we are doing very well as a as a company, we're growing, we're we're expanding. 00:35:43.280 --> 00:35:50.960 I'm I'm enjoying it, but I'm understanding that I have this past, I have understanding that well, right now I'm at that stage. 00:35:51.119 --> 00:35:53.039 I can go lower, I can go higher. 00:35:53.199 --> 00:35:56.320 It's about am I in the right spot at the right? 00:35:56.719 --> 00:36:19.199 Yeah, and I think that's so important where you say renew your mind daily, because you know, especially when you're renewing or uh, you know, reset, like reset the board is almost what I like to say, where you remind yourself that life is not gum drops and rainbows and lollipops, and that it's actually pretty challenging and there's a good deal of suffering that you're gonna have to begin to become content with. 00:36:19.360 --> 00:36:34.960 And if you know, when you when you can reset your eyes on the fact that, oh, the suffering was embedded in, I was going to suffer as part of this, you can begin to take it on lack of a better word, take it on the chin or rationalize it better. 00:36:35.199 --> 00:36:45.920 Because when you tell a story, you know, as incredible as yours, where it's like, you know, I'm having these personal battles in my head all the while, you just did one of the most incredible things and you're living in a storage unit. 00:36:46.079 --> 00:36:54.000 And if you can't come to terms with the fact that this was going to be hard, this is going to be a decision you have to make daily. 00:36:54.239 --> 00:37:02.559 Um, and even in the midst of making that decision, your life probably isn't going to get immediately better, but you need to make the decision anyways, daily. 00:37:02.800 --> 00:37:15.840 And I think that's something that gets so lost on people because they think, like you said, it's like something's gonna come from on high, where as soon as I have this one thought or I do this one thing, all of my stresses will just go as far

as the east is from the west. 00:37:15.920 --> 00:37:16.960 And that's never happened. 00:37:17.440 --> 00:37:30.480 I I have to renew my I have to I have to dedicate myself to whatever principle, my faith, whatever it is, every single day, or I'm gonna start buying my own lies unless I reset myself on what is actually true. 00:37:30.639 --> 00:37:41.039 Um, and I just to touch on what you said, you know, because I think it's it's it's really interesting that you brought up uh the Exodus where where uh the it where the Israelites were were fleeing Egypt. 00:37:41.360 --> 00:37:44.559 Um, and there was a lot of despair. 00:37:44.800 --> 00:37:55.679 And in the midst of them having freedom, they were starving and hungry and and like this is hard to talk about, but a lot of them wanted to go back to Egypt because that's how much suffering there was. 00:37:55.760 --> 00:38:05.599 That's how hard it is to wake up, bear your cross daily, and do the right thing, to fight for your own freedom, to f to purchase like your ability to do things in this life. 00:38:05.840 --> 00:38:11.840 Um, and I I just think about that often where it's like, imagine they turned around, imagine they turned around. 00:38:12.000 --> 00:38:16.960 You have to you have to stay driven, you have to stay faithful, you have to understand that the suffering is yours. 00:38:17.119 --> 00:38:30.320 There, that there was always going to be a degree of suffering, and I have to make a decision every single day, whether it's within myself or in my meditation or whatever it is, I have to rededicate myself to what matters, or I'm gonna turn back to Egypt. 00:38:31.599 --> 00:38:32.800 Yeah, yeah, exactly. 00:38:32.960 --> 00:38:45.280 So it's about putting a clear path as to where you want to go, where are you right now, understanding the facts by lying to yourself, you are not helping yourself. 00:38:45.440 --> 00:38:58.159 If you are overweight and you want to lose weight, then you have to be understanding this is where I'm at, this is where I want to be, and I'm honest with myself, this is what I want. 00:38:58.400 --> 00:39:03.760 If you are uh to me, I left the military, I had no education. 00:39:04.079 --> 00:39:09.679 The the the okay, yes, saving people's lives is fine. 00:39:09.840 --> 00:39:16.880 Like you're a diver, there's no transferable skills, like skills like from a military okay. 00:39:16.960 --> 00:39:17.440 Yeah, there you go. 00:39:17.519 --> 00:39:19.679 You're right, you're doing basic training, okay? 00:39:19.840 --> 00:39:24.960 And then uh they hand you a gun and then they say, Well, here you can take it apart and then go shoot down the range. 00:39:25.039 --> 00:39:26.079 Okay, is that transferable? 00:39:26.239 --> 00:39:26.960 None in Canada. 00:39:27.039 --> 00:39:27.840 They remove our guns. 00:39:27.920 --> 00:39:28.400 There you go. 00:39:28.559 --> 00:39:30.159 So, what about what's next? 00:39:30.320 --> 00:39:30.880 Well, there you go. 00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:36.719 Uh, here's a gas mask, and uh go into this room and you have to put it under nine seconds. 00:39:36.800 --> 00:39:37.360 Like, what? 00:39:37.599 --> 00:39:38.880 What even a subway? 00:39:39.199 --> 00:40:19.440 You really think that I'm gonna go and put this on my resume and say, No, maybe I'm gonna have some weird twisted LinkedIn way of twisting it and say, uh, I am able to go under pressure into rooms that are like okay, thank you, but they're not hard transferable skills where I was an electrician and now I am an electrician in the civilian, and and very often, even in the military, they um very often they they train you in the military and then they forget the civilian part, so that you when you transfer to the civilian, you have to go through courses and training anyway. 00:40:19.599 --> 00:40:23.599 So uh you're transferring from one to to to the next. 00:40:23.760 --> 00:40:30.559 There will be challenges, and um, to me, I I went through every single one of them, right? 00:40:30.719 --> 00:40:36.480 Going from the military to the civilian and not even having any transferable skills. 00:40:36.639 --> 00:40:41.119 So I wanted to go back, and God had no had cut that that barrier. 00:40:41.280 --> 00:40:45.119 I would say that's why God, you know, it's not written in the Bible. 00:40:45.199 --> 00:40:55.519 That's my assumption, is that that's why God made them cross the Red Sea, is because again, uh they can't go back, they understand there there's no going back. 00:40:55.840 --> 00:40:56.559 What are you gonna do? 00:40:56.719 --> 00:40:57.760 Start swimming. 00:40:58.239 --> 00:41:06.639 Oh, there might have been that one guy, that one epic decade guy that's like, Oh yeah, I'm going back to Egypt and maybe sweat that, right? 00:41:07.119 --> 00:41:20.960 But like you, but most people are again not putting it in uh a clear paper and saying, Look, this is where I want to go. 00:41:21.119 --> 00:41:24.960 I have faith that I can achieve that, it's realistic. 00:41:25.119 --> 00:41:27.360 You have to make a goal that is realist. 00:41:27.519 --> 00:41:29.760 That's my goal realistically. 00:41:29.920 --> 00:41:30.800 What can I do? 00:41:30.880 --> 00:41:37.039 That's why people hire coaches, that's why people hire other individuals that have been in these shoes. 00:41:37.199 --> 00:41:42.320 Is that they you look at it and you say, Look, this is my um daily faith. 00:41:42.400 --> 00:41:44.000 I want to achieve this goal. 00:41:44.320 --> 00:41:45.760 Is this achievable? 00:41:45.920 --> 00:41:49.920 And you look at him and you say, No, no, it's not. 00:41:50.079 --> 00:41:57.039 So the worst coaches, the worst coaches out there will look at you and say yes, and then just take your money, and that's it. 00:41:57.199 --> 00:41:58.639 Those are the worst coaches. 00:41:58.800 --> 00:42:10.719 The so the worst thing, and I mean, to me, it was a blessing, a blessing that well, it was a bad family life, so I was rejected, and then I

was rejected at school, so bullied. 00:42:10.880 --> 00:42:11.679 It was a blessing. 00:42:11.920 --> 00:42:12.320 Why? 00:42:12.559 --> 00:42:19.360 Well, because I did not attach myself to critic criticism, like that critical side that others have. 00:42:19.599 --> 00:42:22.239 I just understood this is for them. 00:42:22.400 --> 00:42:24.639 So I joined the military, that's it. 00:42:24.880 --> 00:42:25.679 Was it hard? 00:42:25.840 --> 00:42:28.159 Yes, because you're going into the military. 00:42:28.320 --> 00:42:30.639 I did not want to go in the military, like at all. 00:42:30.880 --> 00:42:31.360 At all. 00:42:31.440 --> 00:42:32.800 I was 17 years old. 00:42:32.960 --> 00:42:36.880 I I why why would I want to go in the military? 00:42:37.039 --> 00:42:39.119 But again, this was my my choice. 00:42:39.280 --> 00:42:43.519 I I preferred to go in the military than to go in the street, so that was pretty much it. 00:42:43.760 --> 00:42:50.639 Or get in debt into a degree that I did not even know what I really wanted to do, I did not have any backup plan. 00:42:50.880 --> 00:43:00.480 So I said, okay, military it is, but then moving from the military to the civilian is the same concept, it's constantly improving and improving and moving forward. 00:43:00.639 --> 00:43:08.320 So the advice I would give everyone is to have a clear step, okay, and make it definitive. 00:43:08.480 --> 00:43:19.920 So within the next one year or two years, I will achieve X goal, I will have faith that this is what I want to achieve, and then you read it daily. 00:43:20.159 --> 00:43:27.760 If you read that, we're not just talking about some weird affirmation of think positive, everything's gonna be positive in your life. 00:43:27.920 --> 00:43:30.559 I don't believe in this, I don't at all. 00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:31.039 Why? 00:43:31.199 --> 00:43:37.920 Because if I think I'm going to lose weight and I think I'm gonna lose weight, no, if I don't do any action, I'm not gonna lose weight. 00:43:38.079 --> 00:43:39.840 Like that's that's that's the end goal. 00:43:40.000 --> 00:43:42.559 You have to perform certain action in between. 00:43:42.800 --> 00:43:47.679 Understand there's the mindset between it, but you have to make it clear to your mind. 00:43:47.840 --> 00:43:48.880 You have to make it clear. 00:43:49.039 --> 00:43:50.000 So, how do you do that? 00:43:50.239 --> 00:43:58.480 Clear, definitive goal within a time frame so that your brain understands oh, oh, I don't have five years or 10 years to achieve that goal. 00:43:58.639 --> 00:43:59.519 I know that within that. 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:01.679 Yeah, I have to achieve it. 00:44:01.760 --> 00:44:12.400 And because your brain is built, like your entire body, by the way, is designed for survival, then you are designed to get that hunger, which you mentioned, that purpose. 00:44:12.559 --> 00:44:13.920 That purpose comes. 00:44:14.079 --> 00:44:25.920 Uh purpose is the byproduct, essentially, because you're you're essentially using uh your you're you're picking your goal, which you already pick your value, by the way. 00:44:26.000 --> 00:44:31.599 You pick your goal, you enumerate it, you say, okay, I'm going to finish it within a set time frame. 00:44:31.840 --> 00:44:44.159 And then by trying to achieve it because of survival, then you end up finding that purpose that you were built for, because your brain is designed to achieve that. 00:44:44.559 --> 00:44:45.760 Like you have to survive. 00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:46.800 So you're going to achieve that. 00:44:47.679 --> 00:44:49.119 You're wired to survive. 00:44:49.280 --> 00:44:53.039 And the the other thing that I always try to remind people is you're wired to adapt. 00:44:53.119 --> 00:45:01.760 You're supposed to be able to take variables, you're supposed to be able to incur the circumstances that life is throwing at you and be like, maybe I can't do an hour and a half workout. 00:45:01.840 --> 00:45:03.599 Is 45 minutes actually okay? 00:45:03.760 --> 00:45:04.239 Yes. 00:45:04.480 --> 00:45:08.800 So many people end up throwing the baby out with the bathwater on so many things. 00:45:09.039 --> 00:45:18.800 Um, and you know, where you're where you're my one of my favorite things where you're saying is you know, the importance of of being real with yourself and setting that goal. 00:45:19.039 --> 00:45:28.400 Because if I set some kind of crazy goal that I can't hit and then I'm demoralized and quit because I'm not gonna hit my goal, um, I only have so much time on the turf. 00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:33.760 And and you know, you said you said think about uh these where I'm going, think about the goal. 00:45:33.920 --> 00:45:36.480 Another thing is too, if that's not working, think about the consequence. 00:45:37.039 --> 00:45:39.360 Everybody pays the piper eventually. 00:45:39.519 --> 00:45:46.480 And if I continue to furlough my payments, eventually the piper's gonna come and knock on my door and he's gonna say, Where's my money? 00:45:46.880 --> 00:46:07.440 And and if you again, if it throughout your life you've been making payments, you've been doing a little stretching, you've been doing a little meditating, you've been doing some working out, and you've been doing what you're supposed to do, then when whatever, whatever, whether it's old age and just aging, or maybe you have an injury that occurs, this isn't gonna be as drastic because you did what you were supposed to do already, and the payments not gonna be as bad. 00:46:07.599 --> 00:46:14.880 But if you did nothing and you continually put yourself in this cycle of 20 years of saying it's gonna be different, it's gonna be different, it's gonna be different. 00:46:15.039 --> 00:46:17.840 Well, the only thing that needs to be different is the decision making. 00:46:18.000 --> 00:46:23.679 Because if you don't change the decision making, start making payments to the piper, eventually it's you're gonna be in a position where you

can't. 00:46:23.920 --> 00:46:40.400 And whether it's you're dealing with the issues of aging or you know, uh some people, you know, whether it's I'm 55 and I never cared, cared about my health, and now I'm overweight and I can't use half of my muscles, and now my organs are failing, and now I don't feel like I can actually do anything about it. 00:46:40.559 --> 00:46:42.320 That is my friends is the piper. 00:46:43.360 --> 00:46:50.559 And and you know, so if you're not positively motivated where it's like I want to do great things with my life, some of us just want to live. 00:46:50.719 --> 00:46:58.000 Some of us just ex and like you know, exactly what you're preaching, JD, which is like this contentness, like to be okay with just existing in my life. 00:46:58.159 --> 00:47:01.760 Well, if you're not doing the things you're supposed to do, that that will get taken. 00:47:01.840 --> 00:47:13.280 And I think that's an important thing for people to remember, especially as you know, I I'm sure there's I'm sure if you did the statistics, I can't imagine the health outcomes for for young men and ladies coming out of the military is great. 00:47:13.360 --> 00:47:21.119 I can't uh with all the nicotine that that gets pushed on them, with all the energy drinks that gets pushed on them, with all the bad dietary habits that gets pushed on them. 00:47:21.280 --> 00:47:34.320 I have so many friends who got out and I love them, and I and I but they have to be real with themselves and they have to put that fire under their own butts and say, Hey, I worked so hard for five years, but I've kind of stagnated for the last 20. 00:47:34.400 --> 00:47:38.239 And if I don't start doing something now, uh my I I can kiss the life goodbye. 00:47:38.320 --> 00:47:42.800 And I I think we should all be on board of convincing our friends and peers not to do that. 00:47:44.000 --> 00:47:46.159 Yeah, that's what love is, right? 00:47:46.480 --> 00:47:47.280 Yeah, yeah. 00:47:47.440 --> 00:47:56.559 So yeah, you should get your coach or someone uh in your circle that challenges you and loves you enough to tell you, yes, you're in the wrong direction here. 00:47:57.760 --> 00:48:04.719 Yeah, and I know I've lost a lot of friends as a result of telling them that what they were doing was wrong. 00:48:04.880 --> 00:48:12.719 I totally understand, but I prefer to live this life but not be responsible for being a part of their decay. 00:48:13.280 --> 00:48:20.880 And you don't have to be a you know, one one big thing that I think of too is you know, when you these people are in a decay, are you assuming that I've never been in a state of decay? 00:48:20.960 --> 00:48:25.840 Like that's what these people are acting like you're saying when you're trying to stuff like, hey, I I have decayed before. 00:48:26.320 --> 00:48:32.079 Like I'm trying to help you not do what I did, and and it just they never they never seem to see it. 00:48:32.159 --> 00:48:33.760 I think it comes from a place of shame. 00:48:33.840 --> 00:48:35.840 There is no reason to be ashamed, you know. 00:48:35.920 --> 00:48:38.800 We, you know, especially from our outlook, we're told to come as we are. 00:48:39.039 --> 00:48:40.639 We will be changed through the process. 00:48:40.800 --> 00:48:44.000 And if you continually come, you will be rewarded if you seek it out. 00:48:44.159 --> 00:48:52.320 And so, you know, if you whether you know your shame is coming from, oh, I'm overweight and I don't think I can do it, or I've never worked out, I don't think I could do the epic defka. 00:48:52.480 --> 00:48:53.760 Did I pronounce it right? 00:48:54.960 --> 00:48:55.599 Perfect. 00:48:55.760 --> 00:48:57.360 Uh, I don't think I could do that. 00:48:57.440 --> 00:49:00.800 And you know, honestly, honest to God, JD, you're incredible. 00:49:00.880 --> 00:49:04.880 A lot of people probably can't, because it takes a lifetime of work. 00:49:05.039 --> 00:49:17.519 And if you do not start where JD started, where this is where I'm saying these winds we have windows in our lives, and the window will eclipse, and you will wake up at 40, you'll wake up at 50, you'll wake up at 60. 00:49:17.679 --> 00:49:19.679 I'll say, Man, I wish I had some principles. 00:49:19.920 --> 00:49:26.800 Man, I wish I listened when they said you need to have your values first, because otherwise you're gonna wither away and and be just like everybody else. 00:49:26.960 --> 00:49:33.679 And I, you know, I don't think there's anything wrong with being everybody else, but I think most of those people are too ashamed to admit they need help. 00:49:33.840 --> 00:49:35.440 And and they could be great. 00:49:35.519 --> 00:49:40.639 And I and I think, yeah, that that's just one thing I wanted to mention because we because we mentioned a lot a lot of flaws today. 00:49:40.719 --> 00:49:42.239 And it's like you don't have to be ashamed of them. 00:49:42.320 --> 00:49:47.920 You know, we all have flaws, I have flaws, I have things that I struggled with that threw me off, especially getting out of the military. 00:49:48.000 --> 00:49:49.599 You know, we talked about overeating. 00:49:49.760 --> 00:49:58.159 Um, it's really easy to get swallowed up by these things, but if you're not honest and real about addressing them, then then uh you're gonna have a hard time. 00:49:58.400 --> 00:50:00.320 Yeah, so I'm glad that we disagree on that. 00:50:00.400 --> 00:50:01.599 Uh that's good. 00:50:01.760 --> 00:50:02.000 Yeah. 00:50:02.159 --> 00:50:04.159 Yeah, yeah, we disagree on that for sure. 00:50:04.239 --> 00:50:08.159 Because I think there needs to be some uh level of shame. 00:50:08.320 --> 00:50:14.480 Uh about like I I am ashamed of certain behaviors that I did when I was in the military. 00:50:14.639 --> 00:50:21.679 Uh, the level of caffeine that I ingested, uh, that was ridiculous. 00:50:22.079 --> 00:50:22.639 Ridiculous. 00:50:22.719 --> 00:50:29.679 You go on watch and then you take in an

excessive amount of coffee, or um, and I'm ashamed of it, right? 00:50:29.760 --> 00:50:42.159 But it's understanding that well, I'm I'm I have so much shame that I I I'm sharing it with people on a podcast, I'm open about it, and I don't want to go back to that that stage, right? 00:50:42.480 --> 00:50:57.039 And I think that by adding a certain level of shame, understanding I'm not I'm content where I am, but I'm not going to be satisfied, is where people should be. 00:50:57.119 --> 00:51:03.679 Anyway, and and again, it's it's in my views because again, I am ashamed that I finish fifth. 00:51:03.840 --> 00:51:04.159 Why? 00:51:04.400 --> 00:51:23.280 Because I am I I know, and I I said it earlier, I know that I pushed business and other aspects of my life, which are important as well, but I know that I did not do my workouts completely at 100%. 00:51:24.480 --> 00:51:31.679 And because I did not do it at 100%, say I think the the fourth was a minute or two in front of me. 00:51:32.000 --> 00:51:41.360 Because of all of these workouts that I was cheap with, I could have really pushed that extra two minutes. 00:51:41.920 --> 00:51:46.880 I understand that the first one was I think half an hour in front of me. 00:51:47.039 --> 00:51:49.760 So I understand that I would have not been first. 00:51:49.920 --> 00:51:52.400 Okay, so at least there's that okay. 00:51:52.639 --> 00:51:58.480 Whether I finish that cycling or that the product, oh, I pushed a little bit more today. 00:51:58.559 --> 00:52:00.079 Oh, definitely I'm gonna finish first. 00:52:00.159 --> 00:52:03.119 And I'm gonna knock off half an hour on my on my half marathon. 00:52:03.199 --> 00:52:03.840 Yeah, okay. 00:52:04.559 --> 00:52:06.960 I I I understand that concept, right? 00:52:07.039 --> 00:52:19.360 Like I I but at least I understand that I would have been probably fourth, if not third, and at that third level, then at least I would have been the because the the third and fourth were in front of me. 00:52:19.519 --> 00:52:20.960 I could have pushed harder. 00:52:21.119 --> 00:52:26.480 Now I gave my all in the race, but it's all of these workouts leading up to it. 00:52:26.639 --> 00:52:27.760 I know I messed up. 00:52:27.840 --> 00:52:33.920 So there's that that understanding that I am such ashamed that I want to change myself. 00:52:34.159 --> 00:52:36.719 So um, same concept for Christianity. 00:52:36.960 --> 00:52:39.679 I am such ashamed of my sin. 00:52:39.920 --> 00:52:44.559 I am dirty that I want to repent and follow that authority. 00:52:44.719 --> 00:52:46.639 So there needs to be that level of shame. 00:52:46.800 --> 00:53:10.639 Now, uh, back in the day, someone would um um now again, I'm not advocating that we need to go back to that stage, but uh, if someone would behave inappropriately, uh, according to how everyone viewed uh God's word, which might have been right or wrong, we don't have to get into that debate, that person would be shamed, shamed into the city. 00:53:10.800 --> 00:53:15.760 Their business was not uh growing because uh they were they were ashamed. 00:53:15.920 --> 00:53:28.960 So we need to to uh again have that level of shame, but use it in a way that has uh an action being driven out of that shame. 00:53:29.519 --> 00:53:37.440 So um the way I can explain it is there is um negative to negative, negative to positive, and then negative to constructive. 00:53:37.599 --> 00:53:40.320 So something negative somewhere happened in your life. 00:53:40.480 --> 00:53:40.880 That's it. 00:53:41.039 --> 00:53:41.360 Okay. 00:53:41.679 --> 00:54:02.000 Uh for me, uh, one of my best friend at Special Forces, we uh we served uh uh together uh multiple uh places and and love the guy very much, but he passed away and he took his life and he said, Okay, well, there you go. 00:54:02.079 --> 00:54:04.239 I'm throwing it away, right? 00:54:04.320 --> 00:54:11.280 So he died, left his kids, his wife, and um like now I went to the funeral. 00:54:11.440 --> 00:54:12.480 Show up at the funeral. 00:54:12.559 --> 00:54:14.800 Now that's something highly negative, okay. 00:54:14.880 --> 00:54:20.400 And you can use anything that is negative in your life that happened for me, it was coffee or something like that, right? 00:54:20.480 --> 00:54:21.840 Like you can pick any anything. 00:54:21.920 --> 00:54:23.519 So I'm using this example. 00:54:23.679 --> 00:54:27.119 So uh he uh analyzed himself. 00:54:27.280 --> 00:54:28.079 That's negative. 00:54:28.239 --> 00:54:33.280 Now I could have used it and said, okay, negative to negative, so I start drinking, right? 00:54:33.360 --> 00:54:35.599 That's that's that's a negative to a negative. 00:54:35.760 --> 00:54:44.239 It's still solving the situation in some capacity because yes, I am not thinking about it, but I'm numbing it, okay. 00:54:44.400 --> 00:54:47.519 Uh which which is a form, right? 00:54:47.679 --> 00:55:03.280 Then I can use it in terms of uh negative to positive, which a lot of people are doing, where I say he died, but uh here's all the great things, here's all the and I'm switching everything, but changing a negative to a negative is uh just amplifying the situation. 00:55:03.440 --> 00:55:11.280 Negative to positive is changing, uh it takes a lot of energy because energy can be created, can just be transferred. 00:55:11.360 --> 00:55:19.199 And so by transferring it, there is some loss somewhere, and uh so now you're going from negative to positive. 00:55:19.360 --> 00:55:25.280 Now, again, for him, uh for for me, it was negative to constructive. 00:55:25.440 --> 00:55:31.599 And so what I did was um we I went to an event, I was at the funeral, and then there was an event. 00:55:31.760 --> 00:55:38.880 He was known around the world for being one of uh uh the only male that swam that straight twice. 00:55:39.039 --> 00:55:54.000 Uh it was like a 17 kilometer, so what is that, like 11 miles of swimming and tides and shit, like tide shift, uh

current shifts, sharks, cold water, and so I took a crew, took a team, and then I swam that straight. 00:55:54.159 --> 00:55:58.559 Now just once, but not like you know, he he he's the only one that swam it twice. 00:55:58.719 --> 00:56:02.000 So we raised$65,000 for chronic illness kids to go to someone. 00:56:02.320 --> 00:56:19.119 Not to put back the spotlight on JD, but more on okay, this is how I use a highly negative and like event that I don't think would trigger anyone to go into something that is constructive, right? 00:56:19.280 --> 00:56:27.840 And so for him, what happened is that um the the reason why he went downward spiral is because there was no shame. 00:56:28.000 --> 00:56:40.960 For him, he was accepted in that uh in that environment that again he created, he definitely created it, and his wife knows it, uh, everybody knows he created that. 00:56:41.039 --> 00:57:02.559 That now, again, that might have been from the it is uh definitely from the military mindset and the right, he developed some things, some mindset in the military, and when he transferred from the military to the civilian, but because of the lack of shame and and uh he again analyzes himself. 00:57:02.719 --> 00:57:05.519 So the way that we can do it is okay, you know what? 00:57:05.679 --> 00:57:08.480 I am not in the state that I want to be in. 00:57:08.639 --> 00:57:12.880 I am not in the like I want to be an uh an engineer. 00:57:13.039 --> 00:57:13.519 That's it. 00:57:13.679 --> 00:57:17.199 Well, to become an engineer, you need to have a certain level of schooling. 00:57:17.360 --> 00:57:17.760 There you go. 00:57:17.840 --> 00:57:18.559 Is it difficult? 00:57:18.639 --> 00:57:18.880 Yes. 00:57:19.039 --> 00:57:19.840 Will it last long? 00:57:19.920 --> 00:57:20.159 Yes. 00:57:20.239 --> 00:57:22.639 I put on a piece of paper, this is what I want to do. 00:57:22.800 --> 00:57:24.079 I'm not at that level. 00:57:24.159 --> 00:57:26.719 Now, is it shameful that I am not at that level? 00:57:26.880 --> 00:57:28.719 I could have started a long time ago. 00:57:28.880 --> 00:57:30.639 I could have started when I was 17 years old. 00:57:30.719 --> 00:57:35.519 And if I look back, I'm thinking, uh, I wish I would have started a long time ago. 00:57:35.760 --> 00:57:37.039 I wish I started. 00:57:37.280 --> 00:57:39.840 Well, that's still a certain level of shame. 00:57:40.000 --> 00:58:01.199 But instead of looking at it from a negative to a negative, saying, Oh, I should have started when I'm 17 investing in uh income properties, all of my money in the military, and now I would have at least 10 complex buildings, and I would have done instead of looking at it this way, you're looking at it from I'm ashamed of what I have done. 00:58:01.360 --> 00:58:04.159 However, here's what I'm gonna do from now on. 00:58:04.320 --> 00:58:24.880 I am not going to do and partake in this type of behavior, and then I'm gonna use it in a way that is constructive, so not negative

to negative, that's the easy route, and it will yield some negative results, and then not negative to positive because that's very difficult, and you're still numbing regardless. 00:58:25.039 --> 00:58:34.400 You're still numbing from negative to constructive, you're numbing it in a way where you're gradually pushing a positive outcome and using that. 00:58:34.559 --> 00:58:36.400 You can use it in a breakup as well. 00:58:36.559 --> 00:58:39.440 I've used it in breakups, I've used that mindset as well. 00:58:39.519 --> 00:58:39.760 You know what? 00:58:39.840 --> 00:58:40.880 I'm going through a breakup. 00:58:40.960 --> 00:58:46.480 What can I do to channel that energy and use it as a catalyst? 00:58:46.639 --> 00:58:52.159 And you see this nowadays with a lot of uh kids, uh, mainly many guys. 00:58:52.239 --> 00:58:57.199 Uh the guys go through a breakup and then they say, Oh, I'm gonna get real thick. 00:58:58.960 --> 00:59:04.719 Well, that is a form of way of saying I am ashamed of what I did. 00:59:05.119 --> 00:59:19.519 I had a relationship with that individual that did not align with my values in the first place, which you should have just listened to uh David's podcast, and then you wouldn't have made that mistake, but okay, we won't harp on it. 00:59:21.039 --> 00:59:31.119 That's awesome, and then you get your values, and and you you were ashamed of of that behavior, and now you have a choice. 00:59:31.199 --> 00:59:38.159 You can say, Oh, I miss her so much, I'm just gonna go back home and start drinking my life away. 00:59:38.239 --> 00:59:45.119 And there are these guys that are drinking their life away, and I'm saying, Okay, well, aqua can be any other type of numbing, right? 00:59:45.199 --> 00:59:53.440 Some guys they just go into uh into work, they just go, go, go, go, go into work, and then you just forget about reality and growing. 00:59:53.599 --> 01:00:05.360 Now, there's nothing wrong with going to work, or there's nothing wrong with having a glass of wine or drinking alcohol, there's nothing wrong, it's the excess of it and why you're doing it. 01:00:05.519 --> 01:00:11.119 That is the the wrong part, the lack of self-control that ensues with it. 01:00:11.360 --> 01:00:22.320 But there is that shameful part that yields a constructive, which then that guy goes to the gym and starts humping iron and then understands, whoa, I feel great with it. 01:00:22.559 --> 01:00:23.760 Wow, what did I do? 01:00:24.000 --> 01:00:25.760 Well, here's the the recipe. 01:00:26.079 --> 01:00:33.199 What you did was you transferred something negative, which you're ashamed of, and then you transferred it to something constructive. 01:00:33.360 --> 01:00:41.920 So having a certain level of shame that yield a result, okay, not in terms of uh shame towards negative. 01:00:42.079 --> 01:00:56.000 The reason why we are saying shame or shaming others is wrong, is because oftentimes what happened is that we are shaming people or shaming ourselves, and it yields that negative result. 01:00:56.800 --> 01:01:00.400 So you shame someone and then they go and start, right? 01:01:00.800 --> 01:01:01.360 You're fat. 01:01:01.760 --> 01:01:05.039 Okay, and then they start going and binging, right? 01:01:05.920 --> 01:01:09.360 So that's why there's this negative connotation. 01:01:10.159 --> 01:01:20.639 If you shift that mindset and you say, Okay, I am and and when I say I'm fat, for me right now, as an ultra triathlete, I am overweight. 01:01:20.800 --> 01:01:22.400 I understand that I'm overweight. 01:01:22.559 --> 01:01:24.480 That's because that is my standard. 01:01:24.639 --> 01:01:24.960 Why? 01:01:25.039 --> 01:01:34.000 Because my standard as an ultra triathlete is you have to lose as much weight as possible while still being functional and so different levels. 01:01:34.159 --> 01:01:40.559 Well, if I consider myself right now as it is, as bigger or fat, okay, that is me. 01:01:40.719 --> 01:01:41.760 That is me now. 01:01:41.920 --> 01:01:45.039 What will I do with that level of information? 01:01:45.280 --> 01:01:47.440 Will I use it in a constructive pattern? 01:01:47.599 --> 01:01:48.000 Yes. 01:01:48.159 --> 01:01:48.559 Why? 01:01:48.719 --> 01:01:54.960 One, I'm using it on a podcast to say I am at the moment right now ashamed of my body. 01:01:55.119 --> 01:01:58.639 But what will I do to yield a constructive result? 01:01:58.800 --> 01:02:09.360 Not a positive result to say, well, my my body is fat according to my standard as JD, but I have nice hair, or right, which is positive. 01:02:15.039 --> 01:02:15.599 Exactly. 01:02:15.840 --> 01:02:20.079 So, or changing from a negative to a negative, saying, Well, you know what? 01:02:20.239 --> 01:02:28.559 There's nothing I can change, or I've tried everything, or all sorts of excuses again to yell the negative to a negative. 01:02:28.719 --> 01:02:32.559 I can say, Here, I'm going on a podcast, I'm ashamed of my body right now. 01:02:32.719 --> 01:02:38.559 I will train, I will be better because I want to be at that level in my life. 01:02:38.719 --> 01:02:40.079 That's where I want to go. 01:02:40.159 --> 01:02:40.559 Why? 01:02:40.719 --> 01:02:48.960 Because when I look at my piece of paper, that's the type of body I want, that's the type of mindset that I want, that's the type, that's the goal that I want. 01:02:49.119 --> 01:02:53.119 And based on my value as a Christian, well, here it is. 01:02:53.199 --> 01:02:54.960 I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit. 01:02:55.119 --> 01:03:02.000 I don't want the Holy Spirit to come into that type of temple where I'm undisciplined and on the lack of self-control. 01:03:02.320 --> 01:03:03.280 I don't want that. 01:03:03.440 --> 01:03:08.800 So, therefore, based on my standard, then that's where I'm gonna head, right? 01:03:08.880 --> 01:03:11.519 So that's where we would differ based on shame. 01:03:11.679 --> 01:03:15.199 Again, different types of ways of looking at it, but yeah.

01:03:15.599 --> 01:03:24.960 And I think that's why it's super important that we hash out the conversation because in the middle of it is a great uh lack of a better word, construct in dealing with the shame. 01:03:25.039 --> 01:03:35.360 So where I say, Hey, uh, because where I fear is that people paralyze themselves more than they move forward because people don't have the ability to practice what you just said. 01:03:35.679 --> 01:03:42.719 Um when they do, because this construct is here and it's never wrong. 01:03:42.880 --> 01:03:55.119 If you can take your negative and you can turn it into a construct where you say, I'm going to slowly work it into something that's in my favor, and I'm gonna be disciplined and diligent and do everything I need to do, that will always yield fruit for you. 01:03:55.360 --> 01:04:04.239 Um, and so I think that's why it's really important to have the conversation because where my brain would have said is you know, make sure you're being nice to yourself, make sure you're not shaming yourself. 01:04:04.400 --> 01:04:06.639 Um, so that way you're not paralyzing yourself. 01:04:06.800 --> 01:04:15.920 But even better than that, if you can have a hard conversation with yourself where you say, I'm not gonna lie to myself and say I don't feel the shame, and I'm gonna address it. 01:04:16.079 --> 01:04:17.280 Well, how do I address it best? 01:04:17.360 --> 01:04:18.639 Well, now you have the format. 01:04:18.800 --> 01:04:26.400 I take this negative, this thing that I hate or resent or that is ailing me, and I slowly uh bend it into my favor. 01:04:26.559 --> 01:04:36.480 I think that's uh that's like the Marcus Aurelius quote where he says, uh, the meaning of life is taking uh taking the the hand that life deals you and playing it as if it as if it were your own. 01:04:36.719 --> 01:04:44.000 And uh you know, sometimes it's not gonna crack out the way you want it to, and you have to you have to change it. 01:04:44.159 --> 01:04:46.480 You know, it it's it's up to your mentality. 01:04:46.719 --> 01:04:48.480 But awesome, awesome. 01:04:48.639 --> 01:04:56.639 Well, then I think the the next place that we'll go then is what have you drawn from your military career? 01:04:56.880 --> 01:04:59.360 So reorient it back to our prompt. 01:05:00.320 --> 01:05:04.239 Uh so from your military career, um, what were the things? 01:05:04.320 --> 01:05:10.800 Because you said you were 17, you came there, you you felt like you were gonna seek discipline and that discipline was going to happen to you. 01:05:10.960 --> 01:05:14.400 Uh, and then you got there and half the people were disciplined, half the people weren't. 01:05:14.639 --> 01:05:16.960 Um, what were the things that they taught you? 01:05:17.119 --> 01:05:22.559 Because I find that I have certain things in my life where it's like if I did not learn that in the army, I'd be screwed. 01:05:23.519 --> 01:05:27.679 I'd have no luck uh in terms of generating that discipline

on my own. 01:05:27.920 --> 01:05:30.320 For example, I work out almost every single day. 01:05:30.480 --> 01:05:30.719 Why? 01:05:31.039 --> 01:05:32.719 Because I did in the army because it's important. 01:05:32.800 --> 01:05:34.239 Because if you don't, you're not war ready. 01:05:34.320 --> 01:05:38.159 And then my brain, you know, you don't age well, you don't age gracefully. 01:05:38.400 --> 01:05:50.960 Um but what is there anything from your military career that has shined through and has helped you um in terms of your discipline, or have you totally started from scratch? 01:05:51.199 --> 01:05:54.559 Well, you yeah, you never start totally from scratch for sure. 01:05:54.800 --> 01:05:59.440 Um yeah, it's it's definitely the structure. 01:05:59.920 --> 01:06:11.360 So if you have a structure and systems in place and also the mission, which I talked about earlier, so you have that mission, right? 01:06:11.519 --> 01:06:16.880 For for the military, it's a mission for the civilian, it's just a goal, right? 01:06:17.280 --> 01:06:24.800 You're going to do another race for them or for the civilian, it's uh just another race. 01:06:24.960 --> 01:06:45.760 But for me, I'm looking at it as okay, if I don't finish this race, if I don't prepare well, if I this is a battle plan, like I mean I make sure that this mission is complete, and so uh there's the mission aspect, and then there is the uh structure and the systems in place. 01:06:45.920 --> 01:06:48.159 You need to set standards for yourself. 01:06:48.239 --> 01:06:54.239 This this structure needs to be in place in order to acquire a certain level of discipline. 01:06:54.480 --> 01:06:54.960 Awesome. 01:06:55.119 --> 01:06:56.960 I I wholeheartedly agree. 01:06:57.119 --> 01:06:59.840 Um, I think the thing that I agree with most is the mission. 01:06:59.920 --> 01:07:01.679 You know, for me, I'm mission-oriented. 01:07:01.760 --> 01:07:04.719 You know, when I lose my mission, I become a derelict. 01:07:04.880 --> 01:07:05.519 It is not good. 01:07:05.599 --> 01:07:07.519 That's why it's so important I meditate every day. 01:07:07.679 --> 01:07:09.840 Because if I don't, then I lose sight of things. 01:07:09.920 --> 01:07:14.639 Um, yeah, JD, it is important to set a goal, it is important to aspire. 01:07:14.880 --> 01:07:15.840 Where are you going? 01:07:16.000 --> 01:07:16.960 Where is your next goal? 01:07:17.119 --> 01:07:18.239 What are you striving for? 01:07:18.400 --> 01:07:19.840 Do you have anything on your horizon? 01:07:20.079 --> 01:07:29.599 For me, yeah, we're growing the company right now, and uh we are also expanding our philanthropic ways, so that's where we're heading right now. 01:07:29.760 --> 01:07:42.159 Uh, in terms of race, I don't uh I just finished the Trail Half Marathon World Championship, but otherwise, uh, I try to give back to the communities and uh help out as much as possible. 01:07:42.400 --> 01:07:44.960 And uh yeah, that's that's what I am doing right now. 01:07:45.199 --> 01:07:45.679 Gotcha. 01:07:45.840 --> 01:07:46.400 Perfect. 01:07:46.559 --> 01:07:50.000 Well, JD, I love this conversation. 01:07:50.320 --> 01:07:52.960 I don't have anything left to ask you. 01:07:53.039 --> 01:08:02.079 I think we covered a lot of corners, and instead of putting us both through this awkward thing where we try to extend it for the nine minutes we have, we might as well just call it a good product. 01:08:02.320 --> 01:08:04.800 Uh, but did you have anything you wanted to say? 01:08:04.960 --> 01:08:07.920 Any questions you wanted to ask, anything you wanted to mention? 01:08:08.159 --> 01:08:09.360 Um, please feel free. 01:08:09.440 --> 01:08:10.719 I I want to make sure you have time to. 01:08:11.039 --> 01:08:22.000 Well, the only part that I would uh say is be serious what you want in life, to be very direct with what you want and ones and to add your values. 01:08:22.159 --> 01:08:25.119 Uh definitely be serious about your values, right? 01:08:25.199 --> 01:08:28.079 If you are a Christian, be serious about Christianity. 01:08:28.159 --> 01:08:28.640 Yeah, right. 01:08:28.880 --> 01:08:33.680 Even God says I don't like a He hates a lukewarm Christian, right? 01:08:33.840 --> 01:08:36.640 So uh you are to be serious about everything. 01:08:37.680 --> 01:08:41.439 Yeah, if you want to work out, be serious about your workout. 01:08:41.840 --> 01:08:46.000 This is this is life as a as a whole, so be serious about it. 01:08:47.119 --> 01:08:48.960 Beautiful, beautiful, yeah. 01:08:49.199 --> 01:08:50.560 I I completely agree. 01:08:50.720 --> 01:08:56.720 Be serious about it, have your mission, have your structures in place when you're dealing with shame. 01:08:56.880 --> 01:09:00.319 Don't paralyze yourself, turn that negative into a construct. 01:09:00.479 --> 01:09:02.479 This has been a great conversation, JD. 01:09:02.720 --> 01:09:09.439 Um, I will make sure that all of your links and bios and your website and everything will be properly attached. 01:09:09.600 --> 01:09:13.600 Um, but yeah, it'll be attached down below if you're watching on YouTube. 01:09:14.000 --> 01:09:16.880 And yeah, I hope you guys have a fantastic rest of your day. 01:09:16.960 --> 01:09:18.239 And uh yeah, we'll see you soon.