Bản chép lời đầy đủ của Lessons from Kudzu

WEBVTT 00:00:08.320 --> 00:00:08.640 Hi. 00:00:08.640 --> 00:00:10.400 Oh wait, hello. 00:00:10.400 --> 00:00:15.199 Hi, this is Jill Badonsky, and this is A Muse's Daydream. 00:00:15.199 --> 00:00:20.399 And I'm going to hand you over to Jilly Ann Badonsky. 00:00:20.399 --> 00:00:23.199 And we're we're both the same person, full disclosure. 00:00:23.199 --> 00:00:29.600 It's just that she talks with a a southern accent because uh she lived a while in Florida. 00:00:29.600 --> 00:00:31.440 She's going to talk about kudzu. 00:00:31.440 --> 00:00:40.640 Kudzu by Jilly Ann. 00:00:41.119 --> 00:00:46.159 Down here we don't so much as have kudzu as it has us. 00:00:46.159 --> 00:00:53.119 It's this vine, it looks like ivy, and once it gets started, it don't stop. 00:00:53.119 --> 00:01:03.679 I first noticed it crawling over the fence behind Aunt Darlene's house, moving with the slow confidence of something that has never been told no. 00:01:03.679 --> 00:01:04.480 No. 00:01:04.480 --> 00:01:10.799 It's evasive, people say, the way they might say has a strong personality. 00:01:10.799 --> 00:01:13.840 Right before that person ruins Thanksgiving. 00:01:13.840 --> 00:01:18.079 But honestly, what exactly is kudzu supposed to do? 00:01:18.079 --> 00:01:23.439 It's an enthusiastic plant here on assignment, doing the one thing it was built to do. 00:01:23.439 --> 00:01:24.400 Grow. 00:01:24.400 --> 00:01:29.200 So when it grows with its flair for drama, we act shocked. 00:01:29.200 --> 00:01:36.319 Oh no, we say as the kudzu eats the shed the birth bath and heads for the above ground pool. 00:01:36.319 --> 00:01:39.359 I personally respect its commitment. 00:01:39.359 --> 00:01:43.280 I wish I had more of that. 00:01:43.280 --> 00:01:52.319 It seems to me kudzu is doing what every self-help book has been yelling at us to do for years. 00:01:52.319 --> 00:01:55.359 Stop apologizing for your needs. 00:01:55.359 --> 00:02:03.040 Even if your needs include swallowing a 1997 Toyota Croyola and half a Baptist church. 00:02:03.040 --> 00:02:07.840 Well, some boundaries would be nice, but it's a plant on a mission. 00:02:07.840 --> 00:02:10.800 I once tried to grow basil. 00:02:10.800 --> 00:02:13.360 I whispered affirmations to it. 00:02:13.360 --> 00:02:15.680 I sang it John Denver songs. 00:02:15.680 --> 00:02:21.759 I bought it a nicer pot, thinking maybe it just needed better housing, like a millennial. 00:02:21.759 --> 00:02:28.479 And that basil died with the quiet dignity of something that clearly would have preferred to live in Florence. 00:02:28.479 --> 00:02:32.879 And that's Florence, Italy, not Florence, North Carolina. 00:02:32.879 --> 00:02:37.439 Kudzu, meanwhile, does not ask, is this too much? 00:02:37.439 --> 00:02:39.919 It asks, what else you got? 00:02:39.919 --> 00:02:47.199 Impressive confidence, maybe a little on the entitled side, but still unwavering. 00:02:47.199 --> 00:02:50.879 It's not, I'm just seeing how it goes. 00:02:50.879 --> 00:02:55.280 It's fully wholeheartedly doing the job it came here to do. 00:02:55.280 --> 00:02:57.199 And there's a lesson there. 00:02:57.199 --> 00:03:00.400 I'm not sure what it is. 00:03:00.400 --> 00:03:07.039 Maybe it's that it doesn't need a five-year plan or a vision board. 00:03:07.039 --> 00:03:09.439 It just jumps right in. 00:03:09.439 --> 00:03:11.120 It is the vision board. 00:03:11.120 --> 00:03:18.319 Most of us aren't in danger of becoming kudzu, we're barely parsley. 00:03:18.319 --> 00:03:21.599 We apologize to our own houseplants. 00:03:21.599 --> 00:03:34.080 We hesitate when we should be finding a new place to grow enthusiastically, inappropriately, with confidence that suggests we never read a single comment section or listen to people who don't get us. 00:03:34.080 --> 00:03:41.120 Now I'm not saying we should all go out and consume a tool shed or emotionally engulf a neighbor or friends. 00:03:41.120 --> 00:03:44.800 We don't want to sabotage, and there are rules and laws. 00:03:44.800 --> 00:03:54.319 But I am saying there's something about giving yourself a bit more room to be who you already are. 00:03:54.319 --> 00:03:58.639 Where can you branch out a little bit? 00:03:58.639 --> 00:04:00.400 Try branching out. 00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:06.000 We don't want a full takeover, not a botanical coup, just a little more space. 00:04:06.000 --> 00:04:10.000 Ask what else you got, life. 00:04:10.000 --> 00:04:28.720 Because maybe the point isn't to become invasive, maybe it's to become more alive in the direction you're already leaning or dreaming. 00:04:28.720 --> 00:04:31.920 Or scheming, sorry. 00:04:31.920 --> 00:04:44.079 Maybe it's sermon to the rest of us is do what you came here to do, even if it's just a little bit more, and try not to eat the whole neighborhood. 00:04:44.079 --> 00:04:54.000 This has been A Muses Daydream with Jilly Ann Badonsky. 00:04:54.000 --> 00:04:59.279 Grow safe out there, but uh let's take a small step.