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We're back. Have you missed us? Have you missed us?
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Everybody, welcome back. Your two, well, your two favorite bitches are back.
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So much to say. I'm cozy right now, guys. I'm chilling.
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Can we look at her for a second, please? Can we honestly just look at her?
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You're glowing. Am I? You are, because I don't know what we're going to share.
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I think, I don't, a lot of life has happened with this lull in content.
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Yeah, it does. A lot has happened. A lot of changes.
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And I just feel you, life really lifed for you. We don't have to share too, too much. We can.
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For sure. for sure a lot of changes all at once like changes sorry the clubhouse
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is a little dirty yeah like boom,
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but it could be the cocoa butter though because don't forget i did just get
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out of the shower i have i literally you know you use cocoa butter like a stick
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no like what is it it's like in a,
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gold container i think it's nivea or whatever but it has the cocoa butter and
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i couldn't find my stuff and it was funny because not to get off topic sorry
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guys no that's what we do best i don't get heat.
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But but it was weird because I couldn't find my ponds like moisturizer like
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in all of the like boxes and stuff like that I couldn't find it yet so to use my,
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body stuff on my face I was like okay whatever I mean moisture moisturizations
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moisturization right and then I was like wait a minute,
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like I'm looking actually looking at myself in the air I was like I've just
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been using the cocoa butter ever since and I did find my ponds but I've just
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been using cocoa butter and you talked about your ponds in a previous episode
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in fact i was listening to that not too long ago i love that stuff the cold,
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yeah shout out the ponds they're not sponsoring us but like the cold cream too,
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yeah they have the cold cream in the the one it's the cold cream i think has
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the green top on it i don't use that but their blue one is nice though it's
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nice you just need a little bit goes a long way and keeps your face moisturized all day.
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In addition, obviously, to that, also the life changes you've had,
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the things you've gone through.
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We've talked about this in the past. Yeah. But we're so different,
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her and I, so different. So if I... It's a good balance. A great balance.
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A balance, you know what I mean? If I were going through what Shabba's was going
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through recently, I would not be like as consistent and just even keeled as you are.
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It's a superpower, people, because I would have been like no nails, blood, right? Blood.
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I would have bit off all the excess skin around my fingers and cuticles.
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They would have been nubs. I can't. Oh, my gosh. Facts.
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Who knows what else would happen. Bestie. So now it's a fresh start for you.
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Yeah, it's nice. It's been really nice.
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So Shapa has a lot of new things going on. And so there's been a little lull
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here. It's been some time since we've done this.
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It's been some time. It's definitely been some time.
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I have to say I'm very grateful to my bestie and those that are really close.
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I feel like I do put a lot out there, but it's usually fun, happy stuff with the girls.
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And like things like that but i don't really put like personal stuff out there
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you know what i mean shabba 10 years ago on facebook was putting it embarrassing
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out there so so annoying too me 10 years ago so.
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Yeah but you're not even the same person so don't worry about that true but
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10 years ago so annoying oh my gosh but yeah i don't really put stuff out there
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like a lot of people don't know like half of it you know they don't they they
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definitely they definitely do not yeah Yeah, buddy.
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Just life, life's been life. Life has been life and for, for Sharla.
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Life's been life, but blessed.
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Blessed. Blessed nonetheless. Blessed and extremely grateful.
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Yes. Yeah. A hundred percent. For sure.
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Man, you've been through a hard season. We talked a little bit about this a long time ago.
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Yeah, 2026 was wild. And I feel like it started in, what, February? And,
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yeah 2023 started the catapult oh yes we started the podcast in,
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2024 yep 23 was the catalyst to a lot of life changes yes for sure yeah but
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grateful for the lessons that's for sure
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i mean yeah you talk about right now i
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talk about this at work i talk about this with,
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you know a lot of people Life's hard right now.
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Things are very expensive. Hell yeah. Life's just difficult.
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I feel like we've been in survival mode. It's like we came off of COVID. For sure.
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That messed us all up. Mm-hmm.
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And we're not the same that we were before COVID. That life is...
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God, thank God we got to experience it. That's all I can say.
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But it's like, price of food's expensive.
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Cost of living's expensive. Everything, gas, everything. Everything's expensive.
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That weighs on you. And then I was thinking about, you know,
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the commute into work, working 40 hours. Holy shit.
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This weighs on you after a while. And we definitely have to do it because both
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of us have commutes. Right.
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So for all of you out there, if you're listening on your way home from work
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or you're grinding and you're tired and you're fucking wondering if this is
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ever going to change, God, I hope so because we're with you. A hundred percent.
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And I think that's why we also have to extend people grace to especially not
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knowing what they're going through.
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So there's somebody new that I like through my profession ended up like meeting
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but not really meeting like we'll get into that yeah,
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and without saying too much they had shared some stuff and I was like like not
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not too too personal like not into like too much details but like obviously
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I could read between the lines and they were sharing that like 2026 for them,
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has been like really rough and they were going through a lot of changes and
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you know as they're telling me this stuff I kind of giggled a little bit because
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I was like listen like same z's like I got you you know I get I didn't say it
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because I didn't want to make it about me but I was thinking it and um,
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it was just crazy because you know I was just like wow you just really really
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never know like people that,
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you would think are like damn like okay that person's like dope they like they
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got everything together like oh this is really cool but you don't know behind
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all of that like got it together what people
really have going on,
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in different, like, in different areas or whatever, you know?
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So, yeah, I say we all can extend each other a little bit of grace.
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But the one thing I will also say is the world is freaking, like,
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I feel like people have gone mad.
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Like, the world has gone mad. Everybody's, like, out to get each other.
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Like, it's just, it is so, it is completely mad.
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And I am so grateful. Can we just say this? Like we try not to bring politics
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onto the podcast. Like, you know, we try not to, but there are some situations
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where we may make, you know, slight exception or whatever the case is.
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But I am so happy that election season is over. And that's a wrap, folks. Thank you.
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Take the signs off the lawn. Stop the political campaign. We're done.
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We're done. Let's be done. Because people have gone mad. Like,
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I even catch myself, like, you know, when it comes to social media or whatever,
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where something could be posted and then, like, I'll like it or agree with it.
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And I'm like, why am I even, like, engaging in this? Like, why am I even getting mad?
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And then I have to take a step back and just be like, you know what?
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Let's turn off the phone. Let's walk away. Like, it's not even worth even,
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it's not even worth it, you know?
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I don't know, guys. So, redirect focus, I guess.
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Glad you said that. Yeah. Bringing this up on this podcast, I'm probably not
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even going to clip this in the social media because I don't feel comfortable anymore,
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which is crazy to me that I don't even feel comfortable on our own Facebook page.
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And the comments that some of y'all went for, me specifically, talking about 70H.
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Oh, yeah. Y'all doing too much. That was crazy. Listen, so I.
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When you were telling me about that, when you were telling me about that,
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I'm just going to say it. I hope she does clip this part. I hope she does.
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I hope she does clip this for social media.
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I totally understand where you're coming from because people are just wild.
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They get very brazen online.
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Very brazen. But what I don't appreciate is the fact that y'all came to my girl
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when she was
just simply doing research. You could agree to disagree and keep on MFing scrolling.
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But I'm telling y'all right now, keep doing it.
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I'm not going to keep my mouth shut for that much longer. Respectfully,
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I'm trying to maintain professionalism because we love our podcast and are trying
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to extend love and peace to everybody, but I don't have a lot of patience for people's BS.
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I don't appreciate y'all coming for my girl. I'm just saying.
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I do not appreciate that whatsoever.
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I just want to say that. Sorry. I just...
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Sometimes I comment and I know that they're not even going to either look at it or...
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But you're so respectful about it. Like, why do you have to be so hostile?
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But it's like, you come for somebody's weight? Are you kidding me?
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Wait, they came for your weight?
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They came for my... So it's about your weight? Yes, girl. Like, they were at...
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You know, that's little D energy for you mofos. Little D energy.
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Little D energy when you come for a female's weight.
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Ugh. Go ahead. Sorry. Ew.
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Ew. But like, here's where, then here's where even in politics where we get it all wrong.
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It's like, if we could just have dialogue with one another where we weren't
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degrading somebody just because we disagreed, right, then we could maybe have a conversation.
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Now, for those of you who, there was actually a small percentage of you that
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tried to educate me, and you brought up very good points.
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One of the points brought up was, well, if you're talking about 7-OH,
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this drug that you can get in gas stations, though it's getting federally banned
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anyway, but there's other stuff on the market, you should know what you're taking.
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Don't get that quick good time because it could take you right into an addiction.
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That's just a fact. Right. And I don't regress on that.
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Now, the thing was, a lot of people mention, well, why don't you talk about alcohol?
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Hey, I'm willing to tell you right now that some of my worst mistakes I've ever made included alcohol.
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Okay, so I can already tell you.
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You've also been somebody who from the get-go has also said that,
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you know, alcohol abuse needs to be mentioned too.
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But, you know, the 7-0 was a subject for the podcast, guys.
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It's not the only subject out there, but if there's something you guys want
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us to talk about then like let's do it Let's have a conversation, right?
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Don't come for my girl like that, bro Don't do it Because she is a lot more
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professional than I am So it's just like like you talk about crazy energy and
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it's like that to me is crazy energy like I,
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Some of the things you people say online is so hurtful and so cruel,
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not just to me. I'm not even talking about me now. I'm talking about just some
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of the things that I see. Yeah.
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My brother went through it with his business.
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He was saying something, and I guess, I don't know if it was TikTok or YouTube
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he was saying is like, you know, the worst.
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And it doesn't face him, but he was like shocked because,
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you know, for like his business and like what they promote and stuff like that it's all positive like.
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Regarding like mental health awareness and things like that and like I think
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somebody saw a rose being given to a young lady or something like that and automatically
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said something along the lines of.
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Had something to do with like her age or whatever. And he was giving,
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it was an adult woman. Like they were giving a rose to, to make the person's day.
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And like everybody online like came. And I was like, wait a minute, what?
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And I went to look at the video and I was like, oh my gosh, he was dead ass.
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I didn't see anything wrong with the video.
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Like nothing wrong with it. People are just wild.
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You know what I think it boils down to bestie. I really do think it boils down
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to people's internal struggles 100 and i'm not even making excuses like people
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are shitty ass people i mean we had somebody who like tried to come left on,
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a very funny simple post you know what i mean i think it's people's like internal
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mental struggles and so they're like deflecting or like whatever the word is that you want to say
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and so like their negativity it's just very quick and easy to come after somebody
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online because you're not number one face to face with the person,
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you're behind a keyboard or behind a cell phone so it's like you're so angry
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about life you just you just want to comfort people i don't know i think that um,
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like i said people have lost their minds nowadays you know what i mean you got
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to be careful about the things that you take in online and be very aware of
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just how people move you know,
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you gotta be really aware of that can't even say that enough.
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You know, people are wild. They're wild.
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I don't know. It's just not my first thing to go on to somebody's podcast,
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and just because I don't agree, because you, you.
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Facts. Really? You're not wrong. So yeah, it's actually great.
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It's great that politics is over. So happy.
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It's great that all this stuff is over because the world seems very on off kilter right now.
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And for me, I'm a Christian.
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You know, I'm going to just hone in on Jesus here because it's not going to
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be politics. It's not going to be Republicans or Democrats that save us.
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And That's right, sister.
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I used to be, you know, I used to be into politics, but...
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Yeah, same. Yep. Okay, so what? Big time, yeah. Because we also say,
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I'm not even the same person I was two years ago. Exactly. So if you know an
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old copy of me, you might as well check that out, because that thing's not even
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revised or updated. Do you know what I'm saying? Right.
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But it's not the people in the government that are going to be saving us from,
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what we're doing to ourselves. Excellent.
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Tell them, sis. Tell them. Tell them. So yeah, I just, yes, people are crazy right now.
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The other thing, though, too, I'll say is that I remember during a very low
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time I had during COVID, and I remember going into the grocery store, and I felt alone.
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I felt like, fuck, I'm the only one going through this or feeling this way.
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And I feel obviously isolated, felt despair, like what I think a lot of people were.
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But the problem is, is that people do a really good job of not showing it.
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We do a fantastic job of making it seem like we're not going through it.
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And so when I looked around for people looking for, oh, maybe that person kind
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of understands or is, there was nobody.
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I felt like I was the only one. So for people out there, you know,
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right now, if you're struggling, which so many people are, just know that just
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because maybe people don't show it doesn't mean it doesn't that you're you're not alone,
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you're definitely not alone for.
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Sure yeah we got we have a lot of things to think about you know it's like you
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got to think about you know how you're going to heat your house i mean we're
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new england just the realities of life i mean i hate to be doom and gloom here
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but if we're having a real conversation how are we going to heat our home for sure,
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groceries are expensive put on the table yeah live in connecticut oh yeah shit's
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about to get cold here yeah and we can go on and then we're going into the holidays
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it's true it's so true so that's all i guess that was my,
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you know i guess that was my rant,
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but it's valid i mean it's all valid it's valid it's valid and with the holidays
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coming up and getting darker i think that these are definitely conversations
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we should be having you know,
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for sure how are you doing with the.
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It's not really bothering me. Like I'm, I'm okay with it. I am. I'm okay with it.
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It's definitely different. Like I feel myself getting like tired sooner.
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And you know me, like I'm usually ready in bed, like eight, eight 30,
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like the best you can tell you that my family can tell you that I'm,
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I'm usually ready and in bed for like eight o'clock guys. I really am an old woman at heart.
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So for me, it's like, but I do catch myself.
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It's funny. Like I was telling somebody at work I think it's like 3 3 30 is
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when I start feeling myself starting to kind of like,
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get to that point where I have to grab another coffee or grab a green green
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tea or something just for that little pick me up because I feel myself starting to,
00:17:52.468 --> 00:17:56.043
it's wild and I think it definitely has to do with the time change because usually
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my time that I start feeling like this little plateau is usually six o'clock
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what time is it right now I don't even know 5 11 It's 5.11.
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It
feels like 10. And it's mad dark. It's so mad dark. Yeah. Daylight savings time.
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So stupid. We did not need to do daylight savings time. Just stop. I'm so over it.
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So over it. Can we just keep the clocks one way or another? We can't keep doing this.
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This is not good for anybody's mental health to do this. It's just not.
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It's funny. I was like so excited. I was like, oh, yeah, the clocks are going
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back. We get like an extra hour of sleep.
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I don't know if it's like once you get once you hit 40 it does not matter like
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it does not feel like it's getting shit,
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it's just messing up you're like I don't know it's just messing up like just
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how your body is and stuff like that like I don't know I don't know this like it's messing up so yeah.
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My daughter's made comments before. She's like, you're on the couch every night
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by, you're on the couch sleeping every night by seven. See? See?
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She's like, can you maybe stay out or do something?
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She's not wrong. But it's hard. It's wicked hard when, that's what she said.
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But it's hard when you wake up, like I start rolling out around 4 a.m.
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Things are my I'm not I'm no longer in the REM okay I'm coming out of sleep
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4 30 I'm going to the bathroom and probably starting to think about putting
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a sweatshirt on going downstairs,
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get a cup of coffee quick before I have to start getting ready for work yeah,
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so my day starts early and then the time change makes it really hard so by 2
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30 3 o'clock I notice my anxiety gets a little bit like i better get home soon
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because my body knows the sun,
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my body knows that i should be getting home yeah when the sun goes down yeah
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then we go to we go home in darkness yep which which is wild which feels kind of it's so weird now.
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I don't know how to explain it so people like struggle here in new england with
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this shit and i understand why that's wild i don't know how people in alaska
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do it i remember you were watching that show or movie or something like that I have to watch it.
00:20:21.124 --> 00:20:24.724
What? The woman in Svalbard? I need to watch that.
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Like right now, they're dark. It's 24-7. She's at the tip. She's almost in Svalbard,
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Antarctica, or wherever it is. Mm-mm. Mm-mm.
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Yeah. Like I said, I'm just kind of like, meh, meh. And your commute's worse.
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Yeah. So then it's like when you come home in this darkness, it sucks.
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Okay. Can we talk about that real quick? Please. So remember how you were like,
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oh, that commute is going to be interesting, right? You did give me a heads
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up. I was like, no, it's fine.
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I'll tell you, right? It's not a big deal. It's going to be great,
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Kate. It's going to be great. It's going to be great. Like I did this before
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when I was in banking. I had to travel all over. It's fine.
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So the morning I'm good. Like, honest to God, I'm good, like, where I have to go.
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Because I do. I have the music on. I'm jamming out. Sometimes I carpool with
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a friend. Like, so we're good.
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Coming home, when I first started with this company that I'm at,
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there were a couple times where I was like, oh, okay, this is what bumper to
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bumper is going to be like. Okay.
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Okay. Okay. There's a couple days here and there, no problem.
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And then it went to, like, just maybe a little sprinkle here and there.
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Tell me why for the last MFing week, maybe it's daylight savings time.
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I don't know. It is. Every single evening when I tell you bumper to bumper,
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I can't even get onto the highway.
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I can't even get onto the highway without being like, I'm like,
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I got to go somewhere. I got to go somewhere. Like, what do you guys want from
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me? Like, I have to go somewhere.
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It's wild. Wild. And then the bumper to bumper. So I know it's going to take
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me like an hour to get home.
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And it really should only be like 40 minutes or something like that but it's
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gonna take me an hour to get home so i know i know every day it's gonna take me an hour to get home
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thank goodness i get out when i do like blessings for that right at least by
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the time you get back in right it's a reasonable time like thank goodness blessings
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for that that you know we do get out when we do yes but.
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It's still a little crazy a little crazy right and traffic starts early,
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where we come from traffic and you and i are like town like cities next to
each other but like,
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you know it starts like shab and i work literally cities next to each other,
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if there was no traffic it would be nothing for her and i to get each other
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like maybe 15 minutes maybe yeah,
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but i i did i was gonna roll up on you one day i was gonna pop up yeah you were
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after your doctor's appointment but you never did i did it why,
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i think it was the dude i think it was the traffic i'm honest you I realized
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by the time you went over to where I was that your day is like gone.
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And then it was your guys extended day because I did look it up really quick.
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And I was like, this is the perfect day.
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And do you know, sure enough, I got out a little bit late just because I had
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to finish a project really quick. Not like super late, just a smidgen late.
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And I'm not kidding you. When I went to get on the first on ramp,
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which didn't even get me to the highway. It's like literally just getting on
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ramp to get out of the busy area. Thank you.
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And then I had to get onto the highway. I was like, nope, there's no way.
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And then it told me it was going to take me 35 minutes to get to where you were. I was like, no.
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And it doesn't take 35 minutes to get there. I was like, yeah, I'm not.
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I was like, damn it. Why can't I just go roll up on the bestie?
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Can I tell you something else I'm dealing with, too? I'll say this.
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So work's been a little chaotic. That's a good thing. Take that any day.
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Tell me why. it never bothered me in my 20s to rush around rush before work
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it never bothered me like i could always go with it,
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tell me why now at 42 if i am rushed in the slightest,
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we're forgetting things we're misstepping we're doing thing bad things are yeah
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it's not happening yeah i cannot be pushed any more than i am and i feel like
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it's already a slow thing as it is i don't know what's going on,
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hair thinning oh for sure not you i'm just saying like i feel you like i feel
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you i feel you i dyed it i did a box dye don't come for me i don't have time to sit in the chair,
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so i did a box dye and normally i would need at least a box i didn't even need
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a full box this time yeah dude i
stopped i stopped and i took out the extensions
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guys i know i wore i wore extensions i did you know why?
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Because the girls told me that they were like, mom, you don't need that. I was like, but I love it.
00:25:02.671 --> 00:25:06.682
And then I was like upset because my hair, the thinning, I was like, oh my God.
00:25:07.651 --> 00:25:11.194
Oh, my goodness. So I'm back to taking multivitamins because I feel like I was
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missing that. Good for you. I got to do that. I have to do that. Back to taking that.
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And I'm going to attempt. I'm going to attempt to not box dye my hair.
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I'm going to attempt. It's been, I think, like a month and a half now.
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A month, month and a half.
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Where's the gray? It's coming in, bro. Barely. It's all in how I part it. It's all in how I part it.
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Maybe it's been a month, though, Because I feel like usually a month and a half,
00:25:36.384 --> 00:25:42.294
you start like seeing the little, I'm going to attempt because both girls,
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especially the little one, told me to stop doing that.
00:25:44.652 --> 00:25:48.054
Because you know how they are about like the skin care and all that stuff.
00:25:48.054 --> 00:25:52.058
And she told me she was like, it's really not healthy. So I stopped. Neither is the nails.
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I need to. I need to feel something about myself. So let's not use that.
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Let's not use this. I told her, I said, listen. A lot of chemicals here.
00:26:02.434 --> 00:26:06.654
I know. But I was like, listen, it's either this or this. And these are usually
00:26:06.654 --> 00:26:09.224
ammonia-free dye kits. Oh.
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I'm just saying to you, Sharla, that I don't care what you do.
00:26:13.937 --> 00:26:15.087
I would support you in every way.
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I know for me, if I look at, and this is fine too.
00:26:19.603 --> 00:26:23.272
This is like my one little treat. I'm just saying if we're talking about chemicals,
00:26:23.975 --> 00:26:29.037
but also all the chemicals and all the products that you put on yourself after
00:26:29.037 --> 00:26:31.939
you take a shower, there's probably 300 ingredients.
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That's so true. It's so true.
00:26:34.980 --> 00:26:40.327
But? So true, Bessie. But I just can't believe how much older I look when I
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don't dye my hair. And it's strange to me. It bothers me.
00:26:44.915 --> 00:26:50.488
Shabba, I'm not lying to you. I look significantly younger when I dye my hair,
00:26:50.964 --> 00:26:52.127
because I have a lot of gray.
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I've seen you when you're like... You're too nice. No, no, no.
00:26:54.887 --> 00:26:57.013
I've seen you when you haven't dyed it.
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Yeah, I looked older. I thought it looked awesome. Everybody was like,
00:27:01.117 --> 00:27:02.786
Kate, you look great with dark hair.
00:27:03.035 --> 00:27:06.298
Maybe it's because, you know why? Maybe it's because you usually wear your hair.
00:27:06.768 --> 00:27:09.667
Maybe that's why. I haven't seen it down. But I always thought it looked cool
00:27:09.667 --> 00:27:11.110
with a couple of, you know what I mean?
00:27:12.307 --> 00:27:14.496
I would have said something. That's the other thing I want to talk about.
00:27:15.607 --> 00:27:19.352
As you can see, everybody, this is Kate 2.0.
00:27:19.904 --> 00:27:25.677
I am trying to get out of the bun stage that I've been in for 15 years because.
00:27:25.677 --> 00:27:28.089
Speak for yourself, sister. I ain't never getting out of that.
00:27:28.860 --> 00:27:30.857
It looks good on you, though. For me, it looks. Air clip.
00:27:31.852 --> 00:27:36.507
So I'm doing the ponytail. It looks long.
00:27:36.925 --> 00:27:42.054
It's long. Yeah. It's long and strong. That's what she said.
00:27:44.526 --> 00:27:48.877
But I'm going to do this for a little bit, but I already need to die again because
00:27:48.877 --> 00:27:51.876
look, there's the little silver stripes, you know?
00:27:53.718 --> 00:27:58.919
I don't know, Shabba. I just want to say that the pre-menopause is really bothersome
00:27:58.919 --> 00:28:02.001
to me because by the end of the day, by the time I get home from work.
00:28:04.317 --> 00:28:09.839
I was telling Enz, by the time I get home from work, I don't have the energy to keep going.
00:28:09.839 --> 00:28:13.820
And sometimes your household feels like a second job because you have to,
00:28:14.098 --> 00:28:17.819
you know, the toilets or the shower or the bathroom needs to be cleaned or there's,
00:28:18.979 --> 00:28:23.769
dinner, laundry, cleanup, all those things. by the time it's like, and,
00:28:25.250 --> 00:28:28.820
Maybe it's a time change. Maybe it's just premenopause. But I'm really struggling
00:28:28.820 --> 00:28:33.570
in premenopause. I just don't feel like the same woman I was two years ago.
00:28:33.870 --> 00:28:35.703
I'm being so honest here.
00:28:36.852 --> 00:28:41.483
I feel very tired. I feel tired. I'd like to be in an ideal world.
00:28:41.826 --> 00:28:47.346
I'd like to be here at the clubhouse much more often if I'm being 100%.
00:28:47.480 --> 00:28:51.150
But there's something about when it gets dark like this, by the time you get
00:28:51.150 --> 00:28:54.417
home, you almost feel like I'm not going out. Yeah.
00:28:55.088 --> 00:29:01.119
Yep so i will get merch in here for the holiday season to force me to be here and us to be here,
00:29:02.112 --> 00:29:06.580
because otherwise i don't we'll have to only do this on the weekends or something
00:29:06.580 --> 00:29:09.860
i i don't know you know what i'm saying it's just no i can see that because
00:29:09.860 --> 00:29:12.555
i find i find myself becoming more of a homebody,
00:29:13.300 --> 00:29:18.690
and it's crazy because it's cozy right just but in the summertime right now
00:29:18.690 --> 00:29:23.110
this wouldn't even be a thing we'd be like oh we're out we're outside with our
00:29:23.110 --> 00:29:26.010
megaphone or with the music going down main street.
00:29:27.778 --> 00:29:32.310
But we are it's true you're so right so it's like it is it definitely is the
00:29:32.650 --> 00:29:36.370
time of season it's just like the hibernate but you know what you bring up a
00:29:36.370 --> 00:29:38.890
good point though because you know how you were saying before like in the morning
00:29:38.890 --> 00:29:40.210
you can't be like rushing around,
00:29:40.970 --> 00:29:42.760
i agree with you i do agree with
00:29:42.760 --> 00:29:47.687
you because i need that peace like i need that calmness in the morning,
00:29:48.244 --> 00:29:52.200
leading up to like me going into work so that i like can have my mental where
00:29:52.200 --> 00:29:55.710
it needs to be because you know it's you know there's a lot that needs to get
00:29:55.710 --> 00:29:59.560
done and stuff like that and then by the time you like you leave you might be
00:29:59.560 --> 00:30:03.018
like tired not in a bad way guys i'm just saying like when you're working a full day,
00:30:04.111 --> 00:30:09.069
But, like, you kind of are, like, getting ready to, like, try to, you know, decompress.
00:30:09.289 --> 00:30:13.505
But I also feel like you and I are kind of at a stage in our lives where our
00:30:13.505 --> 00:30:17.755
oldest are, I mean, they're young adults now, right?
00:30:18.235 --> 00:30:22.095
So we don't necessarily have that part. I do have my youngest.
00:30:22.428 --> 00:30:27.065
But even in that sense, like, I'm finding, like, mornings are more calmer,
00:30:27.065 --> 00:30:29.585
even though, like, it's, like, you know, a rush to get her to school.
00:30:29.585 --> 00:30:32.026
But it's still calmer in a way.
00:30:32.466 --> 00:30:36.985
And then coming home she knows that like i just need a couple of like moments
00:30:36.985 --> 00:30:39.905
to like get comfortable and i usually throw on the slippers and then try to
00:30:39.905 --> 00:30:43.375
figure out dinner but it's like very like right so i do understand where you're
00:30:43.375 --> 00:30:45.028
coming from because i feel like any,
00:30:45.585 --> 00:30:47.652
being thrown into that like i'm like.
00:30:48.929 --> 00:30:53.201
Anything into the mix yeah yeah so i could see that and then i i i like,
00:30:53.885 --> 00:30:58.295
i needed to pick her up from something and i i did it wasn't a problem but i
00:30:58.295 --> 00:31:01.885
like i found myself being like oh my goodness like oh my goodness you know right
00:31:01.885 --> 00:31:03.167
or something that wasn't even,
00:31:03.843 --> 00:31:07.535
like so I could see where you're coming from as far as needing that calmness
00:31:07.535 --> 00:31:11.615
in the morning and then later on in the day kind of getting to the point where you feel yourself maybe,
00:31:12.335 --> 00:31:17.495
a little bit 100% I also am noticing an increase in caffeine intake whether
00:31:17.495 --> 00:31:24.512
it's green tea or coffee 100% because you're not a whole lot but like I might have like,
00:31:25.287 --> 00:31:34.105
a green tea in the morning and then like I said And by usually that 2.33 o'clock
00:31:34.105 --> 00:31:37.903
mark, I catch myself needing to get another cup of something. 100%.
00:31:38.072 --> 00:31:41.810
But then there's water in between that, obviously. Right. Right. But yeah.
00:31:42.350 --> 00:31:44.955
Yeah, I know. I totally get that. I totally get where you're coming from.
00:31:44.955 --> 00:31:47.265
Especially when you have the drive home. You're just like, okay,
00:31:47.265 --> 00:31:50.855
how am I going to get through these less? And we both do, well,
00:31:50.855 --> 00:31:53.825
I do retail and you do customer service. Is that fair to say?
00:31:53.825 --> 00:31:57.309
Yeah, yeah. So that's draining too because...
00:31:58.185 --> 00:32:03.042
Whether you're doing what you do or I'm doing what I do, these people need your undivided attention.
00:32:03.042 --> 00:32:07.642
They need hand-holding. They need, you know, and you're dealing with all these
00:32:07.642 --> 00:32:12.762
emotions. It's like, it's crazy. But, yes, if you're feeling all those things.
00:32:13.964 --> 00:32:15.549
Shabba and I feel them, too.
00:32:15.728 --> 00:32:18.341
For sure, guys. It's normal. It really is normal.
00:32:18.677 --> 00:32:21.650
We acknowledge it. We acknowledge that we're in this together, guys.
00:32:22.021 --> 00:32:25.185
But this whole darkness night thing like,
00:32:25.916 --> 00:32:28.672
i honest to god i'm so tempted like i,
00:32:29.192 --> 00:32:32.952
holding out i'm holding out one holiday at a time you're so tempted to what
00:32:33.332 --> 00:32:37.962
i'm tempted to start decorating for christmas you were you in the comments i
00:32:37.962 --> 00:32:43.917
asked our fans if we should start because i if i had no i want to start decorating in here really,
00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:48.032
lights yeah dude because i i try to do,
00:32:48.512 --> 00:32:52.842
the day after thanksgiving like it's on and popping and now that like my oldest
00:32:52.842 --> 00:32:55.902
daughter said she's going to be home for that extended time and then my youngest
00:32:55.902 --> 00:33:00.372
and her kind of have the same schedule a little bit i'm like oh and i don't
00:33:00.372 --> 00:33:03.142
have to work the day after i'm like and we have that weekend i'm like,
00:33:04.154 --> 00:33:09.061
I think we're going to decorate the day after Thanksgiving. That's fair.
00:33:09.061 --> 00:33:11.671
Anything after Thanksgiving is fair. There was one year.
00:33:11.932 --> 00:33:14.131
I don't remember when it was. It wasn't last year. It might have been the year
00:33:14.131 --> 00:33:16.483
before
that. I don't know what it was. I got the itch.
00:33:16.809 --> 00:33:22.801
And this year with it being so freaking dark, I'm kind of feeling like I may
00:33:22.801 --> 00:33:25.944
end up doing something before that. I don't know, guys.
00:33:26.483 --> 00:33:29.131
I don't know. My nutcrackers, I was looking at them the other day,
00:33:29.131 --> 00:33:31.528
the big ones. I was like, ooh.
00:33:32.411 --> 00:33:37.282
I know. It's so tempting. And a friend's giving me her tree because she upgraded her dreams.
00:33:37.537 --> 00:33:40.049
And she showed me the tree she's given me. And I was like, yes,
00:33:40.467 --> 00:33:44.322
let's do this. Because we remember last year's tree. But that was cute.
00:33:45.042 --> 00:33:48.653
And that should go in somebody's room. I don't even know if I saw it. I didn't even see it.
00:33:49.340 --> 00:33:51.551
I might have gotten rid of it. I might have been so mad. You know what?
00:33:51.551 --> 00:33:55.161
Like, I just used that. I wish I did it, though. Oh, my gosh.
00:33:55.161 --> 00:33:56.201
I didn't see it. Did you see it?
00:33:56.984 --> 00:34:00.566
I saw it. Oh, you think you did? Okay. In a bag.
00:34:00.949 --> 00:34:04.191
Oh, so then maybe I do. because i have a closet that all my decorations are
00:34:04.191 --> 00:34:07.531
in now so it might be in one of those bags maybe i'm telling you stories yeah
00:34:07.531 --> 00:34:08.948
maybe i might have it yeah,
00:34:09.768 --> 00:34:12.501
so you know what that means it's probably going to nessa's room because she
00:34:12.501 --> 00:34:16.901
wants she wants one like an actual give her that one yeah that's a perfect size
00:34:16.901 --> 00:34:24.099
for her room that was cute last year so should we tell you please tell them please please tell them,
00:34:24.903 --> 00:34:30.021
so i so there was one year a friend of mine thank you joey went with me because
00:34:30.021 --> 00:34:34.214
i wanted to get a new tree like it had to be a new tree i wanted the smell of your mic real quick,
00:34:34.851 --> 00:34:38.988
okay i wanted the smell of a real tree and he's like,
00:34:39.621 --> 00:34:44.321
out of anybody i know very particular about the christmas tree he chooses like
00:34:44.321 --> 00:34:47.311
it will take him like a couple of hours
00:34:47.731 --> 00:34:52.061
and maybe a couple of different locations to find like his tree so it's like
00:34:52.061 --> 00:34:55.102
you know what joey is my person i need to go to, to find a tree.
00:34:55.915 --> 00:35:01.256
So I ended up getting, Betsy was her name. Betsy was the name of the tree. The tree was...
00:35:02.197 --> 00:35:07.242
Like perfect outside it was like the perfect tree and we got it into my old place,
00:35:07.983 --> 00:35:11.820
and it was way too wide it took up probably a good quarter of my living room,
00:35:12.343 --> 00:35:16.673
he had to cut the top of it for me like the whole thing was just it was a monstrosity,
00:35:17.126 --> 00:35:19.721
so she had to go she had to go home,
00:35:20.593 --> 00:35:25.519
so then i ended up bringing back out queen elizabeth and queen elizabeth no
00:35:25.519 --> 00:35:29.552
the queen victoria is one of the Queens. The tree was named Queen something.
00:35:30.149 --> 00:35:33.389
Took her out of the attic, brought her down, and beautiful. She,
00:35:33.389 --> 00:35:37.869
you know, I've had her for many years. And unfortunately, that particular year.
00:35:38.919 --> 00:35:44.146
She had shown her age. Our cats had kind of gotten to her too.
00:35:44.499 --> 00:35:47.734
And so after that holidays, it was time to get rid of Queenie.
00:35:47.873 --> 00:35:50.857
So then she had to leave us.
00:35:51.528 --> 00:35:54.740
So I was like, you know, I'm not buying a new tree, but I don't want a real
00:35:54.740 --> 00:35:57.907
tree. I don't want to deal with that again. I don't know what I'm going to do, but I need a tree.
00:35:58.596 --> 00:36:03.020
Buy a fine and buy a cheap tree. And I thought it was going to be the cutest tree.
00:36:03.380 --> 00:36:07.340
And it had said that the tree was six and a half feet. and I'm doing the math
00:36:07.340 --> 00:36:12.300
and I'm like I'm five six so if I'm five six and it's like a six and a half
00:36:12.300 --> 00:36:18.000
tree six and a half foot tree isn't gonna be too big right but it's gonna be taller than me so
00:36:18.370 --> 00:36:21.880
I'm thinking if I'm five six six and a half should be like right here I'm like
00:36:21.880 --> 00:36:22.980
okay that's fair it's not gonna
00:36:22.980 --> 00:36:26.680
be a massive tree but it'll still be cute and I decorate it how I want.
00:36:28.128 --> 00:36:31.790
So we put together the tree my oldest and I and my youngest was coming down
00:36:31.790 --> 00:36:37.040
to decorate and I say to my oldest daughter i was like hey ali where's the other
00:36:37.040 --> 00:36:39.534
part to the tree she's like mom what do you mean this is it,
00:36:40.956 --> 00:36:44.730
i was like no there's got to be like there's got to be like another piece like
00:36:44.730 --> 00:36:48.600
isn't there supposed to be three parts she's like that is the three parts i said no it's not
00:36:48.920 --> 00:36:52.930
i'm like it's not this isn't six and a half feet i'm five six and this tree
00:36:52.930 --> 00:36:55.991
is shorter than i am so it's not six and a half feet like,
00:36:56.525 --> 00:37:01.930
you know she's like mom i'm telling you this is all three pieces i was like son of a gun,
00:37:02.562 --> 00:37:07.680
she was right guys so this tree is like a little shorter than i am and it had
00:37:07.680 --> 00:37:12.104
like the fake snow on it it was super cute but the height it wasn't doing it for the height like,
00:37:13.178 --> 00:37:17.163
and like the width it wasn't even like fluffy like guys i don't even know how
00:37:17.163 --> 00:37:20.713
to explain it but that was our tree for like the girls were like oh it's great
00:37:20.713 --> 00:37:24.993
it's beautiful
like oh it's awesome like they're so positive but i knew it was
00:37:24.993 --> 00:37:27.683
bad when she took the photo from i took.
00:37:29.983 --> 00:37:36.923
The photo on top i'm like this is not this is not this is an optical,
00:37:38.843 --> 00:37:42.903
i was so mad i was so mad and i was like telling myself i'm like you know what
00:37:42.903 --> 00:37:46.494
i can just order one off amazon i was like no i don't want to order a damn tree off amazon
00:37:46.732 --> 00:37:50.033
because what if i order one off amazon and it comes in and it looks like where
00:37:50.033 --> 00:37:53.896
you went and then i was like hold on and then i was like oh maybe i'll go to
00:37:54.080 --> 00:37:58.403
home depot because at least i can see in person but then the home depot trees
00:37:58.403 --> 00:38:00.733
that they had left were like 200 and something dollars i was like you know
00:38:01.111 --> 00:38:05.272
what this shit i don't want a damn christmas tree anymore so i got my tree from.
00:38:08.383 --> 00:38:10.963
The dollar general shout out
00:38:10.963 --> 00:38:16.068
to the dollar general no hate love you guys i got my tree from the dollar,
00:38:16.719 --> 00:38:22.163
in our town no hate no hate it looked really cute the outside of the box looked
00:38:22.163 --> 00:38:25.833
really cute it would have been better as like if you got two of them and put
00:38:25.833 --> 00:38:27.043
them on each side of your door,
00:38:29.513 --> 00:38:33.402
but i had to take the picture from up top to kind to like help the tree look
00:38:33.681 --> 00:38:38.690
taller because no it wasn't a baller it wasn't a shot collar you know it was it was,
00:38:40.194 --> 00:38:44.902
it was like a little napoleon as soon as she sent that photo i knew something was wrong,
00:38:45.971 --> 00:38:48.211
She tried to do that thing where.
00:38:49.950 --> 00:38:53.708
She tried to do that thing where she's trying to get the angle right.
00:38:54.086 --> 00:38:57.440
Sometimes people do this for a better look.
00:38:58.430 --> 00:39:03.290
Shabba was doing that for her tree, and I knew it. She knew it. She knew it right away.
00:39:04.130 --> 00:39:07.010
Like, right away. How did you know that, girl? All the photos are up.
00:39:07.470 --> 00:39:08.498
You know what I'm saying?
00:39:09.561 --> 00:39:12.490
And you know what's so sad is, like, you know how you go to put your,
00:39:12.850 --> 00:39:14.977
like, star on the top of the tree?
00:39:15.168 --> 00:39:21.223
And it's like a fun thing and like you normally have to take out a chair or like a ladder,
00:39:21.910 --> 00:39:26.330
here right right and one of the kids can put the star on the top or if you're
00:39:26.330 --> 00:39:30.590
my oldest daughter chick's so tall so you know she should play for you
00:39:31.010 --> 00:39:35.140
she really should play for you con if only she liked basketball what gino like
00:39:35.140 --> 00:39:38.340
that's your fault that's your fault for not putting a basketball
in her hand
00:39:38.340 --> 00:39:41.810
dude she tried she tried she wasn't about that life remember she played she
00:39:41.810 --> 00:39:43.990
played for a little bit you should have did it when she was
00:39:44.431 --> 00:39:48.810
one month old what do you think kobe bryant did like that's true she was 20
00:39:48.810 --> 00:39:53.350
and a half 20 and a half inches she was in the 300th percentile i'm telling
00:39:53.350 --> 00:39:57.930
she was 22 and a half inches long when she was born that is one like long ass
00:39:58.350 --> 00:40:04.270
did you deliver her naturally i did oh damn and do you know in the bed like
00:40:04.270 --> 00:40:09.246
oh your placenta no she was so stretched to the point we were like looking at her and we're like,
00:40:09.752 --> 00:40:12.880
i i already knew what Everybody was thinking because if she just like was just
00:40:12.880 --> 00:40:16.300
stretching like this, we're like, I hope this stays only a couple of days because
00:40:16.300 --> 00:40:19.241
she's not going to be able to stay in the little bed that they put them in.
00:40:19.682 --> 00:40:21.674
I was like, did you eat your placenta?
00:40:22.330 --> 00:40:25.267
I did not. Because you seem like the mom that would.
00:40:26.219 --> 00:40:31.469
I have heard about that. Your girl, stop talking. I think if around the time
00:40:31.469 --> 00:40:35.212
I had Nessa, if the delivery wasn't how it was, I probably would have done something like that.
00:40:35.495 --> 00:40:37.742
Because I did want to do like a natural delivery.
00:40:38.429 --> 00:40:42.269
I did want to try it. I am so sorry for her, for you. I did.
00:40:42.269 --> 00:40:46.950
I wanted to do like an at-home delivery. It just didn't unfortunately work out that way.
00:40:47.386 --> 00:40:51.099
You would have, but you would have eaten your placenta? Why not?
00:40:51.938 --> 00:40:54.818
I would have tried it. There's a lot of nutrients that come from that too.
00:40:55.721 --> 00:40:59.709
There's something like i don't know there's a lot of nutrients in in in brussels
00:40:59.709 --> 00:41:05.079
sprouts but i don't see you eating brussels sprouts brussels sprouts okay i'm sorry i love brussels
00:41:05.519 --> 00:41:09.499
i'm sorry i love that i love it there's a lot of there's a lot of vitamins in
00:41:09.499 --> 00:41:12.228
bok choy but i don't see you eating bok choy,
00:41:12.966 --> 00:41:15.779
but please let's put up the fight about eating your placenta,
00:41:16.679 --> 00:41:22.231
i would oh my god why not Why not? You know, I would try that.
00:41:24.408 --> 00:41:29.799
Why not? Okay, Kourtney Kardashian. I'm sorry.
00:41:30.499 --> 00:41:34.459
You know what? And if some of you have eaten your child, your placenta.
00:41:35.579 --> 00:41:38.623
Your child? You said it's placenta or your placenta?
00:41:41.190 --> 00:41:44.300
I'm just saying they say like there's benefits to that.
00:41:44.428 --> 00:41:48.489
I didn't realize that you were really into nutrients and vitamins and supplements.
00:41:48.489 --> 00:41:51.859
I'm not saying that. I'm just saying, I wouldn't be opposed.
00:41:51.859 --> 00:41:55.682
I'd have to do a little bit more research, but I wouldn't knock it without knowing.
00:41:55.909 --> 00:41:58.887
Oh, that's fair. That's such a safe answer.
00:41:59.532 --> 00:42:01.802
Don't knock it before you try it.
00:42:08.628 --> 00:42:09.418
Lord help us,
00:42:11.612 --> 00:42:16.204
we've missed you guys we've missed you guys so much us too we know you've missed us guys,
00:42:17.173 --> 00:42:21.425
do you have anything else you want to talk to them about no just really excited
00:42:21.425 --> 00:42:26.815
to not have to worry about a christmas tree right dude i hate going into stores,
00:42:27.326 --> 00:42:31.237
but i think that might be a topic for maybe another episode going into stores,
00:42:32.409 --> 00:42:36.984
i'm sorry guys i'm an online person deliver it to the door i'm sorry i can't
00:42:37.326 --> 00:42:40.443
more and more i'm an in and out person,
00:42:40.966 --> 00:42:44.785
but we've been talking about this like going into walmart though like i oh dude
00:42:44.785 --> 00:42:48.985
oh my gosh i just want to get in and get out like get what i need and get out
00:42:48.985 --> 00:42:54.177
i don't want to be in there for a long time right i hate going shopping for anything like just,
00:42:54.857 --> 00:42:59.005
when you have a click when you can just click a button like I know that sounds
00:42:59.005 --> 00:43:05.175
lazy and we need workers and you know stores but I'm horrible I'm one of those
00:43:05.175 --> 00:43:09.368
people that contributes to this I hate to say it the truth,
00:43:10.335 --> 00:43:15.735
well again day's busy so anything that eases it up like god you can order something
00:43:15.735 --> 00:43:20.519
from Amazon and then it gets to your house like in the morning like at 4 a.m. Sometimes same day.
00:43:21.175 --> 00:43:25.041
That's something. Isn't that something? Like Jeff Bezos knew what to do.
00:43:25.227 --> 00:43:29.235
How can these? How can these? I know. We're not going to have JCPenney very
00:43:29.235 --> 00:43:33.058
much longer. That's really sad. We're just not. That's really sad.
00:43:33.420 --> 00:43:36.065
Macy's? How the hell is Macy's holding up?
00:43:37.313 --> 00:43:41.515
I don't even know about that. I don't even know about that. I'm actually really
00:43:41.515 --> 00:43:43.767
surprised. Because like Kmart.
00:43:44.473 --> 00:43:47.695
Kmart? I would have thought Kmart would have lasted over Macy's.
00:43:48.370 --> 00:43:50.582
Pricing-wise? Now all we have is Walmart.
00:43:51.275 --> 00:43:54.875
We have Walmart. Thank God we have Walmart. Target. I don't think anything's
00:43:54.875 --> 00:43:56.499
happening with Target. Kohl's.
00:43:57.958 --> 00:44:01.383
You know, stop playing the games with this cash, this super cash.
00:44:02.016 --> 00:44:06.056
Stop, stop, stop making me be in there
revolving door.
00:44:06.683 --> 00:44:11.559
You know what I mean? It's like, okay, I get the 30% off and then I buy some things.
00:44:11.924 --> 00:44:18.555
Then I get the Kohl's cash. Come on back again. Now nothing's on sale, but your cash is due.
00:44:18.995 --> 00:44:23.745
I used to be so frustrated about that. I used to be a Kohl's person myself for the same exact reason.
00:44:23.745 --> 00:44:27.585
And then I was like, I can't like, and then you can only use this a certain time.
00:44:27.585 --> 00:44:34.385
Oh my god then you find a champion hoodie no it doesn't no you can't use it on that okay,
00:44:35.650 --> 00:44:40.715
so you can't use it on chaps can't use it on under armor can't use it on nike
00:44:41.015 --> 00:44:45.958
okay it's so true so you can use it on crofton borough right.
00:44:47.339 --> 00:44:51.965
I don't know how to dress anymore it's all about comfort for me it's all about
00:44:51.965 --> 00:44:54.805
comfort now i don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing it's all about
00:44:54.805 --> 00:44:59.524
comfort now oh i it's very clear it's comfort for me too it's comfort,
00:45:00.887 --> 00:45:04.713
comfort over anything and shout out to old navy that's only,
00:45:05.671 --> 00:45:11.984
sizing sizing fantastic pricing when they have sales like what dude,
00:45:12.795 --> 00:45:20.055
they have all sorts of sizing yeah and fit up to plus sizes jeans all their stuff quality,
00:45:20.515 --> 00:45:23.555
just everything when they have really good sales when they have really good
00:45:23.555 --> 00:45:27.355
sales yeah when they have good sales but you'd be shopping at you used to shop
00:45:27.355 --> 00:45:31.232
at that bougie ass place you go yeah but that yeah i don't want to say their name because i want to,
00:45:31.860 --> 00:45:35.755
kind of expensive kind of yeah girl i don't remember the last time i stepped
00:45:35.755 --> 00:45:37.101
foot there you know what they're playing on,
00:45:37.918 --> 00:45:41.535
they're playing with us couldn't tell you last time i've been there way too
00:45:41.535 --> 00:45:45.796
expensive i can't even believe i used to and i used to buy a lot of clothes there,
00:45:46.900 --> 00:45:52.190
But, you know, obviously, since moving, we realized the insanity for the amount
00:45:52.190 --> 00:45:53.833
of clothes I had. It was disgusting.
00:45:54.502 --> 00:45:56.930
Absolutely disgusting. I mean, we threw out some of your clothes,
00:45:56.930 --> 00:45:58.618
bud, but you said throw everything out.
00:46:00.080 --> 00:46:04.430
I actually have three baskets waiting to give to a friend. And I always thought
00:46:04.430 --> 00:46:07.441
that I donated a lot, like every season I thought I did.
00:46:08.364 --> 00:46:13.041
How many pairs of shoes did you have, Shabba? I don't know. A lot, man. A lot.
00:46:14.020 --> 00:46:17.370
Like an unhealthy amount. It was actually disgusting. I was very disappointed
00:46:17.370 --> 00:46:21.446
in myself I need to
get more shoes No, I don't think you do.
00:46:23.920 --> 00:46:29.460
I'm telling people I've learned I've learned I mean, I still kept some of the
00:46:29.460 --> 00:46:36.483
flats because I get cheapo flats just to wear for work and I sit at a desk, so it's fine but,
00:46:37.144 --> 00:46:42.010
all you really need is a solid pair of, what, maybe two sneakers maybe two pairs
00:46:42.010 --> 00:46:44.592
of sandals good sandals I listen to you.
00:46:45.144 --> 00:46:49.944
I freaking love this, Charlotte. Maybe some rain boots, a pair of winter boots.
00:46:50.960 --> 00:46:55.080
Oh, Shabba needs the pair of boots to go to Vermont. I haven't been in a minute.
00:46:55.080 --> 00:46:56.947
Can I ask you a question? Road trip.
00:46:57.336 --> 00:47:02.965
Can we go? Can we bring? I'm saying it now on the podcast because it's going to force you to do it.
00:47:03.888 --> 00:47:09.430
Can we go to the Vermont Country Store and do a tour for everybody?
00:47:09.430 --> 00:47:12.930
I think we should. Could we bring these guys to the Vermont Country Store?
00:47:12.930 --> 00:47:14.309
But I would love to do that.
00:47:14.610 --> 00:47:18.830
Instead of the magazine, we're just going to bring you through the whole store
00:47:18.830 --> 00:47:21.599
if you've never been. Yeah. Because I've never been. I've never been either.
00:47:22.222 --> 00:47:25.280
I think that would be a blast. I think we need to do this. I think we need to
00:47:25.280 --> 00:47:27.705
do it. Absolutely. Very soon, too.
00:47:28.698 --> 00:47:34.096
Oh, yeah, before it gets wintertime? Yeah. I mean, even though winter's beautiful there, but yeah. Right.
00:47:34.814 --> 00:47:37.589
We definitely should. Like, right now is the perfect time to head that way.
00:47:37.780 --> 00:47:40.648
Right. Like, we need to do it very soon. Yeah. We need to plan this.
00:47:40.648 --> 00:47:42.210
Would you guys like that? I know you would.
00:47:42.546 --> 00:47:45.170
I know you would. Two Talking Fools take over Vermont?
00:47:47.150 --> 00:47:52.461
Shabba's favorite place is Vermont. We know this. Like, she loves Vermont.
00:47:53.061 --> 00:47:56.085
I love Vermont. Maybe. Haven't been there in a minute, though.
00:47:56.834 --> 00:48:00.268
How long is it going to take us to get there? Remember CB? Like four hours,
00:48:00.268 --> 00:48:03.988
depending on where we go. Four hours to get up there? Yeah, but it's quick.
00:48:03.988 --> 00:48:06.952
It's a quick four hours. It doesn't even feel like it. A quick.
00:48:07.266 --> 00:48:10.498
I promise you. You're telling us from where we are to the Vermont Country Store,
00:48:10.498 --> 00:48:13.428
it's going to take four hours? Oh, I don't know if it's four hours to the Vermont
00:48:13.428 --> 00:48:15.898
Country Store, but where I've been is usually four hours.
00:48:16.089 --> 00:48:18.738
Oh, look. That's practically in a main.
00:48:19.989 --> 00:48:27.271
I mean, never been to Maine, so. Oh, my Lord. Four hours. Oh, man. I'll drive.
00:48:28.617 --> 00:48:32.152
But yeah, no, you're a good driver. You are. On most days.
00:48:32.919 --> 00:48:36.998
No, you are. You're a little bit, I would say your foot's a little heavier than
00:48:36.998 --> 00:48:40.278
mine. I've heard that. I've heard that quite a bit.
00:48:41.410 --> 00:48:45.949
This girl reminds me. Call me Shanika Patrick. Shanika freaking Patrick, bro.
00:48:46.618 --> 00:48:54.024
Vroom, vroom, baby. Vroom, vroom. But I mean, the car that I had did go fast. So, I mean. Oh, yeah.
00:48:54.939 --> 00:49:01.492
You were a baller. Wanna be shot. Shot call. Running in hands on the impala.
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Bro, it feels good to be here with you. It feels really good.
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