Backstage Huddle 10min recap bölümünün tam dökümü

WEBVTT 00:00:12.560 --> 00:00:15.519 Hello everyone and welcome back to the Backstage Huddle. 00:00:15.599 --> 00:00:20.640 I'm your host, Rai, in honor of being in between episodes right now for offstage and on duty. 00:00:20.800 --> 00:00:23.600 Last week we released the 10-minute marriage part one. 00:00:23.920 --> 00:00:26.960 Next week we're releasing the 10-minute marriage part two. 00:00:27.199 --> 00:00:31.120 So in the meantime, I want to offer some encouragement in light of what we've been discussing. 00:00:31.280 --> 00:00:35.200 This week, I want to talk to the person who feels like they're getting the leftovers in their marriage. 00:00:35.359 --> 00:00:36.640 Maybe your spouse is on the road. 00:00:36.799 --> 00:00:38.000 Maybe you're the one on the road. 00:00:38.159 --> 00:00:39.679 Maybe your schedules are completely opposite. 00:00:39.840 --> 00:00:47.439 Maybe you're juggling kids and work and travel and sound checks and bedtime and school and all the things that have to happen just to keep everybody alive. 00:00:47.600 --> 00:00:52.560 And somewhere in the middle of it, you look at the person you love and think, when are we actually supposed to feel married? 00:00:52.719 --> 00:00:56.479 Because sometimes you really only have 10 minutes at a time to connect with that person. 00:00:56.640 --> 00:01:01.600 10 minutes to FaceTime before you go to soundcheck, or 10 minutes after the kids go to bed before one of you falls asleep. 00:01:01.759 --> 00:01:09.519 And I think sometimes we become so discouraged by how little time we have that we accidentally waste the time we do have wishing it were more. 00:01:09.680 --> 00:01:11.359 We tell ourselves, this isn't enough. 00:01:11.519 --> 00:01:16.640 We need a date night, we need a weekend away, we need hours to talk, or we need to get back to how we used to be. 00:01:16.799 --> 00:01:18.000 And some of those things are wonderful. 00:01:18.159 --> 00:01:19.200 Yeah, take the date night. 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:20.159 Please take a vacation. 00:01:20.319 --> 00:01:22.400 Lock the bedroom door when you get the opportunity. 00:01:22.640 --> 00:01:24.640 But I just want to remind you of something this week. 00:01:24.799 --> 00:01:26.560 Small does not mean insignificant. 00:01:26.719 --> 00:01:28.640 Ten minutes of real connection can matter. 00:01:28.799 --> 00:01:30.239 A two-minute phone call can matter. 00:01:30.400 --> 00:01:33.760 Sending that small text saying, hey, thinking about you really matters. 00:01:33.920 --> 00:01:37.439 Connection isn't always built on big, gigantic, romantic gestures. 00:01:37.599 --> 00:01:40.239 Most of the time it's built on tiny little thoughtful moments. 00:01:40.400 --> 00:01:44.319 And I think it's especially important for marriages whose lives revolve around touring. 00:01:44.480 --> 00:01:48.719 Because if we keep waiting for the perfect conditions to connect, we might be waiting a long time. 00:01:48.799 --> 00:01:52.719 There's always gonna be another show, another sick kid, another school pickup, another flight. 00:01:52.879 --> 00:01:54.879 So maybe the question is, how do we find more time? 00:01:55.040 --> 00:01:59.040 Maybe sometimes the question is, how do we become more intentional with the time we already have? 00:01:59.200 --> 00:02:00.480 And something else I want you to hear. 00:02:00.640 --> 00:02:06.079 If your marriage feels a little disconnected right now, that doesn't automatically mean that something is wrong with your marriage. 00:02:06.319 --> 00:02:09.039 It might just mean you're tired or you're in survival mode. 00:02:09.199 --> 00:02:12.639 Maybe you're simply in a season where connection has to become more intentional. 00:02:12.800 --> 00:02:15.120 So here's your backstage huddle challenge this week. 00:02:15.280 --> 00:02:23.520 When you find yourself only having 10 minutes a day to connect with your spouse after the survival checklist is complete, maybe ask one really intentional question that feels good. 00:02:23.680 --> 00:02:25.759 Maybe it can be what was your high and low for today? 00:02:25.919 --> 00:02:26.719 What made you laugh? 00:02:26.879 --> 00:02:29.039 And then just listen, you don't have to fix anything. 00:02:29.199 --> 00:02:31.919 It doesn't have to turn into some profound marital breakthrough. 00:02:32.080 --> 00:02:36.879 You're simply in the moment and reminding each other, I'm still here, I still see you, we are still us. 00:02:37.039 --> 00:02:46.000 10 minutes won't change your circumstances, but 10 intentional minutes can remind you that underneath all of those responsibilities, you're not just coworkers managing a household. 00:02:46.159 --> 00:02:49.439 Your partners, your friends, your lovers, you're on the same team. 00:02:49.599 --> 00:02:51.199 Don't underestimate the small moments. 00:02:51.360 --> 00:02:54.400 Don't wait for life to slow down before you start reaching for each other. 00:02:54.560 --> 00:02:55.599 Use the 10 minutes. 00:02:55.759 --> 00:02:59.680 Make the phone call, send the text, ask the question, tell them you miss them. 00:02:59.840 --> 00:03:00.960 Laugh about something stupid. 00:03:01.120 --> 00:03:02.080 Tell them you're proud of them. 00:03:02.159 --> 00:03:04.560 Because when we only have 10 minutes, we gotta make them count. 00:03:04.719 --> 00:03:06.560 That's your backstage huddle for this week. 00:03:06.639 --> 00:03:07.919 So I will see you next time. 00:03:08.080 --> 00:03:09.360 Proud of you, Stage Wives. 00:03:09.439 --> 00:03:10.319 You got this.