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Unknown: So record, record. Here
we go. Off we go.
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This is the mostly Middle
Tennessee Business Podcast, a
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podcast about Middle Tennessee
business owners and
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professionals, mostly. So
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I got to say that the the
trades, and I've been saying
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this over the past couple of
episodes, they're going to be
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ripe with a lot of talent, like
good talent. Like instead of it
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being a 12 to one ratio where
you have to go through 12 people
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to find
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the one
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in the trades, I think it's
going to get down to like six or
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five. You know why?
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AI.
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AI. Because I think a lot of
these white collar guys gonna
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start looking. They're gonna
they're gonna be replaced.
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Oh man!
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And they're probably you know
good quality people that are
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gonna get into the trades. What
do you think?
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Oh man, that's that that's a big
one to open up with, Jim. Wow.
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Well, I've I've done a seminar.
They called it Blue Collar AI,
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and basically this guy was
great. I mean, he's been a he's
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he's been a general contractor
for years, and he talked about
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it being you know one of the
safest industries to be in.
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Yeah,
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I mean I think and I agree. Like
I think people are always going
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to need their estimators.
They're always going to need
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their people installing whether
it's plumbing, electrical,
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eight. all those things, garage
doors, yeah, all those. Yeah,
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I don't see any. I don't see
Skynet taking that anytime soon.
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But I mean, who knows?
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You're going to have to have a
lot of trust for robots to come
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in your house and get work done,
man. We're a long ways off from
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that. Could a generation or two?
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You know, yeah. I think we'll
eat for some time now. I mean, I
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think we had a good run too.
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But that's what I've been
saying. You know, all the the
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trades have been kind of
relegated to people that just,
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well, hey, it's a job. I guess
I'll show up and do it. Those
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types of attitudes, and it's
unfortunate because it's similar
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to the even even like the car
business. You have a lot of the
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majority of the workforce that's
in like the sales positions.
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They do it because they need a
job. It's not a career. Trades
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are the same way. And you know,
when I went to high school in
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the late 80s, early 90s, the
kids who went to the trade
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school were kind of like looked
down upon because you know they
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couldn't hack you know college
and you know we we were so much
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better than they were because
they had to go to Henry Abbott
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Tech, but the funny thing is
that the laugh was on us because
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as I went and worked in the
electrical trade after college
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didn't work out,
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one
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of the guys that I worked with,
he was a great guy. Oh gosh, his
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name was Tony Cordero. I know
his last name was Cordero, but
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I'm not sure if his name first
name was Tony. But anyway,
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sorry, guy. He talked about.
He's like, look, I didn't spend
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a dime for my education, and I
am I am outperforming monetarily
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and financially all of my peers
that I went to high school with.
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He says, you know, because back
then he was making like 40 or 50
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grand a year, and he was like,
you know, a three-year I want to
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say journeyman. So at that
point,
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I think that they are
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get on that mic. Let's hear.
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Sorry, sorry. Yeah, I mean, I
think that there are people, and
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even when I was in high school,
like, I mean, I didn't really,
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I, I didn't see it back then,
but um, yeah, I mean, they were
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definitely ahead of the game. I
mean, uh, you know, how many of
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us are debt free these days?
Right. And I mean, if it only
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takes you two years and with a
minimum college fund, um, and
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you can get in some sort of
trades. I mean, it doesn't just
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stop there. You can open up your
own business. There's always
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going to be a need for it, and I
think right now we we could be
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just going in reverse here. I
mean, like yeah, like it's a
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shame that like it was like you
said that the trades were looked
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down upon as far as getting in a
career. I mean, like who wants
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to who wants to date a plumber?
You know who wants to date like
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these these guys are you know
they're I feel like that they're
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ahead of the game and we're
seeing the results of it now.
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Especially I mean you brought up
college.
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Well, you have kids.
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Yeah,
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you want your kids to go to
college. Is that like you know,
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a I hang my own pride and ego on
the fact that I could put a
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sticker on the back of my car.
My child goes to you know that
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kind of thing because I think a
lot of college these days is to
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satisfy and placate the parents'
ego.
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If my son wants to open up
someone's body for surgery, yes,
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I want him to go to school for
that. But as far as getting a
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marketing degree or going into
some sort of like I don't know,
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I would probably encourage. I'll
I'll get an idea of what he
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wants to do in life and see if
he can just do it without
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college because it's just a. I
mean, Quentin. Santino didn't go
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to. Did he go to film school? He
kind of just did everything is
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on his own, right?
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Well, it's funny because you and
I talked about you know self
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training, you know, especially
when it comes to musical
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instruments. There's there's an
element to where you you put
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yourself through the you you
have the discipline to learn on
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your own and pull from different
mentors and influences in
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various capacities, whether it's
music, guitar, drums,
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electrical, hell, even you know
the legal profession. You can
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you can hang out in a law firm.
Just put me in the law library.
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What do you need? I'll pull the
case law. Let's do all these
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different things. Show me how
the courtroom works, all the
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different processes and the
order
of operations of how
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things operate. If you immerse
yourself long enough in
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something in a situation like
that, yeah, go ahead and take
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the bar. You know what I mean?
It's if you pass the bar, you're
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an attorney. I mean, there's
some states that actually I
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think it's Louisiana that does
that, but why not? You're
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getting real world, you know,
learn by doing type of approach.
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It's not classroom, and you're
not spending a fortune to
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acquire the knowledge.
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And not even in your lifetime
are you going to be paying that
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debt back,
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right?
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And I
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know people that are over 100
grand in student debt. They're
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never getting out from
underneath it. See, I got never.
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I
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got lucky. I was a bad student,
so like I I went to community
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college and I didn't pay as much
as the average person, but I
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just oh geez only a few years
ago I paid that off yeah wow and
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the funny thing is with what you
do and for those of you
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listening I know we're kind of
we we have this new format where
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I don't introduce the guest
until we're about 10 minutes in
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but Esteban Legarea
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ooh nice
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Legarea I got you. Got the
rolling arm.
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Yeah, that's right.
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And you got. We met a couple
years ago when we were selling a
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lot more lighting and stuff like
that. We were looking for
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distributors, and that's what
you do. You sell. You sell
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electrical parts.
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Yes.
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You know that's that's not a
typical course of life that is
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talked about much, like you
don't think that these parts
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have to be sold. You know what I
mean. And by the way, this is
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the mostly Middle Tennessee
business podcast from the It's
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Your show.co studios, powered by
Muletown Bikes, right there on
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the square. Yeah, we got to do
the e bike. I'm looking over
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your shoulder at the camera.
Yeah, that's what I do. So,
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yeah. Well, wow, it's it's
crazy. I I don't think anybody
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in this industry, unless they
had like parents or people that
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were that were in the industry
already. Yeah, I think people
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just kind of accidentally
stumble upon it. That's what
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happened to me. I spent majority
of my career, not I'm sorry, not
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career. I mean, I was waiting
tables after high school and
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just trying to figure my life
out. I thought I wanted to do
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music. I thought I wanted to do
all these other things, and then
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I got tired of waiting tables.
And somebody, an old friend of
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mine, said, "Hey, I'm actually
moving away. I had this position
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opening up. You know, if you
want to take my spot, I'll tell
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them you're good people, and
started there. I started in the
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warehouse, answering the phones
from the counter, just seeing
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people walking in, getting parts
every day, and I did not know
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that this was such a great
business to be in. I mean,
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people need these this stuff. I
mean, I thought people just went
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to Lowe's and Home Depot to get
their things. Didn't think this
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was going to be a somebody could
just make a good living off of
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it. I met a few salesmen, and
one you and I both know him. I
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don't think. I mean, I guess
should I can I mention his name?
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Sure, Mike Harris. Yeah, yeah,
yeah. I mean, he
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good guy.
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Oh, great! Yeah, I mean, this
was about 10 years ago, I think.
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Yeah, he's he told me how much
he made in a year, and I'm like,
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wow. I'm like, yeah. I maybe if
I stick with this, I can one
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day.
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And a lot of that, it's all.
It's not really a long sales
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cycle. I would say probably a
short to medium sales cycle
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because if they need the parts
and they like you, it's more
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about the relationship and the
likability. Can are you
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dependable? Are you going to get
it to me when I need it? I would
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imagine those are the factors
that you have to kind of satisfy
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in this type of role.
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I mean, there's there's many
factors to it. I think getting a
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meeting and getting a client
is-it's hard, but it's also just
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as just as hard, if not harder,
keeping them.
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Right.
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I mean, because people, you
know, it's business, and it's us
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being in Nashville. It's-I
mean-it's growing, and it's such
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a-it's such a slip-through
industry too. So you just got to
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be on top of
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it.
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Yeah, you got to be almost a
jealous girlfriend. You got to
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every opportunity that comes
your way. You got to like ask
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questions and ask for feedback.
If there's this big lighting or
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gear project, you got to ask
like, "Hey, who got this? If I
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didn't get it, who got it? And
how how off how how much was I
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off?" So it's the only way
you'll survive in this business.
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I mean,
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what's the what's the process
like? Because I mean, a lot of
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it these things go out to bid.
They're probably getting a lot
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better of a deal going through
the distribute distribution
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houses than going directly to
Home Depot or Lowe's. Home Depot
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or Lowe's are kind of like last
minute. Hey, we need a couple of
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outlets. We just need to go grab
something, and we upcharge a
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client, and we're paying retail
on top of retail. You know that
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kind of happens, but in even in
Home Depot, you're not dealing
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typically with people that have
actually done the work. You
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know, does that make sense? That
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does make sense. Yeah, those are
typically not the partners I'd
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go after. Yeah, yeah. The people
who can get their stuff, and
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sometimes when I'm cold calling,
and then they say, "Well, well,
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you know, we usually just swing
by Home Depot, Lowe's, or a city
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electric around the corner.
Like, you know, they just just
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get parts around the corner.
Then I'm like, "Okay, that's
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fine. That gives me an idea that
they're not really looking for
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partners, right? What I my job
is to go after people who are
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already involved in the bidding
process. They know that they're
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going to need X amount of wire
for this big multifamily unit
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that they're starting, and I
give them the budgetary numbers.
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And after they win the project,
they come back to me. He says,
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"Hestaban, can you put some
money back in my pocket? I say,
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"Yes.
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No, it's it's it's whale
hunting.
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Yeah, is what you're
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doing.
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Yeah, it's yeah, yeah, it is. I
didn't really, honestly, I
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didn't think I could do it. I've
been doing it for going on four
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and a half years now. Out like
well, account manager. I don't
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like outside salesman title. It
seems kind of sleazy, but yeah,
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like a used car salesman. I
don't know. I don't. I never
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like that type. There, there are
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good used car salespeople. Just
used car salespeople that give
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other salespeople a bad name. I
sold used cars, man. I mean, I
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guess really. Oh yeah, I just
worked for Mercedes. What have
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we sold? We sold used cars. You
know
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what have you not done, Jim?
Like I am so impressive. Like
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podcaster, drummer, car
salesman,
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business owner,
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business business owner,
entrepreneur.
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Was in the phone business for
when I first when I got out of
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college. It was a family
business. I was an electrician.
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I was a I was an apprentice. I
never made it to journeyman or
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got formally trained. But I also
knew it wasn't what I wanted to
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do with my life at that time.
And then from there, I went into
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radio. So I know I was in radio
for 17 years. What was that
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experience like with you being
an electrician? At the time, it
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was again. I looked at it as a
job, not a career. It was great
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money. The company I worked for
treated us very well. You didn't
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have to go to them for raises.
They would just come to you
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after, hey,
you've been here for
three months. Here's a raise.
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Okay, really decent company.
They were the non-union shop of
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a a family-owned business that
was a union business. They were
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like the Lee Company of
Connecticut. Oh, Rizzo Electric,
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they handled all the state jobs,
the highways, lighting, all that
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stuff. And then they had Nikon,
which was their non-union shop,
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which I worked for. That did you
know whatever came down that
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didn't want to use union work,
so they had best of both worlds.
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They, it was cool. I mean, it
was at the time it was kind of a
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dirge because I knew it wasn't
what I wanted to do. I knew that
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I was I had an itch to scratch,
and I was still kind of coming
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to terms of well, if it's going
to be radio or television, radio
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I know doesn't pay as well as
television, and I do want to
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make a good living. And
eventually, I just kind of
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relented and went into radio
because as soon as I got my
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palate wetted, it was like, oh,
this
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is me.
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I just knew it. This is I am in
my element. I worked for the
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radio station, and for the first
one that I worked for, I swore
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I'd never work for. But as soon
as I stepped in the broadcasting
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school, this is me. I totally
get this. So that's you know,
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but
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I don't want to jump. I don't
want to jump ahead, but I am
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very. I would like to know your
experience of being. Would you
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call it? Would you and with
magnitude was it
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consider yourself an OEM?
Correct.
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Yeah, yeah.
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What was that experience like?
Because I mean, sounds like you
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were busy. Sounds like you're. I
mean, obviously you're you're
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putting a lot of work into it.
Yeah. But do you think the
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rewards were great? Because I
mean, Nashville, you're dealing
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with a lot of big lighting
companies, and that was-I mean,
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I would imagine that was very
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the differentiator was the fact
that we were one of the early
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adopters in the colored lighting
space with the DMX technology,
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like what you see around here in
the studios. Is. Was our
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lighting, and in the space even
more niche was the car wash
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business and that industry. So,
making them harsh environment
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proof and able to stand up to
chemicals and things of that
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nature, as well as water and all
this different you know these
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different elements that could
penetrate you know electric
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electricity. You don't want that
to happen. So, working with our
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manufacturing partners in China,
because I don't care what you
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say, every LED chip comes from
in China. No matter as much as
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you want to say it's made in the
USA, it's not. And we were at
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least honest about it, but
that's a whole nother story.
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That was an experience because
we we were in like an electrical
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business that the market told us
where to go. We were selling
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white lighting, LEDs, and stuff
like that, and doing conversions
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back in the late teens. Yeah,
because the wave had yet to come
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to shore. You had the TVA that
was incentivizing all the
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different switchovers and stuff
like that. Never thought that my
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electrical experience would be
relevant in my life ever again,
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but here we were. We were
putting lights in. If the owners
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got to put a tool belt on, that
so be it. You know, get up on
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the lift and start changing out
lights. It's what we did. But
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you know, and it's funny because
the the staff we have now, dare
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I say, loves working with me if
I get out in the field because I
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was taught well. You know the
company when I was working as an
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electrician, they they were very
big on training and doing it the
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right way and taking pride in
how the job was done. I mean
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they had to go and look at a
circuit that I had worked on for
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a string of lights in a project
we did up in Ohio, and you know,
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just to kind of trace a circuit,
nothing that I did was wrong. It
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was just something with the
circuit where it originated was
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wonky, and just undoing
everything that I had put in
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there, like, oh my gosh, like
what do you put? Are your hands
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tired? I'm like, no. You you use
your alignment and you tighten
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the wire nut, and that's how I
was taught. You twist the wires
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together, and you,
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yeah,
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you know, and you make sure it
fits in the box well, and you
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make it look neat. Like we need
you to come out on more jobs.
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I'm like, no, this is kind of
like every now and then. I like
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this is how I like it, but if I
need to, that's fine. You got
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to make it look clean.
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Yeah, yeah. You got to make it
look. You got to take pride in
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your work.
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You know, it's interesting. I I
took a break from electrical
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distribution to work for a a
wired cable OEM, and it's kind
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of fascinating. We were
considered an OEM because we
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twisted the cables and then, or
sorry, twisted the wires, which
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turns into a cable, and then put
the jacket on there, so we were
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considered the manufacturer,
American manufacturer. Yeah,
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even though those parts came
from I don't know Mexico. Yeah,
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there's
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elements of made in the USA that
if you check the boxes, you can
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claim it.
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Yeah, that's weird. That's kind
of when you think about
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it. Yeah, sourcing the materials
is a like if we made our own
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lighting shells and maybe
sourced our PCBs here. If we had
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our drivers, I mean, most of the
driver companies are out in
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China as well. Meanwell being
one of the big ones out there,
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and you know the the software,
the DMX software that we we came
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up with our own controller
software. So that was made in
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the USA for sure. Yeah, but I
mean, all the different rare
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earth elements that make an LED
are coming from China. There's
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no ifs, ands, or buts. There's
no getting around it. They have
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the market cornered. Okay, when
it comes to LED technology, so
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you know we've had competitors.
Oh, we're made in the USA. No,
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you're not. Stop.
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Yeah,
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stop. Okay, what was
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your? I guess what was your
pitch when you wanted to push
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this material? I mean, like we
obviously we had we had a
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meeting with distribution, yeah.
But like, how often would you
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actually go out there and meet
the contractors? I mean, like,
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and how would you?
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We were we're selling directly
to the customer.
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Sure.
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Yeah. So a lot of the you know,
they would see us at a trade
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show. The competitor that we had
was a lot higher price. They
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also had a lot more longevity in
the business. They were
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considered to be one of the
first in the mine in terms of
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that kind of technology. But I
think they started getting into
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other verticals and still are
that are outside of the car wash
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realm. So we ended up just by
outlasting all the other
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competitors became one of the
you know I think that's what
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attracted our buyer to the table
is the fact that we lasted long
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and like hey you're still around
obviously you're doing something
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right you you kind of passed the
five year threshold yeah and
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eventually that you know one
thing led to another and you
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know they they wanted to buy us
and so so on and so forth, but
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you know when we got in front of
different people, it was mainly
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hey we have a simpler system.
It's scalable. It's made with
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you in mind, so you don't have
to figure stuff out. You could
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teach your staff on it if you
want or not. It was mainly.
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Around the controller software
and the the lights, just they
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just you know the less headache
you gave them, the better off
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you were. So these they're not
going to give you headaches if
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they do go out, which
inevitably, invariably, they do.
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Sometimes water just gets
through.
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Yeah,
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we're going to replace it. Okay,
we're going to be the
hero. We
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even have stickers printed up.
That Was hold it up to the
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camera. Be the hero, and that
was that goes back to when I
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worked with my dad. He says, you
know, because I always being in
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a in a white collar environment,
growing up in Westchester
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County, Danbury, Connecticut,
Fairfield County, in that part
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of the country in the 90s and
80s. If you're a blue collar
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man, I mean, you were just
looked down upon. You know, at
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least that's how I saw it. Yeah.
You know. So going in and fixing
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telephone systems in a doctor's
office or a lawyer's office. I
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mean, you were like just. You
might as well be scraping us off
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the bottom of your shoe, kind of
feeling.
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Did you ever watch that South
Park episode? The the
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Panderverse. Oh, just I love it.
It's basically a quick just a
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yeah. The episode was basically
talking about how the tradesmen
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or the new Elon Musks. They own
everything because they're the
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richest people. Because no one
we're in a society where no one
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knows how to do anything
anymore, right? And they lean on
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them, and they are just
outbidding everybody, and then
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they have all this money, and
then they're just buying
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rockets, and they just become
the yeah, they become like the
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new Elon Musk. And I just
thought it was so hilarious, but
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it's true. It is true. Amazing
how things have turned a little
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bit.
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Yeah.
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Oh yeah. Going back to the AI
conversation. Well, the
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AI it's going to be a it's going
to be an issue for people in
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white collar jobs. But again, my
father, you know, he says when
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you go in there, you can't have
that mindset of being less than
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less than and go in there acting
like you're their hero. Yeah,
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you're there to fix a problem
that they can't fix. You know
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how to fix it. You're the hero,
and I never forgot that. Did I
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embody it at the time? No, I was
too young to fully appreciate
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what he was talking about. Did
you
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tell me what your father did?
I'm sorry.
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He was in the phone business.
The phone business with the
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digital phone systems, PBX, all
that stuff. I mean, I've hung
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and installed many a phone
system. Probably still could.
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Yeah,
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I still remember the code to get
into programming a Toshiba phone
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system, so I could actually
initialize an entire system if I
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wanted to,
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which
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I might have done back when I
when somebody pissed me off. Oh
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wow! And I'll just leave it at
that. Oh, but I find with your
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with your positions very
interesting because, man, it is
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one of those things that you do
need to know what you're talking
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about. You need to know the
parts, how they work together,
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what's the best solution for the
customer, things of that nature.
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Do you need to know like the
intricacies of the calculations
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and the math that goes involved
with these types of things?
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I mean, when I was when I was
working the counter in the
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warehouse, I screwed up so many
times where I was forced to like
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know not to screw up again. So,
with yeah, when you send a
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customer the wrong part, it's
even if it's like 20 cents, that
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little part, you know, that's 20
cents. It's costing them 1000s
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of dollars every single time.
They every single hour they
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don't have it. So I had to
really like, I guess, put that
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in my. I had to be aware of that
from a contractor's perspective.
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Like, okay, well, big deal. They
like I messed up. So anyway, no,
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I messed up so many times that I
can know how to not mess up and
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how to know how to the how to
ask the right questions as far
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as like every element to the
lock nut to the washer, asking
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the right questions to you know
okay quarter inch half inch
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size. Okay, what's this going on
to? What's the application? Does
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got to be weather resistant,
like explosion
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proof?
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Explosion proof,
yeah. Like that
that went with time, but I'm I'm
443
00:24:08,130 --> 00:24:11,310
very fortunate enough now that I
get to focus more on the
444
00:24:11,370 --> 00:24:14,130
relationship. But it does help
that I've had that experience.
445
00:24:14,550 --> 00:24:16,650
Well, I mean, you you seem like
one of these people that once
446
00:24:16,740 --> 00:24:19,290
you it only takes you one or two
times to learn from a mistake.
447
00:24:20,490 --> 00:24:22,820
You know, like you're going to
be so cognizant of it that
448
00:24:22,850 --> 00:24:25,010
you're going to, you're like,
oh, you're going to, you're
449
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,320
going to, it's going to be so
personalized. You're going to be
450
00:24:27,530 --> 00:24:31,040
so, ah, I don't want that to
happen ever again. Is that
451
00:24:31,130 --> 00:24:32,000
something that's like you?
452
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:37,400
That's that's uh, that's that's
very accurate. And um, you know,
453
00:24:38,630 --> 00:24:44,080
my my father was in construction
too, so I grew up when I was a
454
00:24:44,170 --> 00:24:46,450
kid being the go-getter, picking
up the trash around the job
455
00:24:46,540 --> 00:24:50,470
sites, and yeah, he was one of
those. I'm you share, you know,
456
00:24:50,470 --> 00:24:52,240
I'm sure you feel this way about
your father, man. Like there's
457
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,910
just nothing, you never see
anything he couldn't do.
458
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,350
Yeah, he was. Yeah, my dad was
like that. Yeah, wait a minute,
459
00:24:59,350 --> 00:25:02,700
you're gonna build a. What on
the like? He literally, my mom
460
00:25:02,820 --> 00:25:06,330
had her hips replaced. One of
her hips were replaced, and
461
00:25:06,360 --> 00:25:08,160
instead of like you know, most
people would be like, "Well, we
462
00:25:08,250 --> 00:25:10,770
needed to figure out a way to
get her downstairs, so we got to
463
00:25:10,860 --> 00:25:12,840
come up with this. You know,
they make these things you sit
464
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:16,110
in a chair and it goes down the
stairs. Yeah. No, he made it,
465
00:25:16,140 --> 00:25:19,110
and it would actually. It was a
platform with a boat winch at
466
00:25:19,140 --> 00:25:21,560
the top of the stairs that she
could roll the wheelchair on and
467
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,630
it would get her down, and he
built like a platform that can,
468
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,290
dude. For us growing up, it was
like, oh, we're just doing this.
469
00:25:27,500 --> 00:25:32,420
Now I look back on it and go,
holy crap, who does that? Nobody
470
00:25:32,510 --> 00:25:32,870
anymore.
471
00:25:33,650 --> 00:25:38,900
Yeah, it's it's dad engineering.
Yeah, while it's it's
472
00:25:38,930 --> 00:25:40,390
incredible. They just figure it
out.
473
00:25:41,350 --> 00:25:44,710
They were big RV people. Like I
grew up RVing and camping and
474
00:25:44,770 --> 00:25:47,590
stuff like that, glamping, if
you will, because he was a huge
475
00:25:47,710 --> 00:25:51,640
fisherman and loved taking the
boat to Lake Ontario, the ocean,
476
00:25:51,730 --> 00:25:56,800
whatever. But they would get an
RV, brand new, beautiful RV, and
477
00:25:56,950 --> 00:25:59,290
pick it up on a Friday, bring it
home. You know, I remember was a
478
00:25:59,410 --> 00:26:01,890
kid see the lights pulling in a
driveway, and you wanted to go
479
00:26:02,010 --> 00:26:04,920
in there and smell it and
everything. And then you'd eat
480
00:26:04,980 --> 00:26:08,400
breakfast the next morning, and
you'd go into the new RV, and
481
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:12,780
he'd have the entire dashboard
ripped apart. And it was like,
482
00:26:13,620 --> 00:26:17,700
oh my gosh, are you going to be
able to put this back? I mean,
483
00:26:17,730 --> 00:26:20,240
why are like just a rat's nest?
Because he's making all his
484
00:26:20,300 --> 00:26:24,380
modifications for CB radios and
all that crap, and yeah, with
485
00:26:24,380 --> 00:26:26,510
him by the end of the day, it
was all back together. There was
486
00:26:26,540 --> 00:26:27,200
always something to do.
487
00:26:27,500 --> 00:26:29,870
I bet he did. He wake you up in
the middle, like 4o'clock in the
488
00:26:29,870 --> 00:26:33,080
morning, later on summers. She's
like, "Hey, something to do, or
489
00:26:33,140 --> 00:26:34,850
"Hey, we're going to go to work.
We're going to build something.
490
00:26:35,060 --> 00:26:36,440
We're going to do something.
We're not just going to sit in
491
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:36,920
the house all day.
492
00:26:37,310 --> 00:26:41,560
I wasn't as ambitious as he was.
I think he kind of, you know,
493
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:45,460
when his secretary or his
receptionist would have a
494
00:26:45,490 --> 00:26:48,880
vacation during the summer,
well, who are we going to get to
495
00:26:48,970 --> 00:26:52,870
cover phones? I guess we can get
Jimmy down there. Then I
496
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:55,390
literally he'd be like, "Hey,
next week I need you down there.
497
00:26:55,420 --> 00:26:59,170
I'm like, "But it's my summer
vacation, you know, and he'd be
498
00:26:59,290 --> 00:27:02,190
like, "And you know, my brother
was working for him. You know,
499
00:27:02,190 --> 00:27:03,720
he had my older brother, and my
father would.
500
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:04,350
Man,
501
00:27:04,710 --> 00:27:07,680
I need you on the phones. All
right, it was like the most,
502
00:27:10,260 --> 00:27:15,240
like the the metaphor I used
when he came in here. I'd rather
503
00:27:15,330 --> 00:27:17,940
go down a water slide full of
razor blades into a pool of
504
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,450
alcohol than answer phones all
day. Oh my god!
505
00:27:20,689 --> 00:27:22,189
That's a lot happening around
that scenario.
506
00:27:23,870 --> 00:27:26,450
Look, it was awful. Yeah, you
know someone, but you know what
507
00:27:26,450 --> 00:27:31,670
I did? I'd read drum catalogs,
and I didn't just imagine myself
508
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,100
playing these amazing drum kits
that I'd seen in these catalogs.
509
00:27:35,210 --> 00:27:38,090
Yeah, couldn't wait till
5o'clock came around. We
510
00:27:38,180 --> 00:27:40,780
go back to our topic about the
how blue collar was kind of
511
00:27:40,780 --> 00:27:44,560
looked down upon. Yeah, I mean,
my my dad made a living on
512
00:27:44,620 --> 00:27:48,220
construction. I mean, he was
super on the field, and he would
513
00:27:48,220 --> 00:27:50,110
always bring us out on the job
sites. You know, we we weren't
514
00:27:50,110 --> 00:27:51,580
just going to sit in the house
and do nothing. He would we
515
00:27:51,700 --> 00:27:55,330
would take take us out there,
and you know, I was I was really
516
00:27:55,390 --> 00:27:58,690
rebellious against it, like
being under the hot sun carrying
517
00:27:58,780 --> 00:28:02,460
lumber. I'm like, oh, not fun.
No way. I'm not doing this. I'm
518
00:28:02,460 --> 00:28:05,400
gonna go work at Arby's. You
know, I'll work at Arby's for
519
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:08,790
it, and I'll show them. And I
guess I just didn't see it too
520
00:28:08,820 --> 00:28:12,180
long because now my brothers and
my whole family-they're in
521
00:28:12,210 --> 00:28:14,760
construction now and they're
doing really well. So I didn't
522
00:28:14,820 --> 00:28:17,610
see it back then. I was just
like, I'd rather just go work at
523
00:28:17,670 --> 00:28:20,330
Arby's, and I won't be bossed
around and sit under the hot sun
524
00:28:20,450 --> 00:28:23,690
all day. I'll show them, and
yeah. So getting into this
525
00:28:24,230 --> 00:28:28,670
industry, I'm glad that I get to
work with people and get to be
526
00:28:28,730 --> 00:28:30,830
in part of their project. So I
feel like that was like that
527
00:28:31,010 --> 00:28:34,520
little gap that I was rebellious
in. I just I missed out on so
528
00:28:34,610 --> 00:28:39,830
much during that time. But yeah,
it's just just an interesting
529
00:28:39,830 --> 00:28:41,560
experience, man. Fathers are
great, and it's great that you,
530
00:28:42,490 --> 00:28:45,460
you know, privileged to have
those experiences too. To you
531
00:28:45,490 --> 00:28:47,830
know, because I still say to
this day, I will never be up to
532
00:28:47,860 --> 00:28:51,070
my dad's ankles as far as like
you know the things he can do.
533
00:28:51,430 --> 00:28:51,550
And
534
00:28:52,930 --> 00:28:53,770
is your dad still around?
535
00:28:54,250 --> 00:28:57,010
Oh yeah, yeah, he's definitely
around, and I'll still make
536
00:28:57,040 --> 00:29:00,690
those phone calls too. Like my
crawlspace flooded. What do I
537
00:29:00,780 --> 00:29:04,140
do? What's happening? I don't
want to get screwed on pricing
538
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:05,400
here. I
539
00:29:05,460 --> 00:29:07,950
don't have that luxury. My dad
will be gone 20 years next
540
00:29:08,010 --> 00:29:14,310
month, and I miss
him every day.
I appreciate that, but he's he's
541
00:29:14,310 --> 00:29:17,460
he was definitely like if he
wanted to be a good dad, that's
542
00:29:17,490 --> 00:29:22,070
that was his desire. He we he
got to be our dad. That was his,
543
00:29:22,580 --> 00:29:27,500
I think, his disposition towards
us. Not like, hey, you made me a
544
00:29:27,590 --> 00:29:30,470
dad. It was I get to be your
dad. It was an outward thing,
545
00:29:31,190 --> 00:29:36,050
and you know, he did everything
with us. He built model rockets
546
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:39,050
with my brother. We built model,
you know, remote control cars.
547
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:42,190
One of the first big projects we
did, I'll never forget it. You
548
00:29:42,250 --> 00:29:46,210
know, we're always using hand
tools. I still have his tools at
549
00:29:46,270 --> 00:29:49,900
my toolbox in my house. You
know, stuff that's probably 60
550
00:29:49,930 --> 00:29:53,380
years old at this point. But the
first big project we did
551
00:29:53,410 --> 00:29:56,560
together was building a remote
control car called the Monster
552
00:29:56,650 --> 00:30:01,680
Beetle back in 1986 or 87 on
Memorial. Day weekend, or never
553
00:30:01,740 --> 00:30:04,200
forget it. Big old rainy
Saturday. We sat at the kitchen
554
00:30:04,260 --> 00:30:08,430
table, just putting transmission
together and linkage and all the
555
00:30:08,430 --> 00:30:11,610
stuff. And yeah, it was a lot of
fun. Do you mean
556
00:30:12,030 --> 00:30:14,580
it's it's just amazing? Like
that's that bonding is so
557
00:30:14,670 --> 00:30:18,180
important. Yeah, it really is. I
mean, yeah. I mean, something
558
00:30:18,270 --> 00:30:21,080
just just depends. But I feel
like deep down we really crave
559
00:30:21,110 --> 00:30:23,330
that. You know, you'd be like,
"Oh, I don't want to get up. I
560
00:30:23,330 --> 00:30:27,080
don't want to do all this. Ah, I
don't want. But like, I think we
561
00:30:27,230 --> 00:30:29,960
appreciate that as we're older
now. Yeah. Well, I
562
00:30:30,020 --> 00:30:32,570
mean, again, going back to the
job we did up in Parma, Ohio,
563
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:37,400
when we started j2, it was we
were gone for eight days because
564
00:30:37,430 --> 00:30:43,390
it was a 550 fixture replacement
job. So, and we had a full, full
565
00:30:43,510 --> 00:30:46,870
all hands on deck scenario up
there, probably seven people.
566
00:30:47,380 --> 00:30:50,350
But there's only so many lights
you can do in a day, you know.
567
00:30:50,500 --> 00:30:53,800
So you do the math on that, and
that's kind of turned out to be
568
00:30:54,010 --> 00:30:57,760
where how we landed was about
seven or eight days away. But
569
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:00,220
even getting up in the morning
in the hotel and just knowing
570
00:31:01,090 --> 00:31:04,620
the next 1012, hours is going to
be a grind. Your feet are going
571
00:31:04,620 --> 00:31:06,960
to ache when you're done because
you're not used to this. You
572
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,570
haven't done it in a while, but
here we are. Let's get it done.
573
00:31:09,570 --> 00:31:10,260
Seriously, like the
574
00:31:10,710 --> 00:31:13,050
electrician's hands. You know
the ones that are. Oh yeah. Oh
575
00:31:13,350 --> 00:31:16,290
man, they're built differently,
man. They, you know, twisting
576
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,680
those wire nuts, installing that
guy. There was a guy
577
00:31:20,070 --> 00:31:23,960
I worked with. He was a
Hungarian guy at Nikon when I
578
00:31:23,990 --> 00:31:27,440
was, and he and I were buddies.
He was a hard ass, but you know,
579
00:31:27,860 --> 00:31:32,330
I I matched his crazy matched
mine, and being a good
580
00:31:32,510 --> 00:31:36,530
assistant, I could I got the
gist of like I need to read what
581
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,140
you're doing before you even get
there to make sure you have what
582
00:31:39,170 --> 00:31:43,000
you have what you need before
you even know you need it. So I
583
00:31:43,090 --> 00:31:45,490
was always good at be like,
okay, he's going to need a, you
584
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:48,370
know, an old work box and blah
blah blah. And I mean, he's
585
00:31:48,370 --> 00:31:51,130
probably going to need an extra
little bit of, you know, MC
586
00:31:51,340 --> 00:31:53,950
cable or whatever, and the
clamps that go with it and the
587
00:31:53,950 --> 00:31:56,590
connectors, and he's going to
need this tool. So I'd always
588
00:31:56,650 --> 00:31:59,500
just be right there. I just
figured that out. You know, this
589
00:31:59,620 --> 00:32:02,460
my job is to serve you to make
sure you have what you need.
590
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,670
You're the lead guy, so we'd be
up on ladders middle of winter,
591
00:32:06,300 --> 00:32:08,850
and he would have this like
sometimes the thumb would split
592
00:32:08,970 --> 00:32:11,730
on the ridge next to the nail
because you'd be twisting stuff,
593
00:32:11,820 --> 00:32:15,060
and the cold weather would do
stuff to your skin. That dude
594
00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:19,320
had at least a quarter inch cut
on his thumb. That you know
595
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:21,950
after a while he couldn't
because he had gloves on and
596
00:32:22,070 --> 00:32:24,500
band aids. He just ripped the
whole thing off because he
597
00:32:24,530 --> 00:32:27,890
couldn't get a grip on the the
wire nut, and you could just see
598
00:32:28,070 --> 00:32:32,120
he's just in pain, just pushing
through. I'm like, that shit
599
00:32:32,210 --> 00:32:35,240
doesn't happen anymore, man. You
just don't see that anymore.
600
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:36,260
That kind of grit.
601
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,680
Installing one. I mean, I've
installed a few receptacles in
602
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:43,570
my lifetime, but like I'm, I'm
like, my hands get tired. I'm
603
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,000
like, oh man, there's people out
there. Oh yeah, install
hundreds
604
00:32:46,030 --> 00:32:47,290
of these every single day. I'm
like,
605
00:32:48,430 --> 00:32:53,860
man, now they have attachments
for drills to do it. Really, you
606
00:32:53,860 --> 00:32:56,380
could put the little thing in
the drill and screw the wire nut
607
00:32:56,380 --> 00:32:56,650
on. You talking
608
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,870
about those little easy
connects, this little putt, and
609
00:32:58,930 --> 00:33:00,930
then they just put it in there
and the screwed on,
610
00:33:01,380 --> 00:33:03,930
yeah, you know, has like a
little like a a bit you could
611
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,350
put in your your screw gun, your
drill, Makita, whatever you're
612
00:33:07,410 --> 00:33:10,260
using, yeah, and it's like it
goes right on this the wire nut
613
00:33:10,260 --> 00:33:11,490
and twists it on the wire for
you,
614
00:33:12,030 --> 00:33:14,220
little pigtails, whatever.
That's a little easy, yeah. I
615
00:33:14,340 --> 00:33:16,680
guess so. We didn't have that
when I was coming.
616
00:33:17,100 --> 00:33:19,590
Well, what I do is I've
subscribed to like Electrical
617
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:24,560
Today and these magazines, just
little, little bedroom read, and
618
00:33:25,250 --> 00:33:27,860
somebody like gave me a device
to do that, and now I've
619
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,350
subscribed to it, and now I just
like flip through it on my free
620
00:33:30,410 --> 00:33:32,750
time. It's like, oh man, there's
a little little product that
621
00:33:32,750 --> 00:33:35,450
they're making right now, make a
cuts the cost of labor, get you
622
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,780
get the done job done faster. So
it helps having those little,
623
00:33:38,870 --> 00:33:41,110
you know, when you're talking to
a customer, just you
624
00:33:41,170 --> 00:33:41,650
know, you yeah.
625
00:33:42,010 --> 00:33:43,240
Everybody wants to save some
money. If
626
00:33:43,270 --> 00:33:47,410
you ever actually get out and
get on an electrical job, just
627
00:33:47,410 --> 00:33:48,880
to kind of see what these guys
go through,
628
00:33:49,540 --> 00:33:55,600
all the time. In fact, when I
was starting this out, I I was
629
00:33:55,690 --> 00:33:59,770
either sink or swim. They didn't
give me. I wasn't given like a
630
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,340
salary or anything like that. I
was just like 100% commission.
631
00:34:02,430 --> 00:34:04,440
Like, hey, you can either do
this or you can't. And I
632
00:34:05,100 --> 00:34:07,470
basically had no choice. I was
like, okay, I'm gonna go out on
633
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:13,080
job sites. I got myself a vest
and a hard hat and boots and
634
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:16,170
gave myself a little pen and
paper. So just to give myself
635
00:34:16,260 --> 00:34:19,980
the perception that I was there
to you know check some stuff
636
00:34:20,190 --> 00:34:22,400
off, some some sort of
inspection, and then I go other
637
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:25,730
Connexes. I ask the right
questions. I say, "Oh, so what's
638
00:34:25,790 --> 00:34:29,780
the the the electrical
contractor? Where's their Connex
639
00:34:29,900 --> 00:34:31,880
at? You know, I'll go out there
and I hand out my business
640
00:34:31,970 --> 00:34:36,530
cards. So yes, I did a lot of
that. I still do. I mean, it's
641
00:34:36,530 --> 00:34:39,710
amazing. Just I passed through a
few job sites on the way over
642
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:43,690
here, and then I see a pallet
full of three-inch PVC. I'm
643
00:34:43,720 --> 00:34:47,290
like, oh, I get a little greedy.
I don't know. I just oh no,
644
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,380
that's that's that's a good
position. Yeah, I'm just
645
00:34:50,380 --> 00:34:52,000
thinking like, ooh, you know
that
646
00:34:52,299 --> 00:34:52,839
used to that
647
00:34:53,260 --> 00:34:54,310
taking food out of my kid's
mouth.
648
00:34:54,459 --> 00:34:56,169
That's the same thing that used
to happen to me when I used to
649
00:34:56,199 --> 00:34:59,799
see temp tags on cars. It would
drive me nuts, especially in my
650
00:34:59,889 --> 00:35:02,069
own. Neighborhood, yeah. I'm
like, I'm not doing a good
651
00:35:02,069 --> 00:35:03,509
enough job to let everybody know
what I do.
652
00:35:04,620 --> 00:35:07,080
And it's funny that you pay
attention to things a little
653
00:35:07,140 --> 00:35:09,390
differently. Like, how many
times have you gone to a
654
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:12,300
restaurant and you see just see
the the light job that they do,
655
00:35:12,450 --> 00:35:15,300
or just think, oh, I see like
the EMT ran through the the
656
00:35:15,780 --> 00:35:16,980
termination box. I'm like, huh.
657
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:19,860
That's the thing is that next
time you guys are out in a
658
00:35:19,980 --> 00:35:24,350
Costco or a Lowe's, Home Depot.
Look up, and you see those
659
00:35:24,470 --> 00:35:26,810
raceways, those pipes that
they're usually like in like you
660
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:30,140
know just a bunch. There could
be 10 of them running in the
661
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:34,220
same direction, and it's almost
you don't appreciate it. At
662
00:35:34,250 --> 00:35:36,410
least I didn't back when I
learned how to do it.
663
00:35:36,500 --> 00:35:36,740
Yeah, the
664
00:35:37,100 --> 00:35:41,500
art form. It really truly is an
art form when you have to bend
665
00:35:41,590 --> 00:35:44,680
pipe and make it look a certain
way, look neat, and they all
666
00:35:44,830 --> 00:35:49,090
bend together. I mean, it is a
flipping art form.
667
00:35:49,570 --> 00:35:49,660
It
668
00:35:49,990 --> 00:35:51,550
takes a talent. I mean,
669
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,990
it's it is, and then yeah,
again, you just kind of see
670
00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:58,990
things a little bit differently.
Oh yeah, like now I I'm when I'm
671
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:03,300
at a restaurant or at a table, I
see a salt shaker, and this is
672
00:36:03,330 -->
00:36:07,860
kind of the beauty of sales in a
way. I just look at that salt
673
00:36:07,890 --> 00:36:09,840
shaker, and I'm thinking, not
only did somebody make money off
674
00:36:09,870 --> 00:36:12,900
that salt, but somebody made
money off the container that's
675
00:36:12,990 --> 00:36:13,050
in.
676
00:36:13,350 --> 00:36:13,410
Yeah,
677
00:36:13,769 --> 00:36:16,379
you know, somebody made some
money off of that. Everything we
678
00:36:16,559 --> 00:36:18,779
touch, something somebody made
some money. Somebody had to sell
679
00:36:18,899 --> 00:36:22,489
it. Somebody had to sell it, and
I just thought, yeah, this
680
00:36:22,549 --> 00:36:23,659
business is very fascinating.
681
00:36:24,259 --> 00:36:24,799
It really is.
682
00:36:25,219 --> 00:36:25,279
Yeah,
683
00:36:25,850 --> 00:36:28,880
I mean, I still, whenever I have
to go shop for electrical
684
00:36:28,910 --> 00:36:29,930
components at Home Depot.
685
00:36:31,460 --> 00:36:32,240
Why don't you call me, Jim?
686
00:36:33,679 --> 00:36:37,249
Next time I will. But if I'm if
I'm just browsing the aisle,
687
00:36:37,819 --> 00:36:40,369
there's just such a sense of
possibility.
688
00:36:40,759 --> 00:36:40,809
Yeah,
689
00:36:41,650 --> 00:36:44,950
in just wandering around that
aisle alone, I don't know why it
690
00:36:44,980 --> 00:36:47,920
is because there's so many
different things you can do with
691
00:36:47,980 --> 00:36:51,520
electrical parts. You know, you
can build mechanical things. You
692
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:53,950
can you know things that you can
hang from your ceiling and hang
693
00:36:54,070 --> 00:36:57,670
stuff off of. It's EMT. It's
rigid. Whatever. It's it's so
694
00:36:57,700 --> 00:37:00,510
many different things that you
could try and like a lot of
695
00:37:00,570 --> 00:37:03,870
solutions that weren't
electrical derived from that
696
00:37:04,110 --> 00:37:07,410
aisle, as if that to make sense.
You can't really do that in the
697
00:37:07,620 --> 00:37:10,770
plumbing aisle, you know,
because you got PECs and you
698
00:37:10,770 --> 00:37:13,230
know things of that nature.
Everything with the electrical
699
00:37:13,530 --> 00:37:17,910
aisle is so just ingenuitive,
you know.
700
00:37:18,390 --> 00:37:19,080
Beauty of Ohm's law,
701
00:37:19,799 --> 00:37:24,259
yeah, yeah. It's really it's
just something about it. Like
702
00:37:24,349 --> 00:37:27,919
even when I had to go do parts
runs when I worked for Nikon,
703
00:37:29,809 --> 00:37:32,329
there was just I don't know,
just a weird. It's hard to
704
00:37:32,359 --> 00:37:37,669
describe because it wasn't a bad
time in my life. It was very
705
00:37:37,819 --> 00:37:40,309
fruitful. The customers we dealt
with, you know, working with
706
00:37:40,459 --> 00:37:43,659
Alex Gratzel, the Hungarian guy,
you know, I haven't talked to
707
00:37:43,659 --> 00:37:47,199
the guy in probably 30 years, or
seen him if he's still even
708
00:37:47,259 -->
00:37:52,689
alive. But just good memories.
Yeah, it was a good time in life
709
00:37:52,749 --> 00:37:54,909
to kind of be doing that kind of
work, even though I knew it was
710
00:37:55,149 --> 00:37:56,139
for the short term.
711
00:37:57,069 --> 00:37:59,169
It's just amazing the type.
Yeah, the people that you meet
712
00:37:59,199 --> 00:38:02,219
in this industry, like it's
their different walks of life,
713
00:38:02,339 --> 00:38:06,149
and you just learn new things,
and yeah, it's incredible. I'm
714
00:38:06,179 --> 00:38:09,209
pretty sure that your Hungarian
friend they they did things a
715
00:38:09,209 --> 00:38:12,239
little differently in in
Hungary, you know, as far as
716
00:38:12,269 --> 00:38:14,099
like applications go, and the
way
717
00:38:14,190 --> 00:38:15,810
codes, codes, yeah, yeah,
718
00:38:17,220 --> 00:38:22,280
no, but yeah, selling is this
very industry, and there's like
719
00:38:22,430 --> 00:38:27,110
really no there's no formula to
it. It's just more of I've
720
00:38:27,140 --> 00:38:31,160
always just went the approach of
just like understanding the
721
00:38:31,370 --> 00:38:33,980
contractor why they do what they
do because everybody has a
722
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:36,830
story, and who doesn't want to
tell their story? I mean, I
723
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:41,830
think that's always that's
always been a good like in is
724
00:38:41,950 --> 00:38:48,880
just having those conversations
and asking what is my
725
00:38:48,970 --> 00:38:52,000
competition doing better than
me? Yeah, you know what's what's
726
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:55,270
what are they doing? What are
their wow factors? Is it rebates
727
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:59,110
or is it the best price? You
know, do they go to your church?
728
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:02,790
What's what's the story here.
Otherwise, yeah, I I'm not
729
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,520
looking to just sell you things
at the bottom dollar. I want a
730
00:39:05,550 --> 00:39:09,180
partnership. You tell me what it
takes to make that partnership
731
00:39:09,240 --> 00:39:09,540
happen.
732
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:10,110
Right.
733
00:39:11,219 --> 00:39:12,029
Yeah. What are what
734
00:39:12,060 --> 00:39:15,420
are typically the common threads
that you know the boxes that you
735
00:39:15,450 --> 00:39:16,950
got to check? Are there
736
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:18,210
well
737
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:19,140
to run all together?
738
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:24,770
I well, one thing I just want to
throw this out there: I hate
739
00:39:24,830 --> 00:39:31,070
golf. I'll say it again: I hate
golf. Everybody in this industry
740
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:39,290
wants to golf, and I, I hate it.
I hate talking about golf. Jeez,
741
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:45,940
I'm gonna get canceled. No, I.
But I just, I, it kind of just
742
00:39:46,510 --> 00:39:52,270
the nuances of like selling has
always been golf. Talking about
743
00:39:52,390 --> 00:39:54,760
golf, and I just like, oh my
gosh, can we do something
744
00:39:54,850 --> 00:39:59,080
different here? So I just kind
of get creative. Like I want to
745
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:02,760
talk about something else. That
you know, and the last
746
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,040
thing they probably want to talk
about is their. Yeah,
747
00:40:05,610 --> 00:40:07,710
I mean, yeah, exactly. I mean,
you got it. I mean, but that's
748
00:40:07,830 --> 00:40:10,590
the thing. I mean, a contractor
or your customer can all they
749
00:40:10,650 --> 00:40:13,530
can like you all day long, you
know. But doesn't mean you're
750
00:40:13,530 --> 00:40:15,030
going to get the business
because you got to make the
751
00:40:15,060 --> 00:40:19,200
business make sense too. It's
great if you have both sides if
752
00:40:19,230 --> 00:40:23,180
they like you and they want to
buy from you, but sometimes it's
753
00:40:23,540 --> 00:40:30,350
either or. So crossing off the
boxes is just understanding who
754
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:35,690
they're selling to, because I
have I have made it a point to
755
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:39,710
treat general contractors like a
customer as well, because I know
756
00:40:39,830 --> 00:40:42,040
that's who the electricians are
selling. They they need they
757
00:40:42,130 --> 00:40:44,560
want to bid the jobs and they
want to win the jobs. And if
758
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,020
there's a strong relationship
there, then I want to make sure
759
00:40:47,110 --> 00:40:50,470
that I know what they're doing
on the back end because
760
00:40:50,590 --> 00:40:52,480
otherwise, I'm just going to go
in there like an idiot. Like you
761
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:53,410
want to buy some pipe for me?
762
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:53,980
Yeah,
763
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:57,220
some receptacles for me. Like
what I'm saying is that you got
764
00:40:57,220 --> 00:40:58,480
to bring something to the table.
765
00:40:59,020 --> 00:40:59,170
Right.
766
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,200
You got to do something
different. Well, because you're
767
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:01,230
a
768
00:41:01,290 --> 00:41:01,740
commodity,
769
00:41:02,309 --> 00:41:02,369
yeah,
770
00:41:02,970 --> 00:41:06,990
yeah, you're in a commoditized
position. Your your role is not
771
00:41:07,260 --> 00:41:10,320
dissimilar from that of an
insurance agent, a car salesman,
772
00:41:10,980 --> 00:41:13,110
someone who sells mortgages, a
real estate agent.
773
00:41:13,530 --> 00:41:13,770
Yeah, it
774
00:41:13,830 --> 00:41:16,320
really does come down to
branding and personal branding.
775
00:41:16,709 --> 00:41:16,859
You know,
776
00:41:17,579 --> 00:41:20,539
especially if you're somebody
who I would imagine who can
777
00:41:20,959 --> 00:41:25,129
empathize with that GC or the
electrical company? Yeah, you
778
00:41:25,129 --> 00:41:27,469
know what I mean. You know
exactly what their pain points
779
00:41:27,619 --> 00:41:30,289
are. You know
what it's like to
live their life. That's why I'm
780
00:41:30,319 --> 00:41:34,669
like, like I would wonder if I
had another life to do what you
781
00:41:34,789 --> 00:41:38,179
do, if my experience being an
electrician at one point in my
782
00:41:38,299 --> 00:41:43,089
life would be helpful, because
you could you could relate to
783
00:41:43,119 --> 00:41:43,209
them.
784
00:41:43,720 --> 00:41:50,110
Well, yeah. I wanted to talk
about the lighting lighting game
785
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:54,730
here, and if you've, I know we
talked about your experience,
786
00:41:54,820 --> 00:42:01,830
but yeah, it's amazing how it's
lighting is just it's such a
787
00:42:01,890 --> 00:42:08,700
game changer now. It's with
these companies, these reps.
788
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:17,880
It's I was told that back in the
day, lighting people want to
789
00:42:17,940 --> 00:42:20,870
build relationships with
distribution. It's not like that
790
00:42:20,900 --> 00:42:23,990
anymore. Lighting companies can
just sell directly to the
791
00:42:24,050 --> 00:42:29,270
customer, and so we and
distribution were forced to bend
792
00:42:29,330 --> 00:42:32,630
the knee. And you got to like
take them out to lunch. You got
793
00:42:32,630 --> 00:42:36,110
to be got to be in their good
graces because I mean they can
794
00:42:36,140 --> 00:42:37,820
just sell directly to your
customer. They don't really need
795
00:42:37,940 --> 00:42:44,980
you anymore. But I think that I
get it because it's amazing.
796
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:49,990
These guys, they or and women,
they can go in and before the
797
00:42:50,380 --> 00:42:53,680
specs are even written on paper
on the blueprints, they're
798
00:42:53,830 --> 00:42:56,950
already involved. They have
already secured the job at its
799
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:57,670
infant stage,
800
00:42:58,180 --> 00:42:58,450
which
801
00:42:58,990 --> 00:43:04,800
is kind of fascinating. So by
doing that, they hold the cards
802
00:43:04,950 --> 00:43:09,660
and they can know which general
contractor is going to get it,
803
00:43:09,780 --> 00:43:12,330
and then from there they can
decide who the electricians is
804
00:43:12,390 --> 00:43:17,010
going to install the package. So
yeah, it's just very very
805
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:17,850
fascinating and
806
00:43:19,079 --> 00:43:20,129
like how did that happen?
807
00:43:21,150 --> 00:43:25,400
Yeah, I mean, it's all politics
at the end of the day. Like, I I
808
00:43:25,970 --> 00:43:29,000
kind of respect it in a way, but
it's sometimes it's very
809
00:43:29,060 --> 00:43:32,870
difficult. But lighting people,
man, they could be your best
810
00:43:32,900 --> 00:43:38,450
friends or your worst enemy
because they are they're it's a
811
00:43:38,450 --> 00:43:42,250
little different for them. And
my lighting friends will tell me
812
00:43:42,340 --> 00:43:46,360
this all the time. Like, they
play for high keeps. I mean,
813
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:49,450
they can win a million dollar
job, but they have to win the
814
00:43:49,540 --> 00:43:49,990
whole job.
815
00:43:50,259 --> 00:43:50,319
Yeah.
816
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:53,830
If I don't win a lighting
project, at least I have pipe
817
00:43:53,890 --> 00:43:56,800
and wire to go back to. I can
still make money off of that.
818
00:43:57,189 --> 00:43:57,309
Right.
819
00:43:57,430 --> 00:44:03,450
But if they don't sell the job
as a package, then that's it.
820
00:44:03,540 --> 00:44:06,780
They either win it or lose it.
So I think you have to be a
821
00:44:06,780 --> 00:44:09,690
little cutthroat and vicious if
you if the stakes are that high,
822
00:44:09,930 --> 00:44:10,140
right?
823
00:44:10,470 --> 00:44:10,710
Oh yeah,
824
00:44:11,249 --> 00:44:11,969
yeah. Because
825
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,820
I mean, if sometimes you're at
least in our situation, because
826
00:44:14,850 --> 00:44:20,250
we could install our own stuff.
When it came to the white
827
00:44:20,340 --> 00:44:24,530
lighting, you know, troffers,
high bays, UFOs, things of that
828
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:28,700
nature. We wanted the install,
or we, you know, we were happy
829
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:31,790
to sell it to whoever was
handling the purchasing of it,
830
00:44:31,820 --> 00:44:34,730
you know. Yeah. But on those
prints, they would already have
831
00:44:34,850 --> 00:44:38,270
the, you know, whoever whatever
manufacturer they were looking
832
00:44:38,330 --> 00:44:40,990
for already laid out. Now, when
it came to the colored lighting,
833
00:44:41,500 --> 00:44:44,890
there was a lot more flexibility
because there wasn't really a
834
00:44:44,980 --> 00:44:50,260
front runner company out there
like you know Lithonia or
835
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:53,350
whoever that was you know
directly supplying material to
836
00:44:53,410 --> 00:44:58,150
the end product or the end the
end customer. We were for the
837
00:44:58,210 --> 00:45:01,530
colored side of things was a
lot. Dare I say easier, but
838
00:45:01,620 --> 00:45:05,550
fewer and far between, because
right now I think is probably a
839
00:45:05,580 --> 00:45:07,620
good time to be in the colored
lighting business because
840
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:11,670
everybody's moving in that
direction, and eventually, you
841
00:45:11,700 --> 00:45:13,680
know, the hotels have already
moved in that direction.
842
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:15,570
Somebody's providing those
lights. You see them at the
843
00:45:15,750 --> 00:45:19,950
airport in the parking garage
now. Not done very well. We
844
00:45:20,100 --> 00:45:24,140
could do it a lot better, but
you know, you got to have a name
845
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:28,310
to go along with it, and time
and time, time and time in the
846
00:45:28,370 --> 00:45:29,480
trenches. Well, it
847
00:45:29,630 --> 00:45:32,570
gives you flexibility, like like
the color selectables, right?
848
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:34,640
They they
just like you don't
have you can install it once,
849
00:45:34,670 --> 00:45:38,150
and then you can you know change
it however you want. Like if you
850
00:45:38,210 --> 00:45:41,200
wanted a different shade, then
you have to pop pop open that
851
00:45:41,380 --> 00:45:44,080
door, rip it out, and then apply
a different, a
852
00:45:44,620 --> 00:45:46,570
different bulb and a different
driver. Yeah,
853
00:45:47,349 --> 00:45:47,499
yeah, yeah.
854
00:45:49,299 --> 00:45:51,549
But I mean, the the system that
we came up with was called the
855
00:45:51,789 --> 00:45:57,369
Attitude Lighting System, and
that was the software. So a lot
856
00:45:57,369 --> 00:46:00,629
of the control systems, like we
would see at these car wash
857
00:46:00,749 --> 00:46:05,969
shows, the the controllers would
take up like half a wall, and
858
00:46:06,029 --> 00:46:11,489
we're like, why? You know, our
unit is literally that big. You
859
00:46:11,579 --> 00:46:14,549
plug a data wire into it, goes
out to a switch. You power it
860
00:46:14,639 --> 00:46:18,599
up, and the signal goes out to
the lights. We've actually made
861
00:46:18,689 --> 00:46:21,829
most of the lighting product at
one point wireless when it came
862
00:46:21,919 --> 00:46:25,219
to the controllability, so you
didn't need all you had to do
863
00:46:25,279 --> 00:46:28,399
was put up a transceiver, and
then you know throughout the
864
00:46:28,489 --> 00:46:33,019
tunnel, the floodlights would
listen to a wireless signal. You
865
00:46:33,019 --> 00:46:36,289
wanted to change, do a show,
whatever, and just put it was so
866
00:46:36,559 --> 00:46:39,859
just plug and play after a
while. It's crazy.
867
00:46:40,129 --> 00:46:42,609
Should have gotten some
contracts with submarines, man.
868
00:46:42,789 --> 00:46:45,219
It sounds like a missed
opportunity the way you're
869
00:46:45,279 --> 00:46:46,959
talking. You know, I never even
thought
870
00:46:46,990 --> 00:46:49,660
about doing submarines, but you
know, we can get government
871
00:46:49,690 --> 00:46:51,940
work. That would have been good.
Oh, because hell knows they just
872
00:46:52,090 --> 00:46:54,460
freaking piss money away. Yeah,
873
00:46:54,909 --> 00:46:57,249
you can control your margins.
All all they care about is if
874
00:46:57,339 --> 00:47:00,219
you're on the you're on the
list. You got to be on the list
875
00:47:00,249 --> 00:47:03,389
in order for you, and then you
can make your you can make your
876
00:47:03,779 --> 00:47:04,739
money. That's but I would
877
00:47:04,740 --> 00:47:07,350
have to imagine like somebody in
your position. You just want the
878
00:47:07,590 --> 00:47:11,160
people that you're dealing with.
I want to make sure I don't have
879
00:47:11,250 --> 00:47:13,380
to. I've got enough headaches to
deal with
880
00:47:14,550 --> 00:47:14,820
as it is.
881
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:18,780
I don't need another one. I need
you to handle you know late
882
00:47:18,930 --> 00:47:21,620
shipments if they come up. I
need you to figure out if it's
883
00:47:21,620 --> 00:47:23,930
going to be too late and what's
the replacement. What are we
884
00:47:24,110 --> 00:47:26,780
looking at? That kind of stuff.
You're just basically you're
885
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:29,900
being a hero, essentially,
right?
886
00:47:30,590 --> 00:47:33,710
Love it. Yeah, I mean, I think
if you were an owner of a
887
00:47:33,770 --> 00:47:37,190
company, I mean, like, yeah,
you're right. You you have so
888
00:47:37,340 --> 00:47:40,040
much on your plate, and if you
can partner with someone that
889
00:47:40,100 --> 00:47:43,360
makes your life easy. They don't
even care about the price.
890
00:47:43,450 --> 00:47:45,520
Right. It will make you just
like just take care of me.
891
00:47:45,850 --> 00:47:48,160
To answer your question, that
was kind of our approach when it
892
00:47:48,190 --> 00:47:50,800
came to car washes. That like
one of the things I would teach
893
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:53,920
people that were doing
interfacing with the client and
894
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,830
my business partner was
excellent at this. Look, we get
895
00:47:56,890 --> 00:47:59,680
it. The last thing you need to
be worrying about is whether or
896
00:47:59,710 --> 00:48:03,240
not your lights are working.
That's where we come in. Okay,
897
00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:06,840
that's where we got to make sure
that you're being taken care of,
898
00:48:06,870 --> 00:48:09,900
and we got to be the hero when
it comes to making sure that
899
00:48:09,900 --> 00:48:13,710
your light shows are going off.
Because that was that became a
900
00:48:13,770 --> 00:48:16,620
huge part of the industry. It
became a customer experience
901
00:48:16,770 --> 00:48:20,370
rather than just washing a car.
You know, kids wanted to go.
902
00:48:20,430 --> 00:48:22,190
Let's go where all the pretty
lights are, and that's why they.
903
00:48:22,430 --> 00:48:25,730
That's why all these car washes
have light shows. Keeping up
904
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:30,020
with the Joneses. Now they're
going to video walls. That's a
905
00:48:30,050 --> 00:48:30,380
new thing,
906
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:36,860
Jim. I want to compliment you
quickly. It's just you know you.
907
00:48:37,460 --> 00:48:40,900
It's you're pretty impressive.
You you just do it. You talked
908
00:48:40,900 --> 00:48:43,720
about so many things that you've
done, and you at least at least
909
00:48:43,780 --> 00:48:46,930
tried if it worked, if it or if
it didn't. But you just have
910
00:48:46,990 --> 00:48:50,410
that experience, and man, what
are what's what's the younger
911
00:48:50,470 --> 00:48:51,820
generation doing now? Let's
912
00:48:52,690 --> 00:48:57,490
well hopefully you know my kids
coming up watch their dad work a
913
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:00,900
lot. My youngest daughter is
helping me out with a couple of
914
00:49:00,960 --> 00:49:04,590
things that
I do for voiceover.
She's doing a lot of editing for
915
00:49:04,620 --> 00:49:08,070
me, and she's she's loving it.
She's eager, you know. My son
916
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,500
did it for me for a while, but
he kind of outgrew it, and now
917
00:49:10,590 --> 00:49:15,000
he's there's an element of like
the prodigal that happens with
918
00:49:15,090 --> 00:49:19,470
kids. That you know, what do you
know, mom and dad? We're too
919
00:49:19,590 --> 00:49:23,270
close to you, and we know how
you guys are. Therefore, your
920
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:26,630
opinions and thoughts don't
carry as much weight as the
921
00:49:26,780 --> 00:49:29,840
world's do right now. Because
you know, we all went through
922
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:32,690
that. We all discounted our
parents in terms of what they
923
00:49:32,870 --> 00:49:35,960
thought, and until we got to
about our mid 20s and realized,
924
00:49:35,990 --> 00:49:38,360
you know, mom and dad kind of
knew what they were talking
925
00:49:38,390 --> 00:49:42,040
about all along. And it's time
to give them due credit for what
926
00:49:42,100 --> 00:49:45,520
they have been trying to impress
upon us. Because early on in a
927
00:49:45,610 --> 00:49:49,900
child's life, you can shape them
right from wrong. You can
928
00:49:49,930 --> 00:49:53,590
directly impact how they live,
how what the decisions they
929
00:49:53,740 --> 00:49:56,740
make. You know, show them
accountability. Show them the
930
00:49:57,250 --> 00:50:00,360
consequences of their decisions.
They get into their. Teenage
931
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:03,480
years, you could still have that
that input, but you're kind of
932
00:50:03,570 --> 00:50:06,300
getting you're morphing and
evolving into what I call a
933
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:09,390
consultant mode. And once the
kids get older, you know they're
934
00:50:09,420 --> 00:50:13,410
adults. You're a consultant at
that point. Hey, you know I see,
935
00:50:15,090 --> 00:50:20,070
you know my son, he's kind of a
late bloomer, and I think COVID
936
00:50:20,220 --> 00:50:23,240
had a lot to do with that. A lot
of I think it set a lot of kids
937
00:50:23,330 --> 00:50:26,960
back. So you know, even though
he's 18, I think he's really
938
00:50:27,050 --> 00:50:31,340
probably mentally 15 or 16. So
that maturity has still yet to
939
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:36,320
take hold. I have complete faith
that it's going to happen. But a
940
00:50:36,410 --> 00:50:40,420
lot of the things that the next
generation and might this might
941
00:50:40,420 --> 00:50:43,750
be the you know get off my lawn
comment of the conversation.
942
00:50:44,229 --> 00:50:45,159
I got plenty of those. Yeah,
943
00:50:46,089 --> 00:50:50,979
I think a lot of them are
enabled by excuses. Well, I've
944
00:50:51,039 --> 00:50:53,829
got this condition. Well, I'm
this. I'm I'm labeled this. I've
945
00:50:53,919 --> 00:50:57,789
been prescribed this. Therefore,
I have this. This is becomes my
946
00:50:57,969 --> 00:51:02,099
identity, and now I can lean on
that, and that can be my excuse.
947
00:51:02,219 --> 00:51:06,869
But eventually, you know, when
the rubber meets the road, man,
948
00:51:07,169 --> 00:51:11,639
it's that shit doesn't matter.
It's it's about it. Always comes
949
00:51:11,729 --> 00:51:14,249
down to grit. It always comes
down to ambition.
950
00:51:17,309 --> 00:51:22,009
Yeah, yeah. I oh jeez, I fear
for my son all the time, and you
951
00:51:22,099 --> 00:51:24,289
just nailed it. It's just, I
mean, the key word there is
952
00:51:24,319 --> 00:51:28,309
accountability. Accountability
of life. I mean, not everyone is
953
00:51:28,339 --> 00:51:31,819
going to hold your hand. Not
everyone is going to show you
954
00:51:31,879 --> 00:51:38,089
the way. And then you're, yeah,
no, you've, you got to have.
955
00:51:38,089 --> 00:51:41,979
That's the fear of the dad of
being a father. Is like my my
956
00:51:42,099 --> 00:51:44,769
son, he'll hear a cuss like it's
there. You know, if he hears a
957
00:51:44,829 --> 00:51:47,259
cuss word and he said, "Oh, I
learned it from a student, you
958
00:51:47,289 --> 00:51:49,839
know, one of the kids I went to
school with, he said this word,
959
00:51:50,259 --> 00:51:53,769
and I had to say, "Hey, you you
know you're not supposed to be
960
00:51:53,829 --> 00:51:54,669
saying that word, right?
961
00:51:54,910 --> 00:51:55,000
Right.
962
00:51:55,059 --> 00:51:58,089
But if they said, "No, no, no,
no, no, you you shouldn't be
963
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:01,559
saying it, and it doesn't matter
if you heard it, accountability.
964
00:52:03,329 --> 00:52:05,609
Yeah, we went through that, but
we weren't exactly the best
965
00:52:05,699 --> 00:52:12,809
models because somebody in the
room might have a little bit of
966
00:52:12,869 --> 00:52:15,479
a propensity of not having
patience when it comes to
967
00:52:15,509 --> 00:52:20,129
certain things. So it's you
know, for example, we came home
968
00:52:20,219 --> 00:52:23,539
from dinner one night, and my my
kids were I don't think our
969
00:52:23,689 --> 00:52:26,809
Hallie was born at that point,
but oh yeah, she was because I
970
00:52:26,839 --> 00:52:30,859
was I was fixing her crib. But
we got home from somewhere, and
971
00:52:30,859 --> 00:52:33,829
the kids were still really
small, and my son's running
972
00:52:33,949 --> 00:52:37,099
around, and he tripped on
something, and he's maybe I
973
00:52:37,099 --> 00:52:40,989
don't know six years old at the
time, maybe five, and he goes,
974
00:52:41,319 --> 00:52:49,809
ah, my wife starts dying
laughing, and like she like
975
00:52:50,589 --> 00:52:52,869
really, I'm I have to deal with
this now because you're
976
00:52:52,899 --> 00:52:55,449
completely in hysterics. I got
to be the fuck you learned that
977
00:52:55,509 --> 00:52:59,019
word, right? And like you know,
and we're like, I'm like, you
978
00:52:59,169 -->
00:53:05,129
can't because it's this little
voice, you know, and you're
979
00:53:05,159 --> 00:53:12,749
trying to be like you-you cannot
say that word, and you know your
980
00:53:12,869 --> 00:53:16,589
wife is freaking cackling in the
background, and your son's
981
00:53:16,679 --> 00:53:19,919
looking at you like I'm confused
right now because I should be
982
00:53:20,009 --> 00:53:23,959
taking you seriously, but
everybody's laughing, and we're
983
00:53:24,049 --> 00:53:27,559
getting him ready for bed. And I
bring him upstairs, and all of a
984
00:53:27,649 --> 00:53:31,399
sudden he comes up to me. He's
like, "Dad, why can't I say? I'm
985
00:53:31,429 --> 00:53:37,129
like, "Dude, you just did it
again. She hears it downstairs
986
00:53:37,519 --> 00:53:43,779
and all over again starts
laughing, and I'm like, in my
987
00:53:43,869 --> 00:53:47,589
mind, going, "This is absolutely
hilarious right now. But I gotta
988
00:53:47,619 --> 00:53:51,099
be the adult, you know. And
then, you know, the next night,
989
00:53:51,549 --> 00:53:55,179
because they had the baby
monitor in the our youngest's
990
00:53:55,419 --> 00:54:00,509
room, and I was lowering the the
crib, and the person who keeps
991
00:54:00,569 --> 00:54:05,279
on putting freaking hex wrenches
and screws into freaking kits?
992
00:54:05,969 --> 00:54:09,899
There's a special place in hell
for you because I cannot stand
993
00:54:10,439 --> 00:54:13,739
hex bolts. And you know, here's
the cheap little freaking Allen
994
00:54:13,829 --> 00:54:16,649
wrench, and it's like, dude,
those things suck. And
995
00:54:16,739 --> 00:54:18,779
especially when you got you're
working with machine thread
996
00:54:19,289 --> 00:54:21,409
trying to get the thing started,
and you got like a you know the
997
00:54:21,589 --> 00:54:24,469
weight of the mattress and
you're trying to you know hand
998
00:54:24,529 --> 00:54:27,109
you're trying to spin like five
different plates getting this
999
00:54:27,139 --> 00:54:29,119
little frickin screw in there
and keeping this stupid thing oh
1000
00:54:29,299 --> 00:54:32,989
dude don't get me started so
naturally I would have a
1001
00:54:33,049 --> 00:54:38,119
meltdown that came through the
baby monitor for all to hear
1002
00:54:38,209 --> 00:54:41,499
downstairs and you know my
wife's like oh gee I wonder
1003
00:54:41,589 --> 00:54:44,049
where they're hearing all these
words from, Jim. You know, I'm
1004
00:54:44,079 --> 00:54:47,049
like, "Dude, we're both guilty.
But come on, yeah. I'm like, I
1005
00:54:47,109 --> 00:54:48,639
never swear in front of the
kids. Yeah, you do.
1006
00:54:50,409 --> 00:54:55,419
It's, oh yeah. I mean, you're
you're just protecting them from
1007
00:54:55,419 --> 00:54:57,159
the outside world. I mean,
there's not everybody's going to
1008
00:54:57,159 --> 00:54:59,229
take kindly if you're just
throwing the f bomb right
1009
00:54:59,289 --> 00:55:03,989
everywhere and. Yeah, no.
Childhood is that's very
1010
00:55:04,049 --> 00:55:07,409
interesting. I um I do you ever
reflect on like how you were
1011
00:55:07,499 --> 00:55:12,209
parented, like and then you oh
jeez, I was kind of an asshole.
1012
00:55:12,509 --> 00:55:14,909
Yeah, kind of a a little yeah.
See, we
1013
00:55:15,209 --> 00:55:18,029
I don't think we were. I mean,
that's my brother and I talk
1014
00:55:18,119 --> 00:55:20,509
about it. Like you know, mom and
dad had it pretty good with us,
1015
00:55:21,199 --> 00:55:23,659
and this is how bold we are. You
know, maybe we're missing a few
1016
00:55:23,749 --> 00:55:25,879
things, but we don't have our
parents to talk to anymore. In
1017
00:55:25,939 --> 00:55:31,489
terms of maybe we're off, but
yeah, I mean, we were there were
1018
00:55:31,849 --> 00:55:36,769
dumb, boneheaded things that
we've done, but nothing like you
1019
00:55:36,799 --> 00:55:41,559
know police worthy. You know
what I mean? I made some stupid
1020
00:55:41,589 --> 00:55:44,769
decisions when I was a kid. We
all do, but I don't think ever
1021
00:55:44,829 --> 00:55:47,589
gave him a run for my for that
was probably credit to how they
1022
00:55:47,679 --> 00:55:50,019
brought us up. Yeah. So
1023
00:55:50,259 --> 00:55:52,689
were there elements of your
childhood that like I guess
1024
00:55:54,129 --> 00:55:57,009
drove you to do what you do
today? I mean, like he if he can
1025
00:55:57,099 --> 00:56:00,039
really like go back. I mean, we
talked about our fathers and how
1026
00:56:00,159 --> 00:56:03,269
they were great examples, and
just accomplishing-not not have
1027
00:56:03,329 --> 00:56:07,019
any excuses. Just you know, like
if you want something, you know,
1028
00:56:07,199 --> 00:56:09,959
do it yourself or try to
accomplish it, try to figure it
1029
00:56:10,049 --> 00:56:16,259
out. But like you, if you can
just take it away from, take it
1030
00:56:16,259 --> 00:56:18,929
to its primal state. Like you
know, Jim. Like what what made
1031
00:56:19,169 --> 00:56:24,559
Jim who he is today? I mean, was
this? I
1032
00:56:24,620 --> 00:56:25,250
think my father.
1033
00:56:25,670 --> 00:56:26,390
You know, I'm asking. Yeah,
1034
00:56:26,630 --> 00:56:31,670
my father was very. He
recognized he recognized a lot
1035
00:56:31,700 --> 00:56:32,450
of himself in me.
1036
00:56:33,799 --> 00:56:33,949
Okay,
1037
00:56:34,519 --> 00:56:42,669
and my brother was a not not not
like our our mom, but he was
1038
00:56:42,759 --> 00:56:47,559
there first, and they wanted
somebody to go to college
1039
00:56:47,649 --> 00:56:50,619
because that was what they hung
their pride on. You know, back
1040
00:56:50,739 --> 00:56:54,219
in that generation, it was kids
got to go to college. That's
1041
00:56:54,399 --> 00:56:56,559
just there's no ifs, ands, or
buts about it. You go to
1042
00:56:56,709 --> 00:56:59,649
college, and we want you to be
the first one to graduate with a
1043
00:56:59,679 --> 00:57:01,829
degree, and this way, we can be
proud of ourselves, and we know
1044
00:57:01,889 --> 00:57:05,159
we did something right. So my
brother was that for them. I, on
1045
00:57:05,189 --> 00:57:12,029
the other hand, was the wild
card, and I think my dad always
1046
00:57:12,119 --> 00:57:16,049
knew that. You know, for Dan, we
have to make sure that he does
1047
00:57:16,139 --> 00:57:19,079
this because I know this is what
the structure he needs. Jim, I'm
1048
00:57:19,259 --> 00:57:21,169
not worried about because he's
going to figure it out because
1049
00:57:21,229 --> 00:57:24,439
he's like me. That's what I.
That's what I found out later on
1050
00:57:24,499 --> 00:57:30,859
in life. But a lot of what we
saw, a lot of what was what
1051
00:57:30,979 --> 00:57:34,939
raised us was what was caught
versus taught. So seeing Dad
1052
00:57:35,059 --> 00:57:37,939
work all the time, not all the
time. He he had a good work life
1053
00:57:38,029 --> 00:57:43,509
balance. He liked to play hard.
He liked to work hard. You know,
1054
00:57:43,569 --> 00:57:45,939
we had the toys, we had boats,
and all these things. Growing
1055
00:57:46,029 --> 00:57:51,609
up, we had a great childhood. I
mean, my dad showed us a lot how
1056
00:57:51,879 --> 00:57:55,659
to do things, and as much as it
pains me to say it, my mom
1057
00:57:55,839 --> 00:57:59,229
showed us how not to do things.
There, there are people in life.
1058
00:57:59,829 --> 00:58:02,159
There are people in life that I
think that we come across that
1059
00:58:02,189 --> 00:58:05,249
will show you, and you know this
intrinsically with every fiber
1060
00:58:05,339 --> 00:58:08,099
of your being when it happens to
you. How when you're in a
1061
00:58:08,129 --> 00:58:10,829
position like that, I know how
to do it and I know how not to
1062
00:58:10,889 --> 00:58:15,959
do it. So my mom was very like.
Remember, I said before, my dad
1063
00:58:16,019 --> 00:58:19,229
was like, "You, you, I got to be
your dad. My mom had the
1064
00:58:19,409 --> 00:58:23,359
attitude of, "You made me a mom.
Everything was inward. Like this
1065
00:58:23,359 --> 00:58:26,209
is what you did for me. You
know, a lot of the language that
1066
00:58:26,239 --> 00:58:32,149
she used because I was always
the class clown, if you will. Go
1067
00:58:32,269 --> 00:58:32,509
figure.
1068
00:58:32,899 --> 00:58:33,289
I know, right?
1069
00:58:33,559 --> 00:58:40,629
And I heard this one sentiment
in the last couple years of her
1070
00:58:40,719 --> 00:58:44,619
life, he was always my
entertainment. She would say
1071
00:58:44,709 --> 00:58:47,469
that to her friends, to her new
husband. Your mother always says
1072
00:58:47,529 --> 00:58:49,899
that you were her entertainment.
Like this is what I did for you.
1073
00:58:50,679 --> 00:58:50,739
Yeah,
1074
00:58:50,920 --> 00:58:53,170
you were always my
entertainment. So the language
1075
00:58:53,260 --> 00:58:56,980
was inward.
This is what you did
for me. My father, on the other
1076
00:58:57,010 --> 00:59:00,040
hand, was like, this is what I
get to do for you. You see what
1077
00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:01,650
I'm saying, so exactly
1078
00:59:01,650 --> 00:59:02,190
what you're saying. My
1079
00:59:02,339 --> 00:59:05,549
father was-he never told us. He
would always tell us when we
1080
00:59:05,549 --> 00:59:07,889
were growing up, "I'll never be
afraid to hug and kiss you,
1081
00:59:08,009 --> 00:59:11,099
boys, and tell you I love you.
And so my brother and I were
1082
00:59:11,189 --> 00:59:14,099
like, "Yeah, of course you're
our dad, but that's because that
1083
00:59:14,159 --> 00:59:17,189
was not told to him. He didn't
get that experience from his
1084
00:59:17,309 --> 00:59:20,449
father, and he decided to break
the cycle with us. I'm getting
1085
00:59:20,539 --> 00:59:23,119
freaking emotional talking about
it, but that's that was his
1086
00:59:23,209 --> 00:59:26,119
decision. That's that was the
power he had, and that's what he
1087
00:59:26,179 --> 00:59:29,779
did. And that's you know he
showed us how to be good,
1088
00:59:29,839 --> 00:59:32,899
productive adults with how he
handled himself. He didn't
1089
00:59:32,959 --> 00:59:36,079
always do it right. He wasn't
perfect, you know.
1090
00:59:36,770 --> 00:59:38,960
I don't think we're ever really
doing it right. I mean, we can
1091
00:59:38,990 --> 00:59:41,890
always criticize ourselves, you
know. Right? It's amazing that
1092
00:59:41,920 --> 00:59:45,160
we have that representation and
example because we're always
1093
00:59:45,220 --> 00:59:46,750
trying to do better, right?
We're always trying to do
1094
00:59:46,750 --> 00:59:49,570
better, and I think, I mean,
well, if you're a good person,
1095
00:59:49,870 --> 00:59:50,650
yeah, there's no
1096
00:59:50,739 --> 00:59:53,649
such thing as a good person. I
don't think they they exist. I
1097
00:59:53,739 --> 00:59:54,009
believe
1098
00:59:54,219 --> 00:59:58,929
I think you and my I I had four
siblings. Well, me and my
1099
00:59:58,989 --> 01:00:04,289
brother were the oldest. Sons
and yeah, him and I are so night
1100
01:00:04,319 --> 01:00:09,179
and day. I was, which is kind of
like what I get fulfillment of
1101
01:00:09,209 --> 01:00:13,439
my job today, is because I was
not an extrovert. I was very
1102
01:00:13,709 --> 01:00:18,239
afraid to talk to people. I
didn't know how to do it. I was
1103
01:00:18,389 --> 01:00:24,619
very awkward, and I didn't have
a lot of friends either. Like I
1104
01:00:24,679 --> 01:00:28,129
didn't really come out of my
shell until I was like in junior
1105
01:00:28,189 --> 01:00:28,249
high.
1106
01:00:28,939 --> 01:00:29,029
Right.
1107
01:00:29,629 --> 01:00:31,489
I started getting a little more
confident because that's
1108
01:00:31,489 --> 01:00:31,699
actually
1109
01:00:31,820 --> 01:00:31,970
early.
1110
01:00:32,690 --> 01:00:35,600
Well, I guess. Well, I
started
playing music and I started like
1111
01:00:35,630 --> 01:00:38,090
learning how to play guitar and
then I got a new, you know,
1112
01:00:38,270 --> 01:00:41,740
group of friends that were
shared my interests. But yeah,
1113
01:00:42,010 --> 01:00:45,430
like my brother, um, he was just
gosh, you can make anybody
1114
01:00:45,520 --> 01:00:48,520
laugh. He was just yeah, like a
clown. Like he just knew how to
1115
01:00:48,910 --> 01:00:49,090
like
1116
01:00:49,450 --> 01:00:50,920
new timing, comedic timing.
Yeah,
1117
01:00:51,490 --> 01:00:53,680
people hated. Some people loved
it. Some people hated it. But
1118
01:00:53,680 --> 01:00:57,490
like, he was just a clown, and I
just felt like, ah, man, if only
1119
01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:00,250
if I had that. I never had that,
and I never understood it. But
1120
01:01:00,250 --> 01:01:01,320
that was a talent that he had.
1121
01:01:01,590 --> 01:01:01,650
Yeah,
1122
01:01:01,830 --> 01:01:06,240
he was a great. He was just a
just so yeah. He knew
1123
01:01:06,300 --> 01:01:08,850
how to pay, how to check that
box. Yeah, he was an
1124
01:01:08,849 --> 01:01:09,239
entertainer.
1125
01:01:09,510 --> 01:01:11,490
And when you measure yourself
against that, I did the same
1126
01:01:11,550 --> 01:01:14,310
thing. My brother was a piano
player, and because that was his
1127
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:18,480
identity for a majority of his
youth. You know, from elementary
1128
01:01:18,540 --> 01:01:21,110
school, middle school, high
school, he was always the the
1129
01:01:21,350 --> 01:01:24,950
keyboard player guy,
synthesizers, piano. Yeah, I was
1130
01:01:25,070 --> 01:01:27,170
always envious of that because I
always knew I wanted to be a
1131
01:01:27,230 --> 01:01:31,850
drummer since I was probably six
years old. And my mom, hey, what
1132
01:01:31,850 --> 01:01:33,470
do you want to play? You want to
play an instrument like your
1133
01:01:33,470 --> 01:01:36,530
brother? Yes, I know exactly the
instrument. What is it? The
1134
01:01:36,710 --> 01:01:41,290
drums. Oh, they're too loud. And
again, inward language being
1135
01:01:41,380 --> 01:01:45,040
deployed on me, I always enjoyed
the saxophone. You should play
1136
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:49,540
the saxophone. I kid you not. I
mean, this is this is a
1137
01:01:49,600 --> 01:01:52,270
revelation about the inward
language concept I'm talking to
1138
01:01:52,270 --> 01:01:54,460
you about. This was revealed to
me in the last couple of years
1139
01:01:54,550 --> 01:01:58,210
at what we were doing with her
decline. That a lot of I'm like,
1140
01:01:58,210 --> 01:02:00,870
you know, holy crap! I've I
never realized this before, but
1141
01:02:01,530 --> 01:02:04,170
listen to the language she uses.
Everything is inward. This is
1142
01:02:04,170 --> 01:02:06,480
what you did for me. I want I
want you to play a saxophone
1143
01:02:06,480 --> 01:02:07,410
because I always liked
1144
01:02:08,519 -->
01:02:08,609
it.
1145
01:02:08,640 --> 01:02:13,530
You know what I mean? So yeah, I
played the saxophone from I
1146
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:15,480
don't know fourth grade. That
was it.
1147
01:02:15,630 --> 01:02:19,020
Well, I have to I have to admit
that I think I am like your
1148
01:02:19,050 --> 01:02:21,560
mother in a lot of ways when it
comes to parenting my child,
1149
01:02:21,590 --> 01:02:24,560
because there are things that we
bond over, we bond over, we bond
1150
01:02:24,590 --> 01:02:27,890
over music and bond over things.
I mean, I'm a musician, and I've
1151
01:02:28,100 --> 01:02:31,070
thought about getting him into
like you know, try the drums,
1152
01:02:31,130 --> 01:02:33,920
try the guitar. You know, like
it'll, I'll enjoy it because
1153
01:02:34,010 --> 01:02:37,730
it's the a bond, a new bond I'll
have with you. So I have to
1154
01:02:37,790 --> 01:02:39,800
check myself every now and then
because I do. I I
1155
01:02:40,729 --> 01:02:42,189
as long as you don't force it
on,
1156
01:02:42,910 --> 01:02:43,570
yeah. If there's
1157
01:02:43,630 --> 01:02:48,610
if there's an intrinsic, my son
was always musical, and because
1158
01:02:48,730 --> 01:02:51,190
dad played the drums, he wanted
to play the drums, and then at
1159
01:02:51,250 --> 01:02:54,430
some point he got it in his head
that well, you just want me to
1160
01:02:54,490 --> 01:02:57,010
play the drums because you play
the drums, yeah. And I said,
1161
01:02:57,070 --> 01:02:59,890
nobody, that's not it at all.
I'm telling you right now, I'm
1162
01:02:59,920 --> 01:03:02,550
not forcing you to do it. I'm
making you do it through middle
1163
01:03:02,610 --> 01:03:05,730
school and be part of band
because you are fantastic at
1164
01:03:05,820 --> 01:03:09,240
this. I see this talent in you.
Your mother sees it. Your uncle
1165
01:03:09,330 --> 01:03:13,140
sees it. Your your siblings see
it. You're the only one who
1166
01:03:13,230 --> 01:03:16,620
doesn't. You're the only one in
the band that's dancing. You're
1167
01:03:16,680 --> 01:03:19,020
the only one in the band that
takes that. That's on the drum
1168
01:03:19,140 --> 01:03:24,020
set. You're the one driving the
band, buddy. That's all right.
1169
01:03:24,830 --> 01:03:26,810
You, he could have gone into
high school, been part of the
1170
01:03:26,870 --> 01:03:30,020
drum line without an audition.
That was offered to him, and he
1171
01:03:30,020 --> 01:03:35,000
was like, "Nope, because you
want me to do it, right? Okay. I
1172
01:03:35,060 --> 01:03:37,430
mean, literally, I'm not going
to force you to do it.
1173
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:37,940
Yeah.
1174
01:03:38,149 --> 01:03:40,389
Our agreement was through middle
school. I figured by the end of
1175
01:03:40,509 --> 01:03:42,549
middle school, you'd be you'd
kind of have a knack for it, but
1176
01:03:42,549 --> 01:03:46,689
if you want to be that stubborn
about it, fine. That's not my
1177
01:03:46,779
--> 01:03:49,569
cross to bear; that's yours, and
you're gonna have to learn that
1178
01:03:49,599 --> 01:03:52,689
at some point. And I hope that
you know it'll never be too late
1179
01:03:52,719 --> 01:03:56,139
for you to pick it up again. But
imagine all the time that was
1180
01:03:56,259 --> 01:03:58,719
lost. How much further you could
be if you just stuck with it?
1181
01:03:58,779 --> 01:04:02,519
You know, he he tried piano,
dude. We got him a piano for for
1182
01:04:02,639 --> 01:04:07,799
Christmas, and my my brother is
a piano player. Christmas Day,
1183
01:04:07,979 --> 01:04:09,779
he was playing it like
somebody's been playing it for
1184
01:04:09,809 --> 01:04:10,289
nine months.
1185
01:04:10,590 --> 01:04:10,650
Yeah,
1186
01:04:11,309 --> 01:04:14,939
just instant gravitation towards
it. I film it, send it to my
1187
01:04:15,029 --> 01:04:17,489
brother. I'm like, check this
out. He's never played before.
1188
01:04:18,269 --> 01:04:20,959
Look at him. My brother's like,
oh my gosh, he needs to keep. He
1189
01:04:21,049 --> 01:04:22,639
says, "Don't force it on him. I
said, "No, I'm not going to
1190
01:04:22,639 --> 01:04:25,159
force it. Yeah. But every time
we told him, "My gosh, buddy,
1191
01:04:25,219 --> 01:04:27,109
you're really good at yeah, you
think so? Yeah, you're amazing.
1192
01:04:27,169 --> 01:04:31,759
Okay, I'm going to stop. Okay,
don't do it because I'm telling
1193
01:04:31,849 --> 01:04:34,609
you, dude. That's so. That was
like the frustrating thing that
1194
01:04:34,639 --> 01:04:36,349
as a parent, you got to realize
that. All right.
1195
01:04:37,940 --> 01:04:39,920
Do things become? I mean, in
your experience, I mean, do
1196
01:04:39,980 --> 01:04:41,440
things become calloused or
1197
01:04:42,099 --> 01:04:42,159
no
1198
01:04:43,390 --> 01:04:43,810
mundane.
1199
01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:50,380
You have that choice to make. So
again, my kids. I am also hyper
1200
01:04:50,470 --> 01:04:53,290
aware of what my kids see. I
know they see me lose my
1201
01:04:53,410 --> 01:04:56,770
patience and my temper. I
completely get that. But guess
1202
01:04:56,980 --> 01:05:01,080
what? Also, they get to see.
They get I. They have seen me
1203
01:05:01,260 --> 01:05:08,190
apologize more than I care to
admit. I apologize. I'm sorry.
1204
01:05:08,310 --> 01:05:10,200
You shouldn't. You shouldn't
have to see your dad do that.
1205
01:05:10,530 --> 01:05:15,030
That's not fair to you. No, Dad.
It's okay. No, it's not. I need
1206
01:05:15,060 --> 01:05:15,510
to be better.
1207
01:05:15,630 --> 01:05:16,650
Being reactive. Yeah.
1208
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:19,950
I need to be better about this,
and I'm working on it. I thank
1209
01:05:20,010 --> 01:05:21,710
you for your patience, and I
thank you for your
1210
01:05:21,740 --> 01:05:24,680
understanding. But I want you to
know that I'm apologizing to
1211
01:05:24,740 --> 01:05:26,510
you. They need to see that.
1212
01:05:27,169 --> 01:05:27,229
Yeah,
1213
01:05:27,800 --> 01:05:27,950
you know.
1214
01:05:28,429 --> 01:05:28,489
Yeah,
1215
01:05:29,749 --> 01:05:32,269
that's a big thing because a lot
of parents are like, "Well, this
1216
01:05:32,269 --> 01:05:36,199
is my way, and this is how it's
done, and blah blah. Okay, good
1217
01:05:36,259 --> 01:05:36,409
luck.
1218
01:05:38,090 --> 01:05:38,120
Oh,
1219
01:05:38,629 --> 01:05:39,919
you got to read the room
sometimes.
1220
01:05:40,819 --> 01:05:44,229
Yeah, I mean, you're the you're
you're the only person that can
1221
01:05:44,259 --> 01:05:47,169
really show them how to do that
too. If you don't show them,
1222
01:05:47,259 --> 01:05:49,179
somebody else will, and they
probably won't like it.
1223
01:05:49,299 --> 01:05:52,089
They're gonna see their father.
I know three things right off
1224
01:05:52,179 --> 01:05:54,429
the top of my head that they're
gonna see their dad do. Yeah,
1225
01:05:54,609 --> 01:05:57,249
see him work really hard for the
family. They're gonna see him
1226
01:05:57,699 --> 01:06:01,229
love their mom, and they're
gonna see him own up to when he
1227
01:06:01,259 --> 01:06:04,949
makes a mistake, and he'll be
there to teach you if you're
1228
01:06:04,979 --> 01:06:07,529
willing to learn. Because I
mean, you know, when the student
1229
01:06:07,529 --> 01:06:10,769
is ready, the teacher shall
appear. That's a big thing that
1230
01:06:10,769 --> 01:06:12,899
you got to keep in mind as a
parent. It could be frustrating,
1231
01:06:13,799 --> 01:06:16,109
but eventually, you know, we're
all going to have that day where
1232
01:06:16,619 --> 01:06:19,919
our kids come to us. I need
help.
1233
01:06:20,189 --> 01:06:20,239
Yeah,
1234
01:06:20,839 --> 01:06:23,929
I need your help. We've all done
it. We've all realized our
1235
01:06:23,959 --> 01:06:29,779
parents might actually have some
value. That's a natural order of
1236
01:06:29,869 --> 01:06:30,139
things.
1237
01:06:31,219 --> 01:06:33,529
Jim, I don't want to call this
like imposter syndrome, but like
1238
01:06:33,619 --> 01:06:36,559
I'm gonna. Oh, sorry, I went a
whole different direction there.
1239
01:06:36,649 --> 01:06:40,629
That's good. No, I mean, I don't
know if you ever feel this way?
1240
01:06:40,689 --> 01:06:43,089
But like, there are times where
I'm just like, oh my, I can't
1241
01:06:43,149 --> 01:06:45,819
believe I'm doing this. I didn't
think that this was even
1242
01:06:46,299 --> 01:06:52,659
possible for me. I really set my
expectations low because I was
1243
01:06:52,749 --> 01:06:56,109
not the smartest. I was not the
social. I was. I wasn't really
1244
01:06:56,139 --> 01:06:59,319
that social. Didn't have a lot
of friends. I struggled
1245
01:06:59,409 --> 01:07:06,119
academically. I struggled a lot,
and I I gave up on myself a long
1246
01:07:07,199 --> 01:07:10,079
time ago. I get it. Yeah, I
thought, okay, well, if I don't
1247
01:07:10,139 --> 01:07:13,469
make it in music, if I don't
become a you know rock star,
1248
01:07:13,709 --> 01:07:17,699
then I'm screwed. I'm gonna have
to find a gonna gonna flip
1249
01:07:17,729 --> 01:07:19,139
burgers probably. Well,
1250
01:07:20,160 --> 01:07:23,720
there's a there's a notion out
there that I've heard from a lot
1251
01:07:23,720 --> 01:07:25,100
of different gurus. No offense
to anybody who flips
1252
01:07:25,190 --> 01:07:26,000
burgers for a little sorry,
1253
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:28,910
you know thought leaders and
stuff like that that use this.
1254
01:07:29,180 --> 01:07:35,420
You are the best person for who
you were. So the people that are
1255
01:07:35,570 --> 01:07:38,390
listening to this, or people you
come across that are that it's a
1256
01:07:38,480 --> 01:07:42,400
common thing to have imposter
syndrome or feeling like you're
1257
01:07:42,430 --> 01:07:45,220
not doing enough, or you should
be in a certain place.
1258
01:07:46,090 --> 01:07:52,330
Comparison is a thief of joy,
and also, I like
1259
01:07:52,420 --> 01:07:53,680
that. Comparison is a thief of
joy.
1260
01:07:54,010 --> 01:07:54,100
It
1261
01:07:54,490 --> 01:07:55,510
is. I've never heard that
before.
1262
01:07:55,990 --> 01:08:01,650
I would compare my my my spot in
life to where my dad, like what
1263
01:08:01,680 --> 01:08:05,910
came at 50 years old, dad was
here. I'm 50 years old. My not
1264
01:08:05,970 --> 01:08:10,350
my age right now. When he was
51, he was back in the trenches.
1265
01:08:10,650 --> 01:08:16,710
He was back in a truck. We had a
big recession that hit our part
1266
01:08:16,710 --> 01:08:20,070
of the country pretty hard in
the early 90s. It was it was
1267
01:08:20,160 --> 01:08:23,390
very devastating. I mean, we we
went from probably a 1516,
1268
01:08:23,960 --> 01:08:26,990
employee business down to just
my dad within a matter of
1269
01:08:27,050 --> 01:08:31,580
months. Because I mean, money
just got the flow of money got
1270
01:08:31,700 --> 01:08:34,310
turned off. And being in the
phone business, we're not a
1271
01:08:35,390 --> 01:08:38,630
we're in need, but we don't we
don't we don't need to upgrade
1272
01:08:38,720 --> 01:08:39,350
the phone system now.
1273
01:08:40,940 --> 01:08:41,230
We don't have
1274
01:08:41,290 --> 01:08:44,110
the money. We could make these
work, so we had maintenance
1275
01:08:44,170 --> 01:08:47,140
contracts and things of that
nature that would help feed. But
1276
01:08:47,140 --> 01:08:50,500
the new portion and the new
system sales were off, just
1277
01:08:50,620 --> 01:08:55,750
non-existent. So my my dad had
to get back in a truck and climb
1278
01:08:55,810 --> 01:08:58,330
ladders again after you know
building a business that was
1279
01:08:58,420 --> 01:09:00,570
kind of running itself, which is
the dream of all business
1280
01:09:00,690 --> 01:09:05,280
owners, yeah, and you know, for
a majority of the early '90s, he
1281
01:09:05,400 --> 01:09:13,200
was back to doing grunt work,
and I'm not there, so I look at
1282
01:09:13,260 --> 01:09:16,470
that and I knock on wood. Am I
willing to do it? Of course, but
1283
01:09:16,920 --> 01:09:20,540
I used to compare. Well, Dad, at
his late 40s, was at least doing
1284
01:09:20,660 --> 01:09:22,670
this, they were taking
vacations, and I I can't even
1285
01:09:22,670 --> 01:09:26,360
afford that, so I would do that
a lot to myself. But confidence
1286
01:09:26,420 --> 01:09:29,120
is a memory of success, and a
lot of what you're talking
1287
01:09:29,150 --> 01:09:31,550
about, your brother being funny,
1288
01:09:31,880 --> 01:09:32,090
yeah, it
1289
01:09:32,150 --> 01:09:35,240
was an identity. You being a
guitar player, bass player,
1290
01:09:35,480 --> 01:09:38,960
musician was an identity, and if
you don't have identity early
1291
01:09:39,200 --> 01:09:39,830
on, that's tough,
1292
01:09:40,280 --> 01:09:40,340
yeah,
1293
01:09:40,910 --> 01:09:44,980
because my identity was wrapped
up in you know before I played
1294
01:09:45,040 --> 01:09:51,070
the drums it was RC cars and not
exactly a hit with girls, but as
1295
01:09:51,100 --> 01:09:54,580
soon as I started playing the
drums, I knew I was the fricking
1296
01:09:54,670 --> 01:10:00,900
man because it was so it was
such a natural thing for me. I
1297
01:10:00,990 --> 01:10:04,530
just knew how to play, and as
soon as I put myself out there
1298
01:10:04,560 --> 01:10:06,030
and playing with other people
and getting into those
1299
01:10:06,090 --> 01:10:08,790
communities, and then doing it
in school, and then all of a
1300
01:10:08,880 --> 01:10:11,790
sudden, these people that never
talked to you before see what
1301
01:10:11,850 --> 01:10:14,070
you can do, and they're like,
"Oh, wow, you're really
1302
01:10:14,190 --> 01:10:18,270
talented. And I became the
drummer in high school, the one
1303
01:10:18,330 --> 01:10:18,390
guy
1304
01:10:19,020 --> 01:10:19,890
became your hyper focus.
1305
01:10:20,490 --> 01:10:23,090
It became my focus. It became my
identity. It was a great
1306
01:10:23,150 --> 01:10:26,780
identity to have until it played
out, and then I, you know, got
1307
01:10:26,840 --> 01:10:29,330
out of high school, went to
college, lost my identity
1308
01:10:29,420 --> 01:10:33,440
because I wasn't having any
successes, and eventually, you
1309
01:10:33,470 --> 01:10:37,730
know, my father brought me into
his business, and he ended up
1310
01:10:37,790 --> 01:10:40,960
retiring. I learned it, learned
the electrical trade, learn, you
1311
01:10:40,990 --> 01:10:44,710
know, wasn't me, but again,
identity revealed itself once I
1312
01:10:44,740 --> 01:10:48,130
got in the radio because this is
me. I knew I'm in my element,
1313
01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:52,750
and a lot of life is that. A lot
of people go through feeling
1314
01:10:52,900 --> 01:10:55,420
less than because they're not
doing what they're meant to do.
1315
01:10:56,560 --> 01:11:00,490
I think a lot of white collar
people that took the beaten path
1316
01:11:00,670 --> 01:11:02,250
to college. Well, this is what
you're supposed to do.
1317
01:11:03,180 --> 01:11:03,600
This is what you
1318
01:11:03,660 --> 01:11:07,410
want to do. No, that's why a lot
of people around the age of 40
1319
01:11:07,590 --> 01:11:11,220
have these crises moments.
You'll find. How old are you? If
1320
01:11:11,250 --> 01:11:11,850
you don't mind me asking.
1321
01:11:12,510 --> 01:11:14,250
How? Whoa, turning 35.
1322
01:11:14,490 --> 01:11:14,610
Okay.
1323
01:11:14,850 --> 01:11:14,910
Yeah.
1324
01:11:15,780 --> 01:11:18,660
So you're entering the age. You,
but I think you're satisfied.
1325
01:11:18,720 --> 01:11:19,050
I'm too young
1326
01:11:19,110 --> 01:11:20,160
to not remember my age.
1327
01:11:21,300 --> 01:11:24,050
I think you're satisfied in
knowing this. You feel like
1328
01:11:24,110 --> 01:11:25,400
you're in your element doing
what you're doing.
1329
01:11:25,820 --> 01:11:25,880
Yeah,
1330
01:11:26,330 --> 01:11:29,660
you feel like this satisfies me.
I've got to. I'm confident about
1331
01:11:29,660 --> 01:11:32,360
it because I've been successful
at it. That that ties into all
1332
01:11:32,390 --> 01:11:35,060
these different things. But a
lot of people who got out of
1333
01:11:35,120 --> 01:11:38,960
college in their early 20s,
don't forget, dude. 20 to 40
1334
01:11:39,230 --> 01:11:43,840
sucks. It's the summer of your
life. You've got. I've got to
1335
01:11:43,930 --> 01:11:47,680
find a career. I've got to find
a spouse. I've got to meet all
1336
01:11:47,710 --> 01:11:50,260
these expectations. I've got
peer pressure. I got to make
1337
01:11:50,350 --> 01:11:53,500
sure I'm making financial
decisions. I got to buy a house.
1338
01:11:53,830 --> 01:11:56,770
I got to have kids. I got to
figure out how to be a dad. I
1339
01:11:56,920 --> 01:11:59,650
got to figure out my kids. I got
to figure out how to be a dude.
1340
01:11:59,830 --> 01:12:05,520
Oh my gosh, we never realize
that we never freaking put two
1341
01:12:05,610 --> 01:12:11,340
and two together and realize 20
to 40 can really suck. Okay,
1342
01:12:12,240 --> 01:12:14,970
until somebody like me comes
along and points out it's okay,
1343
01:12:16,380 --> 01:12:19,050
it's gonna suck. But as long as
you're aware of it, it'll
1344
01:12:19,050 --> 01:12:19,680
probably suck less.
1345
01:12:20,280 --> 01:12:20,330
Yeah,
1346
01:12:20,660 --> 01:12:22,820
you know what I mean. Oh yeah,
and then eventually you just
1347
01:12:22,850 --> 01:12:26,600
kind of-that's why a lot of
people get to like 37 to 43, and
1348
01:12:26,600 --> 01:12:30,350
they have a big shift in revel.
This is not what I want to do. I
1349
01:12:30,350 --> 01:12:33,470
don't want to be a CPA. What the
hell am I doing? I'd rather do
1350
01:12:33,650 --> 01:12:37,310
woodwork. I'm going to go work
with
my hands. That's why you
1351
01:12:37,370 --> 01:12:40,070
see a lot of people doing that
point in their life. They switch
1352
01:12:40,190 --> 01:12:44,320
seasons. I see it all the time.
Happened to me.
1353
01:12:45,430 --> 01:12:48,010
I think it still. I think it
still happens. Yeah. There are
1354
01:12:48,070 --> 01:12:50,440
days where I feel like, oh god,
I don't want to do this anymore.
1355
01:12:50,500 --> 01:12:53,800
But then I get a phone call, and
then I'm like, oh my god, I I
1356
01:12:53,980 --> 01:12:56,920
just bailed that guy out. I I
provided a solution for that
1357
01:12:56,980 --> 01:12:59,890
guy. Right. My spirits are right
back up. I mean, it's just it's
1358
01:12:59,890 --> 01:13:02,070
such a roller coaster, and
that's sales too. I mean, it's
1359
01:13:02,130 --> 01:13:05,580
just like ups and downs. It's
like a toxic girlfriend. It
1360
01:13:05,700 --> 01:13:07,800
really is. I mean, it can be,
and you're still
1361
01:13:07,980 --> 01:13:10,020
early in the game. You're only
four years into doing this.
1362
01:13:10,560 --> 01:13:13,020
Yeah, well, in the industry for
like 10 years, but this is my
1363
01:13:13,230 --> 01:13:17,700
like four years in like outside
sales, and people have told me
1364
01:13:18,060 --> 01:13:21,320
that oh man, this is it's not
it's not wining and dining. It's
1365
01:13:21,380 --> 01:13:25,820
not going out to football games
or doing dinners, happy hour.
1366
01:13:26,030 --> 01:13:29,060
Like that's not what it is.
Because people, in my
1367
01:13:29,120 --> 01:13:31,040
experience, they'll gladly take
a free lunch.
1368
01:13:31,490 --> 01:13:31,610
They'll
1369
01:13:31,760 --> 01:13:34,400
they'll take a free dinner.
They'll they'll take a free
1370
01:13:35,000 --> 01:13:37,880
whatever. But that does not
guarantee you a sale. You have
1371
01:13:37,910 --> 01:13:40,400
to make sure that you're
persistent on that.
1372
01:13:40,850 --> 01:13:41,140
Right. You
1373
01:13:41,140 --> 01:13:45,100
have to you you have to justify
that money that's being put
1374
01:13:45,160 --> 01:13:50,140
towards, yeah. Oh yeah, whatever
schmoozing you you you're what
1375
01:13:50,170 --> 01:13:50,350
you do.
1376
01:13:50,530 --> 01:13:52,840
It's got to be cost justified.
Yeah, absolutely.
1377
01:13:53,380 --> 01:13:53,470
And
1378
01:13:54,160 --> 01:13:56,320
it's got to turn into some sort
of business at the end of the
1379
01:13:56,320 --> 01:13:56,380
day.
1380
01:13:57,130 --> 01:14:01,830
Yeah, that's somebody told me
that, which is I've I've worked
1381
01:14:01,830 --> 01:14:05,010
for so many distributors, and
yeah, I mean, I I heard a lot of
1382
01:14:05,250 --> 01:14:08,370
stories, a lot of uh, yeah, I
mean, they said that yeah, this
1383
01:14:08,490 --> 01:14:13,500
it's this is not the reality,
and I am, yeah, I can see it
1384
01:14:13,500 --> 01:14:19,050
now. I I definitely see it
because yeah, you can go after
1385
01:14:19,080 --> 01:14:23,750
that big fish, and you can eat
for a long time, but man, when
1386
01:14:23,780 --> 01:14:26,900
they that fish is done, then
it's like you have to start all
1387
01:14:26,990 --> 01:14:27,350
over. Oh yeah,
1388
01:14:27,860 --> 01:14:31,640
00 to zero. Car business was the
same way. Yeah, I mean, you
1389
01:14:31,640 --> 01:14:34,550
always try to get 15 to 20 cars
sold a month, which is probably
1390
01:14:34,610 --> 01:14:37,670
at this point low. But at the
Mercedes dealer, that was a good
1391
01:14:37,880 --> 01:14:39,680
paycheck. That was a great
paycheck.
1392
01:14:41,240 --> 01:14:44,980
It's kind of like a hunter and a
gatherer. I mean, like where I
1393
01:14:45,130 --> 01:14:47,890
still don't know where I am in
that spectrum, but I mean, like,
1394
01:14:47,920 --> 01:14:51,550
yeah. Do you want to gather and
then you know just live
1395
01:14:51,700 --> 01:14:54,400
comfortable, or do you want to
hunt? And
1396
01:14:54,910 --> 01:14:57,460
have you run across people that
are in their 40s and 50s that
1397
01:14:57,700 --> 01:15:00,960
you know constantly have
business coming their way? And
1398
01:15:00,990 --> 01:15:03,810
it's like, man, how do you get
to that position where they're
1399
01:15:03,870 --> 01:15:04,620
constant? Not until I
1400
01:15:04,680 --> 01:15:05,130
came around.
1401
01:15:05,880 --> 01:15:08,100
But I mean, that's a lot of
that, you know. Because in the
1402
01:15:08,190 --> 01:15:11,730
car business, I ran into people
that had committed to it like it
1403
01:15:11,730 --> 01:15:16,290
was a career. And every business
owner I've had on this podcast,
1404
01:15:16,290 --> 01:15:20,750
there's about a five year runway
time of when you realize you've
1405
01:15:20,840 --> 01:15:24,410
got some, okay, am I getting
traction in this, or is it time
1406
01:15:24,440 --> 01:15:29,570
to bail? You're four years into
doing essentially what amounts
1407
01:15:29,630 --> 01:15:31,490
to starting your own business.
When you're in sales, you're in
1408
01:15:31,520 --> 01:15:31,940
your own business,
1409
01:15:31,940 --> 01:15:33,410
100%
1410
01:15:33,560 --> 01:15:37,010
right, 100% You're the face of
it. People need to trust you
1411
01:15:37,100 --> 01:15:40,250
that you're gonna, you know, not
only with your like working for
1412
01:15:40,580 --> 01:15:44,380
Mercedes the way I did, I knew I
had I could have confidence in
1413
01:15:44,860 --> 01:15:48,610
our in our shop that no matter
what car went through our shop,
1414
01:15:48,730 --> 01:15:52,390
that it would be a really good
car for our pre-owned offerings,
1415
01:15:52,780 --> 01:15:58,780
certified or otherwise, because
our shop was just they took it
1416
01:15:58,810 --> 01:16:02,310
seriously. The guys in that in
the in the in the bays were just
1417
01:16:04,110 --> 01:16:10,140
there was just like lightning in
a bottle until it wasn't. But as
1418
01:16:10,170 --> 01:16:13,350
a salesperson, I had
confidence
in everything I sold. Not so
1419
01:16:13,410 --> 01:16:15,720
much at the Honda dealer there
where I started because like
1420
01:16:15,900 --> 01:16:19,080
yeah, let's just put it out.
Yeah, but did you change the
1421
01:16:19,080 --> 01:16:23,810
oil? No, no, not yeah. We gotta.
I gotta deal with the freaking
1422
01:16:23,870 --> 01:16:29,120
headache of this if it blows up.
Okay, you know what do we do
1423
01:16:29,300 --> 01:16:31,580
here? Do we make sure we make
sure it's safe? Okay, what does
1424
01:16:31,580 --> 01:16:33,980
that mean? Well, the turn
signals work, the brake lights
1425
01:16:34,070 --> 01:16:37,790
work, you know, the brakes work.
What else you need? That the
1426
01:16:37,910 --> 01:16:40,480
engine's not gonna fricking
catch on fire. Yeah, you know
1427
01:16:40,480 --> 01:16:44,170
what I mean? At Mercedes, it was
a different. You felt confident
1428
01:16:44,200 --> 01:16:46,690
as a salesperson. That that's a
huge part of it. You know,
1429
01:16:47,200 --> 01:16:51,760
because that your integrity and
your reputation is only as good
1430
01:16:51,850 --> 01:16:52,780
as what's backing you up.
1431
01:16:53,890 --> 01:16:53,980
Yep.
1432
01:16:54,070 --> 01:16:54,400
You know what I mean?
1433
01:16:54,700 --> 01:16:58,360
Oh yeah. Would you encourage the
younger generation to sell cars
1434
01:16:58,420 --> 01:17:00,370
these days? Oh, absolutely.
Really? I
1435
01:17:00,430 --> 01:17:03,300
told my kids that I said if if
all else fails and you need
1436
01:17:03,360 --> 01:17:07,530
something to do, go wait tables,
go oh yeah sell cars, go go sell
1437
01:17:07,650 --> 01:17:11,550
something. Okay, go my my
daughter. You know again,
1438
01:17:12,240 --> 01:17:15,150
confidence being the memory of
success. She had a rough go of
1439
01:17:15,210 --> 01:17:18,120
it the first two years of
college. Came home this past
1440
01:17:18,180 --> 01:17:22,100
summer, got herself a job at a
new restaurant in Cool Springs,
1441
01:17:22,910 --> 01:17:28,460
and they love her, absolutely
adore her, and she's always the
1442
01:17:28,640 --> 01:17:31,670
front person taking the orders.
She always got a big old smile
1443
01:17:31,760 --> 01:17:37,580
on her face. I'm like, Kim, hate
to tell you this, but you're a
1444
01:17:37,700 --> 01:17:41,200
salesperson because you're good
at this,
1445
01:17:41,860 --> 01:17:45,520
yeah. I still just can't. I
can't get over that word. Well,
1446
01:17:46,750 --> 01:17:50,110
I guess we. It's okay. I just
don't like the word sales. Like
1447
01:17:50,200 --> 01:17:53,830
it's just embrace it. I know. I
guess I could
1448
01:17:55,720 --> 01:17:58,150
embrace it. You might as well.
That's what it is.
1449
01:17:58,449 --> 01:17:59,199
Sounds villainish.
1450
01:18:00,130 --> 01:18:02,700
No, it's just you know, as long
if you're you're getting people
1451
01:18:02,760 --> 01:18:06,240
to buy things that they don't
need or want. Yeah, yeah, okay,
1452
01:18:06,420 --> 01:18:09,210
yeah, that's a good point. If
you're helping them, you know,
1453
01:18:09,420 --> 01:18:12,780
somebody coming to a car lot and
and wanting to buy a car, look,
1454
01:18:12,900 --> 01:18:16,080
you're here for a reason. Okay,
my job is to try and figure out
1455
01:18:16,200 --> 01:18:18,840
what's the best option for you
and explain all the things to
1456
01:18:18,870 --> 01:18:21,830
the best of my ability, and make
sure that everything looks good
1457
01:18:21,860 --> 01:18:25,880
and it's copacetic for your
finances, and that's it. But
1458
01:18:25,880 --> 01:18:28,820
again, you know, it depends on
the institution you're working
1459
01:18:28,910 --> 01:18:31,880
for. When I worked for Mercedes
at that particular point in time
1460
01:18:31,940 --> 01:18:38,480
in Cool Springs, it was a we
didn't dare I say we had a term
1461
01:18:38,540 --> 01:18:40,930
in the in the business called
jicky jacking, and that was
1462
01:18:40,990 --> 01:18:44,560
basically, you know, jicky
jacking. So basically, trying to
1463
01:18:45,100 --> 01:18:47,410
finagle the customer into
something that you know, and
1464
01:18:47,470 --> 01:18:49,300
tell them whatever they needed
to hear in order to get the
1465
01:18:49,420 --> 01:18:50,590
sale. Well, that's not what we
did.
1466
01:18:50,890 --> 01:18:51,010
Okay,
1467
01:18:51,460 --> 01:18:54,460
we were a gentleman's floor. We
honored and respected each
1468
01:18:54,610 --> 01:18:57,070
other. We didn't try to snake
deals from one another. We
1469
01:18:57,160 --> 01:18:59,470
always tried to go above and
beyond to help each other out if
1470
01:18:59,500 --> 01:19:01,590
we needed something. It was a
good culture for a minute,
1471
01:19:02,250 --> 01:19:02,340
and
1472
01:19:02,340 --> 01:19:04,170
then all of a sudden it just
kind of went the crap. But
1473
01:19:04,170 --> 01:19:08,880
that's a whole nother story. But
when we sold cars, it was I
1474
01:19:09,060 --> 01:19:11,670
wasn't going to tell you
everything. I learned my own
1475
01:19:11,820 --> 01:19:15,210
voice in that situation that I
could put my head on a pillow at
1476
01:19:15,270 --> 01:19:17,820
night and be and be good. That's
what that's what mattered to me
1477
01:19:18,300 --> 01:19:21,680
because I've heard some doozies
from other salespeople. Oh yeah,
1478
01:19:21,830 --> 01:19:23,600
you could totally get the
incentivized rate, and I'd be
1479
01:19:23,660 --> 01:19:27,020
like, dude, I even know that you
shouldn't be telling them that.
1480
01:19:27,140 --> 01:19:31,310
Did you pull damn credit yet?
Well, we want the incentivized
1481
01:19:31,400 --> 01:19:33,560
rate. Okay, do you want to go
ahead and start a credit app
1482
01:19:33,650 --> 01:19:36,650
right now? This way, we can see
where you you you you size up,
1483
01:19:37,610 --> 01:19:39,440
and I can tell you it's a
possibility. I'm not going to
1484
01:19:39,470 --> 01:19:41,950
tell
you you're going to get the
incentivized rate, because
1485
01:19:41,980 --> 01:19:44,020
that's up to the bank. That's up
not up to me.
1486
01:19:44,650 --> 01:19:44,710
Yeah.
1487
01:19:45,070 --> 01:19:47,290
So those were the different word
tracks I would use. That I'd be
1488
01:19:47,350 --> 01:19:49,720
like, that was honest. You know,
1489
01:19:49,900 --> 01:19:50,320
integrity.
1490
01:19:50,470 --> 01:19:53,290
Integrity. That I was being
honest. That's how it how it
1491
01:19:53,620 --> 01:19:56,050
works, and that's what earned me
a lot of sales. Is because I
1492
01:19:56,080 --> 01:19:58,570
would just simply shoot from the
hip, say things that they
1493
01:19:58,660 --> 01:20:01,860
weren't expecting. Well, you
know, you add points to the
1494
01:20:01,950 --> 01:20:03,270
financing, and yeah, do we do?
1495
01:20:04,350 --> 01:20:04,410
Yeah,
1496
01:20:04,650 --> 01:20:08,730
we do. Well, can why can't I?
You can you can go to the bank
1497
01:20:08,760 --> 01:20:11,190
and get a buy rate yourself, but
dude, this is a profit center
1498
01:20:11,250 --> 01:20:13,410
for us. This is how we how part
of how we make money.
1499
01:20:14,100 --> 01:20:14,160
Yeah,
1500
01:20:14,520 --> 01:20:17,220
and they'd be like, oh, yeah,
we're a business. We're not a
1501
01:20:17,280 --> 01:20:19,320
nonprofit. You know,
1502
01:20:20,070 --> 01:20:21,860
you you bring up a really good
point. I mean, like um, yeah,
1503
01:20:22,190 --> 01:20:25,640
maybe that's why I get the ick
from the word sales is because
1504
01:20:25,700 --> 01:20:28,940
yeah, it seems like I'm selling
some people a product or
1505
01:20:29,150 --> 01:20:33,140
something that they don't need.
Right. But and I think in a way
1506
01:20:33,350 --> 01:20:38,120
I feel like it's a it's a and
it's a disservice to what I do
1507
01:20:38,210 --> 01:20:41,020
on a daily basis. Like I'm not
just selling product. I'm
1508
01:20:41,380 --> 01:20:47,530
managing. I'm managing, managing
emotions, finding the right
1509
01:20:47,590 --> 01:20:52,750
solutions, whether it's rebates
or bottom dollar partnerships of
1510
01:20:53,110 --> 01:20:55,960
products that make sense for
their job applications. I mean,
1511
01:20:56,020 --> 01:20:59,260
like the list goes on, and it
just it's a big thing. And then
1512
01:20:59,500 --> 01:21:02,550
you got to chase money. You got
to chase money. Sometimes people
1513
01:21:02,610 --> 01:21:08,280
are not. They can. It could be
smoke and mirrors. Oh yeah. In
1514
01:21:08,340 --> 01:21:12,510
my experience, I've seen
customers or clients that are
1515
01:21:12,720 --> 01:21:17,610
just look like they hung the
moon, and then you put all your
1516
01:21:17,640 --> 01:21:21,890
eggs in one basket, and you're
just you're left. I'm speaking
1517
01:21:21,890 --> 01:21:23,540
from experience. Yeah, you got
this kind of just start all
1518
01:21:23,630 --> 01:21:25,790
over. But it was good. It's
good. I mean, and guess who did
1519
01:21:25,790 --> 01:21:25,820
the
1520
01:21:25,970 --> 01:21:28,940
selling in that situation? Ever
think about it that way?
1521
01:21:29,480 --> 01:21:30,560
Who did the selling in the
situation?
1522
01:21:30,710 --> 01:21:33,200
Yeah, somebody they think hung
the moon and they look great on
1523
01:21:33,260 --> 01:21:35,510
paper, and all of a sudden they
can't pay the bill. You got
1524
01:21:35,570 --> 01:21:40,130
sold. We're in a world of you're
a seller be sold. This is the
1525
01:21:40,160 --> 01:21:43,060
world in which we live-it's a
sell or be sold world. You're
1526
01:21:43,090 --> 01:21:44,980
either doing the selling or
you're being sold. Yeah, that's
1527
01:21:45,040 --> 01:21:50,650
true. To try and apply other
terminology to what it is that
1528
01:21:50,740 --> 01:21:54,220
you do is being intellectually
honest. Think about it that way.
1529
01:21:54,580 --> 01:21:56,500
You're a salesperson, man.
That's what it is. You're either
1530
01:21:56,560 --> 01:22:00,220
a good one or an intellectual,
honest one. Yeah, one that you
1531
01:22:00,250 --> 01:22:04,200
know people will send other. The
biggest thing, if you know
1532
01:22:04,290 --> 01:22:06,600
you're a good salespeople,
salesperson, is if your
1533
01:22:06,630 --> 01:22:09,870
customers send other people. You
know, you're doing it right when
1534
01:22:09,900 --> 01:22:13,230
that happens. They give you
referrals because they trust
1535
01:22:13,290 --> 01:22:13,350
you.
1536
01:22:13,890 --> 01:22:14,340
I love that.
1537
01:22:14,580 --> 01:22:16,320
No, that's a win.
1538
01:22:16,830 --> 01:22:16,890
Yeah,
1539
01:22:17,760 --> 01:22:19,590
and if that's not happening, you
got to figure out what you're
1540
01:22:19,620 --> 01:22:19,830
doing.
1541
01:22:22,020 --> 01:22:24,950
Well, I still love it. I love
the industry, and I think the
1542
01:22:25,100 --> 01:22:27,560
goal for me-and I'm just going
to put this out in the
1543
01:22:27,620 --> 01:22:31,040
universe-I would like to be a
coach of some sort. I mean, I
1544
01:22:31,100 --> 01:22:34,490
would like to just share my
experience of like what worked
1545
01:22:34,670 --> 01:22:35,840
and what didn't work. Yeah,
1546
01:22:37,010 --> 01:22:40,270
earn that. Earn that. Yeah, you
need to earn that. Yeah. Okay,
1547
01:22:40,330 --> 01:22:41,980
because there's so many people
out there that are trying to be
1548
01:22:42,130 --> 01:22:45,040
gurus, thought leaders, coaches.
Well, you know, I've had two
1549
01:22:45,160 --> 01:22:46,780
years of life. I'm going to be a
life coach, dear.
1550
01:22:48,190 --> 01:22:49,990
No, no, no, no, no, not life.
No, you need
1551
01:22:50,260 --> 01:22:53,230
good. You wait till you're in
your mid 40s, then start
1552
01:22:53,320 --> 01:22:55,870
coaching, because you got to get
beat up. You got to get some
1553
01:22:55,900 --> 01:22:58,480
black eyes. You got to get some
bruises, guts and scars, and all
1554
01:22:58,600 --> 01:23:01,110
the different things. You get
your life has got to look like
1555
01:23:01,800 --> 01:23:04,620
they got to get they. Your life
has to look like electricians'
1556
01:23:04,740 --> 01:23:09,630
hands. Okay, time in the
trenches, that you know, gritty,
1557
01:23:09,990 --> 01:23:13,950
rough, sandpapery feel, scar. I
call them trade tattoos. I got
1558
01:23:13,950 --> 01:23:16,650
them all over my hands when I
worked in the in the business.
1559
01:23:16,800 --> 01:23:23,060
Even when I I cut my thumb open
a couple weeks ago, opening up a
1560
01:23:23,060 --> 01:23:27,110
a package of XLR cables, and I
called that you know adventures
1561
01:23:27,140 --> 01:23:30,440
in podcasting. I didn't go to
the I didn't go to the ER and
1562
01:23:30,470 --> 01:23:33,560
get it. I wanted it to grow back
as a scar because I'm proud of
1563
01:23:34,430 --> 01:23:34,520
it.
1564
01:23:35,780 --> 01:23:36,260
You know what I mean?
1565
01:23:36,500 --> 01:23:38,060
Yeah, I would have the I would
tell the
1566
01:23:38,150 --> 01:23:38,420
story.
1567
01:23:38,570 --> 01:23:40,150
I know. Well, I would have done.
You should have seen the other
1568
01:23:40,210 --> 01:23:41,590
guy trade
1569
01:23:41,710 --> 01:23:43,630
tattoos is what I call them.
It's a big thing,
1570
01:23:43,870 --> 01:23:43,990
you know.
1571
01:23:44,680 --> 01:23:44,740
So,
1572
01:23:45,250 --> 01:23:50,080
well, anyway, I um again for
viewers what what I what I do.
1573
01:23:50,200 --> 01:23:53,920
I'm an account manager for
electrical distribution. Um,
1574
01:23:54,460 --> 01:23:57,670
yeah, when I tell people that,
they they like, what what is
1575
01:23:57,730 --> 01:24:00,090
that? How do you? That's
corporate gobbledygook. Yeah,
1576
01:24:00,300 --> 01:24:01,290
yeah, yeah. I sell
1577
01:24:01,350 --> 01:24:05,310
electrical parts with integrity,
and I solve my customers'
1578
01:24:05,400 --> 01:24:08,400
problems to the best of my
ability. I believe that
1579
01:24:08,910 --> 01:24:13,260
everybody needs a good supplier
on their side that's got their
1580
01:24:13,410 --> 01:24:15,900
back that's going to try and
reduce the amount of headaches
1581
01:24:15,930 --> 01:24:18,780
that they're already dealing
with. That's a great way to
1582
01:24:18,870 --> 01:24:20,930
approach what you do. Well, if
somebody asks you what you do,
1583
01:24:21,530 --> 01:24:22,370
tell them what you believe.
1584
01:24:23,360 --> 01:24:23,450
Okay,
1585
01:24:24,230 --> 01:24:27,380
I believe that every single GC
out there, an electrical
1586
01:24:27,470 --> 01:24:31,040
company, needs somebody on their
side that's looking out not only
1587
01:24:31,100 --> 01:24:34,130
for their bottom line, but also
getting them the best parts, the
1588
01:24:34,250 --> 01:24:41,350
best service, the you know, the
the best marketable products
1589
01:24:41,380 --> 01:24:44,110
that we can get in their hands
as quickly as possible,
so they
1590
01:24:44,230 --> 01:24:47,290
can get the job done for their
clients. That's what I do.
1591
01:24:47,680 --> 01:24:50,830
What do you say to someone
that's like? I mean, I know I'm.
1592
01:24:50,860 --> 01:24:53,860
I'm still. I guess I'm kind of
young, but from somewhere
1593
01:24:53,890 --> 01:24:55,990
between their 20s and 30s,
they're just still trying to
1594
01:24:56,020 --> 01:25:01,170
figure life out. I guess
there's. So many different
1595
01:25:01,500 --> 01:25:06,030
variables to this. I mean, like
I would say, if you don't like
1596
01:25:06,120 --> 01:25:10,830
your job, but you're good at it
and you don't, it's not
1597
01:25:10,830 --> 01:25:13,170
something you feel like you want
to do. Find another avenue that
1598
01:25:13,200 --> 01:25:18,240
you could still do this field,
but not have to do the everyday
1599
01:25:18,540 --> 01:25:20,570
grunt work that you're doing.
Like try to find different
1600
01:25:20,600 --> 01:25:24,110
avenues where you can sort of
develop a core, and then just
1601
01:25:24,230 --> 01:25:26,840
sort of see where it takes you
from there. Instead of just
1602
01:25:27,020 --> 01:25:29,540
dropping what you're doing just
to try something different.
1603
01:25:29,570 --> 01:25:31,520
Like, does that make sense? And
not asking it in a form of
1604
01:25:31,550 --> 01:25:32,030
question. You got
1605
01:25:32,030 --> 01:25:33,350
to have a little bit of overlap.
1606
01:25:33,770 --> 01:25:33,830
Yeah,
1607
01:25:34,010 --> 01:25:36,710
you know, hey, I want to evolve
where that's always a natural
1608
01:25:37,280 --> 01:25:40,840
desire, the human of us to want
to evolve what we're doing, we
1609
01:25:40,960 --> 01:25:45,100
want to feel like we're moving
forward. To be stagnant is not
1610
01:25:45,190 --> 01:25:49,690
not a good feeling. If you're in
a position that you know you're
1611
01:25:49,750 --> 01:25:52,600
not, like we know it
intrinsically. Like when I was
1612
01:25:52,660 --> 01:25:55,810
working as an electrician, I, as
much as I enjoyed the work, I
1613
01:25:55,930 --> 01:25:59,980
knew it wasn't me then. I knew I
had something else to do. I had
1614
01:25:59,980 --> 01:26:03,150
an itch to scratch, and I knew
it had to do with broadcasting
1615
01:26:03,360 --> 01:26:06,300
or music or whatever music. I
wasn't going to pursue because I
1616
01:26:06,300 --> 01:26:09,780
had no idea where to begin. Now
that I see people in that
1617
01:26:09,840 --> 01:26:13,230
industry living the life, it's
not a life I would have wanted.
1618
01:26:14,610 --> 01:26:19,080
But going into broadcasting and
radio ultimately was my element,
1619
01:26:19,140 --> 01:26:22,040
and I was lucky enough to know
that and be aware of it at the
1620
01:26:22,130 --> 01:26:24,890
time. A lot of people didn't
understand it. My parents didn't
1621
01:26:24,920 --> 01:26:27,590
understand it until I moved
here, and they saw the awards
1622
01:26:27,680 --> 01:26:31,730
I've won and how people just we
had such you know respect for
1623
01:26:31,850 --> 01:26:35,030
one another inside the building,
and like they literally said,
1624
01:26:35,120 --> 01:26:37,340
"Wow, you were you really are
good at this. I'm like, "Yeah,
1625
01:26:37,370 --> 01:26:40,900
I've only been doing it for 10
years, but glad to finally see
1626
01:26:40,990 --> 01:26:44,860
that I've got your nod of
approval. So that was a thing.
1627
01:26:45,250 --> 01:26:48,880
But when you what to to your
point, there's got to be stages
1628
01:26:49,180 --> 01:26:51,700
if you want to move. If you're
not, you know you're good at
1629
01:26:51,760 --> 01:26:54,760
what you do, but you can't stand
it. Then it's incumbent upon you
1630
01:26:54,790 --> 01:26:57,400
to make the choice that I'm
going to find the one thing that
1631
01:26:57,430 --> 01:26:58,090
I like about
1632
01:26:59,260 --> 01:26:59,350
it.
1633
01:26:59,410 --> 01:27:01,440
I'm going to find the one thing
that gives me joy about
1634
01:27:01,590 --> 01:27:04,710
it-that's that's my
responsibility because I've got
1635
01:27:05,610 --> 01:27:08,430
my backs in the corner. Okay,
I've got a house payment, I've
1636
01:27:08,520 --> 01:27:10,950
got kids, I've got a wife, I've
got the insurances, the car
1637
01:27:11,070 --> 01:27:14,580
payments. It's bigger than you
at that point. Now you can
1638
01:27:14,640 --> 01:27:18,060
either choose to be grumpy about
it, or you can choose to get
1639
01:27:18,180 --> 01:27:21,440
great at what you hate and turn
it into something that you like,
1640
01:27:22,430 --> 01:27:24,740
and then figure out what the
next step is. Like you're
1641
01:27:24,770 --> 01:27:27,560
talking about, if it's not
selling this, then what are the
1642
01:27:27,590 --> 01:27:30,740
selling? You're good at selling.
You could sell something. What's
1643
01:27:30,770 --> 01:27:34,250
something I'm passionate about
selling? Is it guitars? Is
1644
01:27:34,339 --> 01:27:34,429
it
1645
01:27:34,850 --> 01:27:38,300
musical instruments? Is it
working for GC Pro and making a
1646
01:27:38,360 --> 01:27:41,500
ton? Because those those guys
make good money. Not the guys in
1647
01:27:41,530 --> 01:27:43,510
Guitar Center, but the guys who
are doing the commercial jobs,
1648
01:27:43,930 --> 01:27:47,380
selling studio equipment to
studios. That's something I
1649
01:27:47,440 --> 01:27:48,010
would excel at.
1650
01:27:48,160 --> 01:27:48,220
Yeah,
1651
01:27:48,820 --> 01:27:51,160
but this is my this is my
element. This is my superpower.
1652
01:27:51,220 --> 01:27:53,890
Doing what I do here, and I know
that, and I'm good at
1653
01:27:55,270 --> 01:27:55,930
it. I second that.
1654
01:27:56,200 --> 01:27:56,980
Yeah, thank you.
1655
01:27:57,370 --> 01:27:57,430
Yeah,
1656
01:27:58,180 --> 01:28:00,810
but that's the key to a lot of
things. Is just if you're aware
1657
01:28:00,930 --> 01:28:05,430
that you're not
happy, or it's
incumbent upon you again,
1658
01:28:06,210 --> 01:28:11,190
reiterating, find out what the
joy is, find out what it is that
1659
01:28:11,310 --> 01:28:15,900
you're you're good at, and and
find if you can. I tell my kids
1660
01:28:15,960 --> 01:28:20,690
this: find the one joy, and you
know if that one joy is the
1661
01:28:20,780 --> 01:28:25,400
lampstand in the dark dark room.
Then great, cling to it. Maybe
1662
01:28:25,400 --> 01:28:29,390
the other things will light up,
and it's not just like throwing
1663
01:28:29,420 --> 01:28:31,460
a towel. And oh, this is what
I'm doing. Oh, there's other
1664
01:28:31,550 --> 01:28:34,730
things that you can do. Watch
out for opportunity when it
1665
01:28:34,730 --> 01:28:38,450
comes along, and if it's
congruent with what you do, go
1666
01:28:38,540 --> 01:28:41,470
for it. So, that's my take on
it.
1667
01:28:42,610 --> 01:28:42,970
Thank you, because
1668
01:28:43,030 --> 01:28:43,450
I've been there.
1669
01:28:44,020 --> 01:28:44,080
Yeah,
1670
01:28:44,650 --> 01:28:48,400
you know, I got out of the
electrical business because my
1671
01:28:48,760 --> 01:28:53,590
foreman came up to me, and I
admittedly I was a little bit of
1672
01:28:53,650 --> 01:28:56,650
a cancer, probably in the
organization because I had one
1673
01:28:56,710 --> 01:29:00,120
foot out the door, and he
basically said, "Look, you know,
1674
01:29:00,120 --> 01:29:06,090
I need you to kind of be better
at not expressing your disdain
1675
01:29:07,200 --> 01:29:12,900
for the industry and what you're
doing, or leave. And I said, I
1676
01:29:12,930 --> 01:29:18,090
appreciate that. I think I think
I'm going to leave, and I left.
1677
01:29:18,390 --> 01:29:22,430
Well, okay, so I was hesitating
in bringing that up, but um, and
1678
01:29:24,290 --> 01:29:27,020
so this was back in 2014, I
1679
01:29:27,530 --> 01:29:27,680
believe,
1680
01:29:28,250 --> 01:29:33,140
2014 15. When I was a, I was a
counter guy for a small
1681
01:29:33,200 --> 01:29:40,190
independent supply house, and
this was around the time that we
1682
01:29:41,210 --> 01:29:47,650
got this new person in office,
and I was in a different
1683
01:29:47,650 --> 01:29:52,690
direction. And man, it was just
so discouraging. I mean, I don't
1684
01:29:52,690 --> 01:29:55,030
want to turn this into a
political conversation, but it
1685
01:29:56,680 --> 01:29:58,810
was hard for me. And I would
consider myself young and naive
1686
01:29:58,930 --> 01:30:04,080
back then, like just. Hearing
every day people that would come
1687
01:30:04,140 --> 01:30:09,000
in and get their coffee, and
they-it was tough. It was
1688
01:30:09,090 --> 01:30:13,410
really, really tough. And then
I, it affected my work a lot too
1689
01:30:13,470 --> 01:30:19,110
because I would have to hear it.
And when they, when he said this
1690
01:30:19,230 --> 01:30:24,740
thing about Mexicans, and I was
just like, ah, being Latino that
1691
01:30:24,740 --> 01:30:27,110
was kind of hard. And but maybe
I just took that way too.
1692
01:30:27,290 --> 01:30:29,000
Looking back, I think I just
took that way too personally,
1693
01:30:29,390 --> 01:30:34,550
and it was a part of something
that I held too much as an
1694
01:30:34,640 --> 01:30:38,150
identity. But anyway, what I'm
saying is that that really,
1695
01:30:38,240 --> 01:30:41,170
really affected me, and I that's
kind of where it got me
1696
01:30:41,290 --> 01:30:43,840
discouraged. I don't want to do
this anymore if I'm going to be
1697
01:30:43,960 --> 01:30:48,670
surrounded by people like that.
And I mean, over time, I think
1698
01:30:49,390 --> 01:30:52,300
it shifted a little bit. Like
it's it's as far as like how I
1699
01:30:52,990 --> 01:30:55,360
handle myself and how I present
myself. I don't have to agree
1700
01:30:55,390 --> 01:30:57,490
with everything you say, but
like I mean, I I can't. I do
1701
01:30:57,610 --> 01:31:02,040
have control of how I present
myself and how I contain myself,
1702
01:31:02,130 --> 01:31:06,420
and so yeah, I mean that is I
almost left the electrical
1703
01:31:06,420 --> 01:31:08,910
distribution the industry
because of that. No,
1704
01:31:09,809 --> 01:31:13,019
there was one thing like the car
business was the college for me,
1705
01:31:14,309 --> 01:31:16,889
and I learned so much in that
business. One of the things was
1706
01:31:17,129 --> 01:31:19,169
you know exactly what you were
talking about. You said the key
1707
01:31:19,349 --> 01:31:24,409
word, guy. I concentrate on what
I can control. You know, you
1708
01:31:24,499 --> 01:31:30,559
can't. I had a podcast client
that was politically opposed to
1709
01:31:30,829 --> 01:31:35,179
what I believe, but I still love
her. I still talk to her today.
1710
01:31:35,779 --> 01:31:37,609
Yeah, I don't agree with her
politically. You know, at the
1711
01:31:37,729 --> 01:31:42,909
time that you know Trump was
elected again in 2024, she came
1712
01:31:42,999 --> 01:31:45,399
in. The first thing she said
was, "I hope you know what
1713
01:31:45,429 --> 01:31:48,789
you're getting into. I'm like,
"You don't even know who I voted
1714
01:31:48,879 --> 01:31:53,979
for. Yeah, this is how vague
I've been. Okay, but yes, it's
1715
01:31:54,099 --> 01:31:56,259
obvious that you and I are
politically opposed. I said,
1716
01:31:56,259 --> 01:31:58,989
"But that doesn't mean we can't
get along. We need to start
1717
01:31:59,049 --> 01:32:01,259
having empathy for each other.
This is where the country needs
1718
01:32:01,289 --> 01:32:05,009
to go, and I have control to
embrace you. Yeah, I said, but
1719
01:32:05,069 --> 01:32:07,529
you know, at the same time, I
will say, what happened to all
1720
01:32:07,559 --> 01:32:08,759
your voters? But that's a whole
other
1721
01:32:09,840 --> 01:32:13,050
point. I mean, isn't that kind
of what separates us from from
1722
01:32:13,500 --> 01:32:16,350
animals?
You know, like we were
actually able to sit down and
1723
01:32:16,350 --> 01:32:18,450
have a conversation. Yeah, I
think that's what makes this
1724
01:32:18,480 --> 01:32:21,380
country so great too. And I'm
just, you know, I learned that a
1725
01:32:21,380 --> 01:32:25,730
little bit later because I was
just so bitter. Like I don't
1726
01:32:25,730 --> 01:32:27,800
want to. I didn't want to have a
conversation with somebody who
1727
01:32:28,430 --> 01:32:32,300
who had different different
point of view that I had. But we
1728
01:32:32,630 --> 01:32:39,770
mentioned Mike. Mike Harris. I
he he had a great perspective on
1729
01:32:39,830 --> 01:32:43,720
life, and he and I were at that
time. I was a dumb liberal kid,
1730
01:32:44,350 --> 01:32:48,700
but he was a very conservative
Republican. Yeah. But he said a
1731
01:32:48,730 --> 01:32:51,250
lot of things that make a lot of
sense to me, and I was able to
1732
01:32:51,310 --> 01:32:55,180
sort of shape my views from him.
I mean, I do give him a lot of
1733
01:32:55,210 --> 01:32:58,720
credit. I would listen a lot of
things. I'm like, well, I at the
1734
01:32:58,750 --> 01:33:01,680
end of the day never looked at
it that way. Right, and then
1735
01:33:04,620 --> 01:33:06,720
yeah, I guess I from that point
I kind of stopped surrounding
1736
01:33:06,750 --> 01:33:09,210
myself with people that are just
like super negative or very
1737
01:33:09,300 --> 01:33:13,560
one-sided and are not willing to
have a conversation. And amazing
1738
01:33:13,650 --> 01:33:13,800
when
1739
01:33:13,830 --> 01:33:14,790
that happens. It's amazing
1740
01:33:14,940 --> 01:33:18,570
what you can accomplish. Yeah, I
wish we can go back to that as a
1741
01:33:18,570 --> 01:33:18,990
society.
1742
01:33:19,920 --> 01:33:22,160
We're we're getting back to it.
The book, the book over my
1743
01:33:22,310 --> 01:33:25,310
shoulder. I always point to
Pendulum. It it actually
1744
01:33:25,430 --> 01:33:29,240
outlines everything that we're
going through with eerie timing,
1745
01:33:29,960 --> 01:33:32,540
like where we're we're supposed
to be right where we are right
1746
01:33:32,600 --> 01:33:32,660
now.
1747
01:33:32,900 --> 01:33:34,220
Is it Pendulum or Pendulum?
1748
01:33:34,280 --> 01:33:34,730
Pendulum.
1749
01:33:35,150 --> 01:33:36,620
This one, right? This this
1750
01:33:36,710 --> 01:33:37,190
book right here.
1751
01:33:37,430 --> 01:33:37,550
Okay,
1752
01:33:38,600 --> 01:33:40,630
and it basically talks about
everything we're going through.
1753
01:33:40,780 --> 01:33:44,740
It goes back 3000 years with
patterns of societal attitudes
1754
01:33:44,770 --> 01:33:48,910
and things of that nature. We're
right on schedule with how
1755
01:33:49,090 --> 01:33:52,360
things are, and it's actually
the darkest swing point of the
1756
01:33:52,390 --> 01:33:56,440
pendulum that we just went
through. So every 80 years, we
1757
01:33:56,560 --> 01:33:59,920
go through something that's
really dark, and typically ends
1758
01:34:00,040 --> 01:34:03,780
up in a bloody reset. So, 80
years ago was World War II.
1759
01:34:03,960 --> 01:34:06,570
Before that was the Civil War.
Before that was Revolutionary
1760
01:34:06,630 --> 01:34:10,230
War. At least here in the you
know Western side of things. But
1761
01:34:10,260 --> 01:34:15,390
it's almost like clockwork
because generations dictate how
1762
01:34:15,570 --> 01:34:18,420
we kind of look at life. You
know, Vietnam went the way it
1763
01:34:18,480 --> 01:34:21,290
did because of the juxtaposition
of the attitudes of the
1764
01:34:21,350 --> 01:34:24,050
generations. You had a lot of
people who served in World War
1765
01:34:24,260 --> 01:34:28,730
II who had national pride and
honor, and and we we defeated
1766
01:34:28,730 --> 01:34:31,580
the bad guys and the Nazis and
the Japanese and blah blah blah.
1767
01:34:33,080 --> 01:34:39,710
That turned into cynicism in 20
years because, well, why are we
1768
01:34:39,830 --> 01:34:42,730
getting involved with Vietnam,
we didn't know why. It's like
1769
01:34:42,730 --> 01:34:47,170
the Ukraines and the Russians. I
think a lot of the Russians had
1770
01:34:47,230 --> 01:34:50,380
a run for their money in these
recent skirmishes that they've
1771
01:34:50,470 --> 01:34:54,040
had, battles and war and stuff
like that. Because a lot of the
1772
01:34:54,100 --> 01:34:57,310
Russians are going, why are we
doing this again? I honestly
1773
01:34:57,400 --> 01:35:01,470
think that's a big part of it.
Like we're Putin. Wants this? I
1774
01:35:01,530 --> 01:35:03,300
don't get why we're doing this.
Why are we going after our
1775
01:35:03,360 --> 01:35:06,120
neighbors? I'll do it because
that's what I'm told to do.
1776
01:35:07,320 --> 01:35:08,520
World War II, we knew why.
1777
01:35:09,330 --> 01:35:09,390
Yeah,
1778
01:35:10,350 --> 01:35:13,740
that's what united the entire
thing. Vietnam guys were going
1779
01:35:13,770 --> 01:35:17,760
over there, is going, why are we
doing this again? Why are we
1780
01:35:17,820 --> 01:35:21,380
losing 55,000 people, and then
coming home to get you know
1781
01:35:21,710 --> 01:35:23,930
being called baby killers and
having fruit thrown at us as
1782
01:35:23,960 --> 01:35:27,350
we're walking off the plane, why
am I doing this? Because you
1783
01:35:27,350 --> 01:35:30,020
were drafted, you know, people
had to be drafted into it,
1784
01:35:30,110 --> 01:35:32,990
forced to do it. So there was
you know a lot of these things
1785
01:35:33,050 --> 01:35:36,590
kind of flip flop throughout
history, and typically around
1786
01:35:36,590 --> 01:35:40,540
that 80 year mark where we are,
we have a calamity. So sort of
1787
01:35:40,690 --> 01:35:43,030
you know everyone's talking
about civil war and you've got
1788
01:35:43,240 --> 01:35:48,070
all these nuances, all these
concepts, left versus right, men
1789
01:35:48,190 -->
01:35:52,510
versus female. You know what is
a woman? You know trans men in
1790
01:35:52,600 --> 01:35:57,460
sport. Every which way they can
divide is happening right now,
1791
01:35:57,820 --> 01:35:58,090
man.
1792
01:35:58,720 --> 01:36:00,900
But the one thing they're not
talking about, they're kind of
1793
01:36:00,930 --> 01:36:03,300
talking about it, and I love the
fact that the property tax
1794
01:36:03,360 --> 01:36:05,580
argument's gaining traction in
Florida because that could
1795
01:36:05,610 --> 01:36:09,000
spread like wildfire like that.
The next conversation to have is
1796
01:36:09,000 --> 01:36:12,360
the IRS and federal income
taxes, and I want that to happen
1797
01:36:12,450 --> 01:36:16,470
because they got it. Stop them!
That's one thing we can all
1798
01:36:16,620 --> 01:36:21,650
unite around. That is something
that we can all get behind and
1799
01:36:21,860 --> 01:36:25,940
unite and and just be like shut
down the flipping IRS and end
1800
01:36:26,090 --> 01:36:29,600
the federal income tax
permanently. Nobody ever wants
1801
01:36:29,660 --> 01:36:31,580
to do it because they don't know
how. They don't know how to
1802
01:36:31,670 --> 01:36:34,220
rally. Well, how are we going to
fund the government? I don't
1803
01:36:34,340 --> 01:36:38,150
care. When we have enough money
to send billions of dollars to
1804
01:36:38,150 --> 01:36:43,870
come to other countries, we're
being taxed too much. I think
1805
01:36:43,990 --> 01:36:44,620
that's my rant.
1806
01:36:46,360 --> 01:36:49,540
I think at this point, jeez, I'm
actually having a
1807
01:36:49,630 --> 01:36:51,250
vein pop out in my head. My
gosh,
1808
01:36:51,460 --> 01:36:55,690
I see it now. You have two. I
think I don't know. I think
1809
01:36:56,050 --> 01:36:57,610
we're just so desensitized now,
and
1810
01:36:58,600 --> 01:37:01,110
well, we got to reverse that
because we're okay with too much
1811
01:37:01,260 --> 01:37:06,870
bullshit. We are okay with being
taxed to the hilt. There's, you
1812
01:37:06,900 --> 01:37:09,450
know, what my income is
government noneya. It's none of
1813
01:37:09,510 --> 01:37:13,470
your business. None of your
business is how much how much I
1814
01:37:13,560 --> 01:37:15,630
make. That's the way it should
be. That's the way the
1815
01:37:15,750 --> 01:37:18,540
forefathers wanted it, and
that's where we need to get back
1816
01:37:18,630 --> 01:37:21,500
get back to. But nobody talks
about that because that's a
1817
01:37:21,590 --> 01:37:25,700
uniting thing. We can all agree
on that, for the most part.
1818
01:37:26,060 --> 01:37:28,700
Yeah, I mean, isn't that the
goal? I mean, do we want to be
1819
01:37:28,760 --> 01:37:32,840
united or do we not, or do we
want to have a purpose by
1820
01:37:33,740 --> 01:37:38,270
dividing because it feeds our
ego or feeds our our identity?
1821
01:37:38,600 --> 01:37:40,670
The more you divide, the more
controllable you are.
1822
01:37:40,820 --> 01:37:43,120
And once you agree, you see that
on both sides. It's just yeah,
1823
01:37:43,210 --> 01:37:45,250
they don't want peace. I mean,
because it's like everything
1824
01:37:45,370 --> 01:37:47,830
that they've built their
character on. Like you know, I
1825
01:37:48,070 --> 01:37:52,420
this is me. I voted red, and
this is me. I voted blue. I I
1826
01:37:53,140 --> 01:37:58,150
had different pronouns, so I use
this as my shield. And I don't
1827
01:37:58,180 --> 01:37:58,810
know, like what's the
1828
01:37:59,320 --> 01:38:04,530
they're inconsequential tertiary
concepts that really have no
1829
01:38:04,770 --> 01:38:05,250
bearing. That was a
1830
01:38:05,370 --> 01:38:06,330
big word, Jim.
1831
01:38:07,080 --> 01:38:11,640
They have no bearing on what
really happens and how it
1832
01:38:11,640 --> 01:38:16,530
affects us. But yet, nobody ever
makes the equation that for
1833
01:38:16,860 --> 01:38:20,180
three months to six months out
of the year, you work for the
1834
01:38:20,300 --> 01:38:26,510
government, ever think about it
that way? That really pisses
1835
01:38:26,630 --> 01:38:29,660
people off. Oh, I never thought
about it that way. How much of
1836
01:38:29,720 --> 01:38:32,450
every dollar you make has to go
to their freaking pockets? Oh,
1837
01:38:32,630 --> 01:38:38,660
by the way, you have to prove it
to them, and you're guilty until
1838
01:38:38,780 --> 01:38:42,940
proven innocent. Because if they
come to your door, what happens?
1839
01:38:43,930 --> 01:38:46,480
You get a letter from the IRS.
Your heart jumps into your
1840
01:38:46,570 --> 01:38:49,540
throat. What the crap? Why am I?
Why are they sending me a
1841
01:38:49,600 --> 01:38:51,430
letter? It's never for anything
good.
1842
01:38:52,270 --> 01:38:52,330
Yeah.
1843
01:38:54,070 --> 01:38:57,250
Am I right or wrong? Nobody gets
pissed off enough about that.
1844
01:38:57,730 --> 01:38:58,210
No. Because
1845
01:38:58,210 --> 01:39:02,550
they're all afraid. That's how
we're controlled. How do we get
1846
01:39:02,610 --> 01:39:03,240
on this tangent?
1847
01:39:03,600 --> 01:39:07,020
I don't know, Jim. I was. I
mean, you can either choose
1848
01:39:07,110 --> 01:39:09,480
leave it in or cut it out. I
don't care. I always leave it
1849
01:39:09,480 --> 01:39:09,540
on.
1850
01:39:10,020 --> 01:39:10,590
Well, I mean, as
1851
01:39:10,650 --> 01:39:19,170
far as like composure goes, you
know, it's about how you react.
1852
01:39:22,800 --> 01:39:24,680
I'm just gonna yeah say this
right now I'm kind of going
1853
01:39:24,710 --> 01:39:27,350
through that with my son like
with a
1854
01:39:27,560 --> 01:39:27,860
how old is
1855
01:39:28,610 --> 01:39:32,930
he? He's he's nine he's nine
years old, and one day he told
1856
01:39:32,960 --> 01:39:39,260
me, "Daddy, I'm a they them. I'm
like, I know what it meant, but
1857
01:39:39,290 --> 01:39:41,410
like he's like, well, what does
that mean? I'm
like, oh well,
1858
01:39:41,470 --> 01:39:46,000
like I don't. I'm not a boy or a
girl. I'm a, I, I'm, I'm either
1859
01:39:46,150 --> 01:39:50,980
or. I'm like, well, son, why do
you? Why did you say that? Why,
1860
01:39:51,070 --> 01:39:53,200
what makes? I mean, again, like,
what makes you think that? I
1861
01:39:53,680 --> 01:39:57,160
mean, well, I like to, I like to
wear nightgowns. I like to paint
1862
01:39:57,220 --> 01:40:02,070
my nails, and like. Well, your
son, you're just experimenting.
1863
01:40:02,130 --> 01:40:06,480
That's fine, you know. I mean, I
used to grab my mom's makeup and
1864
01:40:06,720 --> 01:40:10,470
make Kiss paint my face look
like Kiss. You know what I mean?
1865
01:40:10,530 --> 01:40:12,360
Like, you know, I was
experimenting. You know, like
1866
01:40:12,390 --> 01:40:15,420
that's nothing wrong with that.
You doesn't have to. You don't
1867
01:40:15,420 --> 01:40:18,690
have to put a label on it. And I
just think that this just, I
1868
01:40:18,780 --> 01:40:21,110
don't know. We just seek too too
much comfort in labels.
1869
01:40:21,650 --> 01:40:28,100
Well, I think a lot of it's it's
the world. The world's going to
1870
01:40:28,160 --> 01:40:31,310
speak into your kids' lives,
whether you like it or not.
1871
01:40:31,580 --> 01:40:31,640
Yeah,
1872
01:40:32,000 --> 01:40:33,710
they're going to find a way. If
you tell them not to do
1873
01:40:33,860 --> 01:40:36,560
something, they're going to find
a way to do it anyway. So our
1874
01:40:36,650 --> 01:40:39,890
biggest thing with our kids is
communication, open lines of
1875
01:40:39,920 --> 01:40:42,820
communication, knowing that they
could talk to one or both of us
1876
01:40:43,600 --> 01:40:47,620
without any repercussions, that
it's going to be a conversation.
1877
01:40:48,070 --> 01:40:50,560
Look, we get it, your kids,
you're going to mess up. Doesn't
1878
01:40:50,560 --> 01:40:52,480
mean you're not going to be
without consequence or
1879
01:40:52,480 --> 01:40:54,910
accountability. Yeah, but we
could talk through these things
1880
01:40:56,020 --> 01:40:59,590
for your son who's nine and be
like, I think identifying what
1881
01:40:59,650 --> 01:41:02,850
you're hearing from the world
versus what you're hearing from
1882
01:41:03,180 --> 01:41:05,520
us, a big thing, and I learned
this from a friend of mine who
1883
01:41:06,330 --> 01:41:09,000
he's got a nonprofit called
Stronger Than My Father, and
1884
01:41:09,000 --> 01:41:12,060
when his kids kind of go and
echo things that they hear from
1885
01:41:12,150 --> 01:41:16,920
it, he uses, "Hey, well, you
didn't learn that from us, and
1886
01:41:16,920 --> 01:41:19,290
he really, you know, especially
as they get older in the teenage
1887
01:41:19,440 --> 01:41:21,470
years and they're more
susceptible for influence and
1888
01:41:21,500 --> 01:41:26,630
stuff like that. Audit where
you're marinating your mind, and
1889
01:41:26,630 --> 01:41:28,940
that's one of the things that my
kids have heard me say as a
1890
01:41:29,000 --> 01:41:31,640
concept: marinating your mind
and good stuff. Since I was
1891
01:41:31,880 --> 01:41:34,730
self-employed, essentially, and
they used to make fun of me for
1892
01:41:34,940 --> 01:41:37,670
it. Oh, marinating my mind! I
said, well, you know. And
1893
01:41:37,730 --> 01:41:39,650
Courtney, my wife, would point
out, she's like, but they're
1894
01:41:39,770 --> 01:41:42,670
repeating it. They're the
concept is there. The seeds are
1895
01:41:42,730 --> 01:41:44,470
planted. They're going to
understand what it means to
1896
01:41:44,530 --> 01:41:47,740
marinate their mind. You can
choose to marinate your mind in
1897
01:41:47,800 --> 01:41:53,590
what the world's telling you, or
listen to your inner voice, Holy
1898
01:41:53,680 --> 01:41:57,100
Spirit, if you will, or however
you're. There's there's
1899
01:41:57,190 --> 01:41:59,500
something in our gut feelings
that there's something wrong
1900
01:41:59,620 --> 01:42:05,640
with this. Okay, the world tells
us one thing, but intrinsically
1901
01:42:06,120 --> 01:42:09,870
we know there's something off.
So, son, you can either listen
1902
01:42:09,870 --> 01:42:12,480
to the world; you have that
choice, or you can listen to
1903
01:42:12,510 --> 01:42:15,270
what your gut's telling you, or
you can learn from what your mom
1904
01:42:15,330 --> 01:42:18,360
and dad are telling you because
you're still nine years old and
1905
01:42:18,420 --> 01:42:23,360
still, dare I say, programmable
at that point, that's the world
1906
01:42:23,720 --> 01:42:25,790
getting past the defenses.
1907
01:42:26,630 --> 01:42:29,870
Yeah. Well, thank you for
listening, Jim. That was kind of
1908
01:42:29,900 --> 01:42:31,880
like a yeah. That's something
I'm kind of struggling with
1909
01:42:31,940 --> 01:42:35,390
right now. That's you're not
alone. It's it's not just that
1910
01:42:35,720 --> 01:42:39,740
the pronouns. It's not just
that. I mean, it's just it's
1911
01:42:39,770 --> 01:42:46,030
just the fact that it's forced,
and I just want my son to have
1912
01:42:46,090 --> 01:42:46,660
accountability.
1913
01:42:47,170 --> 01:42:49,150
Just probably want your son to
have a good, fun childhood.
1914
01:42:49,960 --> 01:42:53,620
Be just be a normal boy. No, I
mean I don't know. I think I
1915
01:42:53,620 --> 01:42:55,750
don't want to use the word
normal, but like just like you
1916
01:42:55,750 --> 01:42:55,810
know,
1917
01:42:55,930 --> 01:42:57,100
just be a just be a kid. Be
1918
01:42:57,340 --> 01:43:00,040
a kid. This is too heavy of a
concept for you to consider
1919
01:43:00,129 --> 01:43:00,369
right now.
1920
01:43:00,820 --> 01:43:00,970
And
1921
01:43:01,840 --> 01:43:03,750
and even telling them, look,
dude, you're nine. You have no
1922
01:43:03,930 --> 01:43:06,930
idea what's freaking up and down
right now. You have no idea.
1923
01:43:07,770 -->
01:43:11,910
These concepts are completely
way out of your purview. You
1924
01:43:11,940 --> 01:43:14,430
know what you think you know
versus what is reality are two
1925
01:43:14,520 --> 01:43:17,880
entirely different things. Okay,
if anybody else is in your
1926
01:43:17,940 --> 01:43:19,830
school telling you this, I want
to know about it.
1927
01:43:20,040 --> 01:43:20,120
Yeah,
1928
01:43:20,480 --> 01:43:24,500
you know, there's a lot of, and
you know, I'm probably showing
1929
01:43:24,530 --> 01:43:26,540
my hand, but just by having this
conversation, but I don't really
1930
01:43:26,600 --> 01:43:29,210
care because it needs to be
said, my kids are at the point,
1931
01:43:29,240 --> 01:43:32,930
like again, per the pendulum.
What started out 20 some odd
1932
01:43:33,020 --> 01:43:35,570
years ago in the tipping point
of a pendulum seems like a good
1933
01:43:35,630 --> 01:43:38,900
idea, but when we come to the
zeniths of the swing and the
1934
01:43:38,930 --> 01:43:42,520
pendulum swings, a good idea
gone too far, and that's where
1935
01:43:42,580 --> 01:43:44,740
we are right now. Doesn't
everything seem like
1936
01:43:44,830 --> 01:43:47,050
everything's gone too far?
Right?
1937
01:43:48,970 --> 01:43:51,520
It feels like a fight fire with
fire society.
1938
01:43:51,970 --> 01:43:52,030
Yeah.
1939
01:43:52,480 --> 01:43:53,320
Ah, I am
1940
01:43:53,620 --> 01:43:56,080
like the concepts of what we're
talking about. Well, I'm you
1941
01:43:56,110 --> 01:43:58,840
know I'm a man and I want to be
playing women's sports. Okay.
1942
01:43:59,110 --> 01:44:02,790
What? Wait, what? You know what
I mean? That's that's the kind
1943
01:44:02,790 --> 01:44:05,760
of thing. Like that's taking a
concept too far. Like, well, you
1944
01:44:05,790 --> 01:44:09,180
just got to be okay with it. No,
I don't. No, I. You know, and
1945
01:44:09,180 --> 01:44:12,900
that this the the when you have
these types of conversations in
1946
01:44:13,020 --> 01:44:19,860
the world, my even my own kids
are starting to see the
1947
01:44:20,040 --> 01:44:22,760
ludicrousness of what we're
dealing with in the world.
1948
01:44:23,780 --> 01:44:26,090
So you have hope that it'll
sort. It'll come back around the
1949
01:44:26,180 --> 01:44:26,570
pendulum.
1950
01:44:26,810 --> 01:44:27,440
The pendulum. The
1951
01:44:27,440 --> 01:44:31,190
pendulum. You know, even they're
starting to see. You know, my
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01:44:32,900 --> 01:44:39,680
dare I say, liberally minded
college attending daughter had a
1953
01:44:39,830 --> 01:44:45,130
recent Interaction with her
quote friends of the same
1954
01:44:45,460 --> 01:44:49,510
political bent that was
unsavoring, and her one
1955
01:44:49,600 --> 01:44:53,620
conservative friend, who's like
a cherished friend, is like you
1956
01:44:53,650 --> 01:44:58,870
know she's starting to realize
oh I'm starting to get it, and
1957
01:44:58,900 --> 01:45:02,700
it just. Sometimes just got
to
let it play out and have faith.
1958
01:45:03,090 --> 01:45:05,670
Yeah, I used to use the saying
all. I mean, I was really
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01:45:05,760 --> 01:45:09,150
liberal until liberals ruined it
for me. I'm sure people who are
1960
01:45:09,450 --> 01:45:13,860
conservative too say the same
thing. I was conservative. Well,
1961
01:45:14,040 --> 01:45:18,270
I mean, with what I do, I depend
on a good. You got to have a
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01:45:18,300 --> 01:45:20,900
good economy to like survive in
what I do because people got to
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01:45:20,990 --> 01:45:25,220
build, people have to. We
anyway.
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I know.
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Yeah, I mean, I'm not a. I am. I
have not. I. I don't know what's
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going on, Jim. I'm. I'm not
going to speak on politics. Like
1967
01:45:33,620 --> 01:45:37,610
I don't know what's going on. I
chose to, like, find peace in my
1968
01:45:37,700 --> 01:45:41,080
life in other ways. But I think
this will kind of come back
1969
01:45:41,200 --> 01:45:46,720
around. What I do understand is
behavior. Yeah, I can understand
1970
01:45:46,750 --> 01:45:52,240
that. That makes sense to me. I
think you know anyone can do
1971
01:45:52,330 --> 01:45:55,240
that. There's nothing
significant, but like, and I
1972
01:45:55,270 --> 01:45:58,390
think kind of kind of goes back
to the home, you know, in your
1973
01:45:58,480 --> 01:46:02,340
childhood. Like, I mean, I
remember we were poor. We didn't
1974
01:46:02,370 --> 01:46:05,910
have a lot. We, but we we didn't
know that though. We were just
1975
01:46:05,940 --> 01:46:09,510
having fun. I mean, like, oh,
you know, mom was making a
1976
01:46:09,750 --> 01:46:12,150
hamburger helper. Yeah, I love
hamburger helper. You know,
1977
01:46:12,780 --> 01:46:16,830
yeah, we had a good child. We
got we got fed, and we we didn't
1978
01:46:16,980 --> 01:46:22,280
know what was going on because I
think you know our parents. They
1979
01:46:23,090 --> 01:46:25,070
they've they didn't throw it at
you. They they didn't they
1980
01:46:25,130 --> 01:46:27,920
didn't unleash their stresses of
every day. I mean, like it's
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01:46:28,010 --> 01:46:32,360
your job to make your kids feel
safe. Right. And then all of a
1982
01:46:32,450 --> 01:46:35,780
sudden, we started you know a
quality of life has changed a
1983
01:46:35,810 --> 01:46:38,060
little bit. We started having
things. We started doing little
1984
01:46:38,150 --> 01:46:45,340
things, and you just appreciate
it. And just So, yeah, I'm.
1985
01:46:45,820 --> 01:46:49,840
There was something to that, and
I'm. I think I just got lost on
1986
01:46:49,870 --> 01:46:50,950
that, Jim. I apologize. Are you
1987
01:46:50,980 --> 01:46:51,100
good?
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01:46:51,610 --> 01:46:51,670
Yeah,
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01:46:52,210 --> 01:46:56,890
I think what you're trying to
say is the fact that not not
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01:46:56,980 --> 01:47:00,250
blissful ignorance, but you just
were happy with your situation
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01:47:00,280 --> 01:47:03,690
growing up, and then more
exposure to the world can be
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01:47:04,650 --> 01:47:09,450
typically a tough adjustment if
you don't have good foundation.
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01:47:10,170 --> 01:47:10,230
Yeah,
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01:47:12,090 --> 01:47:15,090
you know, biblical to say, you
know, I'm on this on this rock.
1995
01:47:15,120 --> 01:47:15,990
I shall build my church.
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01:47:17,010 --> 01:47:17,070
He
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01:47:17,160 --> 01:47:19,950
built it on a rock for a reason,
okay? Because it's got stable
1998
01:47:20,010 --> 01:47:22,430
foundation. You build your house
on sand. What's going to happen?
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01:47:22,430 --> 01:47:25,880
It's going to fall down. So,
having those foundations, having
2000
01:47:28,490 --> 01:47:33,620
harbors to kind of be able to go
to, and having an anchor that
2001
01:47:33,710 --> 01:47:37,070
holds you tight in the storm
when storms happen is important.
2002
01:47:37,280 --> 01:47:42,580
And a lot of people, I think,
are lacking that these days. And
2003
01:47:42,910 --> 01:47:46,030
a lot of it to me comes down to
faith. You know, I'm a believer,
2004
01:47:46,240 --> 01:47:49,300
not a perfect one by any stretch
of the imagination, but I know
2005
01:47:49,540 --> 01:47:55,930
what the truth is, if that makes
sense. And that's that's my
2006
01:47:56,050 --> 01:47:59,470
anchor. You know, at the end of
the, you know, at the end of all
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01:47:59,560 --> 01:47:59,680
this,
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01:48:00,730 --> 01:48:00,790
yeah,
2009
01:48:01,300 --> 01:48:04,350
I know who wins and who loses.
Okay, and a lot of these things
2010
01:48:04,410 --> 01:48:08,310
are starting to come to light.
You know, I'll control what I
2011
01:48:08,370 --> 01:48:11,550
can control. If I can convince
somebody to not pay their taxes
2012
01:48:11,610 --> 01:48:15,030
or fricking not file or or claim
as many dependents as possible
2013
01:48:15,090 --> 01:48:18,540
and flip off the government,
then great. I think that should
2014
01:48:18,570 --> 01:48:22,310
happen. All right, Institute a
national sales tax. I'm good
2015
01:48:22,340 --> 01:48:25,520
with that. Fair tax, beautiful.
I don't want to have to be, you
2016
01:48:25,550 --> 01:48:30,380
know, reconciling to the some
alphabet agency. Tangent.
2017
01:48:31,280 --> 01:48:35,360
Yeah. I tell everybody it's your
world. I'm just passing through.
2018
01:48:35,480 --> 01:48:39,230
You're right. Yeah. Well,
anything else you want to talk
2019
01:48:39,290 --> 01:48:43,840
about or bring up? We've had a
multitude of topics. Yeah,
2020
01:48:44,470 --> 01:48:49,720
I mean, I'm nice and relaxed
now. Yeah. Anything else we want
2021
01:48:49,720 --> 01:48:51,550
to talk about? I would say,
2022
01:48:54,550 --> 01:48:54,730
hmm,
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01:48:58,900 --> 01:49:03,750
no to college if it makes sense,
if it makes sense, yeah, I
2024
01:49:03,840 --> 01:49:05,580
think. But I would never.
2025
01:49:06,450 -->
01:49:09,090
If some, if somebody else is
paying for it, yeah, and you
2026
01:49:09,180 --> 01:49:10,980
know why you're going, great.
2027
01:49:11,370 --> 01:49:17,610
Well, Ivy, my stepson, for an
example, he is in Missouri to. I
2028
01:49:17,700 --> 01:49:19,950
know he's gonna hate me for
saying this, but like, yeah,
2029
01:49:19,950 --> 01:49:22,550
well, he's studying acting, and
he's a good kid. I think he's
2030
01:49:22,610 --> 01:49:26,390
got his he's got things figured
out. But I remember telling him
2031
01:49:26,510 --> 01:49:31,430
like, well, instead of going
into debt for college to be a
2032
01:49:31,490 --> 01:49:33,860
Broadway actor, why don't you
just
2033
01:49:34,130 --> 01:49:34,610
go to Broadway?
2034
01:49:36,080 --> 01:49:38,210
Go to Broadway. No, well, no.
Now I was gonna say, like, why
2035
01:49:38,210 --> 01:49:42,700
don't you just invest maybe
$5,000.06, $6,000 on camera
2036
01:49:42,700 --> 01:49:45,010
equipment, lighting. Start
making your own films. Like,
2037
01:49:45,040 --> 01:49:47,320
start making, start doing things
like that. I mean, I think
2038
01:49:47,620 --> 01:49:50,800
that's a lot cheaper than going
into hundreds of 1000s of
2039
01:49:50,800 --> 01:49:53,200
dollars in debt. But anyway, I
could be off on that. But I
2040
01:49:53,230 --> 01:49:53,410
mean,
2041
01:49:53,950 --> 01:49:57,100
there are a lot of people that
are like the next generation
2042
01:49:57,190 --> 01:50:01,440
crop of actors and creatives.
They're all on Tik. You know
2043
01:50:01,560 --> 01:50:02,070
Instagram, self
2044
01:50:02,130 --> 01:50:02,610
monetize,
2045
01:50:02,940 --> 01:50:06,300
right? There's a there's a woman
named Manon Matthews. I think I
2046
01:50:06,360 --> 01:50:11,100
hope I'm saying Manan, but she
started out making vines back in
2047
01:50:11,190 --> 01:50:14,670
the day that were comedic. She
had a natural talent, and then
2048
01:50:14,940 --> 01:50:17,400
it's kind of evolved into what
it is now, and she's making a
2049
01:50:17,460 --> 01:50:19,800
living at it. And a lot of
people, you need to get the
2050
01:50:19,890 --> 01:50:22,340
Saturday Night Live, you you'd
be perfect for Saturday Night
2051
01:50:22,550 --> 01:50:24,320
Live, and she says I'd love to
be on it, but I don't need
2052
01:50:25,010 --> 01:50:25,340
it. So
2053
01:50:25,460 --> 01:50:27,500
she's got the leverage, you
know. I've already created this
2054
01:50:27,530 --> 01:50:30,530
thing for myself. It's paying my
bills. I don't need to be a
2055
01:50:30,560 --> 01:50:32,900
struggling actor. If they if
they'll have me, great, I'll do
2056
01:50:33,230 --> 01:50:33,440
it.
2057
01:50:33,500 --> 01:50:33,830
You know,
2058
01:50:34,250 --> 01:50:35,840
what doesn't mean I'm going to
stop everything else I'm doing.
2059
01:50:36,410 --> 01:50:38,720
What's one thing on your fee
that you just like? Oh my God,
2060
01:50:38,720 --> 01:50:41,230
that's just that's incredible,
and that required literally no
2061
01:50:41,350 --> 01:50:45,580
money to do, and it's just
interesting. Mine is is cooking,
2062
01:50:46,180 --> 01:50:52,120
is cooking meals. That is is a
reference to a movie scene, like
2063
01:50:52,270 --> 01:50:55,060
a Pulp Fiction, the burger
scene. Right. Then you got
2064
01:50:55,090 --> 01:50:59,260
somebody flipping a burger,
creating that big Kahuna burger.
2065
01:50:59,530 --> 01:50:59,590
Yeah.
2066
01:51:00,550 --> 01:51:02,880
While it's like I guess like a
dual screen, and then you have
2067
01:51:02,910 --> 01:51:04,560
that scene, and then you're
making the burger at the same
2068
01:51:04,650 --> 01:51:09,270
time. I love those, and you just
you just cook a recipe, and you
2069
01:51:09,300 --> 01:51:12,330
can just monetize on that. Like
those are fun. Those are just so
2070
01:51:12,420 --> 01:51:13,230
fun to watch. I have
2071
01:51:13,260 --> 01:51:15,570
a podcast that's been sitting on
a shelf for the past several
2072
01:51:15,630 --> 01:51:17,640
years now called Capes and
Hammers, and it's us just
2073
01:51:17,640 --> 01:51:21,770
talking about you know the DC
Marvel universe stuff and you
2074
01:51:21,800 --> 01:51:25,790
know, Avengers and stuff that I
you know kind of got into late
2075
01:51:25,820 --> 01:51:28,730
in life. That all of a sudden it
overtook like that was like a
2076
01:51:28,820 --> 01:51:32,030
hobby, and it was so much fun to
talk about all the different
2077
01:51:32,060 --> 01:51:35,120
nuanced plot lines and all the
detail work that went into these
2078
01:51:35,240 --> 01:51:38,750
movies, and how everybody in the
country in the world seemed to
2079
01:51:38,870 --> 01:51:40,780
fall in love with these
characters all over again
2080
01:51:41,590 --> 01:51:44,290
because of one little movie,
Iron Man, that started all the
2081
01:51:44,290 --> 01:51:48,610
whole thing, and it's like even
the the bobbing and weaving and
2082
01:51:49,030 --> 01:51:52,540
improvising that you know Kevin
Feige and all these guys that
2083
01:51:52,570 --> 01:51:56,440
were in charge had to figure out
in order to make you know a 23
2084
01:51:56,710 --> 01:52:02,040
movie saga that of of
awesomeness. You know, if you're
2085
01:52:02,070 --> 01:52:05,340
really into that, I I was never
in the comics growing up, but I
2086
01:52:05,520 --> 01:52:08,400
started a podcast talking about
it, dude. It's we haven't put
2087
01:52:08,460 --> 01:52:11,880
out an episode in years. It
still gets downloads. That's
2088
01:52:11,910 --> 01:52:13,860
something I should, you know, we
really need to revisit and
2089
01:52:13,920 --> 01:52:17,550
revive. But you're not wrong. I
mean, there's there's people on
2090
01:52:18,300 --> 01:52:20,100
the electricians on Instagram.
2091
01:52:20,520 --> 01:52:20,700
Yes,
2092
01:52:21,180 --> 01:52:21,620
right. Oh
2093
01:52:21,740 --> 01:52:21,800
yeah.
2094
01:52:22,010 --> 01:52:24,770
They'll set up a camera
up at a
tripod and do like a time lapse
2095
01:52:24,800 --> 01:52:27,350
of somebody dressing out a
freaking panel. That's
2096
01:52:27,740 --> 01:52:30,890
fascinating to watch. It's
really cool.
2097
01:52:31,220 --> 01:52:31,280
Yeah.
2098
01:52:31,550 --> 01:52:33,920
You know, especially all the
women that are getting into it.
2099
01:52:34,220 --> 01:52:38,420
Awesome. I love it. I love the
fact that you know women are
2100
01:52:38,510 --> 01:52:41,620
getting into playing the drums
because thank you, Annika from
2101
01:52:41,830 --> 01:52:44,980
Rush, and you know they're
getting into the trades.
2102
01:52:45,370 --> 01:52:45,460
Come
2103
01:52:46,300 --> 01:52:48,400
on, let's let's make it work. I
think it's great.
2104
01:52:49,390 --> 01:52:49,630
I love
2105
01:52:49,900 --> 01:52:51,970
it. And you know, women are
seeing that. Like, hey, I can do
2106
01:52:52,060 --> 01:52:56,440
this. Absolutely, you don't have
to go to college. Go to learn a
2107
01:52:56,500 --> 01:53:00,420
trade. Yeah, learn how to run
wire. Get dirty like the rest of
2108
01:53:01,920 --> 01:53:02,040
us,
2109
01:53:02,820 --> 01:53:07,410
you know, yeah, yeah, Jim. I
think that's all I had. Yeah, I
2110
01:53:07,500 --> 01:53:16,380
think why I why I love doing
what I do, it it's allowed me to
2111
01:53:17,070 --> 01:53:20,340
fill in the holes that I felt
like I was lacking in my in in
2112
01:53:21,120 --> 01:53:24,500
me growing up, I was able to
become a problem solver. I was
2113
01:53:24,530 --> 01:53:30,470
able to build relationships. I
was able to understand urgency,
2114
01:53:31,520 --> 01:53:37,880
and at the same time, learning
about a trade. Yeah, till this
2115
01:53:38,090 --> 01:53:41,440
till this day, I still love what
I do. I love I love the
2116
01:53:41,530 --> 01:53:45,580
connections I make, and I just
being able to bail somebody out
2117
01:53:45,640 --> 01:53:47,020
from a phone, like just a phone
call away,
2118
01:53:47,770 --> 01:53:47,950
buddy.
2119
01:53:48,520 --> 01:53:48,580
Yeah,
2120
01:53:48,880 --> 01:53:50,800
I'll leave you with this. My
brother once told me, he says,
2121
01:53:50,830 --> 01:53:53,050
if you're getting out of bed
every morning wondering why you
2122
01:53:53,080 --> 01:53:56,290
have to go do what you're going
to do again, and you're finding
2123
01:53:56,320 --> 01:53:58,570
it really tough to put two feet
on the floor from your bed,
2124
01:53:59,290 --> 01:54:01,680
that's not a good place to be.
Yeah, if you find yourself in a
2125
01:54:01,710 --> 01:54:03,780
situation like that, it is
incumbent upon you to figure
2126
01:54:03,870 --> 01:54:06,750
something out. You got to figure
something else out. That's no
2127
01:54:06,840 --> 01:54:10,500
way to go through life. So, if
you're getting out of bed with a
2128
01:54:10,590 --> 01:54:13,290
spring in your step, eager to
get to work, you're in a good
2129
01:54:13,320 --> 01:54:18,420
position. It's a balance, pros
and cons. As long as there's
2130
01:54:18,480 --> 01:54:18,900
more pros,
2131
01:54:21,900 --> 01:54:23,660
677.
2132
01:54:24,530 --> 01:54:27,590
With that being said, if you got
any value out of this particular
2133
01:54:27,650 --> 01:54:32,330
episode, as always, share it
out. mmtbp.com is a website to
2134
01:54:32,390 --> 01:54:34,670
go to. You can apply to be on
the show. You can do all sorts
2135
01:54:34,670 --> 01:54:37,730
of stuff. Download latest
episodes. Watch the episodes if
2136
01:54:37,760 --> 01:54:40,510
you want to watch these things.
Clips are there. All those fun
2137
01:54:40,570 --> 01:54:44,440
things. How can people find and
follow you, mr. Esteban? Are you
2138
01:54:44,470 --> 01:54:45,880
on social media doing anything?
2139
01:54:46,720 --> 01:54:47,170
Um, you
2140
01:54:47,230 --> 01:54:47,410
should be.
2141
01:54:47,770 --> 01:54:51,730
I am on LinkedIn, and I will
share that that name with Jim
2142
01:54:51,820 --> 01:54:52,960
after the after the episode.
2143
01:54:53,860 --> 01:54:56,140
The other aspect of this is
like, dude, you know how many
2144
01:54:56,230 --> 01:54:59,890
products can you can you review?
You can make a whole channel out
2145
01:54:59,890 --> 01:54:59,950
of.
2146
01:55:00,360 --> 01:55:04,230
You know what, Jim? I did. I
attempted that, and I made one
2147
01:55:04,230 --> 01:55:08,310
episode, and I never got back
into it. This is what I got out
2148
01:55:08,340 --> 01:55:10,860
of this. Is I'm going to start
doing that. I got to do more of
2149
01:55:10,890 --> 01:55:10,980
that.
2150
01:55:11,100 --> 01:55:12,870
You might you might be
overcomplicating it. We could
2151
01:55:12,900 --> 01:55:13,440
talk about that. Yeah,
2152
01:55:13,590 --> 01:55:13,710
yeah, yeah.
2153
01:55:14,520 --> 01:55:17,250
We'll unpack that after we're
done here. Anyway, guys, thanks
2154
01:55:17,250 --> 01:55:20,900
for listening. MMTBP.com. That
is the website where you can go
2155
01:55:20,930 --> 01:55:23,120
to
mostlymiddletennesseebusinesspodcast.com,
2156
01:55:23,120 --> 01:55:25,040
which is a lot longer to type.
It's up to you.
2157
01:55:25,520 --> 01:55:30,770
mmtbp.dmmtbp.com. I am Jim
McCarthy, your host. Esteban,
2158
01:55:30,860 --> 01:55:33,230
thanks for coming out, brothers.
is long overdue. Thank you so
2159
01:55:33,290 --> 01:55:34,040
much, Jim. I appreciate you.