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Hey friends, welcome to the make life matter podcast. I'm Angela Denadio and
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each week I share compelling conversations with the leading voices.
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They encourage us to ground our worth in the word instead of the narrative of the
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world. Together we'll make our lives matter no matter what. Here's this week's
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episode. Well, hey guys, welcome back to the podcast and happy summer. We are in
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the middle of summer right now with all the vacations, all the fun things you're
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doing. I hope you're having the best summer with your family. And I know at
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least for me some of my typical rhythms and routines and practices go a little
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haywire in the you know, visits to the beach and all the things and we
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understand that. But as we head toward the fall, I wanted to introduce you to a
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guest that may not be new to many of you. And I have known her for a few years.
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This is our first time to finally get to sit down one-on-one together. An
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Amber Cullum is the host of the top ranked Grace Enough podcast. She's a
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youth coordinator at her church and she's a leading voice among communicators.
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And one of the reasons I wanted to have Amber talk with us today is as we move
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toward the fall, I want us to look at practices of Sabbath and gratitude. And
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so she's going to help us embrace these practices so that we can experience a
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deeper relationship with Christ and more meaningful relationships with others.
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So Amber, welcome to the Make Life Matter podcast. I'm so excited and honored to
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finally have you here. Thank you, Angela, so much. It's good to be with you. We've
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talked about it for a while, but it's happening. Finally made it happen. So I
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know both of our schedules are full, but all the more reason that we have to
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intentionally think about and look for ways to practice these spiritual
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formation disciplines that we're going to talk about today. But before we do that,
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share a little bit about your ministry, Amber, and the Grace Enough podcast God
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has given you so much favor. It's such a needed podcast and you're such a welcome
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voice in our generation. So share a little bit about that and your ministry and
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then we'll kind of deep dive into some of these topics today. Yeah, thank you,
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Angela. Yeah, I've been podcasting at Grace Enough for five years now, which
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seems crazy to a little over 260 episodes in. And honestly, when I started
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podcasting, it was really because I was kind of in the throes of motherhood
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with little kids and I love to connect with people. And so it was a way for me
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to do that and still be at home. And what I found in that space is that I really
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do just genuinely enjoy podcasting. I don't, I'm not someone who podcasts in
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order to, you know, spread the message of my book or anything like that. I just
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love connecting with others, sharing their stories, their resources with people
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who maybe wouldn't have heard about them otherwise. And so that is the bulk of my
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ministry. And I've recently, you know, I prayed for a couple of years for God to
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open up more doors for speaking. And the interesting way that he did that was
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through stepping in at my church as a youth coordinator. While we search for a
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youth pastor and it's been, honestly, I was like, wait a minute, this is not,
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this is not what I was thinking. But it has been a joy. I mean, I just, I've
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led a small group of girls for several years. And so when that opportunity came
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up and I kind of stepped into it, it was just to keep the wills on the bus, but it
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has been really delightful to pour into their lives each and every week. So
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that's a little bit about me.
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I love that, Amber. Don't you love when God drops these surprises in our lap
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that we didn't even anticipate or seek, but sometimes it can be the most
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rewarding parts of our lives and ministries because he knows, you know,
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what we don't and he sees it. And I love that you're willing to give God your
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yes and step into that. You also have a great sense of humor, by the way, for
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those of you that haven't, you gotta go follow her on social media because she
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has these cute, like I'm going to mess up the name of an Amber because I just
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thought of it in the moment. But like these jokes that you share and funny
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moments, tell me the
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name because I know you probably have a tagline to it.
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Well, it's not, it's not really specific. It's not. It's just Christian joke of
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the week. And it's super like, like think dad jokes that take a few minutes to
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really fall fresh. And then a few minutes later, you're going, you know, that
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was kind of funny. And so it's all about just keeping it a little bit light and
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in light of some of the serious things that we do talk about on the show. So I
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love that balance. Yeah, I think we have to have a sense of humor, right? We have
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to. In fact, I think it's part of even spiritual formation and attitude, like if
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we're just serious all the time. I mean, there's a lot in scripture about
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laughing and laughter and joy, you know, the joy that really should be the
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hallmark of our lives. So I love that. Guys, you have to go follow her on
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Instagram. Thank you. It's a spiritual, it lifts my spirit. I can be in the middle
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of like so many things. And then I'm like, Oh, Amber's got a joke of the week. Do
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you write them all or do you find them different places? I find them. I wish I
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was someone who wrote all of that, but I do go searching for them and my kids are
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often like, Oh, later they'll love it. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Well, and it's like,
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listen, the more I embarrass you, the more I'm going to keep doing it. So that's
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how the fun right there is like, Hey, did I did I make my kids upset? So yeah,
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how are your kids, Amber? They're younger still, aren't they? Yeah. I mean, we're
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starting to inch short high school now. My oldest is 14. He's going into high
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school and then I have a 12 year old. She's a rising seventh grader and then
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I'm an eight year old. So wow. Yeah. Mine are grown. My ages of teenagers are gone.
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I've got a 21 and a 20. No, I should see how look at that. I mean, that's what
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happens though. I have a 24 and a 27 year old. So it goes so fast. It does. And
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when I feel like once they hit 21, you're like, I don't know, they're 20 something.
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It's kind of, I mean, that's so bad. But well, yeah, I am. I'm like, I don't remember
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what birthday I'm having. I, that exactly. I just celebrated a birthday and the 50
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some things, you know, that thing. So there's a point where you're like, but anyway,
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we celebrate life. We celebrate all things. So, but all that to say, I mean, as we're
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talking, you guys can hear like, Amber is a very full life. So she's a mom. She's in
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ministry. She's got a very high level podcast with high little guests, a lot of
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preparation for that. Her kids, three kids and a full life. So Amber, we can make a
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lot of excuses of why we don't have time for things like Sabbath, things like
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gratitude. Oh, I'm too busy. My life is this out of the third, you know, Bible reading,
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the basic disciplines. And we've talked a lot here on the podcast as a Bible teacher myself,
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you know, reading the Bible is, is just, it's, it's a non-negotiable, you know,
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not just reading, but understanding and applying and memorizing all of that. But
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I want to kind of lean a little more with Amber today about Sabbath guys and gratitude
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and how these are also crucial parts of our spiritual life. For one of my graduate courses
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that I just finished, I took on the topic of Sabbath for my Old Testament theology class.
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And so I was deep diving, Amber, in every possible scripture that mentions Sabbath
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with, throughout the Old Testament. Now, it wasn't allowed in that paper to reference the
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New Testament. It was an Old Testament theology class. So you can see the nuances of that.
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But, but the fact that it is continued to be talked about in the New Testament, now Jesus says,
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you know, I am the Sabbath. And so there's a whole concept of resting in Christ. And that's kind
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of what I want to lean into. So talk to me about what Sabbath means to you and what it looks like
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to you. Yeah, I mean, early on when we first started thinking about Sabbath as a family,
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it was pre COVID, which was I'm so thankful for now because it became really a glue for our family,
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a connection space. Even though we had tons of time to rest, it didn't freak us out as much. But
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I remember when I first started thinking about it, hearing and reading and understanding from
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some other teachers who also practice Sabbath and introduced it into their life. And one of the big
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things was, you know, in
Genesis, we see God, he's just creating and creating from chaos, right?
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Like that's how it's described. And then he hits that seventh day. And he sets it aside for rest.
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And it's easy to just kind of skip over that and wonder or not wonder about what was the purpose.
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But when you start thinking about it, God wasn't resting because he was tired. He was resting because
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he had completed a work. It was actually a part of celebration for him. And we see that as you go
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on through the Old Testament, that rest wasn't something to punish people or to take things away
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from them. But instead, it was actually to celebrate the finished work of God and to trust
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that he will provide for you. You don't have to constantly make it happen, as Dallas Willard says.
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And so that became something for us that was crucial because my husband was in the throes of
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really getting a business on the ground here in Raleigh. And I mean, he was just burning it at every
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end. And so that really breathed life into us. Like we can trust that God will provide when we stop.
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Yeah. So yeah, it's also it challenges our pride, Amber, to speak to what you're saying because it
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reminds us that this is not all about us and it's not all up to us. There's so much that we see in
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the Old Testament, like you mentioned, from Genesis throughout of themes of provision, themes of
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deliverance, reminding them that they came out of bondage, themes of salvation and where their
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true rest needs to be. And then when you move into the New Testament, you see that Jesus says,
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that Jesus says, listen, I am your Sabbath. So it's really this invitation to completely rest
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in him. One of the ways I began to look at it a little bit differently, Amber, is
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as you just said, rest is not a punishment. And it's not, it's also not this reward that we kind
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of dangle out like a carrot, like when I've done enough, then I'll rest. Well, that may never happen.
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You know, for some of us that are overachievers or whatever, you know, we just push rest further and
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further away. But talk about what it looks like and feels like when we lead from a posture of rest.
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In other words, I'm going to serve, I'm going to minister, I'm going to create, I'm going to
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communicate whatever we want to put in that blank from a place of rest, not rest being the reward of
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all of my work. Yeah, I mean, and that's interesting, right? Because we see God do the work and then
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he rests. Yeah. But the way that it's set up then in Jewish culture is, you know, Sabbath is actually
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it's at the end of the week, but it really was preparation for them to then go in and do
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the work the next week. So it was the ending, but it was also kind of the beginning. Yeah. And so I
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think for us in today's world in modern times, this, it permeates everything we do, that the harder
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we work and the more we put in, the reward is going to be more. Yet we see time and time again, that
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that actually is not what happens. There are times that people work themselves to death and their
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needs are barely met. And then there are times where people work in a healthy way and they
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explode. Like, I mean, their business just takes off. And so we can't say it's only this one way,
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right? Yeah. So when you decide, okay, I need to say, God, you are enough. Christ is enough for me.
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And you choose to slow down and say, you've said that Sabbath is a day set aside and that I am to
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keep it holy. Yeah. Then if I choose to practice that, I don't have to force everyone around me to
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do the same thing. I don't have to make it look like I'm just going to sit on my bottom all day
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and do absolutely nothing. And if I don't, I'm going to be condemned. Yeah. That's not rest. Right.
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Rest is, okay, Lord, I'm really feeling like I need to do all the laundry. I need to go out and do
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all the things in my yard in order for things to be complete. But instead, he is inviting us into,
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can you just sit with me? Can you just trust that if you don't do that today, that it will still get
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taken care of? Yeah. Can you trust that time away with your family, creative rest, as Dr.
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Sandra Dawson says, what are the things that restore your soul and help you connect to the
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Father? For me, it's, I love to walk in the woods. You know, that is very restorative for me.
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Some people, it may be gardening and some people would say that's work. But is it work
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for you? Or is that something that connects you to the Father? Yeah. And so those are the things
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to me that like when you restore yourself back to the Lord and you give him space to provide for you,
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you then can move forward into work without being bitter. That's so good, Amber. That is so good.
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And I think we don't even realize that we're carrying that level of bitterness and frustration
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and kind of resentment when we don't allow God to restore our souls. We don't pause.
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We don't allow it to be incomplete and to know that really there isn't going to be completeness,
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this side of heaven. It's really an invitation to remind us of the rest that we eventually will have
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in heaven. And we want to practice that here. As pastors, not only did I grow up in the ministry,
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my parents were in the ministry as pastors, Amber, but now of course my husband and I have served
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almost 30 years as pastors out here in the DC area. So I was taught younger, the same
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taught younger, the Sabbath of Sunday, the Sabbath of Sunday. I remember like the blue laws,
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you know, where like the stores were closed on Sunday and of course Chick-fil-A is still closed.
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Don't you like always want Chick-fil-A on Sunday? You're like, no. Always. So my question here is,
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talk to us about, and you kind of hinted at it there, like is this a 20, in your estimation,
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your study of it, should this be a one 24 hour period that we dedicate? And for me, for example,
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Sunday, that does not feel like a Sabbath. Even though Sabbath is involving community and worship
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and communal throughout scripture, we see that as another component. So there is this element of
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gathering as a church or as a community or over food and fellowship. And in there's a community
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aspect, but it doesn't always feel like that. That can happen for me on a Sunday, Amber. So
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I think it's been a struggle for me to figure it out because of some of these things. So in your
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thoughts and feelings and your approach to it, talk to us about the timeframe, the specificity
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of how we should practice Sabbath. Well, I think it's interesting that we have done this on Sunday
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because Jewish Sabbath is actually from Friday night. And then till sundown on Saturday. So we
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already know that historically and contextually, we change things based on our culture. And so
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you know, Jesus says this beautiful thing in Mark, and he says the Sabbath was made for man,
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not man for the Sabbath. And so meaning, what has a lot of meaning, but one thing is that, again,
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like I said earlier, it's not to punish you. It's not about like keeping another rule like
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often the Jewish leaders did. Because in the New Testament, we see like,
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we are to find our rest in Christ. However, it is something that God himself practiced. So I think
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if God himself practiced it, it is worthy of our attention and also of our practice. So for our
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family, we do kick off Sabbath around five or six on a Friday with a meal with a Shabbat meal,
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like Jewish people would do. But it's not exactly like what they would do. We just think that marking
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and setting aside that time to say, okay, it's time for us to move into rest, move into just
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this day being set apart from the others is a good habit to go ahead and develop so that you
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even know because it's so easy to not have a habit and then you just quit practicing it.
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But in our family, we do five to six p.m. on Friday until noon on Saturday. We have yet to make it
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to 24 hours. And I'll be honest with you, as my children have gotten older, it has become
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harder to even have that chunk of time because of things like sports or they want to go for the
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sleepover. And so I have to often remind myself, okay, Sabbath was like, what was it made for?
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Was it made to be a rule? Or was it made really for a restoration of the soul?
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A connection with Christ. And so we can let go of some of that legalism that creeps in with all of
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us because you know, you've got these two extremes. You can be legalistic and I'm sticking to the 24
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hours and nothing is going to change it. And then you can go to the other extreme, which is where I
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would say our modern day church mostly is. I get to do whatever I want, right? Because there's freedom
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in Christ. Yeah, I would say both extremes are dangerous. That's good. That's really helpful.
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That's really helpful. Yeah. And so that's what we do. And I even think that for some people,
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you may have to piece things together throughout the week, like you said with ministry. I mean,
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all of my staff at our church, they all work on
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Saturday because that's our two days where they're not working. So there's flexibility there. And I
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just think we have to avoid the extremes. Agreed. That's so helpful. And that helps us to kind of
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lift off, like you said, that burden of legalism, but at the same time, not to throw it out and to
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say, whatever I want, it's a self care day. It's a pedicure day. I mean, I would guard us. I would
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caution us about equating Sabbath with self care. I've seen that kind of trend and that concerns
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me a bit Amber, just because that's really not the original intent of Sabbath in the old or the
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New Testament. There needs to be some element of restorative practice with you and the Lord.
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And the intent is to restore in community with others. Like you said, you attempt at least to
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practice as a family. Maybe you want to try four hours on a day where you say, okay, I'm not going
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to have my phone on me. I'm going to do something that's restorative. That might even
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feel long, but just to try something, I've had a Shabbat dinner in Israel, which was a beautiful
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experience. And then one in my last trip there, we were getting on the bus and our guide said,
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oh, I'm apologize if any of you got on the Shabbat elevator. And someone said, what is that? Of
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course, it was Saturday. And he said, well, it pre pushes every single button on the elevator.
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So that because you're not allowed to push a button. Oh, wow. That's what we're talking about
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in the extremes. Yeah. As I was mentioning is, you know, straining a nad and missing
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the forest for the trees. So we're not saying you're not allowed to push a button on an elevator. So
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but if the other extreme is it's, it's, it's, it's more often not practiced at all in Western
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culture or it's very poorly practiced or arbitrarily a self care day. So Amber and I are just
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encouraging us to at least go study it. You mentioned Sacred Rest. Dr. Sondra. Yes. It's a
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great book about the types of rest we need. You might study that book. She's been on the podcast.
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We've talked about that book. You might look at, in fact, I referenced that book in my paper.
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You might realize I am greatly deficient in this particular type of rest. And
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identify if rest for me, Amber, if I just go sit on a beach, for example, I'll get restless very
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quick. I need to almost be doing something. But I recognize when I read her book, okay, I need
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mental rest or I need creative rest or I need auditory rest. I mean, musician. So my brain feels
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cluttered a lot or during, during the last two years of my masters, I was just constantly mentally
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fatigued. So it's identifying what type of rest is the Lord inviting you to and that might change
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from season to season. So you don't need to be legalistic about it, but we do encourage you to
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incorporate it. And any thoughts you have there, Amber, before I ask one more question about
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gratitude. Amber. Yeah, I just wanted to say real quick, like something, a quote that I heard early
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on, it's by a man, it's the last name, I think it's Heschel. He says, if you work with your mind,
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Sabbath with your hands. Dr. Sondra. Yes. And if you work with your hands, Sabbath with your mind.
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Amber. And my husband and I, when we first started, saw such a huge difference in both of us, like
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for me, going out or having coffee with two friends is very restorative. Like it is a,
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and I'm talking about close friends. You know, it's restful for me. We talk about just all kinds
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of things from spiritual to family to whatever. That sucks the life out of my husband.
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Dr. Sondra. Interesting. Yeah. But, and he'll go out and would work on a Saturday and he enjoys
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that and that breeds life into him. Whereas for me, I don't want to do anything around the house.
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I, you know, I don't, I don't want to go out. I'm not a gardener, but that might be the way that you,
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Sabbath. And what's amazing is what your body and your brain and the way you connect with the Lord,
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that changes sometimes too, based on, like you said, you're in school right now. So reading,
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probably not that restorative for you. Right. Right. But it might be again, once you're no longer,
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you know, and so there's things like that, that we, we just have to constantly be asking ourselves
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questions and asking the Lord, like you said, what are you inviting me into and then do it.
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That's good. Yeah. And not impose on someone else at the same exact way that you experience and
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practice Sabbath is exactly the way that they need to do it. Right. It's a, it's a, it's a broader
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conversation than we can cover in the half hour we have here. But I just again, wanted to invite
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you to think about it and maybe to challenge what you've been raised with a particular thought or
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just haven't thought about it at all. One more piece that I want to bring in Amber, before we
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kind of wrap up is gratitude. It's, it's in the space that we're talking about. I know we could
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have a whole different conversation about gratitude, but just help us understand how this is a critical
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component of our strengthening our relationship with the Lord and with others. Goodness, I could
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talk about this. I know, right. So I'll try to go bring it up at the end. I'm like, uh, quickly,
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but it is such, it's such a needed, um, it, there is a component of gratitude in Sabbath.
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That's why I would at least want to touch on it because you're, you're expressing that heart of
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gratitude for the Lord, for what he's done, for what the finished work, it's already finished. So
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there's this, there's this posture of gratitude that we're bringing into this even conversation. So
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maybe just give us a nugget. I know we can't explore it, but you could also let people know
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you have something on your website that they could explore this a little bit more.
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Yeah. I have a free gratitude practice there that is actually at graceenoughpodcast.com
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slash free gratitude practice. And the reason why I say practice is because there is so much research,
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and it's all through the Bible, but there is also scientific. So I always say science,
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it all science is God science. It was his begin, it was his idea from the beginning. And so when
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science proves that regular consistent practice of gratitude will actually make you a happier person.
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That's because they're just figuring out that what God already knew all along. And, um, whether
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that's you starting by just journaling things you're thankful for and then moving into things
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where even now like Philippians 4-8 where it's like, you know, think about what is good, lovely,
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pure. Um, I have turned that into a way of practicing gratitude. So think about all things
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that are good. Well, some people will say there's nothing good, but God. And I'm like, okay, don't
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get that specific. We're not talking about legalism. Right. Watching a mother nurse her baby is good
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and pure and lovely. Thank God for that. Yeah. Looking at the birds, building a nest, that is good.
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Yeah. Thank God for that. And so even going down that list and choosing to practice gratitude in
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that way will begin to transform who you are. Yeah. And I know it because I really struggle with
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being a negative, um, just glass half empty person. And the consistent practice over time has
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radically transformed my life. And I think that's why God consistently, it's one of the five Levitical
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offerings. Yeah. A thank offering. Yeah. I could talk about that forever. Yeah. And, and that he,
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he did that, um, because he, I mean, that's, it's that important. Give things back to the Lord. So
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yeah, gratitude's awesome. Yeah. I would love to see a book that you write on that, by the way.
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Just, just a little plug there. Um, and you mentioned something as we wrap up it,
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gratitude is a choice. Like these things that we're talking about today, we don't naturally,
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I'm going to just practice Sabbath for 24 hours. We don't naturally just wake up feeling so grateful.
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I mean, our culture doesn't really, um, encourage those practices either. But earlier on you talked
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about this bitterness that can develop in our hearts and our lives. It can become slow. It can get
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there slowly, but over time we just realized we're, we're just not grateful. We're not seeing the
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blessings of the God of God, the provision of God. So I just wanted to see us to see for a moment how
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these two things are related. They are their own topic and Amber has resources on both on her website.
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I'm going to put that link on our show notes. So she's got a number of resources there and,
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and podcasts you can listen to about Sabbath, if you want a deep dive more,
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and this practice of gratitude, um, until our book is out and we can read it, um, go there and learn
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all the things. Um, and yeah, we always have something we can be great before it goes back
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to practice, practice of celebration and appreciation for who God is and what he's doing and the
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finished work. That's the good news. The work is finished. You know, of course we have to work
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and we have to do what God's called us to do, but we get to do that from a place of invitation,
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into his kingdom, not to earn, not to earn. That's the, that's a big difference. And that's a life
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lesson that I had to learn many years ago. I was striving to earn as opposed to welcoming the invitation
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to rest. And it's a big difference. You might still be producing a lot and working, but the
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internal motivation is from a different plot, a different posture. And so that's, that's kind
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of where it comes from in me. But Amber, I always like to close with one last question before you
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pray us out. And that is you're making your life matter for the kingdom in so many ways, just,
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just even these couple of topics we've been able to just barely scratch the surface of today.
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But other than Jesus, who in the Bible really encourages you to make life matter?
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Goodness, Angela, I feel like you could ask me this and one week it would be one person and
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then next week it would be a different person. So I just, I just, I would say currently in this
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season, it would probably be Deborah. And I think the reason why is because I think we're in a
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cultural moment where we're just asking a lot of questions about women and do we have a place even
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though like I know we have a place in not, not the kingdom of God, but in the ministry work of
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the broader church. And I think I would just like to know from her, tell me what it was like.
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You know, tell me what life was like for you as you were leading men. And what was your relationship
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like with God during that time? What did you feel like he was speaking to you? And so, yeah,
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at this current moment, I think it would be Deborah. Yeah. I love her. She's one of my,
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one of my heroines of the Bible. And again, she's entered Amherst introduced a whole other topic
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that's very close to my heart. We've talked about it here a few times in the podcast.
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You know, I believe strongly and advocate for women in ministry and in all roles. And, you know,
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wherever you are on the theological spectrum, if you're listening, God invites all of us to kingdom
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work. And we don't have to have a title to do it. But we never want to marginalize or mute
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someone's voice and their contribution to the kingdom. And we don't see that in any of the
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New Testament. We see women invited to this great kingdom work. The work is huge and the harvest
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is plentiful. So we need labor. We need all hands on deck. And so I'm grateful for your voice in
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the, in all areas that you're serving. And I think Deborah's going to have a very long line in
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a very long line of like, how did you do this? So yeah, it said village life ceased until she
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arose. Yeah. And all, and all those people in Romans 16, I want to sit down with those women too.
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Absolutely. I'm actually my final research project from my master's is the role of community in
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carrying our call and ministry and all the people that served alongside of Paul. And how we don't
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lose heart in the ministry and in the hardship moments. And part of the way we don't lose heart
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is this, this beautiful community, men and women that are called to do this. And so you see so many
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mentions of men and women, Greek Gentile, Roman, beautiful, diverse, eclectic tapestry of the
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body of Christ. And that's, I want to read that. I know all of our, when it's done, girl, I'm
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camping out right now. And so my mode is like summer. And yet I've got, I've got to climb this one
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last, but I'm grateful to be studying it. It's a necessary conversation because ministry of any
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kind is hard, but it's way harder than it needs to be if we're doing it by ourselves. So I don't
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see that to be a biblical framework that we're called to do this in community. So we need everybody.
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And so Deborah, we thank you and many others. Paul, we thank you for inviting so many of us,
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Jesus, ultimately, we thank you for inviting us into this beautiful work of seeing the kingdom,
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the upside down, the counter-cultural kingdom established in our own lives, first and foremost,
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and then in our generation and whatever way God has called us to do that. So, Amber, thank you so
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much. Can you pray for us as we kind of sign off today, especially for any of our listeners who,
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maybe this was new for them, and they really want to strengthen their relationship with the
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Lord and others through these practices? Thank you so much. You're welcome. Dear heavenly Father,
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we come to you and ask God that your spirit would move in our hearts, would move in our minds,
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would move in our bodies as we consider practices, God, that you have laid out for us and invited us
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into and have said this is a way to live a flourishing life. Gotta open our hearts to step
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into those places and equip us to practice things like Sabbath, to make habits of daily
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gratitude practice, God, of digging into scripture, of opening our eyes to see you at work in the world
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around us. Father, we thank you so much that you are near to the brokenhearted, that you are near
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to those who draw near to you. God, I pray that as we close out this time that you would draw
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all those people in who need a fresh word, a fresh glance, a fresh closeness with you.
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It's in Jesus' name that we pray. Amen. Thanks for joining the conversation.
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