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Oh, and you were both frozen.
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Hey, there we go.
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We're both frozen for a minute.
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Okay.
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We always have that from the right.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Technology.
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You'll be able to froze.
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The best.
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Yeah.
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Have you ever sat on the edge of your bed in the morning and had to talk yourself into the day?
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Before the messages, before anybody needs anything from you.
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Just you taking a breath, thinking, okay, let's try again.
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We don't see these moments in each other very often.
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We see someone show up.
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We hear them laugh.
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We ask how they're doing, and they say, I'm good.
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And sometimes we have no idea how much effort it took just to get out the door.
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Maybe you've been that person lately.
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Maybe you're doing everything you can to keep moving while quietly wondering when things are going to finally feel a little easier.
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I wish I could give you a date for that.
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But I do think we sometimes ask too much of ourselves when we imagine what getting better is supposed to look like.
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We want the breakthrough.
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The morning we wake up and finally feel like ourselves again.
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And while we're waiting for that, we can miss the smaller things.
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A conversation where we let our guard down.
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A laugh we didn't have to force.
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A few minutes when we realize we're actually enjoying being here.
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Those moments count, even when the rest of the day is hard.
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So before we get into today's episode, give yourself a second.
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You don't have to figure out the whole road ahead right now.
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Just take a breath.
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You're here.
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Let's start there.
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My name's Dan Bradley, and this is Braven the Bright Side.
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Hello, bright siders, and welcome back to well, the bright side.
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I'm your host, Dan Bradley, and listen, you know, I meant to tell you the other day, but you look great.
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You really do.
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And I'm super glad you stopped by today because we've got an absolute banger of an episode.
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First, a couple quick updates from the side that is bright.
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Next Friday, the second ever Brightsider newsletter lands in your inbox, and I'm thinking something very on brand for spooky season.
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My personal favorite time of the year.
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You haven't signed up yet, head to BravingTheBrightside.org.
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It's free.
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And in the coming months, we'll be adding more behind-the-scenes looks, exclusive content, merch updates, and even some giveaways and contests.
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So, you know, free stuff, free on top of free.
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Why wouldn't you sign up?
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Seriously, I'm I'm seriously asking.
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Constructive criticism only because I'm very sensitive these days.
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Now, anybody listening in the New York area?
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Because I'll be up in your neck of the woods on December 10th, hanging with one Kip Grange from Sonder Mountain.
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You know, the guy who designed all that gorgeous bright side gear you've been wearing.
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He's got a pop-up shop right in Times Square.
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So I'll be stopping by, hopefully squeezing in a quick interview.
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I know he's going to be busy.
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I'm grabbing a slice of the pizza from that local pizza joint Sabaro.
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You don't really immerse myself in the culture of New York.
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And uh for the Philly folks, a reminder that I'll be covering the Philly Creator Fest on November 7th.
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If you're a content creator, artist, entrepreneur, I don't know, or just somebody who wants to meet people and learn something new, head to the link in my Instagram bio for a discounted ticket.
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50% off.
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It's awfully kind of them.
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And kind of me, too.
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You know?
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Give me my flowers.
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Uh and if you see me there, come say hi.
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You know?
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Give me a high five.
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Don't make me do that thing where I pretend to check my phone because I don't know who to talk to.
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Which I probably will be doing when you see me there.
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Or I'll be working because I am supposed to be covering the event.
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Either way, I'll be there.
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Come over, say hi, and then uh be surrounded by some awesome creative people and learn some awesome, awesome things.
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All right.
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Okay.
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Now, before we get to today's guest, we've got a little good to put out into the world.
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You know what time it is.
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It is time for the feel good new segment.
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All right, let's hit that dopamine button for a moment with this week's Feel Good News segment, where we take a break from the chaos and remember that there are still a lot of good people and good things happening in this world.
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All right, kicking it off at number eight, a butterfly paradise gets protected.
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Uh, Mizambique has established a conservation area covering roughly 23,000 acres around Mount Nabu, known as butterfly forest.
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This extraordinary landscape and neighboring Mount Namu support more than 200 butterfly species.
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Local communities will help care for the protected area.
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That's a whole lot of wings getting a fighting chance.
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Number seven, a promising second life for plastic.
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Hmm.
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Researchers in Switzerland have developed a way to break acrylic glass, you know, like plexiglass, back into its original ingredients, recovering up to 98% in experiments.
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Those ingredients can make fresh material of the same quality using substantially lower temperatures than older methods.
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Next comes scaling it up.
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Your old plastic barrier could have a much brighter future than a landfill.
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Number six, an island is making a comeback.
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On Samoa's Naute Island, removing invasive rats and feral pigs is giving native wildlife room to recover.
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Researchers are finding new seedlings competing, I'm sorry, carpeting the forest floor, and birds nesting in places while their eggs were previously vulnerable.
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Local
communities help make it happen.
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Give nature a little breathing room, but apparently she gets straight to work.
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Number five, he found$128,000 and then returned every dollar.
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A barber in Louisville, Texas found a bag sitting on top of an ATM containing$128,514.
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He called police and handed it over with every dollar accounted for.
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The money belonged to the bank and had accidentally been left behind.
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He even asked that any ceremony honoring him stay private, quiet integrity, or, you know, he just doesn't want to be seen and known by anybody.
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Either way, I mean that is wild.
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Number four, one very good dog finally comes home.
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You know, I have to have a dog article in every single one because they're the best.
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Luna, a 10-year-old Jack Russell Terrier, survived more than a month lost in Yellowstone National Park.
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Volunteers kept searching until a trap containing f familiar scents from her family's clothing and bedding finally helped bring her in.
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She was thinner but otherwise healthy and reunited with her people.
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That's insane.
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I mean, they essentially made that movie years ago.
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All right, number three, strangers rally around a dream nearly 40 years in the making.
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Dale, an 86-year-old in Texas, has been building a 62-foot boat in his yard since 1987, dreaming of sailing it to Alaska.
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When three visitors learned he could no longer finish it alone, they launched a fundraiser.
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More than 1,500 donors contributed over$41,000 towards finishing and moving it.
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The boat isn't afloat yet, but I mean that's pretty cool.
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His dream has essentially a crew.
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Number two, a school prank with a beautiful payoff.
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Georgia principal Bobby Davis rushed into the cafeteria expecting a fight.
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Instead, students erupted into birthday cheers.
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The surprise was organized by a teenager who credits Davis with helping him work through anger and discover interest in poetry, music, and mechanics.
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The student had called himself a bad kid.
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Called himself that.
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Wow.
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His principal kept seeing someone worth believing in.
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This time the kid made sure he felt appreciated.
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And number one, she saved his life, and now
they're married.
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After lightning struck beside Nick and Ava during a Wisconsin hike, Nick stopped breathing.
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Ava, who had also been shocked, called for help and performed CPR, reviving him twice before rescuers reached them 50 minutes later.
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Boy howdy.
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After leaving the hospital, Nick proposed they married this August, choosing to give the month a happier meeting.
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They survived something terrifying and got the chance to build a life together.
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I mean, that's that's a hell of a bright side, right?
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That's love.
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It's a Disney movie, and that's love.
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And that is your feel good news segment of the week.
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All right, let's turn our attention to this absolute fabulous interview I have lined up for you.
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All right, brightsiders.
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Today's guest is someone who left me feeling a little better about the world, honestly.
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Denise spent years helping others communicate.
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And when she lost her own voice, she had to find her way through a life she hadn't really planned for.
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What came out of that is a perspective on love, perseverance, and the little moments we are so often rushed past that I'm excited to share with you.
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She's also just flat out a delight to talk to.
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So settle in and enjoy my conversation with Denise.
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Today's guest has dedicated her life to helping others slow down, reconnect with what really matters, and lead with love.
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Through her work as an educator, speaker, and author, she's impacted countless lives.
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But as you'll hear today, those lessons didn't come from a textbook.
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They were shaped by her own experiences of adversity, of healing, and finding purpose on the other side.
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Denise, it's an honor to have you on Braving the Bright Side.
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Welcome to the show.
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How are you?
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I'm great, Daniel.
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Thank you for having me on the Braving the Bright Side because we're going to have so much great information and a conversation that's really important.
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I absolutely agree.
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I am super excited to have you here.
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Um you are just a delightful human being.
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In the conversation we had about a month ago when we set all this up.
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Um, you know, it's just you're a lot of fun to talk to.
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You've got a great spirit, and I'm excited for my audience to kind of feel that through uh the airwaves.
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People still call them airwaves on podcasts, and you know, the digital airwaves, if you will.
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You know?
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I'm with you.
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You're the young and you tell you, you're the young one.
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I'll take that.
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That's great for my email.
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Appreciate it.
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We'll say energy feels about that.
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Hopefully they feel it through, they will feel it through the energy waves.
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Um well, let's just get into it then, shall we?
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Your work centers around love, uh, mindfulness, and uh emotional wellness.
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Was that always who you were, or did life kind of teach these lessons the hard way?
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Like who were you growing up?
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Let's talk about Denise as a kid and growing up um and where you are.
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Yeah, so you know, you you you try to re-recall your childhood, right?
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And I do that a lot because that's that's where your healing could come from as well.
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So as a child, I was fortunate enough to be in with parents that uh my father was very imaginative, he loved Disney, so I have that love of Disney, but healing for myself did start then too, because things weren't, even though on the on like living on a bright side, it looked beautiful, but there's different things in life that have been, you know, you could be bullied in school, you could have different things that even though there's a bright side, these things can be happening underneath the surface.
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So my childhood was on the surface, wonderful, beautiful, happy family.
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And then things, you know, occur and change in life.
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You know, parents pass away.
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My father died when I was 22.
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Um, so you know, and then that happens and that's life altering.
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So my childhood was a good childhood, you know, on the on the surface.
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Then we'll fast forward to, you know, thinking about what I wanted to be in life.
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And and things change all the time.
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One thing I want to say about life, we have to have the courage to change.
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It's all right to change.
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You know, so if something's not working, that's okay.
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Don't don't don't beat yourself up.
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So, you know, I went to work right after high school.
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I didn't think I never thought in my wildest dreams I'd be an educator first.
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Um, had all these other different dreams, but then I just went straight to work because you know, that's the what I did.
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But as time moved, I became a speech language pathologist.
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I worked very hard.
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I left that job, but I started as a young person, then I went into education, went to a lot of schooling.
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I have two master's degrees of a speech language pathologist for over 25 years.
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And I I think where the healing comes from is some of the the events that occurred on that journey.
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So it's incredible.
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What is a speech pathologist anyway?
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What is when you specialize in that?
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What does that entail?
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Yes.
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So speech language pathologists, people forget that they hear the speech and they think, oh, how I say sounds.
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Yes, that is definitely part of it.
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But there's also the brain language component that even will talk about me because I do have a voice disorder.
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We'll talk about that in a minute.
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Um, your brain, how you process information, auditory processing, all of these things that come into play with language development.
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So it's speech, yes, it's art tech and fluency, but it's also, you know, respiration, breathing, swallowing.
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It's science.
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Uh, you know, it's like a doctor of speech or language.
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Wow.
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Okay.
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Yeah, that's I mean, I think that's fascinating.
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You remember we talked about that briefly when I first met you.
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Excuse me.
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And uh that's the same thing.
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I just thought I was like, okay, it's just how I pronounce words.
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I'm from New Jersey, so I pronounce them weird and wrong, but that's fine.
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Um weird and wrong.
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We all have an accent to me.
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I'm from New York, right?
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I guess like I'm from different places.
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And then with the voice situation, it's another whole level.
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But think about this an accent is who you are.
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It's a find you, which never changed our core.
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You know, I want to have it, but it's a hear that.
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We are who we are.
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You know, I go on podcasts all the time.
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There's times when I, if I was on TV, because there was one time that I was on TV, I kind of made myself a little bit more a TV ready.
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But other than that, I will never change who I am because I lost my voice.
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So an accent, as long as you could be heard, who cares?
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Who cares?
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So you want to know about so the accent.
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Right.
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2006, May 6th.
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Like, you know, some things in Greg in you forever.
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May 6th, 2006.
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Um myself, my husband, and my son at the time was six.
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We we were in the car going somewhere, but prior to that, we were just taking the ride, and all of a sudden the car just lost control, and we just, you know, we had an accident, but luckily no one was really injured, like severely or fatally injured, or um, but I I was injured, but no one really realized because the seatbelt was on my neck.
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And it kind of they they can't they can't prove that what I have was caused by that, but stress was trauma could bring it on.
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So my condition, spasmodic dysphonia, is a condition where you have spasms of your vocal folds or vocal cords.
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And right now I'm in a phase where I need the injection.
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So it's kind of you can hear that.
00:18:10.640 --> 00:18:12.880
There was a time when you couldn't even understand me.
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So at least you could understand my words right now, but there was it's like a strangled, choked sounding voice.
00:18:19.359 --> 00:18:21.599
So right now I need the injection soon.
00:18:21.680 --> 00:18:26.079
So it could be a little bit harder for me to push the sounds out.
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So that's what you're hearing right now.
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Because we're speaking from respiration.
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So that was something, that's where it all started.
00:18:33.440 --> 00:18:36.079
So but I didn't have a voice for five years.
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Yeah.
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No voice.
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Because I didn't go for the injection right away.
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Because remember, I'm a speech pathologist.
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I knew too much, you know, knowledge is power, but also knowledge should make decisions.
00:18:49.359 --> 00:18:49.839
Yeah.
00:18:50.640 --> 00:18:54.559
I mean, what a what a crazy story.
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I mean, for to be a speech pathologist and then be in an accident where
you're unable to talk for five years.
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Um how how difficult was that season of your life of five years?
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Was it?
00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:08.559
You know, I'd imagine.
00:19:08.960 --> 00:19:15.039
So, so imagine, okay, so I have a six-year-old, which he was the only one who could understand me.
00:19:15.200 --> 00:19:19.440
Uh interestingly enough, that that's another whole segment, right?
00:19:19.599 --> 00:19:26.160
That's another whole that's another whole scientific discovery why he would understand me more than anyone else.
00:19:26.480 --> 00:19:30.240
Um, five years without the voice, I was working.
00:19:30.799 --> 00:19:33.359
I was working as a speech pathologist.
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I had to come with uh the realization that I had a disability.
00:19:38.160 --> 00:19:41.359
You know, I didn't I didn't think that right away, right?
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Because you just keep going, you know, you don't look at yourself in in the in the scope of what I had.
00:19:49.119 --> 00:19:50.559
So I I have a disability.
00:19:50.720 --> 00:19:53.839
So, but with having a disability comes rights, right?
00:19:53.920 --> 00:19:57.119
And no, with no one knows that you have rights when you have a disability.
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And if someone try tries to um attack you for being having a disability, you are even fight.
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So I I think my fighting spirit was always there.
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I was always a fighter.
00:20:10.480 --> 00:20:13.920
I was always trying, and not a fighter, I should use a different word.
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I was always someone the right, you know, what's right, you know, not fighting, just doing the right thing.
00:20:21.519 --> 00:20:23.279
So anyway, so what's my voice?
00:20:23.440 --> 00:20:24.480
No voice for five years.
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It was very dark.
00:20:25.519 --> 00:20:30.799
Yeah, I mean, someone's voice, I mean your voice is uh for all of us, it's attached to our identity.
00:20:31.039 --> 00:20:38.400
So um, I feel like that experience had to teach you about finding your identity besides just your voice.
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Yes.
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So what what it did do was um there's two two things, twofold things that happened during that time.
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Um, like I said, the the fight of my life to keep my profession, to keep it going, not listening to people thinking that I shouldn't do what I was doing.
00:20:57.359 --> 00:20:58.319
That was hard.
00:20:58.480 --> 00:21:08.559
Um having a six-year-old, that was that wasn't so hard, but you know, feeling embarrassed that he would see his mother can't talk, things like that would be um heavy.
00:21:08.880 --> 00:21:13.039
But the what happened was the darkness, right?
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Because we all that's what we want to talk about today, because we have to
look at brain on the bright side.
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But darkness does come.
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And we have to be able to figure out how we're gonna get through it moment by moment, minute by minute.
00:21:27.839 --> 00:21:39.200
And you know, um, I was a speech pathologist, and then I became more connected to my students than ever, because they had a disab they have disabilities, and now I do too.
00:21:39.519 --> 00:21:50.480
So I think it opens up my eyes to them in a different way that was so beautiful that kind of then had this inspiration for me to keep moving.
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They motivated me to keep moving.
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My son motivated me to not give up, you know, in my mind in my mind, but I'm gonna get to a bigger point of that.
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But I didn't realize.
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That it was really me pushing through, not anybody else getting me through those hard times.
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So yeah, um, I had a lot of fighting going on, a lot of trying to just deal with myself.
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Simple thing, like going through a drive-through.
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It may sound simple, but it was so devastating.
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I would have to not I couldn't scream, so I'd have to go up to the window and either write it down.
00:22:25.359 --> 00:22:28.960
I remember back then there were no texting, no cell phones really.
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And it was just happening.
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So now, now someone, not that it's easy to have this condition, but I my life is easier now because of technology as well.
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I don't always have to try to stretch my voice when I'm in this phase.
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But I am fortunate that I do go for injections every four months.
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That's how I preserve to be able to be heard.
00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:53.920
Uh what a journey.
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Yeah.
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So where did during that time, during this stretch, you know, where did you where did hope come from?
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Okay, so like I said, hope or all hope came from within me.
00:23:11.759 --> 00:23:18.079
Because there's one instance that I talk about is that I would have to like find a tool.
00:23:18.240 --> 00:23:25.920
Like so how how I came on this journey of being a mindfulness um coach or a self, you know, a discovery.
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I would wake up every morning because I had to go to work and it was not easy.
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If my job was easy, me giving it to my students was wonderful.
00:23:36.079 --> 00:23:39.519
People thinking that I shouldn't be doing it was not wonderful.
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So I would wake up every morning and I'd sit on the edge of my bed and I'd smile at myself.
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And I'd take a breath and
I'd say, okay, you could do this.
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And I'd get up, I'd smile at my son, I'd smile all day long, I'd I'd do my job, I'd come home, but at night I would cry.
00:23:59.519 --> 00:24:00.160
Yeah.
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But I mean, during the day you were the source of light for yourself, pushing through.
00:24:05.279 --> 00:24:06.559
Um pushing through.
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And there's like, you know.
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But then I have a cry.
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Um not cry, cry for a crying is good because crying is a way that you eliminate the stress.
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You have to get rid of the stress.
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So I would cry to get rid of it.
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But my source of light was smiling.
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I had to smile.
00:24:25.839 --> 00:24:30.319
It actually is there's a scientific um thing behind that.
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Smiling creates pathways, dopamine that were too in your brain that actually make you happier when you smile.
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So I didn't know I was on to something when I was just smiling at myself.
00:24:42.079 --> 00:24:46.720
It was like desperation, but you know, things got uh discovered in desperation.
00:24:47.119 --> 00:24:47.920
Incredibly true.
00:24:48.000 --> 00:24:49.920
And you know, you were doing the right thing, honestly.
00:24:50.079 --> 00:24:53.359
Obviously, you didn't know it, but you were pushing forward in the right way.
00:24:53.839 --> 00:24:56.720
Um I think smiling is very underrated.
00:24:56.880 --> 00:24:58.319
Unless somebody tells you to smile.
00:24:58.480 --> 00:24:58.640
Exactly.
00:24:58.799 --> 00:25:00.480
You should smile more, then that's probably well.
00:25:00.559 --> 00:25:01.920
That's a whole tipper conversation.
00:25:02.720 --> 00:25:03.359
Exactly.
00:25:03.519 --> 00:25:04.160
Exactly.
00:25:04.480 --> 00:25:10.000
Um well, and this kind of ties into I mean, we're gonna get into the books that you've you've written.
00:25:10.160 --> 00:25:24.400
Um, is healing something that suddenly happens, you know, for yourself when you decided to really start kind of building towards getting your voice back and or you know, kind of finding your path towards coaching and and you know, your passion again.
00:25:24.640 --> 00:25:28.240
Is that something that happens one day that you woke up and you're like, you know what, what if I do this?
00:25:28.319 --> 00:25:33.519
Or do you feel like it was kind of made up of a hundreds of tiny moments that kind of built towards it?
00:25:34.559 --> 00:25:41.680
It's a hundred tiny moments that create your your path, create your your your journey.
00:25:41.920 --> 00:25:47.680
All all those little glimmers bring you to the place that you're at and they keep changing too, right?
00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:49.920
Everything is all ever changing.
00:25:50.160 --> 00:25:52.160
Nothing really stays the same.
00:25:52.400 --> 00:25:54.079
We only have one moment, right?
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So moment by moment, all of my from when I was a child until today, all of those mini moments made me who I am.
00:26:04.799 --> 00:26:05.599
Love that.
00:26:05.920 --> 00:26:06.480
Yeah.
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And that's why it's so important to be in the moment, no matter what, you know?
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To be present.
00:26:13.200 --> 00:26:23.039
Is there a particular particular moment for you where you realized that you were gonna be coming somebody different because of this this journey, because of everything you've been through?
00:26:23.200 --> 00:26:27.759
Was there a moment you were like, oh, okay, all right, this is what I need to do now?
00:26:28.079 --> 00:26:33.920
Well, you know, well, we're gonna talk about the books, but you know, as an educator, I love books, right?
00:26:34.079 --> 00:26:37.039
I never in my wildest dreams thought I would be an author.
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Never.
00:26:38.480 --> 00:26:41.200
Because, you know, you have so many other things you're doing.
00:26:41.279 --> 00:26:44.000
You're just studying, you you're doing what you're doing.
00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:51.920
Becoming an author was like on the side over here where I I don't even think I tapped into it, except for when my son was gone.
00:26:52.240 --> 00:26:55.359
Um, that that's another that we'll talk about that too.
00:26:55.680 --> 00:27:02.799
But the journey, the journey of being an educated, was that I didn't know that I was even going into that field either.
00:27:02.880 --> 00:27:06.319
And ironically, becoming a speech language pathologist, right?
00:27:06.400 --> 00:27:13.839
And ironically, that was that was that was I think that that would some of these things are already in the stars.
00:27:13.920 --> 00:27:14.480
I don't know.
00:27:14.720 --> 00:27:26.319
I I can't I can't say for sure, but they're already predetermined because who would think as a speech pathologist, losing their voice is here now to help people on a journey of finding the light.
00:27:26.640 --> 00:27:30.079
Did losing your voice ever help you hear something you couldn't hear before?
00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:33.200
It made me see things differently.
00:27:33.359 --> 00:27:45.680
It made me more creative, it made me um appreciate that we do have if you lose a certain sense, it does create a um, what's the word?
00:27:45.839 --> 00:27:48.799
It creates other senses to enhance.
00:27:49.039 --> 00:27:52.480
But that, you know, that loss of that is like almost like a death.
00:27:52.640 --> 00:27:55.440
Losing your voice is like, especially if you had it, right?
00:27:56.160 --> 00:27:58.720
When I lost my voice to that, I'm not gonna give my age away.
00:27:58.799 --> 00:27:59.680
But I was younger.
00:28:00.559 --> 00:28:05.119
Um not that age is okay to say your age, we're here, we're on this planet.
00:28:05.440 --> 00:28:09.200
But in my 40s, right, I'm losing my voice.
00:28:09.279 --> 00:28:11.200
But I had my voice for 40 years.
00:28:11.359 --> 00:28:18.480
It's not like I was born, you know, we're gonna say people who are born deaf or people who were born born blind, they don't know the difference.
00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:23.119
Not that that makes it better or worse, but this was like taken away.
00:28:23.359 --> 00:28:24.000
Right, right, right.
00:28:24.079 --> 00:28:24.720
I see what you're saying.
00:28:24.960 --> 00:28:25.680
I had my voice.
00:28:25.920 --> 00:28:27.440
You had your voice for 40 years.
00:28:27.519 --> 00:28:28.480
You knew what that sounded like.
00:28:28.720 --> 00:28:33.759
Yeah, and then to not be able to express myself and you see how I am.
00:28:33.839 --> 00:28:38.000
But you know, it's funny, even without the voice, you couldn't stop me.
00:28:38.799 --> 00:28:42.880
I wasn't giving up, even though I had to push it, whatever I had to do.
00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:46.480
If you couldn't listen to me, oh while I was still trying to talk.
00:28:46.720 --> 00:28:47.440
Yeah, you know what?
00:28:47.519 --> 00:28:50.480
I just knowing you briefly for a little while now, I could see that.
00:28:50.720 --> 00:28:51.279
I could see that.
00:28:51.359 --> 00:28:52.799
You're forced to be reckoned with.
00:28:54.400 --> 00:28:54.720
Thank you.
00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:55.359
That's true.
00:28:55.680 --> 00:28:56.160
I mean that's true.
00:28:56.400 --> 00:28:57.519
In a good way, in a good way.
00:28:57.839 --> 00:28:58.799
In the best way, believe me.
00:29:01.599 --> 00:29:02.240
Um, all right.
00:29:02.319 --> 00:29:05.759
Well, let's jump into your books.
00:29:06.000 --> 00:29:18.559
Um, you are kind enough to send me, and I'm gonna make sure I uh link everything in the episode description, but Moments in Motion with Love by Denise Caesar.
00:29:18.799 --> 00:29:22.240
Um it feels less like a story.
00:29:22.400 --> 00:29:26.319
I've read it a couple times now, and I read it to um my niece as well.
00:29:26.559 --> 00:29:31.440
Feels less like a story and more like an invitation to slow down, which I really, really like.
00:29:31.759 --> 00:29:36.799
Um, you know, what inspired you to write it besides your own journey?
00:29:36.880 --> 00:29:39.920
Because I know you wrote this during COVID, or right?
00:29:40.000 --> 00:29:40.640
It was around then.
00:29:41.039 --> 00:29:41.440
Exactly.
00:29:41.599 --> 00:29:43.680
It happened during COVID, yeah.
00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:52.480
So you know that COVID in New York, everything locked down, you know, as the educators, even for speech pathologists.
00:29:52.640 --> 00:30:06.400
We were home virtually online with the students, and you know, every student, college, any elementary, high school, college, everyone was um was put in a lockdown.
00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:11.920
And that that was very, very, very um children and adults all had anxiety through the roof.
00:30:12.160 --> 00:30:12.480
Right.
00:30:12.720 -->
00:30:25.759
So much anxiety, and you know, being virtual and trying to do what they do in school and not being able to be social, and especially children that I worked with that are autistic, social is like the key to all learning for them.
00:30:25.920 --> 00:30:29.119
And without that component, they were just lost.
00:30:29.440 --> 00:30:34.559
So when I was virtually online with them, I could see after so March, they put us all home.
00:30:34.720 --> 00:30:36.079
March, April by May.
00:30:36.160 --> 00:30:43.440
It's funny that May happens a lot of things for me, because May, May was when the car exit, but May is when I I drowned up the book.
00:30:43.599 --> 00:30:48.480
But looking at the students, I said, I have to do something for them.
00:30:48.640 --> 00:30:51.839
This is so odd, this is so life-altering.
00:30:52.000 --> 00:30:53.920
I have to find something to help them.
00:30:54.079 --> 00:30:58.880
So I went to sleep that night, May 2020.
00:30:59.119 --> 00:31:00.480
And I just prayed.
00:31:00.559 --> 00:31:01.839
I said, please.
00:31:02.480 --> 00:31:06.720
And then whatever anybody believes in it, I said, please, God, I need to help them.
00:31:06.960 --> 00:31:08.400
And I woke up with the book.
00:31:08.559 --> 00:31:12.640
Now, people may not believe that, but if you talk to my husband, I woke him up out of his sleep.
00:31:12.720 --> 00:31:16.799
And his name is Daniel, so by the way, I said, Oh my God, wake up.
00:31:16.960 --> 00:31:18.160
I wrote a book.
00:31:18.480 --> 00:31:19.039
What?
00:31:19.279 --> 00:31:22.559
Okay, so we're gonna be comical now because he's like, What are you talking about?
00:31:22.799 --> 00:31:25.440
I said, Don't be silly, just listen to me.
00:31:26.000 --> 00:31:32.400
Now, what I want to say too, if you have ideas in your head, you need to have a pen by your bed, because I didn't.
00:31:33.200 --> 00:31:35.519
So either I texted it into my phone.
00:31:35.839 --> 00:31:38.480
So I said, just listen to this.
00:31:38.640 --> 00:31:41.119
So I read it to me, goes, read that again.
00:31:41.279 --> 00:31:43.119
And I read it and he's like, Wow.
00:31:43.279 --> 00:31:49.200
Like, so out of a stupor asleep, you know, I woke him up and then second time he's like, Oh.
00:31:50.160 --> 00:31:57.200
So at that time, because of all the trauma that I had gone through, I had spoken to a publisher.
00:31:57.519 --> 00:32:00.319
And I was going to write a book for adults.
00:32:00.400 --> 00:32:07.200
You know, I was that was my thing on healing for adults, because I thought that's how I would heal myself by writing this book.
00:32:07.440 --> 00:32:10.079
But the minute this came out of me, I texted her.
00:32:10.160 --> 00:32:20.960
I think it was so that was five o'clock in the morning waking him up, and then seven o'clock texting her, and I said, I have to change that other thing because this has to happen now.
00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:22.960
And she called me, she goes, like, what?
00:32:23.279
--> 00:32:28.000
So that when I read it to her, she goes, Oh yes, this must happen now.
00:32:28.240 --> 00:32:29.920
She's like, Oh yes.
00:32:30.079 --> 00:32:34.880
And then the last person solidified why I knew I should do it.
00:32:35.039 --> 00:32:37.440
My son Daniel, I have a son, Daniel.
00:32:37.759 --> 00:32:39.200
Surrounded by Daniels.
00:32:39.599 --> 00:32:41.839
I'm surrounded, and now I have a third Daniel.
00:32:41.920 --> 00:32:42.400
I'm so happy.
00:32:42.480 --> 00:32:43.759
I love the power of three.
00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:54.000
Anyway, so what happened was um he, you know, we was Zoom, you know, thank God there's this things like that now, zooming, right?
00:32:54.319 --> 00:32:55.920
Or not even zooming, FaceTime.
00:32:56.160 --> 00:32:57.680
I'm saying the wrong thing, FaceTime.
00:32:58.400 --> 00:33:03.759
And, you know, he was feeling, and you know, it was a weird day, and I said, Can I read something to you?
00:33:04.079 --> 00:33:07.119
And I read the book, because it's kind of like poetry, too.
00:33:07.200 --> 00:33:09.920
If you take it all the put together, it's like a poem.
00:33:11.279 --> 00:33:13.200
And he started crying.
00:33:13.839 --> 00:33:20.400
And, you know, I know that it taps into something more emotional because we all felt out of control.
00:33:20.559 --> 00:33:31.759
And in that moment, in that moment, he realized that we only had that moment, and that I get emotional because it was emotional, and I say that's that's why I wrote it.
00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:37.440
For all the people who were lost, not knowing what to do, we had to hold on to the moment.
00:33:37.519 --> 00:33:38.880
So that's how that book came to be.
00:33:39.039 --> 00:33:39.599
It's beautiful.
00:33:39.920 --> 00:33:45.839
There's more, there's more to the illustrations, there's more to all of the um how it came together.
00:33:46.079 --> 00:33:51.680
But my uh my publisher will always say, she goes, I know I didn't have to edit one word.
00:33:51.839 --> 00:33:53.119
She didn't edit anything.
00:33:53.279 --> 00:33:55.119
It was only us trying to.
00:33:55.200 --> 00:33:58.400
So, you know, some books like my notebook has illustrations.
00:33:58.559 --> 00:34:04.160
This book, I licensed watercolor soothing prints to match the words.
00:34:04.319 --> 00:34:11.119
So that was the only job matching to make it look cohesive and have it look, you know, like it belonged together.
00:34:11.199 --> 00:34:12.480
And I we did a great job.
00:34:12.880 --> 00:34:13.920
You did a phenomenal job.
00:34:14.000 --> 00:34:14.960
I mean, it's it's amazing.
00:34:15.039 --> 00:34:21.599
And honestly, when I picked it up and started and opened it up, um, I got your beautiful message in the beginning.
00:34:21.679 --> 00:34:22.480
So thank you for that.
00:34:22.639 --> 00:34:23.679
And I was like, okay, cool.
00:34:23.760 --> 00:34:25.119
It's a it's a it's a kid's book.
00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:29.679
And then as you're reading it, you know,
you realize that this isn't just a kid's book.
00:34:29.760 --> 00:34:33.360
This isn't designed just for to read to children or for children to read.
00:34:33.440 --> 00:34:35.599
This is for everybody out there.
00:34:36.000 --> 00:34:37.920
I think that the message is so important.
00:34:38.079 --> 00:34:40.639
I mean, right down to the the back of the book.
00:34:40.719 --> 00:34:43.840
You know, you are precious, you are light, you are loved.
00:34:44.079 --> 00:34:53.119
Um, you know, these are such important words in here and such important messages, along with the gorgeous um water colors.
00:34:53.199 --> 00:34:53.760
My favorite.
00:34:53.920 --> 00:34:55.360
You have at the very back of the book.
00:34:55.440 --> 00:34:59.119
My favorite is the um start each day with this poem, which I'm gonna read.
00:34:59.840 --> 00:35:01.119
Which I absolutely love.
00:35:01.519 --> 00:35:02.960
It's called Believe.
00:35:03.199 --> 00:35:10.800
I am loved, I am light, I am courage, I am bright, I am brave, I am so important in this moment.
00:35:11.519 --> 00:35:14.159
Um mean just that's amazing.
00:35:14.239 --> 00:35:20.400
It's absolutely amazing, and it's important to put that out there for people to hear, adults and children alike.
00:35:20.960 --> 00:35:23.679
And you know, you know, thank you for reading it.
00:35:23.760 --> 00:35:26.159
It makes me so happy to say, yes, I'm gonna read it.
00:35:26.320 --> 00:35:31.199
Because in the book, I have the reader understand that I believe in you.
00:35:31.519 --> 00:35:35.039
But if you don't believe in you, it's fruitless, right?
00:35:35.119 --> 00:35:39.119
It's not you have to internalize the belief in yourself.
00:35:39.360 --> 00:35:43.440
But there's all these, you know, the culture of the I am.
00:35:43.679 --> 00:35:50.719
So I didn't really, that's really not what I was doing, the I am, but what I wanted them to take specific words from the book.
00:35:50.880 --> 00:35:53.119
So it was from the book, the words, the I am.
00:35:54.159 --> 00:35:57.280
And almost infuse the book within you.
00:35:58.000 --> 00:35:58.239
Yeah.
00:35:58.480 --> 00:35:59.360
That's really what was about.
00:35:59.599 --> 00:36:01.039
Because I am is all over the place.
00:36:01.199 --> 00:36:14.880
We know that a lot of it, and there's nothing wrong with that, but this particular believe poem was all of the message that I gave the reader and taking in and solidifying it into your heart, your mind, body, and spirit.
00:36:15.039 --> 00:36:24.079
So that's really it was very thoughtful, very thought out, very, and I I can see from how you feel about it that it's it make what it's supposed to do.
00:36:24.400 --> 00:36:25.199
Yeah, I love that.
00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:27.119
I love that's really interesting how you say that I am.
00:36:27.360 --> 00:36:28.159
Like, there's nothing wrong with that.
00:36:28.239 --> 00:36:31.440
Like when people are like, I am, I am this, yeah, you know, I am that.
00:36:31.599 --> 00:36:33.199
Wow, I'm strong, I'm brave.
00:36:33.599 --> 00:36:41.440
And what you're put in this book and way you've written it, it's meant to be, it's not you, the author, stating that about yourself.
00:36:41.519 --> 00:36:45.840
It's you and telling the reader, this is what you should feel.
00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:49.119
This is what you this is what you need to be to be strong.
00:36:49.199 --> 00:36:54.639
And this is I love that it's kind of a you passing on this power and strength as well.
00:36:54.800 --> 00:37:04.800
That I needed I needed it as to whoever you are, and I want um I want everyone to feel that because that's how you get through darkness.
00:37:05.679 --> 00:37:10.159
And Lord knows, I mean, we can use it more than ever for sure these days.
00:37:10.480 --> 00:37:10.880
Exactly.
00:37:10.960 --> 00:37:13.199
Um these days, exactly.
00:37:13.599 --> 00:37:17.440
What were you hoping readers would I guess we already touched on that.
00:37:17.519 --> 00:37:20.880
I was gonna say, what were you hoping that readers would take away from this book?
00:37:21.519 --> 00:37:30.559
Yeah, well, we talked about the the belief of yourself, but also understanding that being mindful and being present is uh is work, right?
00:37:30.880 --> 00:37:32.559
It's not it's not natural.
00:37:33.199 --> 00:37:36.880
Let's call that like it is, even for myself, even though I wrote the book.
00:37:37.199 --> 00:37:41.599
I have to use tools to be mindful at moments.
00:37:42.400 --> 00:37:44.960
I may talk about it, but I have to practice.
00:37:45.119 --> 00:37:45.280
Yeah.
00:37:45.440 --> 00:37:49.599
You know, so that's really a takeaway that using this book as a tool.
00:37:49.920 --> 00:37:54.159
I wanted it to be a tool to say, okay, I'm feeling shaky today.
00:37:54.320 --> 00:37:55.440
What what can I do?
00:37:55.599 --> 00:38:01.039
There's other things, of course, but reading this book, The Journey, right?
00:38:01.119 --> 00:38:04.239
You know, there's a butterfly on your shoulder, feel it.
00:38:04.880 --> 00:38:08.079
Some of us have never felt a butterfly on our shoulder.
00:38:08.639 --> 00:38:13.039
But that imagination, that imagination can ground you.
00:38:13.360 --> 00:38:18.000
So you are in that moment thinking, there's a butterfly on your shoulder, feel it.
00:38:18.159 --> 00:38:22.639
So that that's the way it flows, like feeling the ocean is so powerful.
00:38:22.880 --> 00:38:26.960
Some people in this world, we're fortunate, we have gone to the beach.
00:38:27.039 --> 00:38:28.800
There's people who never went to the beach.
00:38:29.840 --> 00:38:36.559
So because we have the age of technology, close your eyes or put something on the screen and look at the beach.
00:38:37.519 --> 00:38:42.480
You know, so you have to be creative in your own journey of healing.
00:38:42.639 --> 00:38:47.840
And like you just read that to me, and it made me know that we are all children.
00:38:48.000 --> 00:38:50.800
It could be, it is
a children's book because we're all children, right?
00:38:51.039 --> 00:38:58.400
Really, our inner child is always here and rallying for us, but we have to give it love.
00:38:58.639 --> 00:39:01.440
So that's giving our inner child love.
00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:02.639
Love that.
00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:03.519
Yeah.
00:39:04.400 --> 00:39:13.360
Um, well, speaking of which, and I feel like, you know, the conversations I've been having on the podcast is uh the distracting nature of the world we live in now.
00:39:13.440 --> 00:39:24.480
And and, you know, someone once said that no one's bored anymore, and you can tell because there's no there's no time to be bored because you always have this tiny computer in your pocket, or there's always something to distract yourself with.
00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:28.400
Kids today are growing up in a world of constant stimulation.
00:39:28.559 --> 00:39:36.639
Um, if every parent listening tonight could practice just one thing with their child, what would that be that you recommend?
00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:47.119
Well, uh first of all, I recommend putting the device down, of course, because you know, they they are at we oh uh Stuart's all stuff, we're at that shows, we're always looking.
00:39:47.280 --> 00:39:55.280
But what I would say is sit with each other, um, take a moment of silence, feel your feet on the ground.
00:39:55.360 --> 00:39:56.079
There's so many things.
00:39:56.159 --> 00:40:01.360
But what I would say to you just really have a conversation together, you know, people don't talk to each other anymore.
00:40:02.239 --> 00:40:10.159
I would say, even if you read a simple book, and I'm saying my book is simple, simple doesn't mean not impactful.
00:40:10.800 --> 00:40:16.480
Simple where it's not time consuming, because like you just said people with the time constraints, right?
00:40:16.960 --> 00:40:24.480
This is a simple way and any poem, take any poem you love and read it again, then just think about it.
00:40:25.360 --> 00:40:30.960
So Eckhart Toledo, I love him, he's all about you know mindfulness and being still.
00:40:31.199 --> 00:40:34.159
Stillness he has a book called Stillness Speaks.
00:40:34.559 --> 00:40:36.960
Being still censors you.
00:40:37.199 --> 00:40:41.920
So as parents and child, we we the parents need to be censored before the child.
00:40:42.000 --> 00:40:44.480
We need to bring them to censor.
00:40:44.559 --> 00:40:46.480
So I would say just take a moment.
00:40:46.559 --> 00:40:55.119
And I, if you're not reading a book, if you you're quick on time, read a poem or listen to a music, listen to a song together and just sit there.
00:40:55.679 --> 00:40:56.320
Yeah.
00:40:56.960 --> 00:40:57.679
I love that.
00:40:58.079 --> 00:40:58.960
So true.
00:40:59.199 --> 00:41:01.599
Again, just being in the moment with your kid.
00:41:01.920 --> 00:41:04.320
Yes, just be in the moment, whatever it may be.
00:41:04.559 --> 00:41:09.039
Because some I'm gonna say too, some children don't like reading, it's a part of school.
00:41:09.199 --> 00:41:12.079
Oh my god, I gotta read again, I gotta listen to a book.
00:41:12.239 --> 00:41:14.159
Some kids are very aversive to books.
00:41:14.400 --> 00:41:15.519
So put on a song.
00:41:15.679 --> 00:41:20.320
Because I always say songs are poetry put to music.
00:41:21.360 --> 00:41:24.719
So read the lyrics after you listen to the song.
00:41:24.880 --> 00:41:27.760
Kind of, you know, say to your child, what's your favorite song?
00:41:27.920 --> 00:41:29.119
Let's listen to it together.
00:41:29.440 --> 00:41:30.639
Go into their world.
00:41:30.719 --> 00:41:30.880
Yeah.
00:41:31.039 --> 00:41:32.559
So this will be together.
00:41:33.119 --> 00:41:37.840
You know, given your your journey and your path, you know, resilience is a big thing.
00:41:38.000 --> 00:41:41.039
It's which is great because that's what we, you know, we talk about on the show a lot.
00:41:41.199 --> 00:41:44.239
Resilience, an important part of it's an important human aspect that we have.
00:41:44.400 --> 00:41:49.920
You know, we often think resilience pushing through pain or pushing through the dark spots or pushing through whatever's in front of us.
00:41:50.079 --> 00:41:55.199
But sometimes uh I feel like resilience is learning also how to sit with that, you know.
00:41:55.519 --> 00:41:59.119
How do you define resilience today, especially for you?
00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:06.960
So resilience, like you just said, but resilience is seeing the light even when it's dark.
00:42:08.000 --> 00:42:12.800
It's when it's dark, it's dark, and you have to work on looking for the light.
00:42:12.960 --> 00:42:16.320
So resilience is work to the light, I guess.
00:42:16.400 --> 00:42:17.360
That's what I meant to say.
00:42:17.599 --> 00:42:18.960
Working towards the light.
00:42:19.199 --> 00:42:19.760
Yeah.
00:42:20.079 --> 00:42:21.360
I love that.
00:42:21.760 --> 00:42:24.000
Um that's great.
00:42:24.079 --> 00:42:25.920
I might steal that from my podcast, you know?
00:42:26.159 --> 00:42:28.719
Okay, okay, you'd say Denise said I'm gonna steal it.
00:42:28.880 --> 00:42:30.000
Denise says I can steal it.
00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:31.440
Yeah, I have it here.
00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:32.320
Everybody heard it.
00:42:32.400 --> 00:42:33.519
Yeah, I can steal it.
00:42:34.159 --> 00:42:40.079
Um what do you, you know, I guess this is a two-parter.
00:42:40.239 --> 00:42:45.920
What worries you most about the emotional world that children, today's children are growing up in?
00:42:46.079 --> 00:42:52.320
Um, but then also conversely, what also gives you hope about the world the children are growing up in?
00:42:53.199 --> 00:43:01.119
So we'll we'll start with the worry, because the worry is um love is the most important thing, right?
00:43:01.280 --> 00:43:07.199
The the love of yourself that that will propel you uh for further than we could even imagine.
00:43:07.360 --> 00:43:16.639
Because even if you're
in a home where there's no love, if you're practicing how to love yourself, you can get through or get out of that pain.
00:43:16.960 --> 00:43:23.519
Um so this world, what what's um going on today is that there's not enough.
00:43:23.920 --> 00:43:28.800
I really have to say, you know, well, taking time to really love each other.
00:43:28.880 --> 00:43:31.679
And that could be as simple as smiling at a stranger, right?
00:43:31.840 --> 00:43:38.159
So the world has become so jaded and just let's do getting angry at different things.
00:43:38.400 --> 00:43:40.719
Then we got to talk about it like politics.
00:43:41.119 --> 00:43:42.239
We're all one.
00:43:42.400 --> 00:43:46.000
And when people finally come back to that, so that's what our hope is.
00:43:46.159 --> 00:43:51.760
The hope is that we are all one and we are all of the same, you know.
00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:53.679
We're all human, you know.
00:43:53.840 --> 00:43:57.519
So give a little bit more to the humanist and be more human.
00:43:57.840 --> 00:43:59.599
So give be be.
00:44:00.079 --> 00:44:04.880
More human, but give more to the humanists and have a little bit more forgiveness for each other.
00:44:04.960 --> 00:44:06.639
But most importantly, love.
00:44:07.280 --> 00:44:07.679
Yeah.
00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:09.039
That's an important part.
00:44:09.280 --> 00:44:09.760
Love.
00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:11.280
Love and empathy.
00:44:12.000 --> 00:44:12.239
Yes.
00:44:12.400 --> 00:44:13.039
And empathy.
00:44:13.760 --> 00:44:14.320
Yes.
00:44:14.800 --> 00:44:16.079
Yeah, that's great.
00:44:16.320 --> 00:44:18.079
And I 100% agree.
00:44:18.559 --> 00:44:24.880
Well, let's uh let's start talking about where everyone can find you, shall we?
00:44:25.519 --> 00:44:26.159
So yeah.
00:44:26.320 --> 00:44:27.920
So I I'm gonna jump in.
00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:32.880
So you can find me, of course, on all these wonderful podcasts that I do, right?
00:44:33.039 --> 00:44:39.280
I I love these because it's a way of getting the message out that it's so needed in the world.
00:44:39.599 --> 00:44:43.519
Um, you can go to my website, denisear.com, right?
00:44:44.159 --> 00:44:46.480
But that's where my books are, and that's different things.
00:44:46.639 --> 00:44:50.719
You can look on Instagram and see the things I'm doing, Denise Caesar.
00:44:51.119 --> 00:44:54.159
Um also I'm doing different events.
00:44:54.480 --> 00:44:56.000
I go to bookstores.
00:44:56.079 --> 00:45:00.239
Um, this weekend I'm gonna be in Hilton Head at a bookstore.
00:45:00.320 --> 00:45:02.400
Um, sharing my new book.
00:45:02.639 --> 00:45:09.519
Um, and then the following weekend, the book, I'm gonna be in a chocolate, chocolate shop where it's amazing.
00:45:09.760 --> 00:45:10.559
Oh my goodness.
00:45:11.280 --> 00:45:12.800
Oh, so it's in Charleston.
00:45:12.880 --> 00:45:13.920
I'm going to Charleston.
00:45:14.000 --> 00:45:16.800
It's um Starve's out of chocolate tier.
00:45:16.880 --> 00:45:26.000
Oh
my goodness, that chocolate he has is amazing, but they wanted me to come in because the book is so sweet and it just enhances the all of us.
00:45:26.159 --> 00:45:29.199
So because life is really sweet if we look at it that way.
00:45:29.519 --> 00:45:31.440
Let's talk about that book in the background, real quick.
00:45:31.519 --> 00:45:33.440
That you see that book right there.
00:45:33.840 --> 00:45:34.960
I love you more than chocolate.
00:45:35.039 --> 00:45:36.480
Now, is this out for the public?
00:45:36.960 --> 00:45:37.199
Yes.
00:45:37.360 --> 00:45:38.880
Well, it's on my website.
00:45:39.119 --> 00:45:42.559
Because why it's on my website, I'm gonna tell you why.
00:45:42.719 --> 00:45:43.280
It's so cute.
00:45:43.840 --> 00:45:45.599
See this, you gotta get that next.
00:45:45.760 --> 00:45:47.039
I gotta get this to you next.
00:45:47.199 --> 00:45:48.320
This feels like chocolate.
00:45:48.559 --> 00:46:03.519
Anyway, so on the reason this is only on my website is because I I kind of came to this conclusion that I want people just to go to my website at the moment because I want to write you a message.
00:46:03.679 --> 00:46:08.639
Oh that's I want because if you go to Amazon, what's gonna happen?
00:46:08.880 --> 00:46:12.320
I'm not saying anything about Amazon, they're wonderful, you need something tomorrow.
00:46:12.400 --> 00:46:13.599
Like right now, you get it.
00:46:13.840 --> 00:46:14.159
Good.
00:46:14.320 --> 00:46:16.400
But they're not gonna get my autograph, right?
00:46:16.719 --> 00:46:18.079
Yeah, you're not getting a personalized experience.
00:46:18.320 --> 00:46:20.159
And they're not gonna get a message.
00:46:20.400 --> 00:46:22.480
I want to touch one person at a time.
00:46:22.639 --> 00:46:29.280
So if I I if you why bought the book from me, well, I I knew you're more personal, so I go just personal nope.
00:46:29.599 --> 00:46:37.519
But even just for me to say something to you like you're so important in this moment, oh, life is sweet, savor, it's personal to you.
00:46:38.239 --> 00:46:41.599
So my website isn't that's where to go to get the book.
00:46:41.840 --> 00:46:44.559
So this new book is amazing.
00:46:44.719 --> 00:46:46.400
Do you want to know a little bit about that story?
00:46:46.639 --> 00:46:48.320
I need to know a little bit about that story.
00:46:48.559 --> 00:46:52.639
So remember, I said that teachers usually don't think that they're authors, right?
00:46:52.800 --> 00:46:54.960
But we're all authors, not a published author.
00:46:55.039 --> 00:46:58.239
We all write things, but being a published author is different.
00:46:58.400 --> 00:47:09.519
So, way back when, 26 years ago, when Daniel, my son, was born, I used to look at him and say, Oh, because I really love chocolate as a thing.
00:47:09.679 --> 00:47:13.519
So I used to look at him and say, Oh my goodness, I love you.
00:47:13.679 --> 00:47:14.960
I love you more than chocolate.
00:47:15.039 --> 00:47:16.239
It was just
the thing that came out of me.
00:47:16.320 --> 00:47:18.079
Now, did he remember that when he was an infant?
00:47:18.320 --> 00:47:19.039
Not really.
00:47:20.079 --> 00:47:22.079
He loves chocolate so much too now.
00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:28.559
But anyway, when I said that way back when I said, wow, that's a great title for a book.
00:47:29.039 --> 00:47:31.599
Hence, 26 years later, right?
00:47:31.679 --> 00:47:33.519
I didn't think I was writing this book.
00:47:33.679 --> 00:47:37.280
But since moments came out, I said, why not?
00:47:37.440 --> 00:47:40.000
But if you look at this, so you know I'm an educator.
00:47:40.239 --> 00:47:45.360
So each one represents the calendar: January, February, March, April, May.
00:47:45.519 --> 00:47:47.599
So it's all it's like a calendar-based.
00:47:47.760 --> 00:47:55.760
So you know, of course, my education brain is all over this book because it's all about memory, it's all about sequencing.
00:47:56.000 --> 00:47:57.840
I'll show you just one page.
00:47:58.000 --> 00:47:59.760
Let me I'll show you my favorite page.
00:47:59.920 --> 00:48:01.599
Well, these are the characters, I guess.
00:48:01.679 --> 00:48:02.639
Who are those two?
00:48:03.679 --> 00:48:05.599
That's Denise and Daniel, right?
00:48:05.760 --> 00:48:13.360
Uh but the funny thing, so I dedicated to my son, but all the chocolatiers and chocolate lovers around the world.
00:48:13.519 --> 00:48:14.880
Daniel, do you love chocolate?
00:48:15.199 --> 00:48:17.119
I do love chocolate, very much so.
00:48:17.440 --> 00:48:20.559
So it starts out where with the day he was born, you know.
00:48:20.639 --> 00:48:27.599
But that what I want to tell people about this book, though, it's your journey too, because it's not, I love you more than chocolate.
00:48:27.840 --> 00:48:29.519
I love you more than something.
00:48:29.840 --> 00:48:33.920
I love you so much that even the sweetest chocolate, I love you more than.
00:48:34.079 --> 00:48:35.840
So it's not about the chocolate.
00:48:36.000 --> 00:48:39.519
It could be like I was on another podcast, she said, Matzatala.
00:48:39.840 --> 00:48:41.679
I said, Yeah, I love you more than what's that.
00:48:42.320 --> 00:48:42.639
Okay.
00:48:43.119 --> 00:48:47.360
So it doesn't have to be I love you more than the Philadelphia Phillies.
00:48:47.599 --> 00:48:48.559
Oh, okay, right.
00:48:48.719 --> 00:48:49.519
So there you go.
00:48:49.599 --> 00:48:50.719
Like, so that's big.
00:48:50.800 --> 00:48:53.360
If you say that to someone who knows you, that's pretty big for me, yeah.
00:48:53.519 --> 00:48:54.719
That's pretty big, right?
00:48:55.519 --> 00:48:59.199
So it's that I love you more than it's awesome.
00:49:00.239 --> 00:49:05.519
Yeah, so it's just special moments, you know, it's special, like a new baby.
00:49:05.599 --> 00:49:08.159
You know, I have one son, new baby.
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And you know, it's just a fun journey.
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Yeah.
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And there's like Tillis we have this Easter eggs in this book.
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So for him, like so Daniel could pick out certain things that no one else would know.
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But what people can do is slip in their month, you know, what even in the back, I could show you there's like a chocolate calendar.
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Yesterday was World Chocolate Day.
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Okay.
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So yeah, it was World Chocolate Day yesterday.
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So this is really, really something special.
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That's so cool.
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Um, yeah, I mean, I really like that in the the moments in motion with love.
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There's almost there's a workbook in the back of it with a bunch of connectivity.
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Oh, yes.
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You know I'm an educator, right?
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So also there's because when you read a book, anyone like the children, there's a glossary.
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You could be reading the word and go, really, you're telling me to believe, but what does that really mean?
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So that's where my language base comes in.
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There's coloring, there's writing notes to yourself.
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So it's a word book.
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It is so cool.
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It is, it's so it's just something, it's just something special.
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Um, yeah.
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So did you already talk about the website?
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Did you already say where people can find you?
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Did we say that?
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TanithCaesar.com.
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Um definitely go there to get the book because I want to write you a personal message.
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We said that this book is something special.
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And um, yeah, I'm I'm in different places.
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And if we rewind back to moments, emotions with love, I have created something for schools and for organizations that is movement.
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So it's yoga motions with love, where every page of the book comes to life, where you have movement.
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So I always wanted to do something like that because sometimes people can get out of a chair.
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So I mean every movement where anyone could do it, where if it's for everyone, you know.
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So it's very um endearing and it takes you through every page.
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I'm in the I'm in the book, we're in the video.
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You see me doing the poses in the book.
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It's kind of funny.
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I love it.
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But each page comes alive with the movement, man.
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Um because people are people are afraid to do yoga, but it's not even about yoga, it's just moving of the body.
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Because that's another thing that helps you movement and things like that.
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Yeah.
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Holly, I absolutely agree with that for sure.
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Um, what's next for you?
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What's coming up next?
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Anything besides the book tour?
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When's your next book?
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What's next?
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So, yeah, I'm on that book tour.
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I'm doing, like I said, I'm gonna have things, different things going on.
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I'm also gonna be in Nashville at the book uh event in November.
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Um, other things is having this video solidified and being able to package it and get it into the world.
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Um, what else is on good stuff?
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We have something else in the works that's gonna tie this all together.
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Um, kind of like a dog you series of sorts that I don't think I could talk about it just yet, but it's bringing all these things together uh in a wonderful, beautiful way.
00:52:10.239 --> 00:52:11.599
Denise, that's so cool.
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Um, I'm excited.
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I appreciate the little teaser, even though you couldn't say anything much.
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I'm excited for for what's coming your way.
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Um yes, and Wade, you'll know, of course, uh we're doing this podcast, but you'll know everything I will share and share with you as soon as I can.
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Oh, please do.
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And I will make sure I'll share it on my podcast and also on my socials too, to get as much eyes on that as possible.
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No, but I want to be I want to appreciate you because you are doing good in the world.
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I appreciate doing it and keep believing in you, you know, because we things come to us when they're supposed to, and you're you're in this moment and keep doing that.
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And um would you uh I was I was on a heart gets when someone says, Would you appreciate appreciates?
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Yeah, it's so true.
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Yeah, so I want I want you to know that I appreciate you and I appreciate being here today, and more to come for you, and more to come for me doing great things in this world, braving the bright side because we have to be brave to find the bright side.
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I was just gonna say my one last question to you was gonna be in your own words, what does braving the bright side mean to you?
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So braving the bright side means having the courage to see when it's dark, but looking for the light.
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Oh wow.
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Yeah.
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Love that.
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It makes sense why you're don't spoil it.
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No, I don't care.
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It's fine, it's in the world.
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Yeah.
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We hear it out.
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It was a bad uh Denise.
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Now listen, your your journey, I mean, your story's incredible, your spirit's incredible.
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Um, you know, right back at you.
00:53:56.960 --> 00:54:01.519
You're putting a lot of good out there in the world, you're putting a lot of love out there, you're you're slowing moments down.
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Um, you're teaching other people how to slow moments down and appreciate the the small moments and small things.
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And um, plus, you know, your adorable books.
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And um, you just you're doing amazing work out there.
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And one of the things that is the best about this podcast and what I'm what I'm trying to do, besides just kind of spread the light, is getting to meet incredible human beings like yourself and forming real friendships and connections with them, and then also just being enlightened and just you know, these are just awesome conversations to have to kind of refill my my human meter, if you will.
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Um, yes, which is important.
00:54:40.559 --> 00:54:44.559
So not only remember I said that the you being you human, right?
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Feeling about you, I love that feeling about human meter.
00:54:48.239 --> 00:54:51.519
Yeah, so it's overflowing after this conversation with you.
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I really do appreciate it.
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And keep me posted on all of your happenings.
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And who knows, maybe at some point we'll swing back around.
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Maybe I'll be able to swing up to New York and do an interview with you in person at some point.
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Maybe that would be awesome, even though I'm in South Carolina now.
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Oh, you're in South Carolina now.
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All right, well, I was way off.
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Um, you could have you could call me up.
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Actually, I'm gonna meet you maybe in Pennsylvania because that's what my son Daniel lives.
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Oh, that's right.
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Yeah, we're he lives close too, right?
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Plymouth meeting?
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He lives close, yeah.
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He lives Plymouth Meeting, and you live right over there.
00:55:24.400 --> 00:55:26.639
Yeah, I live like 15 minutes away in media.
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Um, everybody out there, I cannot recommend moments in motion with love and just interacting with Denise in general.
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Um, I highly recommend it.
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Please check out her website, please check her out.
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Talk to her.
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Um, she's an amazing human being.
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Um, Denise, thank you so much for spending this time with me on the bright side.
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I really do appreciate that.
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Um, and I hope you have a lovely rest of your day.
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Thank you so much, and I loved being here.
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Thank you.
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And I I could love you more than chocolate.
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Oh, I'll take it.
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That's a win.
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A huge thank you to Denise for joining me, for sharing her story so openly, and for bringing so much warmth to this conversation.
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I meant what I said.
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My human meter feels a little fuller after that interview.
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What stays with me is the image of her sitting on the edge of her bed, taking a breath, and finding a way to face the day.
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Then coming home and crying.
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Both those things were part of her getting through it.
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And I think that's something that we need to give ourselves permission to remember.
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You can have hope and still have a hard day.
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You can encourage somebody else and still need someone to lean on yourself.
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I also loved her reminder to step into someone else's world for a minute.
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Listen to their favorite song with them, ask a question and give them time to answer.
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Those things seem small, but feeling like somebody actually wants to understand you?
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Man, that matters.
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You'll find Denise's information and links to her books in the episode description.
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So please go show her some bright side love.
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You'll also find a link in the description where you can vote for her so she can get her very own sponsored podcast and IHeart Radio.
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So again, please go vote and go show her some love.
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She absolutely deserves it.
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And that'll do it for another trip to the bright side.
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As always, thank you so much for listening.
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One step, one sunrise, one honest conversation at a time.
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I'll see you next time.