# Julie Gottman

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#92 Am I Working on the Right Thing? When Communication Problems Are About More Than Communication

Communication Problems—or Something Deeper? Is a relationship problem really a communication problem? In this solo episode, psychologist Xan Banker, Psy.D., L.P., explores why conflict often involves more than finding the right words. Defensiveness, shame, emotional regulation, attachment insecurit…

Maintaining Healthy Relationships During Graduate School

Pursuing a graduate degree is an exciting step for personal and professional growth—but it also comes with its own unique set of challenges. One of the most significant involves balancing the relationships in your life while meeting the intense demands of academia. The latest episode of the Victors…

How to Improve Your Marriage: 6 Relationship Behaviors That Can Predict Divorce

You can't control your partner—but you can change your part in the relationship. What if improving your marriage starts with looking inward instead of trying to change your spouse? In this episode of ChosenSA, Jirzia Blackman joins the conversation to discuss relationship healing, healthy communi…

The 4 Communication Patterns That Can Damage Your Marriage | Jirzia Blackmon on ChosenSA

You've heard that communication is the key to a healthy relationship. But what if the way you communicate is actually creating distance between you and your partner? In Part 2 of this conversation on ChosenSA, Jirzia Blackmon joins Pastor Cindy Agodwin to continue exploring the Gottman Method and …

6 Relationship Warning Signs Couples Should Never Ignore

What if the patterns you keep overlooking are the very things pushing you and your partner further apart? In Part 3, the final part of her conversation with Cindy Godwin of the ChosenSA Podcast, Jirzia Blackman breaks down important relationship patterns from John and Julie Gottman's research, inc…

Why Do I Avoid Conflict With the People I Love?

Why do you avoid conflict with the people you love? Usually it's not a missing skill but an old belief that your honest needs will cost you connection, so you swallow them. Avoiding conflict with the people closest to you is rarely peace; it's postponement, and the bill comes due as distance and r…

Elise Loehnen – What Women Give Up to Be Loved | Real Love Ready Ep 28

What do women give up in order to be loved? Elise Loehnen spent years helping tell other people’s stories before turning her attention to the invisible rules shaping her own. In her New York Times bestseller On Our Best Behavior, she examines how deeply women learn to associate goodness with accep…

Ep 1010: Why You Keep Having the Same Fight—and What It's Really About with Joree Rose

SHOW NOTES Do you keep having the same argument with your partner, even when you both want things to improve? And are you exhausted from feeling like the only one doing the relationship work? In this episode of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T., Linda Mitchell welcomes Joree Rose, a licensed marriage …

Nobody Taught Us How to Love (And It Shows)

We spend years learning how to read, write, and navigate the world, but somehow nobody teaches us how to love. And judging by the state of modern relationships, we could all use a little extra credit! This week on The Lo Life Podcast, Lo welcomes Robin Ducharme, relationship educator, former matchm…

Ep195: Why Most Couple Conflicts Never Disappear

Send us Fan Mail Most couples think the goal is to stop fighting. What if the real goal is learning how to fight less destructively and feel more connected while you do it?We sit down with Isabelle Murray, one of my students and a research assistant, to talk about couples therapy and a standout ide…