00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:02.000
I just think people should have information.
00:00:02.160 --> 00:00:06.400
What's important to me is that people have information so that they can decide.
00:00:06.639 --> 00:00:10.160
Because once you know something, you can decide what you want to do.
00:00:10.400 --> 00:00:14.720
What does it really look like to build your dream life while you're living it?
00:00:14.960 --> 00:00:22.079
One day I'm on stage singing with Hugh Jackman at 36 weeks pregnant, just trying not to give birth in Oklahoma.
00:00:22.320 --> 00:00:30.000
And the next, I'm having real conversations about love, loss, career pivot, and becoming someone I didn't even know I could be.
00:00:30.160 --> 00:00:44.079
Because this show isn't just about Broadway, it's about the moments that change you, the risks you take, the dreams you almost talk yourself out of, the strength you don't realize you have until life asks you to use it.
00:00:44.320 --> 00:00:50.000
If you've ever felt like you're in between chapters or stepping into something new, you're not alone.
00:00:50.159 --> 00:00:51.920
You're just getting started.
00:00:52.159 --> 00:00:58.479
This is the Salicia Show, where Broadway meets culture and your real life becomes the main event.
00:00:58.799 --> 00:01:03.600
Hello, and welcome or welcome back to another episode of The Salicia Show.
00:01:03.759 --> 00:01:18.400
I'm your host, Salicia Thomas, and I am here with my girl, my ride of die, my work wife, my co-producer, Tinya Brandon, reporting live from Uruguay.
00:01:20.799 --> 00:01:21.439
Yes.
00:01:22.879 --> 00:01:23.599
How are you today?
00:01:23.680 --> 00:01:24.000
What's up?
00:01:24.719 --> 00:01:25.200
How are you doing?
00:01:25.439 --> 00:01:25.760
I'm good.
00:01:25.840 --> 00:01:26.799
I don't know if you can tell.
00:01:26.879 --> 00:01:29.040
The sun is very, very bright here right now.
00:01:29.120 --> 00:01:37.760
It's a little bit chilly because it's it's fall where I am, and I think it's spring where you are, but it's still really pretty outside, and I always like that.
00:01:37.840 --> 00:01:39.120
I always like when the sun is shining.
00:01:39.200 --> 00:01:44.000
The sun right now is like casting like a bounce on my on my chin, which I very much appreciate.
00:01:44.400 --> 00:01:45.680
Listen, she looks good.
00:01:45.840 --> 00:01:46.799
She looks good, okay?
00:01:46.879 --> 00:01:48.319
You looking good over there.
00:01:49.920 --> 00:01:53.439
I I so here's what I would like to talk about today.
00:01:53.680 --> 00:01:54.079
Great.
00:01:54.319 --> 00:02:01.439
Before we get into it, right before I walked into this podcast studio, I was on the sidewalk with Gabrielle Elizabeth, our girl.
00:02:01.599 --> 00:02:01.920
Oh, okay.
00:02:02.400 --> 00:02:07.920
And right, and we ran into Josh Prince, the original choreographer for Beautiful.
00:02:08.080 --> 00:02:10.479
Oh my gosh! On the streets of New York.
00:02:10.560 --> 00:02:12.159
I haven't seen him in so long.
00:02:12.719 --> 00:02:23.120
On the streets of New York, and right before we ran into Josh Prince, I was standing on 38th facing West.
00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:24.319
Okay.
00:02:24.639 --> 00:02:31.680
And this beautiful black woman was crossing the street, and I knew exactly who it was before I even knew who it was.
00:02:31.840 --> 00:02:36.879
And I was talking to Gab, whose back was facing her, and I said, hold on, Gab, just give me a second.
00:02:37.120 --> 00:02:38.240
Was it who so?
00:02:38.400 --> 00:02:38.639
No.
00:02:38.800 --> 00:02:38.960
Oh.
00:02:39.120 --> 00:02:40.400
I do love me some who so.
00:02:40.639 --> 00:02:41.280
It was not whoso.
00:02:41.599 --> 00:02:41.919
Okay.
00:02:43.199 --> 00:02:44.960
It was Anika Noni Rose.
00:02:45.039 --> 00:02:45.120
Oh.
00:02:45.439 --> 00:02:50.000
The original voice of Princess Tiana and Princess and the Frog.
00:02:50.639 --> 00:02:54.800
The Laurel in the Dream Girls movie with Beyonce and J Hud.
00:02:55.120 --> 00:02:55.759
Yeah.
00:02:56.080 --> 00:02:57.039
Anika Noni.
00:02:57.199 --> 00:03:02.879
She was walking across the street and then she was coming up, passing me on the sidewalk, and I was like, Gab, just give me a second.
00:03:03.280 --> 00:03:08.560
And she looked at me and she saw me see her, and I just smiled at her and let her pass.
00:03:08.719 --> 00:03:10.400
And she smiled back.
00:03:12.479 --> 00:03:23.039
And my heart stopped because she has been such a significant part of my journey, even though we've never met.
00:03:23.280 --> 00:03:25.439
I did not accost her on the street.
00:03:25.680 --> 00:03:27.039
And she has no idea.
00:03:27.280 --> 00:03:28.319
I didn't, I didn't.
00:03:28.400 --> 00:03:29.520
I'm not that girl.
00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:31.680
I'm at least not usually.
00:03:31.840 --> 00:03:42.960
It would take, I don't know what it would take for me to be that girl, but I did not accost her, but I just have this huge thank you in my heart because she has inspired so much of my journey.
00:03:43.199 --> 00:03:48.800
And so even though she has not been a direct mentor in my life, sure.
00:03:49.280 --> 00:03:56.159
She has indirectly, indirectly been a mentor in my life.
00:03:56.240 --> 00:03:59.759
And so for this episode, I'd like to talk about mentorship.
00:04:00.000 --> 00:04:00.479
I love that.
00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:01.120
I love that.
00:04:01.199 --> 00:04:06.639
And Anika Notti Rose is like the perfect example, I think, of like an indirect mentor.
00:04:06.800 --> 00:04:10.319
I feel like she's been like that for so many little black girls across America.
00:04:10.479 --> 00:04:12.479
You and me both, you know?
00:04:12.960 --> 00:04:16.319
She's an icon in my heart.
00:04:16.560 --> 00:04:20.800
And like, and her work expands like so much further past like Tiana.
00:04:21.040 --> 00:04:25.759
Like, I I appreciate the work that she's done on Broadway and plays and things like that.
00:04:25.839 --> 00:04:27.360
And I think that's why she's in New York right now.
00:04:27.519 --> 00:04:30.160
I believe she's in a play on Broadway, right?
00:04:30.399 --> 00:04:31.199
What is she working on?
00:04:31.360 --> 00:04:32.319
It looks like she was coming out of the city.
00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:37.279
I should I would be, I should be like kicking myself for not knowing exactly what she's doing.
00:04:37.439 --> 00:04:37.759
I don't know.
00:04:38.160 --> 00:04:38.879
I don't know what it is.
00:04:39.040 --> 00:04:41.680
I believe she's in a play on Broadway right now.
00:04:41.839 --> 00:04:45.759
Um, but I cannot for the life of me place what it is.
00:04:46.160 --> 00:04:47.600
No, I don't know what it is either.
00:04:47.680 --> 00:04:48.720
I just know that I love her.
00:04:48.879 --> 00:04:53.519
I know that Jingle Jangle is my favorite Christmas movie that I have to watch every year now.
00:04:54.639 --> 00:04:56.560
I love me some Jingle Jangle.
00:04:56.879 --> 00:04:59.439
Yes, that's a it's a it's a gorgeous movie.
00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:00.480
It's a gorgeous movie.
00:05:00.560 --> 00:05:06.160
I I um me or my partner are often singing the songs from that film, and it's it's a really good one.
00:05:06.399 --> 00:05:08.000
But yeah, it's joyful.
00:05:08.240 --> 00:05:11.360
What a great way to start a conversation about about mentorship.
00:05:11.519 --> 00:05:13.120
She's like, she's so good.
00:05:13.360 --> 00:05:17.199
Who are some mentors that you have had like over time?
00:05:18.240 --> 00:05:20.000
No, I want to start with you.
00:05:20.319 --> 00:05:20.879
Oh man.
00:05:21.120 --> 00:05:22.079
You answer that question.
00:05:22.240 --> 00:05:22.639
Yes.
00:05:22.879 --> 00:05:23.199
You know what?
00:05:23.279 --> 00:05:28.319
You know, the first person that I'm actually thinking of right now is probably Natasha Yvette Williams.
00:05:28.879 --> 00:05:30.560
She and I were I love her.
00:05:30.879 --> 00:05:32.079
Yeah, she's fantastic.
00:05:32.240 --> 00:05:34.480
She and I were both in some Like It Hot.
00:05:34.639 --> 00:05:36.560
She played Sweet Two, yeah.
00:05:36.720 --> 00:05:38.720
And I was one of her understudies.
00:05:39.199 --> 00:05:42.800
But I loved I didn't know you understudied that character.
00:05:43.040 --> 00:05:43.839
I did, I did.
00:05:44.000 --> 00:05:44.959
Her and Sugar.
00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:47.360
Her and Adriana, who you've also had on the show.
00:05:47.519 --> 00:05:48.639
Adriana Hicks.
00:05:48.800 --> 00:05:49.360
Yes.
00:05:49.600 --> 00:05:50.560
Yeah, yeah.
00:05:51.040 --> 00:05:54.160
I wish I could have seen you as that as sugar.
00:05:54.399 --> 00:05:55.759
That's so iconic.
00:05:56.000 --> 00:05:59.199
They called me petite Sue instead of sweet Sue.
00:06:00.959 --> 00:06:02.160
That's awesome.
00:06:02.399 --> 00:06:03.360
That's awesome.
00:06:03.600 --> 00:06:05.199
You can literally do anything, Ty.
00:06:05.680 --> 00:06:06.319
You can do anything.
00:06:06.800 --> 00:06:07.759
That's nice, Salish.
00:06:07.839 --> 00:06:08.560
Thanks for saying that.
00:06:08.800 --> 00:06:15.120
But no, I think of Natasha definitely as one of those people who have kind of mentored me through my career.
00:06:15.199 --> 00:06:28.160
And I don't even know if she knows that or not, but I believe that sitting backstage with her, watching her work in rehearsal, watching her work on her other projects, she's also a writer.
00:06:28.399 --> 00:06:31.920
She is incredibly involved with um arts organizations.
00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:35.600
She's one of the founders and board members of Black Theater United.
00:06:35.759 --> 00:06:49.120
So just kind of being in her presence and watching her navigate her career, her family, and her uh, I was about to say philanthropy work, which yes, I I think I would say that that is true.
00:06:49.439 --> 00:06:55.839
That has been uh a huge inspiration to me in figuring out how I can navigate my my own career.
00:06:56.240 --> 00:07:04.480
Was she did she begin to take um like that role in your life from working with her or like who what about beforehand?
00:07:04.560 --> 00:07:08.639
Because you've always been like you've always had a producer brain since I've known you.
00:07:08.720 --> 00:07:10.959
That's and that was before Sunlack and Hop.
00:07:11.759 --> 00:07:18.879
Well, I yes, I I will say the answer is yes, because I did know of her work beforehand.
00:07:19.040 --> 00:07:36.800
Like I I knew about her work in in um in Tina, the musical, but even before that, like she was the original uh Sophia in Color Purple, and she has done like a million tours.
00:07:36.959 --> 00:07:41.439
So, like, yes, I've been familiar with her for a really long time.
00:07:41.759 --> 00:07:57.839
But what kind of put her really on my radar as somebody to um to want to be close to was when she started working on Tina because she was doing Tina at the same time as my good friend Dion was doing Tina on Broadway.
00:07:58.079 --> 00:07:59.199
Relief for Lee?
00:07:59.519 --> 00:08:00.480
Yes, yes.
00:08:00.720 --> 00:08:03.040
Oh, I love Dion! Yes, me too.
00:08:03.279 --> 00:08:04.000
That's my bestie.
00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:08.879
But yes, they were working together and and Dion would talk to me about her.
00:08:09.120 --> 00:08:14.720
Dion was like, I just feel like we need to wrap her up and bubble wrap and keep her safe all the time because we need her, we need her around.
00:08:14.800 --> 00:08:16.560
And I was like, I hear you, I hear you.
00:08:16.800 --> 00:08:24.079
So when she finished that and you know, we both got cast and some like it hot, I like immediately was like, hello, hi.
00:08:24.319 --> 00:08:26.879
And also, too, she's she's from North Carolina as well.
00:08:26.959 --> 00:08:30.480
She's from Fayetteville, North Carolina, and I'm from Charlotte, North Carolina.
00:08:30.639 --> 00:08:34.799
So I felt like we had to immediately just like make that hometown connection.
00:08:34.960 --> 00:08:35.600
Same with Dion.
00:08:35.759 --> 00:08:41.840
Dion lived in Fayetteville for a significant part of his life, so Carolina peeps, we stick together.
00:08:42.159 --> 00:08:43.440
I love that.
00:08:43.919 --> 00:08:45.840
Also, not for nothing, Ty.
00:08:46.159 --> 00:08:50.960
I feel like, and I I I wonder, because I actually don't know this about you or not.
00:08:51.440 --> 00:09:00.399
Do you mentor anybody in a like official setting type of thing or um unofficially?
00:09:00.559 --> 00:09:02.080
Do you do any mentorship?
00:09:02.399 --> 00:09:02.799
Yes.
00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:11.759
I would say uh uh maybe officially and unofficially, but interestingly enough, I don't know who I'm maybe like indirectly mentoring.
00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:12.720
I'm I'm not sure.
00:09:13.039 --> 00:09:13.759
Probably a lot.
00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:14.879
I don't know.
00:09:15.200 --> 00:09:21.840
I'll I'll say I hope there's somebody that maybe uh looks at me and says, Oh, she's doing something right, you know.
00:09:22.159 --> 00:09:29.200
But I or doing something that I want to do, and I can learn from her, which is why you have your course because you know that people can learn from you.
00:09:29.440 --> 00:09:30.320
That's right, that's right.
00:09:30.480 --> 00:09:33.679
And I and also too, I just think people should have information.
00:09:33.840 --> 00:09:38.639
What's important to me is that people have information so that they can decide, right?
00:09:38.879 --> 00:09:44.320
Because once you know something, you can decide what you want to do with that information or do nothing with it.
00:09:44.399 --> 00:09:46.240
You know, that's also a a decision.
00:09:46.799 --> 00:10:25.519
But yes, so I do I do have a couple of I have I have one person um who uh was a student at uh ANT and she came with a group of students to see I don't remember if it was Lion King or Sun Liked Hot, but I remember her coming up to me after the show when we were like doing one of those talkbacks and just like seeing the people and stuff like that, and she said, I know your work, I'm I'm actually in town longer than this trip.
00:10:25.919 --> 00:10:27.120
Can we have coffee?
00:10:27.440 --> 00:10:30.879
And I was like, Oh, okay, sure.
00:10:31.120 --> 00:10:33.360
Yeah, I would imagine you would get that a lot.
00:10:33.600 --> 00:10:38.159
Oh no, not a lot, not a lot, but I I was actually kind of surprised to get this one.
00:10:38.240 --> 00:10:39.200
But I was like, Yeah, sure.
00:10:39.279 --> 00:10:45.039
I'm like, I'm I'm sure you want to like ask questions about the biz or whatever, like, and I'll I'll I'll tell you what I know.
00:10:45.200 --> 00:10:50.399
So we went and got coffee, and she sat me down and she straight up said directly, like, I would like for you to be my mentor.
00:10:50.480 --> 00:10:51.519
And I was like, Oh.
00:10:52.399 --> 00:10:56.960
And at the time I didn't even think, I was like, girl, I haven't even done enough yet.
00:10:57.120 --> 00:10:59.279
I was like, there's so many things I still want to do.
00:10:59.440 --> 00:11:01.360
And I was very, you know, vulnerable with her.
00:11:01.440 --> 00:11:10.480
I was like, you know, I still feel like I'm figuring out so many things myself, but like I'm happy to share with you whatever, whatever I feel like you know, you should know.
00:11:10.559 --> 00:11:15.919
And and if you have any questions, you know, don't hesitate to to come to me and ask me things.
00:11:16.080 --> 00:11:19.919
She's texted me every now and again, like, hey, do you know of any fellowships and stuff?
00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:33.200
So I will send her, you know, emails like, yes, BTU is doing this, or um, these organizations are coming up in North Carolina that you, if you want to work alongside them, let me know if you're ever in the city, things like that.
00:11:33.440 --> 00:11:39.360
So, yes, I I feel like mentorship is incredibly important because, like I said, folks need information.
00:11:39.519 --> 00:11:42.159
And once they have the information, they can do what they want.
00:11:42.799 --> 00:11:52.879
Okay, this is one of the many reasons why I love you because I feel like the generation that has come before us, well, not the not Gen X, but like my parents' generation.
00:11:52.960 --> 00:11:54.799
There's a lot of gatekeepers.
00:11:55.360 --> 00:12:05.600
And people, a lot of not everybody, but a lot of people like to gatekeep, which makes the younger generation and our generation like have to go digging for answers.
00:12:05.759 --> 00:12:14.159
And I love what you said of like when you know the answers, opening up the door for the people coming up behind us, it just like, why don't we, why not help each other out?
00:12:14.320 --> 00:12:16.799
Why not share the knowledge that we have?
00:12:17.039 --> 00:12:21.840
Get the scarcity mindset out of the way, in the trash, out the door.
00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:24.480
And like, there's room for everybody.
00:12:24.639 --> 00:12:28.879
There's and I truly don't believe that anything is really scarce.
00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:35.679
I think that, I think that is just something that is projected to make everybody feel like they have to like be in competition with each other, right?
00:12:35.840 --> 00:12:43.919
Um, but I I don't believe in scarcity because art is abundant and any type of art that wants to be made can be made.
00:12:44.080 --> 00:12:54.240
And that's not to say that every piece of art will necessarily become like mainstream or like the biggest thing and have like a trillion followers or a trillion eyes on it or anything like that.
00:12:54.480 --> 00:13:02.159
But when we're talking about artistry and why I think mentorship is so important, it's just because like this this is an abundant thing.
00:13:02.320 --> 00:13:05.200
It is it is like energy, it is neither created nor destroyed.
00:13:05.279 --> 00:13:13.679
Well, I guess art is created, but like it's always around us, is is is kind of what I feel like it can always be yeah, you can pull art out of out of nothing.
00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:15.279
So yeah.
00:13:16.320 --> 00:13:22.320
Also, the thing that you said that struck something with me was I feel like I'm nowhere near done.
00:13:22.399 --> 00:13:24.799
Like I'm still learning and doing and growing.
00:13:25.039 --> 00:13:32.320
Well, yeah, but like does anybody ever feel do you do you know anybody that ever feels done?
00:13:32.559 --> 00:13:33.039
Feels done?
00:13:33.279 --> 00:13:33.759
Like no.
00:13:34.559 --> 00:13:40.320
Yes! No, no, right?
00:13:40.480 --> 00:13:48.480
Like, and that's the beautiful part of not just our industry, but as like humans, where is the endpoint?
00:13:48.720 --> 00:13:55.840
I think when I was writing my book, I somebody said something along those lines of it's never gonna feel done.
00:13:56.000 --> 00:14:01.600
It's never gonna feel perfect, but at some point, you gotta hit publish.
00:14:01.759 --> 00:14:02.240
That's right.
00:14:02.480 --> 00:14:06.000
At some point you have to just really Yeah.
00:14:06.159 --> 00:14:06.480
Yeah.
00:14:06.639 --> 00:14:07.039
Yeah.
00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:10.320
Even if it's not what is perfect, what is that?
00:14:10.399 --> 00:14:14.399
Yeah, but it's who who have been who have been like your mentors over time?
00:14:14.559 --> 00:14:39.919
Because I know, like I know that you you had all the this inspiration when we were, of course, in the beautiful dressing room, and you were like, Okay, I'm gonna do this podcast, but then like soon after that, you were like, I'm writing a book, I'm living by closely, I'm having a baby, I'm getting married, I'm doing all these things, and I'm like, Woo! It kind of seemed like everything really took off really, really quickly for you, and you felt very uh grounded and ready for it.
00:14:40.080 --> 00:14:47.919
Did you have somebody who was kind of like navigating you through that, or were you just kind of like trusting life as it came?
00:14:48.320 --> 00:14:55.039
I have always been so afraid to ask ask the people who I look up to for mentorship.
00:14:55.120 --> 00:15:00.000
I've never asked anybody formally to be my mentor.
00:15:00.559 --> 00:15:06.399
I just will study the people who I truly deeply admire.
00:15:06.559 --> 00:15:18.559
I study them from far away, just like Anika walked by me on the sidewalk, and I'm just like, I see this goddess coming, not a stitch of makeup, and still looking perfect, like just fabulous.
00:15:18.720 --> 00:15:18.960
Yeah.
00:15:19.200 --> 00:15:24.960
And I'm like, and my heart stopped, and I just had a thank you in my soul for her.
00:15:25.120 --> 00:15:26.879
That's usually how I approach life.
00:15:27.120 --> 00:15:35.679
And if I had to say somebody who has been my mentor, who obviously I've never met, it would be Oprah, which feels so silly.
00:15:35.840 --> 00:15:37.200
That feels so silly.
00:15:37.440 --> 00:15:42.879
Ty, I have felt like a fool, like an idiot when people are like, Who do you want to be like when you grow up?
00:15:43.039 --> 00:15:45.440
And I'm like, I really like Oprah's model.
00:15:45.679 --> 00:15:52.720
And I've taken classes before when somebody was like, Well, okay, duh, everybody wants to be like Oprah, so name somebody else.
00:15:52.879 --> 00:15:56.080
And I'm like, I mean, I get it.
00:15:56.240 --> 00:15:58.159
Like she's like a household name.
00:15:58.480 --> 00:16:02.000
Yeah, but if that's your pillar, I hate that people have discouraged you from that.
00:16:02.080 --> 00:16:04.559
Like, you know, that's oh no, no, no, no, no.
00:16:04.799 --> 00:16:06.480
I did not get discouraged.
00:16:06.639 --> 00:16:09.519
I felt like, how dare you watch me.
00:16:09.759 --> 00:16:10.720
There you go.
00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:11.919
There you go.
00:16:12.879 --> 00:16:21.120
People always try to step on my dreams because I dream big, and they're big scary dreams that don't look possible.
00:16:21.279 --> 00:16:25.840
I look like a crazy person when I say my true dreams out loud.
00:16:26.080 --> 00:16:29.600
And there have been many people who are like, You sound nuts.
00:16:29.759 --> 00:16:34.960
No, and so well, I think big dreams should be should be kind of crazy.
00:16:35.120 --> 00:16:38.080
Like that's that's what they're for, you know.
00:16:38.240 --> 00:16:44.320
At one point in time for both of us, like Broadway was the big crazy dream, right?
00:16:44.480 --> 00:16:45.200
And then it happens.
00:16:45.440 --> 00:16:48.320
Yes, you know, it always sounds crazy until it happens.
00:16:48.480 --> 00:16:54.879
I feel like Tabitha Brown says that she's like, yeah, it always sounds crazy and then it's done.
00:16:55.519 --> 00:16:57.120
And then it's done.
00:16:57.600 --> 00:17:00.159
I feel like, and I don't know about you, or maybe I do.
00:17:00.240 --> 00:17:01.679
Have you told me about this?
00:17:02.399 --> 00:17:07.359
I was fortunate enough to have parents who did not discourage me from pursuing the theater.
00:17:07.519 --> 00:17:13.359
They wanted me to be a lawyer, they wanted me to do other types of careers, but when I chose theater, they did not discourage me.
00:17:13.519 --> 00:17:20.319
The one thing that my mom did say was because I told her one day, I'm moving to New York City.
00:17:20.400 --> 00:17:22.000
It was not me asking for permission.
00:17:22.160 --> 00:17:26.079
I said, I already bought my ticket and I'm moving on this date.
00:17:26.319 --> 00:17:27.920
And she said, Okay.
00:17:28.480 --> 00:17:34.319
And she just said, the day you move to New York, I'm no longer paying for your rent.
00:17:34.640 --> 00:17:35.920
You're on your own.
00:17:36.160 --> 00:17:42.400
I'll pay for it as long as you are like down the street in Southern California, but I won't pay for it in New York.
00:17:42.559 --> 00:17:43.839
And I said, Okay.
00:17:44.640 --> 00:17:57.039
And I started paying for my own rent when I moved here in the city, and I was fortunate enough to be to book Beautiful, the the tour two weeks after I got here, and we did the thing.
00:17:57.200 --> 00:17:57.759
We did the thing.
00:17:57.920 --> 00:18:03.279
And it wasn't until later where my mom was like, I cannot believe you actually did it.
00:18:06.480 --> 00:18:08.880
She was like, I was really nervous.
00:18:09.039 --> 00:18:12.319
And even after I was doing the thing, Ty, did I ever tell you this?
00:18:12.480 --> 00:18:16.480
During the pandemic, you were doing something with Lion King and it was on our TV screens.
00:18:16.799 --> 00:18:17.119
Okay.
00:18:17.279 --> 00:18:19.519
Do you remember doing something with Lion King on the TV?
00:18:20.000 --> 00:18:20.079
Yes.
00:18:20.240 --> 00:18:22.079
Yes, I did, yeah, I did a couple of things.
00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:22.799
Yes.
00:18:23.359 --> 00:18:25.440
You okay, it was on our TV screen.
00:18:27.759 --> 00:18:29.759
So I said yes to everything.
00:18:30.720 --> 00:18:36.000
Well, it was you and a few others in boxes because everybody was at home recording on Zoom.
00:18:36.160 --> 00:18:36.400
Right.
00:18:36.559 --> 00:18:42.160
And it was on behalf of the Lion King, and it was on our real TVs, not like it was TV.
00:18:42.319 --> 00:18:46.079
And my mom was watching it, and I was like, Oh, that's my girl Ty.
00:18:46.559 --> 00:18:50.880
She was like, You know her?
00:18:51.440 --> 00:18:54.000
And I'm like, Yes, we did beautiful together.
00:18:54.079 --> 00:18:54.880
She's amazing.
00:18:55.039 --> 00:18:57.359
And I literally started singing your praises.
00:18:57.680 --> 00:19:03.359
And my mother, God bless her, was like, she's really good.
00:19:04.160 --> 00:19:08.000
You have to compete against her and people like her.
00:19:08.400 --> 00:19:08.720
No.
00:19:09.920 --> 00:19:10.240
No.
00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:14.559
No, we end up working together anyway.
00:19:16.240 --> 00:19:31.839
I was like, mom, I have many friends who are so talented, and I try not to have a competition mindset when I am with them or in their sphere, even though it does feel like it could be a competition.
00:19:33.279 --> 00:19:36.400
I that's just not how I like to look at it.
00:19:36.880 --> 00:19:45.279
And here we are being able to work with each other and singing your praises does not take away from who I am.
00:19:45.519 --> 00:19:46.079
That's right.
00:19:46.240 --> 00:19:46.799
That's right.
00:19:46.960 --> 00:19:50.960
And who do you did you did you like know that already on your own?
00:19:51.119 --> 00:20:00.400
Or did you have like a teacher or like even like a friend who who always who you could kind of look to and be like, yo, we got this?
00:20:00.640 --> 00:20:04.640
Because I kind of feel like that that would also count as like mentorship too.
00:20:04.799 --> 00:20:12.000
Sometimes it just takes like having a friend on the other side of the phone, just being like, nah, girl, you could, you know.
00:20:12.240 --> 00:20:25.519
Do you think you had that kind of on your own, or or was there another person in your ear always encouraging you to believe that your big dreams were possible, but also remind you that we're not in competition.
00:20:25.680 --> 00:20:27.839
We're we're side by side in this.
00:20:30.480 --> 00:20:37.119
I will be so mad at myself if we get off of this episode and I think of so many better answers, Ty.
00:20:37.759 --> 00:20:53.759
But the truth is, uh right now, and there have been so many inspirational people in my life who have just completely inspired me indirectly, and some who have inspired me directly.
00:20:54.640 --> 00:21:05.039
But there, I think a lot of my life choices are because of what I didn't have and what I didn't see.
00:21:06.000 --> 00:21:06.640
Yeah.
00:21:06.960 --> 00:21:07.279
Yeah.
00:21:07.599 --> 00:21:10.319
You had you kind of had to be it for yourself sometimes.
00:21:10.960 --> 00:21:11.440
Yeah.
00:21:11.759 --> 00:21:13.680
And I don't want that to be my answer.
00:21:14.000 --> 00:21:15.519
Well, I mean, that's okay.
00:21:16.720 --> 00:21:18.640
Salicia, that's your truth right now.
00:21:18.880 --> 00:21:20.720
And that's and that's and that's okay.
00:21:20.880 --> 00:21:21.519
That's okay.
00:21:21.759 --> 00:21:28.559
I think I mean I think that's I think that's real, and and also I I think that's something that that people should hear too.
00:21:28.640 --> 00:21:30.880
Like sometimes you do have to be your own encouragement.
00:21:30.960 --> 00:21:33.680
Sometimes you really do have to just like pull up and encourage yourself.
00:21:33.759 --> 00:21:34.799
You know what I'm saying?
00:21:35.039 --> 00:21:43.599
Um Yes, yes.
00:21:43.759 --> 00:21:54.880
So so I don't necessarily think that that's that's a bad thing, but I guess like just in the spirit of us having this conversation about mentorship today, I think it's important for people to kind of know both sides, right?
00:21:54.960 --> 00:22:06.640
Sometimes you do have to encourage yourself, but also don't don't hinder yourself from finding that person who could be, you know, just the last person you texted, or who could be a parent, or who could be.
00:22:06.720 --> 00:22:12.720
I just thought as we've been sitting here talking, I thought about my dance teacher that I grew up with, Tanitra Oates.
00:22:12.960 --> 00:22:23.759
She has been, she has been so influential in my life as far as just like asking what she really does that I think benefits me most is she just asks me questions.
00:22:24.000 --> 00:22:24.559
What's going on?
00:22:24.720 --> 00:22:25.839
Okay, tell me why you're doing this.
00:22:25.920 --> 00:22:27.279
Well, why are you interested in this project?
00:22:27.440 --> 00:22:28.799
Well, what new skills are you learning?
00:22:28.960 --> 00:22:29.920
Just things like that.
00:22:30.079 --> 00:22:43.839
Not even necessarily trying to teach me anything, just asking me questions to make me think about uh what I'm doing, why I'm doing it, and always making sure that I kind of have a North Star that I'm going toward.
00:22:43.920 --> 00:22:50.559
I think that that is just as beautiful and just as um mentorial.
00:22:50.720 --> 00:22:51.279
Is that a word?
00:22:51.440 --> 00:22:51.920
I have no idea.
00:22:53.119 --> 00:22:54.319
It's a word now.
00:22:54.559 --> 00:22:55.599
It's a word now.
00:22:55.759 --> 00:22:56.799
I'm not sure.
00:22:58.559 --> 00:23:04.400
I mean, it also speaks to, and here's the thing, there's been so many people who have been rooting me on for my journey.
00:23:04.480 --> 00:23:05.599
So that's not what I'm saying.
00:23:05.759 --> 00:23:15.119
I'm talking about like side-by-side mentor being like other than Shantea McIntyre, who is she's got 10 years on me, and I always feel like she's a few steps ahead.
00:23:15.200 --> 00:23:16.400
I love quoting her.
00:23:16.559 --> 00:23:19.440
So yeah, she has been in my life.
00:23:19.599 --> 00:23:22.559
That she's been an inspiration in many ways.
00:23:22.799 --> 00:23:32.960
But I think there is something to be said about like when I think about mentorship, I think about people who have touched my life who have no idea that they've even touched my life.
00:23:33.119 --> 00:23:42.480
And so taking it back to you or anybody who is watching this, you have no idea how you might be influencing somebody else.
00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:50.960
You have no idea that you might be filling a hole or a spot for somebody looking to you of what do I do next?
00:23:51.039 --> 00:23:53.359
And they've never even met you.
00:23:54.640 --> 00:24:01.599
You don't even know their name, and you are helping pave a path for them.
00:24:01.759 --> 00:24:06.319
They are seeing you because you did it, they know that they can do it too.
00:24:06.559 --> 00:24:10.000
You're trailblazing and you don't even know that you're doing it.
00:24:11.599 --> 00:24:12.480
Now that's a word.
00:24:12.559 --> 00:24:15.119
That's that's that's a good word to end on right there.
00:24:15.440 --> 00:24:20.559
Be a mentor and don't be afraid to seek out mentorship from others as well.
00:24:20.799 --> 00:24:21.920
Okay, that part.
00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:22.480
Yeah.
00:24:22.640 --> 00:24:22.960
Okay.
00:24:23.519 --> 00:24:23.839
Yeah.
00:24:24.079 --> 00:24:26.720
All right, and let's leave it right there.
00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:28.720
Thank you for joining me for this series.
00:24:28.799 --> 00:24:30.559
And we got we got more in us, I think.
00:24:30.640 --> 00:24:31.680
I think we got more in us.
00:24:31.920 --> 00:24:32.400
I'll be here.
00:24:32.480 --> 00:24:34.240
I'll be around for, you know.
00:24:36.640 --> 00:24:38.480
Listen, I can talk to you all day.
00:24:40.079 --> 00:24:43.200
Thank you for tuning in for another episode of the Silicia Show.
00:24:43.279 --> 00:24:44.880
We will see you next week.