บทถอดความฉบับเต็มของ Harry Jun in the Bunker

people who were upset that I referred to uh what's happening in Palestine as a genocide, which you know, that it doesn't really upset me when those people don't like me because um it is a genocide. 00:02:54.800 --> 00:02:58.080 So you're allowed to not like the show. 00:02:58.159 --> 00:03:00.080 I'd love it if you didn't shout at me. 00:03:00.800 --> 00:03:06.080 But the one lady who walked out in a in a what do you call that? 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:06.639 A huff. 00:03:07.759 --> 00:03:09.120 I was like, yeah, fair enough. 00:03:09.360 --> 00:03:12.639 Uh we're not gonna agree on anything and uh have a nice day. 00:03:13.280 --> 00:03:14.879 I kicked out a man. 00:03:15.280 --> 00:03:16.879 Like I kicked out a man from my show. 00:03:16.960 --> 00:03:19.039 I've never, I've done stand-up for 16 years. 00:03:19.199 --> 00:03:21.360 I've never kicked anyone out of my shows. 00:03:21.520 --> 00:03:22.960 That was a thrilling. 00:03:23.199 --> 00:03:29.599 I walked out on stage, we're like 26 shows in, and he just started talking, like replying to my jokes. 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:31.840 So tired. 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:32.879 I'm so tired. 00:03:33.039 --> 00:03:34.800 Why are men why are men? 00:03:35.039 --> 00:03:36.080 Question mark. 00:03:36.319 --> 00:03:43.120 And I was like, listen, I am I just said I said something like, I don't have the energy for like I can't. 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:45.599 This is not, this is just not gonna happen. 00:03:45.680 --> 00:03:47.280 I don't, I can't, I can't. 00:03:47.520 --> 00:03:50.639 So if you talk one more time, you gotta go. 00:03:50.800 --> 00:03:53.280 And then, hey, what do you think happened? 00:03:53.360 --> 00:03:54.879 Do you think you maybe talk one more time? 00:03:54.960 --> 00:03:55.599 Uh yeah. 00:03:55.759 --> 00:03:59.280 So he talked one more time, and I was just like, I yeah, you need to leave. 00:03:59.520 --> 00:04:00.719 I think you need to go. 00:04:00.960 --> 00:04:03.199 And then he refused to leave. 00:04:03.599 --> 00:04:10.800 And his girlfriend or wife who's sitting next to him kept like apologizing for him, being like, He's really trying, as if he's like a toddler. 00:04:11.520 --> 00:04:14.080 And I was like, mm-hmm, yeah, no, he has to go. 00:04:14.319 --> 00:04:15.599 Like, man's gotta go. 00:04:15.759 --> 00:04:20.319 And then I had to like my what I don't know how old my tech was, like 19, 20. 00:04:20.879 --> 00:04:22.639 I was like, Have you done this before? 00:04:22.800 --> 00:04:25.120 And he was like, no, and I was like, okay. 00:04:25.439 --> 00:04:32.160 Um and then like he had to call for like as like for someone else, for the venue manager to come to get this man out. 00:04:32.639 --> 00:04:45.680 And then this man, this adult man in his like 40s or 50s, could be 60s, I don't know, was like arguing with these two 20-year-olds because like he wanted to stay even though he was ruining the show. 00:04:45.839 --> 00:04:47.519 I can I would be so embarrassed. 00:04:47.600 --> 00:04:49.279 I would be so embarrassed. 00:04:49.519 --> 00:04:56.639 If if you're if you were his wife, his girlfriend who was sitting next to him, if you recognize the story, if you were there, if you're listening to this podcast, leave him. 00:04:56.879 --> 00:04:57.360 Leave him. 00:04:57.439 --> 00:05:03.040 You're married to a toddler, you're married to a little tiny ch child and it's disgusting and he's he's annoying. 00:05:03.279 --> 00:05:04.000 Get get out. 00:05:04.160 --> 00:05:05.439 Like get him, get go away. 00:05:05.519 --> 00:05:09.040 Go, get, get you you will be better off without him. 00:05:09.279 --> 00:05:18.639 Imagine having to sit next to an adult man and apologize for him to the comedian because he's too annoying, like he can't let another person have the attention for an hour. 00:05:18.800 --> 00:05:19.680 I can't. 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:21.839 I cannot, I cannot. 00:05:22.079 --> 00:05:33.600 That was like saying to the audience, who were all terrified because I know my audience were all like anxiety, we all have anxiety and we're like people like popping surtraline in in in their anxiety. 00:05:33.759 --> 00:05:37.439 Um and I was saying to them, like, no, no, no, I this makes me feel alive. 00:05:37.519 --> 00:05:42.399 Like I've never had to, I've never felt I've never looked at a man and said leave. 00:05:42.879 --> 00:05:46.480 And then granted, five minutes later he leaves. 00:05:48.639 --> 00:05:50.399 The power could have gone to my head. 00:05:50.959 --> 00:05:51.839 I was so excited. 00:05:52.079 --> 00:05:55.680 Anyway, so eventful fringe, and I am taking the show on tour. 00:05:55.839 --> 00:05:59.600 I'm gonna be in, and I will apologize for calling it Aldebra. 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:03.680 That was a guess on how to pronounce Aldeburgh. 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:06.079 Uh turns out it's pronounced Aldbra. 00:06:07.839 --> 00:06:12.480 And I'm kind of I'm contemplating refusing to call it that because that does seem ridiculous. 00:06:12.720 --> 00:06:16.480 But very soon in October, I'll be in Aldborough. 00:06:18.160 --> 00:06:20.879 Uh then in November I'll be at the Soho Theatre. 00:06:20.959 --> 00:06:36.639 Uh, then next year I'm taking the show to Copenhagen, Ulenso, Aarhus, Rotterdam, Berlin, Leicester, Melmour, Yotteborg, Stockholm, Leeds, Sheffield, Selby, Newcastle, Edinburgh, Glasgow, Aberdeen, Birmingham, Manchester, uh, Liverpool, Reading, Brighton, Cambridge, London, and Exeter. 00:06:36.720 --> 00:06:40.000 And we will be adding Bristol, so keep an eye out for that. 00:06:40.240 --> 00:06:52.000 Uh, also, if you're in London on the 18th and 19th of October, like right now, like in a month, uh, I will be at the Bill Murray doing some new stuff. 00:06:52.639 --> 00:06:54.959 It's like a work in progress, tickets are£10. 00:06:56.480 --> 00:06:58.240 I'm not quite sure what's gonna happen. 00:06:58.319 --> 00:07:04.720 I think it'll be some stuff will be recorded for content

because that's unfortunately what the world is right now. 00:07:04.959 --> 00:07:07.199 But um, yeah, please do come to that. 00:07:07.279 --> 00:07:07.839 That would be great. 00:07:08.000 --> 00:07:09.279 Bill Murray in London. 00:07:09.759 --> 00:07:12.480 Uh Harry June. 00:07:14.000 --> 00:07:15.040 I love him so much. 00:07:15.120 --> 00:07:16.639 He's the guest in this episode. 00:07:16.879 --> 00:07:20.319 He is so incredibly watchable. 00:07:20.800 --> 00:07:22.399 Like, I can't get enough of him. 00:07:22.800 --> 00:07:29.120 Like, I can just go onto his uh TikTok and just watch every single video and be entertained for the entirety. 00:07:29.279 --> 00:07:31.600 He is so warm and nice. 00:07:31.759 --> 00:07:36.639 Like, it's so nice to have someone who does stand up from a nice place. 00:07:36.720 --> 00:07:44.879 And he talks about it in the bonus episode that he is very inspired by heart, that he wants uh the show to of course be funny, but also to have heart. 00:07:45.040 --> 00:07:51.199 And I think you really feel that he is oh, and you're gonna his voice incredible. 00:07:51.360 --> 00:07:52.879 I wanted him to keep talking. 00:07:53.600 --> 00:08:04.879 I want him to record uh like good night stories, like like sleep sleep time stories, and I would just listen to him read me anything and I would fall asleep and I would sleep so well. 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:07.439 He is so sweet, so funny. 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:08.560 I loved this episode. 00:08:08.720 --> 00:08:15.680 I'm so happy that this is the first episode of the 10 Edinburgh episodes, and I hope you like it too. 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:20.399 Um they're not recorded in order. 00:08:21.439 --> 00:08:23.279 No, they were recorded in order. 00:08:23.439 --> 00:08:25.439 They're not released in order. 00:08:26.639 --> 00:08:31.360 So uh there might be, I don't know if they're gonna be inconsistencies, but there could be. 00:08:31.519 --> 00:08:31.839 Okay. 00:08:32.559 --> 00:08:36.480 Please do go and listen to the uh bonus episodes. 00:08:36.559 --> 00:08:40.240 Uh they will be both on Substack and Patreon, and the link will be below. 00:08:40.559 --> 00:08:43.360 Please it it is my favorite thing. 00:08:43.519 --> 00:08:45.679 It's one of my favorite things about this podcast. 00:08:45.919 --> 00:08:54.639 I ask Harry, I ask all the guests to provide some books, some movies, and some albums for the bunker to bring, both for me and for them. 00:08:54.879 --> 00:09:06.080 And and they bring them and then we discuss them, and I watch, listen, and read in advance, and my mind is being expanded, my heart is being expanded, my life is being expanded by all of these pieces of work. 00:09:06.320 --> 00:09:08.080 I'm so happy to be doing this. 00:09:08.240 --> 00:09:09.679 I am learning so much. 00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:17.360 I think if you signed up and you got these emails into your inbox every other week, you would be so happy too. 00:09:17.840 --> 00:09:24.480 The movie that Harry June has brought for me, I never would have watched if it wasn't for this. 00:09:24.559 --> 00:09:26.480 And I watched it and I was so grateful. 00:09:26.799 --> 00:09:28.080 An amazing thriller. 00:09:28.480 --> 00:09:32.000 Uh, the book he brought for me, oh my God. 00:09:33.039 --> 00:09:34.000 Life-changing. 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:38.559 Like you've got you've got to become a Patreon or a Substack supporter. 00:09:38.720 --> 00:09:40.320 Same thing, same content. 00:09:40.559 --> 00:09:43.679 But uh, you will also then help support the podcast. 00:09:43.919 --> 00:09:58.960 And maybe support it in a way that means that one day I will be recording this intro uh from maybe, and this might be asking too much, uh, a rental place of my own and not at my mother's house. 00:09:59.200 --> 00:10:01.440 We just need to get that deposit in, okay? 00:10:01.600 --> 00:10:06.960 Let's all work towards a a bigger cause, which is get me out of this place. 00:10:07.360 --> 00:10:08.320 Get get me. 00:10:08.399 --> 00:10:10.240 I'm 37, I shouldn't live with my mother. 00:10:10.320 --> 00:10:11.440 That's all I'm saying. 00:10:11.600 --> 00:10:14.559 Uh so please do join uh Patreon or Substack. 00:10:14.639 --> 00:10:21.679 But before you do anything at all, please just uh enjoy this episode with the incredible Harry Joon. 00:10:28.720 --> 00:10:29.519 Harry Joon. 00:10:29.759 --> 00:10:29.840 Yes. 00:10:30.000 --> 00:10:31.200 I'm gonna set the scene. 00:10:31.440 --> 00:10:34.159 You're at home, you hear the siren. 00:10:34.320 --> 00:10:36.159 You know what the siren means. 00:10:36.240 --> 00:10:38.159 It means you have to rush to the bunker. 00:10:38.320 --> 00:10:43.360 You grab the folder, the folder that's been gathering dust on the shelves for all these years. 00:10:44.320 --> 00:10:45.039 Perfect. 00:10:45.279 --> 00:10:45.759 Thank you. 00:10:45.919 --> 00:10:47.360 Thank you for adding to it. 00:10:47.600 --> 00:10:51.519 Um you open it and it tells you who your bunker mate is gonna be. 00:10:51.840 --> 00:10:54.480 And it's stand-up comedian Sophie Hagen. 00:10:57.360 --> 00:10:58.559 Is that the reaction? 00:10:59.759 --> 00:11:02.480 No, I think it'd be more like huh. 00:11:04.559 --> 00:11:05.840 Is that a happy huh? 00:11:06.799 --> 00:11:09.279 It's more of a another stand-up comedian. 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:10.320 What are the odds? 00:11:10.559 --> 00:11:18.080 They did tell me it's random, but another stand-up comedian I st I'm still not getting if you're happy or sad about this. 00:11:18.320 --> 00:11:24.240 No, it's very much a middle uh I've it's between it's before happy, before sad, it's just there. 00:11:24.480 --> 00:11:25.360 It's just confusion. 00:11:25.600 --> 00:11:26.000 Confusion. 00:11:26.159 --> 00:11:26.879 Okay, I'll take it. 00:11:27.039 --> 00:11:27.919 I'm astounded. 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:31.120 Because it's if because they, you know, a a lotto, random pick. 00:11:31.279 --> 00:11:32.320 And I've met you before.

00:11:32.399 --> 00:11:32.960 That's the other thing. 00:11:33.279 --> 00:11:33.519 That's true. 00:11:34.399 --> 00:11:36.799 But we live so far away from each other, so like what are the odds? 00:11:37.200 --> 00:11:39.519 So far, but the sirens, they're calling. 00:11:39.759 --> 00:11:46.399 They're calling, you rush to the bunker, you peg a back, which we'll be talking about in the bonus episode, you get to the bunker, and I'm there. 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:49.840 And now we have to be stuck in a bunker for God knows how long. 00:11:50.240 --> 00:11:51.039 Could be years. 00:11:52.000 --> 00:11:53.679 It'll probably be years. 00:11:54.240 --> 00:11:54.879 Long haul. 00:11:55.120 --> 00:11:55.360 Yeah. 00:11:55.679 --> 00:11:56.799 What what are we in for? 00:11:56.960 --> 00:11:58.960 What do you think it's uh gonna be like? 00:11:59.360 --> 00:12:11.039 I so before I started doing comedy, I only ever lived with my brother when I was in uni and my current fiance. 00:12:12.000 --> 00:12:13.759 And before that I'd lived alone. 00:12:14.480 --> 00:12:19.679 But then like touring mean meant that I would live with other comedians. 00:12:19.840 --> 00:12:21.759 Actually, this is the first time in Edinburgh right now. 00:12:21.840 --> 00:12:24.799 I have three flatmates who are all comedians. 00:12:25.279 --> 00:12:29.440 And I'm like, I'm quite shy, like I'm a bit shy, I like my own space. 00:12:29.679 --> 00:12:34.080 So I was I was very nervous and anxious about living with strangers. 00:12:34.320 --> 00:12:41.360 But I have to tell you, especially Edinburgh, but with like living with uh my friend Jenny Tian, we used to tour together. 00:12:41.600 --> 00:12:43.759 I've actually enjoyed it so much. 00:12:43.919 --> 00:12:47.039 So, I mean, before I was joking about, oh no, another comedian. 00:12:47.120 --> 00:12:48.639 I I'm actually quite excited. 00:12:49.120 --> 00:12:50.159 I think it'd be fun. 00:12:50.480 --> 00:12:51.200 I think it'd be fun. 00:12:51.279 --> 00:12:55.600 Um I think we could do a cute little, I think it'd be funny if we have like a height chart. 00:12:55.679 --> 00:12:57.440 You know how they have one on the doorway. 00:12:58.000 --> 00:12:58.960 That's a mesh shower. 00:12:59.120 --> 00:13:05.600 Yeah, yeah, we go, oh maybe one we have one with shoes and without. 00:13:06.159 --> 00:13:07.679 Well, we'll be stuck in a small bunker. 00:13:07.759 --> 00:13:09.360 We might have to do like a width chart. 00:13:12.000 --> 00:13:12.879 That's never been done. 00:13:13.200 --> 00:13:13.600 Oh shit. 00:13:13.840 --> 00:13:15.120 We have a height and width chart. 00:13:15.200 --> 00:13:17.679 That'll be I think it'd be circumference chart? 00:13:17.919 --> 00:13:19.519 Yeah, I would love that. 00:13:19.679 --> 00:13:26.240 No, I think um I try to be good to live with and work with. 00:13:26.399 --> 00:13:29.039 I I try to be out out of anyone's way. 00:13:29.440 --> 00:13:31.679 Like very clear thoroughfares. 00:13:32.000 --> 00:13:33.840 If I don't want to, you know, if you're doing something. 00:13:34.240 --> 00:13:34.799 No, no, it's okay. 00:13:34.960 --> 00:13:37.200 No, Sophie, I don't need I don't need to use the kitchen. 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:39.440 You're you're uh it's okay. 00:13:39.679 --> 00:13:42.480 I haven't eaten in days, but you're cooking something. 00:13:44.559 --> 00:13:50.399 And I feel like that is realistic for maybe the first couple of weeks, months. 00:13:50.639 --> 00:13:50.799 Yeah. 00:13:51.039 --> 00:13:53.440 But surely everyone gets pushed to the edge. 00:13:53.600 --> 00:13:55.840 Even the most because I'm a I would also do the same. 00:13:56.000 --> 00:13:57.600 Oh no, don't worry, no, sorry, it's okay. 00:13:57.679 --> 00:13:58.240 No, I'll do that. 00:13:58.639 --> 00:14:00.480 It's funny to have two of two people like that. 00:14:00.960 --> 00:14:01.919 No, no, I have no boundaries. 00:14:02.000 --> 00:14:02.960 Oh, you have no boundaries either. 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:03.440 That's okay. 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:04.720 We'll just not have any boundaries in the bucket. 00:14:04.879 --> 00:14:05.039 That's okay. 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:05.919 It's just pushing it. 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:06.639 No, let's keep pushing it. 00:14:07.039 --> 00:14:07.440 Whatever you want. 00:14:07.519 --> 00:14:08.080 No, whatever you want. 00:14:08.159 --> 00:14:08.720 No, what do you want? 00:14:08.799 --> 00:14:09.279 I don't know what I want. 00:14:09.840 --> 00:14:10.159 What do you want? 00:14:10.320 --> 00:14:11.039 Okay, that's fine. 00:14:11.360 --> 00:14:11.759 Uh do you know what? 00:14:11.840 --> 00:14:12.799 Let's both not eat. 00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:16.399 And the width chart gets smaller. 00:14:19.759 --> 00:14:21.679 Oh, we might drive each other to no. 00:14:21.840 --> 00:14:22.639 So that's what I mean. 00:14:22.720 --> 00:14:24.960 So like at one point we must be pushed to the edge. 00:14:25.120 --> 00:14:25.919 And then what? 00:14:26.240 --> 00:14:27.679 When are you at your worst? 00:14:28.320 --> 00:14:31.120 Well, uh so I used to be a high school teacher. 00:14:31.840 --> 00:14:32.000 Okay. 00:14:32.559 --> 00:14:33.279 Yeah, for seven years ago. 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:34.240 You're in control. 00:14:34.639 --> 00:14:46.000 Yeah, well, it's funny because I think everyone's perception of what a high school teacher is, it really depends on like the best teachers you've ever had and the worst teachers, and then sort of like a mashup between. 00:14:46.159 --> 00:14:51.200 But I it taught me a lot of patience. 00:14:51.519 --> 00:14:58.639 Because when you work with children, you know, between the ages of 12 and 18, like they're still figuring it out, but they're limit testing. 00:14:58.960 --> 00:15:01.039 They're trying to see how how much can they get away with. 00:15:01.200 --> 00:15:06.720 And your job is to provide very explicit but safe boundaries. 00:15:07.039 --> 00:15:13.360 Um so that let me like that really taught me how to

extend my fuse, if that makes sense. 00:15:13.600 --> 00:15:13.919 Yeah. 00:15:14.159 --> 00:15:16.720 You can't just because they're so sensitive too. 00:15:16.799 --> 00:15:26.960 Like you, if I have a bad day or a bad night, I go into my classroom, they read that immediately and they go, Oh, you know, oh, and then some of them might want to push that. 00:15:27.120 --> 00:15:30.320 Oh, you know, oh, your hair looks a bit messy today, sir. 00:15:30.879 --> 00:15:35.440 Or some of them are very sensitive and like they just put their head down and do their work. 00:15:35.759 --> 00:15:40.559 But that taught me how to like treat others with kindness. 00:15:40.799 --> 00:15:49.200 It taught me to you have to sometimes you just have to put someone else's needs before yourself, especially as a teacher. 00:15:49.440 --> 00:15:55.519 Um and in terms of like a cohabiting situation, there's so much of that. 00:15:55.679 --> 00:16:03.600 Like people come in with all of their stress, their grievances, something catastrophic will happen. 00:16:03.919 --> 00:16:08.240 And there's like it's like a feedback in the air, like a signal. 00:16:09.120 --> 00:16:10.799 We're just like, oh, something's different. 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:11.600 Something's different. 00:16:11.679 --> 00:16:12.879 We have to read this. 00:16:13.120 --> 00:16:27.840 Um I I feel like I would try to be sensitive to that, but then when I get pushed to the limit, obviously you have to learn to I really learn how to communicate that better, especially with like living with my fiance Jill. 00:16:28.000 --> 00:16:28.639 Yeah. 00:16:29.120 --> 00:16:31.120 Um like I love her so much. 00:16:31.360 --> 00:16:35.440 But there there are times like we obviously we fight as normal. 00:16:35.600 --> 00:16:40.240 Um and it's good to fight and express your like you know, when you're upset and stuff. 00:16:40.320 --> 00:16:44.720 But I've been in relationships where I didn't fight with a partner and it's so much worse. 00:16:45.279 --> 00:16:45.840 Interesting. 00:16:46.000 --> 00:16:47.200 Because it just builds up. 00:16:47.519 --> 00:16:51.360 Yeah, and then you think like, oh no, I'll just get over it. 00:16:52.000 --> 00:16:53.759 Like it's it's my issue and I'll get over it. 00:16:53.840 --> 00:16:55.039 But you don't get you never get over it. 00:16:55.279 --> 00:16:55.919 No, you don't get over it. 00:16:56.879 --> 00:16:58.799 I'm still mad about things that happened 20 years ago. 00:16:59.360 --> 00:16:59.840 Exactly. 00:17:00.159 --> 00:17:10.000 And and you're like the further away you get, it's so funny, the further away you get from what happened, it defies the laws of physics in that it should get smaller. 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:13.759 That's how physics works, but it grows in size the further away. 00:17:13.920 --> 00:17:16.079 Because you're just like, I didn't resolve this. 00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:17.519 I didn't resolve this. 00:17:17.680 --> 00:17:27.359 Um, and so learning to confront in a healthy way with my partner Jill was it's such a gift because like I can use that with other interactions. 00:17:27.599 --> 00:17:38.880 Um I feel like if you and I, you know, we're we're talking about not just like even a month of you know touring together and cohabiting, habitating, sorry, it could be years. 00:17:39.119 --> 00:17:45.519 So it's like I think early on, establishing, just like as I was a teacher, establishing those healthy boundaries. 00:17:46.240 --> 00:17:49.200 You know, being like, oh, okay, oh, if you're like this, I'm like this. 00:17:49.279 --> 00:17:51.359 Like, oh how about do you know what? 00:17:51.920 --> 00:17:55.839 I did leave the mugs out and they're dirty. 00:17:56.000 --> 00:18:00.000 And there are only two mugs in the bunker, and I use both. 00:18:00.240 --> 00:18:00.720 Do you know what? 00:18:00.799 --> 00:18:02.079 I'm sorry, Sophie. 00:18:02.400 --> 00:18:04.720 I this one's messy and it's on me. 00:18:04.960 --> 00:18:12.960 Um I I would try to be as explicit as possible with that, but I just I am a bit more of a doormat, I think. 00:18:13.119 --> 00:18:15.440 I think I can like I can take a lot. 00:18:15.599 --> 00:18:22.960 That's the other thing being a teacher, like because you're used to you you children are so I don't know. 00:18:23.039 --> 00:18:24.799 I I have a soft swat for children. 00:18:24.880 --> 00:18:31.759 I feel like maybe I let them get away with a little bit more because they're experimenting with what's right and what's wrong. 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:32.319 Yeah. 00:18:32.559 --> 00:18:36.400 But then that does also lead to being like trodden on a lot. 00:18:36.799 --> 00:18:36.960 Yeah. 00:18:37.119 --> 00:18:41.119 And it's I find it really difficult when you're capable of taking a lot. 00:18:41.359 --> 00:18:43.759 It's hard to figure out when you should then stop. 00:18:44.160 --> 00:18:49.920 Because if you're like, well, I'd I'd be fine with more, you could step on me a lot more and I'd still be fine. 00:18:50.079 --> 00:18:50.319 Yes. 00:18:50.480 --> 00:18:55.920 So then when do you how can how can you justify making them stop if you could take it, you know? 00:18:56.240 --> 00:18:57.039 Yeah, that's the thing. 00:18:57.119 --> 00:19:04.880 And like, and I just know like if, you know, w when I have children that like it does border on this whole, like, that's how you spoil them. 00:19:05.119 --> 00:19:06.160 That's how you spoil them. 00:19:06.319 --> 00:19:21.119 And so teaching taught me it's like, no, there is a limit where you have to it's good for their your relationship with these children, because you're an authority figure, and you have to place these healthy boundaries, or else they'll develop into being like arseholes. 00:19:21.519 --> 00:19:22.960 They'll develop into being arseholes. 00:19:23.119 --> 00:19:30.880 But um I mean that's uh that's important for like, you know, living with adults, but it's not the most important thing. 00:19:31.039 --> 00:19:37.359

Like, I I also have to remember that adults come in with their own, like they've already been they've developed their boundaries and understanding of boundaries. 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:39.599 Um worse, they haven't. 00:19:39.920 --> 00:19:42.000 Well, yeah, that's and but they're already an adult. 00:19:42.079 --> 00:19:44.160 Like you can't change a lot of things, you know. 00:19:44.640 --> 00:19:47.440 It's real hard to figure out boundaries the later you get. 00:19:47.839 --> 00:19:49.039 Which is why they need it as kids. 00:19:49.359 --> 00:19:50.000 As children, yeah. 00:19:50.240 --> 00:19:50.880 Deformative times. 00:19:51.200 --> 00:19:58.000 Boundaries are like like boundaries on their own is like I think we tend to see boundaries as a punishment or like a bad thing. 00:19:58.480 --> 00:20:04.000 But it's boundaries can also be like what holds something inside in like a safe way. 00:20:04.240 --> 00:20:04.480 Yes. 00:20:04.640 --> 00:20:09.359 It's walls around if there was no boundaries around water, we would never drink a glass of water. 00:20:09.680 --> 00:20:11.759 No, ah excellent. 00:20:12.240 --> 00:20:18.400 Well, because you know sometimes you're so smart that you can just like you just can't really Oh wow it hits you. 00:20:18.559 --> 00:20:20.240 You go, oh write that down. 00:20:20.480 --> 00:20:22.000 Someone someone's still uh write this down. 00:20:22.160 --> 00:20:23.279 Can someone write this down? 00:20:23.519 --> 00:20:24.319 But you know what I mean? 00:20:24.480 --> 00:20:25.759 Like it can be a safe thing. 00:20:25.920 --> 00:20:26.079 Yes. 00:20:26.400 --> 00:20:30.000 It can be nice when a parent says you're not allowed to stay out past 10 p.m. 00:20:30.240 --> 00:20:31.839 Because, oh my god, someone cares. 00:20:32.160 --> 00:20:43.680 Yeah, and do you know what's interesting is I find with uh other adults is it's their reaction to you setting up a boundary will really colour your relationship with them. 00:20:43.920 --> 00:21:04.079 Because if you establish a very fair boundary and then they get hurt and upset and or like they don't understand, or any kind of negative reaction actually does it's I think for me it's red flags because that means that they're not used to that, or sometimes, and unfortunately, it will lead to like a manipulative response. 00:21:04.799 --> 00:21:18.000 If you're just like, if I, you know, I was I I oh actually, you know, I I might go to bed early, I'm a bit tired, and they go, oh, you know, well, you're in Edinburgh, you know, sort of it's your debut once in a lifetime. 00:21:18.079 --> 00:21:23.920 You should kind of go out and meet people and you know, kind of oh, unless you don't care about your career, Harry. 00:21:24.640 --> 00:21:26.799 You know, that not that's not happened. 00:21:27.039 --> 00:21:30.480 I'm not saying that's happened, but Oh, I'm saying it ha it definitely has happened. 00:21:30.720 --> 00:21:32.000 Oh my god, it's happened. 00:21:32.240 --> 00:21:34.799 You sounded you echoing so many people I've met. 00:21:35.279 --> 00:21:42.480 But like that response to a boundary is like and then I in reverse I would never inflict that upon anyone. 00:21:42.640 --> 00:21:51.920 In fact, when people uh it actually feels like don't you ever feel yuck when you uh inadvertently pushed someone's boundary? 00:21:52.319 --> 00:21:53.599 Actually, this happened last night. 00:21:53.680 --> 00:21:56.720 Oh, I still sorry, that was a yuck. 00:21:57.200 --> 00:21:58.160 I feel so bad. 00:21:58.319 --> 00:21:59.599 So, okay, this is what happened. 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:02.640 I was walking home after my, it was like 12:15. 00:22:03.039 --> 00:22:10.799 I was on Cowgate, and these two, I just noticed in the distance, I saw these two young, like young women sitting down on the floor. 00:22:10.880 --> 00:22:28.720 They must have been like, not super drunk, but like, they had a couple drinks, and this guy came up to them, and he was a young man too, and he was kind of talking about, and you know, as you're walking, you only get glimpses of like, like it's literally, you know, the subtitles in Netflix where it says indistinct chatter. 00:22:28.880 --> 00:22:35.119 Like, I got the indistinct chatter, but he was asking them for their phone or I don't know, their phone number, or something. 00:22:35.200 --> 00:22:39.599 But I'm walking and I'm like, oh, this feels yuck, right? 00:22:39.839 --> 00:22:47.519 And then both of them sort of too loudly, you know, when they speak loudly enough so that other people can hear? 00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:48.079 Yeah. 00:22:48.319 --> 00:22:51.119 One of them goes, oh no, no, my phone's out of battery. 00:22:51.279 --> 00:22:52.480 My phone's out of battery. 00:22:52.720 --> 00:22:58.640 And then the other young woman was like, Oh yeah, no, we uh mine's out of battery too. 00:22:58.720 --> 00:23:07.519 And then this old, this, this other, the man, this young man who I'm now realizing didn't know them personally at all, he's kind of like starting to look a bit more upset. 00:23:07.599 --> 00:23:14.799 And I'm like, and I so I stopped walking and I kind of just stand, stood there to see if it's like, is this chill? 00:23:14.960 --> 00:23:16.319 What's happening? 00:23:16.880 --> 00:23:19.680 You know, there wasn't that uh no one else around. 00:23:19.759 --> 00:23:23.599 I'm like, oh, and then he kind of like sighed and then walked away. 00:23:23.759 --> 00:23:27.680 And then I and I'm thinking, okay, oh cool, these young women are safe. 00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:36.000 And then I was I did this silent, I gestured to them, I I pointed at the guy's back as he was walking away, and I was like, Are you okay? 00:23:36.160 --> 00:23:37.200 Like, is everything okay? 00:23:37.440 --> 00:23:44.559 And then they look, they they might have been stressed or something, but they literally looked at me and they're like, Yes, we're fine. 00:23:44.960 --> 00:23:46.160 Yes, we're fine. 00:23:46.480 -->

00:23:49.519 In a in a way that was like, and am I the creep now? 00:23:49.920 --> 00:23:51.759 Like, wait, am I the creep now? 00:23:52.319 --> 00:23:56.559 But like, because I felt like oh, then I realized, oh, am I pushing the boundary? 00:23:56.720 --> 00:24:00.480 Like maybe they were fine, maybe they don't need anything, any help. 00:24:00.640 --> 00:24:04.000 And I was like, oh, but most importantly, they were safe. 00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:06.960 So I was like, oh, and then I was I felt so embarrassed. 00:24:07.200 --> 00:24:11.039 No, I walked away and I was like, oh, I shouldn't have said anything. 00:24:11.759 --> 00:24:21.039 I oh that's so it's so it's hard to be a non-poison MM in a bowl full of MMs where some of them are poisoned. 00:24:21.599 --> 00:24:22.079 Do you know what I mean? 00:24:22.319 --> 00:24:22.880 Yeah, I yeah. 00:24:23.119 --> 00:24:33.200 Because like they they have no idea if you're gonna go, oh, I heard something about a phone number, or if you're gonna like you know, it's a thumbs up meaning, oh, he seemed like a great guy. 00:24:33.359 --> 00:24:35.920 Yeah, or I you know, and like it's just so hard. 00:24:36.000 --> 00:24:40.480 And it's and but it this is you react, like you are just all you need to do is react to their boundaries, right? 00:24:40.720 --> 00:24:41.119 Yes, yes. 00:24:41.279 --> 00:24:43.200 So when they go, we're fine, great, great. 00:24:43.519 --> 00:24:46.000 Yeah, I and I I obviously like I walked. 00:24:46.319 --> 00:24:48.559 I didn't want to be like, oh, I was just trying to help. 00:24:48.720 --> 00:24:50.079 Like I'm a good guy. 00:24:50.319 --> 00:24:51.359 I'm one of the good ones. 00:24:51.599 --> 00:24:54.640 And then I walked them home and I was like screaming at them, I'm a good guy. 00:24:54.799 --> 00:25:02.319 And then I said, by the way, if you do have your phone, yeah, if you have a phone like French.com forward slash still have tickets left. 00:25:02.559 --> 00:25:07.039 But it was just like this idea of like, yeah, they already went through a yuck interaction. 00:25:07.119 --> 00:25:07.279 Yeah. 00:25:07.440 --> 00:25:11.680 And then if they're just like another guy, really, I was like, well, just get out of there, get out of there. 00:25:11.839 --> 00:25:19.839 Um, but yeah, that whole the boundary thing, because that happens inadvertently when you you know push on someone's boundary. 00:25:20.000 --> 00:25:23.759 Like when I think, you know, we're in the bunker. 00:25:24.319 --> 00:25:29.680 It in I reckon the first, how long do you think for us we have to learn the boundaries? 00:25:29.920 --> 00:25:30.160 You know. 00:25:30.400 --> 00:25:33.200 Well, my the first step is learning my boundaries. 00:25:33.599 --> 00:25:35.119 I am not sure I know all of them yet. 00:25:35.279 --> 00:25:35.519 Really? 00:25:36.160 --> 00:25:40.640 I'm still and I'm trying to identify them, and sometimes I'm like, why am I angry? 00:25:40.799 --> 00:25:42.319 Huh, nothing bad has happened. 00:25:42.480 --> 00:25:45.920 It's like, oh, someone's like literally standing on my foot, but I'm like, hmm. 00:25:46.240 --> 00:25:48.720 What is it about this situation that's making me angry? 00:25:49.039 --> 00:25:50.960 There's always been a dull ache there, I think. 00:25:51.519 --> 00:25:55.039 Oh no, my foot is in the way of the soles of his shoe. 00:25:55.119 --> 00:25:56.000 Like, oh no, what am I? 00:25:56.240 --> 00:25:58.720 Oh, I'm probably doing something wrong to this guy's undersoles. 00:25:59.200 --> 00:26:02.880 But so I think you would have to have patience with me as I'm learning. 00:26:03.279 --> 00:26:06.079 And I and also I need to learn how to set them. 00:26:06.400 --> 00:26:07.039 Yeah, okay. 00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:12.480 So you might you might actually need some of that high school teacher experience. 00:26:12.799 --> 00:26:19.200 No, because I feel the same way, but also it's funny how people's energies change depending on like we accommodate. 00:26:19.680 --> 00:26:26.319 Like, because I find again with teaching, I had to learn where some some kids were like frightfully shy. 00:26:26.480 --> 00:26:26.640 Yeah. 00:26:26.880 --> 00:26:30.400 And so then I would be more playful and cheeky to bring out their confidence. 00:26:30.480 --> 00:26:40.079 But then the other side where you'd have these like, and usually boys rambunctious, like tornadoes of energy, and then I had to be an anchor. 00:26:40.240 --> 00:26:43.759 I had to go, okay, you know, no jokes from me. 00:26:44.000 --> 00:26:46.160 I've got to be overly like, do you know what? 00:26:46.400 --> 00:26:48.559 No, we're not doing that. 00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:56.400 Put the foot down, and we'll you're gonna stay five minutes after class and we're gonna tidy up this mess that you've made. 00:26:56.559 --> 00:27:00.000 So, like, I I have to learn to match an energy. 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:04.079 And I think with your energy and my energy, we're quite similar. 00:27:04.400 --> 00:27:11.680 But if you if I read a a discomfort out of you, I would have to be like, all right, let's sit down and talk about it. 00:27:11.839 --> 00:27:14.160 Let's tell me how you feel. 00:27:14.319 --> 00:27:15.920 No, no, how do you really feel? 00:27:16.720 --> 00:27:18.480 Do you know I love that you're preempting. 00:27:18.640 --> 00:27:21.039 You know exactly that my first answer won't be true. 00:27:21.759 --> 00:27:24.799 You're you know that you have to say, no, no, no, really, though. 00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:32.079 Yeah, no, because I feel like that's with me, because the initial, it's the the the candy coating of like, no, no, everything's fine. 00:27:32.640 --> 00:27:35.680 And then it's like, no, okay, that's melted away now. 00:27:36.400 --> 00:27:37.440 What how do you really feel? 00:27:37.599 --> 00:27:40.880 Because uh and sometimes it's a processing thing of time. 00:27:41.599 --> 00:27:48.559 And also sometimes what people uh when I say people, I mean my

therapist, what she has to say is, no, no, that's your thoughts. 00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:49.440 What are your feelings? 00:27:49.680 --> 00:27:50.160 Oh, that's cool. 00:27:50.480 --> 00:27:53.519 Because I'll go, I reacted this way, and I think it's because my dad left. 00:27:53.599 --> 00:27:55.599 And she's like, No, no, how do you feel? 00:27:55.759 --> 00:28:01.200 I'm like, well, what I what I determined was that I think because of this and that, I must have felt uh sad. 00:28:01.440 --> 00:28:02.559 It must have been a sadness feel. 00:28:02.720 --> 00:28:03.839 He's like, Well, how do you feel? 00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:08.960 I'm like, I don't I don't know what draw in my head to look for to find out that. 00:28:09.039 --> 00:28:11.759 And she's like, body, and I'm like, oh shit, that's a body. 00:28:12.000 --> 00:28:12.319 Okay. 00:28:12.960 --> 00:28:15.680 Uh I don't know, it's bad. 00:28:16.240 --> 00:28:17.279 Bad feelings. 00:28:17.680 --> 00:28:22.240 That's so good though, to separate, because we do mix or we go to one first. 00:28:22.799 --> 00:28:24.079 The logic and the yeah. 00:28:24.240 --> 00:28:34.000 And I I'm envious of people who just go to feelings where I'm like, oh, I wish sometimes it was just direct access, but I have to go through this like anal analysis logic thing. 00:28:34.160 --> 00:28:37.200 And then if any of that is like, well, you shouldn't be sad. 00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:37.519 Yeah. 00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:41.119 Because uh you're watching a sitcom, so you can't be crying. 00:28:41.359 --> 00:28:43.519 So so everything's probably fine. 00:28:43.920 --> 00:28:47.519 And all the sadness is like That's interesting. 00:28:47.839 --> 00:28:52.720 Okay, so then do you because I find that I probably lean closer to the feeling side. 00:28:53.359 --> 00:28:53.599 Good. 00:28:53.920 --> 00:28:56.960 But do you how do you interact with people like that? 00:28:57.119 --> 00:29:00.720 Like do you do you find it hard to understand them sometimes? 00:29:03.359 --> 00:29:05.920 I think Yeah, probably. 00:29:06.400 --> 00:29:09.039 And I think I s I sometimes need to just be reminded. 00:29:09.200 --> 00:29:19.039 And I m by myself usually just like, oh no, feelings are are fine and it's okay to have them, and this is actually like it I don't I don't have to fix it, is the first thing. 00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:20.880 I don't have to go, oh you're having feelings now. 00:29:20.960 --> 00:29:23.519 Let us let us figure out a way for you to not have them. 00:29:23.680 --> 00:29:24.000 Yeah. 00:29:24.160 --> 00:29:28.799 I can just but it's it feels overwhelming because I'm like, it's something is not contained. 00:29:29.039 --> 00:29:30.400 Like, should we contain it? 00:29:30.559 --> 00:29:33.920 And then I just need to go, no, it doesn't have to be contained actually. 00:29:34.000 --> 00:29:35.440 It's okay, the feelings just exist. 00:29:35.519 --> 00:29:35.680 Yeah. 00:29:35.839 --> 00:29:41.119 But it feels unruly and it feels

a bit like feels like the ocean, feels too big sometimes. 00:29:41.680 --> 00:29:47.279 This is really fascinating because I think about this so much in terms of my own anxiety and control. 00:29:48.720 --> 00:30:01.359 And and when we're thinking about living together, so much of like I I if it were up to me, I would like be I'd love to hear an Edinburgh live by myself. 00:30:01.680 --> 00:30:04.720 But then also it's really nice to have other people. 00:30:04.799 --> 00:30:10.880 But the thing that I think causes the most stress with living other people for me is the lack of control. 00:30:11.920 --> 00:30:14.400 Especially, you know, if you're sharing a bathroom, let's say. 00:30:14.640 --> 00:30:16.720 And I've been so lucky there's have been no issues. 00:30:16.799 --> 00:30:21.920 Like my uh flatmates, Lucas Jeff Coat has a show at three, I think three ten. 00:30:22.319 --> 00:30:26.559 Uh Ovaldis has a show at uh seven ten, and my show's at 8.30. 00:30:26.640 --> 00:30:32.799 So our time schedules for like when we need the shower, everything no clashes. 00:30:33.279 --> 00:30:34.640 But imagine if there was. 00:30:34.880 --> 00:30:37.440 Imagine I'm gonna get to my show. 00:30:37.759 --> 00:30:38.559 I need a shower. 00:30:38.880 --> 00:30:39.839 You say imagine. 00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:42.400 I live with my mother right now and she just retired. 00:30:42.640 --> 00:30:44.319 Oh the time. 00:30:44.640 --> 00:30:46.480 She's around all the time, oh the time. 00:30:46.960 --> 00:30:48.000 This is what I mean. 00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:48.480 Yeah. 00:30:48.799 --> 00:30:49.440 Control. 00:30:49.680 --> 00:30:51.839 Yeah, she needs to get back to work. 00:30:52.240 --> 00:30:54.079 She need hire this lady. 00:30:54.400 --> 00:30:56.000 You've done this for like 50-60 years. 00:30:56.079 --> 00:30:56.799 You can do another 10. 00:30:57.039 --> 00:30:58.720 Can someone get some people's mom on a job for you? 00:30:58.880 --> 00:31:00.319 Can someone hire my mother for something? 00:31:00.400 --> 00:31:00.960 I don't care. 00:31:01.119 --> 00:31:02.799 Like she's very good at cleaning. 00:31:02.880 --> 00:31:03.599 Come on, take her. 00:31:03.759 --> 00:31:04.480 Someone take her. 00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:08.480 But yeah, I would love to do I I don't love waiting to use the bathroom. 00:31:08.720 --> 00:31:09.680 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:31:09.920 --> 00:31:10.960 That would freak me out. 00:31:11.279 --> 00:31:11.519 Yeah. 00:31:12.160 --> 00:31:17.599 So again, like I guess we would would it make you feel more comfortable if we had, I mean, a bathroom schedules crazy. 00:31:17.839 --> 00:31:18.480 A peace schedule? 00:31:18.640 --> 00:31:19.680 A peace schedule is crazy. 00:31:20.000 --> 00:31:24.559 No, but what what it would force me to do is again get to know my body. 00:31:24.880 --> 00:31:31.519 Because this thing of like holding it in until it's like last second, and that is you've just gone to the shower, and then I'm like, oh no. 00:31:31.680 --> 00:31:33.200 No, no, I can't wait any longer. 00:31:33.359 --> 00:31:34.240 Like that doesn't work. 00:31:34.400 --> 00:31:35.759 I have to like time it better. 00:31:36.000 --> 00:31:36.480 Yeah, right. 00:31:36.720 --> 00:31:42.000 Would you would you confront, like, would you be like okay, let's see. 00:31:42.079 --> 00:31:42.960 Set set the scene. 00:31:43.119 --> 00:31:43.680 Yeah. 00:31:44.000 --> 00:31:52.079 You're you're feeling like you've got to go to the toilet, and it then it comes up quite quickly, but then you see me like I'm right outside the the bathroom shower. 00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:53.599 I've got my towel on. 00:31:53.839 --> 00:31:55.359 This is like an everything shower. 00:31:55.440 --> 00:31:57.680 Like I've I've got my shame. 00:31:58.400 --> 00:31:59.759 Yeah, my hair mask. 00:32:00.000 --> 00:32:04.799 Like, um, and you know, and you've seen me take one of those showers before, and it's an hour and a half minimum. 00:32:05.119 --> 00:32:05.359 Okay. 00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:22.799 I would say, Oh, um, Harry, I would love for you to take a shower right now, but you have to decide whether or not you would rather shower right now and then know that this mug, your mug, has been used for unspeakable things, or you let me use the bathroom real quick. 00:32:23.200 --> 00:32:26.240 We only have two mugs, I've exactly and yours is the one to go. 00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:30.079 Wait, so your first one of call was the threat. 00:32:31.279 --> 00:32:32.000 Wait, okay, sorry. 00:32:32.079 --> 00:32:32.640 Help me, I'll be. 00:32:38.880 --> 00:32:39.279 No, I see. 00:32:39.440 --> 00:32:41.119 Are you saying that's unhealthy? 00:32:42.720 --> 00:32:46.559 Oh, you went to DEF CON flight like so quickly. 00:32:47.119 --> 00:32:48.160 Wait, let me try again. 00:32:48.559 --> 00:32:50.160 Meanwhile, I'm there with my towel. 00:32:50.480 --> 00:32:51.440 I have a bathrobe on. 00:32:51.519 --> 00:32:55.039 I'm like, oh my goodness. 00:32:55.680 --> 00:32:56.000 Okay. 00:32:57.039 --> 00:32:59.039 Oh, is it okay if I use the bathroom first? 00:32:59.200 --> 00:32:59.680 There we go. 00:33:00.000 --> 00:33:00.640 That's not better. 00:33:00.880 --> 00:33:02.799 And I would see that's what the conversation would be like. 00:33:02.880 --> 00:33:04.319 I would go, sorry, Sophie. 00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:05.920 Oh, you didn't use the bathroom. 00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:07.839 Don't threaten me. 00:33:08.079 --> 00:33:10.079 I'd say, don't threaten me. 00:33:10.160 --> 00:33:11.119 Let's talk about okay. 00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:12.000 Just say, do you know what? 00:33:12.079 --> 00:33:13.839 If you say sorry, could I use the bathroom quickly? 00:33:14.000 --> 00:33:17.759 I go, okay, I'll I'll put down my hair mask. 00:33:18.079 --> 00:33:20.000 My 12-step skincare routine. 00:33:20.079 --> 00:33:24.400 I've got my exfoliator down, everything's down, and I go, okay, please use the bathroom. 00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:26.480 And then I slowly

put the mug away. 00:33:27.119 --> 00:33:28.480 You've got a hammer as well. 00:33:29.119 --> 00:33:30.400 Put the hammer down. 00:33:32.559 --> 00:33:33.440 Just needs a pee. 00:33:33.519 --> 00:33:34.400 I just need a pee. 00:33:34.559 --> 00:33:34.880 Okay. 00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:46.160 No, I love, I actually love there's something about that is is nice to know if you're gonna live with someone indefinitely, in quotes. 00:33:46.319 --> 00:33:58.960 I think that would be really stressful to me, knowing that there's no ends, but then a marker of progress would then help me, you know, it's like the guiding light of like something's growing and developing in progress. 00:33:59.279 --> 00:33:59.519 Yes. 00:33:59.680 --> 00:34:03.440 And what would that because I've I have been thinking that about this bunker. 00:34:03.680 --> 00:34:05.440 We would have to set some kind of goal. 00:34:05.680 --> 00:34:06.000 Yes. 00:34:06.240 --> 00:34:10.079 Like how how do we how do we not feel like there's no point to this? 00:34:10.239 --> 00:34:10.400 Yeah. 00:34:10.559 --> 00:34:14.400 So like we're stuck in a bunker for say like five years, but we don't know how long. 00:34:14.719 --> 00:34:16.239 But we just know it'll probably be years. 00:34:16.400 --> 00:34:19.199 So what could we build towards? 00:34:19.280 --> 00:34:20.880 What could be our what could be our goal? 00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:27.920 See, our I think the soft sort of goals would be like those interpersonal just figuring out a way of functioning together. 00:34:28.239 --> 00:34:34.800 Yes, and we get but then we'd hit you'd hit a point where you're like, you know what, we're comfortable, we live with each other, we're comfortable, we get it. 00:34:35.119 --> 00:34:44.079 Uh I think it would be fun to I don't know what's down in this bunker necessarily, but it would be fun to learn try and learn a new skill or get better at a skill. 00:34:44.320 --> 00:34:45.760 Like, do you play any instruments? 00:34:46.000 --> 00:34:47.280 I I do not. 00:34:47.519 --> 00:34:48.960 I've started learning a few. 00:34:49.199 --> 00:34:49.519 Amazing. 00:34:49.679 --> 00:34:54.079 So I feel like I have some like ground knowledge of some some of them. 00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:57.840 I love that because I know how to play the guitar. 00:34:58.079 --> 00:34:58.559 Amazing. 00:34:58.719 --> 00:35:00.800 I can do leaving on a jet plane. 00:35:01.119 --> 00:35:03.280 I don't know why I said it as if there was more coming. 00:35:03.679 --> 00:35:04.880 You had the arising inflation. 00:35:05.119 --> 00:35:06.320 Uh leaving on a jet plane. 00:35:06.559 --> 00:35:07.199 First of many. 00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:08.320 And that's the one. 00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:10.400 Full stop. 00:35:10.559 --> 00:35:10.800 Yeah. 00:35:10.960 --> 00:35:13.679 So if you can teach me other ones than that one, that would be great. 00:35:13.920 --> 00:35:15.920 Well, that will be fun because we start a band. 00:35:16.079 --> 00:35:16.480 Yes. 00:35:16.639 --> 00:35:17.280 Yes. 00:35:17.519 --> 00:35:20.159 You we that's and then we can get better at, you know. 00:35:20.480 --> 00:35:20.960 Can you sing? 00:35:21.039 --> 00:35:21.920 I feel like you can sing. 00:35:22.079 --> 00:35:23.119 No, I can't sing. 00:35:23.199 --> 00:35:24.719 But I feel like you can sing though. 00:35:24.960 --> 00:35:29.519 No, better, but what a better time to learn than in a bunker trapped with another comedian. 00:35:30.159 --> 00:35:31.599 That's that's incredible. 00:35:31.920 --> 00:35:35.199 And it's better that I think you can sing and you say you can't than the other way around. 00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:37.039 Yeah, and I'm I'm withholding. 00:35:37.119 --> 00:35:38.559 I'm like, oh no, not tonight. 00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:39.519 No. 00:35:39.760 --> 00:35:41.840 And then you start and I'm like, oh my god, please stop. 00:35:43.119 --> 00:35:46.000 But I think it's just you have such a good voice. 00:35:46.159 --> 00:35:46.480 Oh, yeah. 00:35:46.880 --> 00:35:47.679 Have you tried singing? 00:35:47.840 --> 00:35:49.039 Have you done a little test? 00:35:49.280 --> 00:35:54.960 I yeah, I like I think it's just the confidence and like you know, you can only get better after you as you keep getting doing it. 00:35:55.199 --> 00:35:58.559 But I just stopped and never developed singing. 00:35:58.800 --> 00:36:03.679 But luckily, like, you know, com comedy, I've got to use my voice as a good side of it. 00:36:03.840 --> 00:36:11.920 But I think, yeah, the the learning a skill with someone and supporting each other through that could be fun. 00:36:12.159 --> 00:36:13.440 Do you speak multiple languages? 00:36:13.599 --> 00:36:15.519 Yes, I speak Korean and Japanese. 00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:16.719 That could be fun. 00:36:16.960 --> 00:36:22.480 Well, that's related to some of the recommendations of stuff that I've brought for you. 00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:23.039 Yes. 00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:26.480 Because I love sharing, you know, my culture. 00:36:27.920 --> 00:36:28.880 I I'm obsessed. 00:36:28.960 --> 00:36:29.440 I would love that. 00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:31.280 We and I could teach you Korean. 00:36:31.440 --> 00:36:44.559 Actually, funnily enough, the name for the Korean alphabet is hungrul, which is means, you know, Korean writing, but the sort of colloquial uh Korean word for it is a chim gr. 00:36:44.880 --> 00:36:45.840 Gur means writing. 00:36:46.800 --> 00:36:47.599 It's like gr. 00:36:48.159 --> 00:36:49.519 Yeah, with a yeah, with a L G. 00:36:50.079 --> 00:36:51.599 G G something L. 00:36:51.920 --> 00:36:52.639 Yeah, it's like G. 00:36:52.880 --> 00:36:57.199 It's sort of like a we write it out in English as EU and it's a neutral gr. 00:36:57.760 --> 00:36:57.840 Okay. 00:36:58.079 --> 00:36:58.719 So gur. 00:36:59.039 --> 00:36:59.280 Gur. 00:36:59.519 --> 00:36:59.679 Yeah. 00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:00.320 Gur. 00:37:00.719 --> 00:37:00.960 Okay. 00:37:01.280 --> 00:37:14.079 Um and achim is Korean

for morning, and the reason why they called it achim guru or the morning writing is that you can learn it in one one full day. 00:37:14.480 --> 00:37:15.199 Oh, really? 00:37:15.440 --> 00:37:16.400 Oh, I love that. 00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:16.880 Yeah. 00:37:16.960 --> 00:37:17.519 So I could teach. 00:37:18.559 --> 00:37:18.719 Yeah. 00:37:19.199 --> 00:37:19.440 Yeah. 00:37:19.679 --> 00:37:26.320 I'm nervous about not being able to pronounce it though, because it's it f it whenever I hear it, I'm like, I I don't know if my if I can make those sounds. 00:37:26.559 --> 00:37:26.880 That's okay. 00:37:27.280 --> 00:37:27.840 Well, you can learn that. 00:37:27.920 --> 00:37:28.000 Yeah. 00:37:28.239 --> 00:37:31.360 Or is that not it's not one of those things where you if you didn't learn it when you were three, you'll never learn. 00:37:31.599 --> 00:37:32.159 No, no, no, no. 00:37:32.239 --> 00:37:33.199 You can absolutely learn it. 00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:34.239 Oh, that would be cool. 00:37:34.480 --> 00:37:38.559 So so we we could learn the actual ride or everything, and that could be fun. 00:37:38.800 --> 00:37:39.760 Yeah, that would be great. 00:37:40.559 --> 00:37:41.360 I'll be a teacher again. 00:37:41.840 --> 00:37:45.199 Yeah, I was about to say, like, what else could you what what did you teach? 00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:48.000 I taught uh English. 00:37:48.320 --> 00:37:49.039 I know that one. 00:37:49.280 --> 00:37:49.920 Yeah. 00:37:52.000 --> 00:37:54.400 Um Korean and Japanese. 00:37:54.480 --> 00:37:55.280 So I was like a language. 00:37:56.480 --> 00:37:56.719 Yeah. 00:37:56.960 --> 00:37:57.920 That's really good for me. 00:37:58.159 --> 00:37:59.280 That's so good for me. 00:37:59.840 --> 00:38:09.280 Uh what which bits are because I feel like if we're stuck in a bunker for a lot of time, I would love some stuff down there that would remind me of Denmark. 00:38:09.360 --> 00:38:09.679 Oh yeah. 00:38:09.840 --> 00:38:13.840 I'm assuming you would love to have some stuff there that would bring your culture down there. 00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:24.000 So what what what stuff would you and I mean we don't necessarily need to we we can't hope that we have them, but like what would be really good to have in the bunker that would remind you of it. 00:38:24.159 --> 00:38:30.000 This is hard because my thing is like I don't know how it would exist in the bunker, but like food-related stuff. 00:38:30.159 --> 00:38:31.519 I would love to cook. 00:38:33.440 --> 00:38:39.679 You know, I and I'm actually obsessed with uh post-apocalyptic like fiction. 00:38:39.760 --> 00:38:40.239 I love it. 00:38:40.800 --> 00:38:45.039 And so I'm watching one right now uh on Apple TV called Silo. 00:38:45.840 --> 00:38:49.039 Yes, I've it it has started automatically after I've seen things. 00:38:49.280 --> 00:38:52.559 Um, yeah, yeah. 00:38:52.639 --> 00:38:59.840 But like a lot of these like futuristic bunkers will have like hydroponic sort of like these greenhouses, so they can make vegetables and blah blah blah blah blah. 00:39:00.079 --> 00:39:01.679 I would love for our bunker to have that. 00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:05.920 We've got a little like we've got a few animals, we've got like chickens and a goat or a cow. 00:39:06.159 --> 00:39:06.320 Okay. 00:39:06.559 --> 00:39:09.519 And then we do have like vegetables and stuff, so we can grow some stuff. 00:39:09.679 --> 00:39:09.840 Yeah. 00:39:10.159 --> 00:39:11.519 Because I would love to make kimchi. 00:39:12.000 --> 00:39:12.800 I've never had it. 00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:13.599 That's okay. 00:39:13.840 --> 00:39:15.519 I don't know, I don't know if it is. 00:39:16.159 --> 00:39:17.280 You might not like it. 00:39:17.519 --> 00:39:18.159 That's true. 00:39:18.800 --> 00:39:21.280 But I read Crying in H Mart and I was like, I need to. 00:39:21.440 --> 00:39:21.519 Yeah. 00:39:21.760 --> 00:39:24.559 I need like based on that book, I was like, I want to taste all these things. 00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:24.960 Yes. 00:39:25.119 --> 00:39:26.480 And I just don't know where to start. 00:39:26.719 --> 00:39:30.800 Because I don't know what it I'm I find it really hard to eat things when I don't know what it's gonna taste like. 00:39:31.119 --> 00:39:31.760 Yeah, no, that's fine. 00:39:31.920 --> 00:39:32.719 Which I should get over. 00:39:33.199 --> 00:39:35.039 But I just I really want to I really want to try it. 00:39:35.360 --> 00:39:40.320 Well it'd be a good it'll be a nice introduction to it, like having someone there that sort of guides you and tell you what to expect. 00:39:40.480 --> 00:39:46.559 Kimchi is very it depends on like when you eat it, because it ripens and it's a fermented dish. 00:39:46.800 --> 00:39:47.039 Oh. 00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:59.199 So it's cabbage, it's napa cabbage that you f the way you make it is you s first uh like pack lots of salt around e every leaf, and then the the salt draws out all the moisture, right? 00:39:59.440 --> 00:40:07.280 So you like squeeze out the moisture and then you make a paste out of chili flakes, uh uh seljot, what's seljot? 00:40:07.440 --> 00:40:26.960 It's like um it's sort of like uh uh like prawn, it's like a prawn paste that you it's very salty, okay, and then you pack it in, you and sometimes you can add grated um nashi pear to add sweetness and like scallions, and you put it all, and each leaf has this paste in between, and then you store it. 00:40:27.360 --> 00:40:45.760 And then uh when you eat it fresh, um we call it kotody, which is like it's not it's just cabbage, it's very like bright, maybe tiny bit sweet, but then as it ferments, it becomes more sour, and it's a pickled cabbage, spicy pickled cabbage. 00:40:46.159 --> 00:40:52.800 So uh you can make like kimchi jige, which is a stew, spicy stew with pork. 00:40:53.039 --> 00:40:59.519 You can uh make kimchi fried rice, it's uh it's really good for your gut biomes. 00:40:59.920 --> 00:41:09.840 Uh you know, the more modern

fusion takes, you can make like a kimchi toasted sandwich where the brightness and the sourness of the kimchi cuts through the cheese. 00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:11.679 So I'd I'd make all these dishes for you. 00:41:11.760 --> 00:41:13.599 And I'd be like, is it yummy? 00:41:13.679 --> 00:41:14.320 Is it not? 00:41:14.639 --> 00:41:15.599 Oh, that sounds amazing. 00:41:15.760 --> 00:41:21.599 It also just sounds like it makes my love for Danish food just I'm like, oh, we we put meat on bread. 00:41:23.119 --> 00:41:27.119 Yours is so like beautiful and detailed, and like you do this, then you do this, and you wait for a while. 00:41:27.360 --> 00:41:29.440 I'm like, yeah, meat, fried meat on bread. 00:41:29.679 --> 00:41:31.280 And then we don't put another bread on top. 00:41:31.360 --> 00:41:32.079 That's our thing. 00:41:32.719 --> 00:41:33.760 Gravy, gravy. 00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:34.559 I'd love to. 00:41:34.639 --> 00:41:37.840 No, but that's fun though, but sharing, like you would you know, tell me. 00:41:38.159 --> 00:41:40.400 I would bring open sandwiches into the bunker. 00:41:40.559 --> 00:41:41.440 Because they're the best. 00:41:41.519 --> 00:41:45.599 Like dense, dark rye bread, like really dense. 00:41:45.760 --> 00:41:46.400 Yeah. 00:41:46.880 --> 00:41:48.400 And then we just do toppings. 00:41:48.639 --> 00:41:48.800 Yeah. 00:41:49.039 --> 00:41:52.400 Oh, are you do you have any food weirdnesses, anything you eat or don't eat? 00:41:52.880 --> 00:41:53.679 I am not. 00:41:54.159 --> 00:41:56.480 The only one that I don't eat is uh oysters. 00:41:56.800 --> 00:41:59.440 Oh, yeah, but that's people. 00:41:59.599 --> 00:42:01.679 The people that are they're lying. 00:42:02.239 --> 00:42:03.760 Love oysters, Sophie. 00:42:04.159 --> 00:42:04.960 It's a performance. 00:42:05.039 --> 00:42:05.920 They can't, it's not. 00:42:06.159 --> 00:42:08.079 I don't eat them, they swallow them. 00:42:08.159 --> 00:42:09.920 They don't they're not like chewing them. 00:42:10.159 --> 00:42:10.400 Right? 00:42:10.559 --> 00:42:12.320 Like if they like them, you'd chew them. 00:42:12.400 --> 00:42:13.199 You'd have them as a snack. 00:42:13.360 --> 00:42:13.840 No, no, no. 00:42:14.159 --> 00:42:15.039 Let it persist in the mouth. 00:42:15.199 --> 00:42:19.920 And then they dose it with uh s lemon, which removes all taste. 00:42:20.079 --> 00:42:20.639 You don't like them. 00:42:20.719 --> 00:42:22.480 You like the performance of eating them. 00:42:22.800 --> 00:42:26.079 Oh, I'm going to slow it down a little come on, please. 00:42:26.480 --> 00:42:26.960 Absolutely not. 00:42:27.119 --> 00:42:28.400 Imagine if you ate chocolate like that. 00:42:28.480 --> 00:42:31.519 Oh, let me douse it with lemon and then swallow it whole. 00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:33.599 Then you don't like chocolate, do you? 00:42:34.000 --> 00:42:34.800 You chew it. 00:42:34.880 --> 00:42:40.559 You would chew it like you do with chocolate, where you mmm, you make it get all over

your mouth, you let it sit for five minutes. 00:42:40.639 --> 00:42:41.599 That's how much you love chocolate. 00:42:41.840 --> 00:42:43.440 They tolerate oysters, is what they do. 00:42:43.840 --> 00:42:45.679 They love be they love saying they love oysters. 00:42:46.079 --> 00:42:46.880 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:42:47.440 --> 00:42:48.559 No, I'm not a fan. 00:42:48.880 --> 00:42:49.599 No, no, no. 00:42:49.679 --> 00:42:50.960 We're not having oysters down there. 00:42:51.119 --> 00:42:51.199 No. 00:42:51.360 --> 00:42:52.800 That's an absolute that's absolutely fine. 00:42:53.119 --> 00:42:55.039 But besides that, I'm pretty open. 00:42:55.280 --> 00:42:56.320 How about yourself? 00:42:56.400 --> 00:43:00.000 Do you have I'm not good with hot prawns. 00:43:00.320 --> 00:43:01.039 Hot prawns? 00:43:01.519 --> 00:43:02.400 Yeah, but I'm learning. 00:43:02.559 --> 00:43:04.639 I I think I just cold prawns, great. 00:43:04.719 --> 00:43:07.360 Yeah I love uh white bread with prawns and mayo. 00:43:08.000 --> 00:43:08.239 Great. 00:43:08.400 --> 00:43:08.800 Yeah. 00:43:09.039 --> 00:43:15.280 But um, whenever they get warm, like pa and stuff, I struggle with it. 00:43:15.519 --> 00:43:16.239 So I'm trying to learn. 00:43:16.559 --> 00:43:17.760 A temperature thing specifically. 00:43:18.000 --> 00:43:19.679 Yeah, I feel like they shouldn't be warm. 00:43:19.920 --> 00:43:20.400 Wow. 00:43:20.559 --> 00:43:27.039 Because I would I it's funny because I would almost lean towards the other, like if you, you know, you grilled some prawns. 00:43:28.000 --> 00:43:30.480 I'm gonna get to Australian here, shrimp on the Barbie. 00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:33.280 But like some, you know, you get like a freshly grilled. 00:43:33.599 --> 00:43:34.960 I think I could get I think I could learn. 00:43:35.119 --> 00:43:36.639 I don't think it's like the worst thing in the world. 00:43:36.800 --> 00:43:36.880 Right. 00:43:37.119 --> 00:43:41.039 But it is it is something I'm working on because I feel like there's so many good dishes with hot prawns. 00:43:41.280 --> 00:43:41.440 Yeah. 00:43:41.760 --> 00:43:42.800 And I should get into it. 00:43:43.119 --> 00:43:45.679 I love how it's oysters, prawns, so like seafood for us. 00:43:45.920 --> 00:43:51.519 And maybe we just also if you were in a bunker, it's not like we have an ocean down there, so maybe we just stay away from it'd be bad quality. 00:43:51.599 --> 00:43:52.559 It'd be frozen or something. 00:43:52.800 --> 00:43:54.000 Yeah, we can have some fr yeah. 00:43:54.400 --> 00:43:59.280 Unless we have an aquarium, which I don't I think we're pushing it with the like the vegetables, the cows, and everything. 00:44:00.400 --> 00:44:01.280 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:44:01.519 --> 00:44:08.079 Um I've been told I need to ask this in a more confident way because otherwise it it sets a bad tone. 00:44:08.719 --> 00:44:09.840 Do we kiss? 00:44:11.199 --> 00:44:14.800 Oh fascinating. 00:44:15.039 --> 00:44:15.360 No. 00:44:15.599 --> 00:44:16.000 Yeah. 00:44:16.639 --> 00:44:22.719 I don't I just uh look, I know that there's a point where it's like what else is there to do? 00:44:22.960 --> 00:44:26.239 What else is there to do and how far like how long are we gonna be in here? 00:44:26.400 --> 00:44:26.880 Yeah. 00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:33.360 But I just feel like because I mean I I I'm engaged with a fiance. 00:44:33.599 --> 00:44:34.960 I'll be thinking about her. 00:44:35.199 --> 00:44:35.679 Yeah. 00:44:36.239 --> 00:44:41.760 But then you know that took 20 seconds. 00:44:42.719 --> 00:44:43.440 But you know. 00:44:45.519 --> 00:44:46.719 She's in a bunker. 00:44:46.880 --> 00:44:47.119 Yeah. 00:44:47.280 --> 00:44:48.480 You know, who's she in a bunker with? 00:44:48.559 --> 00:44:48.960 No, no, no. 00:44:49.119 --> 00:44:50.320 I think Chris Pratt actually. 00:44:55.039 --> 00:44:56.079 Like you actually have the answer? 00:44:56.239 --> 00:44:57.119 No, she is in the bunker with me. 00:44:57.920 --> 00:45:03.599 I think she's there with all the bunker with the scale and Joselba and uh Yeah, both of them. 00:45:04.719 --> 00:45:05.840 And they're all poly. 00:45:06.800 --> 00:45:07.440 Exactly. 00:45:07.679 --> 00:45:11.840 And all their wives are dead, so it's like real Yeah. 00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:14.400 And hers won't be open for like eight years or so. 00:45:14.480 --> 00:45:16.079 So it's it's real unfortunate. 00:45:16.400 --> 00:45:18.239 She actually asked to stay. 00:45:19.760 --> 00:45:23.840 Like the they all the buckers all opened up and she asked to stay, Harry. 00:45:24.079 --> 00:45:27.039 So Petra and Idris wake up and she's like bolting it shut. 00:45:27.199 --> 00:45:27.440 Yeah, yeah. 00:45:27.679 --> 00:45:28.719 Oh no, no, don't worry about that. 00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:29.440 Don't check the news. 00:45:29.679 --> 00:45:30.480 No, it won't open. 00:45:30.559 --> 00:45:31.519 Sorry, it won't open. 00:45:31.760 --> 00:45:33.039 She's naked as she's doing it. 00:45:33.119 --> 00:45:35.599 They're like, why are you never wearing clothes? 00:45:36.159 --> 00:45:37.360 We've known her for a week. 00:45:37.440 --> 00:45:38.559 No, no, I think it'll never happen. 00:45:38.719 --> 00:45:40.000 It'll never happen. 00:45:40.480 --> 00:45:48.559 Um no, I'm doing a thing here while I'm in Edinburgh where I'm um writing Jill, my fiance, letters. 00:45:48.880 --> 00:45:49.679 Oh my god. 00:45:49.920 --> 00:45:50.159 Yeah. 00:45:50.320 --> 00:46:03.119 And then it's funny because it's like I I write the letters because old school's nice, but then because I I'm scared that they get lost in the mail, I'm taking a photo of them and still sending them to her over messenger. 00:46:04.480 --> 00:46:06.639 Like she'll get the physical letters later. 00:46:06.800 --> 00:46:06.880 Yeah. 00:46:07.519 --> 00:46:08.639 I'll ensure that she does. 00:46:08.880 --> 00:46:14.320 But I yeah, the old school, something about writing it out, it's quite nice.

00:46:14.480 --> 00:46:15.039 Yeah. 00:46:15.280 --> 00:46:18.239 Um, because we only we only got engaged in March this year. 00:46:18.480 --> 00:46:19.440 Oh, congratulations. 00:46:20.400 --> 00:46:20.639 Yeah. 00:46:20.800 --> 00:46:24.559 Um, and yeah, it's like this new phase. 00:46:24.719 --> 00:46:27.599 Like we started living together only a few years ago. 00:46:27.840 --> 00:46:34.719 Uh, and obviously that's a learning curve, but like now she's like she's gonna be my partner, like life partner. 00:46:35.360 --> 00:46:39.280 Um yeah, I I miss her a lot this month. 00:46:39.440 --> 00:46:57.199 This is like the biggest spin that we've been away from each other since we've got engaged and be actually maybe even been together because uh when I was doing Melbourne, she could just fly over from Sydney and stay, but Edward's so far. 00:46:57.280 --> 00:46:58.400 Yeah, it's so expensive. 00:46:58.480 --> 00:47:00.800 Like, I can't make her stay in the student com that I'm in. 00:47:00.880 --> 00:47:02.400 That's that's abuse. 00:47:02.880 --> 00:47:04.000 Yeah, that's that's not okay. 00:47:04.239 --> 00:47:06.559 Yeah, that's that's spousal abuse. 00:47:06.719 --> 00:47:10.800 Uh and so she was just like, no, I'll stay, I'll stay in Sydney. 00:47:10.960 --> 00:47:18.559 Um and already it's only been like maybe two weeks since I've last seen her, and it's just yeah, it feels like a long time. 00:47:19.039 --> 00:47:24.480 But um, yeah, so I I mean I'll politely decline the kiss. 00:47:24.800 --> 00:47:26.480 You're assuming I would? 00:47:28.239 --> 00:47:28.480 Why? 00:47:29.760 --> 00:47:31.679 I go, uh you're not even going for it. 00:47:32.559 --> 00:47:33.920 Yeah, yeah, not even going for it. 00:47:34.079 --> 00:47:36.079 And I go, Sophie, I will not kiss you. 00:47:36.400 --> 00:47:37.119 Sit up in. 00:47:37.840 --> 00:47:39.840 The way you're eating that curlox complex. 00:47:40.320 --> 00:47:41.360 It's very suggestive. 00:47:41.599 --> 00:47:45.599 Actually, and we have a we have a height chart, a width chart, and a kiss chart, like a kiss print. 00:47:46.159 --> 00:47:46.960 You write no. 00:47:47.679 --> 00:47:48.639 Still not. 00:47:49.679 --> 00:47:50.000 No. 00:47:50.400 --> 00:47:54.000 It's like that you know how the prisoners do tallies on the wall. 00:47:54.079 --> 00:47:55.119 It's like without kissing. 00:47:55.440 --> 00:47:56.079 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:47:56.239 --> 00:47:57.519 Another one, another one, Sophie. 00:47:57.760 --> 00:48:01.599 You carry around a stick just to make sure I always stay within a certain distance of you. 00:48:01.920 --> 00:48:03.440 Remember Remember COVID? 00:48:04.000 --> 00:48:04.960 I love her. 00:48:05.840 --> 00:48:07.840 Jeez, I was just gonna get some milk. 00:48:09.280 --> 00:48:11.440 No, that's I respect that boundary. 00:48:12.159 --> 00:48:15.199 Um so we're saved. 00:48:15.440 --> 00:48:16.639 It's been five years, right? 00:48:16.880 --> 00:48:17.199 Oh wow. 00:48:17.360 --> 00:48:19.599 We hear the the siren that tells us we're saved. 00:48:20.079 --> 00:48:21.280 Do we stay in touch? 00:48:21.599 --> 00:48:34.320 Yeah, I think we would there would be an element of not only trauma bonding, but no, because five years of being together, like, I feel like that would forge a strong connection and friendship. 00:48:34.559 --> 00:49:04.559 Because there's I imagine in a bunker we don't have like the necessarily like the physical dangers you would have, like where as opposed to being out in the wild and surviving like on a desert island, like the elements, like we'd have the physical comfort, but it's almost like the flip side of the emotional sort of terrorism that we would experience of like uh isolation, not knowing what's happening outside, not knowing if anyone we love is still alive. 00:49:04.719 --> 00:49:11.360 So then we would have to like nurture each other emotionally and support each other emotionally. 00:49:11.440 --> 00:49:14.239 There'll be moments that like mentally we would crack. 00:49:14.400 --> 00:49:19.199 We would just maybe a year in and we're thinking, okay, it's been a year, but we're still inside. 00:49:19.360 --> 00:49:20.880 Like, is my mom okay? 00:49:21.039 --> 00:49:22.000 Like, oh my god. 00:49:22.159 --> 00:49:24.079 And then you'd have to talk me off the ledge. 00:49:24.159 --> 00:49:27.280 You'd be like, hey, we could be in here for a bit longer. 00:49:27.760 --> 00:49:33.519 So can you fucking heart like just slap me across the face, like, get over it? 00:49:33.760 --> 00:49:35.360 And then I'd be like, oh, thank you. 00:49:35.760 --> 00:49:36.880 Thank you, Sophie. 00:49:37.119 --> 00:49:39.440 All right, let's go back to making kimchi. 00:49:39.599 --> 00:49:41.599 And you know, we would bond. 00:49:41.840 --> 00:49:43.360 I really think we would bond. 00:49:43.440 --> 00:49:43.840 Yeah. 00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:45.280 And we'd have to keep in touch. 00:49:45.360 --> 00:49:46.239 I'll write you a letter. 00:49:46.400 --> 00:49:47.679 How about I write you a letter? 00:49:47.920 --> 00:49:48.800 That would be lovely. 00:49:49.199 --> 00:49:50.320 We'd have to keep in touch. 00:49:50.719 --> 00:49:51.440 I really like that. 00:49:51.599 --> 00:49:56.159 I think I think that's healthier than oh, we would never want to speak again. 00:49:56.400 --> 00:49:58.079 Oh, that would actually hurt my feelings. 00:49:58.320 --> 00:50:00.000 Yeah, because also that doesn't happen at the end. 00:50:00.159 --> 00:50:01.519 Like that would have happened at some point. 00:50:01.679 --> 00:50:02.480 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:50:02.719 --> 00:50:03.840 You would get there, you know. 00:50:04.079 --> 00:50:08.800 And I think we'd be good at having shared space, like, because we'd there'd be bunk beds. 00:50:09.440 --> 00:50:10.559 Which is not ideal. 00:50:11.840 --> 00:50:12.559 That's not ideal. 00:50:12.719 --> 00:50:13.599 I forgot to tell you this. 00:50:14.159 --> 00:50:15.039 There are bunk beds.

00:50:15.360 --> 00:50:20.400 I it's not I did well, technically I did build it because this changes the whole thing. 00:50:20.960 --> 00:50:22.559 I'm gonna be so upset all the time. 00:50:22.719 --> 00:50:23.119 No, no, no. 00:50:23.199 --> 00:50:25.679 That's like bunk beds is so funny. 00:50:25.920 --> 00:50:28.000 And we are right, we're none of us are happy about it. 00:50:28.159 --> 00:50:29.679 We both hate that there's bunk beds. 00:50:29.760 --> 00:50:30.400 Of course we do. 00:50:30.559 --> 00:50:31.280 Oh my god. 00:50:31.440 --> 00:50:32.559 We hate the bunk beds. 00:50:32.800 --> 00:50:39.920 It there's something also like oh my god, that's so funny that like well I'm lying there, you're lying there. 00:50:40.079 --> 00:50:40.880 Good night, Sah. 00:50:41.760 --> 00:50:42.320 Good night. 00:50:42.559 --> 00:50:42.960 Good night. 00:50:43.280 --> 00:50:45.440 Can you also start moving around so much, Harry? 00:50:45.760 --> 00:50:46.239 You're starting. 00:50:47.760 --> 00:50:50.159 Are you otherwise the noisy sleeper? 00:50:50.480 --> 00:50:52.480 I might snore. 00:50:52.559 --> 00:50:53.599 Is that an issue? 00:50:54.159 --> 00:50:54.960 I don't think so. 00:50:55.119 --> 00:50:56.000 I think we have earplugs. 00:50:56.400 --> 00:50:57.199 Okay, good earlier. 00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:00.960 In Edinburgh, I started sleeping with earplugs because I also live in student accommodation. 00:51:01.119 --> 00:51:02.320 I've never slept so well in my life. 00:51:02.480 --> 00:51:02.639 Really? 00:51:02.719 --> 00:51:03.360 You've never done earplugs. 00:51:03.519 --> 00:51:04.480 I sleep so well. 00:51:04.719 --> 00:51:05.599 Yeah, I love the earplugs. 00:51:06.000 --> 00:51:06.239 Yeah. 00:51:06.400 --> 00:51:08.960 I've always been like, oh no, because then I can't hear if something happens. 00:51:09.039 --> 00:51:10.400 I'm like, yeah, that's the point. 00:51:10.719 --> 00:51:14.159 Yeah, I've all almost always worn earplugs. 00:51:14.320 --> 00:51:15.119 Like I love earplugs. 00:51:15.440 --> 00:51:16.719 That's helped here a lot. 00:51:17.360 --> 00:51:21.599 But the bunk bed thing is like I do you know what? 00:51:21.760 --> 00:51:31.760 When I was uh teaching, uh I went uh on a teaching internship in China, um, and I so so we had to live in the dorms of this school. 00:51:31.920 --> 00:51:36.079 This was a school where kids, it was like a boarding school, so they actually lived at the school, right? 00:51:36.239 --> 00:51:41.199 And the student teachers, we actually also had to live in the exact same dorms that the students did. 00:51:41.360 --> 00:51:58.159 And so imagine like 11 teachers from Sydney University went over for a s for six weeks to teach, and I had to bunk with a uh a person from my university that I'd never really hung out with. 00:51:59.039 --> 00:52:06.719 Um but then by like the first couple days, he became he literally he literally is my best friend. 00:52:06.960 --> 00:52:07.840 Oh, that's lovely. 00:52:08.079 -->

00:52:09.199 His name's Gerard. 00:52:09.599 --> 00:52:10.559 Love him so much. 00:52:10.639 --> 00:52:12.880 We there were bunk beds, literally. 00:52:13.119 --> 00:52:19.679 Finally, well, it's a bit different because he had like his own two sack of bunk beds, and I had my own two stack because it was a four-person dorm. 00:52:19.840 --> 00:52:21.199 But still, bunk beds. 00:52:21.360 --> 00:52:24.320 Still, um, and yeah, we got to know each other so well. 00:52:24.559 --> 00:52:25.199 Oh, that's nice. 00:52:25.360 --> 00:52:26.079 I was like, I love him. 00:52:26.159 --> 00:52:27.519 He's like he is my best friend. 00:52:27.679 --> 00:52:28.880 So hey, hey. 00:52:29.119 --> 00:52:29.599 Bunk beds. 00:52:29.760 --> 00:52:31.199 Are you tub or bottom then? 00:52:31.519 --> 00:52:32.400 I would okay. 00:52:32.639 --> 00:52:34.719 On three, let's do this, and you say what you prefer. 00:52:34.880 --> 00:52:35.119 Ready? 00:52:35.199 --> 00:52:35.760 So on three. 00:52:36.159 --> 00:52:37.840 So one we'll go one, two, three, then say it. 00:52:37.920 --> 00:52:38.320 Okay, okay. 00:52:38.480 --> 00:52:39.599 One, two, three, bottom. 00:52:39.920 --> 00:52:40.239 Bottom. 00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:40.639 Oh. 00:52:41.760 --> 00:52:43.039 I'm scared of the top bottom. 00:52:43.280 --> 00:52:44.159 I'm scared of the top bunk. 00:52:44.400 --> 00:52:45.440 Most people like the top. 00:52:45.679 --> 00:52:46.239 Do they? 00:52:46.480 --> 00:52:48.559 I thought that people always like the top bunk. 00:52:48.800 --> 00:52:59.280 Well, my fear well, my preference, my dream, is that if I could build like a wall around the bottom bunk, it would be like a little like casket almost. 00:52:59.360 --> 00:53:00.239 And like a little room. 00:53:00.400 --> 00:53:01.519 It'd be like a room of my own. 00:53:02.000 --> 00:53:04.000 Casket is crazier than room for you to see. 00:53:04.239 --> 00:53:05.840 No, my dream bed is a casket. 00:53:06.480 --> 00:53:08.239 With like a tall ceiling. 00:53:08.559 --> 00:53:09.280 That's a dream. 00:53:09.519 --> 00:53:15.280 Just completely in just in a little my own little space would be my dream. 00:53:15.679 --> 00:53:17.599 Is that why you prefer the bottom than the top? 00:53:17.840 --> 00:53:19.519 Yeah, that and also just gravity. 00:53:19.760 --> 00:53:21.039 Yeah, that's what I'm scared of. 00:53:21.199 --> 00:53:21.280 Yeah. 00:53:21.519 --> 00:53:23.519 I'm scared that I will roll and just die. 00:53:23.760 --> 00:53:24.239 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:53:24.320 --> 00:53:24.639 100%. 00:53:25.199 --> 00:53:25.280 Yeah. 00:53:25.440 --> 00:53:26.000 Yeah, no, no, no. 00:53:26.239 --> 00:53:26.559 Yeah, no. 00:53:26.639 --> 00:53:28.320 Or like, oh, you're dead. 00:53:28.480 --> 00:53:28.719 Oh. 00:53:28.880 --> 00:53:29.280 Yeah, no. 00:53:29.519 --> 00:53:31.119 Oh, and then imagine being on the bottom and see. 00:53:31.440 --> 00:53:31.679 Oh god. 00:53:34.000 --> 00:53:38.079 No, I'm not but I feel like if we're practical, take the mattress down. 00:53:38.480 --> 00:53:39.920 Someone sleeps on the floor on a mattress. 00:53:40.079 --> 00:53:40.239 Yes. 00:53:40.480 --> 00:53:45.199 Or maybe if we have like a sole or something, we could just make it into two beds or something. 00:53:45.440 --> 00:53:46.000 Yeah, for sure. 00:53:46.159 --> 00:53:49.920 I feel like if neither of us are like, yay, top top bunk, we'll figure it out. 00:53:50.159 --> 00:53:50.880 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:53:51.039 --> 00:53:52.159 I feel like that should be doable. 00:53:52.400 --> 00:54:02.719 Well, look, to be honest, if if we I would have done the same thing of like one, two, three, and then we if we both said bottom, I would have then said, actually, I'll take the top. 00:54:03.039 --> 00:54:03.920 Did I say bottom? 00:54:04.000 --> 00:54:04.800 I meant top. 00:54:04.960 --> 00:54:05.599 I love the top. 00:54:06.239 --> 00:54:10.480 I feel like in the with the bed, that's the one place where I'm like, okay, you take the top then. 00:54:10.719 --> 00:54:13.440 Like I'm so I hate the top so much. 00:54:13.679 --> 00:54:14.320 I hate it. 00:54:14.400 --> 00:54:16.880 I hate oh just climbing up the little stairs. 00:54:17.039 --> 00:54:17.440 Oh yeah. 00:54:17.599 --> 00:54:19.599 Well, like the whole bed is shaking. 00:54:19.840 --> 00:54:23.760 Yeah, I I'll have to, I'll maybe just make like a harness or something. 00:54:24.639 --> 00:54:25.760 Something hoisted up? 00:54:25.920 --> 00:54:29.360 Yeah, like put it around my waist, and then so when I sleep, if I fall. 00:54:29.840 --> 00:54:30.880 Oh, I see what you mean. 00:54:31.360 --> 00:54:35.360 Oh no, not not not like a pulley system where you're like Alright, Harry. 00:54:35.519 --> 00:54:36.320 Good night. 00:54:37.920 --> 00:54:39.199 I'm just getting pulled up. 00:54:39.840 --> 00:54:40.480 Thanks, Sophie. 00:54:40.719 --> 00:54:42.000 It's like, oh, we're about to go to bed. 00:54:42.079 --> 00:54:43.119 Can you can you tie me down? 00:54:43.199 --> 00:54:46.079 And I'm like, oh just good night. 00:54:46.480 --> 00:54:46.960 Like a dog. 00:54:47.119 --> 00:54:50.880 You're like putting the leash around the I've known when you want to get back. 00:54:52.000 --> 00:54:52.639 I like that. 00:54:52.880 --> 00:54:58.719 Oh, if we could, if I could, because you said harness, and I was imagining like if we had like fabric enough, make a hammock. 00:54:58.960 --> 00:55:01.280 Oh I could sleep in a hammock every single day. 00:55:01.440 --> 00:55:04.079 I could I could just stay in a hammock for five years. 00:55:04.320 --> 00:55:06.000 Oh beautiful. 00:55:06.320 --> 00:55:10.320 I think of all the items, if I could bring one, it would be a hammock. 00:55:10.559 --> 00:55:10.880 Really? 00:55:10.960 --> 00:55:11.199 Well. 00:55:11.360 --> 00:55:12.400 I love hammocks so much. 00:55:12.480 --> 00:55:15.119 I don't know what it is, like a womb thing? 00:55:15.360 --> 00:55:15.519 Yeah. 00:55:15.920 --> 00:55:18.000 Like a the autism thing. 00:55:18.079 --> 00:55:18.800 I have no idea. 00:55:19.280 --> 00:55:22.320 There's a sensory the suspension. 00:55:22.639 --> 00:55:23.119 Yeah. 00:55:23.440 --> 00:55:25.679 Have you ever done one of those sensory deprivation tags? 00:55:25.920 --> 00:55:26.079 No. 00:55:26.239 --> 00:55:27.119 Should I should I? 00:55:27.280 --> 00:55:27.760 Maybe maybe. 00:55:28.000 --> 00:55:29.360 Some pa it's it's very divisive. 00:55:29.519 --> 00:55:34.639 It's like you either love it or it's like you're alone with your thoughts. 00:55:34.880 --> 00:55:38.320 And it becomes almost like a torture device. 00:55:39.039 --> 00:55:42.800 I feel like so you what's the idea is you can't feel anything. 00:55:43.199 --> 00:55:58.239 Yeah, so it's like you know, fully dark, uh f oh you'd hear the water, but I uh because the water they use is like a saline type solution that I and and because that makes you float, like a highly concentrated, very salty water makes you float. 00:55:58.400 --> 00:56:01.760 And so you're it's a feeling unlike anything in the world, apparently. 00:56:02.000 --> 00:56:03.920 Like just suspended in a fluid. 00:56:04.239 --> 00:56:10.480 Because it just sounds like if you f if you can't feel anything and you're alone with your thoughts, I think that's my day-to-day life. 00:56:10.800 --> 00:56:11.039 Oh, really? 00:56:14.239 --> 00:56:15.599 Yeah, I rarely do that. 00:56:17.440 --> 00:56:29.280 Okay, well, before you head to the bunker, you pack a bag where you pack movies and you pack uh books and you pack albums for us, and we'll be discussing them in a little bit in the bonus episode, which is for the special listeners. 00:56:29.519 --> 00:56:29.920 Yes. 00:56:30.159 --> 00:56:33.760 Um, but for now, I just want to say thank you so much for joining me in the bunker. 00:56:34.159 --> 00:56:37.599 Where can I mean you're on fire right now and you're so funny. 00:56:37.840 --> 00:56:38.239 Oh nothing. 00:56:38.480 --> 00:56:39.199 You're so funny. 00:56:39.280 --> 00:56:41.039 Where can people go and find all of your stuff? 00:56:41.360 --> 00:56:42.960 Just yeah, Instagram, TikTok. 00:56:43.119 --> 00:56:48.480 Um my my handle is underscore Harry June underscore because the original one got taken somehow. 00:56:48.719 --> 00:56:51.199 So there's one other Harry June in the world. 00:56:51.360 --> 00:56:52.960 Um yeah, I'm on socials. 00:56:53.119 --> 00:56:55.599 Please come to a show if you if I'm around. 00:56:55.679 --> 00:56:57.360 Um otherwise, yeah, online. 00:56:58.079 --> 00:56:58.559 Thank you. 00:56:58.800 --> 00:56:59.920 Thanks for having me.