บทถอดความฉบับเต็มของ Access Granted

00:06:23.680 --> 00:06:29.120 Because I got access, and not only do I have access, this person knows who I am. 00:06:29.199 --> 00:06:32.480 Yeah, and I have this person contacts information. 00:06:32.639 --> 00:06:34.240 This person knows my name. 00:06:34.399 --> 00:06:39.680 Right, and not only that, I'm standing to next to somebody that somebody else probably won't. 00:06:39.839 --> 00:06:54.639 Somebody else probably wants this, even this spot that I'm standing in in this very moment, and even that makes me feel yeah, yeah, it's the shake your shimmer, it's the shimmer with the the shoulder, shake your shoulder. 00:06:54.879 --> 00:07:02.079 But even that makes me feel some type of way, it makes me feel so much better about myself. 00:07:02.240 --> 00:07:16.800 Yeah, now I feel accomplished, and that's so crazy because sometimes just because a person is a celebrity and you standing next to them, you may be more accomplished than that person. 00:07:17.040 --> 00:07:21.839 It's just that everybody knows their name and may not know yours. 00:07:22.240 --> 00:07:28.959 But we all know the struggles in Hollywood, we all know the struggles with you know entertainers. 00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:34.959 Everybody is really in the same place, just some of them are just trying to make it. 00:07:35.279 --> 00:07:37.600 Well, so I have to disagree with you. 00:07:37.680 --> 00:07:39.199 I don't think that everybody is in the same place. 00:07:39.360 --> 00:07:53.519 You know, I think I think that there is a hierarchy of celebrity life and stardom, and it can be intoxicating uh for those of us who are on the other side who have not experienced that. 00:07:53.600 --> 00:07:54.720 I mean, think about it. 00:07:54.800 --> 00:07:57.920 When we were coming up, it was like Michael Jackson, you know. 00:07:58.000 --> 00:08:00.000 If I don't go that far back. 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:06.800 I love Michael, Michael Jackson, okay, Whitney Houston, okay, Beyonce. 00:08:07.040 --> 00:08:08.079 Come on, bring him, bring me. 00:08:08.959 --> 00:08:10.000 Bring me forward a little bit. 00:08:10.800 --> 00:08:22.000 You know, of just these absolute megastars that if you had their if you if you went to a concert, you just want to be as close as possible. 00:08:22.160 --> 00:08:29.439 Or which is why people buy front row seats, which is why people buy front row seats, but not because that access feels powerful. 00:08:29.600 --> 00:08:30.560 Yeah, it's intoxicating. 00:08:30.879 --> 00:08:39.759 Yeah, like you said, it's it's it's so powerful because it's like I'm in a room that I never thought that I would be in. 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:45.200 And so I'm doing all that I can, you know, to get in this place. 00:08:45.360 --> 00:08:55.840 So that's why I said, is it really about him or her, the person, or is it really and truly about what you need as a person? 00:08:56.399 --> 00:08:58.000 Because that's really what's the what it's about. 00:08:58.159 --> 00:09:01.679 Yeah, I think

that it's always about what that person needs. 00:09:02.080 --> 00:09:11.600 And I think the the difficulty here, and I won't say difficulty, I think the the reality is how does it play out in reality? 00:09:11.759 --> 00:09:30.960 You know, it social media can make you think that okay, if I meet this person at a concert or somehow end up with them, you know, in a sexual situation, that that's gonna parlate into me becoming a wife. 00:09:31.120 --> 00:09:36.080 And then that's gonna parlate into this incredible lifestyle where I can travel the world, have as many. 00:09:36.879 --> 00:09:38.080 And that's what I was gonna say. 00:09:38.480 --> 00:09:49.120 So that access that we talk about, that access, yeah, okay, I want money because we know with money there there's a freedom that comes with having money. 00:09:49.360 --> 00:09:55.600 Also, that access gives-I don't know if you are really free because US well-guess what it represents, though. 00:09:55.759 --> 00:09:57.840 It represents money represents freedom. 00:09:58.000 --> 00:10:00.559 Running money represents experiences. 00:10:00.799 --> 00:10:19.039 So if I'm a person that I'm just trying to get to this person because I feel like I disagree because it's not your money, so you ain't never free, you a slave to what that person with the money thinks about you and the position and hit that you have in his or her life. 00:10:19.279 --> 00:10:28.000 If I'm just having a good time and I just want to be back there with the person for a moment, if it's even just for one night, I feel like I'm around money. 00:10:28.159 --> 00:10:31.200 So even though it may not be mine, I feel like it's mine. 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:33.360 And I'm I I feel freedom. 00:10:33.519 --> 00:10:35.279 I feel because think about it. 00:10:35.440 --> 00:10:46.879 When you're in the room with a bunch of celebrities, you're taking pictures with them, you're smiling, you laughing, you grinning, you're having a good time, it makes you feel like I'm a part of their world. 00:10:47.039 --> 00:10:49.039 I'm a part of what they experience. 00:10:49.200 --> 00:11:00.159 I'm a part of because if I'm just a concert goer and I'm usually just, you know, hit seeing them perform and then I leave, I don't get a chance to experience what happens behind the scenes. 00:11:00.320 --> 00:11:04.320 So now I'm behind the scene and I'm like, oh, this is what it feels like. 00:11:04.559 --> 00:11:07.279 Oh, this is what they do, you know, afterwards. 00:11:07.440 --> 00:11:08.559 This is their life. 00:11:08.720 --> 00:11:10.480 This is all the people that are around them. 00:11:10.639 --> 00:11:14.320 So I feel the money, I feel the freedom, I feel the fame. 00:11:14.480 --> 00:11:22.240 And we know some of that wanting to have access, it's the it's the money, it's the fame, it's the power. 00:11:22.559 --> 00:11:26.639 That's what the the person is is trying to get to. 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:33.120 Yeah, regardless if it's yours or not, that's what you feel in in that moment. 00:11:33.279 --> 00:11:37.039 Yeah, and I guess for people it's it's an intoxicating feeling. 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:42.399 And it's I was able to have access to think about it a little bit. 00:11:42.559 --> 00:11:44.080 Why why would you want to be back there? 00:11:44.240 --> 00:11:50.080 Because if you around, if you have access to somebody that's powerful, now you feel powerful. 00:11:50.480 --> 00:11:54.399 If you're around somebody who got money, now you feel like you got money. 00:11:54.559 --> 00:11:57.840 So there's a reason why people chase it. 00:11:58.080 --> 00:12:15.279 There's a reason why people line up and wait patiently to gain the access because it's all about the feeling, and it's all about I was just in a room with thousands and thousands of people, but now I'm the special one. 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:20.559 I'm the one that has been chosen to be here for that night. 00:12:20.799 --> 00:12:28.720 Hey, if only in that city for only for only one night, and then also, you know what comes with that? 00:12:28.879 --> 00:12:31.840 I posted on social on social media. 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:38.159 Now I got all this validation coming in from you know all these people. 00:12:38.240 --> 00:12:49.039 Now they're you know admiring me, and now they're at home wishing that they were in my shoes, and yeah, so now the validation comes along with it. 00:12:49.279 --> 00:12:50.720 That's such a false feeling. 00:12:50.960 --> 00:13:01.279 I think that that is so it is such a because it's based upon something that you have for a moment and that is dependent upon you. 00:13:01.519 --> 00:13:02.879 But that's how you feel though. 00:13:02.960 --> 00:13:20.799 But for most people, validation is something psychologically that happens within yourself to know that I'm right now with somebody who everybody else out there wants psychologically. 00:13:21.039 --> 00:13:23.279 That does something, yeah. 00:13:23.519 --> 00:13:29.360 I'm I'm on a natural high because I'm in this position where so many other people. 00:13:29.679 --> 00:13:42.559 I got you, I got you, I got you, and I guess I just was always, you know, when I was in college, I I remember um just seeing girls who would flock to the athletes, you know. 00:13:42.720 --> 00:13:51.440 I went to UF, University of Florida, Go Gators! Go Gators, you know, Division I school, incredible athletes. 00:13:51.679 --> 00:13:55.200 Um, a lot of them end up in the NFL. 00:13:55.519 --> 00:14:01.759 And there were girls, freshman year, sophomore, literally, they just would just flock to the athletes. 00:14:02.000 --> 00:14:09.600 Um, and I was very quickly able to see those guys were just really, they would treat these girls in a certain way. 00:14:09.759 --> 00:14:12.399 I mean, they would literally call them old reliables. 00:14:12.799 --> 00:14:22.960 You know, uh, that was the girl that if you need to get your rocks off, boom, boom, call her, text her, she'll pop up at the

dorm, and you know, you feel better. 00:14:23.120 --> 00:14:23.759 Oh Lord. 00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:32.399 Um and it was just so interesting because it's like those girls never climbed up, you know. 00:14:32.720 --> 00:14:35.039 Those girls were treated in that way. 00:14:35.600 --> 00:14:47.279 And because once you there was no, yeah, they were just they stayed at that level of this is the girl that this is my hookup chick. 00:14:48.320 --> 00:14:57.919 You know, and those are not the girls that became the wives or serious relationships, it was just a sexual relationship, and that was it. 00:14:58.080 --> 00:15:02.399 So it's like you and I always say, How you get on, how you get on is how you ride, yeah. 00:15:04.000 --> 00:15:13.600 And then you have those same females that will say, Oh, you know, he he treats me like this, and and he talks to me like this, and he says this to me. 00:15:13.840 --> 00:15:15.840 How you get on is how you ride. 00:15:16.080 --> 00:15:25.759 How you were introduced, or how you introduced yourself to him, you introduced yourself to him in a capacity of here I am. 00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:26.720 You didn't introduce. 00:15:27.279 --> 00:15:33.039 Yeah, you didn't introduce yourself in a way of I want to get to know you and I want to date you. 00:15:33.279 --> 00:15:36.960 You introduce yourself as okay, let's go. 00:15:37.200 --> 00:15:39.600 I'm just glad that I'm here, you know. 00:15:39.840 --> 00:15:43.600 Out of all the people you could select it, you selected me, let's go. 00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:45.519 I'll fulfill this need for you. 00:15:45.679 --> 00:15:47.279 You just said something. 00:15:47.600 --> 00:15:53.200 So in that moment, you're saying that now this guy feels like I'm the prize. 00:15:53.440 --> 00:15:53.840 Oh, yeah. 00:15:54.080 --> 00:16:01.759 Because not only did you stand out there and wait for me, not only were you willing to come wherever it is that I wanted you to go. 00:16:02.000 --> 00:16:04.639 I chose you, I chose you. 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:12.320 So now when this guy is saying crazy stuff to you or whatever, and you're wondering where is it coming from? 00:16:12.480 --> 00:16:25.919 Well, it's coming from a place you already made him feel like, baby, you you it, you everything, because I'm I'm I'm so honored, I'm so elated to be here with you. 00:16:26.080 --> 00:16:27.440 You started that, right? 00:16:27.600 --> 00:16:31.840 So there is a responsibility on the female. 00:16:33.360 --> 00:16:42.240 And I I know a lot of times, you know, and I and I'm a female, I'm a feminist to my heart, but well, you it is you you have to call a spade a spade. 00:16:42.480 --> 00:16:47.279 And this is not, you know, we believe this is not the no, this is the no judgment zone. 00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:50.879 This isn't not about what's right or what is wrong. 00:16:51.120 --> 00:16:56.399 This is about choices and the reactions and consequences of your choices. 00:16:56.639 --> 00:17:01.120 And a lot I

know when we hear consequences, we think, okay, something bad. 00:17:01.360 --> 00:17:03.679 Consequence is not something, it's just the aftermath. 00:17:03.759 --> 00:17:04.000 Yeah. 00:17:04.160 --> 00:17:12.799 And that aftermath it can be anything, it can be good or it can be bad and or negative and positive. 00:17:13.200 --> 00:17:18.160 Have you ever known anybody that oh yeah, oh baby? 00:17:18.240 --> 00:17:19.440 You said that's so fast. 00:17:19.519 --> 00:17:22.079 So absolutely, absolutely who did you know? 00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:33.680 So, one thing in particular, I remember a uh young lady we were cool in in in college, and I remember she Y'all were cool in college again. 00:17:34.000 --> 00:17:34.480 No, no, no. 00:17:34.559 --> 00:17:37.200 I this this is actually a story of of a bit. 00:17:37.279 --> 00:17:38.960 Well, I'll save that story for later. 00:17:39.119 --> 00:17:40.720 But no, I want to hear it. 00:17:40.960 --> 00:17:43.279 Well, this is this kind of goes to a different issue. 00:17:43.440 --> 00:17:43.680 Okay. 00:17:43.920 --> 00:18:08.640 But for all of the degrees, for all of the education, for all of the accomplishments, she was a beautiful young woman, but it was about access to athletes, stars, prominent business persons, and she always came in at a level of fulfilling the sexual needs. 00:18:09.039 --> 00:18:17.119 You know, if you start day one with these guys, because I I'm I I got to connect to it. 00:18:17.200 --> 00:18:24.319 I need to, I hear everything you're saying, but for me to make the connection, like what did she do? 00:18:24.480 --> 00:18:26.480 Who what what who did she do? 00:18:26.640 --> 00:18:28.079 What like what what happened? 00:18:28.400 --> 00:18:33.359 So so she was a person who again very accomplished at that point. 00:18:33.440 --> 00:18:47.839 You know, she had multiple degrees, 20-something years old, but you're dating this guy that is very much much older. 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:58.160 And at that point, he was uh an NFL coach, and it was just interesting to watch because it's like, what do y'all have in common? 00:18:58.319 --> 00:19:01.119 I mean, y'all in two, you got about four. 00:19:01.200 --> 00:19:04.160 This man has about 40, at least 30 years on you. 00:19:04.480 --> 00:19:06.240 What do you all have in common? 00:19:06.799 --> 00:19:27.359 But it's the lifestyle of the perks, it's the ability to be able to get all kinds of financial support, be flown here or there to uh at that point because everybody loves to get fluid out of private jet life and things like that, access to these celebrities. 00:19:27.519 --> 00:19:34.559 I remember one time you told me a story about this was many, as you like to say, many, many moons ago. 00:19:34.799 --> 00:19:42.480 You were in this like toxic I was in a toxic relationship relationship with this uh young lady. 00:19:42.720 --> 00:19:55.599 Yeah, she was it, and she was and she was the person who could not commit to a real monogamous

relationship because she needed attention from anybody with some stardom and celebrity. 00:19:55.839 --> 00:20:08.480 But I remember one particular instance that you told me about, and she slept with, you know, the yeah, she slept with a a uh at that point a major, major, major celebrity. 00:20:09.039 --> 00:20:16.160 And I remember asking her, it was and I'll say it, it was well, I won't even say it, but I'll say it. 00:20:16.319 --> 00:20:19.200 She slept with the Michael Jordan. 00:20:19.599 --> 00:20:24.799 And so, and at that point, I mean, we not talking about Michael Jordan when post-retirement Michael Jordan. 00:20:25.119 --> 00:20:28.960 No, we're talking about we talking about MJ doubles Michael Jordan, right? 00:20:29.519 --> 00:20:32.240 Yeah, and I was like, Well, how was that? 00:20:32.319 --> 00:20:39.680 And she was like, Well, he was just one where you know he didn't give up no money, no, no, no perks, no nothing. 00:20:40.000 --> 00:20:40.559 Why would he? 00:20:40.720 --> 00:20:54.400 Because he felt that her exact words was he felt that he was the prize, and so he was like, she felt that he thought that she should be grateful for the opportunity to be with him. 00:20:54.720 --> 00:20:57.119 Baby, not grateful, yeah, yeah. 00:20:57.200 --> 00:21:06.160 And I was like, wow, wow, yeah, wow, grateful, grateful, yeah. 00:21:06.559 --> 00:21:32.160 So, and and I think that's the reality of this stuff, of I think that my God, that our culture right now, well, our culture right now is all about, so I'll say this us, our culture when we were like, I'll say 15, 20, 25 years ago, we were about finding love. 00:21:32.319 --> 00:21:39.920 We were about, you know, some of us, I won't say all of us, but some of us was were truly about, you know, finding love. 00:21:40.319 --> 00:21:46.079 Um, now I feel like we are in a culture where it's about finding a lifestyle. 00:21:46.319 --> 00:21:47.599 Finding a life that does. 00:21:48.079 --> 00:21:50.240 Especially a lifestyle that looks good online. 00:21:50.640 --> 00:21:50.799 Yeah. 00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:54.160 We're so the culture has kind of shifted. 00:21:54.400 --> 00:22:18.400 Um, there not there are still some people out there really and truly trying to find love, but there are a lot of People out there that are searching for their lifestyle, and one way to find their lifestyle is to try to get access right to some of these people, but it's a way you got to go about doing it because as you stated a second ago, think about a person like MJ. 00:22:18.720 --> 00:22:27.119 First of all, you know, I don't know his timeline when he got married, when he wasn't married, but I don't know anything about that. 00:22:27.279 --> 00:22:30.880 But when you slept with him, what did that do for you? 00:22:30.960 --> 00:22:34.640 Did he come back and say, girl, you I want to court you? 00:22:34.960 --> 00:22:37.119 I want to court you, I want to date you. 00:22:37.279 --> 00:22:37.599 Absolutely. 00:22:37.920 --> 00:22:38.480 I love you. 00:22:39.039 --> 00:22:42.559 No, he met you in that place, and guess what he left you at? 00:22:42.799 --> 00:22:43.759 In that place. 00:22:44.799 --> 00:22:46.480 And that place left you right there. 00:22:46.640 --> 00:22:47.839 Yeah, yeah. 00:22:48.160 --> 00:22:54.160 And and with that, you know, it just continued from person to person of celebrity to celebrity. 00:22:54.319 --> 00:22:56.160 And it's like, what are you trying to find? 00:22:56.240 --> 00:22:56.720 I don't know. 00:22:56.799 --> 00:22:58.000 I guess I was just the person. 00:22:58.079 --> 00:23:12.240 I and I remember saying this in college as a 17, 18, 19 year old, and I said, I want to be the person who is invited to the party to the event. 00:23:12.880 --> 00:23:13.839 I don't want to be the plus one. 00:23:14.319 --> 00:23:14.880 Plus one. 00:23:15.039 --> 00:23:15.359 Yeah. 00:23:15.599 --> 00:23:18.799 Not you so-and-souls uh Absolutely not. 00:23:18.960 --> 00:23:22.480 You so-and-souls girl, or oh, that's no. 00:23:22.960 --> 00:23:23.839 Absolutely not. 00:23:24.079 --> 00:23:28.240 Is I'll be on the invitation list, but I will not be a plus one. 00:23:28.480 --> 00:23:28.880 Right. 00:23:29.200 --> 00:23:32.799 And conducting myself in that way. 00:23:33.039 --> 00:23:46.640 I remember literally being on the campus of UF, Turlington Plaza, and those guys being like, nah, you uh we not gonna mess with you because you wifey material. 00:23:46.960 --> 00:23:54.400 Because day 17, 18, 19, they they just want, you know, the sexual stuff and to be moving on. 00:23:54.480 --> 00:23:58.000 They weren't at that place of wanting to cuff up or link up or anything like that. 00:23:58.319 --> 00:23:58.799 Cough and see. 00:23:59.519 --> 00:24:02.480 They they this was about just having fun. 00:24:02.640 --> 00:24:11.920 And but you see, even in that moment, there was a distinction between how I carried myself and then how they looked at me. 00:24:12.480 --> 00:24:17.440 Because as opposed to the old reliables, or the jump-off. 00:24:17.680 --> 00:24:21.759 Or the jump-offs, you know, who were just like, I'm down for whatever. 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:23.119 And the treatment was different. 00:24:23.279 --> 00:24:31.519 So let me when we talk about this, you know, invitation, because you were talking about like, you know, you want to be the person that's invited, not the plus one. 00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:40.640 I always think about when these girls are invited and they're the plus one, do you really know what that invitation means? 00:24:40.960 --> 00:24:43.519 Do you know what it comes with? 00:24:43.839 --> 00:24:50.480 Uh, are you going there with the expectation that it's gonna come with, you know, A, B, C, X, Y, Z? 00:24:50.880 --> 00:24:52.319 Like, what is it? 00:24:52.559 --> 00:24:56.960 Well, I don't think that those girls are not the ones that are invited in the spotlight. 00:24:57.119 --> 00:25:03.119 You know, those are the

girls who, those are not the girls who go who are on the red carpet. 00:25:04.160 --> 00:25:11.119 The ones who are on the red carpet typically are the wives, you know, um, very serious relationships. 00:25:11.759 --> 00:25:15.279 Um, those are the girls who are in the hotel lobby. 00:25:15.519 --> 00:25:17.279 Now, but now let me say this though. 00:25:18.559 --> 00:25:19.519 No disrespect. 00:25:19.680 --> 00:25:26.880 No, but in all honesty and all fairness, I will say, um, because you and I have been in positions before. 00:25:26.960 --> 00:25:28.559 We've been backstage. 00:25:28.880 --> 00:25:31.519 Um Yeah, but we together. 00:25:34.000 --> 00:25:36.559 I mean, come on now, right? 00:25:36.640 --> 00:25:38.160 But listen to what I'm saying. 00:25:38.319 --> 00:25:39.440 There is networking. 00:25:39.680 --> 00:25:41.279 We were invited to the party. 00:25:41.680 --> 00:25:50.400 There is networking that goes on, um, genuine networking, genuine friendship, genuine, genuine attraction. 00:25:50.640 --> 00:25:51.440 Stop it. 00:25:51.839 --> 00:25:52.720 She don't stop it. 00:25:52.960 --> 00:25:53.759 She don't even like it. 00:25:53.839 --> 00:25:54.880 Yeah, she don't even like it. 00:25:55.039 --> 00:25:56.559 You mad and upset. 00:25:57.440 --> 00:26:00.880 Um, yeah, but there's curiosity back there. 00:26:01.440 --> 00:26:02.880 Absolutely it is. 00:26:03.119 --> 00:26:06.480 There's a desire for sexual attention back there. 00:26:06.640 --> 00:26:08.079 Absolutely it is. 00:26:08.319 --> 00:26:17.279 But for all, what I'm saying is, for all that most people probably think it is, there is some genuine things that do occur. 00:26:18.000 --> 00:26:21.200 The genuine networking, the genuine friendship, the genuine connections. 00:26:21.519 --> 00:26:21.599 Right. 00:26:21.920 --> 00:26:25.359 Um, but it's in how people treat you and how you viewed. 00:26:25.519 --> 00:26:33.920 You know, when we back there, we doing handshake and greeting, picture taking, interviews. 00:26:34.480 --> 00:26:48.000 But some people are back there honestly, just to really just experience again, back to just wanting to experience the lifestyle, the desire to want to be included in what's going on. 00:26:48.319 --> 00:26:52.640 Everybody is not back there like, oh, I want to get with him, but we want to get to go home. 00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:53.680 But we're not saying that. 00:26:54.000 --> 00:26:54.319 Yeah, yeah. 00:26:54.559 --> 00:26:54.880 I know. 00:26:54.960 --> 00:26:56.640 I'm just I'm just clearing it up. 00:26:56.799 --> 00:26:58.640 I'm just, you know, we're not saying that. 00:26:58.880 --> 00:27:06.000 Or for clarity, like there's a lot that goes on back there that is, you know, good in a sense. 00:27:06.079 --> 00:27:12.000 And and you know, for the other people, it's good too, because it's it's what they want out of it. 00:27:12.319 --> 00:27:15.200 Hey, and the food and the drinks be good back there too. 00:27:15.519 --> 00:27:16.880 I'm just saying though. 00:27:17.200 --> 00:27:18.640 Great private chefs. 00:27:18.960 --> 00:27:33.839 But also, I think too that we, you know, not to try to minimize it, but we can't, you know, sit there and say that everybody's intentions are innocent, everybody's intentions are pure and genuine because we do know some aren't. 00:27:33.920 --> 00:27:36.720 Yeah, some are back there for you know what it is. 00:27:36.960 --> 00:27:40.400 So I I do have like a uh a question for you though. 00:27:40.640 --> 00:27:56.480 So if you have two adults, understand the situation, both willing, willingly participating, does society have the right to be able to label one person as the groupie? 00:27:56.720 --> 00:27:58.160 Because you got two people, right? 00:27:58.319 --> 00:28:10.720 Two people willingly, you know, wanting to network, wanting to genuinely talk, wanting to genuinely connect, but why only one of them is going to be labeled, you know. 00:28:11.279 --> 00:28:12.400 Well, it's a power, yeah. 00:28:13.359 --> 00:28:14.319 It's a power issue. 00:28:14.400 --> 00:28:21.680 The person who is in power is not going to be a groupie, but that's the person who is subordinate is going to be in. 00:28:21.759 --> 00:28:40.079 If it's a subordinate who is, you know, trying to claim some level of fame or attachment or attention, and sometimes that can parlay into a sexual relationship, that person is going to be labeled as a groupie. 00:28:40.400 --> 00:28:45.359 And here's why I challenge women because you know, there's nothing wrong with having standards. 00:28:45.599 --> 00:28:55.519 You can absolutely say, I want a man who is financially stable, I want somebody that's ambitious, I want somebody that's successful, who can provide. 00:28:55.920 --> 00:28:58.640 But I do ask this, and this is my challenge. 00:28:58.880 --> 00:29:06.079 Would you still, and you know where I'm going with this, would you still want him if nobody knew he had money? 00:29:06.319 --> 00:29:12.880 If nobody knew he was successful, if nobody knew, you know, would you still want to be with him? 00:29:13.200 --> 00:29:14.480 I think or her. 00:29:14.640 --> 00:29:20.559 Yeah, I think the success, the money, the lifestyle is more enticing. 00:29:21.839 --> 00:29:33.119 People can be who what people can be with whoever they want to be, but that success, that stardom, that's intoxicating. 00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:44.000 Now, that man who is, you know, collecting the trash, picking up the recycle, doing the yard work. 00:29:44.240 --> 00:29:46.160 But he's that could be successful. 00:29:46.480 --> 00:29:47.200 A good man. 00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:47.920 That's a good man. 00:29:48.000 --> 00:29:48.799 Good man, Savannah. 00:29:49.279 --> 00:29:51.359 Good man, Savannah. 00:29:54.079 --> 00:30:08.160 But committed, but not as many women maybe checking for him as opposed to the guys who are all over the world. 00:30:08.400 --> 00:30:10.880 Or all over social media. 00:30:11.039 --> 00:30:11.359 Oh,

yeah. 00:30:11.599 --> 00:30:17.680 Or, you know, or or or who even have the potential to be all over. 00:30:18.640 --> 00:30:22.079 Or he has 2,000 followers, but he has 2 million followers. 00:30:22.240 --> 00:30:24.480 So I'm gonna go over here with him. 00:30:24.720 --> 00:30:33.440 So there's a difference between I want a man that's successful versus I want a man who everybody else knows that he's successful. 00:30:33.599 --> 00:30:34.160 Nobody wants to be able to do that. 00:30:34.400 --> 00:30:35.839 That's the that's the difference. 00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:41.359 Uh I will always say nobody wants anybody that nobody else don't want. 00:30:41.519 --> 00:30:42.400 Nobody else don't want. 00:30:42.480 --> 00:30:46.880 I mean, you want you want for your person to be wanted by other people. 00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:51.759 That's that's part of how we as humans are. 00:30:52.160 --> 00:30:55.200 But it'll make you look yourself in the mirror like, now why? 00:30:55.519 --> 00:30:56.319 Don't I know this person? 00:30:56.720 --> 00:30:58.559 Don't nobody else want this person. 00:30:58.799 --> 00:31:00.480 Flirt with him, do something. 00:31:00.720 --> 00:31:01.279 Nobody. 00:31:01.440 --> 00:31:02.559 Wink at him. 00:31:03.039 --> 00:31:04.000 Something. 00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:05.599 Something. 00:31:07.279 --> 00:31:07.920 Something. 00:31:09.119 --> 00:31:11.039 You know, because I always think about that. 00:31:11.119 --> 00:31:12.880 Like, would you date him if he wasn't famous? 00:31:13.039 --> 00:31:17.759 Would you date him if he was driving a uh a Honda Civic, a Honda core? 00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:25.920 You know, I think women can be very, I think women can be very, very forgiving and be very accepting. 00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:28.400 But again, that's back to that access. 00:31:28.640 --> 00:31:35.680 Would you want him if you walked into a restaurant with him and nobody knew who he who he is? 00:31:36.079 --> 00:31:37.279 Would you still want him? 00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:37.680 No. 00:31:37.759 --> 00:31:39.920 And he may be the best person for you. 00:31:40.160 --> 00:31:46.160 But I want this person over here because when I go places with him, everybody is stopping me and saying, I don't, I don't know. 00:31:46.319 --> 00:31:46.799 Oh my God. 00:31:47.039 --> 00:31:47.519 No way. 00:31:47.759 --> 00:31:51.839 I don't think that that that you wouldn't want him. 00:31:53.119 --> 00:31:54.319 You wouldn't want him in the public. 00:31:54.400 --> 00:31:56.480 You want him behind closed doors. 00:31:58.079 --> 00:31:59.920 I don't see you tonight. 00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:01.440 I don't I don't think that. 00:32:01.599 --> 00:32:11.839 I think that women team tend to be very liberal and forgiving and accepting of whatever. 00:32:12.240 --> 00:32:17.119 Because there are many women who have a need just to be connected. 00:32:18.160 --> 00:32:18.640 Absolutely. 00:32:18.960 --> 00:32:22.480 Or or what seems to feel like connection. 00:32:22.880 --> 00:32:23.039 Oh. 00:32:23.599 --> 00:32:25.039 Whether it's real or not. 00:32:25.599 --> 00:32:28.880 Or what seems to feel like companionship. 00:32:29.200 --> 00:32:30.240 Whether it's real or not. 00:32:30.319 --> 00:32:31.839 Oh, well, let me just say that one more thing. 00:32:32.000 --> 00:32:38.160 Or what seems to be partnership or support, whether it's real or not. 00:32:38.319 --> 00:32:41.759 Or we want to be part of a lifestyle. 00:32:42.000 --> 00:32:42.240 Something. 00:32:42.480 --> 00:32:43.519 Access granted. 00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:46.160 Because it's all about something. 00:32:46.640 --> 00:32:48.559 It's all about the perception. 00:32:48.960 --> 00:32:51.759 It's all about how I want to be perceived. 00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:56.079 How I want to, again, back to those emotional feelings. 00:32:56.240 --> 00:32:57.519 I want to feel powerful. 00:32:57.599 --> 00:33:00.559 I want to feel so important. 00:33:01.119 --> 00:33:01.440 Right. 00:33:01.759 --> 00:33:06.880 No one ever expects to be in a car accident, but when it happens, you need someone who stands on business. 00:33:07.039 --> 00:33:09.440 I'm Melissa Daniels, and this is my city. 00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:10.960 I fight for my people. 00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:12.640 I am your attorney. 00:33:12.799 --> 00:33:16.319 Scan below, save the number, and if ever in need, call. 00:33:16.640 --> 00:33:25.680 So to the point of that person versus the celebrity, of course they're gonna choose a celebrity every single day. 00:33:25.839 --> 00:33:28.720 Probably more than likely. 00:33:28.799 --> 00:33:31.440 It just depends on what's more important to you. 00:33:31.599 --> 00:33:45.039 And maybe a generational thing of if I if I would say uh a teenager to a 30-year-old or 40-year-old, a 15-year-old, 15 to 40, they're gonna choose that celebrity. 00:33:45.279 --> 00:33:56.319 40 plus, we may say, no, I'll just go ahead and take because I already know with this situation, there's a whole different level of problems, set of problems that's gonna come along with it. 00:33:56.559 --> 00:33:57.279 And I don't know. 00:33:57.440 --> 00:34:10.320 I have a friend of mine who literally, she and her husband were married in college, um, undergrad, and they had children at that point. 00:34:10.960 --> 00:34:18.480 And he got drafted into the NFL, and literally from that point, it became a whole problem. 00:34:18.880 --> 00:34:20.000 Are they still together? 00:34:20.320 --> 00:34:40.800 No, no, it became a whole problem because with the celebrity lifestyle of being drafted, now you're an NFL player, it was so much more access, so much more opportunity, and it just, you know, outside families, and the relationship didn't work. 00:34:41.119 --> 00:34:44.639 And that's what I mean when I say it comes with a new set of problems. 00:34:44.960 --> 00:34:45.519 It does. 00:34:45.760 --> 00:35:00.159 And I think that's what people need to, men and women need to really look at when you always

positioning yourself, yourselves around famous people, celebrities, or whatever. 00:35:00.320 --> 00:35:02.880 There's two sides to that coin. 00:35:03.039 --> 00:35:05.039 Oh my god, I sound like my grandmother. 00:35:05.199 --> 00:35:07.360 There's two sides to that to that coin. 00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:09.760 There's the heads and there's the tails. 00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:17.280 And you, you know, for a while you may be on the good side, but that coin is gonna what at some point. 00:35:17.599 --> 00:35:18.480 That's a tough life. 00:35:18.559 --> 00:35:20.000 That that coin is gonna flip. 00:35:20.079 --> 00:35:23.920 And when it flips, that's a tough life. 00:35:24.159 --> 00:35:29.760 And and everybody wanna be around, you know, the celebrities because guess what? 00:35:30.400 --> 00:35:33.840 From the outside looking in, they have an amazing life. 00:35:34.000 --> 00:35:47.920 They got the money, they got the fame, they got all the access, they have other celebrity friends, and you know, I could go here and I can go there, I can do this, I could spend this, and this person is gonna like me, and this person is gonna adore me. 00:35:48.079 --> 00:35:52.639 And everybody, you know, wants to be around me because now I'm the it person. 00:35:52.719 --> 00:36:00.079 They know I have the access, but behind closed doors, I mean, we just saw an incident just this week. 00:36:00.400 --> 00:36:05.679 Just this week, where everybody is looking at, and you know, and we're right here in Florida. 00:36:06.000 --> 00:36:09.679 We love us some some Rick Ross. 00:36:09.920 --> 00:36:21.760 Love Rick Ross, but you know, even now, this week, this week, he's been in the news on the headlines of stuff happening behind closed doors. 00:36:22.079 --> 00:36:28.480 First and foremost, I'm totally innocent of these fabricated allegations made against me. 00:36:28.719 --> 00:36:29.440 Tell me what happened. 00:36:29.679 --> 00:36:38.320 I repeat, I'm totally innocent of these fabricated allegations made against me. 00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:40.239 Are you saying she's making it now? 00:36:41.599 --> 00:36:43.679 I have an amazing team. 00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:45.519 Such an amazing team. 00:36:45.840 --> 00:36:46.800 Is she making it up? 00:36:46.880 --> 00:36:47.360 Yes or no? 00:36:47.519 --> 00:36:48.800 I'm looking at somebody asking me. 00:36:50.559 --> 00:36:51.440 Yeah, she's making it up. 00:36:51.840 --> 00:36:54.880 Of course, it's totally fabricated, my brother. 00:36:55.360 --> 00:36:56.320 Let me hear your side. 00:36:56.559 --> 00:37:08.159 What my weekend looks like, I'll be in Dubai tomorrow, Paris Saturday, and I plan on having a bowl of rigatoni with heavy marinara Sunday. 00:37:08.400 --> 00:37:13.199 And of course, he's saying, you know what, allegedly none of that occurred. 00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:21.679 He is innocent, but we don't know what type of life behind closed doors that she was living. 00:37:22.079 --> 00:37:22.880 Oh yeah. 00:37:23.119 --> 00:37:25.440 And and that kind of stuff, it happens. 00:37:26.320 --> 00:37:28.079 Oh yeah, you lose your peace. 00:37:28.239 --> 00:37:32.400 Oh everything comes with some level of sacrifice and a cost. 00:37:32.639 --> 00:37:43.920 Yeah, and and and that's not to say if you're not if you're in a relationship with someone who is not a multimillionaire, uh, that domestic violence doesn't come with it. 00:37:44.159 --> 00:37:49.280 But you know, but there's a perception that people give you too when you like that. 00:37:49.360 --> 00:37:51.920 You know, so it depends on how people are looking at it. 00:37:52.079 --> 00:38:01.679 Some people may be looking at it and saying, oh man, you know, every time I see them, they're around uh celebrities, and some may say, oh, they're networking. 00:38:01.840 --> 00:38:03.440 They're okay, boo. 00:38:03.519 --> 00:38:04.880 I don't know what's on my hand. 00:38:05.039 --> 00:38:10.639 Some people may say, oh, you know, they're networking, they're connected, they're social, they're living a life. 00:38:10.800 --> 00:38:25.119 Some people may look at that same behavior and be like, oh, that's a um, you know, she's an opportunist, or oh, she's attention seeking, oh, she has a, you know, a desire to be associated with fame. 00:38:25.599 --> 00:38:28.800 Oh, like it just depends on who's looking at it. 00:38:28.960 --> 00:38:33.360 And that's the part that I think that sometimes can be unfair because it's very unfair. 00:38:33.840 --> 00:38:40.159 At the end of the day, whatever that person wants or whatever that woman is seeking, that's on them. 00:38:40.559 --> 00:38:42.320 But that's on them. 00:38:42.639 --> 00:38:51.760 Yeah, yeah, because you know, we live in a day and age now where women, we don't have to be, we uh we are sexually free. 00:38:52.079 --> 00:39:14.159 So whatever you choose to do as far as your sexuality and who you choose to do with it, is go have at it, enjoy yourself, but know that there are going to be a sect of people who are sitting judging, and they're also gonna be a sect of people of if you come to a celebrity like this, you may never move out of that position. 00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:15.840 But that's the uncomfortable part. 00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:23.920 The uncomfortable part is is that you don't always get to control the story people create from your behavior, right? 00:39:24.079 --> 00:39:28.480 You can't control that you may be in their phone as jump off instead of as your name. 00:39:28.800 --> 00:39:34.400 Or or not only that, your your co-workers start, you know, to look at you differently. 00:39:34.559 --> 00:39:35.039 Oh, I'm sorry. 00:39:35.199 --> 00:39:44.239 Your your family start to look at you differently, jump off one, uh jump off Jax, a jump off Chicago, a jump off Charlotte. 00:39:44.400 --> 00:39:47.840 I mean, it it's that's just the unreliable New York. 00:39:50.559 --> 00:39:52.960 Good knees, uh, Chattanooga. 00:39:56.239 --> 00:40:00.639 So does perception uh

matter? 00:40:01.679 --> 00:40:04.639 Um because you just said something. 00:40:04.719 --> 00:40:07.119 You say, you know, that's on that person, that's what they want. 00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:11.199 But does the perception matter if you know what your intentions are? 00:40:11.519 --> 00:40:14.400 Like if if if it's me, I'll be like, you know what? 00:40:14.559 --> 00:40:21.280 I know what my intentions are, I know that I'm back there, you know, networking, making business connections, blah, blah, blah. 00:40:21.440 --> 00:40:22.880 I don't care what everybody else thinks. 00:40:22.960 --> 00:40:25.199 That's their you know perception of me. 00:40:25.440 --> 00:40:30.880 But a lot of people do say, I don't care what other people think, I don't care how much, but yes, you do. 00:40:31.280 --> 00:40:31.599 Yeah, they do. 00:40:31.920 --> 00:40:32.400 Yes, you do. 00:40:32.480 --> 00:40:38.000 It will hurt your feelings if you knew some of the stuff that people were saying about you. 00:40:38.159 --> 00:40:44.880 And people will put you in this box, and when they put you in that box, they lock it and they throw away the key. 00:40:45.119 --> 00:40:45.920 That's the label, yeah. 00:40:46.239 --> 00:40:48.400 That's your label, that is it. 00:40:49.440 --> 00:40:50.000 That's it. 00:40:50.079 --> 00:40:51.599 You locked in that box. 00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:59.199 Honestly, I think that so many of our 20-somethings and 30-somethings, and they just don't even care. 00:40:59.360 --> 00:41:10.239 Is that kind of stuff being called a being treated or called out like we're promiscuous, that would have hurt our feelings. 00:41:10.400 --> 00:41:10.880 Oh, yeah. 00:41:11.119 --> 00:41:16.800 For them, body count, body count is a badge of honor. 00:41:17.039 --> 00:41:20.239 Well, you know, with us, we kept everything private. 00:41:20.320 --> 00:41:25.920 Like, we didn't want people to know that, you know, I slept with this person, I slept with this person, I slept with this person. 00:41:26.079 --> 00:41:30.800 And that's what I feel like sometimes when I think about the new generation. 00:41:31.039 --> 00:41:37.360 The new generation, they are very, how do you say it, sexually free. 00:41:37.840 --> 00:41:40.159 Body counts doesn't matter to them. 00:41:40.239 --> 00:41:43.360 It's like uh, like you stated, it's a badge of honor. 00:41:43.599 --> 00:41:50.800 For us, it came with a source of embarrassment, shame, shame of like, oh my god, loose woman. 00:41:51.039 --> 00:42:12.079 I don't want nobody to know I slept with him, like uh then, but now you know, and and sometimes I do uh feel as though so I think about the 60s, 50s, 60s, women took pride in wanting to be somebody's wife. 00:42:12.239 --> 00:42:17.280 That was like, you know, I'm I'm I'm working hard to be this person's spouse. 00:42:17.840 --> 00:42:22.000 Um, you know, he's the breadwinner. 00:42:22.239 --> 00:42:26.559 I can just be the stay-at-home mom, whatever. 00:42:26.800 --> 00:42:30.079 Then we moved into like because you know, we're 70s babies. 00:42:30.159 --> 00:42:32.639 We moved into the 70s, 80s, and 90s. 00:42:32.880 --> 00:42:38.639 The 70s, 80s, and 90s was kind of like, okay, um that's when we were working. 00:42:38.880 --> 00:42:40.159 We're we're working women now. 00:42:40.559 --> 00:42:42.239 We can help carry the household. 00:42:42.400 --> 00:42:46.320 I'm not just your spouse, but I'm also your helpmate. 00:42:46.559 --> 00:42:46.719 Right. 00:42:46.880 --> 00:42:52.480 So with that being your help mate, it's like I'm not relying on you to take care of me. 00:42:52.559 --> 00:42:55.280 I'm not relying on you to pay all of the bills. 00:42:55.599 --> 00:43:01.119 Um, we have a lifestyle, but it's a lifestyle that we built built together. 00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:06.559 Now we fast forward to the 2000-ish. 00:43:07.360 --> 00:43:13.920 The 2000-ish is like, baby, I want that lifestyle today. 00:43:14.320 --> 00:43:14.880 Today. 00:43:15.519 --> 00:43:20.159 And I'm gonna do whatever it takes to get that lifestyle right now, right? 00:43:20.320 --> 00:43:20.800 Today. 00:43:21.199 --> 00:43:34.400 So it kind of almost feels like we have gone backwards a little bit because we prided ourselves on being executives, all the women who presidents over, you know, colleges and universities. 00:43:35.199 --> 00:43:42.880 Yeah, it was that's what we pride, those were our anthems, yeah, and now is spin that shit. 00:43:43.039 --> 00:43:55.039 Spin that shit right, and I I mean, I love the song, I love to spin it, but yeah, but you spin in what yeah, you work for and what you earn. 00:43:55.199 --> 00:43:59.760 I ain't no booster, and and when you go into those. 00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:17.280 Type of relationships you go in already at a deficit, you go in just kind of like uh you know, this person at some point they don't show they behind and treat me any kind of way because the respect is not there, and all of this, all of my life has depended on them. 00:44:17.840 --> 00:44:22.480 All of my life that sounds like somebody from the 1950s. 00:44:23.440 --> 00:44:36.960 Not not what we've gone to college and worked for and received several degrees, and no, no, because I you know I say this all the time, and we locked in. 00:44:37.199 --> 00:44:38.159 I love you. 00:44:38.719 --> 00:44:50.800 But come hella high water today, tomorrow, next year, the next five years, the next 10 years, you know, I got to know that I I can take care of me. 00:44:52.239 --> 00:44:57.679 Oh yeah, and for me, for both of us, we are nobody's plus one. 00:44:59.280 --> 00:45:11.599 So maybe the combo isn't about you know, rappers or athletes or the concert, the after-party, the hotel lobby, the studio. 00:45:12.079 --> 00:45:14.239 Maybe it's about validation. 00:45:14.400 --> 00:45:19.039 All of this is coming because people need to feel validated. 00:45:19.280 --> 00:45:27.760 People want to feel validated, they want to feel powerful, they want to feel

good about themselves, they want to be connected, they want to have the access. 00:45:28.239 --> 00:45:34.400 So, wanting to feel special, chosen, um, wanting proof that you're attractive. 00:45:34.719 --> 00:45:38.320 Because clearly, if I got back here, I look good. 00:45:39.679 --> 00:45:43.840 He wouldn't have chosen me if he didn't feel like I was attractive. 00:45:44.079 --> 00:45:49.599 Um, proof that you're desirable, wanting to escape financial struggle. 00:45:49.679 --> 00:45:52.239 Because some people think he's about to be my come-up. 00:45:52.400 --> 00:45:57.280 Look at him, and he likes me, and he thinks I look good, baby. 00:45:57.519 --> 00:46:01.679 Comparing yourself to other women because now you back there, you eyeing. 00:46:01.920 --> 00:46:03.679 Okay, who I'm finna get back there? 00:46:03.840 --> 00:46:05.440 Is he gonna let her back there? 00:46:05.679 --> 00:46:07.519 Uh, look at what she got on. 00:46:07.679 --> 00:46:08.880 Is he looking for this? 00:46:09.119 --> 00:46:10.960 You start comparing yourself. 00:46:11.119 --> 00:46:18.880 All of that to me is is like I said in the beginning, wanting the access is about validation. 00:46:19.119 --> 00:46:20.719 I want to be in the room. 00:46:20.880 --> 00:46:27.360 And I know we have sat here and made this somewhat about women, but let's not forget the men. 00:46:27.519 --> 00:46:29.840 There are men that want to be validated too. 00:46:30.079 --> 00:46:38.800 There are men that want to be in the room, there are men that are jealous of other men that are in spaces and with certain people that that they can't be with. 00:46:38.960 --> 00:46:40.559 So we're not gonna make this. 00:46:40.719 --> 00:46:41.119 Oh no. 00:46:41.679 --> 00:46:45.199 We're not gonna make this a gender thing because it's the men too. 00:46:46.400 --> 00:46:48.000 They want to be validated. 00:46:48.239 --> 00:46:54.239 Everybody wanna feel like they're entering um like a different social class. 00:46:54.800 --> 00:46:56.480 I've been upgraded. 00:46:56.719 --> 00:46:59.199 I'm not down here with you all anymore. 00:46:59.440 --> 00:47:01.119 I'm in the room. 00:47:03.280 --> 00:47:05.039 That's how they want to feel. 00:47:05.679 --> 00:47:07.519 So, hmm. 00:47:07.840 --> 00:47:09.280 Validation is big. 00:47:09.440 --> 00:47:10.079 So what? 00:47:10.239 --> 00:47:11.599 But what happens after that? 00:47:11.760 --> 00:47:14.880 What happens after all of that? 00:47:15.119 --> 00:47:17.199 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:47:17.440 --> 00:47:21.440 It's it's time for dope and dope or no. 00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:22.960 Dope or nope. 00:47:23.039 --> 00:47:26.000 You know the code for yes, nope, nope. 00:47:27.599 --> 00:47:36.639 Dope or nope, you get invited to an after party where you don't know anybody except for the celebrity. 00:47:39.039 --> 00:47:40.880 It's the long stare for me. 00:47:42.079 --> 00:47:43.280 It's the long stare. 00:47:43.599 --> 00:47:44.320 Blink twice. 00:47:44.559 --> 00:47:45.280 Blink twice. 00:47:45.440 --> 00:47:46.320 Hell no. 00:47:46.880 --> 00:47:47.519 I don't know. 00:47:47.679 --> 00:47:48.800 I I nah. 00:47:48.960 --> 00:47:51.519 I just too many things can happen. 00:47:51.599 --> 00:47:56.800 I I just baby, you be in there with baby oil, you be in there painted with baby law on you. 00:47:56.880 --> 00:47:58.400 I watched too many movies. 00:47:59.440 --> 00:47:59.920 Yeah. 00:48:00.639 --> 00:48:02.320 Yeah, I've watched too many movies. 00:48:02.400 --> 00:48:05.599 I'm thinking about one in particular where they was putting it in the lipstick. 00:48:05.920 --> 00:48:08.639 And the women would wake up the next morning not even knowing. 00:48:09.119 --> 00:48:09.599 What had happened? 00:48:09.760 --> 00:48:10.559 First dress. 00:48:10.719 --> 00:48:11.440 What do you mean? 00:48:11.599 --> 00:48:12.159 What do you mean? 00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:13.039 What do I mean? 00:48:13.280 --> 00:48:19.360 Just okay. 00:48:20.159 --> 00:48:20.400 Okay. 00:48:21.440 --> 00:48:22.639 You don't look so good. 00:48:22.719 --> 00:48:23.360 What's wrong? 00:48:23.519 --> 00:48:24.559 Yeah, what's wrong? 00:48:25.920 --> 00:48:26.559 First chest. 00:48:26.719 --> 00:48:26.960 Huh? 00:48:27.039 --> 00:48:27.199 What? 00:48:27.679 --> 00:48:29.360 My friend, that was in the room next to mine. 00:48:30.000 --> 00:48:30.960 The storage room? 00:48:31.119 --> 00:48:32.960 Hey, we're not you're on vacation. 00:48:56.239 --> 00:48:57.360 Just what's a hero. 00:48:57.840 --> 00:48:58.960 Just what's a hero. 00:49:00.239 --> 00:49:02.960 She said, she said there was something wrong with this place. 00:49:03.280 --> 00:49:03.840 I hear you. 00:49:03.920 --> 00:49:06.559 There was like this whole other person here, you know. 00:49:06.719 --> 00:49:08.079 I know it doesn't make any sense. 00:49:08.239 --> 00:49:12.960 It doesn't make any sense, but I feel like I feel like we're forgetting like a lot of stuff. 00:49:13.199 --> 00:49:16.480 How do we feel about putting down the knife? 00:49:16.719 --> 00:49:17.920 No, I'm sorry. 00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:19.519 I'm sorry. 00:49:20.000 --> 00:49:21.039 I'm sorry. 00:49:22.320 --> 00:49:23.840 What had happened to them? 00:49:24.079 --> 00:49:27.119 So um, it's definitely a note for me. 00:49:27.280 --> 00:49:31.440 I've always been the person, I'm gonna go with a group and that sounds like a setup. 00:49:31.679 --> 00:49:34.880 If we came together, we leave together. 00:49:35.199 --> 00:49:38.159 Leave nobody those are old school rules behind. 00:49:38.320 --> 00:49:39.920 Well, baby, bring them to new school. 00:49:40.079 --> 00:49:42.079 Those are rules that went out in the 2000s. 00:49:42.320 --> 00:49:43.199 And guess what? 00:49:43.440 --> 00:49:46.639 We protected each other and we're here. 00:49:48.239 --> 00:49:54.480 Dope or nope, you intentionally go to events because you know that wealthy men are going to be there. 00:49:54.800 --> 00:49:56.480 Well, that that doesn't apply to us. 00:49:56.800 --> 00:50:09.280 Not applicable in a dope or nope, you intentionally go to events because you know wealthy men will be there. 00:50:09.440 --> 00:50:12.719 I would say, you know, of no. 00:50:13.760 --> 00:50:17.920 No, but there are people that do. 00:50:18.239 --> 00:50:23.679 There are people that uh go to certain restaurants because they know a certain class of people are gonna be there. 00:50:23.760 --> 00:50:28.559 Because again, it's about the validation, the access. 00:50:29.039 --> 00:50:32.639 Listen, if we're gonna network, it's cool, but yeah. 00:50:33.360 --> 00:50:38.719 Networking is cool, but other than that, no thank you. 00:50:40.639 --> 00:50:45.760 Wanting a man who can provide isn't the problem. 00:50:46.400 --> 00:50:57.280 Wanting to go to a concert, meeting somebody famous, attendance, attending the after party, just having fun isn't automatically a problem either. 00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:00.800 The question is, what are you really chasing? 00:51:01.519 --> 00:51:02.800 Is it the person? 00:51:03.280 --> 00:51:04.639 Is it the lifestyle? 00:51:04.800 --> 00:51:06.320 Is it validation? 00:51:06.639 --> 00:51:07.840 Is it access? 00:51:09.039 --> 00:51:15.119 Money, or is it just, I don't know, is it just the story that that you want to tell? 00:51:15.280 --> 00:51:19.840 You just may want to wake up next morning and have a good a good story to tell. 00:51:20.079 --> 00:51:25.679 Or is it the feeling of being chosen by somebody who everybody else wants? 00:51:26.159 --> 00:51:36.559 The most important question is if the money, the fame, the followers, the access disappeared, would you still want that person and would you still be okay? 00:51:37.039 --> 00:51:46.559 Because there's a difference between being attracted to success and being attracted to what success can do for you. 00:51:48.079 --> 00:51:48.800 Stay dope.