บทถอดความฉบับเต็มของ Does Everything Have to Be so Complicated? | Honestly Ladies.... Ep. 16

event, whatever that looks like. 00:04:33.278 --> 00:04:37.814 Okay, so, so maybe we go to the restaurant that we've always gone. 00:04:38.750 --> 00:04:42.509 Hmm, maybe we go to a new restaurant that's opened up. 00:04:43.372 --> 00:04:45.805 Maybe it's opened up in, you know, recently. 00:04:46.000 --> 00:04:48.124 I'm always scared to go to something that's brand-new. 00:04:48.206 --> 00:04:58.293 You know, you gotta open up, or you gotta, you know, tweak those, tweak those, um errors or those concerns or, you know, whatever that looks like. 00:04:58.702 --> 00:05:01.548 But that's what soft openings are all about, right? 00:05:02.163 --> 00:05:05.899 But, um, is it something that you've heard about? 00:05:05.940 --> 00:05:07.908 It, you know, from people right? 00:05:08.163 --> 00:05:09.752 Are we gonna go read the reviews? 00:05:10.492 --> 00:05:16.875 Are we gonna take the, are we gonna take the view or are we gonna take a, a stand on somebody we don't even know? 00:05:17.115 --> 00:05:23.355 Who, by the way, in s- in the, in the reviews m- may or may not sound a little bit bitter. 00:05:24.699 --> 00:05:26.595 Do we know that they ate there? 00:05:27.136 --> 00:05:27.668 Do we? 00:05:28.202 --> 00:05:30.536 Do we know that they... 00:05:30.571 --> 00:05:34.714 I- aside from you beautiful people who love to take a picture of your plate. 00:05:34.769 --> 00:05:34.937 I... 00:05:35.170 --> 00:05:40.452 Guilty, I've done it a few times where I'm like,"Wow, this is beautiful." But, but big picture, right? 00:05:40.507 --> 00:05:41.822 Uh, you know, are we... 00:05:42.418 --> 00:05:43.456 Do we know these people? 00:05:43.456 --> 00:05:44.490 Do we know they ate there? 00:05:44.574 --> 00:05:53.327 Do we, do we know if they just know somebody there that, or they know the owner, or they know somebody that a- and they don't like them, or they've had some sort of an issue with them? 00:05:54.456 --> 00:05:56.867 And then they went on there and, and wrote a review. 00:05:57.608 --> 00:05:58.964 Come on, we all know that's happening. 00:05:59.249 --> 00:06:11.091 We all know that, that people write things just out of pure bitterness, and it could have absolutely no relevance to what they're saying or what they're, or, or, you know, what kind of information they're giving out. 00:06:11.399 --> 00:06:12.745 This is a terrible restaurant. 00:06:13.134 --> 00:06:14.209 It has terrible food. 00:06:14.211 --> 00:06:15.322 The service is terrible. 00:06:15.324 --> 00:06:15.586 Why? 00:06:15.608 --> 00:06:17.850 Because you... 00:06:18.014 --> 00:06:19.269 I mean, I, I don't know. 00:06:19.324 --> 00:06:20.105 I don't know why. 00:06:20.156 --> 00:06:20.853 I have no idea. 00:06:20.853 --> 00:06:22.627 I could just make up stuff all day long. 00:06:22.853 --> 00:06:25.970 But at the end of the day, are, were you mad when you made that review? 00:06:26.146 --> 00:06:29.165 Am I now going to come into a town, right? 00:06:29.206 --> 00:06:33.360 I don't live

where there's big restaurants and, and fancy things like that. 00:06:33.596 --> 00:06:43.312 So when I go to a big metro and I, and I wanna go to that restaurant, um, am I gonna read those reviews and I'm gonna take them, um, as gold? 00:06:44.411 --> 00:06:44.853 Am I? 00:06:45.168 --> 00:06:46.685 Uh, I don't know, right? 00:06:47.305 --> 00:06:59.391 Um, I get it if, you know, for, for, uh, you know, if I'm out of town and I'm, I'm in the hotels and I'm, I'm building stores and doing whatever I'm doing, you know, am I gonna look for the menu? 00:06:59.492 --> 00:06:59.896 Sure. 00:07:00.454 --> 00:07:01.355 Just because the... 00:07:01.442 --> 00:07:03.466 I don't have to go to the restaurant and do that. 00:07:03.468 --> 00:07:07.661 I can look for the menu, I can get them to make it for me, I can order it out, and I can go pick it up. 00:07:07.872 --> 00:07:08.692 Or, oh, you know what? 00:07:08.769 --> 00:07:15.927 All of those new fancy, you know, ways to get things delivered to you that we never had before, right? 00:07:15.992 --> 00:07:18.959 So, um, do I do that? 00:07:18.973 --> 00:07:19.302 Sure. 00:07:19.970 --> 00:07:28.353 Um, but I'm talking about going out for a fancy restaurant, driving, you know, having some, some really nice, you know, a really nice steak or whatever. 00:07:28.774 --> 00:07:31.271 Um, do I wanna look at the menu ahead of time? 00:07:31.492 --> 00:07:32.649 I do not. 00:07:32.882 --> 00:07:35.947 It's part of the, uh, experience. 00:07:36.184 --> 00:07:40.144 I wanna open it up, I wanna hear about the, the specials. 00:07:40.146 --> 00:07:47.338 I wanna know, you know, what's coming with that prime rib or, you know, surf and turf, whatever it is that I wanna have. 00:07:47.627 --> 00:07:51.045 Um, I want that to be part of the experience. 00:07:51.406 --> 00:07:53.947 So I choose, right? 00:07:54.074 --> 00:07:55.348 Do I check the menu? 00:07:55.384 --> 00:07:55.740 No. 00:07:56.011 --> 00:07:58.456 Do I, do I read the reviews? 00:07:59.367 --> 00:08:01.057 I could if I want to. 00:08:01.809 --> 00:08:02.740 You see where I'm going? 00:08:02.951 --> 00:08:16.434 I could, or I choose not to because these, um, things, all these processes, these options, these opportunities, because they're there, do I have to use them? 00:08:16.668 --> 00:08:17.362 I do not. 00:08:17.834 --> 00:08:19.211 When did that become a thing? 00:08:19.432 --> 00:08:30.559 No, I'm not doing it, and I'm not gonna listen to a bunch of people who I don't know who may or may not be bitter because their shoes were chewed up by the dog this morning. 00:08:30.865 --> 00:08:32.289 I don't know, right? 00:08:32.458 --> 00:08:33.611 I, I, I just... 00:08:34.528 --> 00:08:34.855 You know? 00:08:34.856 --> 00:08:45.109 Or, or do you read everything online and then, and then get there, it's not there and, and, you know, I'm, I'm l- let down. 00:08:45.109 --> 00:08:50.495 I'm, I'm disappointed because it wasn't what somebody wrote about it. 00:08:50.716 --> 00:08:53.313 Again, somebody I don't know. 00:08:53.642 --> 00:08:54.041 You know? 00:08:54.068 --> 00:09:07.910 I, I just, I think, I think that it's, it's a little bit, um- presumptuous for me to think that because somebody said,"Oh, my G- best steak I ever had. 00:09:08.278 --> 00:09:12.129 The best baked potato I ever had." W- w- what are you comparing it to? 00:09:12.587 --> 00:09:15.451 Again, fantastic for you. 00:09:15.648 --> 00:09:17.880 Fantastic for you. 00:09:18.679 --> 00:09:21.107 But I don't know what you're comparing it to, right? 00:09:21.436 --> 00:09:26.341 Like I told you before, my mom, my mom can do whatever you need her to do. 00:09:26.395 --> 00:09:33.893 If it's, uh, create a wedding dress or if it's, you know, make ste- Steak Neptune for dinner, that's my mom. 00:09:34.667 --> 00:09:40.668 So, so for somebody like me or anybody in my family, um, I know what good food tastes like. 00:09:40.758 --> 00:09:42.860 I know what next level good food tastes like. 00:09:43.164 --> 00:09:48.389 So, you know, am I gonna say,"Best steak ever," and you're gonna go,"Oh my God, that's amazing?" Sure. 00:09:48.903 --> 00:09:54.042 Um, I've, I've, you know, not had a dumpling ever in my life. 00:09:54.072 --> 00:09:55.475 I've never eaten dumplings. 00:09:55.905 --> 00:09:57.251 What a random thing to think of. 00:09:57.283 --> 00:09:58.261 But, but I haven't. 00:09:58.596 --> 00:10:06.999 So, so if I go and I put a review on and say,"Oh my gosh, best dumpling I've ever had," it's the only dumpling I've ever had, right? 00:10:07.758 --> 00:10:11.722 Yet somebody could look at it and go,"Oh my God, this woman says best dumpling she's ever had. 00:10:11.932 --> 00:10:12.673 I'm gonna go there. 00:10:12.673 --> 00:10:14.678 I'm gonna have'em." They could be icky. 00:10:15.042 --> 00:10:17.018 They could be not good. 00:10:17.802 --> 00:10:20.360 Um, is it true best dumpling I've ever had? 00:10:20.510 --> 00:10:20.856 Sure. 00:10:22.104 --> 00:10:22.753 Did I hate it? 00:10:22.769 --> 00:10:23.144 No. 00:10:23.220 --> 00:10:23.919 It was pretty good. 00:10:24.011 --> 00:10:26.947 I didn't hate it, but I don't have anything to measure it by. 00:10:27.389 --> 00:10:28.974 Picking up what I'm putting down. 00:10:29.722 --> 00:10:31.423 Um, we just don't... 00:10:31.628 --> 00:10:42.991 W- we, we d- we just don't need to follow the trend because everybody else is, is reading reviews and, and checking menus, and doing all of these things that take away from the experience, in my opinion. 00:10:43.835 --> 00:10:45.822 Um, we just don't need to do that. 00:10:46.653 --> 00:10:48.110 We can choose what we do, right? 00:10:48.528 --> 00:10:50.605 At, at dinner at home, same kind of thing. 00:10:51.096 --> 00:10:52.520 There's all of these things. 00:10:52.537 --> 00:10:57.030 There's so many options, and there are so many... 00:10:57.698 --> 00:10:59.623 Well, there's a lot of heat and eats now, right? 00:10:59.653 --> 00:11:05.482

But, but there are so many special diets and, and, and that's okay too, right? 00:11:05.484 --> 00:11:16.562 Because we have all of these brilliant people in the world learning different ways to help keep us safe and, um, healthy, um, allergies aside. 00:11:16.653 --> 00:11:28.062 Um, you know, just different kinds of, of food, um, problems that people that have with different kinds of foods and, and you know, all of the processes to make food last a long time. 00:11:28.249 --> 00:11:32.644 When my husband and I got together, he thought that, um, Twinkies were a great idea. 00:11:33.394 --> 00:11:39.381 That was his idea of bakery, bak- bakery and, and he would wanna buy a big box and, you know, eat them. 00:11:39.916 --> 00:11:44.466 I'm like,"Hmm, they got a, like, six-month or, or even longer shelf life. 00:11:44.476 --> 00:11:47.051 Are you kidding me?" Like, any of that stuff. 00:11:47.585 --> 00:11:49.414 And, and yes, is it fun? 00:11:49.461 --> 00:11:50.427 Sure. 00:11:50.431 --> 00:11:52.027 Is it yummy for some people? 00:11:52.033 --> 00:11:53.143 Sure. 00:11:53.818 --> 00:11:55.962 But, you know, it... 00:11:56.009 --> 00:12:02.951 You, you gotta look at dates, and you gotta look at all of the additives that they put in there so that it can stay that way for a while. 00:12:03.274 --> 00:12:03.846 You know what I mean? 00:12:03.846 --> 00:12:05.684 There's, there's a lot of things to choose from. 00:12:06.759 --> 00:12:11.142 Do we, do we g- go by all of that all of the time 100%? 00:12:11.154 --> 00:12:11.561 No. 00:12:11.624 --> 00:12:12.644 I don't, I don't think so. 00:12:12.644 --> 00:12:14.938 You know, maybe sometimes we just wanna have a pizza. 00:12:15.177 --> 00:12:16.957 We just wanna have a pizza. 00:12:17.256 --> 00:12:20.390 Maybe we take a day of the week just to avoid the situation. 00:12:20.390 --> 00:12:22.135 Maybe we take a day of the week and we... 00:12:22.392 --> 00:12:29.817 And that's just the day we order out, or we, or we have something old school like, you know, a beef stew or a lasagna or... 00:12:29.995 --> 00:12:30.828 I don't even know. 00:12:30.870 --> 00:12:32.693 I don't know what's regular for everybody. 00:12:32.695 --> 00:12:38.070 But, but in our world, right, I'm married to a Sicilian, there's some pasta. 00:12:38.264 --> 00:12:39.753 There's always some pasta. 00:12:40.339 --> 00:12:42.418 You know, I, I, I think that we... 00:12:42.477 --> 00:12:44.905 In order to get around that, maybe that's what we do. 00:12:44.922 --> 00:12:45.294 Maybe... 00:12:45.315 --> 00:12:47.287 You, you can't change a lot of that, right? 00:12:47.664 --> 00:12:50.421 You can't change the, the, the complexity of it. 00:12:50.421 --> 00:12:56.201 You can't change a lot of those things, but you can change how you decide to deal with it. 00:12:56.610 --> 00:13:04.278 Um- And, and, and not let it be l- not let it complicate your life more than, you know, than it needs to, right? 00:13:04.763 --> 00:13:12.621 You know, I

mean, does, does, uh, does it make sense to, to listen to somebody else that you don't know? 00:13:12.864 --> 00:13:13.855 Mm, probably not. 00:13:14.181 --> 00:13:14.936 Do we do it? 00:13:15.446 --> 00:13:15.961 Every day. 00:13:16.253 --> 00:13:26.485 Every time somebody puts a post on somebody else's something and you read it, you done just, you know, heard what they had to say or read what they had to say, right? 00:13:26.922 --> 00:13:35.254 But again, though, we can, we can ease that load up a little bit and, and say, okay, even if it's just once a day... 00:13:35.385 --> 00:13:36.403 Or sorry, once a week. 00:13:36.437 --> 00:13:37.029 Once a week. 00:13:37.076 --> 00:13:38.168 Once a week we order pizza. 00:13:38.171 --> 00:13:40.413 Once a week we order, you know, whatever we wanna order. 00:13:40.414 --> 00:13:42.347 Maybe we just have soup and sandwiches. 00:13:43.149 --> 00:13:44.201 There's a thought, right? 00:13:44.212 --> 00:13:54.854 Something real simple without any ideas, um, without any, uh, you know, um, anything in there extra to make it, you know, more than just simply soup and sandwiches, right? 00:13:56.243 --> 00:13:57.567 Um, what about shopping? 00:13:57.658 --> 00:14:05.601 So, so I remember back in the day, um, one of my favorite bosses, uh, mentors. 00:14:06.083 --> 00:14:09.110 Um, he used to say to me,"Okay, you know where we're going, Bonnie, though. 00:14:09.399 --> 00:14:17.761 We're going to where we're going to have stores where people will shop but not necessarily purchase. 00:14:18.654 --> 00:14:24.787 They will come, they will fit things, they will try things out, they will take pictures of them. 00:14:25.120 --> 00:14:33.809 Um, they will take it home, and then they will figure out what they wanna do, and then they will make that order online." And I don't know that we're that far from that. 00:14:33.844 --> 00:14:38.422 I think that there's still a lot of diehards that, like myself, I Do I order online? 00:14:38.850 --> 00:14:39.384 I do. 00:14:40.054 --> 00:14:43.894 Um, but do I order everything online? 00:14:43.946 --> 00:14:45.038 I do not. 00:14:45.158 --> 00:14:46.309 I wanna feel it. 00:14:46.365 --> 00:14:47.376 I wanna touch it. 00:14:47.437 --> 00:14:57.138 I want to, uh That retail therapy that we all talk about, about going out and buying something and making us feel better, I want that. 00:14:57.525 --> 00:15:06.484 I wanna, I wanna put it in a bag, I wanna carry it out of the mall or the common area that wherever the store is, and I want to go home and I wanna try it on. 00:15:07.448 --> 00:15:11.076 I want to, um, I don't even know. 00:15:11.106 --> 00:15:11.428 Try it. 00:15:11.538 --> 00:15:12.307 Maybe it's a vacuum. 00:15:12.312 --> 00:15:13.044 Maybe I don't know. 00:15:13.067 --> 00:15:13.605 I don't know. 00:15:14.097 --> 00:15:15.817 Um, maybe it's a new toaster. 00:15:16.072 --> 00:15:26.337 But, you know, it, it We, we, we talked about it years and years ago where he said to me,"That's where it's gonna go." And, um, again, I don't think he's far off. 00:15:27.520 --> 00:15:36.168 I think that, that I mean, you can even go, you can even go onto YouTube and check and see how it works or see the features that are on it. 00:15:36.477 --> 00:15:38.443 I W- we got a toaster. 00:15:39.450 --> 00:15:40.745 I picked out a new toaster. 00:15:41.278 --> 00:15:47.976 I know it's pretty, you know, random to say, but the toaster has more features on it than I think we will ever, ever use. 00:15:48.711 --> 00:15:50.089 Did I need all of that? 00:15:50.206 --> 00:15:50.620 No. 00:15:51.350 --> 00:15:54.490 Um, did I look it all up? 00:15:54.562 --> 00:15:55.003 No. 00:15:55.221 --> 00:15:56.442 Did I do reviews on it? 00:15:56.986 --> 00:15:57.619 No. 00:15:58.577 --> 00:16:09.643 But I saw a really fun red big toaster because, again, three kids, eight grandchildren, you wanna have enough so that at least two people could have toast at the same time. 00:16:10.846 --> 00:16:14.657 But did I go on there and check everything all out? 00:16:14.697 --> 00:16:15.346 Did I? 00:16:15.720 --> 00:16:16.648 I didn't. 00:16:17.006 --> 00:16:17.855 Could I have? 00:16:18.160 --> 00:16:19.727 100% I could have. 00:16:20.056 --> 00:16:20.937 But did I? 00:16:20.961 --> 00:16:21.900 No, I didn't. 00:16:21.924 --> 00:16:24.927 And, and, and I chose not to. 00:16:25.482 --> 00:16:28.379 I think that it's great that it's all there. 00:16:29.789 --> 00:16:38.299 Those opportunities to look things up, to read reviews, to, you know, um, watch videos to see how it works, to see what it looks like. 00:16:38.474 --> 00:16:41.736 You know, lots of people doing videos, it's like,"Okay, I've ordered this. 00:16:41.740 --> 00:16:43.657 It looks like it's a deal on TV. 00:16:43.981 --> 00:16:46.774 Um, I got it here and guess what? 00:16:47.239 --> 00:16:49.517 It's garbage." It's not even... 00:16:49.551 --> 00:16:56.255 I, you know, I know of people that have ordered ornaments, nothing at all like what they ordered. 00:16:56.446 --> 00:16:58.011 Um, it happens. 00:16:58.028 --> 00:16:59.337 It happens a lot, right? 00:16:59.615 --> 00:17:11.651 Um, whether it's got accessories, whether it does funky things that could be done, or that are done normally on another appliance but can all of a sudden be done on this one. 00:17:11.846 --> 00:17:12.483 I don't know. 00:17:12.493 --> 00:17:14.800 There's, there's lots of things that, that factor into it. 00:17:15.034 --> 00:17:22.045 But at the end of the day, um, it's up to us whether or not we read them and look at them and, and make a decision based on those things. 00:17:22.597 --> 00:17:23.545 Are they stats? 00:17:23.547 --> 00:17:29.882 Are they, you know, figures and things like that, that, that, that the company has put out about the project, whatever that may be? 00:17:30.025 --> 00:17:31.824 Sure, then yes. 00:17:32.231 --> 00:17:38.648 But are we looking ab- at, at just random, um, reviews of somebody who

bought one? 00:17:39.109 --> 00:17:40.923 Um, it... 00:17:40.983 --> 00:17:41.840 That could be too. 00:17:42.777 --> 00:17:47.652 But again, we choose whether or not, um, we do that, right? 00:17:47.701 --> 00:17:48.968 I mean, I mean, really? 00:17:48.968 --> 00:17:50.218 To buy a toaster? 00:17:50.454 --> 00:18:00.844 To buy a toaster or a pair of shoes we gotta go read a bunch of reviews and take a look at it and see how they, see how they work and see what they do and, and we're gonna listen to a bunch of people? 00:18:00.846 --> 00:18:04.112 Again, back to listening to a bunch of people we don't know. 00:18:04.575 --> 00:18:07.355 I'm not, I'm not negating reviews. 00:18:07.391 --> 00:18:14.670 I'm not saying that, that a lot of that stuff isn't, um, isn't useful. 00:18:14.680 --> 00:18:21.680 They're, they're great tools to, to, to be able to utilize and, and maybe help you make a better decision in something that you purchase. 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:24.377 I'm just saying, do we need to do it all the time? 00:18:24.611 --> 00:18:29.593 Do we need to, um, know everything about it? 00:18:30.189 --> 00:18:31.554 It's a bit of overkill, isn't it? 00:18:31.608 --> 00:18:41.505 And, and then it takes us back to where, you know, um Takes us back to where we are, um, w- we started the... 00:18:41.516 --> 00:18:48.386 We wanna start back at the beginning, um, but we can, you know, where, where we just said,"Hey, you know what? 00:18:48.722 --> 00:18:50.123 Went to this place for dinner. 00:18:50.865 --> 00:18:51.674 It was awesome. 00:18:51.686 --> 00:18:53.253 You should go." You know? 00:18:53.340 --> 00:18:54.617 "Bought a new toaster. 00:18:54.884 --> 00:18:55.798 It's awesome. 00:18:55.914 --> 00:18:56.973 You should see it. 00:18:57.308 --> 00:19:01.517 Um, you should get one." Um, but letting that be okay. 00:19:01.556 --> 00:19:04.480 Going back to where just that can be okay. 00:19:04.880 --> 00:19:07.875 It doesn't have to be perfect all the time. 00:19:07.894 --> 00:19:09.130 It just doesn't, right? 00:19:09.298 --> 00:19:10.297 How about technology? 00:19:10.559 --> 00:19:13.058 Oh, my gosh, we all know how I feel about technology. 00:19:13.060 --> 00:19:19.538 We're all waiting for the videos to go over to the, to the other platforms because I have to learn this technology. 00:19:19.824 --> 00:19:23.205 Um, but technology, you know, it's not my best friend. 00:19:23.563 --> 00:19:24.974 Um, but passwords? 00:19:25.026 --> 00:19:26.195 Oh, you gotta be kidding me. 00:19:26.303 --> 00:19:26.775 I know. 00:19:26.811 --> 00:19:27.386 I know. 00:19:27.432 --> 00:19:28.626 We're all there, man. 00:19:29.134 --> 00:19:33.634 Because every time I make a password, and then I'm like,"Oh, this is brilliant. 00:19:33.682 --> 00:19:36.012 I won't forget this." Come on, man. 00:19:36.269 --> 00:19:38.534 I forget what I went into the next room for. 00:19:39.336 --> 00:19:45.988 But all of a sudden I'm making a password, and I think that that's going to be engraved in my memory forever? 00:19:47.488 --> 00:19:48.684 That's so funny. 00:19:49.013 --> 00:19:50.057 It's not. 00:19:50.618 --> 00:19:57.288 Um- My husband has a book that he keeps my passwords in. 00:19:57.692 --> 00:20:12.587 Um, problem is sometimes I forget to tell him I made a new one, and then I'll be like,"Okay, uh, babe, what's my Apple account?" And he'll go into it, and then I'll forget that the last time that I asked him I had to make a new password, and then when I made a new password I forgot to tell him. 00:20:13.345 --> 00:20:16.733 Oh, ask me how he feels about that. 00:20:17.003 --> 00:20:18.709 It's a little bit funny. 00:20:19.116 --> 00:20:24.419 Um, but I make a new one and I go back to use it almost immediately. 00:20:24.586 --> 00:20:25.647 It doesn't work. 00:20:26.025 --> 00:20:27.124 It doesn't work. 00:20:27.771 --> 00:20:28.314 So... 00:20:28.488 --> 00:20:30.455 and I know that this is not just me. 00:20:30.479 --> 00:20:32.218 I know this is not just me. 00:20:32.708 --> 00:20:34.622 But, you know, I... 00:20:36.127 --> 00:20:44.768 There are so many different, um, steps when you're doing s- things and, and, and, um, proving who we are and proving we're not robots. 00:20:44.881 --> 00:20:45.491 And I get it. 00:20:45.538 --> 00:20:45.999 I do. 00:20:46.027 --> 00:20:46.837 I really, really do. 00:20:47.036 --> 00:20:48.163 And it's, it's important. 00:20:48.193 --> 00:20:53.057 I've had my, um, personal information compromised. 00:20:53.932 --> 00:21:12.178 We had one of the companies I, I was with, very, very big company, and they had, um, the payroll hacked, and so everybody had to be, um, with the, you know, where they would watch everything for us. 00:21:12.234 --> 00:21:14.997 I- almost two years actually they paid for everybody to do that. 00:21:15.474 --> 00:21:18.826 Um, but, but you learn real quick that when you're being... 00:21:19.333 --> 00:21:24.375 when somebody could have your information, um, that it's very important that you show your ID. 00:21:24.375 --> 00:21:26.178 It's very important for second verification. 00:21:26.185 --> 00:21:27.852 It's very important for all of those things. 00:21:28.342 --> 00:21:35.618 Um, it's very important to, you know, to use the, the right program in order to get the right result. 00:21:36.028 --> 00:21:37.337 Um, I get it. 00:21:37.760 --> 00:21:38.884 I get it. 00:21:38.928 --> 00:21:39.492 I do. 00:21:39.492 --> 00:21:40.773 I understand it. 00:21:41.788 --> 00:21:44.365 I'm just saying, what's the deal? 00:21:44.660 --> 00:21:45.271 Why? 00:21:45.286 --> 00:21:47.262 Why has it gotta be so complicated? 00:21:47.262 --> 00:21:48.917 Why is there gonna have to be so many... 00:21:49.131 --> 00:21:52.346 Not the safety pieces to keep us safe, but the others. 00:21:52.352 --> 00:21:52.891 Why is there... 00:21:53.057 --> 00:21:54.759 That go to settings, go to the... 00:21:54.973 --> 00:21:59.898 Any time something starts out, okay, go to your

settings, I'm like,"Ah, I don't want to. 00:22:00.209 --> 00:22:06.313 I don't want to." I wanna take it to my husband and say to him,"Can you please do this for me?" And then have him do it. 00:22:07.815 --> 00:22:09.212 Do I do that all the time? 00:22:09.212 --> 00:22:16.101 No, because I need to learn it, and I need to do it well, because I can't teach it out if I don't know it. 00:22:16.544 --> 00:22:18.717 Um, but are there times when I do? 00:22:18.992 --> 00:22:21.253 Yes, there is. 00:22:21.626 --> 00:22:22.707 And he just, you know... 00:22:22.868 --> 00:22:24.172 And again, it's not like... 00:22:24.771 --> 00:22:29.804 But he's very smart, and he can figure those out for me, and I don't wanna have to. 00:22:31.133 --> 00:22:32.856 That sounds terrible, but it's true. 00:22:32.973 --> 00:22:34.111 I just don't wanna have to. 00:22:34.346 --> 00:22:36.287 And so he helps me with that, right? 00:22:36.362 --> 00:22:48.117 He, he helps me to find out how to do it, figure out an easier way, and if it's something that I don't have to teach out or don't feel the need to, um, I have him take care of it for me. 00:22:49.096 --> 00:22:50.093 It's just that simple. 00:22:50.454 --> 00:22:54.723 So I mean, I don't think that with the technology it's so much of why does it have to be? 00:22:55.019 --> 00:22:58.694 Um, it's more maybe what do we choose to let it be? 00:22:59.113 --> 00:23:00.135 You know, what do we... 00:23:00.154 --> 00:23:01.893 What, what is it that we have to do? 00:23:01.894 --> 00:23:03.450 What is it that we don't have to do? 00:23:03.714 --> 00:23:05.642 And what are the things that we actually enjoy? 00:23:06.047 --> 00:23:07.932 But using it with intention, right, ladies? 00:23:07.933 --> 00:23:09.380 That's, that's where I go back to. 00:23:09.381 --> 00:23:15.910 It's like not doing the things that we don't feel we need to do, right? 00:23:16.003 --> 00:23:17.259 Needs a strong word, right? 00:23:18.586 --> 00:23:21.288 Um, let's talk about social life. 00:23:21.288 --> 00:23:22.049 Let's talk about... 00:23:22.077 --> 00:23:23.061 N- And I don't mean dating. 00:23:23.323 --> 00:23:27.781 I just mean seeing our friends and, and seeing people that we haven't seen in a long time, right? 00:23:28.099 --> 00:23:30.211 When was the last time you had a family reunion? 00:23:30.275 --> 00:23:38.517 H- You know, h- have you, have you, um, talked to your aunts and uncles, or your cousins, or your, you know, grandparents, or your... 00:23:39.153 --> 00:23:47.409 You know, if you haven't had one in a while, you know, maybe you ask some questions and you see if everybody wants to, and pick a date. 00:23:47.451 --> 00:23:50.272 But, but I'm talking, you know, m- what are we... 00:23:50.291 --> 00:23:51.670 You know, maybe we go for coffee. 00:23:51.673 --> 00:23:52.834 Maybe we go for a walk. 00:23:52.835 --> 00:23:55.213 I have a lot of friends that are,"Bonnie, do you have time yet? 00:23:55.226 --> 00:23:57.542 Do you have time

yet?" And I know that they're busy. 00:23:58.500 --> 00:24:07.286 Um, but, you know, a- and, and with a lot of the people that have been on teams, um, of mine over the years, we'll pick a date and then a bunch of us'll go. 00:24:07.904 --> 00:24:09.528 Um, and then that's fun, too. 00:24:09.692 --> 00:24:11.122 But we have to do that, right? 00:24:11.284 --> 00:24:13.053 We have to, um... 00:24:13.054 --> 00:24:13.917 We have group texts. 00:24:13.917 --> 00:24:16.561 We have, we have w- group work texts. 00:24:16.563 --> 00:24:18.058 We have family texts. 00:24:18.060 --> 00:24:19.644 We have, you know... 00:24:20.842 --> 00:24:22.151 But is that enough? 00:24:22.207 --> 00:24:23.535 I don't think it is, right? 00:24:23.578 --> 00:24:25.025 W- We need to make some time. 00:24:25.207 --> 00:24:34.451 If we, if we were doing our, our, um, holidays, we book time Um, but it just seems to be so difficult. 00:24:34.803 --> 00:24:38.084 Everything seems to b- be so difficult in order to get everybody together. 00:24:38.086 --> 00:24:39.982 And when you have a conversation with them, it's like,"You know what? 00:24:39.982 --> 00:24:41.071 No, I really want to. 00:24:41.369 --> 00:24:42.961 I really want to come and hang out with you. 00:24:42.961 --> 00:24:49.159 I really want to see you." And when I'm there with them, I'm involved with them, and, and I don't think about anything else. 00:24:49.159 --> 00:24:53.589 I have a friend, and we'll go, and we, we don't get to go very often, and then all of a sudden the whole day's gone. 00:24:54.286 --> 00:24:55.260 The whole day's gone. 00:24:55.305 --> 00:25:03.285 And, and I haven't got to see her for a few months now, but, but we will have that time because, um, we will make that time. 00:25:04.133 --> 00:25:15.385 There are a lot of friendships over the years that, that we've made and, and that w- we've gotten to the point where as soon as we get to talk, we get to catch up, and we, you know, we pick up right where we left off. 00:25:15.420 --> 00:25:17.163 But, you know, and it... 00:25:17.170 --> 00:25:22.494 And we don't talk about how we don't get to see each other other than a few minutes at the beginning because it just takes time away. 00:25:23.247 --> 00:25:27.782 And so, you know, we have to intentionally make that time. 00:25:28.355 --> 00:25:30.035 We can't let it be that difficult. 00:25:30.067 --> 00:25:38.882 I think that out of all of the things that, that I wanted to talk about today with you, um, this is the one that got me the most, um, because we're allowing it to be. 00:25:39.278 --> 00:25:42.040 We're allowing it to be more complicated than we need it to be. 00:25:42.317 --> 00:25:43.337 Everybody's busy. 00:25:43.595 --> 00:25:45.441 Everybody's busy. 00:25:46.018 --> 00:25:53.367 We need to not, um, use that as an excuse to not ever see anybody, whether it's family or friends or both. 00:25:54.196 --> 00:25:56.307 We need to,"Okay, you know what? 00:25:56.346 --> 00:25:58.282 We're

gonna pick this date. 00:25:59.055 --> 00:26:08.604 That's when we're gonna do it." And we will block everything out around it, because we would block everything around it if it was an appointment or if it was a holiday or if it w- do you know what I'm saying? 00:26:08.604 --> 00:26:09.640 If it was a work thing. 00:26:09.801 --> 00:26:15.813 We would book that time i- in, so why are we not booking time in for, for our downtime with our, with our people? 00:26:15.938 --> 00:26:17.675 Whomever those people are, right? 00:26:17.907 --> 00:26:21.736 You know, we just need to book a day. 00:26:22.292 --> 00:26:24.383 Like, truthfully, ladies, we just need to book a day. 00:26:25.576 --> 00:26:25.951 You know? 00:26:25.990 --> 00:26:28.969 Um, but let's talk about a couple of them that I... 00:26:29.013 --> 00:26:30.845 And I don't want to go into heavy duty with them. 00:26:30.845 --> 00:26:33.569 I just want to talk about them real quick because they make me laugh. 00:26:34.050 --> 00:26:34.753 The weather. 00:26:34.863 --> 00:26:35.539 The weather apps. 00:26:35.854 --> 00:26:37.407 It has to be so complicated. 00:26:37.422 --> 00:26:38.067 And I love it. 00:26:38.067 --> 00:26:38.642 Don't get me wrong. 00:26:38.643 --> 00:26:49.726 I love my weather app, and I love, you know, and I've talked to you about, you know, learning a few things with work about, you know, paying attention to all the different cities that I have a store in and, and paying attention to the weather where they are. 00:26:50.741 --> 00:26:54.977 But I'm just talking about,"Oh, what's the weather like today?" And we grab the app. 00:26:56.230 --> 00:26:56.318 Really? 00:26:57.308 --> 00:26:58.144 We grab the app. 00:26:58.527 --> 00:26:59.663 We don't just go outside. 00:27:00.169 --> 00:27:01.838 We don't just listen to the forecast. 00:27:02.107 --> 00:27:04.468 Um, you know, there's a radar. 00:27:04.469 --> 00:27:08.057 There's all of that, and, and, yeah, you bet your buns I, I pay attention to those. 00:27:08.085 --> 00:27:16.031 But, um, you know, uh, c- my husband will say to me Um, well, what does it look like outside? 00:27:16.494 --> 00:27:18.088 I'm like,"Oh my gosh, look on the radar. 00:27:18.096 --> 00:27:19.210 This is a really dark gray one. 00:27:19.210 --> 00:27:24.224 It's got, got some pink coming to it." And, and he's just like,"Bonnie, go look outside. 00:27:24.903 --> 00:27:30.709 Go tell me what you see." Because I'll be so preoccupied with what the weather app says that, oh my gosh, it's golden. 00:27:30.714 --> 00:27:32.401 It's gonna be, it's gonna be. 00:27:32.402 --> 00:27:33.451 I saw it on the radar. 00:27:33.821 --> 00:27:34.718 No, it's not gonna. 00:27:35.116 --> 00:27:35.301 It... 00:27:35.333 --> 00:27:38.201 I'll go outside, and it'll barely be a, a gray cloud, right? 00:27:38.545 --> 00:27:42.714 At the same time, you could have it where it looks like it's gonna be something, and guess what? 00:27:43.213 --> 00:27:44.339 Nothing comes of it. 00:27:44.468 --> 00:27:47.933 Or, or it looks like nothing's there, and then all of a sudden something bad's there. 00:27:48.343 --> 00:27:54.413 But, you know, w- when we were doing it back before the weather app, we weren't worrying about it then, right? 00:27:55.082 --> 00:27:57.780 Same thing, h- here's another one, and, and I just... 00:27:57.798 --> 00:27:58.529 'cause it's funny. 00:27:58.544 --> 00:27:59.200 It's not funny. 00:27:59.200 --> 00:28:00.960 It's not funny, but it's kinda funny. 00:28:01.422 --> 00:28:15.040 We have this health, um, um, app, um, piece with our province where you go get all of your pro- your, your, um, physical done and all your blood work and, you know, all of the different kinds of things. 00:28:15.101 --> 00:28:16.820 Anything you get done at the doctor. 00:28:17.189 --> 00:28:20.426 And when those results are in, those results are emailed to you. 00:28:21.246 --> 00:28:27.300 Don't read them unless you know what you're doing because, um, you don't know what you're doing. 00:28:28.569 --> 00:28:34.902 And for some reason, somebody in the government or in the healthcare system thought that was a great idea. 00:28:34.902 --> 00:28:42.117 And I'll read it and be like,"Oh my God, this says that it's abnormal, and this is oh, la, la." And I, and I'll, I'll read it, and I'll be freaking out. 00:28:42.647 --> 00:28:47.218 And then my doctor calls the next day'cause he just got them as well, and he's like,"No, everything's good, Bonnie. 00:28:47.292 --> 00:28:51.334 Everything is exactly where it needs to be and how it needs to be, blah, blah, blah." And it's fine. 00:28:51.811 --> 00:28:54.923 But did I think that for the whole time since I read the message? 00:28:55.061 --> 00:28:55.471 No. 00:28:55.699 --> 00:29:02.183 And I talked to him about this, and I said to him,"Yeah, I read that and, and I d- it didn't look good." And he's just like,"Yeah, you shouldn't. 00:29:02.446 --> 00:29:06.508 Maybe you shouldn't." And I'm like,"No, I already told you I'm not gonna." He's like,"That's probably better. 00:29:06.788 --> 00:29:08.806 I'll let you know if you need to know." You know what I mean? 00:29:09.375 --> 00:29:13.951 But it's funny because somebody somewhere thought that was a good idea. 00:29:14.488 --> 00:29:16.229 Not a good idea. 00:29:16.272 --> 00:29:18.394 It only leaves room for interpretation. 00:29:18.394 --> 00:29:26.037 And, oh, I don't know, even though I have all of those seasons of Grey's Anatomy, um, I still don't know how to read a chart. 00:29:26.981 --> 00:29:27.384 Who knew? 00:29:28.604 --> 00:29:31.181 I think as we age, our perspective changes. 00:29:31.181 --> 00:29:42.499 I think that, um, our perspective on how things are so demanding, how, how things are so, um- Difficult. 00:29:42.845 --> 00:29:43.763 It's just a word. 00:29:43.763 --> 00:29:46.788 I don't know, it's just a word that seems to, to fit. 00:29:47.163 --> 00:29:52.513 Things are so difficult, and as we get older, and

I'm not even talking 50, 60, 70, 80. 00:29:52.515 --> 00:29:55.576 I'm t- I'm talking throughout, right? 00:29:55.602 --> 00:29:56.494 W- when, like I... 00:29:56.542 --> 00:30:02.494 We've said this before, when you're in your 30s, you, you know, you look at things a little different than your 20s and, and, and so on. 00:30:03.404 --> 00:30:11.275 But our perspective on it changes and, um, maybe how, what we interpret as difficult changes, right? 00:30:11.275 --> 00:30:14.180 With what we've learned in the world, maybe that changes. 00:30:14.375 --> 00:30:20.481 But at the end of the day, um, we can choose not to let it be difficult. 00:30:20.502 --> 00:30:25.840 We can choose to not allow those things that are difficult to be a part of our world. 00:30:26.042 --> 00:30:32.625 We can go back old school to some things that are, um, less than, right? 00:30:32.726 --> 00:30:35.987 We just, you know, pick it up, open it up and eat it. 00:30:36.501 --> 00:30:43.398 An apple, a, you know, a banana instead of something that, you know, has 14 steps in it in order to make it. 00:30:43.994 --> 00:30:45.087 Um, I don't know. 00:30:45.148 --> 00:30:49.233 I don't know, you know, necessarily do we want all those extra steps? 00:30:49.303 --> 00:30:49.887 No. 00:30:50.151 --> 00:30:52.726 I think it goes back to that intention again, ladies. 00:30:52.942 --> 00:30:56.356 That intention of what do we want in our life? 00:30:56.493 --> 00:30:58.157 What do we don't want in our life? 00:30:58.432 --> 00:31:04.275 Um, and what things can we make easier instead of more difficult? 00:31:04.523 --> 00:31:09.900 You know, w- but at the end of the day, we decide, right? 00:31:09.959 --> 00:31:12.333 We decide what that looks like, right? 00:31:12.753 --> 00:31:14.484 And that's our lesson here today, ladies. 00:31:14.713 --> 00:31:20.252 Our lesson is everything doesn't need to be more work. 00:31:20.538 --> 00:31:30.262 Um, it doesn't have to be researched to the point where we know the cook's, the chef's name or the, or the, you know, the hostess' outfit. 00:31:30.548 --> 00:31:32.598 You know, it doesn't have to be perfect. 00:31:33.529 --> 00:31:35.384 We can learn it as we go. 00:31:35.413 --> 00:31:38.429 We don't need to read ahead on the website. 00:31:38.429 --> 00:31:41.994 We don't need to, ah, uh, I... 00:31:42.059 --> 00:31:42.863 book ahead. 00:31:42.874 --> 00:31:46.534 Well, yeah, we'd need to book ahead, but we don't need it to be perfect. 00:31:46.767 --> 00:31:51.357 'Cause if it was perfect all the time, what would we think when it's not, right? 00:31:51.440 --> 00:31:57.650 When it's just your normal Thursday, um, it can just be that. 00:31:57.711 --> 00:32:00.196 It doesn't have to be anything more complicated, right? 00:32:00.614 --> 00:32:13.017 W- our, uh, you know, we need to take a deep breath and step back, just for a minute, and not allow things to be so overwhelming and so difficult that we don't wanna do'em a second time. 00:32:13.018 --> 00:32:18.632 There's a lot of things we like to do, but there's so much work involved in them that we go,"Ah, I don't want to. 00:32:18.760 --> 00:32:20.446 I don't think I wanna do that today. 00:32:20.631 --> 00:32:21.828 It's a lot of work. 00:32:22.079 --> 00:32:25.009 Ew, uh." We don't wanna do that, right? 00:32:27.490 --> 00:32:33.467 Our ask, I think ladies, we just, again, we need to look inside and we need to figure out what we wanna do. 00:32:33.864 --> 00:32:41.479 Um, what we, what we don't wanna do, what we don't want to be heavy, what we don't want to be difficult, and just simply allow it to be that, right? 00:32:42.484 --> 00:32:49.474 Just simply allow ourselves to make a decision that affects our life. 00:32:50.126 --> 00:32:52.903 Our life, not everybody else's. 00:32:53.265 --> 00:33:03.142 Um, not take the words of everybody else on the internet that we don't even know and say,"Oh, my gosh," and take it to, to, to the bank, right? 00:33:03.142 --> 00:33:03.973 This is what I learned. 00:33:03.973 --> 00:33:05.452 This is where it needs to be, right? 00:33:06.384 --> 00:33:08.031 That's, that's, that's the ask. 00:33:08.031 --> 00:33:22.260 I think that we just need to step back for a minute, take a look at what's too difficult, and either simplify it, um, or just, you know, maybe we make room for something else because maybe there's just more work in there that, than we need, right? 00:33:24.268 --> 00:33:31.388 Please follow, um, our, the, the, our podcast wherever it is that you're listening from. 00:33:31.682 --> 00:33:35.339 If you heard anything that touched base with you, please like. 00:33:35.567 --> 00:33:48.961 Um, share with anybody who you know that, uh, might wanna join us, um, for whatever reason because they, you know, could take something from it or'cause they could just enjoy it and, and, you know, be a part of, of what we're doing here. 00:33:49.480 --> 00:33:56.246 Um, but please like if, if something has grasped or hit home with you. 00:33:56.637 --> 00:33:58.326 Um, but thank you for being here. 00:33:59.488 --> 00:34:00.762 Thank you for taking your time. 00:34:00.768 --> 00:34:03.165 Thank you for being patient with, with us learning. 00:34:03.165 --> 00:34:03.955 We're still learning. 00:34:03.957 --> 00:34:22.333 Again, the, the project's all over now, um, so we've got a little bit of time, uh, now to, to take a look and, and get that video piece going, um, and get those shorts and, and all of those things out there so that, um, we can share it with the rest of, of the internet world? 00:34:22.411 --> 00:34:23.521 I don't know what to call it. 00:34:23.534 --> 00:34:25.766 But thank you for being here. 00:34:26.211 --> 00:34:26.880 I'm Bonnie. 00:34:27.233 --> 00:34:33.708 This is Honestly Ladies, and I will see you next week