บทถอดความฉบับเต็มของ Deborah Kobylt LIVE: Sharon Feldstein and Patsy Noah

and she told them they couldn't. 81 00:02:59.960 --> 00:03:03.219 So together, that makes like a normal person. Jonah was 82 00:03:03.280 --> 00:03:05.560 a prankster. Adam always made me do his dirty work. 83 00:03:05.900 --> 00:03:07.460 Jonah flooded the elementary school. 84 00:03:07.960 --> 00:03:11.539 Jonah would lie on top of my dashboard and literally 85 00:03:11.599 --> 00:03:13.939 not get off. Trust me, us moms put up with 86 00:03:13.979 --> 00:03:16.060 a lot. But one thing we should never have to 87 00:03:16.099 --> 00:03:18.150 put up with is our kid not having health care. 88 00:03:20.349 --> 00:03:22.909 Fantastic. I absolutely think that's fantastic. 89 00:03:22.949 --> 00:03:25.969 And again, that was the Affordable Care Act that you 90 00:03:26.009 --> 00:03:27.030 were talking about, health care. 91 00:03:27.050 --> 00:03:28.650 And you said, you know, I'm going to do something 92 00:03:28.689 --> 00:03:31.090 with this. I've been on the board of a pediatric 93 00:03:31.110 --> 00:03:33.710 cancer and AIDS charity since I was 25. So what 94 00:03:33.780 --> 00:03:34.060 is that? 95 00:03:34.500 --> 00:03:37.520 It was called Neil Borger Memorial Fund and it's TJ Martell. 96 00:03:37.539 --> 00:03:38.719 It's a music industry charity. 97 00:03:39.120 --> 00:03:41.300 But my point is, is that I've always worked with kids. 98 00:03:41.800 --> 00:03:43.099 I've always been, I. 99 00:03:43.060 --> 00:03:46.659 Would say, fairly philanthropic and innovative. So it was a 100 00:03:46.710 --> 00:03:49.669 natural once that I saw that brand, it was like 101 00:03:49.770 --> 00:03:52.530 mothers against drunk driving. I knew there was something there. 102 00:03:52.569 --> 00:03:54.060 I didn't know what we were going to do with it. 103 00:03:54.069 --> 00:03:56.069 But I was like, I asked Patsy and our third 104 00:03:56.110 --> 00:03:59.069 musketeer is Alicia Keys mom, Taria Joseph. And the three 105 00:03:59.110 --> 00:04:00.710 of us are just like, you know, we're going to 106 00:04:01.030 --> 00:04:03.219 figure this out. And Adam and Beanie said, you've got 107 00:04:03.240 --> 00:04:04.360 to focus on mental health. 108 00:04:04.419 --> 00:04:05.080 I love that. 109 00:04:05.099 --> 00:04:08.080 By the way, separately, they came to us completely separately 110 00:04:08.120 --> 00:04:09.099 and they both had the same. 111 00:04:09.840 --> 00:04:12.060 What I love about it is how collaborative it is. 112 00:04:12.340 --> 00:04:15.270 It's friends, it's kids, it's everything. You're putting your heads 113 00:04:15.310 --> 00:04:16.810 together at night going, well, what are we going to 114 00:04:16.850 --> 00:04:18.949 do with this? The name is right because that's how 115 00:04:18.990 --> 00:04:19.870 all great things happen. 116 00:04:20.220 --> 00:04:20.399 Yeah. 117 00:04:20.579 --> 00:04:22.420 That's how all great things happen. What else do you 118 00:04:22.439 --> 00:04:22.959 also do? 119 00:04:23.019 --> 00:04:25.879 I know that you are an expert. Oh, what do 120 00:04:25.939 --> 00:04:26.839 I do? You mean my career? 121 00:04:27.000 --> 00:04:27.259 Yeah. 122 00:04:27.459 --> 00:04:29.079 You mean my real life? Well, this is your career, actually. 123 00:04:29.699 --> 00:04:31.500 Well, this is, I call it a business. I just 124 00:04:31.519 --> 00:04:34.139 say I'm in the business. I'm in the business of 125 00:04:34.240 --> 00:04:34.879 mental health. 126 00:04:34.980 --> 00:04:37.300 But we're not for profit. We just don't make money. 127 00:04:37.519 --> 00:04:40.519 Like we're, but we're in a, like Tom's, like Tom's Shoes. 128 00:04:40.699 --> 00:04:42.540 This is a big business. This is turning into a business. 129 00:04:42.860 --> 00:04:45.519 We have collaborations. We have all different sorts of things. 130 00:04:45.779 --> 00:04:47.500 And we do have an LLC, which we have not 131 00:04:47.660 --> 00:04:50.240 used yet. In case we end up doing something like 132 00:04:50.279 --> 00:04:52.759 a Tom's, which is sell all the merchandise and. 133 00:04:52.899 --> 00:04:54.639 Give the money back to Your Mom Cares. So we 134 00:04:54.660 --> 00:04:58.459 can do it both ways. Interesting. Because people are saying, like, 135 00:04:58.500 --> 00:04:59.110 what are you making? 136 00:04:59.139 --> 00:05:01.949 Where's your stuff? Besides the beads. So we can talk 137 00:05:01.970 --> 00:05:04.670 about the beads later. So because my background is also products, 138 00:05:05.009 --> 00:05:06.649 I'm interested in that. And I think it's a cool 139 00:05:06.689 --> 00:05:07.430 way to. 140 00:05:07.470 --> 00:05:08.250 Like, buy something. 141 00:05:08.269 --> 00:05:09.870 People get to take it home, but yet they also 142 00:05:09.889 --> 00:05:12.060 get to give back. But they end up having a 143 00:05:12.240 --> 00:05:14.939 super cool thing. So I like that, too. But I 144 00:05:14.959 --> 00:05:16.870 don't remember the question because that was like 10 minutes ago. 145 00:05:16.899 --> 00:05:19.399 I don't remember it either. I don't know what you said. Well, 146 00:05:19.500 --> 00:05:21.389 you're an expert sort of marketer. Oh, what I do 147 00:05:21.410 --> 00:05:21.810 for a living. 148 00:05:21.870 --> 00:05:25.730 Okay, so I was a costume designer, stylist. I created 149 00:05:26.050 --> 00:05:28.360 and designed the Sparkle cell phone and microphones. 150 00:05:28.689 --> 00:05:29.220 That was all me. 151 00:05:29.240 --> 00:05:29.879 Well, I love those. 152 00:05:29.980 --> 00:05:31.740 I know. Well, I should have had you bring some 153 00:05:31.759 --> 00:05:31.920 to me. 154 00:05:32.019 --> 00:05:34.300 I ended Sex and the City, my claim to fame. Okay, 155 00:05:34.339 --> 00:05:36.730 like she called Big with my phone, the pink sparkle phone. 156 00:05:36.759 --> 00:05:38.930 Oh my God. From Paris, I know. I just want 157 00:05:38.949 --> 00:05:40.810 to say that Chris and Tara are my neighbors now. 158 00:05:41.089 --> 00:05:41.529 You know,

Mr. 159 00:05:41.550 --> 00:05:44.250 Big and his real wife, Tara, who I adore, are 160 00:05:44.269 --> 00:05:46.180 my neighbors in the Berkshires, New York, and they live 161 00:05:46.199 --> 00:05:46.560 in LA. 162 00:05:46.639 --> 00:05:49.519 So like, they're stuck with me. So they're amazing. Did 163 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:51.300 you give them one of those little sparkle phones? No, 164 00:05:51.379 --> 00:05:53.300 because no one uses that anymore. You have a sparkle phone. 165 00:05:53.319 --> 00:05:56.800 They were Nokias. They were like Motorola's Nokia, you know. 166 00:05:57.240 --> 00:05:57.420 I know. 167 00:05:57.759 --> 00:06:01.089 But I still have sparkle pens. But anyway, so I 168 00:06:01.129 --> 00:06:02.670 did that for a while and people were like, what's. 169 00:06:02.529 --> 00:06:03.009 The next trend? 170 00:06:03.069 --> 00:06:04.730 And I'm like, I don't know, maybe experts. Maybe they're 171 00:06:04.769 --> 00:06:07.209 going to become stars. So I started and owned a 172 00:06:07.250 --> 00:06:09.910 company called Expert Management. And it was after Dr. 173 00:06:09.930 --> 00:06:12.529 Phil and before my dear friend Mamet Oz, Dr. 174 00:06:12.610 --> 00:06:12.790 Oz. 175 00:06:13.430 --> 00:06:13.750 Okay. 176 00:06:14.620 --> 00:06:14.879 You. You. 177 00:06:15.189 --> 00:06:15.990 You work with kids. 178 00:06:16.110 --> 00:06:18.649 You worked at the Berman School that we so fondly 179 00:06:18.689 --> 00:06:19.449 talked about before. 180 00:06:20.009 --> 00:06:23.110 So you worked with kids. Oddly, I like teenagers. 181 00:06:23.449 --> 00:06:26.990 I really enjoy the company of teenagers. I enjoyed advising them. 182 00:06:27.509 --> 00:06:31.470 I worked in admissions. And yes, it was a much 183 00:06:31.689 --> 00:06:36.329 less glamorous career, but I really enjoyed it while I 184 00:06:36.370 --> 00:06:38.910 did it. But there's a lot of politics involved, and 185 00:06:39.290 --> 00:06:40.889 it became kind of untenable for me. 186 00:06:40.910 --> 00:06:43.300 It's tough. Whenever I mention your name, people go, oh. 187 00:06:43.810 --> 00:06:46.110 She's the nicest in this town, what she does. 188 00:06:46.170 --> 00:06:47.189 You really were. 189 00:06:47.250 --> 00:06:47.930 So, okay. 190 00:06:48.250 --> 00:06:51.120 So you love working with kids. You love kids. Your 191 00:06:51.129 --> 00:06:53.819 mom cares. You did the PSA. You have all this experience. 192 00:06:54.240 --> 00:06:55.139 And then you started. 193 00:06:55.540 --> 00:06:58.060 And you also talked to Alicia Keys' mom. And what 194 00:06:58.220 --> 00:06:59.060 was the next step? 195 00:06:59.079 --> 00:07:01.120 We didn't talk to her. She's like our third person. 196 00:07:01.199 --> 00:07:02.620 She's like, we're going to do a panel together. She's 197 00:07:02.720 --> 00:07:03.920 the triplet. The third triplet. 198 00:07:03.939 --> 00:07:05.579 Yeah, because I live in New York half the year 199 00:07:05.600 --> 00:07:08.040 or

part of the year. And so, um, Tariya's in 200 00:07:08.060 --> 00:07:09.899 New York. So we needed a New York person. 201 00:07:10.259 --> 00:07:11.680 But we have tons of moms. I mean, no one's 202 00:07:11.699 --> 00:07:13.199 going to say no to us. I mean, who's going 203 00:07:13.230 --> 00:07:16.110 to say no to me? No one. No, but then 204 00:07:16.149 --> 00:07:16.709 what did you do? 205 00:07:16.730 --> 00:07:18.829 Like, okay, you got together the first time and say, okay, 206 00:07:18.870 --> 00:07:20.470 how do we do this? Look, you've got a major 207 00:07:20.490 --> 00:07:21.990 platform just right out the gate. 208 00:07:22.029 --> 00:07:24.029 No, what we did was we vetted charities and we 209 00:07:24.050 --> 00:07:29.100 vetted causes. We started with food insecurity, homelessness, education, all amazing. 210 00:07:29.360 --> 00:07:32.339 There's no bad cause, right? But every cause leads back 211 00:07:32.379 --> 00:07:34.720 to mental health because if you're homeless, you don't know 212 00:07:34.740 --> 00:07:36.970 where you're going to sleep, you get anxiety. If you're hungry, 213 00:07:37.329 --> 00:07:39.209 you get scared where your next meal is going to 214 00:07:39.269 --> 00:07:42.009 be from. If you're an abused family, you know, everything, 215 00:07:42.170 --> 00:07:47.680 the migrant kids have PTSD. The kids with Flint, Michigan, 216 00:07:47.829 --> 00:07:50.300 lead in the water, they're getting brain damage. Everything goes 217 00:07:50.339 --> 00:07:51.060 back to mental health. 218 00:07:51.480 --> 00:07:54.459 Everything. Do you do a lot of your own research, 219 00:07:54.560 --> 00:07:56.779 you personally? Are you crazy? I don't even know how 220 00:07:56.800 --> 00:07:59.509 to read. No. 221 00:07:59.529 --> 00:08:00.029 Wait, wait. 222 00:08:00.350 --> 00:08:01.949 Crazy being a word that I would like to take 223 00:08:01.990 --> 00:08:04.560 back at this moment. Are you being silly? Because I 224 00:08:04.579 --> 00:08:06.769 don't like to read. So interesting. So you.. 225 00:08:07.600 --> 00:08:09.680 Patsy researches a little bit, but we also have a 226 00:08:09.740 --> 00:08:13.990 team of researchers, and we have an amazing COO, brilliant lawyer. 227 00:08:14.050 --> 00:08:17.610 Her name is Meredith Wolfe. We're shouting out to her. Hi, Mary. Hi, Mary. 228 00:08:17.709 --> 00:08:19.810 And she has two young kids. She's in Brooklyn. And 229 00:08:20.269 --> 00:08:20.740 she does.. 230 00:08:20.709 --> 00:08:23.110 She bets everything to the point of, like, I'm not 231 00:08:23.129 --> 00:08:25.189 even allowed to talk to you without her, like, checking 232 00:08:25.230 --> 00:08:25.670 to make sure. 233 00:08:25.970 --> 00:08:27.990 Thank you. You're not going to do anything bad to us. 234 00:08:28.089 --> 00:08:31.629 Thank you. No, I never would. No, I'm teasing. But, no. Yeah, we... 235 00:08:32.419 --> 00:08:33.990 We meet everybody. We talk to everybody. 236 00:08:34.009 --> 00:08:37.029 I actually have a decent science background. I don't have 237 00:08:37.049 --> 00:08:39.590 an education in it, but I know a lot about medicine. 238 00:08:40.009 --> 00:08:43.149 So I understand the language. And having done charity work 239 00:08:43.169 --> 00:08:45.029 and been on the board my entire life since I 240 00:08:45.049 --> 00:08:48.049 was in my 20s, I understand the way nonprofits, I 241 00:08:48.210 --> 00:08:49.860 understand a little bit about everything. 242 00:08:50.309 --> 00:08:51.889 So I have good instincts when it comes to that stuff. 243 00:08:51.909 --> 00:08:53.389 You know what I love about Your Mom Cares? You 244 00:08:53.409 --> 00:08:56.110 started small. By that, I mean with the money. It's 245 00:08:56.149 --> 00:08:58.629 very attractive. I remember you had that kiss campaign. 246 00:08:58.649 --> 00:08:59.090 Remember that? 247 00:08:59.549 --> 00:09:00.129 Oh, yeah. 248 00:09:00.220 --> 00:09:02.399 Oh, yeah. No, they don't remember that at all. Well, 249 00:09:02.440 --> 00:09:04.340 I'll remind you. No, just kidding. Don't forget it. It'll 250 00:09:04.360 --> 00:09:05.259 be coming up again in May. 251 00:09:05.299 --> 00:09:05.700 Oh, really? 252 00:09:06.019 --> 00:09:09.259 Okay, okay. A big issue. And I participated in that, too. 253 00:09:09.299 --> 00:09:11.179 In fact, I think I had Anthony do a little 254 00:09:11.759 --> 00:09:15.019 Your Mom Cares background for us, and I was Thank you, Anthony. Yeah, 255 00:09:15.120 --> 00:09:17.240 and I brought my friend over here, and I was 256 00:09:17.299 --> 00:09:19.320 kissing her. She goes, why are we doing this? And 257 00:09:19.360 --> 00:09:21.440 then she got very interested, and your mom cares herself. 258 00:09:21.740 --> 00:09:24.769 That's amazing. But what I love about that, okay? How 259 00:09:24.789 --> 00:09:27.350 much was that to participate? Give $ 5. Oh, you can 260 00:09:27.389 --> 00:09:30.070 give anything you wanted, yeah. But we started small, right? 261 00:09:30.090 --> 00:09:32.379 It's not like you said, participate in your Mom Cares 262 00:09:32.419 --> 00:09:34.139 Kiss campaign, $ 5, 000 minimum. 263 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:36.000 We will take $ 5 right now from anyone. Because there's 264 00:09:36.019 --> 00:09:39.179 nothing wrong with $ 5 or $ 1. I love my lucky numbers. 265 00:09:39.460 --> 00:09:41.100 I love $ 5. But that's what I love about you. 266 00:09:41.139 --> 00:09:42.419 You're inclusive to everybody. 267 00:09:42.740 --> 00:09:46.240 They may be influencer moms to very famous and accomplished kids, 268 00:09:46.720 --> 00:09:48.039 but you'll take everything. 269 00:09:48.070 --> 00:09:50.070 Well, there's no gift too small. There is never. 270 00:09:50.509 --> 00:09:50.789 Right? 271 00:09:50.889 --> 00:09:52.590 Never. And that's what I love. And you can't buy 272 00:09:52.690 --> 00:09:52.950 us anything. 273 00:09:53.360 --> 00:09:55.190 And you can't buy who, you know, you really can't 274 00:09:55.389 -->

00:09:57.120 buy something that we don't believe in. 275 00:09:57.740 --> 00:09:59.200 So, you know, we're not for sale. 276 00:09:59.399 --> 00:09:59.559 So. 277 00:10:00.240 --> 00:10:03.600 But we're we're all about like inclusive love friendship talking 278 00:10:03.659 --> 00:10:07.899 about causes you know dialogues opening up you know conversations 279 00:10:07.919 --> 00:10:10.639 getting rid of stigma you know really stopping what's going 280 00:10:10.710 --> 00:10:12.370 i mean deborah there's such serious stuff going on in 281 00:10:12.409 --> 00:10:14.870 this country i'm not a super serious person by nature. 282 00:10:14.629 --> 00:10:19.200 But The rate, I mean, five-year-old kids are completing suicide. 283 00:10:19.440 --> 00:10:21.340 You don't say committing anymore. You're supposed to say completing 284 00:10:21.379 --> 00:10:25.000 or attempted. And suicide is the number two cause of death, 285 00:10:25.039 --> 00:10:26.620 I believe, for children in the country. 286 00:10:26.639 --> 00:10:27.659 It's second to accidents. 287 00:10:28.480 --> 00:10:32.240 And people pretend overdoses are not suicides, but they are 288 00:10:32.580 --> 00:10:35.830 because there's still a huge stigma. And, you know, I mean, 289 00:10:36.190 --> 00:10:39.529 we've got to help these children so that they understand 290 00:10:39.570 --> 00:10:41.809 that when they do this, A, it's permanent. 291 00:10:42.090 --> 00:10:44.259 They can't come back once they've done it. And B... 292 00:10:45.000 --> 00:10:47.759 that there are alternatives to doing that. 293 00:10:48.200 --> 00:10:52.629 I remember I heard a speaker once, and he was 294 00:10:52.809 --> 00:10:55.870 on the Golden Gate Bridge, and he was despondent, a 295 00:10:56.049 --> 00:10:59.690 young man, and he was upset about everything in life, 296 00:11:00.100 --> 00:11:00.769 and he jumped. 297 00:11:02.080 --> 00:11:04.419 And on his way down, he said, please, God, let 298 00:11:04.440 --> 00:11:04.779 me live. 299 00:11:04.820 --> 00:11:07.889 I will spend the entire rest of my life every 300 00:11:07.929 --> 00:11:10.429 day talking about how you might think you want to 301 00:11:10.470 --> 00:11:11.370 do it, but you don't. 302 00:11:11.509 --> 00:11:13.269 How do you know that? Because he lives. 303 00:11:13.889 --> 00:11:16.460 He spends his entire life going around. Look, I even 304 00:11:16.480 --> 00:11:19.080 got goosebumps talking about him. And he talks about how 305 00:11:19.159 --> 00:11:22.779 you might be so despondent, but don't do it. 306 00:11:23.039 --> 00:11:24.159 Yeah, but Debra, you know what we have to do? 307 00:11:24.200 --> 00:11:26.240 We have to address and help with the pain. 308 00:11:26.559 --> 00:11:26.919 That's right. 309 00:11:26.940 --> 00:11:32.960 The pain becomes so deep that these stellar young human 310 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:36.879 beings that have no idea what could You know, I 311 00:11:36.899 --> 00:11:38.289 teach a master class at Fashion Institute. 312 00:11:38.309 --> 00:11:40.649 It's called Just Show Up. If you show up to life, 313 00:11:40.669 --> 00:11:42.870 you never know what's going to happen. But if you don't. 314 00:11:43.830 --> 00:11:45.649 And a lot of people don't. A lot of people 315 00:11:45.690 --> 00:11:48.159 are ashamed and a lot of people are scared. 316 00:11:48.179 --> 00:11:50.840 They're depressed. They're anxious. You know, I want to ask 317 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:53.580 you about this. Depression, anxiety. 318 00:11:53.720 --> 00:11:56.610 Those words, again, are just used every day in just 319 00:11:57.070 --> 00:11:59.909 normal conversation. How does one even know if they are 320 00:11:59.950 --> 00:12:01.570 and if they're diagnosed, how do they even know if 321 00:12:01.610 --> 00:12:04.509 the diagnosis is correct? Like it's very, it's very complicated. 322 00:12:04.549 --> 00:12:06.889 It's tricky. It's very tricky, especially with kids. 323 00:12:07.309 --> 00:12:10.169 I remember when one of my sons was in school, 324 00:12:10.429 --> 00:12:12.690 they were just passing around Adderall saying, no, you need it. 325 00:12:12.750 --> 00:12:13.490 You need it. You need it. 326 00:12:13.490 --> 00:12:17.129 And I thought, whoa, this makes me scared because you 327 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:19.049 think you need something and you're just passing it around 328 00:12:19.100 --> 00:12:22.639 like M & Ms. In other words, nobody really diagnosed anybody. 329 00:12:23.200 --> 00:12:25.240 The kids were diagnosing themselves. So how do you get 330 00:12:25.399 --> 00:12:27.679 good care, good treatment, good diagnosis? 331 00:12:28.470 --> 00:12:32.250 Well, there aren't enough therapists, and so it's a real challenge. 332 00:12:32.529 --> 00:12:37.559 Not even enough, forget about good or bad. We've had 333 00:12:37.799 --> 00:12:41.200 a very prominent doctor in Pittsburgh. He's a psychiatrist, and 334 00:12:41.240 --> 00:12:43.259 he had a friend whose child was having a problem, 335 00:12:43.299 --> 00:12:47.080 and it took him getting someone in New York City 336 00:12:47.279 --> 00:12:48.899 for this child. 337 00:12:49.000 --> 00:12:50.779 I mean, there was no one for this kid. Because 338 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:51.889 he couldn't treat his friend's kid. 339 00:12:51.929 --> 00:12:54.429 He couldn't treat him himself, and it's so hard to 340 00:12:54.529 --> 00:12:57.190 find good therapists. And what we're trying to work out 341 00:12:57.269 --> 00:12:59.789 with one of our partners, which is University of Children's 342 00:12:59.830 --> 00:13:01.299 Hospital Foundation, Pittsburgh. 343 00:13:02.840 --> 00:13:05.460 Is they are now working with. 344 00:13:05.379 --> 00:13:09.029 Pediatricians offices that have a mental wellness checkup as part 345 00:13:09.090 --> 00:13:11.629 of your health checkup. As a child, you go in 346 00:13:11.690 --> 00:13:15.389 for a well-child visit, and you're also asked certain screening questions. 347 00:13:15.909 -->

00:13:17.950 And in theory, the way it's supposed to work is 348 00:13:17.990 --> 00:13:19.889 there are therapists right across the. 349 00:13:19.850 --> 00:13:22.309 Hall in the same suite. I like that. And we're 350 00:13:22.330 --> 00:13:23.389 trying to promote. 351 00:13:23.149 --> 00:13:25.860 That idea all over the country, and everybody's starting.. 352 00:13:25.779 --> 00:13:28.399 We funded the pilot program for this. It's an app, 353 00:13:28.440 --> 00:13:31.019 but it's really called the Brain Manager. It's not exactly 354 00:13:31.059 --> 00:13:31.649 an app because.. 355 00:13:31.639 --> 00:13:31.960 It is. 356 00:13:32.179 --> 00:13:34.340 The Brain Manager. Yeah, but a lot of the apps, 357 00:13:34.539 --> 00:13:38.259 they don't have people attached to them. So this app has.. 358 00:13:39.419 --> 00:13:43.460 Like social worker young people that have just graduated college 359 00:13:43.799 --> 00:13:46.659 that are in charge of x amount of kids and 360 00:13:46.840 --> 00:13:49.830 if they feel by by the information they get from 361 00:13:49.870 --> 00:13:51.889 this app or talking to them that they need to 362 00:13:51.929 --> 00:13:55.049 go one step further they will then direct them to 363 00:13:55.090 --> 00:13:58.590 a psychiatrist but as patsy said There aren't enough psychiatrists. 364 00:13:58.610 --> 00:14:00.710 There are enough for our program, but there are not 365 00:14:00.990 --> 00:14:02.769 enough for the country at all. 366 00:14:03.029 --> 00:14:06.120 And this program that we are piloting, and we're in 367 00:14:06.149 --> 00:14:10.120 the middle of it right now, the brain manager, the 368 00:14:10.580 --> 00:14:16.200 pediatrician prescribes it as though he or she was prescribing medication. 369 00:14:16.539 --> 00:14:18.139 Well, hopefully not medication. 370 00:14:18.399 --> 00:14:20.899 I remember when my son was at the pediatrician, he 371 00:14:20.940 --> 00:14:22.779 did ask. He would pull you into a separate room, 372 00:14:22.799 --> 00:14:24.889 and I thought, oh dear Jesus, please don't say that 373 00:14:24.929 --> 00:14:26.090 I screamed at you yesterday. 374 00:14:26.149 --> 00:14:27.860 I'm going to like, I was so worried about it. 375 00:14:27.889 --> 00:14:30.289 I'm like, oh no. I know I remember that. 376 00:14:30.309 --> 00:14:32.269 That's funny, but it's not funny because I'll tell you something. 377 00:14:33.669 --> 00:14:36.070 We were talking to these women in Connecticut that support 378 00:14:36.110 --> 00:14:38.250 our cause that we love. One of our moms, Lisa 379 00:14:38.269 --> 00:14:41.610 Zelson is from Connecticut. And I was with a psychiatrist 380 00:14:41.649 --> 00:14:43.970 and I actually asked the psychiatrist a question because I 381 00:14:44.009 --> 00:14:47.070 had a feeling these mothers were like afraid of their kids, 382 00:14:47.429 --> 00:14:48.929 of their teenage boys specifically. 383 00:14:48.970 --> 00:14:49.820 That's common too. 384 00:14:49.840 --> 00:14:50.049 Okay. 385 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:52.190 And I knew that. So I said, Dr. 386 00:14:52.230 --> 00:14:53.649 Nash, I just want to ask you in front of 387 00:14:53.669 --> 00:14:58.769 these women, will them confronting their kids or talking to 388 00:14:58.809 --> 00:15:01.870 their kids ever be the reason that their child does 389 00:15:01.909 --> 00:15:03.720 something violent to themselves or others? 390 00:15:04.029 --> 00:15:07.539 And he said, absolutely not, which gave them permission. That 391 00:15:07.580 --> 00:15:08.100 was huge. 392 00:15:08.419 --> 00:15:10.500 And I say that every time I'm asked about something 393 00:15:10.559 --> 00:15:13.460 because it's not me, it's the doctor, the expert saying, 394 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:16.379 if a child is going to complete or attempt suicide, 395 00:15:16.480 --> 00:15:19.159 it is not because their mother asked them, are you okay? 396 00:15:19.690 --> 00:15:21.830 Do you want to talk to someone? It's never going 397 00:15:21.850 --> 00:15:22.629 to be because of that. 398 00:15:22.669 --> 00:15:24.610 You know, I've had friends call, you know, we all 399 00:15:24.629 --> 00:15:26.730 talk as moms and they said, I'm afraid because you're right. 400 00:15:26.750 --> 00:15:28.230 They're afraid. They're like, I'm afraid he's going to run 401 00:15:28.250 --> 00:15:30.200 out the door if I talk to him. So they're 402 00:15:30.220 --> 00:15:33.019 scared of their children. They're scared of their children. What 403 00:15:33.039 --> 00:15:35.159 do we do to open the dialogue? Some kids don't 404 00:15:35.179 --> 00:15:36.460 want to talk. So what do you do about that? 405 00:15:36.700 --> 00:15:39.340 And then you're afraid. What do you do? It's a 406 00:15:39.360 --> 00:15:40.179 tricky question. 407 00:15:40.750 --> 00:15:43.929 The best thing to do is just start listening. um 408 00:15:44.049 --> 00:15:45.750 as sharon always well i don't think well. 409 00:15:45.690 --> 00:15:48.129 I'm going to interrupt patsy because honestly we're not supposed 410 00:15:48.149 --> 00:15:50.309 to give advice so that's true i want to stop 411 00:15:50.330 --> 00:15:52.429 her because i don't i do not want us to 412 00:15:52.450 --> 00:15:55.269 give right you're there to facilitate quoting dr nash who's 413 00:15:55.360 --> 00:15:58.059 a psychiatrist a pediatric psychiatrist i don't think we should 414 00:15:58.080 --> 00:15:59.139 give any advice yeah. 415 00:15:59.039 --> 00:16:01.220 No that's very fair but what you said was was 416 00:16:01.340 --> 00:16:05.080 true and simple enough okay what do we have here 417 00:16:05.200 --> 00:16:07.360 you want to lift these up i love these i 418 00:16:07.419 --> 00:16:10.110 asked okay look what i'm wearing hello I wear my lifting. 419 00:16:10.169 --> 00:16:12.730 Who am I looking at? Those lights? The camera? You're 420 00:16:12.750 --> 00:16:15.669 looking at your camera. Okay, hey. Hey, camera. Here you go. 421 00:16:16.129 --> 00:16:17.740 If

you look at what I'm wearing, do these not 422 00:16:17.779 --> 00:16:20.100 look fabulous on me? Here, we have another one for you. 423 00:16:20.120 --> 00:16:21.899 She looks amazing in those. I'm looking at the camera 424 00:16:21.919 --> 00:16:23.779 because she's tan. I've got that olive skin. She has 425 00:16:23.799 --> 00:16:26.840 beautiful skin tone, and it makes the orange pop. I 426 00:16:26.919 --> 00:16:28.600 love that she wears them on both wrists because. 427 00:16:28.399 --> 00:16:29.919 I usually do that. Those are your mom cares bracelets, 428 00:16:29.940 --> 00:16:32.120 but we're starting to personalize them, so we made you. 429 00:16:32.379 --> 00:16:33.350 Your own name. I'm so excited. 430 00:16:33.429 --> 00:16:33.870 I was hopeful. 431 00:16:34.190 --> 00:16:35.870 Patsy made it. I didn't make it. Oh, I love you. 432 00:16:35.929 --> 00:16:36.870 Thank you so much. 433 00:16:36.889 --> 00:16:37.210 You're welcome. 434 00:16:37.330 --> 00:16:38.210 Oh, I'm so excited. 435 00:16:38.230 --> 00:16:40.840 And we're also doing evil eyes at all different colors 436 00:16:41.120 --> 00:16:43.820 and you can personalize your kids' names, your mom's name. 437 00:16:44.379 --> 00:16:47.080 I thought Debra would be too long. Too long would 438 00:16:47.100 --> 00:16:48.960 take a whole bracelet. See, your mom cares. 439 00:16:49.159 --> 00:16:51.139 In case you don't like the YMC, which we encourage 440 00:16:51.179 --> 00:16:53.620 you to wear, at least one, you can do your 441 00:16:53.639 --> 00:16:54.220 own personal names. 442 00:16:54.340 --> 00:16:56.379 Nicknames, your dog's name, we don't care. Do you want 443 00:16:56.399 --> 00:16:57.679 to beat a little while we're talking, or is it 444 00:16:57.710 --> 00:16:59.070 too hard? I beat all the time. 445 00:16:59.139 --> 00:17:01.889 I actually thought it would be fun to just do 446 00:17:01.909 --> 00:17:02.450 a little beating. 447 00:17:02.529 --> 00:17:05.450 Patsy cut these. They're way too short for me. I 448 00:17:05.650 --> 00:17:09.029 like them longer for you. Can you knot it for me? 449 00:17:09.069 --> 00:17:10.650 Because I don't do the good knot. My bead will 450 00:17:10.670 --> 00:17:12.210 go through the other side. No, I just make a 451 00:17:12.230 --> 00:17:15.410 regular knot. Can you not for me anyway? Not me. 452 00:17:15.670 --> 00:17:15.849 No? 453 00:17:16.230 --> 00:17:18.329 I only do my own. Okay. I have a thing 454 00:17:18.390 --> 00:17:21.730 about mine. I can't help you with that. Now, a 455 00:17:21.750 --> 00:17:22.529 little bit about the meeting. 456 00:17:22.569 --> 00:17:25.049 So, because I see these campaigns all the time on 457 00:17:25.089 --> 00:17:25.650 social media. 458 00:17:26.329 --> 00:17:28.430 You get, what, three? They change all the time. You 459 00:17:28.450 --> 00:17:31.589 can get three bracelets or five bracelets or... I think, 460 00:17:31.650 --> 00:17:32.569 first of all, we just.. 461 00:17:32.910 --> 00:17:35.029 When you donate to Your Mom Cares, we gift you 462 00:17:35.309 --> 00:17:35.809 the bracelets. 463 00:17:35.869 --> 00:17:36.029 Oh. 464 00:17:36.289 --> 00:17:38.470 Because that's kind of like the tax thing or something 465 00:17:38.490 --> 00:17:40.559 like that. I'm not exactly sure why, but... It's a 466 00:17:40.599 --> 00:17:42.019 thank you. It's a thank you. 467 00:17:42.430 --> 00:17:42.710 So.. 468 00:17:43.410 --> 00:17:46.339 I think for $ 50, you get three bracelets. And I think, 469 00:17:46.940 --> 00:17:48.980 I don't know. How do we find, do you know 470 00:17:49.019 --> 00:17:49.440 the answer to that? 471 00:17:49.599 --> 00:17:53.279 Well, let's just, for $ 50, you get three YMC bracelets 472 00:17:53.539 --> 00:17:56.940 or two, you can get up to two personalized bracelets 473 00:17:57.019 --> 00:18:00.880 and one YMC bracelet. And for $ 25, you can get 474 00:18:01.039 --> 00:18:03.480 three bracelets. And for $ 10, you can get one. 475 00:18:04.539 --> 00:18:07.559 Again, what I love about this is it involves everyone. Look, 476 00:18:07.660 --> 00:18:11.490 everybody's got an issue with We talked about this, mental wellness. 477 00:18:11.589 --> 00:18:13.970 We all do. I do, you do, Patsy, maybe not you. 478 00:18:13.990 --> 00:18:14.789 So mental.. 479 00:18:14.970 --> 00:18:15.470 Oh, please. 480 00:18:15.990 --> 00:18:19.859 So mental wellness, I mean, beating is... Therapeutic? 481 00:18:19.960 --> 00:18:20.160 Yes. 482 00:18:20.640 --> 00:18:23.339 Thank you. It's meditative and therapeutic. Exactly right. Well, if 483 00:18:23.359 --> 00:18:25.099 somebody knots mine, I'll be happy to start. So you 484 00:18:25.140 --> 00:18:28.750 have to concentrate versus like worrying. Still be careful because 485 00:18:28.789 --> 00:18:30.869 it might go through. It might go through. You have 486 00:18:30.890 --> 00:18:33.650 to concentrate on the beating. Yeah, I am. We're not 487 00:18:33.670 --> 00:18:35.009 going to speak. You know what? People are going to 488 00:18:35.029 --> 00:18:36.609 tune in live and we're going to be sitting here beating. 489 00:18:36.650 --> 00:18:37.950 No, we could talk, but I'm saying you have to 490 00:18:37.990 --> 00:18:40.390 concentrate rather than worrying is what I'm trying to say. 491 00:18:40.750 --> 00:18:41.329 Oh, I see. 492 00:18:41.349 --> 00:18:43.890 No, you're right. You're right about that. My famous story 493 00:18:43.910 --> 00:18:46.279 about that is don't eat popcorn, beat, and watch Netflix. 494 00:18:46.420 --> 00:18:47.039 I love Netflix. 495 00:18:47.480 --> 00:18:49.880 Because, and I love Amazon, I love them all, Hulu, 496 00:18:49.920 --> 00:18:51.940 I like you all, anyone that wants to participate with 497 00:18:51.960 --> 00:18:54.039 your mom, because I like every single streaming network that 498 00:18:54.059 --> 00:18:58.440 there is. I'm an equal opportunity liker, because I ate 499 00:18:58.480 --> 00:19:00.849 my popcorn, I thought it was

popcorn, but I ate 500 00:19:00.869 --> 00:19:01.289 my beads. 501 00:19:01.910 --> 00:19:05.230 My very dear friend, she's the COO over at Netflix, 502 00:19:05.289 --> 00:19:06.750 and she almost came today to meet you guys, so. 503 00:19:06.730 --> 00:19:08.609 I'll have to introduce you. Oh, that's a super bummer 504 00:19:08.630 --> 00:19:11.170 that she's not here. Well, I know, Tammy, Tammy, I know, Tammy, see? 505 00:19:15.190 --> 00:19:15.890 See what happened? 506 00:19:15.930 --> 00:19:18.509 I freaking love Netflix. Well, you know what? You'll have 507 00:19:18.549 --> 00:19:22.529 to meet her. But I want to. It went through, Patsy. Well, 508 00:19:22.890 --> 00:19:24.750 I don't. You just stop. See what I do. 509 00:19:24.789 --> 00:19:24.970 Look. 510 00:19:25.430 --> 00:19:27.930 See this? You leave a little extra, Debra, like I do. 511 00:19:27.930 --> 00:19:28.220 Oh, okay. I see. 512 00:19:28.230 --> 00:19:30.539 And you just go there and you don't worry about it. 513 00:19:31.119 --> 00:19:33.380 But I like this. Who came up with this beading idea? 514 00:19:34.279 --> 00:19:38.599 Cute story. Well, the story is my little neighbor, Emma. 515 00:19:38.759 --> 00:19:41.279 Emma's becoming so famous it's ridiculous. 516 00:19:41.299 --> 00:19:43.299 She's been everywhere. There's pictures of her like on KTLA. 517 00:19:44.529 --> 00:19:46.059 I know that's one of your favorite shows too. I 518 00:19:46.079 --> 00:19:46.880 heard you tell Sam. 519 00:19:47.019 --> 00:19:50.039 I came over for Passover and she brought these bracelets 520 00:19:50.059 --> 00:19:52.900 and started selling them to my guests. But I said 521 00:19:53.099 --> 00:19:54.920 to her, I said, Emma, how did you, I was 522 00:19:54.960 --> 00:19:56.279 interviewing her. I was like, how'd you come up with 523 00:19:56.299 --> 00:19:57.900 the idea? She goes, well, Nana, you told me I 524 00:19:57.940 --> 00:20:00.410 had to make bracelets for your mom. So basically I 525 00:20:00.450 --> 00:20:02.950 directed her. I demanded that she do it. Gave her 526 00:20:02.990 --> 00:20:04.789 the beads and for God I told her. And then 527 00:20:04.829 --> 00:20:06.390 she brought them and she started selling them. And all 528 00:20:06.410 --> 00:20:08.089 the guests were like super hip people. And they're like, 529 00:20:08.410 --> 00:20:09.190 These are amazing. 530 00:20:09.230 --> 00:20:09.809 They really are cool. 531 00:20:09.869 --> 00:20:13.089 So like my friend Lukey, he loved from Bond, who 532 00:20:13.190 --> 00:20:14.150 also did our logo. 533 00:20:14.470 --> 00:20:17.220 Shout out to Luke. His mother is Paula Silver Greenberg, who's. 534 00:20:17.380 --> 00:20:18.390 One of our moms. 535 00:20:18.839 --> 00:20:21.579 But he was crazy about his bracelets. 536 00:20:21.740 --> 00:20:23.980 And I thought, oh, if Luke likes it, we're good. 537 00:20:24.799 --> 00:20:25.400 But you're right. 538 00:20:25.440 --> 00:20:28.539 I'm watching you do this. And I failed

a little bit. 539 00:20:28.559 --> 00:20:29.579 So I'm going to have to get back to it 540 00:20:29.599 --> 00:20:32.150 in a moment. But this beading thing is relaxing. 541 00:20:32.190 --> 00:20:33.039 It's so relaxing. 542 00:20:33.059 --> 00:20:34.400 But when I'm on the phone, Patsy said, when I 543 00:20:34.500 --> 00:20:36.640 get the beads, people can hear me on a conference call. 544 00:20:36.980 --> 00:20:38.920 What, they can hear you beading? No, they hear me 545 00:20:38.960 --> 00:20:42.140 picking them up and looking at the colors. Let's talk 546 00:20:42.160 --> 00:20:44.660 a little bit about your mobile mission. I like that. 547 00:20:45.039 --> 00:20:45.660 Mobile moms? 548 00:20:45.819 --> 00:20:48.740 Mobile moms. Can you tell me about that, Patsy? We 549 00:20:48.779 --> 00:20:49.180 have a. 550 00:20:49.319 --> 00:20:53.420 Mobile moms fund, and it's discretionary. Sharon and I don't 551 00:20:53.460 --> 00:20:55.380 have a board of directors for Your Mom Cares. We 552 00:20:55.400 --> 00:20:58.059 don't have a large group of people to report to about... 553 00:20:58.269 --> 00:21:00.769 where we give money, and if there are emergent pediatric 554 00:21:00.789 --> 00:21:04.319 causes that are happening in the moment, like the lead 555 00:21:04.380 --> 00:21:07.960 in Flint and the migrant kids at the border, we 556 00:21:08.099 --> 00:21:10.940 are able to set aside some money and make small 557 00:21:10.980 --> 00:21:16.079 donations to some really important organizations doing amazing work. And 558 00:21:16.279 --> 00:21:21.339 we also select smaller organizations because $ 1, 000 to them. 559 00:21:21.059 --> 00:21:23.559 Is like giving somebody $ 100, 000. It is true. 560 00:21:23.619 --> 00:21:25.980 And we stay in touch, and we give them awareness, 561 00:21:26.039 --> 00:21:29.509 and we... We are also working on a grant program. 562 00:21:29.529 --> 00:21:31.910 When we say report to, again, I'm going to have 563 00:21:32.569 --> 00:21:34.789 to hop in here for a minute. It's not that 564 00:21:34.829 --> 00:21:38.029 we don't report. We report to, we can account for 565 00:21:38.150 --> 00:21:40.250 every dollar that we have given away and we vet 566 00:21:40.369 --> 00:21:43.069 every dollar that we give away. So what Patsy is 567 00:21:43.089 --> 00:21:45.529 saying is we don't have people on a, like a 568 00:21:45.769 --> 00:21:47.430 official board of directors. 569 00:21:47.509 --> 00:21:48.339 I understand, yeah. 570 00:21:48.359 --> 00:21:50.079 Okay, but I want to explain it to people listening 571 00:21:50.099 --> 00:21:52.240 because people that might want to give us some money, 572 00:21:52.460 --> 00:21:54.920 we don't want them, I mean, I do call myself 573 00:21:54.960 --> 00:21:59.019 a cowgirl slash cowboys. We're like the wild frontier of 574 00:21:59.359 --> 00:22:02.529 nonprofit because I think there's a new way of dealing 575 00:22:02.549 --> 00:22:04.390 with nonprofit where you make it kind of like, I 576 00:22:04.410 --> 00:22:07.349 don't want to say sexy, but like current and trendy 577 00:22:07.710 --> 00:22:11.769 and important because it is, well, not necessarily smaller, different. 578 00:22:12.950 --> 00:22:17.119 People are wasting so much time With scheduling and meetings 579 00:22:17.160 --> 00:22:18.960 and what people eat for lunch and blah, blah, blah. 580 00:22:19.140 --> 00:22:19.960 I have no time for that. 581 00:22:19.980 --> 00:22:21.779 What about the big, big, big parties? 582 00:22:22.059 --> 00:22:22.619 I have not. 583 00:22:22.660 --> 00:22:22.900 Yeah. 584 00:22:22.940 --> 00:22:24.809 Well, that but those can be OK. 585 00:22:24.940 --> 00:22:26.829 I mean, I think we're going to do a concert 586 00:22:26.869 --> 00:22:28.829 instead of a party, but which I think is more fun. 587 00:22:28.869 --> 00:22:30.009 But even that, whatever. 588 00:22:30.049 --> 00:22:32.970 But we are trying to be like this is the 589 00:22:33.009 --> 00:22:33.869 way I've led my life. 590 00:22:34.210 --> 00:22:36.450 I do trends. I'm innovative. I'm creative. 591 00:22:36.529 --> 00:22:38.869 I get bored easily. I have to go with what's 592 00:22:38.910 --> 00:22:41.819 going on. So the charity is no different. Whatever's happening 593 00:22:41.859 --> 00:22:44.559 right now that needs the most help, we're there. However, 594 00:22:44.579 --> 00:22:46.740 I'm going to get there is going to be the coolest, funnest, 595 00:22:46.799 --> 00:22:50.440 most current individual way to get there without just hitting 596 00:22:50.500 --> 00:22:51.940 up the same people for money. 597 00:22:52.559 --> 00:22:54.660 And also we have a new program, which was super 598 00:22:54.720 --> 00:22:55.339 proud of me. 599 00:22:56.029 --> 00:22:57.049 Um, and we want to shout out to the, I'm 600 00:22:57.069 --> 00:22:58.450 going to shout out to the black family for a 601 00:22:58.450 --> 00:23:01.690 minute because they helps us support that. Um, in South 602 00:23:01.869 --> 00:23:05.670 LA on Skid Row for homeless kids, the first ever 603 00:23:06.250 --> 00:23:08.869 mental health group therapy for children. 604 00:23:09.539 --> 00:23:11.680 So every Wednesday, it's called Rising Stars. 605 00:23:12.059 --> 00:23:15.069 The homeless children meet at the mission, and there are 606 00:23:15.089 --> 00:23:17.750 counselors that give them group therapy, which we are super 607 00:23:17.789 --> 00:23:18.109 proud of. 608 00:23:18.430 --> 00:23:19.750 How do you get the word out to them? 609 00:23:19.789 --> 00:23:20.750 That's got to be rough. 610 00:23:21.029 --> 00:23:22.529 It's so sad what's going on in our city. 611 00:23:22.549 --> 00:23:25.390 Children's Health Fund, I'm shouting out to them now. They 612 00:23:25.910 --> 00:23:28.609 hired the professionals, and they work down there, so they 613 00:23:28.630 --> 00:23:29.049 know how to do it. 614 00:23:29.609 --> 00:23:30.150 They did it for us. 615 00:23:30.700 --> 00:23:33.019 But we

gave them the assignment of something very innovative 616 00:23:33.059 --> 00:23:35.380 and cool and new and interesting. And they came up 617 00:23:35.420 --> 00:23:37.920 with this, which was amazing because, you know, you can 618 00:23:37.960 --> 00:23:40.000 give your money where everybody else does, which is a 619 00:23:40.039 --> 00:23:42.119 great thing. Or you can give your money for a 620 00:23:42.240 --> 00:23:45.079 new thing that no one's ever done. And maybe it's 621 00:23:45.099 --> 00:23:45.720 going to help more. 622 00:23:46.339 --> 00:23:48.380 And it also can become a model for other cities. 623 00:23:48.420 --> 00:23:50.900 We're hoping that that's what will happen with this program. 624 00:23:51.220 --> 00:23:51.859 You know what I love? 625 00:23:51.900 --> 00:23:55.869 And I've heard you say this. We've got to destigmatize it. 626 00:23:55.900 --> 00:23:57.700 I mean, let's face it. If you're not feeling well, 627 00:23:57.720 --> 00:23:59.289 what do we do? We just put on the big 628 00:23:59.329 --> 00:24:01.809 smiles like everything's just fine. Not that you want to 629 00:24:01.849 --> 00:24:04.670 go show up all the time with your problems, but 630 00:24:05.089 --> 00:24:07.470 it's got to be destigmatized. As you said yourself, I'm 631 00:24:07.490 --> 00:24:09.710 going to take your own words, cancer. Remember there was 632 00:24:09.750 --> 00:24:11.250 a time when we all grew up. 633 00:24:11.269 --> 00:24:13.230 Yeah, I said that to you. Yeah. You can't even 634 00:24:13.289 --> 00:24:14.569 talk about it. You can't talk about divorce. 635 00:24:15.109 --> 00:24:15.829 Yeah. Cancer. 636 00:24:16.509 --> 00:24:20.650 Yeah. But now there's no stigma on that. Transgender, everything 637 00:24:20.710 --> 00:24:21.210 is changing. 638 00:24:21.670 --> 00:24:21.940 But.. 639 00:24:23.359 --> 00:24:24.740 I wanted to say something, but of course I lost 640 00:24:24.779 --> 00:24:28.740 my train of thought. I forgot. We'll get to it. Yeah, changing. No, 641 00:24:28.759 --> 00:24:30.099 there was something I wanted to say, but it's all right. 642 00:24:30.220 --> 00:24:30.440 Go ahead. 643 00:24:30.839 --> 00:24:32.680 No, it's just that I love the fact that you, 644 00:24:32.950 --> 00:24:36.049 I'm telling you, you women and all the moms are 645 00:24:36.109 --> 00:24:42.289 actually single-handedly going to change The entire dialogue of mental wellness. 646 00:24:42.309 --> 00:24:44.029 We hope so. From your mouth to God's ears. 647 00:24:44.089 --> 00:24:46.970 We first met a few months back, and since then you've. 648 00:24:46.809 --> 00:24:49.609 Already done so much. We've had a killer six months. 649 00:24:49.650 --> 00:24:51.849 You've had a killer six months. Thank you. And that's 650 00:24:51.869 --> 00:24:52.250 what I mean. 651 00:24:52.289 --> 00:24:53.490 Imagine, you're new. 652 00:24:53.630 --> 00:24:55.470 When did you start with Your Mom Cares? Well, we 653 00:24:55.519 --> 00:24:58.839 started investigating about a year and a half ago. That's it? 654 00:24:59.200 --> 00:25:03.099 No, but we only started raising money since 2019. Wow. 655 00:25:03.119 --> 00:25:04.700 So we're not even one year into it. 656 00:25:04.700 --> 00:25:05.519 Wow. 657 00:25:05.539 --> 00:25:08.609 And we've raised almost a million dollars. But also other things. 658 00:25:09.079 --> 00:25:11.740 We started programs, innovative stuff, stuff that no one's doing. 659 00:25:11.759 --> 00:25:13.579 I want to hear about them. Can you tell people? Well, 660 00:25:13.660 --> 00:25:16.240 the Brain Manager is one of them. Rising Stars is 661 00:25:16.279 --> 00:25:18.549 another one. I like the name. 662 00:25:18.769 --> 00:25:22.130 The Harris Project is a tiny little charity in New 663 00:25:22.190 --> 00:25:25.690 Rochelle or Scarsdale. And she's created this program that Patsy 664 00:25:25.710 --> 00:25:28.029 can speak to, which she'll tell you in a minute. 665 00:25:28.130 --> 00:25:30.920 But we've given her money and a platform and invited 666 00:25:30.980 --> 00:25:33.180 her places. See that she would never get invited to, 667 00:25:33.220 --> 00:25:36.190 but we give people an opportunity to speak. and present 668 00:25:36.250 --> 00:25:37.529 things to us. So Patsy, why don't you tell a 669 00:25:37.549 --> 00:25:38.950 little bit about the Harris Project. 670 00:25:38.970 --> 00:25:44.049 The Harris Project is basically in honor of Stephanie's son 671 00:25:44.130 --> 00:25:47.410 who did overdose and she tried to help him for many, 672 00:25:47.450 --> 00:25:52.849 many years every possible way and she just became immediate, 673 00:25:52.890 --> 00:25:55.990 she went into action and she has developed a program 674 00:25:56.029 --> 00:26:01.539 to teach high school kids about mental illness, about drug addiction, 675 00:26:01.740 --> 00:26:04.759 about all kinds of mental health issues. 676 00:26:04.920 --> 00:26:06.200 That kids need to deal with. 677 00:26:06.259 --> 00:26:09.599 And she's developed kind of a CPR, quote unquote, it's 678 00:26:09.619 --> 00:26:12.140 called CODA, for high school kids. 679 00:26:12.180 --> 00:26:16.440 And she goes all over a fairly East Coast, but. 680 00:26:16.359 --> 00:26:19.519 She sticks to mainly New York. And she talks and 681 00:26:19.539 --> 00:26:24.009 she's very inspiring. And these kids now do runs and 682 00:26:24.049 --> 00:26:26.450 they do all kinds of fundraising things on a real 683 00:26:26.490 --> 00:26:27.710 grassroots level for her. 684 00:26:28.210 --> 00:26:30.490 And she has our support, not just in money, but 685 00:26:30.549 --> 00:26:31.829 Patsy and I, we talk about. 686 00:26:31.690 --> 00:26:33.349 Her like we're talking about her right now. We bring 687 00:26:33.390 --> 00:26:36.519 her places, you know. She's really, but she's on her 688 00:26:36.660 --> 00:26:38.400 own done amazing. She doesn't need us. 689 00:26:38.799 --> 00:26:39.400 Incredible stuff. 690 00:26:39.420 -->

00:26:40.480 Oh, I do have one program. 691 00:26:40.500 --> 00:26:42.900 I mean, we can't give you the title of the 692 00:26:43.029 --> 00:26:46.250 app that's being created, but we're just in the process 693 00:26:46.289 --> 00:26:48.049 of closing. 694 00:26:47.650 --> 00:26:48.990 The money part of the deal. 695 00:26:49.450 --> 00:26:53.759 But I have a friend, a lovely, lovely friend, Cynthia Martin, 696 00:26:53.799 --> 00:26:57.279 and she lost her only child to suicide a year ago. 697 00:26:57.299 --> 00:27:00.970 And She was at SC and a star on every 698 00:27:01.109 --> 00:27:01.970 check that you can check. 699 00:27:02.009 --> 00:27:04.049 We're talking about that beautiful woman that was there the 700 00:27:04.069 --> 00:27:05.690 other day at the Riveter when you were speaking. 701 00:27:06.079 --> 00:27:09.279 I did and we really, yes. And she allows me 702 00:27:09.299 --> 00:27:10.000 to tell this story. 703 00:27:10.119 --> 00:27:15.039 She attempted suicide and my friend Kirk and I, we 704 00:27:15.720 --> 00:27:19.740 called 911 and we saved her and her life's mission 705 00:27:19.960 --> 00:27:23.359 is this app so that other kids do not complete 706 00:27:23.400 --> 00:27:28.460 suicide as McKenna did and Sadly, last week, McKenna's best 707 00:27:28.519 --> 00:27:33.210 friend completed suicide at SC. The fifth child since school started. 708 00:27:34.150 --> 00:27:39.910 We're barely in November. This semester. This is too wide 709 00:27:39.950 --> 00:27:41.609 of a question, but why? 710 00:27:41.630 --> 00:27:43.779 I don't know. Is it copycat? 711 00:27:43.910 --> 00:27:44.150 Is it? 712 00:27:44.440 --> 00:27:46.420 I don't believe in social media pressures. I would never 713 00:27:46.460 --> 00:27:48.480 comment on as to why. I don't know. Who knows? 714 00:27:48.779 --> 00:27:51.059 But I mean, why is it increasing is what I meant. 715 00:27:51.240 --> 00:27:51.559 Why? 716 00:27:51.579 --> 00:27:52.240 Why the increase? 717 00:27:52.259 --> 00:27:54.539 Again, I think that's like either a doctor or some 718 00:27:54.579 --> 00:27:55.880 sort of study that needs to be done. 719 00:27:55.940 --> 00:27:56.319 I don't know. 720 00:27:56.619 --> 00:27:59.920 I mean, if you want us to guess, social media, 721 00:28:00.089 --> 00:28:03.630 life's pressures, anxiety from the shootings. 722 00:28:03.869 --> 00:28:04.730 I mean, I don't know. 723 00:28:04.869 --> 00:28:07.130 There are a lot of things weighing very heavily on 724 00:28:07.190 --> 00:28:10.289 everybody's mind. And when you're a teenager and you're just 725 00:28:10.329 --> 00:28:12.490 coming out of adolescence, which doesn't happen until. 726 00:28:12.329 --> 00:28:14.990 You're in your early 20s, It's hard to process. 727 00:28:15.190 --> 00:28:17.150 Well, I read just the other day, it said, how 728 00:28:17.190 --> 00:28:19.690 about not raising kids to be successful? Raise them to 729 00:28:19.730 --> 00:28:22.710 be kind, good people. I mean, you know, when we 730 00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:24.279 went to school or when I went to college, at 731 00:28:24.319 --> 00:28:27.240 least in my family, it wasn't really so competitive. 732 00:28:27.299 --> 00:28:28.940 I don't know. I went to where nearby. I went 733 00:28:28.960 --> 00:28:31.339 to Rutgers. I will brag for a moment. I go 734 00:28:31.359 --> 00:28:34.549 to Westlake, which is a competitive school, which I love, 735 00:28:34.990 --> 00:28:37.200 love this school. One of the deans said, will you 736 00:28:37.220 --> 00:28:39.480 talk to the parents, Sharon? Because you're the only one 737 00:28:39.500 --> 00:28:41.920 that says, oh, Beanie's so happy. She loves this school. 738 00:28:41.980 --> 00:28:43.680 The teachers are amazing. 739 00:28:43.720 --> 00:28:45.500 I love everybody here. Where does she want to go 740 00:28:45.539 --> 00:28:47.660 to college? Wherever she wants, or wherever she gets in, 741 00:28:47.700 --> 00:28:48.440 no problem with me. 742 00:28:49.400 --> 00:28:51.019 And I was like, her grades? I don't know. She's 743 00:28:51.059 --> 00:28:52.079 the best person on the planet. 744 00:28:52.180 --> 00:28:55.380 I mean, I couldn't ask for any better child ever. 745 00:28:55.519 --> 00:28:57.019 Okay, she's also deeply talented. 746 00:28:57.099 --> 00:29:01.039 She was just working with Bette Midler, hello, on Broadway. 747 00:29:01.059 --> 00:29:04.009 Hello, at Harvard-Westlake, she never got a lead, I'm just 748 00:29:04.049 --> 00:29:06.480 going to say. She didn't even get into the executive 749 00:29:06.569 --> 00:29:07.789 choir or whatever it was called. 750 00:29:08.089 --> 00:29:10.509 I don't even know what it was called. It's all politics. No, 751 00:29:10.569 --> 00:29:14.190 that's not true. But my point is I love Harvard Westlake. 752 00:29:14.410 --> 00:29:15.849 I love all of her teachers. 753 00:29:16.730 --> 00:29:19.589 Where she went to college was not as important as 754 00:29:19.650 --> 00:29:24.140 her happiness, kindness, and her personal achievements or her achievements. 755 00:29:24.579 --> 00:29:26.859 Like if I would have gotten a D at Harvard Westlake, 756 00:29:27.000 --> 00:29:29.099 I would have thought I was great. I have ADD. 757 00:29:29.619 --> 00:29:30.500 I have anxiety. 758 00:29:30.579 --> 00:29:33.670 I don't really have dyslexia. If I could have gotten 759 00:29:33.710 --> 00:29:36.500 a C, that would have been great for me. I 760 00:29:36.519 --> 00:29:40.089 have a high IQ, but my grades would never have matched. 761 00:29:39.890 --> 00:29:42.319 Up for them that's a whole nother discussion I always 762 00:29:42.400 --> 00:29:45.160 call school very often no matter where you go honestly 763 00:29:45.500 --> 00:29:48.160 it's like the one room schoolhouse like everyone is so 764 00:29:48.339 --> 00:29:50.740 different some people are artistic some people have got the 765 00:29:50.779 --> 00:29:53.539 ADD and dyslexia and whatever and you've got to fit 766 00:29:53.559

--> 00:29:55.480 into a little box and I think that's very very 767 00:29:55.519 --> 00:29:57.740 difficult and then you start to feel like you know 768 00:29:57.759 --> 00:30:00.160 like shit like you're You're not really keeping up, don't 769 00:30:00.180 --> 00:30:00.440 you think? 770 00:30:00.480 --> 00:30:01.720 I think that has a lot to do with it. 771 00:30:02.019 --> 00:30:02.339 It does. 772 00:30:02.579 --> 00:30:04.319 I mean, I know we're not supposed to comment on why, 773 00:30:04.380 --> 00:30:06.849 but I think about these things, too. I've got three sons, 774 00:30:06.900 --> 00:30:09.349 you know what I mean? And I know that one 775 00:30:09.369 --> 00:30:13.130 of my sons in particular just really felt that school 776 00:30:13.150 --> 00:30:15.730 was a little too much, a little too stressful. And 777 00:30:15.750 --> 00:30:19.019 I think for him, he felt surrounded by kids who 778 00:30:19.180 --> 00:30:22.000 had to go somewhere. And I said, just do your best. 779 00:30:22.339 --> 00:30:23.079 Just do your best. 780 00:30:23.740 --> 00:30:25.740 And I feel like we need to change that dialogue. 781 00:30:25.769 --> 00:30:27.549 When you say just do your best, you have to 782 00:30:27.609 --> 00:30:28.509 mean just do your best. 783 00:30:28.650 --> 00:30:28.829 But I do. 784 00:30:28.829 --> 00:30:29.549 I'm not talking about you. 785 00:30:29.950 --> 00:30:30.690 One. One. 786 00:30:30.789 --> 00:30:31.549 Whoever's listening. 787 00:30:32.049 --> 00:30:33.609 If they say just do your best, but they really 788 00:30:33.650 --> 00:30:35.490 mean I want you to be blah, blah. Because look, 789 00:30:35.650 --> 00:30:37.400 I'm not going to lie. I mean, there were certain, 790 00:30:37.440 --> 00:30:40.140 like I thought Beanie belonged in the good choir. I mean, 791 00:30:40.259 --> 00:30:41.680 I really, I think I went to school and talked 792 00:30:41.700 --> 00:30:42.339 to the choir teacher. 793 00:30:42.359 --> 00:30:44.670 I'm not going to lie. But that's different. But I 794 00:30:44.730 --> 00:30:46.430 did really think she belonged. I mean, she's going to 795 00:30:46.450 --> 00:30:49.700 kill me that we're talking about choir. But I'm just 796 00:30:49.720 --> 00:30:51.480 going to say, like, I mean, you know, you have 797 00:30:51.519 --> 00:30:54.859 your moments as a parent. You're slightly competitive or whatever. 798 00:30:55.259 --> 00:30:59.349 But if you genuinely believe, I mean, I don't think 799 00:30:59.490 --> 00:31:01.869 that where you went to college is going to equate 800 00:31:01.890 --> 00:31:04.109 to your success as a human being or happiness. 801 00:31:04.789 --> 00:31:05.730 And that's what I think. 802 00:31:06.369 --> 00:31:08.890 And if it does, you you have a different view 803 00:31:08.930 --> 00:31:11.369 of life. I think it's really important for people to just, 804 00:31:11.730 --> 00:31:13.710 as you said, be raised to be kind and to 805 00:31:13.769 --> 00:31:15.789 be generous and happy. 806 00:31:16.009 --> 00:31:16.609 It scares me. 807 00:31:16.650 --> 00:31:18.339 And sometimes I think, is it because we raise kids 808 00:31:18.380 --> 00:31:20.150 in L.A. and New York or is it just everywhere? 809 00:31:20.170 --> 00:31:21.720 Is it in Oklahoma and Kansas, too? 810 00:31:21.740 --> 00:31:25.759 Who knows? I don't know. I don't live there. Yeah. 811 00:31:26.480 --> 00:31:29.740 So let me see that bracelet. It's a good one, right? Yeah, 812 00:31:29.809 --> 00:31:31.650 is that one for me? I kind of like it. 813 00:31:32.170 --> 00:31:32.990 I don't match them. 814 00:31:33.029 --> 00:31:33.349 I don't count. 815 00:31:33.369 --> 00:31:35.609 I can wear it with jeans. I don't either. No, 816 00:31:35.609 --> 00:31:37.250 feel free. Can I keep it? Of course. 817 00:31:37.329 --> 00:31:37.650 Really? 818 00:31:37.769 --> 00:31:39.630 Thank you. See, I have them do the work for me. 819 00:31:39.650 --> 00:31:41.089 That's Robert Wesley colors. I like it. 820 00:31:41.509 --> 00:31:42.589 Oh, there you go. 821 00:31:42.609 --> 00:31:45.450 You should work there. Do you talk there? Because I 822 00:31:45.470 --> 00:31:46.950 know that you also do. You said you do master class. No, 823 00:31:46.950 --> 00:31:47.319 but you know what? 824 00:31:47.339 --> 00:31:49.180 I'd love to talk there, and I also love Crossroads, 825 00:31:49.299 --> 00:31:51.680 so I would just talk anywhere that's not Brownwood. 826 00:31:54.269 --> 00:31:56.069 Actually, I could see you. You should be going to 827 00:31:56.089 --> 00:31:58.680 the schools. But guess what? That is something we really 828 00:31:58.759 --> 00:32:00.980 want to do. Because we don't go to the schools. 829 00:32:01.079 --> 00:32:02.359 We do want to do it. 830 00:32:02.660 --> 00:32:05.779 And I do teach at Fashion Institute. I do teach 831 00:32:05.799 --> 00:32:07.460 inner city. I'm going to shout out to the Youth 832 00:32:07.500 --> 00:32:11.259 Theater Project. Creative Kids Youth Theater Project. Every Wednesday at 833 00:32:11.299 --> 00:32:14.990 Norris Derry Elementary School. Cheryl Beck, my friend, does a 834 00:32:15.549 --> 00:32:20.180 no-cost project. after school musical theater program for 70 kids. 835 00:32:20.779 --> 00:32:23.579 And it's paid for by the paid program that she has, 836 00:32:23.619 --> 00:32:25.779 you know, for the, for the kids that can go 837 00:32:25.819 --> 00:32:28.559 from four to six. But on Wednesdays, the after school 838 00:32:28.619 --> 00:32:30.640 one 30 to three 30 program is completely free. 839 00:32:30.640 --> 00:32:32.279 70 kids. Where? 840 00:32:32.799 --> 00:32:36.099 Sawtelle, the North Derry school, wherever Sawtelle, like an Olympic 841 00:32:36.140 --> 00:32:38.180 around there. And I'm like one of her teachers, but 842 00:32:38.220 --> 00:32:39.799 like the funniest thing is I'm not even allowed to talk. 843 00:32:40.119 --> 00:32:41.480 I'm scared of Cheryl. 844 00:32:42.480 --> 00:32:42.740 Stop. 845

00:32:42.920 --> 00:32:45.400 You're not allowed to talk? How does this happen? I 846 00:32:45.440 --> 00:32:45.740 don't know. 847 00:32:45.819 --> 00:32:50.829 I quietly whisper to some of my favorite children. 848 00:32:50.849 --> 00:32:51.410 She's the boss. 849 00:32:51.470 --> 00:32:53.130 Let's talk about that a little bit. You two met 850 00:32:53.150 --> 00:32:55.609 when you were 17. I think most people know this story. 851 00:32:55.630 --> 00:32:56.869 There's got to be some. 852 00:32:56.750 --> 00:32:57.430 Of you who don't. 853 00:32:57.569 --> 00:32:59.750 I've got to go through it because I think it's charming, frankly. 854 00:33:00.309 --> 00:33:02.839 Patsy, it's your favorite story. I love how you get 855 00:33:02.859 --> 00:33:05.970 the cue. Patsy, it's your turn now. I'm tired now 856 00:33:06.009 --> 00:33:07.359 and I'm making beats. 857 00:33:09.079 --> 00:33:12.200 We met oddly. Our boyfriends were best friends. They were 858 00:33:12.240 --> 00:33:14.740 both New York transplants. We decided to. 859 00:33:14.680 --> 00:33:17.160 Meet in Vegas. How old were you? 860 00:33:17.160 --> 00:33:17.220 17. 861 00:33:17.200 --> 00:33:21.970 That's very normal. 862 00:33:22.230 --> 00:33:23.809 I would have done something like that at 14. Our 863 00:33:24.269 --> 00:33:26.690 parents let us. That was funny though. My boyfriend and 864 00:33:26.710 --> 00:33:29.289 I get off the plane. 865 00:33:28.789 --> 00:33:37.019 And They're greeting us at the gate. And Sharon is 866 00:33:37.440 --> 00:33:39.559 wearing this plunging. 867 00:33:39.140 --> 00:33:41.059 Halter, this color, I think. 868 00:33:41.779 --> 00:33:41.980 White. 869 00:33:42.839 --> 00:33:48.119 This color? Yes, it's vivid in my brain. We have 870 00:33:48.140 --> 00:33:52.549 a picture. I am wearing what I thought was appropriate 871 00:33:52.569 --> 00:33:53.690 for the occasion, a white. 872 00:33:54.099 --> 00:33:59.609 Matching jacket and pants from the Gap because I worked 873 00:33:59.670 --> 00:34:01.190 at the Gap and I had just gotten off work. 874 00:34:01.210 --> 00:34:03.329 Of what boys wear in the 70s? I'm only saying 875 00:34:03.349 --> 00:34:04.970 boys for the 70s because. 876 00:34:04.450 --> 00:34:06.789 I'm wearing it now. But it wasn't polyester. It was 877 00:34:06.809 --> 00:34:10.039 a white suit. Men wore leisure suits in the 70s. No, 878 00:34:10.239 --> 00:34:16.420 not that. It was more like jeans, only a long jacket. Anyway, whatever. 879 00:34:16.719 --> 00:34:19.880 We just immediately were stunned looking at each other because 880 00:34:19.920 --> 00:34:20.340 we knew. 881 00:34:20.239 --> 00:34:23.570 We were very different just before we said hello. Frightening, frightening. 882 00:34:23.909 --> 00:34:25.949 and then we had a great time you scared her 883 00:34:26.010 --> 00:34:28.210 we had a great no she scared. 884 00:34:27.769 --> 00:34:31.460 Me well you probably got off the plane and thought 885 00:34:31.480 --> 00:34:34.360

oh no no what kind of a weekend is this gonna. 886 00:34:34.199 --> 00:34:36.320 Be no it was a day and it turned into 887 00:34:36.340 --> 00:34:38.739 a weekend that's another part of the story but um 888 00:34:38.800 --> 00:34:41.949 basically we went to the casinos and we had dinner 889 00:34:41.969 --> 00:34:43.170 a really fun dinner. 890 00:34:42.949 --> 00:34:44.730 And we saw a show fifth dimension fifth. 891 00:34:44.670 --> 00:34:50.090 Dimension oh And then we decided, my boyfriend decided we 892 00:34:50.110 --> 00:34:51.070 should stay overnight. 893 00:34:51.110 --> 00:34:52.860 And I said, okay, cool. But we didn't have a room. 894 00:34:52.969 --> 00:34:56.440 So we went upstairs to Sharon and her husband, well, 895 00:34:56.579 --> 00:34:57.400 her boyfriend's room. 896 00:34:57.659 --> 00:35:00.519 Now husband. Now husband. And still married to him. Still married. 897 00:35:00.780 --> 00:35:03.500 I have a life sentence Patsy has on her second husband. 898 00:35:04.500 --> 00:35:07.219 And successful marriage. But I did marry that one. You 899 00:35:07.239 --> 00:35:10.340 did marry that one. That's kind of crazy. Anyway, and 900 00:35:10.380 --> 00:35:13.139 then we, the guys said, okay, we're going to go gamble. 901 00:35:13.159 --> 00:35:16.170 Bye. And they went downstairs, and we stared at each other. 902 00:35:16.210 --> 00:35:18.030 And Sharon went into the bathroom and came out in 903 00:35:18.070 --> 00:35:20.320 another plunging leopard negligee. 904 00:35:20.340 --> 00:35:22.960 I look like Peg Bundy from Married With Children. 905 00:35:23.400 --> 00:35:23.559 Oh, no. 906 00:35:23.579 --> 00:35:25.880 Just picture that. I love it. Well, you came out 907 00:35:25.940 --> 00:35:27.900 in a negligee for Patsy? I had a true soul 908 00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:29.480 for her husband. I know. I'm being silly. At 17, 909 00:35:29.480 --> 00:35:30.989 I had a true soul. I had a romantic vacation 910 00:35:31.010 --> 00:35:31.849 with her boyfriend. 911 00:35:31.909 --> 00:35:32.150 Wow. 912 00:35:32.769 --> 00:35:35.829 She gave me one of Richie's starched shirts that, you know. 913 00:35:35.849 --> 00:35:37.219 I put on to sleep in. 914 00:35:37.289 --> 00:35:37.719 Oh, my God. 915 00:35:37.780 --> 00:35:39.119 This is so typical. 916 00:35:39.239 --> 00:35:40.860 And we stared at each other, and we were wondering 917 00:35:40.880 --> 00:35:42.619 kind of what we were going to say to each other, 918 00:35:42.659 --> 00:35:43.159 and we didn't. 919 00:35:43.079 --> 00:35:43.639 Know each other. 920 00:35:43.800 --> 00:35:47.360 And so one of us spotted the backgammon board that 921 00:35:47.389 --> 00:35:49.969 Sharon had brought, and we played backgammon all night. 922 00:35:50.719 --> 00:35:53.880 It's the universal language backgammon. I have a backgammon set here. 923 00:35:53.940 --> 00:35:56.469 I swear to God, I read that about you. I'm 924 00:35:56.570 --> 00:35:59.550 so mad. I thought, bring down the backgammon set, Debra. 925 00:36:00.030 --> 00:36:01.630 I forgot it. I should have done it last night 926 00:36:01.650 --> 00:36:03.030 at midnight when I thought about it. No, we're fine. 927 00:36:03.050 --> 00:36:03.329 We're busy. 928 00:36:03.349 --> 00:36:03.820 We have a big day. 929 00:36:03.829 --> 00:36:06.519 We're beating. See, I'm not beating. But okay, so then 930 00:36:06.559 --> 00:36:09.179 after that, what? He came back to Los Angeles. Came 931 00:36:09.199 --> 00:36:12.960 back to L.A. Eventually, like a year later, Sharon and 932 00:36:13.000 --> 00:36:16.050 her got married. We just became friends. I moved to L.A. 933 00:36:16.090 --> 00:36:18.349 We became friends. We lived in the same apartment building. 934 00:36:18.369 --> 00:36:18.690 End of story. 935 00:36:18.710 --> 00:36:19.809 We lived in the same neighborhood. 936 00:36:19.829 --> 00:36:20.650 We raised our kids together. 937 00:36:20.670 --> 00:36:22.469 Yeah, but not really end of story. Here you are, 938 00:36:22.650 --> 00:36:27.110 beating on my table. So, I mean, a lot has happened. We're, like, related. Yeah, well, clearly. 939 00:36:27.130 --> 00:36:29.260 You raised your kids together, which is pretty outstanding. 940 00:36:29.440 --> 00:36:29.639 Yeah. 941 00:36:29.679 --> 00:36:30.880 And they're close, which is amazing. 942 00:36:30.900 --> 00:36:30.969 Yes. 943 00:36:30.980 --> 00:36:32.920 Because they don't have to like each other, but they're close. 944 00:36:33.239 --> 00:36:37.949 But Beanie's definitely the... The star attraction, the young girl. 945 00:36:38.409 --> 00:36:40.530 And she's she's also I just think she has like 946 00:36:40.550 --> 00:36:41.849 a voice for her generation. 947 00:36:42.050 --> 00:36:43.630 I mean, I am bragging, so I don't care. 948 00:36:44.010 --> 00:36:46.860 But I just think she's she's she's like a no 949 00:36:46.920 --> 00:36:49.539 one's perfect, but she has really good values and she's 950 00:36:49.579 --> 00:36:51.780 very sensible and she works hard and. 951 00:36:51.739 --> 00:36:52.280 She's a good girl. 952 00:36:52.980 --> 00:36:53.219 That's it. 953 00:36:53.260 --> 00:36:54.920 I think everybody agrees with that. Can we talk a 954 00:36:54.960 --> 00:36:57.760 little bit about Bette Midler? I mean, oh, my God. 955 00:36:57.960 --> 00:37:02.280 What a shining achievement. 956 00:37:02.510 --> 00:37:03.570 Oh, my God. 957 00:37:03.809 --> 00:37:05.590 When she was little, I went to a psychic and 958 00:37:05.809 --> 00:37:07.809 they said Beanie was going to be known by one 959 00:37:07.849 --> 00:37:10.869 name like Barbara and Bette. And I was like, oh, 960 00:37:11.210 --> 00:37:14.190 my God, my idols. And, I mean, when she got 961 00:37:14.210 --> 00:37:16.280 Hello Dolly, I couldn't breathe. 962 00:37:16.409 --> 00:37:18.920 Beanie couldn't breathe. How do you breathe? How do you 963 00:37:18.940 --> 00:37:21.179 make that call to your mother? No, no, she didn't 964 00:37:21.199 --> 00:37:22.780 have to make a

call. I was right there. She 965 00:37:23.000 --> 00:37:25.400 didn't have to call. How did you breathe? She did call, but, like, 966 00:37:25.440 --> 00:37:28.239 I was there. I just had a feeling. I mean, 967 00:37:28.260 --> 00:37:31.500 I have feelings about her. Don't we all? It's intuitive. 968 00:37:31.619 --> 00:37:34.150 Yeah, so I just had a feeling, but, like, Bette 969 00:37:34.190 --> 00:37:37.969 is just so unbelievable. I mean, I've only met her twice, 970 00:37:38.050 --> 00:37:41.090 but she's been so kind to Beanie, and she's just 971 00:37:41.230 --> 00:37:44.789 so talented, and... I mean, I could spend an hour 972 00:37:44.849 --> 00:37:47.309 talking about how I faint to be in the presence 973 00:37:47.449 --> 00:37:48.030 of Bette Midler. 974 00:37:48.150 --> 00:37:48.809 That's it, period. 975 00:37:48.829 --> 00:37:49.150 She's amazing. 976 00:37:49.170 --> 00:37:51.809 But who wouldn't? That's an incredible opportunity. She has her 977 00:37:51.889 --> 00:37:55.289 work ethic, her sense of humor, her kindness. She's just 978 00:37:55.329 --> 00:37:59.030 the best. The way she gives back, wonderful. Great person. 979 00:37:59.250 --> 00:38:03.429 Are your kids involved in Your Mom Cares? Well, I'm 980 00:38:03.449 --> 00:38:06.239 going to let Patsy feel that one. 981 00:38:06.380 --> 00:38:09.519 No, I will say that they are very proud of us, 982 00:38:10.360 --> 00:38:15.550 and I will say that Beanie... is involved in anything 983 00:38:15.590 --> 00:38:18.289 that we ask her to do, and she is 100% 984 00:38:18.289 --> 00:38:21.909 behind us, as are all her talented young friends, which 985 00:38:21.949 --> 00:38:24.360 is wonderful, because I've got the new Brat Pack. As 986 00:38:24.440 --> 00:38:26.699 a matter of fact, one of Beanie's best friends designed 987 00:38:26.760 --> 00:38:27.960 our artwork that we. 988 00:38:27.980 --> 00:38:29.920 Use, which is amazing. See, so it's collaborative. 989 00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:30.320 I love this. 990 00:38:30.340 --> 00:38:33.000 Yeah, it's totally collaborative. And I'd say that Bahati, because 991 00:38:33.019 --> 00:38:35.690 she's a young mom, is also- That's Adam's wife. 992 00:38:35.710 --> 00:38:35.869 Yes. 993 00:38:35.889 --> 00:38:38.579 Yes. Supermodel Behati, Prinslow Levine. 994 00:38:38.599 --> 00:38:38.980 Well, right. 995 00:38:39.000 --> 00:38:41.699 She's a mom of two now, which I think is 996 00:38:41.719 --> 00:38:44.059 so beautiful. I mean, you're just passing it forward, as 997 00:38:44.099 --> 00:38:44.539 they say. 998 00:38:44.599 --> 00:38:48.909 Yes, and that's actually going to help us draw attention 999 00:38:48.929 --> 00:38:49.750 to the younger moms. 1000 00:38:49.809 --> 00:38:51.969 We're really hoping to appeal to younger moms who. 1001 00:38:51.889 --> 00:38:53.610 Are now raising their babies. And our CEO is a 1002 00:38:53.610 --> 00:38:54.150 young mom. 1003 00:38:54.190 --> 00:38:56.570 That whole crowd is starting to pay attention. They're finally 1004 00:38:56.690 --> 00:38:58.820 understanding that I am so much hipper than they are. 1005 00:38:59.400 --> 00:39:01.539 That like they're finally getting in their heads that maybe 1006 00:39:01.559 --> 00:39:02.880 like they should listen to me for a minute. 1007 00:39:02.980 --> 00:39:04.239 What was it like when you grew up? Because I 1008 00:39:04.280 --> 00:39:07.289 know that I've read that you were very supported by 1009 00:39:07.309 --> 00:39:07.889 your family. 1010 00:39:07.909 --> 00:39:08.429 Is that true? 1011 00:39:08.949 --> 00:39:11.289 My father basically told me I could be the president 1012 00:39:11.309 --> 00:39:13.510 of the world, literally of the world. I had the 1013 00:39:13.550 --> 00:39:16.960 most supportive. My father thought he he he didn't have 1014 00:39:16.980 --> 00:39:18.320 a son at that point. He had a son very 1015 00:39:18.340 --> 00:39:18.780 late in life. 1016 00:39:19.070 --> 00:39:19.809 That I was like. 1017 00:39:19.929 --> 00:39:23.179 The gift to like, I was a super genius. I 1018 00:39:23.219 --> 00:39:25.119 was so smart and funny and I could do whatever 1019 00:39:25.179 --> 00:39:28.849 I wanted. And honestly, I was so lucky to be 1020 00:39:28.869 --> 00:39:29.250 brought up. 1021 00:39:29.230 --> 00:39:29.969 By a man. That's not common. 1022 00:39:30.239 --> 00:39:31.829 Not even now how about. 1023 00:39:31.679 --> 00:39:34.800 You I felt very supported I was the only girl 1024 00:39:34.880 --> 00:39:37.699 with two boys on either side of me and I 1025 00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:41.260 felt you know like I could be whatever I wanted 1026 00:39:41.300 --> 00:39:42.840 to be and do whatever I wanted to do it 1027 00:39:42.860 --> 00:39:45.440 was the 60s it was I think our parents well 1028 00:39:45.460 --> 00:39:48.010 mine I can only speak for myself My parents were 1029 00:39:48.030 --> 00:39:51.320 just hoping that we were gonna grow into. 1030 00:39:52.619 --> 00:39:53.659 Responsible people. 1031 00:39:53.699 --> 00:39:58.119 It was a generation of activism and there was the 1032 00:39:58.199 --> 00:39:59.889 Summer of Love and all that stuff and I think 1033 00:39:59.909 --> 00:40:02.929 they were just I know my dad, I remember vividly 1034 00:40:02.969 --> 00:40:05.300 my dad on the phone with my older brother talking 1035 00:40:05.320 --> 00:40:07.920 him out of dropping out of Northwestern after six weeks. 1036 00:40:08.699 --> 00:40:10.679 And he vehemently. What did he do? 1037 00:40:10.920 --> 00:40:11.380 He stayed. 1038 00:40:11.619 --> 00:40:12.099 He stayed. 1039 00:40:12.199 --> 00:40:12.420 Yeah. 1040 00:40:12.639 --> 00:40:14.360 I think my mother wanted me to be a pretty housewife, 1041 00:40:14.429 --> 00:40:17.210 but that wasn't exactly going to happen. My daughter, my sister, 1042 00:40:17.250 --> 00:40:19.699 my daughter. My sister was really beautiful and looks exactly 1043 00:40:19.739 --> 00:40:21.860 like my mother. My looks did not come

into play 1044 00:40:21.900 --> 00:40:23.239 until later on when Cher. 1045 00:40:23.260 --> 00:40:24.280 I was going to say, what are you kidding me? 1046 00:40:24.280 --> 00:40:26.630 No, but Cher brought my, I thank you Cher, another 1047 00:40:26.650 --> 00:40:29.050 one of my idols, because before that everybody had to 1048 00:40:29.090 --> 00:40:32.210 have like perfect noses and blown dry hair and, you know, 1049 00:40:32.309 --> 00:40:34.949 super skinny or I don't even know what, I don't 1050 00:40:34.969 --> 00:40:36.929 know what they had to have, but whatever they had 1051 00:40:36.949 --> 00:40:39.349 to have, it wasn't what I had. But my father's like, 1052 00:40:39.369 --> 00:40:42.210 you have everything, you know, like you have, you have, 1053 00:40:42.429 --> 00:40:44.809 you have it all. And if you focus on being 1054 00:40:44.869 --> 00:40:47.780 like smart and nice and funny and, You will always 1055 00:40:47.820 --> 00:40:50.429 be able to walk in a room, be interested, look, 1056 00:40:50.800 --> 00:40:51.699 get new things. 1057 00:40:52.050 --> 00:40:53.650 My God. My father was amazing. 1058 00:40:53.829 --> 00:40:55.610 Wow, I didn't quite have that. Now, my parents had 1059 00:40:55.630 --> 00:40:57.349 the best of intentions, let me just say. But they 1060 00:40:57.369 --> 00:40:59.690 would say, total it up at 25. 1061 00:40:59.690 --> 00:41:01.570 I'm like, what the hell does that mean? I'm five 1062 00:41:01.610 --> 00:41:03.590 years old. You know, my parents, they were.. 1063 00:41:03.809 --> 00:41:07.889 Yeah, and I asked later in life, like, what were 1064 00:41:07.909 --> 00:41:08.510 you thinking? 1065 00:41:09.030 --> 00:41:10.750 And, you know, they were of the Depression era, and 1066 00:41:10.769 --> 00:41:12.670 they said, you know, they had nothing. They had no money. 1067 00:41:12.730 --> 00:41:15.300 And they would say, well, I just wanted you to be.. 1068 00:41:16.010 --> 00:41:18.500 Ambitious and to do something and by the time you're 1069 00:41:18.500 --> 00:41:19.880 25 to go somewhere i'm like well you don't keep 1070 00:41:19.940 --> 00:41:21.920 saying that for a kid who's five i felt a 1071 00:41:21.940 --> 00:41:24.340 lot of pressure so it's great that you didn't feel 1072 00:41:24.380 --> 00:41:26.380 it because you had the freedom to just be who you. 1073 00:41:26.300 --> 00:41:28.260 Were well i did feel pressure i got married when 1074 00:41:28.280 --> 00:41:30.019 i was very young but i did feel pressure to 1075 00:41:30.119 --> 00:41:33.190 my mother i just felt pressure to have a boyfriend 1076 00:41:33.630 --> 00:41:35.730 so i had a really but you're like i had 1077 00:41:35.750 --> 00:41:38.130 a backup it's. 1078 00:41:38.070 --> 00:41:40.190 Always smart to have a backup just to keep them 1079 00:41:40.250 --> 00:41:43.630 on their toes exactly So I felt like I had to, like, 1080 00:41:43.750 --> 00:41:46.309 you know, in the 50s, the women had to have men. 1081 00:41:48.880 -->

00:41:49.480 Not anymore. 1082 00:41:49.619 --> 00:41:49.800 Nope. 1083 00:41:50.440 --> 00:41:52.440 Really not anymore. So much has changed. Now you just 1084 00:41:52.460 --> 00:41:52.940 need beads. 1085 00:41:53.239 --> 00:41:55.340 So now you just need beads. Okay, let's talk about 1086 00:41:55.920 --> 00:41:58.619 where do you see this? I mean, I can't even imagine. 1087 00:41:58.639 --> 00:42:01.679 We're talking about an hour already. No, only two hours. No, 1088 00:42:01.760 --> 00:42:04.760 where do you see this? We're finishing. I'm kind of 1089 00:42:04.820 --> 00:42:05.260 messing with you. 1090 00:42:06.869 --> 00:42:10.980 I always say that If we saved one kid, which 1091 00:42:11.019 --> 00:42:11.480 we have. 1092 00:42:11.539 --> 00:42:12.300 Which you have. 1093 00:42:12.420 --> 00:42:14.699 More than we've done our job. But I think this 1094 00:42:14.719 --> 00:42:17.829 should go on forever, way past Patsy and I. And 1095 00:42:18.030 --> 00:42:19.789 young people should take this over. And it should be 1096 00:42:19.809 --> 00:42:22.730 like Mothers Against Drunk Driving. It should be a name 1097 00:42:22.750 --> 00:42:26.610 that everybody knows. Everyone just says, your mom cares. We 1098 00:42:26.650 --> 00:42:28.760 know what that means. That means treat people fairly. That 1099 00:42:28.800 --> 00:42:30.380 means it's not mental illness. 1100 00:42:30.420 --> 00:42:32.280 It's an illness. The brain is part of your body. 1101 00:42:32.579 --> 00:42:36.340 We integrated, like integrative medicine, we have integrated mental health 1102 00:42:36.420 --> 00:42:40.000 into the word health. And we just are kinder and 1103 00:42:40.019 --> 00:42:40.880 more generous to people. 1104 00:42:41.800 --> 00:42:43.900 I like that you say it should be like Mothers 1105 00:42:43.960 --> 00:42:44.900 Against Drunk Driving. 1106 00:42:44.940 --> 00:42:47.579 That's my role model. That just rolls off your tongue. 1107 00:42:47.599 --> 00:42:48.280 It does. 1108 00:42:48.460 --> 00:42:50.420 And Sharon is the one who was inspired by that. 1109 00:42:50.500 --> 00:42:54.099 And I just, a fairly new friend asked me how 1110 00:42:54.159 --> 00:42:56.260 we thought of Your Mom Cares. 1111 00:42:56.300 --> 00:42:59.239 And I explained where we got the title technically, but 1112 00:42:59.750 --> 00:43:00.210 that we. 1113 00:43:00.130 --> 00:43:04.269 Wanted to be a household name like Mothers Against Drunk Driving. 1114 00:43:04.349 --> 00:43:06.909 Or Kleenex. And this is a young guy who I 1115 00:43:06.949 --> 00:43:09.030 wouldn't have even thought would know what Mothers Against Drunk 1116 00:43:09.050 --> 00:43:11.289 Driving is, but we want the longevity that they've had. 1117 00:43:11.329 --> 00:43:15.090 Look, it was conceived before this kid was born, and 1118 00:43:15.110 --> 00:43:15.889 he knew what it was. 1119 00:43:16.139 --> 00:43:19.699 We want to just have the world understand that Your 1120 00:43:19.719 --> 00:43:22.780 Mom

Cares stands for the things that we stand. 1121 00:43:22.579 --> 00:43:23.820 For, and we can expand that. 1122 00:43:24.179 --> 00:43:26.199 So people can go on your website, Your Mom Cares, 1123 00:43:26.260 --> 00:43:29.110 because I always think about the kid or the mom 1124 00:43:29.329 --> 00:43:31.429 who's scared to death. They don't know where to call 1125 00:43:31.489 --> 00:43:34.789 because they're scared. They're feeling down. They're embarrassed. 1126 00:43:34.809 --> 00:43:35.610 They're humiliated. 1127 00:43:36.949 --> 00:43:39.590 We have to get past that stigma. What are you 1128 00:43:39.610 --> 00:43:42.119 doing to just get it past that? the stigma of 1129 00:43:42.179 --> 00:43:45.050 mental health, you know, like, like you'll hear in conversation, oh, 1130 00:43:45.170 --> 00:43:47.170 they're depressed. 1131 00:43:47.190 --> 00:43:47.809 I know. 1132 00:43:47.829 --> 00:43:49.190 I agree. 1133 00:43:49.250 --> 00:43:51.309 I think the more people talk about it, the more 1134 00:43:51.329 --> 00:43:56.730 it becomes like anything else that has always been like question, like, like, 1135 00:43:57.250 --> 00:44:02.340 like transgender people, like, you know, transgender is real, real and, 1136 00:44:02.800 --> 00:44:08.519 and needs to be respected and whatever, um, sex you 1137 00:44:08.579 --> 00:44:11.500 relate to whatever sex you relate to he whatever pronoun 1138 00:44:11.519 --> 00:44:14.849 you want to use he she they we that's the 1139 00:44:14.889 --> 00:44:18.949 respect that you deserve mental health deserves respect it's part 1140 00:44:18.969 --> 00:44:22.130 of health and and i think if we just stop 1141 00:44:22.469 --> 00:44:25.150 and i am like a very sarcastic like not i 1142 00:44:25.190 --> 00:44:28.280 try not to be so much on podcasts I have 1143 00:44:28.320 --> 00:44:30.920 a joie de vivre about life, but I don't think 1144 00:44:30.980 --> 00:44:33.900 people should be mean. I think that there's a line. 1145 00:44:34.480 --> 00:44:37.380 If you cross the line from funny to. 1146 00:44:37.420 --> 00:44:41.179 Really mean, and I love funny. You're a funny lady. 1147 00:44:41.300 --> 00:44:46.030 And I like poking fun, but I don't like cruelness, 1148 00:44:46.090 --> 00:44:49.070 especially on social media, especially if someone's in a room 1149 00:44:49.369 --> 00:44:52.250 and they might not have a parent or a sibling 1150 00:44:52.510 --> 00:44:54.590 that they can talk to or a friend. And when 1151 00:44:54.650 --> 00:44:58.760 they're that alone... that's when the bad things come into 1152 00:44:58.800 --> 00:44:59.139 their head. 1153 00:44:59.159 --> 00:44:59.679 Yes, it does. 1154 00:44:59.699 --> 00:45:01.000 And I think a lot of us have been there. 1155 00:45:01.320 --> 00:45:04.309 So we know, um, our kids, ourselves, I get it. 1156 00:45:04.340 --> 00:45:06.420 So then what do you do like that? I'm going 1157 00:45:06.440 --> 00:45:09.000 to reach that one person who's listening to say, but, but, 1158 00:45:09.179 --> 00:45:10.059 but I don't know what to do. 1159 00:45:10.460 --> 00:45:11.900 Who do you call? Do you go on a website? 1160 00:45:11.920 --> 00:45:12.380 What do you do? 1161 00:45:12.420 --> 00:45:14.480 I mean, you've, I just want you to have something 1162 00:45:14.539 --> 00:45:16.699 out there that's going to be so big. I mean, 1163 00:45:16.760 --> 00:45:18.800 maybe it's, it's these apps that you're creating. 1164 00:45:18.840 --> 00:45:20.960 Well, I was going to say that the mechanic grace app, 1165 00:45:20.980 --> 00:45:22.500 which is not going to be the technical name for 1166 00:45:22.539 --> 00:45:25.219 it is going to be tested at a college and 1167 00:45:25.619 --> 00:45:27.059 And it's gonna be an app that way you can 1168 00:45:27.099 --> 00:45:29.699 reach out and somebody will respond. There's somebody like a 1169 00:45:29.760 --> 00:45:32.679 group that will respond. Our brain manager is a different 1170 00:45:32.760 --> 00:45:35.039 kind of an app. It's much, I don't wanna say 1171 00:45:35.079 --> 00:45:36.739 more efficient, but there are doctors associated with that. 1172 00:45:36.760 --> 00:45:37.380 It's more medical. 1173 00:45:37.960 --> 00:45:39.840 So that's a different kind of an app. We're meeting 1174 00:45:39.860 --> 00:45:41.500 with a bunch of different people that are coming up 1175 00:45:41.519 --> 00:45:45.179 with a bunch of different apps. And I just wrote 1176 00:45:45.719 --> 00:45:50.679 an essay for a book in England called It's Not 1177 00:45:50.739 --> 00:45:53.820 Okay to Feel Blue in Other Lies by Scarlett Curtis, 1178 00:45:53.840 --> 00:45:57.050 who's amazing. And her parents created Red Nose Day. 1179 00:45:57.570 --> 00:45:58.409 And she's amazing. 1180 00:45:58.690 --> 00:46:03.500 And it's for the charity called Shout, which is Prince 1181 00:46:03.619 --> 00:46:06.820 Harry's charity. It's a suicide hotline. So maybe we need 1182 00:46:06.860 --> 00:46:09.360 more suicide hotlines here. I mean, Patsy and I can't 1183 00:46:09.409 --> 00:46:10.929 do everything. Rome was not built in a day. 1184 00:46:11.230 --> 00:46:13.650 But we can try. We're trying. And if anybody wants 1185 00:46:13.690 --> 00:46:15.110 to help us, donate. 1186 00:46:15.750 --> 00:46:19.449 Donate that's the number one donate because this is small 1187 00:46:19.869 --> 00:46:22.190 they vet everything that they do it's not going to 1188 00:46:22.230 --> 00:46:25.139 go to some massive whatever it's a small operation they 1189 00:46:25.159 --> 00:46:26.760 can't even call it an operation. 1190 00:46:26.659 --> 00:46:29.480 It's basically the two of you and a group of 1191 00:46:29.519 --> 00:46:30.659 moms like five people and. 1192 00:46:30.639 --> 00:46:32.420 A group okay five people but you know what i'm 1193 00:46:32.440 --> 00:46:34.920 talking about it's not the big corporate office with 24s 1194 00:46:35.380 --> 00:46:38.719 it's you guys and all proceeds all proceeds go to 1195

00:46:38.760 --> 00:46:41.289 help with mental health Helpers. 1196 00:46:41.769 --> 00:46:42.010 Partners. 1197 00:46:42.070 --> 00:46:42.710 Or mental health. 1198 00:46:43.010 --> 00:46:43.210 Yes. 1199 00:46:43.469 --> 00:46:46.329 Partners. Things related to mental health. But besides that, if 1200 00:46:46.389 --> 00:46:48.670 they have, if they have, somebody says. 1201 00:46:48.699 --> 00:46:50.880 I want to give you a million dollars, but I 1202 00:46:50.940 --> 00:46:53.119 want it to go to a suicide hotline. 1203 00:46:53.599 --> 00:46:55.260 Fine. We'll build one for you. 1204 00:46:55.599 --> 00:46:57.559 We will get children's help and we will find one 1205 00:46:57.579 --> 00:47:00.179 of our partners to build one and not build one 1206 00:47:00.219 --> 00:47:03.320 or create one, but try to create one that's either better. 1207 00:47:03.949 --> 00:47:08.539 or more interesting, or more attractive, or more user-friendly than others. 1208 00:47:08.860 --> 00:47:10.260 Because or else, why would you give it to us? 1209 00:47:11.099 --> 00:47:12.079 We find those places. 1210 00:47:12.119 --> 00:47:13.820 I also like the idea of you both, because you 1211 00:47:13.840 --> 00:47:17.010 team so well. going to schools because i think you'll 1212 00:47:17.030 --> 00:47:18.849 have we'd love to do some adults who talk to 1213 00:47:18.889 --> 00:47:19.710 schools and the kids are. 1214 00:47:19.670 --> 00:47:21.329 In the back going i don't think brentwood's inviting me 1215 00:47:21.349 --> 00:47:22.570 there deborah but. 1216 00:47:22.369 --> 00:47:26.949 Like i'm ready no i'm talking everywhere around the country 1217 00:47:26.989 --> 00:47:28.739 we've been wanting to do that we want to go 1218 00:47:28.780 --> 00:47:31.219 on a bus we have a whole plan of everything 1219 00:47:31.260 --> 00:47:32.219 we want to do but we. 1220 00:47:32.119 --> 00:47:35.360 Have to get through like our podcasts our travel our 1221 00:47:35.460 --> 00:47:38.079 you know donors taking donors out going out tonight with 1222 00:47:38.159 --> 00:47:40.900 potential amazing donors like That's what we have to do. 1223 00:47:40.900 --> 00:47:42.300 It's a step at a time, but you've grown an 1224 00:47:42.340 --> 00:47:44.239 awful lot in the short time that you've done this. 1225 00:47:44.639 --> 00:47:47.360 Thank you both for being here. I really, really appreciate it. 1226 00:47:47.360 --> 00:47:49.159 I only have a couple of hives for being in Brentwood. 1227 00:47:50.760 --> 00:47:51.480 Sorry about that. 1228 00:47:51.699 --> 00:47:53.619 We moved here so my kids could walk to school. 1229 00:47:53.639 --> 00:47:55.139 I don't know what to say. If it were up 1230 00:47:55.179 --> 00:47:56.909 to me, where would I live? Would you guys live 1231 00:47:56.969 --> 00:48:00.230 here in L.A.? You live a little south of here. 1232 00:48:00.250 --> 00:48:01.869 You mean where would I live in L.A.? Or where 1233 00:48:01.889 --> 00:48:03.429 would I live in L.A.?

What was the question? Where 1234 00:48:03.449 --> 00:48:04.429 would you live? Is L.A. 1235 00:48:04.429 --> 00:48:04.670 Your home? 1236 00:48:04.690 --> 00:48:05.210 You live two places. 1237 00:48:05.230 --> 00:48:05.679 You live in L.A. 1238 00:48:05.789 --> 00:48:06.110 And New York. 1239 00:48:06.130 --> 00:48:07.449 I live in New York, and I have a little 1240 00:48:07.489 --> 00:48:10.239 place in the Berkshires, which Beanie and I specifically of 1241 00:48:10.280 --> 00:48:11.900 the family, the two of us love it the most. 1242 00:48:12.800 --> 00:48:14.699 Because it's like summer camp and we love summer camp. 1243 00:48:14.719 --> 00:48:17.980 Like that's where we went to camp. But I love Manhattan. 1244 00:48:18.199 --> 00:48:22.039 I do too. And I, you know, I don't hate, 1245 00:48:22.409 --> 00:48:25.909 I love Santa Monica. I like the beach. I like Venice. 1246 00:48:25.929 --> 00:48:28.050 We like all these things. Yeah, definitely. I like the beach. 1247 00:48:28.130 --> 00:48:28.869 I'm a big biker. 1248 00:48:28.889 --> 00:48:30.570 I used to be a marathoner until I got injured. 1249 00:48:30.590 --> 00:48:30.739 I'm not. 1250 00:48:31.119 --> 00:48:32.989 But I am, and I'll just go all the way 1251 00:48:33.010 --> 00:48:35.809 down to, like, past Redondo Beach and back. It's fun 1252 00:48:35.849 --> 00:48:37.739 living by the beach, but New York, come on. 1253 00:48:37.750 --> 00:48:39.170 You can't replicate New York. I just feel like you're 1254 00:48:39.210 --> 00:48:41.630 connected to people in New York. Like, I'm alone, like, 1255 00:48:41.730 --> 00:48:43.449 in my apartment a lot, but I don't ever feel 1256 00:48:43.469 --> 00:48:43.909 like I'm alone. 1257 00:48:43.929 --> 00:48:46.340 Like, even just go downstairs and somebody says hello to 1258 00:48:46.380 --> 00:48:48.260 me at the corner, like, newspaper stand, you know? 1259 00:48:48.280 --> 00:48:50.500 Well, I've always said it. Black, white, rich, poor, you've 1260 00:48:50.539 --> 00:48:51.460 got to knock into each other. 1261 00:48:51.980 --> 00:48:54.639 You just do because you're walking on the same sidewalk. 1262 00:48:54.960 --> 00:48:57.420 How about you? You like it here, right? You're lifelong. No. 1263 00:48:57.480 --> 00:48:57.599 No. 1264 00:48:58.099 --> 00:49:00.079 I'm not. I moved here when I was 15. 1265 00:49:00.079 --> 00:49:00.559 Hated it. 1266 00:49:01.539 --> 00:49:03.360 Went off to Berkeley, which I loved and would have 1267 00:49:03.380 --> 00:49:07.619 stayed there forever, but my future husband got a job here, 1268 00:49:07.739 --> 00:49:08.800 so I followed him here. 1269 00:49:08.820 --> 00:49:12.630 I love New York. My current husband and I lived 1270 00:49:12.650 --> 00:49:13.840 there for five years, and I love it. 1271 00:49:14.130 --> 00:49:14.750 I just love it. 1272 00:49:15.150 --> 00:49:17.170 Do you mind, just before we leave, sharing with me 1273 00:49:17.250 --> 00:49:20.480 briefly what were some of the biggest

struggles? or one 1274 00:49:20.599 --> 00:49:23.159 big struggle that you had to get through that you 1275 00:49:23.179 --> 00:49:25.519 almost thought like I don't know if I can make it. 1276 00:49:26.260 --> 00:49:28.659 I don't talk about my struggles you don't no they're 1277 00:49:28.679 --> 00:49:31.769 personal they're mine how about you well I mean I it's. 1278 00:49:31.849 --> 00:49:34.110 The obvious one for me would be divorce but that's 1279 00:49:34.190 --> 00:49:37.639 not anything that I could categorize as unusual. 1280 00:49:37.719 --> 00:49:38.920 People get divorced all the time. 1281 00:49:38.940 --> 00:49:40.239 No, it just depends on how we all take it. 1282 00:49:40.260 --> 00:49:40.940 It's very difficult. 1283 00:49:40.960 --> 00:49:43.610 It was, you know, at the time, very traumatic. 1284 00:49:43.710 --> 00:49:45.630 Sharon scooped me up off the sidewalk. 1285 00:49:45.650 --> 00:49:47.110 She gives me way too much credit. I think everybody 1286 00:49:47.150 --> 00:49:47.769 needs Sharon. 1287 00:49:48.010 --> 00:49:48.190 No. 1288 00:49:48.210 --> 00:49:50.409 She scoops everybody off the sidewalk. I don't scoop. 1289 00:49:50.429 --> 00:49:50.489 No. 1290 00:49:51.210 --> 00:49:52.050 No, she really did. 1291 00:49:52.110 --> 00:49:55.090 She supported me very, very much so with my kids 1292 00:49:55.590 --> 00:49:57.489 when I was feeling, you know, very down. 1293 00:49:58.420 --> 00:50:00.800 I did not. And that's when you go talk to somebody. 1294 00:50:01.000 --> 00:50:02.300 I'll just call Sharon. That's what I did. 1295 00:50:02.480 --> 00:50:03.860 I feel like that all the time. 1296 00:50:03.969 --> 00:50:06.909 I'm blocking you. No, don't. I have a couple of numbers. 1297 00:50:07.030 --> 00:50:09.190 I'm putting you on silent. No, no, don't do that. No, 1298 00:50:09.210 --> 00:50:11.289 I wouldn't do that. I'm just kidding. Do not disturb. Okay, no, 1299 00:50:11.449 --> 00:50:15.210 don't do that. Thank you for bringing the beads. Yourmomcares.org. 1300 00:50:15.230 --> 00:50:17.130 There's a lot of ways that you can get involved. 1301 00:50:17.170 --> 00:50:20.309 So for me, I say go onto the website. You 1302 00:50:20.349 --> 00:50:21.230 can purchase beads. 1303 00:50:21.510 --> 00:50:23.010 I love this one. You can have a beading party. 1304 00:50:23.110 --> 00:50:23.309 Yes. 1305 00:50:23.329 --> 00:50:24.969 Because my girlfriends want to have one. Oh, let's start that, Deborah. 1306 00:50:24.989 --> 00:50:25.630 Let's talk about that. 1307 00:50:25.710 --> 00:50:26.590 Okay, please. 1308 00:50:26.809 --> 00:50:30.010 Challenge your friends. To have a beading party. But didn't 1309 00:50:30.030 --> 00:50:31.489 I hear you say once that you would come? 1310 00:50:31.710 --> 00:50:31.889 Yes. 1311 00:50:32.750 --> 00:50:35.530 We will come. It's like Tupperware, but better. There's also, 1312 00:50:35.550 --> 00:50:37.889 I think, like sex parties. Not sex parties. Like sex 1313 00:50:37.949 --> 00:50:39.929 toy parties. So it's not as good as those, but 1314 00:50:39.949 --> 00:50:42.250 it's better than Tupperware. It's a lot better than Tupperware. 1315 00:50:42.269 --> 00:50:45.159 Tupperware is plastic. Just don't serve popcorn. Just don't? 1316 00:50:45.219 --> 00:50:45.489 Don't? 1317 00:50:45.800 --> 00:50:47.239 No, because you'll eat them instead. 1318 00:50:47.280 --> 00:50:48.460 You'll eat the beads instead of the popcorn. 1319 00:50:48.579 --> 00:50:51.079 Well, thank you so much for being here. Beading party, ladies. 1320 00:50:51.119 --> 00:50:53.340 I'm serious. Get in touch with me. I'll get in 1321 00:50:53.360 --> 00:50:55.489 touch with them. I'll show up. I will show up. 1322 00:50:56.159 --> 00:50:57.400 And you can believe that. She will show up. I 1323 00:50:57.400 --> 00:50:57.739 will show up. 1324 00:50:57.760 --> 00:50:59.480 So thank you both for being here. I know it 1325 00:50:59.519 --> 00:51:00.619 was a lot to get this coordinated. 1326 00:51:00.639 --> 00:51:03.070 I love your studio. Isn't it beautiful? It's fabulous. Isn't 1327 00:51:03.090 --> 00:51:06.230 it gorgeous? We do a lot out of here. Have 1328 00:51:06.269 --> 00:51:08.650 us back. We'll find out something else. Yeah, or record 1329 00:51:08.670 --> 00:51:10.650 something of your own here. It's my pleasure, honestly. Oh, 1330 00:51:10.690 --> 00:51:12.730 that's so nice. We've got a great green screen. I 1331 00:51:12.750 --> 00:51:13.340 really mean that. 1332 00:51:13.360 --> 00:51:15.500 Just show up, use the green screen, and make it 1333 00:51:15.519 --> 00:51:16.440 a Your Mom Cares Day. 1334 00:51:16.949 --> 00:51:19.050 That would be fun. That would be fun if all 1335 00:51:19.070 --> 00:51:20.670 of our mothers would come here and say a little 1336 00:51:20.690 --> 00:51:23.139 bit of something. I would be my own, right, Anthony? 1337 00:51:23.159 --> 00:51:25.800 You'd have to interview them because we can't interview each other. Yeah, 1338 00:51:26.019 --> 00:51:27.659 you just say it. We've got the space for you. 1339 00:51:27.739 --> 00:51:30.840 That's awesome. Thank you, Anthony. And Anthony would be there, too. 1340 00:51:30.880 --> 00:51:32.719 He loves doing it. He's got such an old soul. 1341 00:51:32.820 --> 00:51:33.440 He's sweet. 1342 00:51:34.219 --> 00:51:38.449 Anyway, everybody, thank you for being here. Yourmomcares.org, please. 1343 00:51:38.630 --> 00:51:41.670 And follow us on Instagram. Their Instagram is so cool. 1344 00:51:41.690 --> 00:51:43.409 Oh, God, I have to give one more shout-out. I 1345 00:51:43.469 --> 00:51:46.610 love your Instagram because it's not one of these planned... 1346 00:51:46.590 --> 00:51:48.510 Perfect little pictures that you have to find of an 1347 00:51:48.610 --> 00:51:51.329 ocean that you know that you didn't take. They make 1348 00:51:51.389 --> 00:51:52.070 me crazy. 1349 00:51:52.369 --> 00:51:54.130 Or food that you never even cooked. 1350 00:51:54.449 --> 00:51:55.650

Your Instagram is real stuff. 1351 00:51:55.690 --> 00:51:57.659 This morning, I know that you were posing. Not posing. Oh, 1352 00:51:57.670 --> 00:52:01.389 about Teddy. Oh, Teddy Fox. Yes. Yeah. I love Teddy Fox. 1353 00:52:01.389 --> 00:52:03.699 That was beautiful. So you also support.. 1354 00:52:04.150 --> 00:52:06.969 Other um charitable organizations to give yeah you. 1355 00:52:06.909 --> 00:52:09.429 Know i won't i won't say who thank you because 1356 00:52:09.449 --> 00:52:11.429 somebody said to me like you know why do you 1357 00:52:11.489 --> 00:52:14.610 post other people's oh come on and i'm like it's 1358 00:52:14.809 --> 00:52:18.960 everybody's cause it's like every cause is everybody's cause. 1359 00:52:19.300 --> 00:52:21.039 And and i noticed that and i saw that about 1360 00:52:21.079 --> 00:52:21.940 you yeah both well. 1361 00:52:21.860 --> 00:52:24.260 I mean i don't think i mean teddy's family but 1362 00:52:24.880 --> 00:52:27.340 um but that's not i'm not even talking about teddy 1363 00:52:27.360 --> 00:52:30.190 i'm saying we we support this is about humanity and 1364 00:52:30.210 --> 00:52:33.050 you know Because there are other people's causes. 1365 00:52:33.250 --> 00:52:36.210 You know Zoe. There are other people's causes. And Elsa. 1366 00:52:36.289 --> 00:52:40.059 There are other people's causes. They're all our causes. The environment. 1367 00:52:40.119 --> 00:52:42.659 We have to breathe the same air, drink the same water. 1368 00:52:43.119 --> 00:52:45.480 I call it pass it forward. Not pay it forward, 1369 00:52:45.500 --> 00:52:46.420 but pass it forward. 1370 00:52:46.460 --> 00:52:48.619 You do one good deed for somebody, they're going to 1371 00:52:48.659 --> 00:52:50.659 pass it forward to somebody else. So if you support 1372 00:52:50.699 --> 00:52:54.159 somebody else's foundation, organization, charity, they're going to support yours 1373 00:52:54.239 --> 00:52:54.980 or somebody else's. 1374 00:52:55.039 --> 00:52:56.619 I mean, it's all good. But even if they didn't, 1375 00:52:56.719 --> 00:52:58.239 we did the right thing. You did the right thing. 1376 00:52:58.460 --> 00:52:59.800 You did the right thing. And we believe in them. 1377 00:53:00.239 --> 00:53:00.360 Yeah. 1378 00:53:00.719 --> 00:53:02.539 And kudos to all these other people that are doing 1379 00:53:02.559 --> 00:53:04.320 all these wonderful things. Yeah, there's a lot of people, 1380 00:53:04.380 --> 00:53:05.579 and they are doing great things. Takes the whole world. 1381 00:53:05.719 --> 00:53:07.940 And I will just give a shout-out. 1382 00:53:07.260 --> 00:53:10.340 To Zoe Winkler-Rhine. She's going to be here next week 1383 00:53:10.619 --> 00:53:12.090 in that seat. Hey, Zoe! 1384 00:53:12.389 --> 00:53:15.429 It's all about humanity. This is about humanity? This is 1385 00:53:15.469 --> 00:53:16.530 about humanity. Oh, my God. 1386 00:53:16.849 --> 00:53:19.469 What they're doing, and also in a short period of time, 1387 00:53:19.909 --> 00:53:23.070 with the kids coming over here who are here, who 1388 00:53:23.090 --> 00:53:26.860 crossed the border, it's an outstanding thing that she's doing, really. 1389 00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:28.539 And we're trying to build a.. 1390 00:53:29.550 --> 00:53:32.570 Psychiatric component to that mental health component to that you 1391 00:53:32.590 --> 00:53:34.550 know we we're not you know they're doing what they're 1392 00:53:34.570 --> 00:53:36.929 doing but if we can ever help on that other 1393 00:53:37.050 --> 00:53:39.289 end that's what we want collaborating it's a good thing 1394 00:53:39.369 --> 00:53:41.070 yeah we support them but if we could even take 1395 00:53:41.110 --> 00:53:42.409 it one step further we'd love it. 1396 00:53:42.570 --> 00:53:44.590 I hope so because there's those kids have got. 1397 00:53:44.369 --> 00:53:46.320 To have yeah they have to be scared without their 1398 00:53:46.340 --> 00:53:49.900 parents and horrifying anxiety it's awful post-traumatic stress. 1399 00:53:49.739 --> 00:53:51.059 Have you gone down there because i want to go 1400 00:53:51.079 --> 00:53:53.099 down there with her no we were invited but i 1401 00:53:53.179 --> 00:53:55.480 don't think we can go till january No, I know. 1402 00:53:55.539 --> 00:53:55.920 It's busy. 1403 00:53:55.940 --> 00:53:58.000 She does it once a month. So we'll talk about 1404 00:53:58.019 --> 00:54:02.119 that in another book. You're busy with your mom cares. 1405 00:54:02.139 --> 00:54:04.659 Thank you both for being here. I appreciate it. Thank you. 1406 00:54:05.059 --> 00:54:06.159 Get in touch with me. We're going to do the 1407 00:54:06.179 --> 00:54:07.739 beating party. I'm going to get my friends. You're going 1408 00:54:07.760 --> 00:54:08.090 to come. 1409 00:54:08.110 --> 00:54:09.969 Maybe there'll be a surprise guest. 1410 00:54:09.989 --> 00:54:11.550 You never know. My friend Bruno could show up. You 1411 00:54:11.570 --> 00:54:11.949 never know. 1412 00:54:12.789 --> 00:54:13.050 Bruno? 1413 00:54:13.409 --> 00:54:15.760 Well, that's another whole thing. Yeah, it's another podcast. Dirty 1414 00:54:15.800 --> 00:54:18.260 but delicate. We'll send him to your link. Dirty but delicate. 1415 00:54:18.360 --> 00:54:18.639 Okay. 1416 00:54:19.039 --> 00:54:21.500 Thank you, everybody, for being here. Deborah Cobalt Live. We're 1417 00:54:21.519 --> 00:54:23.000 going to do a beading party. I didn't quite get 1418 00:54:23.019 --> 00:54:23.610 through my beads. 1419 00:54:23.639 --> 00:54:25.730 Sorry, everybody. It was harder than I thought. 1420 00:54:25.750 --> 00:54:27.369 I had to put all my effort into it, which 1421 00:54:27.429 --> 00:54:31.590 is a good thing. Please, you'll find us on YouTube, Facebook. 1422 00:54:31.610 --> 00:54:34.159 We post all of our promos on Instagram. And if 1423 00:54:34.179 --> 00:54:38.219 you just get your podcast by listening, we are on everything. Spotify, 1424 00:54:38.840 --> 00:54:42.210 the iHeartRadio app. We are on Apple Podcasts. Honestly, just 1425 00:54:42.250 --> 00:54:46.389 about anything else that's out there, we're there. Debra Cobelt Live. 1426 00:54:47.190 --> 00:54:49.469 Thank you so much for being here today, and thank 1427 00:54:49.489 --> 00:54:49.889 you both. 1428 00:54:49.769 --> 00:54:51.449 For being here. Thank you for having us, Debra. See 1429 00:54:51.469 --> 00:54:52.550 you next time with Zoe. 1430 00:54:52.610 --> 00:54:52.869 Bye-bye. 1431 00:54:53.269 --> 00:54:53.889 Oh, yay, Zoe.