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Jaden Hummel: So choose what you want. What is the most important thing that you're working toward right now? And be honest with yourself. Do you want safety and stagnancy? Or do you want to grow and expand? What does growing and expanding
Founder's Compass with Jaden Hummel: Welcome to Congruent the Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Hummel. I believe that congruence is our greatest contribution to the world, and it's where the best ideas and actions take shape. On this show, we'll be exploring the intersection of personal alignment, business, and what it means to lead a life that is completely congruent with who you are. So if you're an entrepreneur and you're here to see how good both life and business can get, I look forward to hanging out with you on the show.
Jaden Hummel: I was just sitting in my house creating a series of launch materials for Open Field. And I was posting about it and sharing about it. And after I pressed play or sent the promotional materials out, I was thinking about priorities and the thing that gets in the way of so many people doing the things that we want. And with anything in life that we go to create, we are going to experience oftentimes if we're not fully 100% doing the thing that we want. We are experiencing some amount of ambivalence. You experience ambivalence all the time. It essentially means that there's competing desires. Part of you wants to do one thing, the other part of you wants to do another thing. You felt this a million times before, likely when you wanted to go work out and part of you wants to go and work out and be strong, the other part of you wants to sit at home and watch TV. Or anything in your life you can recall experiencing this ambivalence when you've been in between two things. The reason why this becomes so important when it comes to doing the thing that you really want to do in your life, bringing your business to the next level that you want to bring it to, collaborating with the level of people that you want. Now you're listening to this podcast and you're in this place right now, and I want you to think about your life. Maybe it's your surroundings, your home, the quality of your relationships, where your business is, the people that you're collaborating with, the clients that you're working with. And everything that's going on in your world, it might be amazing, it might be good, it might be great. And then I want you to think about, or it might not be at all. And you know, wherever you are, okay? And then I want you to think about where you want to go. And if you could wave a magic wand, if you could have it your way, if you can snap your fingers, knowing what you know that you might potentially be capable in this lifetime, what is it that you want? How would you want your, I think about homes. If you listen to this podcast and you know me, everything is through the lens of a home. What's the kind of house that you want to live in? Who are the kind of people that you want to be connecting with? What are the kind of conversations that you want to have? How do you want to feel when you're moving about the world? What place do you want to fit into the world? Where do you want your placement to be? What do you see for yourself? What do you see for your business? What does that look like? Okay? When you start to think about this, whether this is the first time you've thought about this, or you've done a hundred million visioning exercises, or you wake up and do my gratitude morning practice every single day, where you sit in gratitude and you sit in your vision every single day and you've thought about this a million times, I want you to think about it again. Okay. When you think about what you want to create, if you don't already have that exact thing that you just envisioned that you wanted. It is because there's a part of you that wants it and then there's a part of you that doesn't. This ambivalence can show up for many reasons. Oftentimes, what I see is the part of you that doesn't want the big vision that you want is the part of you that wants to keep you safe. It's the part of you that wants to keep you in the same situation. So that you don't have to worry about what are people gonna think about you? Will some of the people in your life reject this new thing that you're creating? Will doing this thing that you want? cause some clients that you have to not be able to come to the next level with you? Will it cause some of your family members to think a certain way? Will it cause some people that you went to college with or that you worked with in the past to think, my gosh, what is this person doing? There's a part of you that wants this big next level. Likely it's something because we're talking about business, you probably want to, create a more aligned level of work, create something different. Maybe it's making more money, maybe it's being on a bigger stage. Okay? And then there's a part of you that wants to stay safe in the same situation. But the most important thing that I want to share right now is to really think about what is your priority. What is the most important thing because that is what's going to win in your priority in your motivation. Is gonna tell you exactly what you're gonna do. And so if your priority motivation, the most important thing in the world for you is to stay safe, to not ruffle any feathers, to not fail, then that's what you'll do. You'll do the same thing every day, you'll stay in the same situation, you'll stay safe. Because your priority motivation is that. Double your income by the end of the year, then that's what you will do. And all of a sudden that will override the need to be safe, the need to not be rejected, the need to not ruffle any feathers, because that's your priority motivation. You can look at it in different areas of life, right? Like think about a time that you've maybe made an irresponsible decision because you wanted to do something. Maybe in the middle of a
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really busy time in work, you ended up going on. Some big vacation. Your priority motivation was to go on vacation. Your priority motivation was to go and do something fun. And it wasn't to sit in your office and work. And so you sacrificed maybe some of the work that you missed out on to go on this vacation because that was your priority motivation. If your priority motivation is to sit on the couch and feel comfortable, you won't go to the workout class. If your priority motivation is to feel at your peak performance, absolute best, and you're willing to sacrifice everything, you'll go to the gym or you'll go do the thing that you want to do. The priority motivation is the thing that you end up doing. And so here's the next layer, and the one that people often miss is to be honest with yourself. And the place where we experience the most pain in the world. is when we are not choosing something. It's when we're in this ambivalence. I kind of want to go to the gym. I kinda wanna stay at home. It's like the most painful thing in the world. Or I kind of want to collaborate with these people. I kind of want to, you know, be doing this bigger thing in my business. But I kind of just like my life the way it is. Okay? So here's the part I really want you to get from this episode is to choose. Choose what your Primary thing is that you're wanting right now. I can speak for this personally, that there are some times in my life where my primary motivation is to kind of stay chill, let things be the way that they are. In the last year maybe of my business, I actually wanted the business just to grow ever so slightly. I wasn't really wanting the business to be as big and bad and amazing and huge and profitable as it possibly could have been. My motivation was to really strengthen the roots and have it grow slightly. The reason was I was doing a lot of personal growth, a lot of things changing in my personal life, and I actually wanted a lot of my energy to go toward that while strengthening the roots of the business and just growing it ever so slightly. And so I wasn't as worried about. huge collaborations, getting on stage, doing this, 10xing my income. And so when I wasn't doing these huge collaborations or 10Xing my income like I have in the past, I didn't feel bad because I was choosing lots of personal growth and personal transformation, a strengthened business that is, you know, growing slightly, which it did. Okay. And I was totally happy with that because I was choosing it. And then I hit this point where I had succeeded in that. Business really grew foundationally. It grew from the last year. And now I want to do bigger collaborations, bigger things. And I'm choosing that. And now I get to choose that. Now, if I don't go and do these collaborations or I don't do these next level things, I will then feel bad because I'm choosing it. But when I wasn't really choosing it and I wasn't really doing it, I didn't feel bad. So I want you to get clear about
what you want. And the reason I share that story is because you don't have to want to 10x your income today. You don't have to want to be on stage today. You just have to align the thing that you're working toward with your primary motivation. Because if you want something and you're not working toward it, that is how you experience complete dissatisfaction and misery and pain in your life. So choose what you want. What is the most important thing that you're working toward right now? And be honest with yourself. Do you want safety and stagnancy? Do you want, you know, to kind of keep things the way that they are? Or do you want to grow and expand? What does growing and expanding look like to you? The reason I started this story is because it, you know, I shared a bunch of launch materials today and I thought about all of the women who have come to me over the years. in not wanting to put their message out in the world or they didn't want to feel too salesy or they didn't want to do this. And it's so easy for me to put out these launch materials because my primary motivation is to bring women into open field to tell people about the program, to let them know it's possible. The primary motivation isn't to have things stay the same. And so that primary motivation of wanting people to know what's possible inside of Open Field. I want women entrepreneurs to know that there's this place where they can come and get clear, where there's this place that having a five-minute conversation can unlock the next six months of momentum. To know that there's this place where instead of Waking up at your dining room table or waking up and sitting at your dining room table and feeling confused or not orienting your energy in the right place is the thing that can halt a launch plan or sabotage months of work versus having this place like open field to come get clear, get feedback, know exactly what your next move is. It's a difference that might allow you to revamp your personal brand, start writing the book. See a huge increase in your income be operating at a whole new level. I want people to know that this exists. So it's my primary motivation, and I'm willing to do anything that it takes to let people know. I would be willing to hang flyers all over town. I'd be willing to go outside and hold up the sign and look crazy and look silly and risk embarrassment because my number one priority is to just let people know that it's possible. This overrides all of The competing desires. Because the strongest desire is what I want, and therefore it becomes easy. But the part that I want you to really get from this is to scan your desires right now. Part of you might want to feel safe, part of you might want whatever to keep the peace, to keep things cashed, part of you might want to, up it to the next level. Which part do you want the most? And can you be really clear and really honest about that? And you might have to ask yourself, why do I want this? Why is this important for me? What will that then do for me in my life? Why is it so important for me to get my whole body on board with this next thing? See the vision play out, see what that might unlock, see what kind of energy that might give you in your life to do this. Into the end of your life and go imagine if you're, you know, well into your 90s looking back on your life, what would you have wanted to do? These are the things that need to become most important. I've had people ask me questions or interview me on podcasts about how do I do certain things, how have I put myself out there, how do I make decisions. I'm not perfect, you know, but I've Done this in life a lot where I've opened a lot of different businesses. I've done a lot of different things that I wanted to do. I can look around in my life and go, wow, I can't believe how amazing it is. I'm so happy. I've done a lot of the things that I wanted to do. How do I do it? I never had to time block. I never had to push through. I never had to, you know, learn how to be productive or to organize my time or to grind through anything. I've just decided that doing the things that align with my soul. are the most important things. It is my number one North Star is to see what's possible in my soul in this lifetime. And so that might be scary. It might mean this, that, or the other, but it's more important than all of the other things. And so with that being my North Star, it becomes really easy to make the decisions that I want, to do the things that I want to do. to follow through, to put myself out there. And it doesn't mean that I'm constantly one thousand percent of the time in this crazy expansive business trajectory. Like I said a couple minutes ago, my priority the last year has been more so in my personal life. But that is still in my mind, in that North Star of seeing what's possible in my soul. It doesn't just mean business, it also means other things, right? But that North Star, the most important thing in the world, is seeing what I'm capable of and seeing what I can do in this lifetime, is the lens through which I make all decisions. And when am not choosing to do something wild and crazy or to go to the gym or to do the next level thing, the thing that gives me all the energy in my life is I just choose to do the thing that I want. If I'm in between, do I go to the yoga class or do I stay at home? Actually, for example, this morning I was gonna go to a 10 a.m. CrossFit class and I woke up this morning at 9 a.m. I hadn't signed up for the class, but I wasn't sure and I decided, you I'll choose in the morning. And I woke up at nine and I just went, you know, I'm gonna choose to stay at home. And I love that choice. I'm not gonna go, should I go to CrossFit? Should I not? Okay, I'm gonna stay at home, but I wonder if I should have gone. I'm just gonna choose to stay at home. Why am I gonna choose to stay at home? That's gonna be the thing that gives you more energy. That's gonna be the thing that makes me feel good. That's gonna be the thing that allows me to have more creative energy in my life to do the things that I want to do. If I felt that CrossFit was the thing that was going to give me the energy in my life to do the things that I wanted to do, I would have gone to CrossFit. But it's all through the lens of how can I see what's possible in my soul. Which part of that is having the energy to show up for the things that I want, which sometimes means showing up in a big way. And it sometimes means showing up by saying no to something, showing up by choosing where you are right now. in the energy and the extraordinariness, if that's a word, is not only in choosing the big thing, but it's choosing in every single part of your life what you want. I'm gonna choose not to post on social media today. I'm gonna choose not to show up online this week and I'm gonna love that decision. Or am I gonna choose to go all out on social media? Am I gonna choose to bring this message into the world? And can you stand behind that one completely? Into this next week of your life or bring this lens into what you're creating. I want you to think of your priority. And so in every decision that you make, just notice. You don't have to do anything different, but just notice what your priority is. And you'll see that that priority shapes everything. And I want you to do either one of two things. I want you to love where you are right now and go, this is amazing. My priority is relaxing and enjoying life. And I'm just gonna love it. I'm gonna not do the things that I wanna do, and I'm gonna relax and I'm gonna enjoy life. Or is your priority doing these next level things, creating this thing in your business, going to the gym, going and doing that? And can you choose that your priority is expansion and love that? It doesn't actually matter what you're choosing. I'm not partial to one or the other, as long as it is true. And it's accurate for what you're actually wanting in your life right now.
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