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Welcome back to SK Stories.
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Today we're talking with Heather.
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To start, tell us a little bit about yourself and your family.
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Um, I'm Heather Burlingame.
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Uh my husband and I, um Alan, have five kids.
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One is Alec, and he is at BJU right now.
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He was never homeschooled, and we have four girls who are all being homeschooled now, um ages 15 down to nine.
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You have your hands full of good things.
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Yes, good things.
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So, how would you describe your family's personality or rhythm?
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As biblical as we can be.
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That's what we always tell our kids.
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We try to live as biblical as we possibly can.
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Um, we're very laid back.
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Um, we love the beach, but that every in everything we do, we want to be as biblically sound as we can be.
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Um, so whatever that in in whatever that is.
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Absolutely.
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That's a wonderful goal.
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I applaud you for that.
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What originally drew you to the idea of homeschooling?
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Um, having my children with me all day, every day, which um I'm sure you've heard a lot of people say I could never stay home with my children all day, every day.
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No, that's um our first child was a surprise.
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We didn't know we were gonna have a child.
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And so when I had him, I thought, I can't be away from him all day.
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Like I have to, you know, have some way to have him with me all day.
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He ended up going to private school, but um, when we started having more children, I thought, I these they can stay home with me.
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We can do this.
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Um, so I can probably give them a more biblical outlook on life than the school system can.
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Even a private school, my son went to a private Christian school.
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Um, but I thought we can do this at home, why not?
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Absolutely, yeah.
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And you're in the thick of things now with them, aren't you?
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Yes, yes.
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So, what surprised you the most about homeschooling?
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Probably how easy, not that it's easy, but it can be easy and fun, but also how exhausting it can be all at the same time, right?
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To have four at home um is exhausting, but it's so much fun.
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It's you get to see every little detail that if they're somewhere else, if somebody else gets to educate them, you don't get to to see the reading going from not reading at all to reading chapter books or whatever it is.
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Um, is that is the joy of life is seeing your children progress like that, you know.
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Absolutely.
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That is an absolute treasure that we get to have as homeschool parents.
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Yes, I couldn't imagine not having that.
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So have your girls always been homeschooled then?
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Some of them have.
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So my youngest, we started in COVID time.
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Um they had my son and three daughters in private Christian school.
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And when COVID hit, everybody was sent home.
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And we did school at home from the private school.
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Um, and then when August came back around, that was in March, I guess.
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And when August came back around, I thought, no, we can do this at home.
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Um, and they don't have to, we don't have to spend the money for private Christian school.
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And um so my third grader came home at that time, because she was going into fourth grade, and I had kindergartners who were going into first grade, and then a toddler, right?
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Oh wow.
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She was gonna start pre-K.
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Um, so my youngest never went to school, um, but the others have.
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But my kindergartners, they only went what half the year, so they don't remember too much about real school, as they say.
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But um, my son never never went to homeschooled.
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So, can you walk us back to when homeschooling first became a real option in your mind?
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And what was going on?
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It sounds like COVID was happening and all of that.
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Yes, yes.
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So COVID opened my eyes to we can do this.
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Like, there's no reason the teachers are just not the teachers aren't valuable in resources, but they were sending home what we were to do at home.
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My kindergartners started reading right then at home.
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And I thought, if I can help them learn to read, then I can do anything, right?
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Like making somebody that know what an A sounds like to reading, you can do it.
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And um, especially, you know, with God's help, you can do it.
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So COVID made me see that we we can do this.
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Um, and we were actually gonna bring my son home too and homeschool him, but he was so he's always been in that one same school.
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So he decided to just stay there um for his junior and senior year, and that was fine.
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Um, being homeschooled probably with four little girls might not have been up his alley, which is fine.
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Um, but yeah, COVID made us realize a lot of things, but mainly that we could we could do this at home.
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Um, just because I don't have a college degree in teaching or history or whatever it is, doesn't mean I can't learn alongside them and teach them at the same time, you know.
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I love that.
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I love what you just said.
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It doesn't mean that I can't learn alongside them.
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Like we as homeschool moms and dads are always learning and we're learning more about our kids.
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We're learning how to be better teachers and parents for them.
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Ah, yes, you you hit the nail on the head right there.
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Yeah, I think I'm learning all the time.
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When I was raised in public school, I despised history.
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I loved math, I despised history.
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Now I have one daughter who just loves anything history, ancient history, US history, it does not matter.
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And I love it now.
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I get to learn what actually happened, and she loves it too, you know, and who knows who else will love it as they grow up.
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But that's my oldest daughter.
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Um, learning with them, relearning maybe is the best.
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Absolutely.
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Absolutely.
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And it creates the that shared, those shared memories and the the the shared history with your family that you wouldn't get if you were just sending them off to school all the time.
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Yes, yes, having them here is again the best.
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So looking back, was there a moment where you knew, yes, we are supposed to homeschool, or was it more of a gradual change?
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Yeah, probably more of a gradual thing.
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I mean, COVID, that time period of such uncertainty, um, made us realize that, my husband and I.
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But um, just more like a gradual thing.
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It's just not that it got easier every day, but it got more doable, more like, yeah, like teachers do this every day.
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They're people just like me.
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I can do this, they can do this, my children can do this and thrive.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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So, what does an average homeschool day actually look like for your family?
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Well, no day is the same.
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But um, we actually probably, I don't know how many homeschool families are like this, but we get up very late.
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We do not get up at the crack of dawn and hit the ground running, especially on Monday mornings.
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We we take a little slower.
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Um, so we might not start our day till nine, ten o'clock sometimes.
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Absolutely.
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And then with four of them, we uh have a lot to get done, right?
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My um, my oldest usually she works at Chick-Pro-Lay now here, and um, so she has to be at work by maybe four o'clock.
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So we gotta get school done.
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Um, and they're you know, we just all sit down at the table together.
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I think that was the main thing when COVID hit, and I realized we had one big table, and all the children sitting around the table was I took a picture every day, and they would say, Mom, why do you take our picture every day?
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It was like they're all gathered around with school books everywhere.
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And we also raise um boycotting spaniels.
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We have six dogs in our house, so the dogs would be, you know, up under and on top of the table trying to see what they're doing.
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So our day looks kind of crazy sometimes, but we all sit at the same table.
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Um, we get started usually with history first.
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They like to dive into that.
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We do our Bible and we just progress throughout the day.
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Then the kids move around.
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They'll one of them will take their computer upstairs and write their paper.
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Or one of the questions I think was the craziest place you've ever done homeschool.
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They'll take their books and sit in, we have a big bathtub, sit in the bathtub and do their, you know, so I never know where somebody might be or in a dog panel with a dog.
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Um, but it's just kind of we get started when we get started, but we all get started together at the same time.
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We usually pray, start the day off right, and just and it goes for however long, you know.
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If we get done by two o'clock, great.
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If we don't get
finished till four o'clock, that's okay too.
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Like we're we're not on a schedule that we have to be um done by a certain time, unless my daughter has to go to work.
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I and even then you still have flexibility.
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We still have the flexibility, yes.
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My and what the reason we started that, the reason I loved that um was my husband works very late.
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Um, he's a driver with UPS, so he doesn't go to work till about nine in the morning.
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So I didn't want to have the kids up before like starting school at eight o'clock when he's going out the door.
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You know what I mean?
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Um he doesn't get home till really late.
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So if we are working later, or if they have to go to bed early to get up early, then they're not gonna see him.
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I want the flexibility that they're gonna be able to see him.
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Um, when my son went to school and he had to go to bed to get up early in the morning, there's many times he didn't see him at night.
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And so that's one thing since we started homeschooling, we don't have a problem with anymore.
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We stay up until dad gets home, we have a couple hours, and you know, we'll just start whenever we start in the next morning.
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Absolutely.
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You have the freedom and it's relaxed enough that you get to be a family.
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Yes, yes.
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That's the first part, right?
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We're a family first, and then we're school.
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Absolutely.
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That's how it works.
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That's that's the best way to make it happen.
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Yes, yes, yes.
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So, what have been some of your favorite resources that you've found along the way for homeschooling?
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Um, curriculum-wise, we love a couple of things.
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Um, so with helping somebody to read, I did think when um my toddler at the time or preschooler, her name is Fate, when I thought, now I've helped somebody learn to read, but how am I gonna like actually take a child from not knowing her letter sounds to reading?
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Um, we started something called, I think it's a hundred easy lessons or something like that to reading.
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And she took off with it, right?
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So we love that.
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And then all about reading and all about spelling helped all of them so much um just put it together and read fluently.
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Um, and then let's see, for history, we love not grass history.
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Um, I love it from a biblical worldview generations, also.
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There was another one I was gonna talk.
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Oh, Apology of Science.
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They love Apology of Science.
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They like that it's the um, it's not evolutionary, right?
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Right, especially my oldest.
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Um, but then also our co-op.
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We love our co-op.
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It's um just one day a week, but we love just being with other people too, like-minded people, um, biblically worldview kind of people, um, and doing some stuff together, doing that history together or doing that science experiment together, whether it works or it doesn't work, is still together, you know.
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Um, so we love our co-op.
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Absolutely.
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So it sounds like you have some great community.
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How did you find your co-op?
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Do you have any suggestions?
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Oh gosh.
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Um, how did I find actually I think the the head of the co-op at the time emailed me and we knew each other through um a local homeschool store here um I'm in Myrtle Beach, um, and it's up in Little River area or longs.
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Um, but we kind of knew each other and she reached out to me.
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She said, Do you want to come visit our co-op?
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And I was like, Yeah, you know, I'd love to do that.
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We had been involved with classical conversations before, and while we loved it, the girls still know all the songs.
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Um, it's kind of funny.
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We hear something and it triggers those history songs or the math songs or whatever.
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Um, we loved CCU, but it was a very structured, um, not quite as flexible as we needed to be with all four of us.
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Um, so we had not used classical conversations for about a year, and then she reached out to us.
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But I know a lot of people ask about co-ops.
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Um, and here in Rural Beach, anyways, the Facebook groups, like for the Grand Strand, um, there's a file that's a list of all the co-ops that are around.
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You know, if it's a drop-off co-op or it's uh, you know, stay and help teach crochet or something like that, you know, um there's a whole list.
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I say just search the internet.
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Yes, the internet is the homeschool parents' friend.
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Yes, it is.
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Facebook
groups, those kind of things.
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So, how did you first hear about skates?
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The internet.
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I had no idea.
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I had no idea that scaves was a thing.
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I knew to my son's school, um Christian Academy here in Myrtle Beach was part of the South Carolina Association of Independent Schools.
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And somebody I think maybe mentioned that there was a South Carolina Association of the Independent Homeschools.
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And I thought, okay, well, that sounds cool.
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So I looked up, I think there's what three options to homeschooling in South Carolina.
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And because SCAE's helped, like what I saw that it required was like testing every other year, um, like statewide testing.
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I really liked that.
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I wanted to do that to keep myself accountable, maybe, you know.
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Um, when I first got started, I didn't know what I was doing.
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I thought I can do this, but I don't know what I'm doing, and I don't know exactly all the requirements to get them if they want to go to college when they graduate, or even to get them just to graduation.
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Um, what do I need to do?
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So the SCAES website just in general helped that.
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But then getting to know the counselors really helped with that.
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I love how SCAES is a resource for the homeschool parent.
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You don't have to be alone.
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Yes.
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I mean, it is a wonderful resource.
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All the counselors, um, even the dashboard online that you get when you sign up with SCAES.
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I mean, there's just so much information there.
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Um, for high school or middle school or elementary, it doesn't matter, or special needs.
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We haven't had to do that, but whatever you need is you can find with SCAES.
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Yeah.
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So families who have never heard about SCAES, how would you describe us to them?
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A wealth of knowledge.
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Um, it is a family, I think.
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Um, if I didn't have Emily Lipscomb or Elise uh Edson, I think is her last name, I don't know what I would do.
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Um I can call them or email them.
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It's usually an email because it's chaotic in my house during the middle of the day.
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So I'll um email them and say, this child is struggling.
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What am I gonna do?
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You know, she can't add or whatever, and they'll tell me something else to try or to slow down.
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Um, but the counselors are a wealth of knowledge.
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Um, it's your it's your homeschool best friend that you can call up at any time and they're there for you.
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Absolutely.
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So can you share a moment where having SKES behind you made you feel more confident, supported, or at peace in your homeschool?
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Yes.
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Um, with my oldest daughter, she was having trouble um reading and spelling.
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Um, I had taken her out of her private school, and I noticed even then things were not progressing.
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She couldn't, she just couldn't make it connect.
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Um, and it was frustrating her, it was frustrating me.
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Um, and we just didn't know what to do.
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So I called Emily and she said, you know, maybe you just need to have her tested to see where the problem is, because sometimes she would do great with her spelling, and other days it was like we were still mixing up B's and D's.
00:17:25.759 --> 00:17:27.519
We didn't know which one was which.
00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:37.680
Um, so she gave me um a, I don't know if he was he was a physician, but in Columbia to call and we actually went and had things tested.
00:17:37.920 --> 00:17:39.920
There was nothing wrong per se.
00:17:40.079 --> 00:17:42.400
She just hadn't developed in some areas.
00:17:42.559 --> 00:17:59.279
But if he had not given me the resources to try, like all about reading and all about spelling, that put a program in place for me to follow daily, and it was gentle, uh, you know, um, and his encouragement to just wait, just like be patient with her.
00:17:59.440 --> 00:18:02.880
These things are gonna work out, just do the daily thing.
00:18:03.119 --> 00:18:07.200
Um and and it you will get there, she will get there, and she has.
00:18:07.359 --> 00:18:10.559
That was three or four years ago, and she thrives now.
00:18:10.720 --> 00:18:13.759
She reads book after book after book, and she spells great.
00:18:13.920 --> 00:18:19.920
And, you know, so if I hadn't had SKES then, if I hadn't had Emily, I was drowning.
00:18:20.079 --> 00:18:21.359
I would have drowned without them.
00:18:21.440 --> 00:18:33.599
I don't know what would have happened, you know, um, if we would have continued getting frustrated with each other at that time, or you know, if she would have progressed like she has, because now she loves to read.
00:18:33.839 --> 00:18:39.599
Um, how encouraging to see your daughter go from struggling to thriving?
00:18:39.839 --> 00:18:43.039
Yes, yes, and knowing that you were an integral part of that.
00:18:43.200 --> 00:18:44.079
Good for you, mama.
00:18:44.880 --> 00:18:45.839
Oh, thank you.
00:18:46.079 --> 00:18:50.400
But if like I said, if I didn't have Emily to say it's okay, it will be fine.
00:18:50.480 --> 00:18:54.240
You'll do this, she'll do this, then I don't know what would have happened.
00:18:54.400 --> 00:18:55.599
So it was great.
00:18:56.000 --> 00:19:00.960
So if someone asked you why they should join SKES, what would you say?
00:19:01.599 --> 00:19:08.720
Um, well, it gives you the structure I think that every homeschooler needs or homeschool parent.
00:19:08.880 --> 00:19:16.559
Um not only are y'all a wealth of knowledge um and help, but I've told people before it keeps me legal, right?
00:19:16.640 --> 00:19:18.480
It keeps me on the right path.
00:19:18.640 --> 00:19:32.640
Um, I know a lot of people, there's so much freedom in homeschooling that sometimes we can get like willy-nilly with homeschool, where this doesn't, you know, we forget about this curriculum or we get off track.
00:19:32.720 --> 00:19:35.440
And I think SCAES helps you stay on track.
00:19:35.519 --> 00:19:48.480
Um, it's that gentle reminder of we have to do our reading every day, or you know, you don't have to finish your curriculum, but you need to get through 70, 75% of it to be progressing.
00:19:48.640 --> 00:19:51.920
Um, I I think it's a that's a really good thing.
00:19:52.079 --> 00:19:58.720
And then with the testing every other year that is required, I think that's I think it's needed.
00:19:58.880 --> 00:20:03.359
I know a lot of whole schoolers come out of public school because they don't want to do those tests every year.
00:20:03.440 --> 00:20:21.440
And it doesn't tell you how smart your child is or whatever, um, but it does give you a a basis of maybe how you're doing as a teacher facilitator, facilitator, and how they're um progressing in their knowledge um of material.
00:20:21.519 --> 00:20:22.640
So absolutely.
00:20:22.720 --> 00:20:31.759
And testing is not a grade for the student, it's more just a data point for the parent to help mom or dad know what's going on.
00:20:32.000 --> 00:20:32.799
Yes, yes.
00:20:32.880 --> 00:20:39.119
And it's helped us so much, see that oh, we need to we need to focus on this a little more or that a little more.
00:20:39.359 --> 00:20:41.920
Um, so yeah, I love the testing actually.
00:20:42.160 --> 00:20:49.039
And I'm sure it's also encouraged you in other areas where because you you get to see and celebrate their strengths too.
00:20:49.279 --> 00:20:50.319
Yes, exactly.
00:20:50.559 --> 00:21:02.559
When my daughter realized that when she took the test before, she had trouble actually understanding the directions, you know, um, just to understand what she was supposed to do to mom.
00:21:02.799 --> 00:21:06.480
I got this, I can take this test by myself and do fine, you know.
00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:09.359
Um, yeah, that was very encouraging for her.
00:21:09.519 --> 00:21:11.119
It shows them their strengths.
00:21:11.440 --> 00:21:13.200
Which we get to celebrate.
00:21:13.440 --> 00:21:15.359
Yes, which is so important.
00:21:15.599 --> 00:21:17.920
It helps build their character.
00:21:18.240 --> 00:21:20.000
Right, right, so much.
00:21:20.160 --> 00:21:20.720
Uh yeah.
00:21:20.880 --> 00:21:36.720
If they're in a classroom maybe of 30 kids, um, they're not as celebrated as much, maybe, you know, or the ones at the top are usually celebrated greatly, but that movement from struggling, like you said, struggling to thriving, maybe isn't celebrated.
00:21:36.799 --> 00:21:36.960
Right.
00:21:37.119 --> 00:21:37.839
We're at home.
00:21:38.000 --> 00:21:40.720
Everybody gets to see, oh wow, you're doing great now.
00:21:40.880 --> 00:21:46.240
Like, look at you, you know, look what God has done in you and through you right now.
00:21:46.640 --> 00:21:48.000
Like, that's awesome.
00:21:48.319 --> 00:21:49.599
Absolutely.
00:21:49.920 --> 00:21:54.559
Okay, so real life talk homeschool stretches us as parents.
00:21:54.720 --> 00:21:57.920
But what has this journey taught you about yourself?
00:21:58.319 --> 00:21:59.759
Oh, it's taught me a lot.
00:22:01.119 --> 00:22:04.640
Um is I think patience is always a thing.
00:22:04.720 --> 00:22:07.519
It's always the question, like, I can never have the patience to do that.
00:22:07.759 --> 00:22:10.000
No, God gives you the patience.
00:22:10.160 --> 00:22:16.559
Um, or at least teaches you um where you're not patient and you need to grow.
00:22:16.720 --> 00:22:22.480
Um, but it get homeschooling has brought us together as a family.
00:22:22.720 --> 00:22:36.400
Um, I don't know, it it's taught us so much about each other, but about myself, yeah, where I need to step it up and where I can tone it back some, um, where I can give grace and where I need grace too.
00:22:36.480 --> 00:22:39.519
So it teaches my family that um as well.
00:22:39.759 --> 00:22:44.400
It's homeschooling is is for everybody and it teaches you so much about yourself.
00:22:44.640 --> 00:22:45.039
Absolutely.
00:22:45.200 --> 00:22:54.160
I love one of the things that homeschooling is allowed in my family, at least, is for my kids to I I literally cannot pretend to be perfect.
00:22:54.720 --> 00:22:59.759
No, no, but perfection is not what we're expected, right?
00:23:00.079 --> 00:23:01.759
Yes, I love that.
00:23:01.920 --> 00:23:03.039
Yeah, we're not perfect.
00:23:03.279 --> 00:23:07.759
Mom messes up daily, if not hourly, you know, during this.
00:23:07.920 --> 00:23:10.240
Um, and the kids will call you on it, right?
00:23:10.319 --> 00:23:17.039
Well, you said to her that she could do so and so, but I can't do oh, yeah, that's inconsistency in me.
00:23:17.200 --> 00:23:19.839
Thank you, you know, for calling that out.
00:23:20.079 --> 00:23:21.920
Um, yeah, honesty.
00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:25.279
It teaches you to be honest with yourself, probably.
00:23:25.519 --> 00:23:25.759
Yeah.
00:23:26.480 --> 00:23:31.359
So what has homeschooling
revealed about your children that you might have missed otherwise?
00:23:31.680 --> 00:23:34.880
Yeah, it's brought out their strengths.
00:23:35.119 --> 00:23:42.240
Um when, like I said, so my son, he was the academic child and he never homeschooled.
00:23:42.480 --> 00:23:46.799
So he was at the top of his class, so he was recognized for a lot of things.
00:23:46.960 --> 00:23:50.799
But then at home, you're like, oh, she always does well in math.
00:23:50.960 --> 00:23:53.279
So, like you kind of expect that.
00:23:53.440 --> 00:23:56.160
Like she's doing good in that and she's doing good in that.
00:23:56.319 --> 00:24:00.640
But then it also shows you, oh, that child was really shy.
00:24:00.799 --> 00:24:07.839
I had one who was really shy and just wouldn't talk, and now she's the leader of the pack.
00:24:08.000 --> 00:24:18.640
You know, it brought out her strengths, being home, being with her sisters, and then being with small groups at at co-op once a week.
00:24:18.799 --> 00:24:39.599
She's been able to be confident and um, you know, develop that area where she can now be the leader, she can rise to the top and be recognized, but just be confident in herself that I know these things, or I can help this person, or I can do that hard thing that I didn't think I could do last week.
00:24:39.759 --> 00:24:41.920
Um, so I really like that.
00:24:42.079 --> 00:24:52.240
If she was somewhere else, I wouldn't see that, or maybe she wouldn't have the opportunity, you know, to come to raise herself up to the leadership position.
00:24:52.480 --> 00:25:01.119
Yeah, you were able to give her a safe place where she was able to grow steadily, but at her own pace.
00:25:01.440 --> 00:25:02.400
Right, right.
00:25:02.799 --> 00:25:04.400
And may that might not have happened.
00:25:04.480 --> 00:25:08.160
It probably wouldn't have happened in a classroom full all the time.
00:25:08.480 --> 00:25:08.799
Yeah.
00:25:09.039 --> 00:25:09.519
All right.
00:25:09.599 --> 00:25:11.680
So every family has bumps in the road.
00:25:11.920 --> 00:25:15.599
What have been some of your challenges and how have you worked through them?
00:25:15.839 --> 00:25:18.799
Oh goodness, there's challenges every day, right?
00:25:19.119 --> 00:25:19.599
Yes.
00:25:19.839 --> 00:25:22.880
Um, just to show up every day, be consistent.
00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:29.200
I think consistency is really the first thing that you learn um homeschooling.
00:25:29.680 --> 00:25:36.079
Um, I think when I started off, I thought, oh, well, some people they only do homeschool, they only homeschool three days a week.
00:25:36.160 --> 00:25:37.119
So we're gonna do that.
00:25:37.359 --> 00:25:38.559
That really doesn't work.
00:25:38.799 --> 00:25:40.400
I mean, not for us, anyways.
00:25:40.559 --> 00:25:43.200
So I think the main thing is consistency.
00:25:43.359 --> 00:25:50.480
Even if you homeschool a little later in the day, um, if you're reading your history at four o'clock instead of nine thirty in the morning, it's fine.
00:25:50.720 --> 00:25:52.799
Just do it every day.
00:25:53.039 --> 00:25:55.200
Um, other bumps in the road.
00:25:55.279 --> 00:26:03.119
I'm trying to think, probably when my child, um my oldest, was not reading and spelling as well, but now she's driving.
00:26:03.279 --> 00:26:22.880
You just have to seek out, call your counselor, false gaze, and what's like help me, help me, you know, ask for help, um, which sometimes moms don't want to do, but like you learn to ask for the help, and these bumps can be flattened out, you know, you can get past them and do well.
00:26:23.119 --> 00:26:23.599
Absolutely.
00:26:23.759 --> 00:26:25.039
Oh, that's so encouraging.
00:26:25.200 --> 00:26:26.720
Thank you for sharing.
00:26:27.359 --> 00:26:32.319
Has there been a turning point, a breakthrough moment you're grateful you didn't miss?
00:26:32.480 --> 00:26:34.720
I imagine your daughter's reading and spelling.
00:26:34.960 --> 00:26:36.480
Anything else?
00:26:36.960 --> 00:26:39.759
Um, yeah, I'm like the reading.
00:26:40.480 --> 00:26:50.160
Like I said, um, to think that you can take this little person who can't put a sound, does not know what a letter is or a sound to reading.
00:26:50.400 --> 00:26:51.920
It's just that's wild.
00:26:52.079 --> 00:26:58.319
That is just the grace of God, the provision of God to allow me to be the one to do that, right?
00:26:58.720 --> 00:27:00.480
Um, that's just wonderful.
00:27:00.720 --> 00:27:02.480
Um, any other, I don't know.
00:27:02.640 --> 00:27:03.920
I don't know of anything else.
00:27:04.160 --> 00:27:04.720
That's fair.
00:27:04.799 --> 00:27:06.000
It's a bit of a question.
00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:08.240
Yeah.
00:27:08.480 --> 00:27:09.279
It's yeah.
00:27:09.599 --> 00:27:16.640
But it is is it's so amazing to be able to teach your kids to walk and talk.
00:27:16.880 --> 00:27:17.119
Right.
00:27:17.279 --> 00:27:19.200
And then how to read.
00:27:19.519 --> 00:27:20.480
Right, right.
00:27:20.640 --> 00:27:24.960
It's gonna like I taught them how to do that, they're gonna do that for the rest of their life.
00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:27.200
Like, yes, how cool is that?
00:27:27.440 --> 00:27:28.000
You know?
00:27:28.240 --> 00:27:29.279
I mean, and you can.
00:27:29.440 --> 00:27:31.599
You taught, like you said, you taught them how to walk.
00:27:31.759 --> 00:27:37.039
Like you didn't think you weren't gonna teach them how to walk, like you just knew you were gonna teach them to walk, you know.
00:27:37.359 --> 00:27:43.039
So yeah, you can teach them how to do algebra, even though you may have to relearn it yourself.
00:27:43.279 --> 00:27:45.119
That's what we're doing that now.
00:27:45.440 --> 00:27:52.799
So yes, I would have the math book out the night before studying to catch up on the lesson they were gonna do the next day.
00:27:53.359 --> 00:27:53.920
Exactly.
00:27:54.160 --> 00:27:56.480
Whatever it takes that you can do it.
00:27:56.640 -->
00:27:59.359
I mean, God gave you these children for a reason.
00:27:59.440 --> 00:28:10.400
These are, I believe, his gifts to to you, and he's gonna give you the ability to if you can't figure it out, somebody can help you figure it out so that you can teach them, you know.
00:28:10.720 --> 00:28:11.599
That's so beautiful.
00:28:11.759 --> 00:28:15.200
God gave you these children, and he gave these children you.
00:28:15.440 --> 00:28:24.799
Yes, God picked out the this particular relationship to build and nurture, and now you get to nurture it through homeschooling.
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:27.119
Yes, yes, the best gift ever.
00:28:27.359 --> 00:28:29.279
So, what's a small victory?
00:28:29.440 --> 00:28:33.599
It might have seemed ordinary to other people, but it meant a lot to your family.
00:28:33.839 --> 00:28:35.680
Oh man, in homeschool.
00:28:35.839 --> 00:28:36.559
I don't know.
00:28:36.799 --> 00:28:41.920
Maybe um fate, my my youngest graduating kindergarten.
00:28:42.079 --> 00:28:49.920
Like everybody graduates kindergarten writing, but you know, she was the first one that was completely homeschooled all the way through.
00:28:50.240 --> 00:28:53.519
So she's about to start fourth grade next year.
00:28:53.759 --> 00:29:00.720
She's already doing some fourth grade stuff, but like, yeah, her little, you know, getting to wear her little cap and gown.
00:29:00.799 --> 00:29:04.400
Um and that at that time her brother was graduating high school.
00:29:04.559 --> 00:29:07.680
Um, so that was just wonderful for her, right?
00:29:07.759 --> 00:29:10.000
She thought that was she was just like him.
00:29:10.240 --> 00:29:16.400
Um but like everybody, you know, graduates kindergarten, but it was awesome.
00:29:16.559 --> 00:29:17.279
It was great.
00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:18.799
You know, it was a victory.
00:29:18.880 --> 00:29:20.559
Like, yeah, girl, you did this.
00:29:20.880 --> 00:29:22.400
And you did it too, mama.
00:29:22.880 --> 00:29:23.359
Yeah.
00:29:25.920 --> 00:29:26.079
Yeah.
00:29:26.400 --> 00:29:28.160
I can think of another victory.
00:29:28.319 --> 00:29:34.640
I mean, you guys get to build your daily schedule so you get to see the kids get to see dad every day.
00:29:34.799 --> 00:29:35.119
Yes.
00:29:35.359 --> 00:29:41.279
That's that's one of those things that seems easy to overlook, but it's so important.
00:29:41.759 --> 00:29:42.640
It's so important.
00:29:42.720 --> 00:29:43.359
You're right.
00:29:43.519 --> 00:29:48.160
Um, yes, they the ones that did go to school, they'll say, Remember when we didn't see dad?
00:29:48.319 --> 00:30:00.960
Remember when we didn't we we would go three or four days and we would never see him because we had to go to school so early and he hadn't got up yet because his work started later, and then he got home after we went to bed, you know.
00:30:01.200 --> 00:30:08.720
So that's a huge, a huge thing to be able to spend that time with dad in the afternoon and the evenings like that.
00:30:08.880 --> 00:30:09.279
Yeah.
00:30:09.599 --> 00:30:15.920
If you're comfortable sharing, has there ever been a moment when you thought homeschooling just is not going to work?
00:30:16.480 --> 00:30:18.720
And then maybe something shifted?
00:30:18.960 --> 00:30:22.160
Um, no, I've never thought about sending them back.
00:30:22.720 --> 00:30:25.599
So that's cool.
00:30:25.920 --> 00:30:26.240
Great.
00:30:26.480 --> 00:30:27.440
I love that.
00:30:27.759 --> 00:30:35.839
Yeah, once they come home, and then I guess maybe having one in college too helps you to see that we're all gonna get there.
00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:43.359
Like you're you might get there slower or faster than the person next to you or your brother or sister, but it's totally doable.
00:30:43.519 --> 00:30:44.559
We're we're gonna do it.
00:30:44.640 --> 00:30:50.240
If we have to homeschool into the summer a little bit or into Christmas break, it's okay.
00:30:50.400 --> 00:30:51.920
Like you're gonna get there.
00:30:52.000 --> 00:30:58.400
So I wouldn't take this time for I wouldn't give it up for anything, you know, to anything.
00:30:58.559 --> 00:31:03.039
They can they can't ever leave me again to go back to school.
00:31:03.279 --> 00:31:04.319
So yeah.
00:31:04.799 --> 00:31:07.680
What does community look like for your homeschool family?
00:31:07.759 --> 00:31:08.880
You mentioned your co-op.
00:31:09.359 --> 00:31:15.119
Yes, so that's our main um thing during the week is our co-op.
00:31:15.359 --> 00:31:26.160
Um, we meet on Tuesdays all day from like nine to three or so, and there they have built some really good friendships um that they take outside of co-op, right?
00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:34.160
So they go to youth group um with some friends um that they made at co-op and it created community for me too as a homeschool mom.
00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:39.519
I didn't have anybody, I wasn't homeschooled myself, and I didn't know other homeschoolers here.
00:31:39.759 --> 00:31:42.880
Um, and so it gave me friends.
00:31:43.119 --> 00:31:45.680
Um then our church too.
00:31:45.759 --> 00:31:53.519
Um, there's a lot of homeschoolers in our church, so there you get um community there, um, like-minded.
00:31:53.680 --> 00:31:57.920
Um, so that's yeah, we don't have family here um in town.
00:31:58.160 --> 00:32:02.720
So church, homeschool, that is co-op, that's our family.
00:32:02.960 --> 00:32:08.480
Absolutely, and God has given you that family just like he gave you your biological family.
00:32:08.720 --> 00:32:10.400
Yes, yes, exactly.
00:32:10.640 --> 00:32:12.480
The right people at the right time.
00:32:14.160 --> 00:32:17.440
So, how do your kids stay connected with friends?
00:32:17.519 --> 00:32:20.720
Uh their activities groups, a co-op youth group.
00:32:20.960 --> 00:32:25.359
Yep, co-op youth group, um, also a church right around the corner from here.
00:32:25.519 --> 00:32:29.759
They do um like sports, like an upward sports thing.
00:32:29.839 --> 00:32:33.519
And so there's a lot of homeschoolers and public and private schoolers that go to that.
00:32:33.680 --> 00:32:35.920
So they play volleyball with that.
00:32:36.319 --> 00:32:38.240
Um, yeah, they love volleyball.
00:32:38.640 --> 00:32:43.200
Um, like I said, my oldest daughter has a little job with Chick-fil-A.
00:32:43.440 --> 00:32:45.359
So she, you know, everybody knows her there.
00:32:45.440 --> 00:32:49.440
My son had worked there too, and when he's home on school breaks, he still works there.
00:32:49.680 --> 00:32:54.720
So um my next daughters are getting ready to have a job at Chick-fil-A too, right?
00:32:54.880 --> 00:32:57.920
So it kind of creates a family there too.
00:32:58.079 --> 00:33:12.640
It's a community um within a even a work environment, which I'm glad it gives them experience with the outside world, with you know, other people besides homeschoolers, um, you know, in the real world.
00:33:12.799 --> 00:33:13.839
So definitely.
00:33:14.079 --> 00:33:16.799
And so they're interacting with more than just their peers.
00:33:16.960 --> 00:33:24.240
So they get they learn how to interact with the real world instead of just the same kids who are the same age.
00:33:24.559 --> 00:33:30.079
Yes, at all different ages and stages and all kinds of different problems.
00:33:30.240 --> 00:33:35.519
So I think it gives them uh, you know, a lot of knowledge and wisdom with how to handle situations.
00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:37.200
Absolutely.
00:33:37.519 --> 00:33:44.240
What kinds of real life learning experiences have you found outside the whole work, probably?
00:33:44.559 --> 00:33:45.359
Work, yes.
00:33:45.519 --> 00:33:47.519
I did ask my daughter this, my oldest.
00:33:47.599 --> 00:33:48.240
She says, work.
00:33:48.640 --> 00:33:52.640
Um that and um another daughter said our field trips that we get to go on.
00:33:52.799 --> 00:34:04.319
So yes, anything, you know, at the beach, since we live at the beach, you get to go on all kinds of things, um, little farm activities that are out in Aynor or whatever.
00:34:04.480 --> 00:34:07.279
We got to meet um our local weatherman.
00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:11.360
Um, we studied weather this um this summer or last semester.
00:34:11.519 --> 00:34:18.079
And so our local weather guy had our co-op again come to the the weather station or the news station.
00:34:18.159 --> 00:34:30.559
And it was like, you learned so much, you didn't know that that was a green screen back there that he's pointing to, or all tornadoes come, you know, we don't get tornadoes much here, so we got to learn, you know.
00:34:31.519 --> 00:34:35.199
Yes, thankfully, no hurricanes lately.
00:34:35.440 --> 00:34:37.039
So we're thankful for that.
00:34:37.199 --> 00:34:37.519
Yes.
00:34:37.840 --> 00:34:40.079
So but yeah, just outside.
00:34:40.159 --> 00:34:42.320
I mean, you learn everywhere, everywhere.
00:34:42.480 --> 00:34:49.679
You go to Sam's or a grocery haul during, you know, your afternoon after school, you're learning, you're learning a lot, you know.
00:34:49.920 --> 00:34:53.599
Um, just everything, everything is learning experience.
00:34:53.840 --> 00:35:01.039
And I love that we get to teach our kids that because even as adults, everything is still a learning experience for us, right?
00:35:01.360 --> 00:35:01.760
Right.
00:35:02.000 --> 00:35:07.199
If you if you'll see it that way, that's you know, yeah, you can learn from everything.
00:35:07.519 --> 00:35:18.559
So for families approaching or in high school, uh, what has the skate support meant for things like transcripts, coursework, graduation planning?
00:35:18.960 --> 00:35:21.119
Yes, so that's where I'm at right now.
00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:23.920
My oldest daughter is um 14.
00:35:24.079 --> 00:35:25.760
She's going into ninth grade.
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:35.199
So already she has started taking some high school classes, her US history, um, oh, her American Sign Language.
00:35:35.360 --> 00:35:42.079
I didn't even know that that would count towards a foreign language, and it will at most universities here in South Carolina.
00:35:42.320 --> 00:35:53.280
Um, and so having SKES, um, especially Elise, able to help me with that to say, you know, you can go ahead and count that as part of her um high school credits.
00:35:53.519 --> 00:35:55.599
I was like, wow, I didn't know that.
00:35:55.840 --> 00:36:00.320
Um, so we're already starting to get that transcript, you know, formed.
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Um driver's ed.
00:36:02.639 --> 00:36:07.519
I had no idea that driver's ed or work hours credit.
00:36:07.760 --> 00:36:10.639
Yeah, works on your transcript and it helps.
00:36:10.719 --> 00:36:11.440
It'll help.
00:36:11.519 --> 00:36:14.800
Um, as I said, my son goes to BJU and they look at that.
00:36:15.039 --> 00:36:23.199
BJU loves homeschoolers, and so they want to see a full transcript, not overly full, but what you've been doing.
00:36:23.280 --> 00:36:27.039
And it not just counts academically, but in life, right?
00:36:27.199 --> 00:36:40.880
Like it counts to them that you're able to hold down a little job or take the driver's ed course or whatever it is um for college experience to help you get into college, you know, that little resume.
00:36:40.960 --> 00:36:46.000
I tell my daughter, this is your resume to get into college, or what you know, whatever you're gonna do.
00:36:46.159 --> 00:36:48.320
Um, put it all down, put it on there.
00:36:48.480 --> 00:36:53.679
But if I didn't have scales to tell me that that it counted, or you know, I wouldn't know.
00:36:53.840 --> 00:36:54.800
You don't know that.
00:36:55.679 --> 00:36:57.360
You don't know what you don't know.
00:36:57.599 --> 00:36:58.639
Right, right.
00:36:58.719 --> 00:36:59.360
Yeah.
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So much.
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And that activities transcript is gonna be a help to her too.
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That um, you know,
the she'll be able to put work experience on there, just like she has her work experience on her academic transcript, but then she'll be able to put anything else on her activities transcript, like her youth group or her co-op or anything that you guys do.
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:23.440
Yeah, I didn't know that, right?
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Like, yeah.
00:37:25.920 --> 00:37:27.760
All right, fun questions.
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What's the most unexpected place you've ever done school?
00:37:32.159 --> 00:37:33.280
The bathtub.
00:37:33.599 --> 00:37:35.119
Yes, the bathtub.
00:37:35.280 --> 00:37:38.079
Um I asked my daughter this this morning.
00:37:38.719 --> 00:37:43.119
And my daughter Carly, she said, remember when I did it in the bathtub?
00:37:43.280 --> 00:37:45.360
Yes, Carly, I remember that.
00:37:45.679 --> 00:37:48.880
And we take it, you can take your school anywhere, right?
00:37:49.039 --> 00:37:50.800
Um she gets allergy shots.
00:37:50.880 --> 00:37:54.639
So, like once a week, yeah, once a week we had to go to allergy shots.
00:37:54.719 --> 00:38:01.280
So she took her reading or you know, a little workbook that she was doing at the time, you can take it there.
00:38:01.440 --> 00:38:04.159
Um, but probably the craziest place is the bathtub.
00:38:04.239 --> 00:38:15.360
My other daughter Hope said, remember when I used the um laundry basket and when she was small enough, she would sit down in the laundry basket with her book and read or whatever it was.
00:38:15.440 --> 00:38:17.840
And I was like, Yeah, that was pretty crazy.
00:38:18.639 --> 00:38:19.920
But you get it done.
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You don't have to sit at the desk and do it.
00:38:22.239 --> 00:38:23.199
Absolutely.
00:38:24.719 --> 00:38:27.679
So what's a homeschool win you love bragging about?
00:38:27.920 --> 00:38:28.880
Oh gosh.
00:38:29.119 --> 00:38:33.280
Um, that we can do it, just just that we can do it, right?
00:38:33.440 --> 00:38:39.280
We um my daughter that struggled so much early on to thriving now.
00:38:39.360 --> 00:38:41.920
I mean, to me, it's a huge win to her too.
00:38:42.159 --> 00:38:48.400
Um, you know, to know that we've been able to do it with the help of our counselors.
00:38:48.639 --> 00:39:01.920
Um, but we've taken her from really kind of hating to read or or you know, because she struggled so much, to having a bookshelf full of all the books that she's reading through, you know.
00:39:02.159 --> 00:39:04.400
Um, and she loves Jane Austen.
00:39:04.800 --> 00:39:09.760
Like I never would have thought that you I mean those are difficult, right?
00:39:09.920 --> 00:39:10.159
Yes.
00:39:10.400 --> 00:39:17.679
Um it's a win at 14 that you went from struggling to now that's like what you love.
00:39:17.840 --> 00:39:20.719
So that is a huge win, absolutely.
00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:21.280
Yeah.
00:39:21.519 --> 00:39:24.800
So if your homeschool had a motto, what do you think it would be?
00:39:25.039 -->
00:39:25.599
I don't know.
00:39:25.760 --> 00:39:27.760
I did ask my girls this too.
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And they said, what does that mean?
00:39:30.480 --> 00:39:31.440
What does that mean?
00:39:31.679 --> 00:39:35.280
But um, I so I asked them, I said, well, what do I always say to you?
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What's something that I always say to you?
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And they said, every time we ask something, you say, I don't know.
00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:41.599
What is that?
00:39:41.760 --> 00:39:47.519
Like if they ask a definition, I'll say, No, you know how to, you know, you know this.
00:39:47.840 --> 00:39:52.960
Um, so just kind of pointing them back to you have the resources, you don't have to ask me.
00:39:53.199 --> 00:39:59.920
You probably can figure out the meaning of this word on your own, or there's two or three dictionaries sitting on the table there.
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You could look it up, you know.
00:40:01.840 --> 00:40:08.000
Um, but that and also we say a lot, think logically, like just think through this.
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When you have a problem, a math problem, or a question about your history lesson or your science lesson that you don't get, like just think through it.
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Try to think it all the way out through to the end and see how that am I right?
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Am I wrong?
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Like, where am I going wrong here?
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You know.
00:40:25.920 --> 00:40:28.800
Um, so just if you'll think logically through it.
00:40:28.960 --> 00:40:35.360
Um, my daughter Carly was in a logic class at co-op this year, and that really taught her to think about it.
00:40:35.519 --> 00:40:40.960
Just think about you can probably get to this on your own with the information that you have.
00:40:41.199 --> 00:40:47.679
Um, if you'll just think it out, just don't stop when something gets in front of you that you that kind of is hard.
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Keep pushing through.
00:40:49.519 --> 00:40:51.840
So yes, you can do hard things.
00:40:52.159 --> 00:40:54.880
You can do the hard things, yes, yes.
00:40:55.440 --> 00:41:00.159
What's a small tradition or ritual that you feel makes your homeschool special?
00:41:00.480 --> 00:41:13.440
So um nothing big, but every day for lunch, we take a 30-minute lunch break, and um the girls fix their own lunch and they'll fix me a lunch too if I ask them.
00:41:13.760 --> 00:41:20.559
But they watch, I they will always watch a little TV show, excuse me, um, for like 30 minutes for lunch.
00:41:20.719 --> 00:41:27.840
And it it's not a big thing, but they do it every day, and it's just their break time, right?
00:41:28.079 --> 00:41:28.400
Right.
00:41:28.960 --> 00:41:37.039
Kind of resetting, like I'm not working, I'm not having to use my brain much, you know, and it kind of resets their day.
00:41:37.199 --> 00:41:40.480
So I bet it gives you
a bit of a break too.
00:41:40.719 --> 00:41:44.079
Yes, yes, yes, exactly.
00:41:44.800 --> 00:41:49.360
What is something you wish someone had told you before you started homeschooling?
00:41:49.599 --> 00:41:55.440
That I could do it, but you don't have to have a degree in anything to homeschool your kids.
00:41:55.519 --> 00:42:01.760
I think when we pulled ours out, there's so many people that say, Are you sure that you're gonna do that?
00:42:01.920 --> 00:42:04.480
Or when they get into high school, you'll send them back.
00:42:04.639 --> 00:42:06.079
That said so much.
00:42:06.400 --> 00:42:13.039
When they get into high school, you're gonna send them back, or you're gonna have four teenagers all at one time, you'll you'll end up sending them back.
00:42:13.199 --> 00:42:17.039
But why not encourage somebody to keep going, you know?
00:42:17.280 --> 00:42:26.000
Um, like, yeah, you're gonna have hard days or hard moments and you're gonna get hard weeks, you know, sometimes, but you can do it.
00:42:26.239 --> 00:42:33.760
Like sometimes you're just not encouraged enough like that, just starting out, um, when you don't have that community build yet.
00:42:33.920 --> 00:42:41.199
Um, if like we we weren't homeschooled, so family and friends, well-meaning, like, are you sure you want to do that?
00:42:41.599 --> 00:42:43.599
You know, like, yeah, I really do.
00:42:43.760 --> 00:42:44.559
I think so.
00:42:44.800 --> 00:42:48.079
So just having the encouragement to just yeah, do it.
00:42:48.239 --> 00:42:49.679
It'll be good, you know.
00:42:49.920 --> 00:43:05.440
And I think that's another spot that your SKAE's counselor could come in too for if you join SCAES from the beginning, is she can help you encourage you as you're finding that community uh to find the other people who can give you encouragement too.
00:43:05.679 --> 00:43:09.119
Yes, yes, that was one of the first things with SCAES.
00:43:09.199 --> 00:43:13.280
Um, I talked to Emily right after signing up, I believe.
00:43:13.360 --> 00:43:20.559
Um and she was like, Yeah, you can like I did it, you can do it, you can do this, and you'll find the community that you need.
00:43:20.880 --> 00:43:21.840
Absolutely.
00:43:22.159 --> 00:43:26.880
What's a piece of advice that you would give to a family who's just beginning this journey?
00:43:27.119 --> 00:43:28.559
Um, keep going.
00:43:28.719 --> 00:43:29.119
Yeah.
00:43:29.360 --> 00:43:31.760
It it gets better, more fun.
00:43:32.159 --> 00:43:33.920
Um, stay consistent.
00:43:34.079 --> 00:43:38.400
I think you it's a little bit every day is better than nothing.
00:43:38.559 --> 00:43:40.559
Um, just keep showing up.
00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:47.199
Even if the kids don't get up till 10 o'clock in the morning, still get that reading lesson in, still like still do it.
00:43:47.360 --> 00:43:49.199
Um, and it pays off.
00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:52.320
I think it it does pay off by the end of the year.
00:43:52.400 --> 00:43:56.880
You're like, wow, we did this, you know, we will we showed up every day.
00:43:57.039 --> 00:44:00.559
Yeah, you can take breaks, but you can still keep showing up.
00:44:00.639 --> 00:44:00.960
Yeah.
00:44:01.280 --> 00:44:02.719
Progress over perfection.
00:44:02.880 --> 00:44:04.320
Yes, exactly.
00:44:05.039 --> 00:44:10.559
When you imagine the future, how do you hope your children will look back on their homeschool years?
00:44:10.800 --> 00:44:11.519
Oh gosh.
00:44:11.679 --> 00:44:15.599
I hope they look back and say, you know, well, they do now.
00:44:15.760 --> 00:44:17.840
They say, we're so glad we're homeschooled.
00:44:17.920 --> 00:44:25.039
So I hope they still do like that, you know, still see it like that, that we created family instead of school.
00:44:25.199 --> 00:44:36.000
You know, we did our academics, but um, we made we try to make their relationships more important than the math homework or whatever it is.
00:44:36.159 --> 00:44:42.400
That's important, but your relationship with especially your sisters um is the main thing.
00:44:42.559 --> 00:44:46.480
So I hope they can take that and homeschool their kids with that.
00:44:46.639 --> 00:44:47.679
You know, I hope so.
00:44:47.840 --> 00:44:48.400
We'll see.
00:44:50.400 --> 00:44:52.880
Looking forward to grandkids one day in the right time.
00:44:53.360 --> 00:44:56.559
Yes, yes, I am, and they all say that they will.
00:44:56.639 --> 00:44:57.519
So I hope so.
00:44:57.840 --> 00:45:02.559
Yay! What's one way that homeschooling has brought joy or peace to your home?
00:45:02.719 --> 00:45:05.039
Um, in our relationships.
00:45:05.199 --> 00:45:07.920
Um, we wouldn't be our as close.
00:45:08.079 --> 00:45:09.039
We couldn't be.
00:45:09.199 --> 00:45:16.239
Um the the peace to know that if they do struggle, if I struggle, they're here for me.
00:45:16.639 --> 00:45:18.400
If they struggle, I can be there for them.
00:45:18.559 --> 00:45:21.840
Their sister or their brother um is there for them.
00:45:22.079 --> 00:45:32.320
It brings a lot of joy and happiness, but knowing that someone's here with you, um, doing this with you with the same goal in mind, it brings a lot of peace.
00:45:32.480 --> 00:45:32.800
Yeah.
00:45:33.119 --> 00:45:34.239
You're not alone.
00:45:34.480 --> 00:45:35.360
Yeah, yeah.
00:45:35.519 --> 00:45:36.639
And we're gonna get there.
00:45:36.880 --> 00:45:38.159
And how can I help you?
00:45:38.400 --> 00:45:43.679
That's you know, it's the sense of family that I guess brings the joy and peace.
00:45:43.920 --> 00:45:44.639
Definitely.
00:45:45.039 --> 00:45:50.639
Well, we're gonna wrap up here, but before we say goodbye, is there anything else you feel like sharing?
00:45:50.880 --> 00:45:57.599
Um, no, I just I'm thankful that God brought us gays, brought us homeschooling in general.
00:45:57.840 --> 00:45:59.440
Um, yeah, that's it.
00:45:59.599 --> 00:46:06.159
It's the I think uh one of the best gifts in life is to have your kids home with you, um, you with them.
00:46:06.320 --> 00:46:13.840
Um so yeah, keep going to anybody that thinks I'll quit this, you know, and send them back to somebody else.
00:46:14.000 --> 00:46:15.519
But no, keep going.
00:46:16.000 --> 00:46:17.519
That's such an encouragement.
00:46:17.679 --> 00:46:18.719
Just keep going.
00:46:18.960 --> 00:46:19.599
Yeah.
00:46:20.079 --> 00:46:21.440
Like the Nike, right?
00:46:21.519 --> 00:46:22.159
Just do it.
00:46:22.400 --> 00:46:23.119
Just do it.
00:46:23.199 --> 00:46:23.599
Yep.
00:46:23.760 --> 00:46:24.400
Yeah.
00:46:25.920 --> 00:46:29.360
Well, thank you so much for talking with me today, Heather.
00:46:29.440 --> 00:46:31.519
And thank you, listener, for listening.
00:46:31.679 --> 00:46:36.320
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