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There is a lot more to being
blind than simply not being able to see.
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For one, there are different levels
of blindness a person can have,
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and each one requires different levels of
care and attention. You have people who
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can see a little, which is
partial or low vision, complete blindness,
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which means you cannot detect any light
at all, congenital which is when you
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are born with legal blindness, which
is when vision in at least one of
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your eyes is twenty out of two
hundred in your best seeing eye. And
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then there is nutritional blindness, which
occurs through lack of vitamin A. As
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you can tell already, there's only
one instance when a blind person is fully
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blind. The other examples of blindness
still offer some level of vision. But
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my son is congenital. He was
born as any other baby is born,
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but as he grew up and developed, his eyesight did not, which meant
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he still had the sight of a
one month old baby. When babies are
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born, their eyes don't work right
away. It's basically like being legally blind.
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They can make out shadows and shapes, but you have to get real
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close to them in order for them
to pick out any details. I think
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my son described it best when he
was about nine years old and told me
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that it was like someone had turned
the lights down really low in the middle
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of the night when it was foggy. Bless him, she never made a
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fuss. He never seemed to get
upset that he could not experience the world
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as other children do. When he
was ten, he got his very own
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guide dog so that he could run
around with a little more freedom. As
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before, he always held my or
his father's hand when we would go out.
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We tried him with a stick for
a little while, but he didn't
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like having to carry the thing around, swinging it about and getting worried about
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hitting people. So we invested him
into the program, and after an extensive
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evaluation period, he got his very
own guide dog. He spent months going
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to the training center bonding with all
the puppies that could potentially be his companion
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for life, until one relationship stuck
out the most with a black labrador called
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Klover. Every time my son went
to the training center, Clover was always
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There is a lot more to being
blind than simply not being able to see.
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For one, there are different levels
of blindness a person can have,
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and each one requires different levels of
care and attention. You have people who
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can see a little, which is
partial or low vision, complete blindness,
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which means you cannot detect any light
at all, congenital which is when you
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are born with legal blindness, which
is when vision in at least one of
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your eyes is twenty out of two
hundred in your best seeing eye. And
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then there is nutritional blindness, which
occurs through lack of vitamin A. As
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you can tell already, there's only
one instance when a blind person is fully
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blind. The other examples of blindness
still offer some level of vision. But
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my son is congenital. He was
born as any other baby is born,
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but as he grew up and developed, his eyesight did not, which meant
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he still had the sight of a
one month old baby. When babies are
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born, their eyes don't work right
away. It's basically like being legally blind.
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They can make out shadows and shapes, but you have to get real
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close to them in order for them
to pick out any details. I think
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my son described it best when he
was about nine years old and told me
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that it was like someone had turned
the lights down really low in the middle
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of the night when it was foggy. Bless him, she never made a
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fuss. He never seemed to get
upset that he could not experience the world
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as other children do. When he
was ten, he got his very own
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guide dog so that he could run
around with a little more freedom. As
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before, he always held my or
his father's hand when we would go out.
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We tried him with a stick for
a little while, but he didn't
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like having to carry the thing around, swinging it about and getting worried about
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hitting people. So we invested him
into the program, and after an extensive
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evaluation period, he got his very
own guide dog. He spent months going
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to the training center bonding with all
the puppies that could potentially be his companion
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for life, until one relationship stuck
out the most with a black labrador called
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Klover. Every time my son went
to the training center, Clover was always
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the first one to greet my son, and they bonded so quickly it was
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almost as if they were born for
each other. Six months later, we
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brought Clover home with us. It
was not long before we started to see
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the problems arise from owning a guide
dog, not with the dog himself or
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even with my son, but with
other people. The general public does not
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seem to understand that a guide dog
is not like other dogs. You cannot
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just go up to a guide dog
and start patting them or playing with them.
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They are a highly trained service animal
and all the extra fusses can disrupt
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their training. Most of the time
people will accept that they cannot fuss a
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guide dog and will be content with
basking in Clover's cuteness from a respectable distance.
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But there are some people that can
get really upset when you tell them
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no and why. This is especially
so when it comes to little kids wanting
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to fuss a cute puppy dog,
and more than once I've rendered a child
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to tears because of the flat out
refusal to allow them to touch the dog.
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I always feel so bad, but
it cannot be helped. They are
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a service animal, not a creature
of luxury. I think the worst came
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a few years later, when my
son was coming to his fifteenth birthday.
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With the help of the guide dog, he was able to go out a
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lot more meet up with his friends
in town and generally explore the freedom most
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kids take for granted. We were
having a family barbecue at the local park.
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My son was running around with his
cousins and no word of a lie.
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His favorite game to play was a
spin on the blind Man's buff All.
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The other kids would run off to
hide, and my son, with
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the help of his guide dog,
would sniff them out. They were not
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too far from the central gathering,
using a cluster of trees to hide in
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and play around. Things were going
great and it was turning out to be
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a really good day until some time
into the afternoon one of my nieces runs
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up to me and tells me that
a Karen was being mean to my son.
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Worried for the worst, I run
off to investigate, and sure enough,
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there was a Karen with her little
Karen offspring, having a go at
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my son while his cousins were trying
to shield him from Karen's ranting. When
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I arrived, Karen come down a
little bit and told me that my son
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refused to let her son pet his
dog, telling lies about him being blind
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and that Clover was a service dog. I told Karen that my son was
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blind and that no one is allowed
to fuss his guide dog. Karen's face
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screwed up in such a manner.
I can only describe it as that she
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was desperately trying to think he's not
blind. She tells me, I saw
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him looking at his phone. Now, remember, my son is not completely
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blind. He has the sight of
a newborn baby, something I don't think
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Karen would have understood, not that
she gave me a chance to explain as
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I tried to say that he was
not completely blind. My mother is blind.
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She snaps matter factly, so I
know what blindness looks like. His
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eyes are clear, not cloudy at
all. I think she must have been
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talking about cataracts, which is a
completely different form of blindness. But I
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doubt Karen had the mental agility to
understand that, as she completely refused to
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listen to my explanation. Her son
was less entitled. I think her son
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was more attuned to the situation than
she was, and he looked younger.
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In my son, he no longer
wanted to pet the dog and just wanted
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to move on. But Karen did
not want to admit defeat. Every time
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I tried to explain my son's blindness
to her. She would talk over me
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until she was practically shouting. This
went on for about five minutes, and
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then the most unthinkable thing happened.
Karen snatched Klover out of my son's hand
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and stormed off across the park.
My son deserves a cute dog more than
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you. You're clearly terrible owners,
and away she went. I was stunned.
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My son started crying, and it
took a second for me to come
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back to reality. I chased after
Karen and got incredibly angry when I saw
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her kicking and injuring my dog after
he got upset. When she then fled
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out refused to give the guide dog
back, I slapped her across the face
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so hard I'm pretty sure she still
has my handprint on her cheek to this
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day. So I take the dog
back to my son and we carry on
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with our family barbecue. The mood
has been fouled a little, but after
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an hour or so, we are
all laughing and it's become quite the story
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to tell people. Well, that
is until the police showed up. They
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pulled me aside to question me.
Karen had called them and wanted to press
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charges for assault. I was worried
to say the least all the burgers,
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hot dogs and chickens I'd eaten.
Threatened to come back up, but when
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I explained that Karen had tried to
steer my son's guide dog, they were
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thankfully understanding. They took my statement
as quickly as they could and left me
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to the barbecue, which now became
even more interesting. Several weeks later and
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I'm expected to appear in a court
hearing. During this time, I had
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gotten messages from all the families saying
the police had called to request statements and
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witness reports and whatnot. I was
worried, sure, but I was also
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confident that I was in the right, even though a lot of people said
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that I should not have hit Karen. And the court hearing then begins and
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the first thing that judge asks me
is is it true that this woman,
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he points to Karen, try to
steal your son's s guydog. I say,
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yes, your honor, and that
was it. Karen ends up getting
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sent to prison for attempting to steal
and injuring the dog. We take pet
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theft very seriously in the UK,
and now has to attend and a compulsory
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sensitivity seminar because of her behavior.
Towards a blind kid. I don't know
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if Karen left the courtroom upset,
angryoor constipated her face was a picture and
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yeah, ripe stars. Let me
know in the comments what you think about
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this. I would say that Karen
definitely got what she deserves. You just
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don't mess with blind people and steal
their dogs. Who in their right mind
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would do that? Honestly? Either
way, if you enjoyed this story,
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please don't forget to like the video
and maybe even leave a comment because that
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would help me tremendously. Thank you
so much. And the next one is
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titled Revenge Done Right. When I
first left home to go to university,
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my parents co signed their mortgage for
me on an apartment style condo in a
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small Canadian city. This was twenty
years ago, so it came in at
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a whooping fifty two thousand dollars.
They thought that this was a much better
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and economical choice than trying to find
an apartment and deal with landlords. I
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love the idea and moved into my
new home. The building was almost entirely
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populated by the sixty five plus crowd. It was small and only had twenty
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four units split into two halves.
I had a basement condo. It was
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a nice place, nothing fancy,
but amazing for a student. I was
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young, nineteen, but I was
quiet, kept to myself and did not
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do the whole party thing. I
got along with most of my neighbors.
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I would help them out moving heavy
things or carrying groceries upstairs. I was
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acutely aware of the age gap and
the general image of an university student,
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so I made sure to just be
an all around great guy to avoid conflict.
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The one person I could never see
eye to eye with was my upstairs
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neighbor. For a seventy year old
woman that couldn't have weighed more than one
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hundred pounds, she walked like a
damn elephant. She would have gospel music
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on her TV at max volume at
five am on Sundays, and she would
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make remarks about that damn kid whenever
something was left out of place. She
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even went so far as to accusing
me of breaking into her car and making
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a police statement saying she saw me
do it. Unfortunately for her, I
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was out of the country on an
internship at that time, but she still
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persisted being a pain in my rear. I tried to approach her about the
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TV issue, and her response was
to make sure that it was no longer
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just Sunday. After a couple of
years of attempted diplomacy, it was clear
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that nothing I did would make things
better. Others in the building probably knew
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she had it out for me,
and why would this adorable little old lady
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tried to lie and get me thrown
out of the building by the condo board.
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By the way, she tried at
least eleven times while I lived there.
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Seven years into my time living there, I was at my job with
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an ambulance service just north of the
city. I got called to a shooting.
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The guy shot his neighbor in a
land dispute. Then neighbors survived,
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but there was of course going to
be a police investigation. The investigating officers
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called me to get a statement and
offered to just come over to do it
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rather than have me travel. One
of them was a constable I had worked
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with quite a bit, so I
said sure. We said it time for
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about an hour after I would get
home from work. I was just getting
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out of the shower when they burst
to get into the building. I said,
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come in, I'll be out in
a second. I hit the door
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buzzer and quickly grabbed some pants and
a shirt. I heard them come in
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and then walk upstairs. As I'm
trying to thrown close, I hear them
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knock on my upstairs neighbor's door.
They introduced themselves as being from RCMP Major
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Crime Division and that they were looking
for me. Balls She says, Oh,
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he lives downstairs. Do you want
with him? They thanked her,
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informed her that they couldn't say as
it was an active investigation. My heart
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sank, but then I had a
thought. It only took about fifteen minutes
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to do my statement, and they
went on their way, and then the
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fund began. I knew the rumor
mill would be starting. She would tell
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everyone that would listen that Major Crimes
was looking for me and that I must
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be some sort of criminal. I
decided to see where this went. Pretty
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soon, I'm getting side eye in
the hallway. Neighbors are steering clear of
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me, so I know she's been
talking. Turns out I've been arrested for
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robbery and kidnapping and must be out
on bail, according to her. I
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found this out when one of my
neighbors, who was on the condo board
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showed up with a letter demanding an
explanation and threats to have me kicked out.
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I asked him what this was all
about, and he said, well,
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Linda not her name, send us
a letter about what had happened,
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and we had to have an emergency
board meeting because people don't feel safe with
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you here. I said that purther
by laws of the condo board, before
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any action could be taken, I
could request a meeting to review and provide
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a defense. Linda was on the
board, so I knew that she had
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been there. They set a date
for a week from then, but I
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was given a caution that it didn't
look good for me and that I would
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have to do a lot of explaining. The meeting day comes, Linda is
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sitting smugly looking at me. The
other board members are giving me dirty looks.
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The board president asks what I have
to say in my defense? I
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stand and quietly distribute a letter on
RCMP letter had signed by the Regional Superintendent
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that says, mister sen Meddick is
not under a suspicion of any crimes past
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or current, and has not been
arrested, detained, or questioned as a
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suspect in any criminal matter. His
duties as a paramedic will often require him
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to make statements in regards to ongoing
investigations, and in this instance, on
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date investigators had gone to obtain a
statement about an ongoing investigation for which he
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was professionally involved. At no time
did the members discuss this close or in
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any way indicate that he had any
involvement in any wrongdoings. I'm deeply saddened
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by the necessity of this letter,
and we will be reopening an investigation into
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a previous intent regarding false statements made
against him. You could tell when people
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read and understood it. The dirty
looks shifted from me to Linda. She
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exclaimed that it must be a forgery. She witnessed me being led off in
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handcuffs. She pleaded that they should
believe her. It did not help her.
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I stood and addressed the board and
outlined the years of abuse and harassment,
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including the false accusations of breaking and
entering to a vehicle. I informed
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the board that, on advice of
my lawyer, I don't discuss the matter
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further with any member of the board, as Linda being part of it and
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using her position for the purposes of
arrastment opened the board as a whole to
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litigation, and I was still weighing
my options. The next day, I
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had a knock on my door.
The board president had informed me that Linda
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was removed from the board and that
she was given warning about her conduct and
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that any further harassment could result in
proceedings to have her removed from the building.
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She also had a visit from police
with her summons for providing a false
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statement and obstructing a peace officer.
She then had to attend court. She
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pled guilty to both and was given
a suspend that sentence and one year condition
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not to her rest, threatened,
or intentionally inconvenience me in any way.
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If she abided by her conditions,
she would receive an absolute discharge, meaning
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it would be removed from her record
like it never happened. I moved to
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another province before her year was up, but for a brief period of time
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I actually got to sleep in on
Sunday boardings. And the next one is
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an m Iva Hold story. So
for the past week, my wife and
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I had been anticipating a baseball game
for which we had purchased tickets. We
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liked baseball, but we don't attend
many games, so traveling into the city
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to see games is a rare treat. I know. I know that it
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would take time to drive there and
find parking due to traffic, though,
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because the game started at seven pm
and we live about forty five minutes from
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the stadium, I told her this
morning that she needed to be ready to
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get in the car and go by
six pm. Well, my wife is
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an avid gamer, so she was
engrossed in her latest video game when the
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clock struck five forty five pm.
She has struggled to plan in the past,
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and I get tired of reminding her
that she needs to but to get
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ready. It is as if she
has no concept of time at all,
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similar to a young child. Well, I was ready to go by six
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pm, and she was in the
bathroom. I saw this as an opportunity
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to teach her personal responsibility, so
I simply left a house without saying a
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word, got in the car,
and started driving to the game. It
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took my wife a few minutes to
figure out what I had done, but
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when she called me, she was
absolutely furious. She said that it was
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a completely unacceptable move for me to
leave without telling her, and that she
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now had no way to get to
the game without paying for parking. I
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told her that I got tired of
constantly waiting for her, and that she
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should plan better next time if she
didn't want to get left behind. I
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also reminded her that I told her
that morning when I expected her to be
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ready to leave. Absolutely None of
this seemed to matter, though, and
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she rudely hung up on me after
yelling out more insults. Frankly, I
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think it's completely insane that a grown
woman is unable to budget her time,
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and I am starting to suspect that
she is doing this on purpose because she
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is a narcissist who expects me to
accommodate her. After all, she is
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not a stupid woman. She has
a science degree and well, she never
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showed up to the stadium and I
didn't hear from her the whole game.
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But when I got home there was
a note on the door. She told
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me that I was not welcome in
the bedroom and that I should sleep on
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the couch. I cannot believe she
wants to be this much of a pill.
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And by the way, ripe stars, I've never heard that expression before.
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What does it mean to be a
pill? Not sure. Anyway,
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if I had waited for her,
I would have missed the first pitch.
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I made my expectations clear and she
couldn't be bothered to meet them. I
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feel like she should be the one
apologizing to me. Am I the a
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hole and here ripe stars. Let
me know in the comments, what do
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you think about this? Is op
the a hole or not? Her first
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comment on Reddit said, you are
the a hole. You waited until she
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was in the bathroom and could not
see you to leave to teach her a
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lesson while she was actively getting ready
and nearly done by your timeline of just
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a couple minutes to notice you were
gone. You are infantilizing her and she
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was literally just a couple minutes behind
you. She is not the pill here.
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You are a whole, entire chore
common number two. Everyone sucks here.
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You should have at least said you
were leaving. You are, however,
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insane, want a divorce or have
a death wish.